Welcome back to another episode of Spit or Swallow! This week, Hausa Chocolate is joined by Damian to talk about sex in relationships, what happens when desire fades, and things start to feel routine or unsatisfying. They unpack the Madonna-Whore complex, the impact of predictability on libido, and how a lack of sexual satisfaction can affect emotional connection. It’s an honest conversation about the challenges that come with long-term sex and the work it takes to stay connected. Enjoy! Themes:...
Jul 25, 2025•1 hr 4 min
Welcome back to another episode of Spit or Swallow! This week, Hausa Chocolate is joined by Valerie for a conversation about non-sexual turn-ons and the power of sensory triggers. They explore how things like scent, sound, gaze, and energy can spark desire, even when it’s not tied to physical touch or sex. From deep eye contact to the texture of a voice, to the intimacy of tattoos and the allure of piercings, they unpack the subtle, surprising ways our bodies respond to the world, and how it all...
Jul 18, 2025•1 hr 20 min•Season 3Ep. 19
Welcome back to another episode of Spit or Swallow! This week, Hausa Chocolate is joined by certified fat loss coach and wellness educator Gbemi Giwa to talk about fitness, nutrition and how it all ties into our sex lives. They chat about how what we eat can influence desire, why moving our bodies can boost confidence, and how that confidence can show up in the bedroom, sometimes in the form of better orgasms and much more Enjoy! Themes: Sexual Wellness, Body Confidence, Fitness & Desire, Nu...
Jul 11, 2025•54 min•Season 3Ep. 18
On this new episode of the Spit or Swallow Podcast, Hausa Chocolate sits down with the brilliant Dr. Onyii to break down the very necessary conversation around sexual health. From regular checkups to STIs, contraceptives, pleasure, and myths we really need to unlearn. They get into what safe sex actually looks like, why shame should have no place in your sexual health journey, and how to advocate for yourself in the bedroom, and at the clinic. Themes: Sexual Wellness, STI Awareness, Safe Sex, Pl...
Jun 27, 2025•1 hr 13 min•Season 3Ep. 17
We didn’t mean to ghost you, but we’re back! In this episode of the Spit or Swallow Podcast, Hausa Chocolate is joined by creator and artiste Sheila as they explore the deeper, spiritual side of sexual connection. From the merging of bodies to the merging of energies, and no, we don’t mean soul ties, they talk about how sex can be a tool for healing, awakening and transformation. Enjoyy! Themes: Spiritual Sex, Emotional Intimacy, Energy Exchange Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected ...
Jun 06, 2025•1 hr 15 min•Season 3Ep. 16
Welcome to another special episode of the Spit or Swallow podcast! Today, Hausa Chocolate is joined by talented creatives, William and Ayo Lawal. Together they discuss marriage, infidelity, assumptions and misconceptions about monogamous marriages, Madonna-Whore Complex, sexual safety, contraceptives, keeping sex spicy and so much more. Themes: Long Term Relationships, Infidelity, Madonna-Whore Complex Enjoyy! Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswal...
Apr 26, 2024•1 hr 20 min•Season 3Ep. 15
Welcome back to Spit or Swallow, where we dive deep into the juiciest topics around sex, relationships and intimacy. In this episode, Hausa Chocolate is joined by our favourite guest, amazing journalist, critic and Sex Sensei, Ed Gothboy. Join them as they delve into the concept of "dickmatization," explore the allure of having that unexplainable "Sauce,", unpack the complexities of casual yet ever-present sexual encounters and so much more! Enjoyy Themes: Relationships, Boundaries, Casual Sex D...
Apr 19, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Season 3Ep. 14
Welcome back to another episode of Spit or Swallow! On this special episode, your favourite host, Hausa Chocolate, is joined by a gender non-conformist Gozie who is a model and creative powerhouse. They share their experience navigating being a minority in Nigeria, shed light on their journey and coming into their own identity while tackling the social challenges of non-conformity head-on and so much more! Enjoy! Themes: Gender Identity, Labels, Queer Existence Don’t forget to rate us and share!...
Apr 12, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Season 3Ep. 13
Welcome back to Spit or Swallow Podcast! Joining your favourite host Hausa Chocolate today is Licensed Clinical Psychologist Aanu and they discuss trauma and sex. What trauma really means, how it manifests, cause and effect and what healing can look like. Aanu shares her insights on how inclusive therapy can be a game-changer in healing and growth, the importance of safe and affirming spaces for all types of sexualities and much more. Enjoy! Themes: Mental Health, Therapy, Sexual Wellness Don’t ...
Apr 05, 2024•42 min•Season 3Ep. 12
What’s the difference between love and crack? Today on this special episode, Hausa Chocolate is joined by Dark Chocolate Amiola and they talk about our favourite chemical reaction in the brain, love. They examine the relationship between sex and love. From the complexities of developing strong emotional attachments to the delicate balance between desire and vulnerability. Does love make bad sex feel better than it actually is? They explore it all in a heartfelt conversation about love, relations...
