It is time to get solar powered. We welcome you back to another episode of the solar powered podcast. I'm Ryan Hall from loyal hearts coaching, loyal hearts coaching dot com, life and relationship coaching for Kings. And I just, before we really get into our guests, I just wanna pat myself on the back a little bit. This podcast, I'm just truly blessed with, you know, being able to speak to so many incredible people, so many just incredible stories.
This podcast is as we're recording this, we're just we're less than a 150 away from 2,000 total downloads and was something that I started during a global pandemic, during a really tough time in my life. I'm truly grateful to all of you. I'm truly grateful to all of my guests, and, the sky ain't even close to the limit on this. I've got big plans for this. So I just wanted to thank you all. Now our guest on this episode here is somebody who I've wanted to talk to for a long time.
Her name is Dida Fada. She is the positivity expert. I swear I love that branding. But she is the positivity expert. She's an author. She's a coach. She's a survivor and has one of the most infectious personalities of anybody I think I have ever met. And it's truly an honor to have D Defied on the solar powered podcast. Welcome. Welcome to the podcast, my dear. Oh, thank you. It's such an honor to be here. I'm excited to talk to you today. Oh, absolutely.
Absolutely. And, you know, like I told you, you know, the first time we spoke, I'm like, how have we not connected yet? I mean, we're both running a lot of the same circles. You are on my friend, Davidson's podcast, here recently, which we're just talking about before we rolled the recording. So, thank you so much for taking the time out today. You're welcome. And I believe in divine timing. Okay. We just now is the divine timing. We're ready to go. You're not wrong about that.
Yep. Alright. So I just wanna I get deep right at the beginning here with first time guest. Who is Dita Fatto? Oh, Dita Fatto has been evolving for a very long time. 49 years. Dee de Fata was born feisty and fun and energetic and positive and just ready to take on the world. And as she grew up, her sparkle started to diminish.
You know, the the self talk goes on in your head about not being good enough and and taking on the identity of the big sister and mommy's little helper and then, you know, being a people pleaser and getting good grades and making mommy happy and, you know, all that fun stuff. And then moving when I was 9a half years old to a new state where I knew no one. It was no family. No no one. I'm like, oh my god.
So immediately, I went into survival mode and trying to fit in to whatever different, you know, groups I could because I felt so lonely and terrible. And I was like, oh, so yeah. So then more self talk and more whatever. And I was always positive on the outside, always smiling on the outside. But my inside, I was so angry and frustrated with myself. And it made sense that after going through junior high that way and high school that way and even college, I blossomed into me, who I wanted to be.
But I was still acting as an over cheating, stressed out perfectionist, you know. I tried to cram everything I could into one day, and I worked so hard, and I was busy all the time, and I wore stress as a badge of honor. Oh, I still can't believe I did that. So right after college, I didn't know what to do with myself. And my dad told me that I had to get a job. And I knew I wanted to go on one direction, but that wasn't available, so I went back into retail. Oh, that one hurt.
College degree, I'm back into retail. Oh, well. But a few months after that, I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. Oh, by the way. Yeah. Happy birthday. No kidding. Well, so Oh. Yes. So yeah. That that led up to a major major milestone in my life. And, you know, after 27 years having MS, I realized that it was actually a blessing and not a curse. I got that. I got that. Well, there's a lot to unpack there. But one thing that Yeah.
One thing that really jumps out at me with what you just shared there is the idea of being that, like, wearing that perfectionist just stressed out overachiever, go go go pedal to the metal all the time is almost like a badge of honor. And I feel like that's something that a lot of people out there really struggle with. And I mean, Lord knows I do just being just having this idea of if I don't get it perfect, if I don't get it right the first time, why even try?
What you don't realize is that you're so so, like, what you're not happy with, make somebody else super happy. You don't need perfection in order to impact others. You don't. It's all the self talk. It's all in your head. All the stuff we go through, all the questions we ask ourselves and the perfectionism and the stressed out and the overwhelmed and the overachiever. Oh my god. It's all in the head. So and when you finally realize that and you do a mind dump, you're like, get out.
It's like, oh, I feel free. I mean, I don't know if you've ever taken a yoga class, but I used to say that was a vacation away from me. And it was because I didn't have to think. I just fell into the postures, and I I breathe into my soul. And I got out of that class, and it looked like I was drunk. Yes. I was so relaxed. There was no there was not an ounce of stress in me. I let it all go. I left it all on my mat. So I'm like, there's gotta be a way to incorporate all of this.
