The alcohol lie I told myself 100+ times

If we take the marketing and the way that alcohol is portrayed at face value . It's promising us the world . It's going to make us more attractive . It's going to make us look successful . It's going to make us rich . If we actually look at what alcohol is promising us , it's promising the damn world . But what do we actually get in return ?

Well , nothing , and I struggled with alcohol for close to a decade . But I've been journaling recently and I've realized something it was all just one lie . Well , it's all a giant lie , but what was actually making it so hard for me to stop was just one simple lie .

And if you're struggling to stop drinking right now , you are lying to yourself and just hold it there . I know that sounded borderline offensive . I'm not trying to call you a dishonest person or a liar in any way , but if you are struggling , there's a lie that you're telling yourself . That once you see the truth .

Once you see past this lie because you don't even know that you're lying to yourself , because you don't understand the root cause of the problem but once you see it , I'm telling you , stopping drinking will completely change .

So I know this is going to be uncomfortable for some of you , but listen , at the end of the day , it's better than the alternative , because what's the alternative to facing the truth ? Just weigh up your options here for a second . Do you want to keep doing what you're doing for the next 10 , 20 , 30 years ?

Do you really want to be doing this for the rest of your life ? Or are you going to watch this entire video ? Sure , find it a bit uncomfortable , but get your life back . It's a pretty easy trade . So my number one value is honesty .

If you've ever done an exercise where you list your values , honesty has always come up as number one for me , and I think the first time I did this exercise writing down like values of my life , I think I was like 14 or 15 , reading a Brian Tracy book . If any of you have ever read a Brian Tracy book , just leave me a comment down below .

But there were like these self-help business kind of books , and when I was like 14 , 15 , 16 , and I was getting into reading . I absolutely loved Brian Tracy books . This guy just spoke to my heart , but I would always write down honesty as the number one value , and it probably came from him , but it stuck with me forever .

Now , if I had a friend that I could keep seeing him lie to me and I just saw it again and again and again I would not be friends with that person . Would you If you had a friend that just kept lying to you ?

Maybe they borrowed some money from you and they you know you want the money back , and then they keep coming up with these weird excuses oh , I can't . My mum's in hospital right now . Oh , I'm sorry I can't meet you today . I've got a bad tummy . If you kept hearing this , what would you think about that friend ? Would you want them around your family ?

Would you want them around your children ? Would you want that friend in your life ? Well , the answer is probably no , because you also probably value honesty . It's a pretty important thing , and honesty in relationships is damn important .

We can't be lying to each other , and as soon as somebody starts lying and shows that they're not an honest person , we're putting ourselves at massive risk because the fear is that later on in life they might lie to us about something a lot more serious . And here's the weird thing . I know I value honesty .

I know I wouldn't be friends with somebody that continually lied to me . Yet when I was drinking alcohol there , I was every single day lying to myself . Every single day that I chose to drink an alcoholic drink , I was having to tell myself another lie , and I'm going to break that lie down . I will get to it .

But the only way that you can maintain this addiction , this habit , whatever you want to call it , is by lying to yourself . I knew in my heart when I was drinking alcohol . I knew in my heart that I was doing something stupid . We all know it deep down , right , come on . We know it's damaging our health .

We know it's damaging our relationships , we know it's doing a lot of bad things to us , but we keep doing it . If you had a friend , you wouldn't think twice about cutting that friend . So what was the lie ? Well , the lie was that somehow , if I don't drink alcohol , life will be worse . Now that might not sound that deep , but just wait .

I knew in my heart when I was drinking alcohol , that I was doing something stupid . I just knew it , right . Even if I told you that , yeah , I like drinking , whatever I knew in my heart , I have like no pictures of me when I was drinking . I have no pictures of me when I was drunk .

I might have two , because even when I was drunk I didn't want people to take my pictures , because I knew it was stupid to be drunk . I knew I was making a fool of myself . I knew I looked stupid , so I didn't let people take pictures of me . Yet I kept drinking because I had this belief .

