It’s the threesome episode! We talk about both the emotional and physical things you might want to consider before jumping into group sex… including boundaries, safer sex, and voyeurism. And for Shit People Say Jenna shares some insights from clients on the subtleties of her screening process. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebod...
Sep 08, 2022•49 min•Season 3Ep. 50
It’s the jealousy episode! Do we get jealous of each other? Of other providers? Does Mr Love get jealous about Jenna’s clients? We talk about jealousy in the world of non-monogamy, answer a question about naked spooning mechanics, and hear from someone who simply cannot NOT give their uninformed opinion on sex work. 1:11 Main Segment: Jealousy 36:05 Misconception: Polyamorous people don’t experience jealousy 45:07 Question of the week: How to spoon?? 50:30 Shit People Say “I simply cannot NOT gi...
Sep 01, 2022•1 hr•Season 3Ep. 49
As promised, here is the little bonus clip for this week. which is a short interview with an Asian migrant sex worker based in Queensland Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod...
Aug 29, 2022•10 min•Season 3Ep. 48
Jenna is joined this week by Janelle and Carly from Decrim QLD, a committee of sex workers who have joined with Respect Inc., to progress the removal of harmful and discriminatory sex work laws and achieve decriminalisation in Queensland. They talk about the current QLRC Review, what needs to change, and what we're afraid may not change. Decrim QLD website: https://respectqld.org.au/decriminalise-sex-work/ Decrim QLD Twitter: https://twitter.com/DecrimQLD Decrim QLD Instagram: https://www.instag...
Aug 24, 2022•47 min•Season 3Ep. 48
Too many messages, obsessions with chairs, filthy tongues & poopy bums: today Holly & Jenna are sharing some of the reasons they have had to “fire” their clients. TW: Non-consensual sexual activity, boundary pushing 6:14 Main segment: Clients behaving badly Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod Somebody You Love is ...
Aug 18, 2022•1 hr 12 min•Season 3Ep. 47
Prompted by a patron question, Holly & Jenna discuss where the line is between sex work and therapy, what’s appropriate to discuss with a sex worker, and how to broach the tough topics. The misconception this week is that oral sex is safe sex and for Shit People Say Jenna shares one of the more amusing (and lucrative?) interactions she’s had in a long time! The Satisfaction Project episode ‘Sex work or therapy?’: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6oKlBqIGEJ7tqadDzHCwk0?si=MLMm21ZrQJi_W2Hai...
Aug 11, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 3Ep. 46
Unfortunately the audio for this episode is not great, we’re sorry! Turned On is a series in which Holly & Jenna react to different representations of sex work in media. In this episode, they are reacting to ‘Louis and the Brothel’, Louis Theroux’s 2003 documentary where he visits a Nevada brothel. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.co...
Aug 04, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 3Ep. 45
Jenna is our special guest today! Holly interviews her about how she organises tours around the country. They talk about the misconception that sex workers can’t say no to particular clients and/or services. Holly shares a classic Shit People Say, and they discuss trends over time in sex work requests and services, like choking, golden showers, rimming, pegging, and cuddling! CHAPTERS 2:27 Main Segment: SYL is a touring escort 36:05 Misconception: That SWers can’t say no 41:38 Shit People Say: “...
Jul 28, 2022•54 min•Season 3Ep. 44
Kaytlin Bailey is a contrarian by nature and a provocateur by trade. She is an internationally touring stand-up comic, sex worker rights advocate and writer. In 2020 she founded Old Pros where she continues her stubborn crusade against whorephobia and today she is talking to Holly & Jenna about why the history of sex work matters, who her favourite old pros are, and some of the complexities of advocacy and exploitation. Old Pros: https://oldprosonline.org/ 3:11 Kaytlin’s origin story 10:11 M...
Jul 21, 2022•53 min•Season 3Ep. 43
Turned On is a new series in which Holly & Jenna react to different representations of sex work in media. For this first episode, they are reacting to Jubilee’s YouTube video ‘6 Sex Workers vs 1 Secret Virgin’ from their Odd One Out series. Watch the video first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eKVGUfbDP2g Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.fac...
Jul 14, 2022•48 min•Season 3Ep. 42
Welcome to season 3! To kick things off, Holly & Jenna are joined by Deaf full service sex worker and owner of Sydney's Sky Sirens, Katia Schwartz, her creative surrogate, Auslan qualified interpreter and sex worker Dahlia Day, and Auslan interpreter Amanda. This special episode is available in both audio and video formats, with the video including Auslan interpretation and captions, and the audio being accompanied by a transcript (see below). Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/Jv01cpNLz...