Like, not just going to yoga. It's not in yoga class. It's within you. So I did a lot of inner work, lot of inner work trying to find that. And I realized that just by changing my thoughts and the way I spoke to myself and to others, it changed my world. You know, what you think you create, what you speak, you affirm. I didn't realize that. I had no idea. That's huge. Really is. Huge. Just think about that. Think of how small that is and how huge it is. What you think you create.
So when I was thinking, I'm not good enough. This isn't perfect. I need to work harder. I need to just keep going. Keep going. Keep going. Keep going. Don't ever stop. Because when you stop, you're unworthy. What does that create for me? Hello. Horrible stuff, you know, because then I start talking to myself. When I speak, I affirm. I was telling myself, I'm unworthy. I'm not good enough. I'm not there yet. I'll never make it. Oh my god. How do I do this?
You know, that's horrible self doubt talk and, you know, limiting self beliefs. And to think that you have the power within you to change that, that's huge. Yeah. It it it really is. And it usually is not like a like an angel choir kind of moment. It's like it's like just like these subtle changes.
I mean, I'm saying them in my own life right now, but these subtle changes, these subtle shifts that really add up to the transformation that I think so many of us desire but so many of us are also scared to death about because we know that gonna have to put in the work, gonna have to put in the time and the energy. You know, it's funny because I always thought, oh my god, this is gonna take so much. This is a lifestyle change.
And when anything is ever a lifestyle change, you start thinking of everything you have to give up. And so you don't wanna do it anymore. You're like, nope. I'm just gonna stay the way I am because I'm happier here. I'm not giving up anything. I don't I'm not ready to give up any but when you realize that you're not giving anything up, you're just adding little things, it's like, oh, I can do that. Like, yeah, I'm not telling you to give up who you are as a person or what you're interested in.
You know? Like, even people that wanna go on a diet. They're like, oh, I have to give up everything. No. You don't. No. You don't. The first thing you have to do is work on your thoughts. Be aware of your thoughts and what you're telling yourself because it never fails. You can try desperately to change your behaviors, but without being aware and changing your thinking, you're not gonna get there. No. Yeah. You're you're really not. It's amazing how it's all within you.
So instead of me saying, oh my god. I'm stressed out. I said, oh my gosh. I'm grateful that I have all of this, you know, coming to me. You know, instead of saying, oh my god. I have to do the laundry. It's like, you know what? I'm grateful to have a washing machine and to have clothes to wash. You know, I found that gratitude grounded me in positivity. It's amazing. Yeah. You know, I'm grateful for the things that I have and I'm grateful in the circumstances.
So I'm even grateful in my MS because it's taught me so much. You know, I may be mobility challenged, but I'm still moving. I don't consider myself disabled even though I have a placard that says I am. Right. You know? I know. And it might be a disease, but I like to take the diss out of it. I don't like to diss myself. And by eliminating the diss, all of a sudden, I'm abled and it's eased. I'm like, oh, heck yeah. So and I've redefined my MS as modified swagger motivational Spitfire.
So I'm like, oh, yeah. You all like that. So I'm having fun with this. I'm like, I'm not gonna allow this to hold me back from living my life. No. I'm still the feisty little kid I always was. That inner child is within me, and I love her with all of my heart and soul. And I have invited her to come out and play with me because I wanna be creative. I wanna use my imagination. I wanna have a good time in life.
And just because my legs aren't a 100%, and, you know, I have these wonky MS things from time to time, I don't care. I am still, and I'm still the person I was born to be. And I'm not my disease. Amen. I I love that. I love that. That mean, that just gave me chills.
But, like, the thing as you were sharing that, the thing that just really jumped out at me is I think so often we write stories about ourselves and about who we are with like the outside circumstances or like or like the what we are instead of the who we are.
I mean, like I'm a, you know I mean, just because the fact that you may have trouble walking from time to time and have, you know, like the the MS symptoms doesn't mean that you're different than the person that you were put on this planet to be.
And I think that's truly incredible just to just to really think about because the stories that we write about ourselves so often that's, you know, it's like a it it's almost like not so much a death sentence, but it like it weighs on us like a giant anchor, and we can't move, and we can't, you know, go forward in our lives. And it's just a it it's it it's very burdensome. Mhmm. And being able to shift that perspective is really a remarkable thing to to really be with. Yeah. It's amazing.