Mar 29, 2024•50 min•Season 3Ep. 11
On the latest episode of Spit or Swallow your favorite host, Hausa Chocolate, is joined by Tolu, a married, queer-identifying Nigerian. She shares her becoming story. They talk about her first pride event after moving, navigating queer sexual identities in a heterosexual marriage, discovering community abroad, how relocating changes how a person views and expresses their sexual identity and much more. Enjoy! Themes: Labels, Sexual Identity, Japa/Relocation Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay...
Mar 22, 2024•54 min•Season 3Ep. 10
In today’s episode Hausa Chocolate is joined by Olori Coitus, a brilliant Sex Educator, Intimacy Director and Public Health Expert. They unpack the exciting world of spreading accurate information on sex in Nigeria's sexually ‘repressed’ society. Olori Coitus shares how she got into Sexual Health, her journey so far, the road blocks she’s experienced in Nigeria being a sex educator and much more! Enjoy! Themes: Sex Education, Women’s Health, Advocacy Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay conne...
Mar 15, 2024•1 hr 7 min•Season 3Ep. 9
Hausa Chocolate is joined by a male stripper extraordinaire, Sugar Ken! Together they dive into the exciting world of stripping! While Sugar Ken might not be giving away free lap dances, he's certainly serving up some piping hot truths! They discuss the highs and lows of stepping into the spotlight, tips for successful marketing and branding in the industry, and the delicate dance of managing client emotions while baring it all. And yes, even with his clothes off, he's setting boundaries like a ...
Mar 08, 2024•49 min•Season 3Ep. 8
On today’s episode, Hausa Chocolate sits with an erotic goddess, a reiki healer, companion and guide, Joy. They talk about the connection between sex and spirituality, helping men access deeper intimacy and their inner eros. Joy’s journey as a medium and a creator and also exploring unconventional love and relationship styles. Enjoyy! Themes: Spirituality , Polyamory, Eros Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twitter: @sospodofficial - Ti...
Mar 01, 2024•57 min•Season 3Ep. 7
On this amazing episode of the podcast, Hausa Chocolate gets into silver sex with Cheron. K. Griffin an dating concierge, author, matchmaker and relationship coach together with her husband Mr. Hunni Bunni. They discuss her journey transitioning out of purity culture as an ex preacher’s wife, her various marriages, finding herself and true love with her new partner. They also discuss misconceptions about sex and love within older couples and much more Enjoyy Themes: Love, Relationships, Older Co...
Feb 23, 2024•1 hr 25 min•Season 3Ep. 6
Love is in the air! Isn’t it? On this special episode of the Spit or Swallow podcast, Hausa Chocolate, Luciano and Torera talk about love, romance and everything Valentine’s Day! What do you do when your situationship airs you on Love Day? They also discuss their hate languages, share funny stories, past experiences and talk about what love means to them. Themes: Love, Valentine’s, Relationships Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twitte...
Feb 16, 2024•1 hr 10 min•Season 3Ep. 5
On this amazing episode, your favourite host is joined by Teso, a model, writer and podcaster and creative. They discuss their sexual liberation journeys. The impact of visible voices going against the grain. They also talk about partnerships, community and finding alignment into today’s society. Enjoyy Themes: Sexual Liberation, Feminism, SocietyDon’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twitter: @sospodofficial - TikTok: @spitorswallowpod Lis...
Feb 09, 2024•1 hr 16 min•Season 3Ep. 4
On this amazing episode of the pod, Hausa Chocolate gets into holistic wellness with Oyin Talabi. They discuss New Year Resolutions, the Mind-Body-Spirit connection mindful living practices, becoming in tune with one’s self and general tips on improving our mental health and sex lives. Themes: Mindfulness, Meditation, Wellness Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twitter: @sospodofficial - TikTok: @spitorswallowpod Listen to a new episode...
Feb 02, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Season 3Ep. 3
On this interesting episode, your favourite host, Hausa Chocolate is joined by Play Smith and his wife Wade who are in an open marriage. They discuss how they met, the easy and hard parts of being in an open marriage, navigating it with friends, family and the dating pool, trust, honesty and so much more! Enjoyy! Themes: Open Relationships, Polyamory, Sexual Wellness Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twitter: @sospodofficial - TikTok: ...
Jan 26, 2024•53 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Welcome back to another amazing season of the Spit Or Swallow Pod with your favourite host Hausa Chocolate! On today’s slightly chaotic episode, Hausa Chocolate and the multifaceted Dr SID discuss intimacy differences in men and women, how logic and emotion feed love, analyze what makes long term relationships last, sexual liberalism, communication and so much more! Themes: Non Exclusive Partnerships, Emotional Honesty, Intimacy Enjoyy! Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us o...
