Do THIS To Have Fun Without Alcohol (It Works!)

So a few days ago , a friend of mine sent me a text and he said Leon , how do I have fun without drinking alcohol On a Friday night ? After I've been working my face off Monday , tuesday , Wednesday , thursday , friday , friday night , I like to go , I like to relax , I like to go and hang out with my friends and have a few glasses of wine .

And he said if I don't do that , what else am I going to do ? How am I going to have fun without drinking ? Well , in this video , I'm going to explain exactly what to do to have fun without drinking . So you don't even miss it . Imagine if you could have an amazing time with your friends or on your own and not even think about having a drink .

Well , that's the goal of this video is to get you into that state of mind . And the friend that asked me that question , I'm going to send this to you as well . So , what's up ? You know who you are , so my name is Leon Sylvester . I'm the founder of SoberClipcom , a coaching company that helps business owners and professionals stop drinking .

I haven't drank myself for almost six years . I've worked with hundreds of clients , I've made almost 600 videos , and today I'm going to show you how there's a complete misconception that plagues society . So the first thing that we're going to fix our mindset this idea that drinking is fun is ludicrous and don't click off the video , just bear with me .

But if you actually think about the activity of drinking , right , what is the activity of drinking ? It's this Was that fun ? Did I just have a great time ? Absolutely not . The action of drinking a drink isn't fun in any way . Look how boring it is . Look , I won't do it again .

You get the point right , but this thought that drinking is fun it just makes no sense . So we first need to get our head right and we need to realize that the act of drinking isn't fun in any way . It's incredibly boring . What we need to see is that we're not going out to drink alcohol . We're not having fun because of drinking .

We're having fun because we are drinking a drug . And if you struggle to go out and socialize to have a good time , to , I don't know go to a pool or go out to the cinema or do anything without drinking this drug , this alcohol . It's got nothing to do with the act of drinking and everything to do with a drug .

And regardless of whether it's causing you huge problems in your life or not , whether you like it or not , it is drug addiction . The fact that you cannot enjoy yourself without consuming a drug is not normal . It's not normal in any way . Just because you go outside and 90% of society do this as well doesn't make it normal .

It makes it accepted , it makes it tolerated . But if everybody was doing the same thing with crack , we wouldn't think that was normal , we wouldn't think that's okay . Yet alcohol is in a completely different category . It's a different drug , but actually it does the same amount of damage as all the other drugs that are illegal anyway .

In fact , it does a lot more harm than a lot of illegal drugs that are out there . And this idea that going out of your friends and doing this , having a drink , is fun that's where you need to start Getting into this state of mind where you stop seeing that action as fun is so critical .

So there are four things that I'm going to break down four categories of things that you can do to have fun without drinking , and then , within each category , we'll talk about some specific activities . So the first thing I'm going to break down is what other men can do .

So quite often and the friend that I was speaking about in this video he is male and what he does is he goes out with his male friends into a bar and drinks . Now , why is that a thing that men do ? Well , men bond through shared goals . If we are going out to sit down and talk , it's never really going to work out , right .

Men don't sit down and sit face to face and have conversations . Okay , they do , but it's not really how they truly connect . All of my best friendships in my life have come through working on something with that other man .

Whether it's training in the gym , whether it's a business that we're doing at the same time , there's always a shared mutual goal and that's how we connect . We don't connect through a coffee date , right , and sitting down and talking about politics or the weather , or that's not how men really connect .

They connect through a shared mutual goal , and we build bond through struggles , through difficulties , through helping each other out . So this is the first category that I want to talk to you about .

It's about how men can bond better without drinking alcohol , because , if you actually think about it , when two men go out to drink , there is a shared , mutual goal we are going out to drink , which is why you rarely see a man go out with another man that doesn't drink One's drinking and the other one's not .

Well , now it's kind of turned into a weird dynamic and that rarely happens . I'll go out with people that drink alcohol , but somebody that's going out to drink . They ain't giving me a phone call , they're not saying Leon , sober , leon , why don't you join us and come to the pub ? Okay , they will invite me , but the likelihood of me going is very , very slim .

However , if another man invites me to go and do a CrossFit workout , to go hiking in the mountains , to go out to the desert , to go and do something fun , then I'm saying yes . So this is the first thing , right ? If you think that going out and drinking with another guy is fun , or a group of men is fun , simply change the activity .

And now , the problem with this is that when you've got a group of friends that do drink alcohol is some of them won't want to come with you . Some of them do want to drink because they are addicted to a drug . But you often need to be the initiator . You need to be the person that says we're going out , we're going to do X , y and Z .