I help people redefine their circumstances so they can get realigned with their true self and redesign their path forward. That's what it's all about. Yeah. So it no one is stuck. No one is stuck. So they just think they're stuck. So but it takes awareness. You don't know what you don't know until you know it. And that's where I come in. The out of the box perspective and positivity coach. Yeah. You know, you never expect to get what you get from me. And it's like, they look at themselves.
They go, what? Where did that come from? I'm like, yeah. Sometimes it takes somebody who's just a fun loving, compassionate person who holds space for you and allows you to speak to change your story. Because I as I'm listening to people speak, I allow them to tell their story, but then I ask them questions to make them spin it. Spin it to a positive. What did you learn from that? What was the lesson and the blessing in that situation, in that circumstance?
And how have you become a better person? Because we always grow from the stuff we go through, but we don't give ourselves credit. We never look back and give ourselves time to reflect on that in order to receive the revelation of how special we are. We're amazing. Yep. We are amazing. Every one of us is a miracle. Period.
Yes. Yes. Yeah. And the the stories that we tell ourselves are just so are just so powerful, but they also they also one of the things that I struggle with is the stories are so powerful that they feel real. Mhmm. That they feel real. That they that they don't feel like the fiction that we make them out to be. I mean, admittedly, I have a gift for fiction. I am an author, but it's not, it ain't that deep, you know? It really isn't that deep.
And as soon as I would say you could realize that and accept that, the sooner you can make just a crazy powerful life for yourself. Yeah. It really it takes coming out of your head and becoming a higher observer. Observing it from up above. Like, what is the story? How did that actually unfold? And when you can see it from that perspective instead of your god awful imagination in your head making up all the stories, it's like, that's not that's not what I've been telling myself. You know?
It's 2 completely different stories. I had a story that held me back for the longest time. It was about an ex boyfriend who broke my heart. Okay? So one day, I decided that I was gonna eliminate all kinds of negativity in my house. I went through photo albums, and I started shredding old pictures of this person. I'm like, you need to go. You need to go. I was playing a song that I sang and played, like, constantly after he broke up with me. And I'm like, we're gonna cry. We're gonna kiss out.
And as I'm looking through pictures, they go, he didn't break your heart. You were ready to dump him anyway. Like, are you kidding me? I hung on to this for years. Oh my god. I can't believe the stories I had in my head. And instead of crying, I was laughing hysterically. And my daughter came in, and we actually had fun with it. We went through more photo albums and just kept shredding it and telling stories and laughing and, like, bye. That yeah. That that's powerful. You know? It it yeah.
It's very powerful to realize to be able to see something that has held you down like an anchor for so long is almost entertaining. Yeah. Yeah. It was it was a positive and duh moment. I love it. Why? We do it to ourselves. Yeah. I was like, oh. We really do. We really do. And we choose to believe it because it just it's it feels real, but it also feels comfortable. Oh, but you know what? We have been so conditioned by society to believe the worst in ourselves and worst in others.
You know what I mean? Look at everything on television. I can't even watch most of this stuff on television anymore. I'm like, oh, this is oh, no. No. No. No. No. No. Yeah. Even the news, it's not meant to be positive. It's meant to get ratings, and the only way they're gonna get ratings is if they they put negative stuff out there because we latch onto it.
And look at all the products out there that people sell because we don't believe in ourselves, and we wanna look better, and we wanna feel better. I mean, we spend money hand over fist on stuff that's outside of our realm. We're looking for the that fix me moment and it's like, it's not out there. The answer is a ginormous u-turn back to you within you. It's in your heart. It's in your soul.
You were born with everything that you need within you, but sometimes it takes a special guide or a coach to hold your hand and say, come with me. Let me show you the beautiful person that you are. Exactly. Exactly. I mean, that's so so incredible that you said that. I the the work that I do as a coach, I almost see myself as a perspective fairy. Mhmm. Yep. Because, I mean, because that's all it is.
I mean, it's also calling yourself out on your own negative story, but it's also being able to see that negative story in other people and give them the perspective to be like, That's been me for a long time. Yeah. Well, it it becomes comfortable. Yeah. And the word comfortable is a scary Because when you get comfortable, you stop using your imagination. You don't need to be courageous. You are okay being okay. And I'm like, I don't want to be okay anymore. I don't want to be in survival mode.
