David and Isabelle are joined by two fellow therapists who have ADHD, Caily & Sarah. They talk about how they came to feel something was wrong with them, or the system around them, how girls are often socialized to mask impulsiveness or hyperactivity, and how stereotypes around ADHD impact all gender expressions. (Part I of a series) ----- After a technical difficulty, David and Isabelle reintroduce Caily and Sarah, two therapists who identify as women who also have ADHD. Caily had shared ho...
Mar 15, 2023•35 min•Season 2Ep. 45
David and Isabelle continue their conversation with poet, speaker, and activist for people with disabilities, LeDerick Horne—and get to hear him recite some of his incredible spoken word poems. They talk about how songs taught them to spell, the power of oral traditions, and an incredible school in Kenya that expanding education and access for those with disabilities. Seriously, his poetry will give you life. (Part IV of IV) ------ LeDerick continues sharing some of his poetry, describing his fa...
Mar 01, 2023•25 min•Season 2Ep. 44
David and Isabelle continue their conversation with poet, speaker, and activist for people with disabilities, LeDerick Horne—from how the LD/ADHD community often generates it’s knowledge base from peers and social media, to losing resources by ignoring people, to recognizing that the suffering is real and the urge to help someone not suffer as you did has a big fancy psychology term for it (transmuting internalization, PHEW). Go further into the depth of how you’re not alone and also hear one of...
Feb 15, 2023•32 min•Season 2Ep. 43
David and Isabelle continue their conversation with David’s dear and incredible friend, LeDerick Horne—a poet, speaker, and activist for people with disabilities. From vision boarding your IEP, to the importance of near-peer mentors and role models who have walked a little further down the LD/ADHD road, to accommodations and frustrations in LeDerick’s multiple roles (as businessperson, activist, poet, writer, tree farmer, etc.). Go deeper into recognizing an inclusive view of success, and what s...
Feb 01, 2023•35 min•Season 2Ep. 42
David starts by introducing his incredible friend—poet, speaker, and advocate for all people with disabilities, LeDerick Horne . He uses LeDerick’s own advice about introducing people: think of the last time you saw them and then why they’re here now. David last remembers walking with LeDerick on a cold Chicago day after eating delicious Ethiopian food and talking up a storm almost a year before this recording, and the reason for LeDerick being on Something Shiny goes deeper. When David was firs...
Jan 18, 2023•46 min•Season 2Ep. 41
Here's a REPLAY of good ol' episode 11 to help ease your transition into 2023-with new episodes coming soon! -- Why do some of us minimize and reduce the number of choices while others seek excitement and novelty? Why do some of us need everything listed out while others need to just try something blindly? The secret? Different types of ADHD and different ways our ADHD shows up in different environments! David and Isabelle are joined by Bobby and Noah, who also have ADHD, and talk about things l...
Jan 04, 2023•21 min•Season 1Ep. 40
(originally episode 08! rerun for your holiday break enjoyment!) How do we separate a task from our emotions about it? Especially when it comes to our own battles with procrastination ? Isabelle is struggling with this and Bobby, her husband, is curious to hear more. David breaks it down like this: let’s say the task is running 5 miles in 60 minutes, which sounds very hard to Bobby. Does it matter what you’re wearing? What time of day you go? If it’s raining or not? There’s lots of things we can...
Dec 21, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 39
How do you survive traveling with ADHD? What about traveling with children, particularly small children? And what happens when you find yourself rushing, leaving things until the last minute, and forgetting your charger once again? David and Isabelle swap stories and share specific tips to traveling and also discuss WHY ARE THERE SOCK NUBBINS AND TAGS. Seriously. ----- There can be so much pressure to have a Hallmark, picture-postcard perfect holiday and it’s so important to revise those expecta...
Dec 07, 2022•31 min•Season 1Ep. 38
How do you survive family dinners? Sitting at a table until everyone is done? Overstimulation? Sticky conversations and setting boundaries? David and Isabelle talk concrete tips for getting through the holidays, and even enjoying them—and the truth behind ear worm songs’ lyrics that may pop your Thanksgiving Day Parade Spiderman balloons. ---- David and Isabelle name that any time you’re meeting with family, traveling, disrupting routine, and then you throw in kids—how do we do this? Let’s start...
Nov 23, 2022•35 min•Season 1Ep. 37
Why are some of us anxious and some of us excited (or a combo platter of both)? And is it possible to turn anxiety, or anger, or shame spirals, into something else? David and Isabelle swap stories, talk transgenerational trauma, and get curious about how we are socialized to mask and behave...and that perhaps the solution for being overly apologetic lies in the midwestern gem: "ope.” ----- Isabelle starts by expanding on the idea of how you think about things, how that inner landscape can connec...
