The REAL Reason Trying to Quit Alcohol Never Works

Here's the crazy thing when it comes to stopping drinking alcohol , there's a trap that almost every single drinker falls into . And no , I'm not talking about some fancy marketing campaign that's going to encourage you to drink , and I'm not talking about that friend that's going to encourage you to have just one and then relapse . It's nothing external .

It's actually something that's happening in every single drinker's mind . See , the biggest alcohol trap of all is trying to quit drinking . And you might be thinking what are you talking about ? Trying to quit drinking ? Well , haven't you noticed something weird ?

Every time somebody tells you that they're trying to stop drinking alcohol , they always seem to go back to drinking . It's a very strange phenomena , but there's a reason for this , and today we're going to unpack why trying to stop drinking alcohol is going to keep you stuck . This kept me stuck for the 10 years that I drank alcohol .

For , and also of the thousands of people that I've spoken to with a drinking problem . I've seen this come up time and time again . So the first thing we're going to do is we're going to unpack this psychological trap that people keep falling into and why trying to stop drinking could make you fail .

Then we're going to analyze some of the various language patterns that we use . Then the most important part of the video is I'm going to be giving you some reframes on how to switch your thinking around . Those techniques literally work within seconds , super , super valuable . And then we're finally going to talk about how to stop this self-sabotage .

And it's so much easier than you think . So let's look at the psychology of commitment versus trying . See , what we're doing is the moment we say that we're trying to do something , we're almost creating this backdoor of escape , this backdoor for failure .

See , trying implies there is a possibility of failure and it almost creates this idea that failing is acceptable and kind of expected , and it creates a fundamentally different mindset .

See , when we're committed to something , when we are solving a problem and fixing it , what happens is our brain looks for solutions , but when we're trying to do something , our brain then starts looking for excuses . See what I mean by this is you never hear of a parent say I'm trying to be a parent . It doesn't work like that . They just are now a parent .

See , if somebody had this idea that they were just trying to be a parent and then maybe the next day they weren't going to be a parent . It just doesn't work like that . When people have children , they are fully committed to being a parent . That's how they now identify themselves .

They're not trying , they're not going to struggle , they're not going to be a parent for 90 days . That's just who they are from now on . And when you're committed to something , it creates this clear identity shift . You go from I'm attempting to be to I am .

And research has clearly shown that when you make a definitive decision , it requires way less willpower than if you're trying to do something , and I'd argue that it requires no willpower at all .

Think about it like this when you go to brush your teeth in the morning , are you trying to brush your teeth or do you just make a decision , go to the bathroom , put on your toothpaste and brush your teeth ? See , I'm sure you're not trying . I'm sure you just make a decision and stick with it .

Do you need to try to not take heroin , or do you just see yourself as somebody that doesn't do it . Do you see the difference here ? Being able to make a decision and just change your identity makes all the difference . Now let's analyze some of the language patterns and mistakes that people make .

See , when you're struggling to stop drinking , how do you talk to yourself ? You say things like I'll just try to not drink tonight , I'll just get through today . You think maybe I just need to take a break , have a rest , reset my body . Maybe you think I should just probably drink less .

And how often do these little sound bites that we've got running in our head actually work ? Well , for me it was never . I'd always just keep drinking because I never changed my identity and I never made a decision .

But then , when you've got somebody who successfully has quit drinking and they don't want to drink and they've moved on with their life , how did they talk to themselves ?

Well , I'll tell you because I'll tell you the way that I talk to myself , because I've not drank for six and a half years , I don't think I can't drink , I think nothing , I just don't drink . Like that's who I am now . I don't see myself as sober and struggling or anything like that . I've just made a choice and that's it . I'm moving on with my life .

I just don't think about it anymore . I don't have these language patterns . That's all about struggle and fight and recovering and no , none of that stuff . So let me give you some super powerful reframes . So let me give you some super powerful reframes to help you on your journey , because we want to go from restriction to choice .

So , rather than think I can't drink , you say I choose not to drink . Rather than thinking you're restricted and it's this thing that you just can't do , but you kind of want to do it , you just say to yourself well , I'm choosing not to . I'm making a choice , a decision .

Instead of thinking , oh , everybody around me is drinking , having a good time , I'm missing out on something , you switch it and instead you think about yourself as being free , experiencing total freedom and joy . So you don't feel like you're missing out . You feel this sense of relief when you think about alcohol . Do you see the difference ?

Do you see how powerful this can be ? Instead of thinking , oh , it's so hard to just not drink alcohol , you don't think that way you remind yourself that it's easy to not drink because everything is so much better . We need to move away from this idea of what if I fail , to what happens when I succeed .

So instead of thinking that we're giving something up , that we're giving up drinking , we think of it more of I'm actually gaining my life back . Everything's changing . So this way , we're not running away from alcohol , but we're moving towards something more positive and a better quality of life .

So let's talk about self-sabotage and how you can end it , because the language patterns that we choose to use are responsible for our results . When people create these escape routes and this idea of trying , they're having one foot in and one foot out .

So then , when this idea in their head comes up of just having one drink or just drinking less and moderating , and blah , blah , blah , they've given themselves an option to follow those thoughts through . But here's the paradox Keeping your options open , keeping one foot in and one foot out , doesn't make things easier and better . It makes things impossible .

Now , I know you might not be fully ready right now to actually make that decision , and that's why I created the free video training that you can access by clicking the link in the description . That is going to get you into a much better state .

That should start the process of reframing how you view alcohol , because I promise you , once you've changed your perception , it becomes such an easy and logical choice . Have a great day . Thanks for checking out the Stop Drinking Podcast by Sober Clear .

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