I wanna thrive. I wanna be phenomenal. I wanna be magnificent. I wanna unleash myself and my potential, because I know it's unlimited. I have boundless potential within me, but I have comfortable. You know, it's like everything I want exists outside of my comfort zone. Yep. So but like I said, you don't have to give up everything. When people when you say change, people go, oh, you know, the shoulders go up, the look on the face. They get they just get tight. Oh, yeah.
And especially with the word pivot now because of 2020. You say pivot, people get pissy. Yep. No doubt. Oh my god. Redefine the word. It's just a word. It's just a word. Like, make it fun. Find something that you can, you know, like trigger. The word trigger, I'm like, you know what? I think of Tigger now. Tigger makes me laugh and smile. So I'm like, no. I'm good. I don't you know, trigger Tigger, it it works for me now. There you go, man. There you I just bouncing along. There there you go.
There you go. It's all it's all in the head. It's all in the mind. And when you step out of the head and bring it down into the heart and realize who you are truly within, it's like, oh, there it is. And when you take a deep breath with your eyes closed and you really breathe into yourself, it's like, wow, I'm really special. You know, your heart is beating. Your breath, you can take a deep breath. You're alive. You are well. You can do whatever you think you can or cannot do.
Yep. Ding ding ding ding. That's that's it. That's the answer. Bing, go. I love it. I love it. You know, one thing and I couldn't agree I could not agree with you more about just getting out of your head, getting out of that space, being able to see yourself for just the magnificent creature that you are. But sometimes it can be really difficult for any of us to get out of our head without doing, like, a big brain dump and just, you know, get the crap out.
Is there a do you have, like, a go to practice or something to to help people, like, remove their head and, like, shake out all the cobwebs and the feral cats and stuff like that? It's funny. The the first thing that I start with is the breath. I find that when I breathe into me, I can reconnect to to my spirit, you know, deep within. I'm like, oh. And honestly, people are like, I don't have time for that. Yeah. You do.
So and honestly, this exercise, I'm gonna walk you through it because I can actually explain it so that you can see it in your mind. So if you scrunch your shoulders, like, really, really tight and you scrunch your fist up, make really, really tight fist and you even make a really funny face where you're scrunching everything as tight as you can, like you're pissed off at the world. But you're holding everything super tight, all your muscles. And you breathe in really deep.
And when you let it out, let everything relax. How do you feel? Whatever was there is gone. It's just you're concentrating so hard on being pissed off and holding your breathing so tight that you don't have time to think about your head going, what are you doing? You know, this is stupid. You know? You're just like, okay. So I got the shoulders up tight. I got my my fist clenched. I got my face all distorted and clenched up. And then you release and you go, oh, that felt good.
You know, when you can release, it just it gives you space to think about something else, to be who you actually are instead of who you think you should be. Yeah. Before the world showed you that being what you actually are was dangerous and it wasn't safe. Yep. Well, think about it. Your parents, how many times did they tell you no over your lifetime? They didn't want you to get hurt. Yeah. You know? My parents taught me all about scarcity and lack of playing small.
They didn't even mean to or that wasn't their intention. But that's what I got out of it, and it's like, oh my gosh. I need to spread my wings and fly. You know, think about it though before you learned all that. When you were little little little and you were learning how to walk, you fell how many times? And you weren't scared to get back up and keep going. You were bound in the term to walk. You know, you didn't have those thoughts of, oh my god. I'm gonna fall. Oh my god. I'm gonna get hurt.
Oh my god. This is gonna happen to me. No. You just did it. So that's what we're trying to get back to. That inner child who's like, yeah. Let's do this. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, god. So funny you should say that. When I when I grew up, I had the we had this, like, big wooden rocking chair, and one of the arms on it was loose.
And I never figured out why until one day I just asked my mom what's going on with that, and then she she says to me, you kept pulling yourself up by that arm when you were learning how to walk. But just because just because that arm on that rocking chair was loose doesn't mean that it was defective in any way. In fact, it helped me learn how to walk. Yes. Yeah. Isn't that amazing how you shift the story? It really is.
