How KIT HARINGTON Quit Alcohol EASILY

One thing I know for sure is that if you stop drinking alcohol , you will have to deal with other people , the drink , and you will have people at some point in your life that will ask you if you want to have a drink of alcohol . You won't have a pee , you won't have a . Why you won't have a whiskey , whatever . But what should we say to those people ?

How can we let them know what we're doing and not upset ? Because at the end of the day , unless you're going to lock yourself in your house and never go out and avoid restaurants and avoid bars and avoid social interactions , then you won't have to deal with people at some point .

And if you've watched my channel for a while , you'll know that I always say that we shouldn't hide from alcohol . It's part of our society . We should change our world for you . We should change our beliefs and then we're able to be around it and not worry about it .

But at the same time , well , the drinkers are one of the most sensitive things that we could deal with , because sometimes it's going to be our best friend , sometimes it's going to be our parent , sometimes it's going to be even our children . How are we going to deal with these people ?

Now , obviously , children wasn't maybe the best example there , but you get my point . It's people that are really close to us , people that we care about and people that we love . So what I'm going to break down for you in this video today is first , I'm going to quickly touch on shifting your beliefs around alcohol .

Then we're going to break down the two categories of drinkers and what you should do for each category , and then we're going to talk about the four stages of how you need to deal with each of these people , which basically goes up in severity the further that we get into the video .

Listen , by the end of this video , I hate to say it , but you might be making some uncomfortable decisions about the people you do online , but that's okay because I'm going to help you with it . So let's dive into it . So , when I tried to stop drinking , I drank for about 10 years and it was just up and down the whole time .

Sometimes I stopped , sometimes I stopped , but there was a period in my life where I went to A8 . Now my own mother has been to A8 for over 20 years . She completely saved her life and as a result of it saving her life , my upbringing was much better . So I've got a lot of things to thank A8 for .

But I remember there were a few points where I was like hmm , and he stuck with me , and one of the phrases that stuck with me is something that my mother said to me multiple times over the years is that if you sit in a barber's chair long enough , you're going to get a heck . And I'm pretty sure that's referring to doing things like going to bars .

You know , being around high alcohol environments and basically saying , if you spend enough time there , you eventually get a drink . And I think that that is completely false . In the first year that I stopped drinking , I went to nightclubs . I mean , I lived in Bangkok for a month , me and my best friend . We went to play pool like 4 or 5 nights a week .

These are heavily , heavily , heavily alcohol fueled environments . I didn't even have a single desire . I met my girlfriend in a bar . I actually bought my girlfriend alcohol the first time I met her . I have been around alcohol hundreds and hundreds of times , but according to that little phrase , then surely I should have been drinking by now . Right , but I'm not .

I have no desire to drink . I'm not a good stuff at AA . I'm not here to criticise that program , but this idea that if you stop drinking , you need to avoid alcohol for the best of your life is something that I don't believe in anyway . I think it's an absolute fallacy .

It is not true at all , because once you've shifted your beliefs and you can see alcohol for what it is and you see it as something that you don't want , then you can be around drinkers all the time . You can go to parties , you can go to barbecues , you can go to weddings . Anything doesn't bother you .

And now I do go into belief shifting more in the video , in the description . So if you want more information on how to do that , then go ahead and click the link down below . I just wanted to get that out of the way to give you a bit of context on the next part of the video . Firstly , you're going to have three kinds of people in your life .

The first kind of person is going to be super supportive if you're not drinking . They're just going to be like cool man , awesome , love to hear it . But the next two are a little bit trickier to deal with . So at the beginning you have a binary choice .

You need to look at the person that you're dealing with and say is this person somebody that I want to keep in my life or is this somebody that they literally want me to drink ? They want me to derail ? They don't really give it a fiver way and you've got to decide .

Now my journey when I stopped drinking alcohol , I had people in my life that I I don't want to sound like a psychopathic or anything like that , but I have people that I eliminated . I just said you know what ? We're not on the same life , what I thought anymore . I've got to say goodbye .

Like you clearly don't want me to go in chains and you know , you'd probably rather see me drink . Now I had people in my life where I had to take a bit of inventory . I had to say , alright , all those people helping me , and I had to say nope and I had to cut my ties . But there were other people that I couldn't do that with .

So that's the first thing , right , you've got to ask yourself is this person somebody that I want to keep in my life ? Is it somebody that I don't want to keep in my life ? But let's say that you decided that this is somebody that you want to deal with . You know , maybe it's your wife , your husband , maybe it's your parents .

Well , there are basically four phases , or four stages that you need to go through with each person and , depending on the individual , it depends on which stage you're going to end up . So the first stage is when somebody offers you a drink . Let's say , you know your mom's there like , oh , come on , it's Christmas , just have one glass .

And that's somebody that you can't cut out , you don't want to cut out . And the first stage is being polite . You know , in that example they'd be just saying no , thanks , mom , I'm OK . You know , I don't think and that's it . And for some people they'll listen to that and that will be you . You'll put that behind your back .

So that's the first stage is just being polite . And , to be honest , if I'm truly honest , that's going to be 90 percent of people , if not more . Most people are just going to respect your decision . They're going to be happy for you . You just be polite and that's it . They never bring it up again . But what do you do when somebody brings it up again ?

Well , this is when you actually need to be a little bit more fur . You know , in the first stage you're soft , you're alike , respectful . But if somebody insists , they're like ah , man , you've got to have that drink . It's Christmas Day , please have that drink . Well , the next stage is being fur .

It's not being rude , it's not being aggressive , it's just being fur . But it's still being polite . And it would be saying something like told you , I don't want to drink , please don't ask you . It's just being fur . There's nothing wrong with that , it's not disrespectful , you're just saying that's how cool , I don't want to do that .

But you're not pushing it where it's confrontational in any way . It's just like no thanks , and you're fur . Now the third stage is going to get a little bit more confrontational , maybe at this scenario with the mum at the Christmas dinner , maybe there . And then they say , ok , well , I won't ask you again .

But then two weeks later they're doing the exact same thing . Oh , come on , it's my birthday , let's just have a couple of drinks . Now you could go through the stages again . You could be polite and then be firm and then move into the next stage , which I'm going to break down .

Or you can skip the politeness and go straight into the third stage , and this is where you need to set a boundary In this stage .

If they insist and they push again or they start using any kind of manipulation or guilt tricks or anything like that , you set a clear boundary and it would go something like this I've told you I'm not drinking , don't ask again . You're crossing the line and is being a little bit more confrontational .

Now , for some people they'll stop there , but for some people you've got to go even further . You've got to go into the fourth stage , and this is where you directly say to somebody that if you ask me again , it's an issue and I'm not accepting it at all .

And if an individual crosses you at stage four , where you have set a clear boundary , where you're saying that it's totally unacceptable for them to ask you to drink alcohol , and this is where it's going to get uncomfortable , because this is where you really need to ask yourself is this person going to support me on my journey of not drinking ?

And listen , I'm not saying like in some situations you can't eliminate your mother , right ? You can't not speak to your mum ever again . But basically , for some of these people you may just have to start giving them a wide berth . You might just have to meet up with them . Less you might have to decline the invitations .

For some people you might just have to say farewell . You might just have to say do you know what ? Maybe if that person changes and joins me on that path , then we could rekindle our relationship . But at the end of the day , your sobriety is more important than anything .

Sticking on this path is more important than probably any relationship , because if you drink , then every relationship that you have will suffer , and not only will the relationships that you have suffer will , you will suffer as well .