Nov 09, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 36
The first thing David wants to talk about how amazing Dolly Parton is , how he’s heard more amazing things that she’s done in the last six months and it blows his mind.. Isabelle references the podcast Dolly Parton’s America, about how Jad Abumrad’s (of Radiolab’s) dad befriended Dolly Parton, and just how beloved she is and why that might be. David names Imagination Library, which gives free books to kids 5 and under every month to encourage literacy, because her own dad never had a chance to l...
Oct 26, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 35
David describes how when we hyper focus and launch ourselves into something, it can be hard to finish, because the hardest part is behind us. He heard then governor Gavin Newsom speak and he describe how there comes a point in running where you just have to keep kicking, you keep kicking your feet forward. For neurodivergent folx to recognize that we have to sit through the hard thing and just do it—it becomes important to honor just how painful and difficult that is. Self-soothing and grounding...
Oct 12, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Isabelle and David check in and Isabelle describes trying Pickleball, and the way that physical activity is wonderful but you don’t know you’re tired until it’s too late. David and Isabelle then try something new, in that they are revisiting their previous episode and what it brought up in each of them. David listened to the preview of the previous episode ( Ep032: When is hyperfocus your friend? ) and he felt like he talked too much and interrupted and did a poor job and felt like maybe they sh...
Sep 28, 2022•31 min•Season 1Ep. 33
What about a task that doesn’t have a sense of doing it well? You do it or you don’t do it, like earning money, or getting that job, or buying a house? The only thing that’s reinforced are tasks toward goal completion. What could I do today that would move me toward that goal? The only question: is it moving toward my goal? If so, it’s effective (or if not, not effective), rather than good or bad. For example, David venting about his paper to his friend helped him be on task, rather than not bei...
Sep 14, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 32
David takes us back to second grade and playing following the leader, where you do the same maneuver on the jungle gym that the ‘leader’ did. He always felt his leadership was undervalued. It was finally his shot to be the leader and he wasn’t going to waste it—he is up way high in the air and looks down and says “Follow the leader!” And he lands with both feet about 15 ft down onto the wooden beam he was aiming for. Everyone looks at me and goes “You win! We quit!” That’s a perfect example of r...
Aug 31, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 31
Isabelle & David welcome Isabelle’s husband, Bobby, and their friends, Christina, AJ, and Gabe, to continue to listen and learn from David’s tried and tested presentation on ADHD, which he normally gives to fellow clinicians (for the 1st-9th parts of this talk, please see episode 4, All About ADHD Part I; episode 6, All About ADHD Part II; episode 9, All About ADHD Part III; episode 12, All About ADHD Part IV; episode 15, All About ADHD Part V; episode 18, All About ADHD Part VI; episode 21,...
Aug 17, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 30
David asks: what about brushing your teeth and things that don’t have immediate gratification, necessarily, but you have to do them over and over again? How do you motivate yourself to do them? It’s preventative-you don’t see what you save, you don’t know what Past You did for Future You when you’ve brushed your teeth. David’s answer is to outsource a lot of decisions that he doesn’t want to make to ritual, and the world of pain is part of everything we have to do. He just does it because it’s t...
Aug 03, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 29
David begins by naming that dealing with a lot of a frustration is part and parcel of ADHD—and yet, we don’t want to make everything easy, some things are supposed to be hard. Essentially, there is a certain amount of frustration and discomfort that someone with ADHD has to be ready to experience. Isabelle is hit with that and explains that frustration tolerance is how much discomfort we can handle—when we’re waiting, someone’s running late, we’ve lost an item, pick a thing —and as much as it mi...
Jul 20, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 28
Isabelle & David welcome Isabelle’s husband, Bobby, and their friends, Christina, AJ, and Gabe, to continue to listen and learn from David’s tried and tested presentation on ADHD, which he normally gives to fellow clinicians (for the 1st-8th parts of this talk, please see episode 4, All About ADHD Part I; episode 6, All About ADHD Part II; episode 9, All About ADHD Part III; episode 12, All About ADHD Part IV; episode 15, All About ADHD Part V; episode 18, All About ADHD Part VI; episode 21,...
Jul 06, 2022•22 min•Season 1Ep. 27
Isabelle & David welcome guests to a live Q & A (previously recorded) and start by addressing the question: What is it about folx with ADHD and overexplaining? Isabelle really relates to this as she overexplains the question. David describes t he intersection between mastery and guilt. When you have a lot of mastery around the topic makes it hard to structure a response. You have so much to say, and as you start talking, you realize the holes in what you’re saying, so you go back and try...