It really Yeah. Something else too is that we go on and on and on with our stories, but we never ask why. Why why did that happen? Why do I feel that way? Or, you know, even an issue, like, you may be having a story in your head with someone else who's not even there. And it's like, oh my god. Just just talk to the person. Like, it's so much more daunting in your mind than it is when you actually talk to them in person. It's unbelievable. We just we scare ourselves out of everything.
We have so much fear that we keep ourselves from doing what we were born to do. It's like, no. No. No. No. No. No. No. Step out of the bubble. It's okay. It's safe. Just just peek out like a little meerkat, you know. Am I okay? Am I okay? Is there anybody out here? Nope. Good. Okay. Then take a baby step. Sit. One baby step. One baby step. That's it. That's all you have to do.
One baby step a day, and eventually, you will see these big shifts and you will be boldly soaring in no time and you'll be like, woah. How did I get here? But, yeah, it's it's the baby steps. Yeah. I got it. Oh, I, oh, I totally get that because when you when you just get this stuck in your own head, it just there's there's no room to get it out.
I mean, one of, one of my analogies that I love to use with my clients, and I've used this on this podcast, is that when you set the, the head of a drum too tight, it chokes off the natural sound of the wood. But when you loosen it up just a little bit, you not only allow the sound of that drum head to hit, but the sound of the wood to make it ring out a little bit better.
And that's just that's just it's just a simple perspective shift that I think a lot of people really need right now, especially as we're emerging on the other side of this pandemic that shall not be named. Yeah. It's all about perspective. Yeah. It really is. And it's it's really there's some simple little techniques that can get you to that next step without fear, without freaking out, without failure. It just it's I mean, just that little breath exercise was huge.
Yeah. And and monitor your thoughts. You know, if you find yourself beating yourself up or saying, oh, am I good enough? Well, change it. Say no. I'm I'm amazing. I'm amazingly resilient. Look at where I am. Look at what I've been through. You know, look back and acknowledge and appreciate everything that you've survived. It's amazing. Oh, totally. Totally. I mean, you know, it's just like you with your your journey to peace over your MS diagnosis.
That was something, you know, especially with you being as young as you were when you got your diagnosis, that that could have been something that could have messed you up for the rest of your life. But you learn how to you learn how to shift your perspective out of it and you see it as a blessing now. Yeah. I do. I do. It slowed me down enough to realize that I was on a hamster wheel with blinders on. And I'm like, when did I become a rodent? I'm like, oh my god. We're all rodents.
Have you looked around? Everybody's on their hamster wheel. Yeah. Just turn on the just turn on the news. I mean, come on. Yeah. It's crazy. So I was so blessed to actually take a step back, and I'm like, you know, I have my walker, I'm walking with my walker and I'm walking these, I'm watching these people fly by me. I'm like, okay, I'm having a good time, you enjoy your life, bye. But I'm like, wow, that's how I used to be. People just tell me to slow down because I walk so fast.
So I laugh at that too. I'm like, oh, look at how things have changed. But, yeah, it's a blessing. It is truly a blessing. I I truly love and appreciate myself for the first time in my entire life. I mean, it's taken me 49 years to find the love and acceptance and validation I've been looking for from everyone else. I didn't need it from everyone else. I just needed it from me.
So and now that I've accepted myself, I've become an inspiration for others and I've given others permission to love and accept and validate themselves as they are. You know, there's no certain plateau that you have to reach. There's nobody that you should be, need to be, wanna be. No. And you know what? Some days suck. I'm not gonna lie. Some days suck and they're hard as hell. And I'm like, oh my god. I just you know what? I have to rest. That's it. I'm done.
I'm just gonna sit back and rest because that's what my body needs. So it's loving your inner child. It's loving your body. It's loving your mind, your spirit. You know, we've got all these different connections just within us, and we don't even realize it. Yeah. Yeah. About the inner child. I know that's something that you talk about a lot, and that's something that I talk about a lot.
Yeah. I haven't and I have found that so often as we get into adulthood, as we start to put some put some age on the calendar and, you know, have responsibilities and kids and jobs. When we when we start to get into that, we lose that connection with that inner child, like, like, inner childlike enthusiasm.
Mhmm. And if you think about it and I know and I'm pretty sure you agree with me that that inner childlike enthusiasm, that is who you really are before the world showed you that that just wasn't safe. Exactly. Yeah. Definitely. I mean, that inner child, think about it. So I I've done some release work, you know, with a professional who helped me, you know, release some of that ancestral baggage that I was carrying with me through life.
