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The other day , I was wondering why can some people just stop drinking and find it so easy . Yet so many people struggle and fight for years ? Well , I've just got back to Dubai after visiting Thailand on a vacation . Well , it wasn't really much of a vacation . Right , there was all sorts of jobs we had to do .
But when it comes to actually quitting alcohol , whilst I was at the airport , I saw something and everything clicked .
I realised why some people find it so easy , yet others find it so hard , and today I'm going to explain the clear distinction between those two people and , most importantly , I'm going to show you how you can become one of those people that find stopping drinking easy , because that is possible for you .
So let me start off with a question have you ever gone to an airport to go on vacation or get a flight somewhere , got to the airport and then changed your mind and said actually I'm going to go home or actually I'm going to go to a different country . Has that ever happened to you ? Well , I've never heard of it happen to anybody .
I'm sure there are some rare exceptions , right , but it's never happened to me . I don't know anybody that's ever done this . But typically , when you go to an airport , when you're going to take a flight , when you're going to go on vacation , you've 100% accepted this fact and by the time you're at the airport , that's it . Everything's in motion .
But why don't people just go to the airport and then change their mind and say , actually , I'm not feeling like going today , I might just go tomorrow instead . Well , sure , there's the cost element of things , but it's deeper than that . The reason why people don't back out is because they make a true decision .
They say to themselves right , this date , this time , this flight , I'm there , I'm going on holiday . And they have made a decision weeks , sometimes months , prior , that they're going to do something . And just so we're clear here , this decision is a true decision . It's not an attempt , it's not a trial , it's a decision . They're all in See .
When people go online or they call the airline and they book their flight , is there any doubt in their mind that they won't get to that destination . No , they pay the money . They've 100% decided that they're going to that place and that's it . They go . And this will all make sense in a minute , just bear with me , but you'll see how .
This is just 100% the same as stopping drinking . But I want you to imagine a different scenario . Imagine that you've said you're going to go on vacation to Dubai . You're going to come and visit me . Right , you're going to come to Dubai . But just imagine that the world worked a little bit differently .
Instead of making that decision and booking your flight , you actually don't book a flight , you just go to the airport and then , when you get to the airport , you're presented with hundreds of different options .
You've got different prices , you've got different countries you can go to , and imagine now you've got people that are marketing these different places , and then you could go to this country and you can get a cheap business class flight , and you're bombarded with all of this stuff . How likely is it that you will stick with your idea to go to Dubai ?
Well , the chance of you changing your mind is a lot higher in this scenario , because you could get a better deal . You could go somewhere . Even more interesting . You could go somewhere you've always wanted to go and get a half-priced business class flight .
And because you never truly make a decision and you never make that cutoff point , then you can get pulled in a hundred different directions . See , do you not see how this is exactly the same as stopping drinking when you say to yourself oh , I'm just going to give it a go , let's see how it goes , I'll just try and not drink ?
Do you not just see how you're literally putting yourself in that same situation where people can pull you a hundred different directions when you don't make a decision but you try to not drink ? Listen , I'm not trying to discourage you . I'm trying to be realistic here , but the chance of you succeeding whilst having this fickle state of mind is so low .
It might work for a few months , it might work for a couple of years sometimes , but if you never make the decision to actually stop drinking , it's always going to be hard .
See , the secret to stopping drinking is actually making a decision , because once you decide that that's it , that enough is enough , that I'm getting rid of alcohol for my life , I'm changing my relationship . I'm going to get into that state of mind that Leon talks about where it's just a logical , easy choice to not drink .
And then you make a decision to say I'm not drinking anymore , I'm done . Everything's so easy , so effortless . You tell yourself right here's my destination , here's where I want to get to .
I make a decision and I go to it , and you want to get to a state of mind where there's no doubt in your mind that that's now who you are , because it's the same as everything else in your life . The problem is is that we're addicted to a drug , so it feels different and we feel this emotional pull towards alcohol .
But I'm promising you , once you make the decision to stop drinking alcohol , it's no longer a fight . See , when I stopped drinking alcohol six years ago , it was the easiest thing I've ever done , because I stopped trying . I changed my beliefs . I used first principles , thinking I did the time I studied .
I got into that place where I just didn't want to drink anymore and then I decided not to drink and that was it . I never looked back , but the 10 years that I was struggling for I just kept trying and trying and trying . Listen today , stop trying , make a decision .