Jul 07, 2022•54 min•Season 3Ep. 41
This week we are again bringing you an episode of Georgie Wolf’s podcast The Satisfaction Project while Holly, Mr Love, and I enjoy a break between seasons 2 and 3 of Somebody You Love. The Satisfaction Project is your ultimate resource for enjoyable experiences with escorts and other independent, hands-on sex workers. The episode we are sharing with you today is called Everyday Activism with Holly Harte and yep, that’s our girl Holly chatting to Georgie about practical sex work activism - every...
May 12, 2022•50 min
While we are taking a much needed break between seasons, we wanted to share with you some episodes from our dear friend Georgie Wolf’s podcast, The Satisfaction Project. The Satisfaction Project is your ultimate resource for enjoyable experiences with escorts and other independent, hands-on sex workers. You may remember Georgie from episode 23 - Somebody You Love is a Satisfaction Expert. Georgie has given us permission to share the very first episode of her podcast, titled Mythbusting with Jenn...
Apr 28, 2022•41 min
It’s the season 2 finale! Join us while we ponder some big questions while trying not to get canceled… why do people cheat? And why do they do it with sex workers? Do we judge our clients who are cheating? Do we take responsibility for helping to facilitate it? 1:53 Question of the week: Why do married men seek out sex workers? 44:43 Misconception: Most of our clients are married men 51:28 Awesome Shit People Say: “Ladies of the night” Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyy...
Apr 14, 2022•57 min•Season 2Ep. 40
We put a shout-out on Patreon to ask if anyone who is a client of the sex industry would like to come on the show, and thus this episode was born! Maria and Steve join us to speak candidly about their reasons for visiting sex workers, how their first experiences went, and the impact it has had on their lives. 2:52: Maria 31:06: Steve Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod Somebody You Love...
Apr 07, 2022•59 min•Season 2Ep. 39
TW: Assault of a SWer The first episode of our Just The Tips series designed for sex workers! Jenna & Holly break down what they did wrong so you don’t make the same mistakes! Is being an independent escort right for you? What is involved in running your own escorting business? Where can you go for information? How do you pick your name? Do you need to get professional photos? Do you need a separate email? Phone number? Social media accounts? Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.co...
Mar 31, 2022•55 min•Season 2Ep. 38
Darian Rye is a male escort for women and couples, based in Canberra, Australia. He entered the adult industry in 2016, and since then has grown a successful business in keeping women company. We talk about what female clients are looking for, maintaining boundaries, and Darian hides in a closet. Literally. 1:27 Main Segment: Darian's origin story, what women want, misconceptions 31:56 Patron questions: Advice for first-timers, funny stories, dogs or cats? Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/som...
Mar 24, 2022•57 min•Season 2Ep. 37
TW: Sex trafficking, Eating disorders Today we are looking at an absurd document released earlier this year by AUSTRAC. For Shit People Say, Jenna and Holly both go on rants about supposed “compliments”, our Misconception is that sex work is easy, and the Question of the Week is a doozy (TW: ED for the Question) 1:49 Main Segment: AUSTRAC’s Guide to Detecting and Stopping Forced Sexual Servitude 29:05 Shit People Say: “Learn to take a compliment” 46:25 Misconception: Sex work is easy, a lazy opt...
Mar 17, 2022•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 36
Isabella Martin is a proud “fatgirl” and the creator of the the BBW Badgirl Podcast. She is a Mexican/Irish super-size BBW sexworker based out of Los Angeles, CA. Over the last 10+ years she has worked multiple facets of sexwork: in person as an escort and dominatrix, as well as, pre-pandemic virtual work including phone sex, cam girl and most recently content creating on platforms like Onlyfans. 1:26 Main Segment: Sex work as a supersize BBW 32:05 Patron questions: Guns, body positivity, how to...
Mar 10, 2022•59 min•Season 2Ep. 35
Happy International Sex Worker Rights Day! Why do many sex workers hide or blur their faces? Spoiler alert: It’s not because they are ugly. We’re talking today about all of the negative consequences faced by those of us who show our faces in our advertising. And Jenna shares an in-person Shit People Say experience. Main Segment: 2:40 Why the USA won’t let us in Shit People Say: 43:56 "No, you're a man" Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instag...