Jan 19, 2024•1 hr 5 min•Season 3Ep. 1
It’s another Season Finale! Thank you so much for sticking with us this season! On this episode, Hausa Chocolate and Tushar talk labels, gender and queer s-x! They have an insightful conversation about what it’s like to be questioning while actively exploring your identity in the tumultuous yet exciting city of Lagos! Themes: Gender, Sexuality, Labels Enjoyy! Themes: Mental Health, Anxiety, Sexual Wellness Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowp...
Jul 07, 2023•55 min•Season 2Ep. 20
On this episode, Hausa Chocolate is joined by Nengi Adoki and they discuss going from the streets to the sheets and the messiness that happens in between. They also talk open relationships, cheating, what to do when you’re propositioned by a couple and more! Themes: Casual Sex, Polyamory, Power Dynamics Enjoyy! Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twitter: @sospodofficial - TikTok: @spitorswallowpod Listen to a new episode here: https://s...
Jun 30, 2023•59 min•Season 2Ep. 19
On this episode Hausa Chocolate holds an insightful conversation about sexual safety with award winning writer and activist , Tayo Bero. they talk about psychological and emotional safety and sex, sexual agency, power dynamics and the radicalisation of pleasure. Themes: Safe Sex, Sexual Agency, Gender Norms Enjoyy Themes: Mental Health, Anxiety, Sexual Wellness Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twitter: @sospodofficial - TikTok: @spito...
Jun 23, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 18
On today's important episode, your favorite host, Hausa Chocolate, is joined by storyteller Valerie Ekpo and the girls talk red! They discuss Periods, PMS, PMDD, and other conditions like PCOS and Endometriosis. They also talk about period sex and period shame. Enjoy! Themes: Periods, Period Sex, PCOS Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twitter: @sospodofficial - TikTok: @spitorswallowpod Listen to a new episode here: https://sos.podlink...
Jun 16, 2023•53 min•Season 2Ep. 17
On this juicy episode, your fave host, Hausa Chocolate, is joined by an SOS favorite Ed Goth Boy and they get into a loaded and informative conversation about what gets us in the mood for sex. How media influences the kind of sex we have, they also go into sex playlists and the differences between Ritual and Ego Sex Music. Dive in and enjoy! Themes: Sex In Media, Sex Playlists, Sensory Stimulation Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twit...
Jun 09, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 16
On this riveting episode your fave Hausa Chocolate is joined by two Erotic Writers Ore Badmus and sexfluencer Ola AKA Lavezzed Out. They talk about erotica, sex writing and sexual fantasies. They also discuss multipartnered sexual relationships and share some real life and slightly garnished sex stories. Enjoyyy!! Themes: Erotica, Sexual Fantasy, Pornography Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twitter: @sospodofficial - TikTok: @spitorsw...
Jun 02, 2023•53 min•Season 2Ep. 15
As mental health awareness month draws to a close your favorite host Hausa Chocolate touches on the nexus between mental health and sex. How they are connected and all moving parts of the same system. She discusses the psychological benefits of a good Sex Life, some sexual dysfunctions and the importance of sexual self-actualization, and more. Enjoyy! Themes: Mental Health, Anxiety, Sexual Wellness Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twi...
May 26, 2023•26 min•Season 2Ep. 14
On this exciting episode of the pod, your favourite host, Hausa Chocolate is joined by queer activist, creative, and writer, Kayode Ani. They dive into a multifaceted discussion about the politics and realities of queerness in Nigeria. Kayode shares his experiences being an activist, they discuss his journey, facing violence as well as the various nuances of masculinity and how heteronormative norms and behaviors sometimes spill into queer spaces. Enjoy! Themes Discussed: Queerness, Activism, He...
May 19, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 13
On today’s episode, your fave host, Hausa Chocolate is joined by visual artist, Alexis and they discuss bad sexual communication during sex. We always go on about ‘communication’ being the bedrock of good sex but what are the wrong ways to do it in and out of the bedroom? Enjoy! Themes: Sexual Communication, Shame, Ghosting Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twitter: @sospodofficial - TikTok: @spitorswallowpod Hosted on Acast. See acast...
May 12, 2023•41 min•Season 2Ep. 12
On this super interesting episode, your favourite host, Hausa Chocolate, is joined by an Adult Film Star and they take a glimpse into the Nigerian porn industry. Wunmin Savage shares her experiences being a porn actress and navigating the adult content scene in Nigeria. They talk about dealing with the attention, revenue and so much more! Themes Discussed: Adult Entertainment, Porn, Societal Norms Don’t forget to rate us and share! Stay connected with us on: - Instagram: @spitorswallowpod - Twit...
May 05, 2023•32 min•Season 2Ep. 11