Today we're going to go hiking , we're going to go and go could be going out running . There's a million things that you can do , but when you do these things you need to initiate . Nobody's going to come and give you a phone call and say do you want to go and do this thing , Especially if you're friends with a lot of drinkers .

But you can start initiating good ideas and good quality activities to build that bond .

So maybe start thinking of some ideas and some activities that you can do where you can invite other people in , like , I don't know , playing a round of golf or something that's not revolving around drinking , but it has a shared mutual goal , so you can overcome a challenge together .

Now the second thing that we're going to talk about are if you're in a relationship and if you hang out with other couples . So I've been very fortunate that when I met Orr , we've never drank . I think I've seen her drink three times in our entire relationship . But all the things that we've done that are with couples , right .

So me and Orr and two other people , they've never revolved around drinking and it's always revolved around something fun going out to a really interesting restaurant , going out and doing a hobby together . This weekend we'll have a couple that come over . That also . They don't really drink , they drink a little bit , but they'll come over .

We'll have them at our place . We're going to watch the Godfather yeah , that's the boy's idea , right , but we're going to watch a movie together . We're going to go for a walk , we might go to the pool , we're going to go in and get a Sunday roast the next day . We're doing things . We're not sat around thinking of something to do .

We have a plan , we have an agenda . We're hosting good relationship with somebody else . To me , that's fun . Sat with people that I don't really like , drinking alcohol , forgetting what I say , not really remembering things the next day how is that fun ?

So , again , if you're in a relationship with somebody , start thinking of things that you can do with other couples , but maybe the couples that you have in your life right now it is all revolved around drinking . So maybe it's time to make some new friends . There's nothing wrong with that .

There's nothing wrong with certain people being in your life for a period of time and then you start growing apart . That happens , that's natural , especially if you're making a positive lifestyle change and you're removing alcohol from your life and other people in your life aren't ready for it . Then maybe it's time to make some new friends Now .

The third thing is in your relationship . Now , like I said , I'm blessed . We never drank together , so we never had that dynamic . But I know there's a lot of people on this channel that are married , that have been in long-term relationships , and your partner can often be your drinking buddy . And that's what you do .

You get home , you sit down together , you put on a movie and then you sit down and drink . So what do you do with these people ? Well , it always depends , right ? It's impossible for me to just make one statement that's going to be relevant to every single couple , but again , it goes back to that first thing that I was saying .

One thing that me and or do is we do CrossFit together . We do it every single day . We go to a gym and we have something that we're always working towards that's health related .

Now , that doesn't necessarily stop me from drinking alcohol , but it's something fun that we do together and it's a lifestyle , and this was something I did when I first stopped drinking alcohol is I made health a priority . I got back to a gym .

I started , you know , working on bodybuilding , trying to get back in shape again , because I was in terrible shape when I'd stopped drinking . But being able to do that with a partner , being able to have a healthy lifestyle , you know , you don't need to be doing CrossFit and Olympic weightlifting , maybe it's just going for a walk every then .

Maybe it is time for you to get sober , stay sober and question that relationship , and it's you know , it's not nice to say this , but for some people out there , they will need to question their relationship if they want to stop drinking and stay stopped and be happy as a non-drinker . Which leads me to the fourth thing .

Now , what can you do alone without drinking ? How can you have fun on your own without drinking ? Because all of this is well and good if you've got friends and you've got things going on in your life , but what can you do when you're alone ? Well , the first thing is to make sure that your calendar is packed out with fun things to do .

If you struggle with loneliness and being alone and that's when you start pouring out the drinks then maybe start thinking okay , well , what can I do this evening ? How can I schedule this activity ? What about this weekend ? Who can I invite here ? Who can I invite there ?

Having a nice organized plan for your week , knowing that there are no gaps , or even , if you do plan to spend an evening on your own , know that you're going to watch this series , this movie , you're going to do something . But making sure that you have a good plan with activities and things to do is so important because we want to avoid loneliness .

Now , I think I've told you guys this a million times , but my mom went to AA . I didn't go to AA . I don't buy into that 12-step philosophy . There are good things about it and they do have some really good phrases , and this might not be exclusive to AA , but my mum would always say that people relapse when they're hungry , angry , lonely and tired .

So we want to make sure that if we are alone , there's a plan . We don't want to be just feeling lonely If we're alone . We want a schedule , we want a plan and we want to do things that we enjoy .

And once you've lived your life this way with activities , with friendships , with relationships , with all sorts of stuff going on then you realize that drinking alcohol was never fun . Thanks for checking out the Stop Drinking Podcast by Sober Clear .

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