Mar 03, 2022•57 min•Season 2Ep. 34
It’s time to tell the rest of the embarrassing work stories our peers submitted anonymously - so might not be the best time to eat your lunch if you’re squeamish! In awesome news, Susan Sarandon posted about being pro-sex work. In bad news, that brought the SWERFs out to play. In okay news, that meant we had some content for Shit People Say this week. Main Segment: 1:39 Anonymous story time Shit People Say: 31:27 “If you can’t service your father it isn’t a job” Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http:...
Feb 24, 2022•48 min•Season 2Ep. 33
Today on the show we have a very special episode focusing on the most recent developments in the sex work decrim space. On Thursday 10th February, the Sex Work Decriminalisation Bill 2021 was passed in Victorian parliament and, while we have all been celebrating the extraordinary work of everyone who contributed to this historic milestone, it has been somewhat bittersweet. Dylan O’Hara, the Acting Manager of Vixen, Victoria's peer only sex work organisation, and Jules Kim, the CEO of Scarlet All...
Feb 17, 2022•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 32
We put a call out to the hooker brains trust and asked them to submit their most embarrassing work stories… anonymously. So this episode we’re pretty much just reading out tales of blood, poop, and vomit. Soz about that. Plus Holly gets a bingo score card of a Shit People Say enquiry. Main Segment: 8:35 Anonymous story time Shit People Say: 41:24 “twice a fortnight” Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http:...
Feb 10, 2022•54 min•Season 2Ep. 31
This week we are taking a break from our main episodes and instead giving you a clip from January's Boners Episode - which is available to all $10+ Patrons (and as a video for $20+ Patrons)! patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://ww...
Jan 31, 2022•21 min
We’re rubbing it in this week! Sharing all of the best parts of our jobs and why we absolutely love what we do. Plus we share some words from one of our Patrons about clients with disabilities. Main Segment: 1:30 The perks of sex work Question of the Week: 50:22 Clients with disabilities Touching Base: https://www.touchingbase.org/ Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Fa...
Jan 27, 2022•57 min•Season 2Ep. 30
We’re chatting about mishaps and accidents during (or immediately before) bookings! There are injuries involving blood and broken bones, and somehow we end up talking about poop again. So if those things make you squeamish, be warned! In Shit People Say Jenna realises she has been sassing someone who might not actually be a troll and the Question of the Week is about regular female clients. 2:47 Main Segment: Things get dangerous… and kinda gross. 40:11 Shit People Say: Banging buddies 43:30 Que...
Jan 20, 2022•52 min•Season 2Ep. 29
CW: discussions of racism We’re joined by Despo Debby, a Blak non-binary queer whore and member of performance & art collective Debby Doesn’t Do It For Free. They have worked in porn, stripping, peepshows, camming, and full service sex work in parlours, privately, and on the streets AND are also an accomplished performer, rapper, and artist. We talk about art as activism, what people get wrong about Indigenous sex workers, and the reality TV shows we feel the least amount of guilt watching. ...
Jan 13, 2022•54 min•Season 2Ep. 28
We’re talking pseudonyms this week. What the deal is with having a fake name, why clients are so obsessed with finding out our “real” name, what you should do if you discover someone’s private information, and some yuck experiences with people invading our privacy. Our misconception of the week is that everything sex workers say is a lie to make money, and our question of the week is about things we never thought we would enjoy but that we actually love! CHAPTERS 0:54 Main Segment: A rose by any...
Jan 06, 2022•54 min•Season 2Ep. 27
Would you be okay with YOUR daughter being a prostitute? People always want to know what our parents think of our work, because apparently that has an impact on the validity of it for some reason. Holly & Jenna share the highly personal stories of coming out to their families, how the people in their lives reacted, and what those relationships are like now. For Shit People Say Jenna tells the story of when she unexpectedly came out to her husband’s family. CHAPTERS 2:28 Main Segment: Yeah, o...
Dec 30, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 26
It’s time for the third and final (or is it?) edition of Just The Tips for clients. In part 1 we talked about things leading up to the booking, in part 2 we talked about the booking itself, and in this episode we talk about what happens after the booking and some other bits and pieces - last minute bookings, not hearing back, contact between bookings, time off the clock, business advice, and safety fears. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.ins...
Dec 23, 2021•52 min•Season 2Ep. 25
