¶ Overcoming Alcohol Dependency With Coaching
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Ladies and gentlemen , welcome back to the channel , and today we have got Tharin joining us . Tharin is an entrepreneur . He has an organic soil amendment business . He's joining us from Colorado in the United States . He joined a program just under . Well , I'll let him talk about that , but thanks so much for joining us today , tharin .
It's awesome to get you on the channel . Thanks for having me . Great . So , and how long have you not drunk ? For now , tharin , almost a year . Almost one year , I think you joined a program end of October 2022 , right , that sounds right . Yes , so when was the last time you went this long without drinking ?
I don't know in my adult life that I ever have man . That's awesome . Every time I get goosebumps . Even though you just told me before you press record , I still get goosebumps when I hear it . So that's sweet . So , yeah , tharin , let's hear your story . So what was life like before you got sober ? What was the situation leading up to joining the program ?
Do you want to describe that first ?
Just I mean normal life around here . I'd say I played a lot of golf so that involved a lot of beer and just everybody drank a lot . That's kind of the thing around here . I like it anywhere . I guess I got tired of the hangovers , got tired of the . What did I do ? It was time I drank my fill . I was good . I needed a different app .
So when did you realize ? Yeah , this is an issue .
Well , probably five , six years ago . I mean , I was like the continuous cycle , how it goes , like , oh , I can cut back , I can change , I can make it . You made it for a while , but then you get back in the same rut . You drink when you're happy , you drink when you're sad . Not a good thing , or at least I mean . Maybe some people .
I'm just going off . It wasn't working .
You kind of realized it was an issue five or six years ago . And then you then started trying to solve the problem on your own . And I know for you it wasn't like every single day for you , you'd kind of have days off here and there .
But it sounds like , yeah , it was just this cycle of like motivation would go up , you try and stop and then fall back down .
Oh , yeah , you get . I mean , you know something happens . You run into a buddy and he's like , hey , you want a beer ? Yeah , sure you know . And one turns into 20 , you know , the next day you're like , geez , this Christ , that was the dumbest thing I could have done . You drag an ass all day and it just .
You know , I like getting up in the morning now and get up early and wanting to do things , not going , not trying to recover from something , but try to make something happen .
So you said , like one thing , you just kind of got sick of it , right , you just got to a point you were sick of the hangovers . What are the like negatives were happening in your life ?
Well , the relationship with my wife and my children probably wasn't the greatest . I mean , you do things when you're loaded that you normally wouldn't do . I mean it just it wasn't sustainable . No way for that to continue without something drastic .
Like I said , I cut it off soon enough that you know what was broken could be fixed and you know it wasn't functioning , working . I guess it was just to wake up , run across your video on YouTube and next thing , you know I guess I needed to have something invested . I needed to , you know , have some skin in the game to make it real , I guess , is the .
And then you know I dropped the first pillar . I guess the most you know , quit doing her commit , do not waver . Probably the one that I think is the most important .
So had you tried anything else other than just stopping on your own and you've done any other programs before ?
No , I didn't do anything . You know I'm not . We don't live anywhere near cities . I don't have any of that kind of . I did talk to a preacher a couple of times . That's about it .
Cool . So when you , when you did drink , how much did you drink ?
It depended . Sometimes a couple beers , sometimes 12 , you know , just depended on the situation . One beer is too many and 100 is not enough , kind of thing .
Yeah , okay , so then , so then what ? So , when you found the videos , what was the process that you went through so you found them ? And then what was it that kind of made you say , yeah , I'm ready to do this ?
Oh well , it was the approach . I mean the way you look at it . I mean necessary , believe it's these or anything like that , and you know all the other programs . You have to admit and say you're this or that . It's a real negative approach to it . I know this is like hey , you've been screwing up , here's how you fix it If you want to . You can't .
You know , not a guilt ridden . Or you know it's not a guilt based program .
Nice . So you just , yeah , you kind of in a place where you were looking , seeing what's out there , and then you just wanted something more pragmatic , rather than you know , the typical way of doing things .
Well , yeah , well , the first prince thinking kind of rules into my whole philosophy on how you know stuff work . I mean probably the biggest or the biggest one right there . It's common sense , oh , yeah , oh yeah , so that's the biggest yeah .