I would tell myself that if I don't drink , life's going to be worse , and what I mean by this is that I'm not going to be able to relax , I'm not going to be able to enjoy going out with my friends at nighttime , I'm not going to socialize . I might not be able to find a partner . I won't be able .

To date , I thought people would give me a lot of friction if I didn't drink and I lived with this fear that life will be worse without alcohol . And the crazy thing is is this fear is so subtle . It's so subtle that you don't even notice it .

See , you don't consciously go to a drink and pick it up and then tell yourself this lie that , oh , life's going to be worse without it . And then you drink . It's deep in your subconscious mind .

You don't know it's there , but this lie that you're telling yourself is like it's almost like the puppets right , I can't remember what it's called , but you know , when they've got the strings and the puppets and alcohols , it's a little bit like this . But then it's like whoa , whoa , whoa , whoa , whoa .

We don't necessarily lie to ourselves every time we drink , but every time that we consciously look at our drinking and think , hmm , I don't know if I should be doing this , maybe I should stop . That's when it comes , that's when we tell ourselves that lie .

But what I realized is that this lie was literally the surface , and if you've ever seen a picture of an iceberg , you can see , like you usually see , the tip of an iceberg , and in these nice pictures that you can see online is the iceberg goes underwater so much further .

And this lie that life will be worse without alcohol was really the tip of the iceberg . This was the thing that was popping up in my life . But the cause of this lie was so much deeper . And it wasn't until I stopped drinking alcohol that I realized just where this lie was coming from .

And if you can get your head around this and you can be honest with yourself and you can watch this video and , you know , feel a bit uncomfortable . But get to this point of the video and now finish it off , then you're different . You are a different breed of person . So where was this lie coming from ? See , I was drinking alcohol .

I was addicted to a drug , that's it . That's all that it was . I had a psychological addiction to alcohol . Listen , I've had it where I've obviously woken up with the shakes and had some physical withdrawal from alcohol before . I was never the guy that was drinking a liter of vodka every day .

I drank a lot , but I never got to that stage where I was afraid of DTs or anything like that . I never got truly physically addicted to alcohol . But even if you do get physically addicted to alcohol , it doesn't matter , right , because it's the same symptom . You're still psychologically addicted .

You still need to fix this before you can fix the physical side of things , because if not , you'll keep going back and what happened is I would drink the drug and it would make me feel good for a short period of time and then I'd crash and then I would live my life wanting this drug .

In my head it was very subtle , almost unnoticeable , but every time I drank the drug again I'd feel relief . Right , it's like . And here is the thing If you're struggling to stop drinking alcohol , you need to stop seeing yourself as some weak person , some alcoholic or anything like that . Stop seeing yourself as the issue . You are not the issue here .

Stop thinking that going to the past and sitting with a therapist is going to help . I'm not saying it can't be helpful , but when it comes to actually solving an alcohol addiction , just ignore it . And what you need to see is there is one problem in your life and it's alcohol . And guess what ?

Once you remove the alcohol , once you're no longer addicted to the drug , the lie disappears . And the only way through that fear that I was talking about earlier , the lie , the surface of the tip of the iceberg lie that I was talking about , the only way through that fear is stopping drinking , and it might be scary .

Well , the only way through that fear is stopping drinking . And it might be scary , it might take some courage , it might take you to step up . But I promise you , I promise you one thing . I will swear to you on my life right now , that you have got nothing to be afraid

of . When you remove the drug , when you stop the addiction , I promise you one thing Everything is going to get better , everything . You will feel like a different person . You'll look different . You'll sound different . People are going to say why do you look so healthy , so vibrant ? Your kids are going to like you more .

Your friends are going to like you more . You'll make more money . You'll be more successful . I mean , are you seriously going to allow a drug to keep slowing you down ? Thanks for checking out the Stop Drinking Podcast by Sober Clear .

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