Weaponized incompetence and other ADHD “crimes” (Reddit Reactions)
Episode description
We’re back with another spicy Reddit Reactions episode!
This week, we dive into two wildly relatable ADHD relationship posts: one about a partner claiming “you lost your sparkle” (eye roll), and another spiraling over chores, shame, and new-job burnout. We unpack toxic dynamics, people-pleasing, clutter blindness, and why you’re not weaponizing incompetence.
For more on this topic:
- Listen: ADHD, cheating, and weaponized incompetence
- Watch: ADHD and people-pleasing
- Read: What IS weaponized incompetence?
Timestamps:
(01:00) A sparkle-stealing husband
(04:10) Is it ADHD… or a toxic partner?
(08:20) ADHD shame spiral: “I can’t do anything right!”
(11:40) Clutter blindness and burnout
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