But, in doing that, I realized that my inner child was broken and, like, had severe anxiety between 3 and 3 and a half years old. And when I really gave it thought, I go, oh my god, my mom got pregnant and my brother was born when I was 3 and a half years old. And I'm like, I get it. I totally get it. I wasn't allowed to be the free spirited d anymore, you know.
All of a sudden my mom was like, I need you to help me, I need help with your brother, you know, I need you to put these dishes away or like, I became the responsible one. And I'm like, oh, that sucked. No wonder I was You took that promotion seriously. I did. And but think about that. I've taken that promotion on. That was I took that on as my identity.
So the child that I was born to be and the fun loving person that I was, the feisty person that I was, got squashed because I had to be responsible. So it was a different identity, and I've taken that through all of life with me. So I'm 49 years old going, are you freaking kidding me? I'm like, I've been struggling with that since I was 3a half years old. And I'm not blaming or shaming anyone. That's just how my little mind, you know, came up with that.
I mean, when your mind is that unevolved, you don't know any better. You don't know any better. And your parents don't know any better to say, I still love you for who you are. Like, I love your feisty self. But, yeah, don't ever change. No. Because they are responsible and they have stuff to do. So they did the best they could. And now I'm like, oh, be free. Be free. Like, enough. You know, I'm a mother. I'm an entrepreneur. I'm a wife. I work hard.
I've got stuff going on, but I'm like, I'm not squashing my inner child anymore. No. Let's play. Let's have fun with work. Let's have fun washing my dishes. Thank you. Thank you. And I'm so glad you said that because this, this world, we're not here that long. We are not here that long. I mean, in the span of history, the, you know, the 80, 85 years that we may live is not that long. I know. Let's have some fun with it. Let's exactly. Yeah. Let's get out there.
Let's, you know, and that's something that I again, I have been working on is getting reconnected and, you know, trying to find trying to find what made me tick as little lion because I'm not separate from that kid. I'm just a bigger version of him. Yep. And when little Ryan comes out, it is so much fun. Yeah. Your eyes sparkle. Your spirit shines bright. I mean, you are so lit up. It's just, that's you. That's who you are.
Yeah. Yeah. Amen. You know, one thing that, one thing that I'm, really curious about and I wanted to ask you is I know, and we're gonna get to your book here in a minute, but you call yourself the positivity coach. I mean, obviously it's a pun on your name, but I found that a lot of people, they have the, like these, like this positivity mindset that becomes toxic after a while that they just that they just kinda like lose perspective on just what really is going on in the world.
And how do you, like, how do you balance that line of, like, the toxic positivity and just, like, being who you are that with that infectious spirit that we all know you to have? So a lot of people think about positivity as rainbows and unicorns. You know. Oh, let's put a pretty picture over the negativity. No. But negativity still exists. So happy and sad exist within you at the same time, you know. You might have this beautiful persona, but you've got like the shadow of yourself.
You have to come to terms with all of it. You have to accept honor and appreciate all of that within you and all of it within the world. You have to love and accept people for where they're at on their journey, you know, and I never tell anybody, you know, we try so hard to change other people, but we really have to change from within and be the change. So when I see the negativity out there, I can choose to turn TV on or off. Okay?
I don't have to watch the news to find out what's going on in the world. That's how I choose to stay positive. If there's something I need to know about, I'll know about it because everybody loves to talk. I mean, she can't help but see it somewhere. I'm not positive 247. I allow myself time to be quiet, to go within, to be sad, to be mad, to let it all out. I mean, these are all emotions that can't be denied.
You know, when you repress that stuff and stuff it down, it comes up as very negative things. So by all means, respect yourself and love yourself enough to feel what you're feeling. Feel what you're feeling. Forgive what you're holding on to. That's really the only way to release it. You know, we're all trying to release stuff. They can't release it until you own it. But yeah, it's not rainbows and unicorns. It's just a different perspective. Yeah. I get that.
And it's all about just meeting yourself and respecting yourself where you are in your own journey and also the other people in your life being at different places in their journey. Mhmm. Yeah. I love it. Let's talk about that book. How did a daily dose of positivity come to be? Oh, my gosh. I have been writing. I think I started in 2014. And in 2018, I really started to surround myself with a positive community because I wanted to grow, I wanted to change, I wanted to be a different person.