So then , compared to when you tried the previous times in the past , since you went through the program and have been a member of the program , how has it been different to your previous attempts ?
Oh , just get better . Clear mindset . I remember I think the weather was still pretty good , I hadn't been in the program , I'd already gone through all the modules and I wanted to get down and go into that situation . I wanted to go in and handle it rather than be part of it . My wife was concerned . I wasn't .
I actually I was , and I , you know , a lot of the guys are like sure you don't want to be here . No , I'm good . No , I'm good . So it was a trial by fire , I guess I just I really wanted to end that kind of just set the whole tone . That's been my experience since then .
¶ Changes and Success in Sobriety
It's been extremely easy , I mean I haven't . I mean I mean it should have been easy and it was .
I warned you .
I don't know if it just .
I told you . I told you it was going to be easy .
No one believes me , yeah it was , I mean it was , it was a piece of cake Now .
So for you , you you went through it , you had the shift and then you just went straight out there . You're socializing , you know you're around people that are drinking . You're in a place that you previously drank and just breezed through it .
Yes , yeah , I mean , I don't know if I was , I guess I wanted to prove it to myself . Yeah , yeah . Cause I like to say you're not giving anything up , which is not exactly true . You are giving up hangovers , regrets , bad decisions . You're giving that up , which I'm fine with that . You know , I tried to not have polyc beer . Must have been in the spring .
We were in Denver , went to a Rockies game and painted on the menu and I was like , yeah , you know I've a lot of people talk about like I'll try it , but no , it wasn't . I had it , just it wasn't for me . I'll take my own , Arnold Palmer any day Nice .
So let's talk a bit about now , about how life is or how things have changed over the past year , so you can talk about health , you know , your relationship , work , stuff like how has the change been ?
It's been . I mean , great , you can , I can focus . I'm not repairing damage . You know you're not like , oh shit , what did I do ? You know I need to call this guy and you know customer , or something like that . I asked him to bring too many beers with my wife . You know she knows that I'm not . If I say it , I'm eating it .
If I'm , you know it's not . Oh , he was just wrong , it's Dave . Actually all my kids are a drinking age . They don't drink near as much as they were around me . They don't .
I told everybody , don't you know if you want to drink knock yourself out .
It doesn't bother me at all .
Now they chose not , so the focus is much better . You feel like you're not repairing damage anymore . It sounds like the trust with your wife is way better . You've set a much better example to your children , and even they've come back .
Oh yeah , I mean we do more stuff together . It's just , it's like it should be , you know , without you know , hangover and regret .
Yeah , one thing that that I always think is that I found in that first year I felt like I did before I'd ever even drank . It was like the old me , like the kid , oh yeah my health .
I mean I dropped , you know , 40 pounds . I probably walk , I don't know , 30 , 35 miles a week . You know blood pressure is good , blood work is good . You know I'm not a spring chicken so I've got physical stuff needs fixed . But no , it's feeling good , is always waking up , ready to go .
I didn't , I didn't realize you dropped 40 pounds . That's . That's a lot of weights , that's awesome .
Oh yeah , well , that's probably even without the exercise , because we had winter , you know , and there's not a lot to do with winter . I mean , I tried to do stuff . It's makes a big difference .
So what do you plan to to work on next time ? What's your focus for the next 12 months ?
Next 12 months . Not a very good planner . I don't . My wife's pretty good at planning steps . I guess why we were good . I kind of like to go day by day . I have some , you know , the Florida thing or somewhere down south , definitely an option that right now I'm a little leery of doing . That , I think , check out , want to get to a zero handicap .
I mean I just I can't , I'm not forget this , just keep progressing , or just a better future , nice . So what have anything really ?
¶ Benefits of Quitting Drinking
locked , so a lot of people before they join the program that skeptical , they're probably going to watch this . If you could give one piece of advice to somebody that was you know they're on the fence . They're thinking about pulling the trigger and getting involved . What would you say to them ? You ?
got to do it . Benefits are outweigh the so called benefits you think you have right now I hundred full . I mean we've been sold a bill of goods for the last 70 years by generation we were raised with . You know drinking was cool . All the movies I never noticed that .
All the TV shows nowadays I can't believe how much drinking and alcohol that I never noticed . And it's , I mean it's just constant barrage and eventually you accept it as normal and it's not life's better on this side .
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