#22: “Disciplining” Teens Without Rebellion (How To Handle Consequences)

“Discipline” is actually not what most of us think. It’s not about control, obedience, punishment or focused on consequences. Discipline is actually about teaching – teaching our kids the skills they lack and those they’ll need to be independent, mentally stable, and “successful” adults. 

It’s about setting high expectations, clear and consistent limits and boundaries, in a respectful and loving way, being empathetic, listening to them, acknowledging their feelings, and connecting emotionally before correcting their behavior.

As parents of teenagers, we must reframe the meaning of discipline, learn the difference between consequences and punishment, the role natural and logical consequences can play in discipline, and when and how to use them effectively with teens and tweens.

 Listen and learn some very important guidelines you can begin using today with your teenager.

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