I wanted to be a motivational speaker for as long as I can remember. And every time I said that to somebody, they would squash me. And like I said, I don't blame anyone. That was me taking it personally and misconstruing things. And honestly, just like I said in the beginning, divine time, it wasn't ready yet. So over these past few years, I've been writing and writing, writing and writing and writing and writing. And, and I didn't know what was gonna come with it.
I knew I wanted to write a book, but I didn't know it was gonna what it was gonna be. I tried to write this book in March of 2019, and, it just wasn't really it wasn't there. It wasn't ready. I got frustrated. I closed the book on the book, and I put it away. I put it up on the shelf. And, I was working with a marketing coach, And I was telling her all these ideas I had. And she's like, who are you? I'm like, I'm positivity. She's like, yeah, but who are you really? I'm like, oh, yeah.
I'm more authenticity, like vulnerability, and put my stories out there. And the more I told her about what I wanted to do and and who I was, the more I'm like, oh my god. I need to share all this stuff. I saw I have so many doses of positivity. Like, I started going through all my old notebooks and highlighting all these words, all these sayings that I had written, and I'm like, it was born. The idea was born. And I I just kept going and going and going.
Like, I could write another whole book, you know, just by going through everything. And it's funny because, it all depends on who you deal with. Okay. So the last publisher that I dealt with and it all depends on the situation too. I hadn't created my brand yet. I hadn't created who I was. I didn't have a Facebook page. I didn't have all the stuff that I I wanted and needed. I didn't have my website to describe who I was. It didn't have my my programs that I offer.
So when I was putting out this book of quotes, she goes, well, you need to describe how your inspiration for it and the impact and whatever. And I go, okay. So I tried to do that, but that wasn't what it was all about. So now now I was ready to put out just a book of quotes, just a book of quotes because if they want more of me, I'm here. I'm here. I'm a coach. I'm a speaker. I'm an educator. I got this. They don't need to read it all in the book. They have me.
So it was it all just came together when it was supposed to come together. And who doesn't need some positivity in their life right now? Please. Are you kidding me? No. No. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Well So yeah. You know, it's a it's a remarkable read. I do have it. I have it on my Kindle, but I I do have it. I read it every morning. It's a very, it it's an it's a nice way to start the day. It is. Yeah. Yeah. It yeah.
It's a nice way to start the day just with that little kick start of little kick start of truth. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I kick start a new perspective. So the quote from today, I love the quote from today. Give yourself permission to scrap the to do list and take care of you instead. Yeah. How many times do we just push through that list and we never take care of ourselves at all?
You know, if you don't take care of you and if you don't put yourself first, you don't have anything else to give to others. And we're put on this earth to serve others, not sacrifice ourselves. So you have to fill yourself up so that you have that to give. Indeed. Yeah. Very important. Yeah. No doubt. No doubt. I like that. It's as cliche as it gets, but you can't pour from an empty cup. Exactly. Exactly. Yeah. You can't pour from an empty cup. Well, I could just talk to you for hours.
This has been a truly, this has been a truly just uplifting conversation, Dee. I think that again, your, like your personality and your spirit is just so infectious. There needs to be more of that out there. There really does. So thank you so much for taking the time today. What do you have going on? How can people find you? Oh, my gosh. I have so many wonderful things coming up and I'm so excited.
But right now, the most important thing that I have is 1 on 1 coaching because I really wanna help people shift their perspective, without freaking out. There's no reason to freak out. I wanna help them take that baby stuff and reconnect to that inner child and the excitement and the inspiration and the imagination and oh, yes, all of that wonderful stuff. So you can find me on Facebook, my personal Facebook page, d Defata. You can find me on LinkedIn, also d Defata.
You can find me on my website, a dose of positivity. And you can find my book, your daily dose of positivity on Amazon. There you go. Dee, it's been a privilege. I'd love to have you back. Oh, that would be wonderful. Thank you so much, Brian. I have enjoyed every minute of our conversation. Me too, my dear. Thank you so much, and we thank you for listening to the solar powered podcast, the presentation of Royal Hearts Coaching.
For more information about Royal Hearts Coaching and about me, just go to my website at royalheartscoaching.com. You can follow me on the social media machine at ryanhallrights on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, or just shoot me a good old fashioned email, [email protected]. But that'll do it for this episode. Until we meet again, this is Ryan Hall saying thank you so much for listening. So long for now. I love you all and go get solar powered.