Jun 22, 2022•33 min•Season 1Ep. 26
Isabelle & David welcome guests to a live Q & A (previously recorded) and describe the origins of the podcast, when the two were working together. David had given a presentation and had been gifted a microphone to record his presentation and turn it into an audio book. Isabelle had been welcomed by David to the tribe of folx with ADHD as she slowly realized her own ADHD diagnosis, and was hopeful she had it because it could remove so much shame, blame, guilt, and doubt and increase her u...
Jun 08, 2022•32 min•Season 1Ep. 25
Isabelle & David welcome Isabelle’s husband, Bobby, and their friends, Christina, AJ, and Gabe, to continue to listen and learn from David’s tried and tested presentation on ADHD, which he normally gives to fellow clinicians (for the 1st-6th parts of this talk, please see episode 4, All About ADHD Part I; episode 6, All About ADHD Part II; episode 9, All About ADHD Part III; episode 12, All About ADHD Part IV; episode 15, All About ADHD Part V; episode 18, All About ADHD Part VI; episode 21,...
May 25, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 24
David mentions that he is sitting on the floor, because he still hasn’t gotten a desk. Isabelle supports the floor sitting and prefers it herself for her sessions, or standing . The two agree on swivel chairs and some of the squeaky and smooth qualities of swinging or rocking, and Isabelle mentions that 5 S’s, or the hacks that are supposed to help lull an infant to sleep (5 S’s) —what is it about water that Isabelle finds so soothing on a sensory level? Isabelle’s theory is that it provides a d...
May 11, 2022•32 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Are folx with ADHD made to be night owls? Or early birds? Or does your early bird/night owl setting, which feels so engrained in your personality, actually have more to do with giving yourself distraction-less time? David and Isabelle explore myths, misperceptions, and truth bombs about the nature of sleep and ADHD, including tips on setting up your morning or evening (or all day) routines, dropping the shame, and embracing what you may be doing right in staying up late (or waking up early). ---...
Apr 27, 2022•31 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Isabelle & David welcome Isabelle’s husband, Bobby, and their friends, Christina, AJ, and Gabe, to continue to listen and learn from David’s tried and tested presentation on ADHD, which he normally gives to fellow clinicians (for the 1st-6th parts of this talk, please see episode 4, All About ADHD Part I; episode 6, All About ADHD Part II; episode 9, All About ADHD Part III; episode 12, All About ADHD Part IV; episode 15, All About ADHD Part V; episode 18, All About ADHD Part VI) . Gabe star...
Apr 13, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 21
Big Ol’ Disclaimer: We are not doctors or prescribers, but two therapists who have a lot of experience working with folx on/off, loving/hating, trying/not trying all types of medications and accommodations for ADHD. Please seek medical advice for all your medication questions! Continuation of disclaimers galore: we are not giving medical advice, just our opinions. The importance of having a therapist or someone who can help you monitor medications if you are on them. Isabelle describes what it’s...
Mar 30, 2022•32 min•Season 1Ep. 20
Big Ol’ Disclaimer: We are not doctors or prescribers, but two therapists who have a lot of experience working with folx on/off, loving/hating, trying/not trying all types of medications and accommodations for ADHD. Please seek medical advice for all your medication questions! Continuation of disclaimers galore: we are not giving medical advice, just our opinions. There are a lot of doctors in the world who know what medical terms actually mean and what they mean long term, we very much are awar...
Mar 16, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Isabelle & David welcome Isabelle’s husband, Bobby, and their friends, Christina, AJ, and Gabe, to continue to listen and learn from David’s tried and tested presentation on ADHD, which he normally gives to fellow clinicians (for the 1st-5th parts of this talk, please see episode 4, All About ADHD Part I; episode 6, All About ADHD Part II; episode 9, All About ADHD Part III; episode 12, All About ADHD Part IV; episode 15, All About ADHD Part V) . The audience checks in about the things they’...
Mar 02, 2022•31 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Joined by Isabelle’s husband, Bobby, who also has ADHD, Isabelle and David explore their origin stories in the first recording of Something Shiny ever (from over 3 and a half years ago). Isabelle describes how she first became more familiar with ADHD through working with David and working with clients who had the diagnosis, turning to David for help. She would then come home and tell Bobby the tips and kept telling him he had ADHD, not like it was some bad thing, but like it would only help him ...
Feb 16, 2022•27 min•Season 1Ep. 17
David describes his recent dream ADHD scenario: he was craving sweets (rare, for him) and went to 7-11 and got four different kinds of donuts, then had a bite of each one. He didn’t have to decide which one to get, he didn’t have to prioritize, he could just eat a bite of each one and then change his mind to cheese fries. Bobby describes similar dynamics, except with candy bars, and how he gets candy for Isabelle to justify what he did. Is it disordered eating or ADHD? Most of the time, Bobby do...
Feb 02, 2022•32 min•Season 1Ep. 16
