How to Build Real Confidence

I'm telling you what there is something about moving my body , working out , firing up my mind , body and spirit all at the same time . I'm telling you that's when the best ideas flow . This episode was actually inspired by a comment that I saw inside my you Affiliate Only Facebook group . It actually was inspired by one word .

My company is currently doing the best in sign-up . Like I have never been this excited about an incentive in my entire life . It's called the LV Challenge . Lv stands for three things Live video , lv , las Vegas LV and you guessed it Louis Vuitton . The challenge is to do 20 you Lives over the next 36 days . That's it .

Go live 20 times in 36 days and you're entered to win . Get this , two affiliates are going to win a trip to Las Vegas with me to go have a shopping spree at Louis Vuitton . I'm so excited , I cannot wait . And what I love about this challenge is it's not based on who can sell the most .

It's based on effort , it's based on action , it's based on going live . So everybody's on an even playing field . By the way , this challenge is happening right now . So , if you're listening , you're like uh , I've been thinking about becoming a you Affiliate . I'm in , I want to try to win a trip to Las Vegas and a shopping spree with Jenny at Louis Vuitton .

Then go apply now , because there's still time . If you started today to start this challenge , to be included in the challenge . But time is running out . We are currently accepting new affiliates that have a minimum of 5,000 followers . So if that's you , go to bitly forward , slash you affiliate . I'm going to spell it out for you .

I'll also put it in the show notes . Okay , so the bit is bitly forward . Slash why you affiliate and you can apply to become an affiliate today . Back to the comment that inspired this entire episode . So we're doing this live video challenge and we have a daily check in who went live today . Let's keep each other accountable , right ?

And the comment that stuck out to me was this one I'm so nervous . I've been sick for two weeks . I have no voice to work with , but it's getting better . I hope to try to post a live later on today and if it's a short video , I will try to get started so I can be confident in doing my lives .

The single word in this comment that I just I can't , I cannot . I have a personally eliminated it from my vocabulary . Can you guess what it is ? Try ? Oh , I hate the word try . So here I am . I'm walking on the treadmill , that's right , I walk , I don't run . The only time I would run is if there was a bear chasing me .

So I'm on the treadmill , I'm walking , I'm starting to get fired up . I read this comment Girlfriend , bless her heart , said try twice . So I write up a post and I post this inside my affiliate only Facebook group and I'm going to read to you what I posted Eliminate the word try from your vocabulary .

In here we don't try to do something , we just do it . The word try is not allowed in this group anymore . Deal , do or do not . There is no try . Stop using weak language . It is not serving you . Stop telling yourself and others I will try . Remove try from that sentence and read it again . I will try .

Now becomes I will feel how powerful that is . Our words have power . Our words matter . How we talk to our self matters . Try is a lie , that's right . Try is a lie we tell ourselves in advance .

It makes us feel better if we don't do what we intended to do , because if you don't do what you said you were going to do , you can then say well , at least I tried . The word try is disempowering . Stop using it . Stop lying to yourself . Show up for your dang self . Do it . Do it scared if you must , but do the dang thing . Think about it .

When someone else tells us that they're going to do something and then they don't , how do you feel about that person ? Do you trust that person ? Will you trust that person the next time they tell you that they are going to do something ? No , when we say the word try or we don't do what we say we're going to do , guess what ? We lose trust with ourselves .

Trust is earned , not given . We earn our own trust when we do what we say we are going to do . The word try is a non-committal word . There's no commitment behind the word try . Instead , when you say I will do xyz , that is a completely different level of commitment . I will try equals no commitment . I will equals high commitment .

Do you want to feel more confident ? Like , raise your hand . If you want to feel more confident , listen to me now . Confidence is a result of doing what we say we are going to do . Did you know that the fastest way to build confidence in any area of your life is to do and keep the commitments that you make to yourself ?

If you say you're going to do something , do it . Stop using the word try . I freaking hate that word . It's garbage . Truth be told , when someone tells me that they will try , I already know their commitment level . I know that they are not committed and I actually tell myself they're not going to do it . Try is a lie .

I feel like when somebody tells me that they're going to try to do something , they're actually lying to me . Throw the word try in the garbage can where it belongs

. Let me give you an example . When I tell myself I will go live today , and then I actually go live , my confidence grows . I can trust . When I say I'm going to do something , I'm going to do it .

On the flip side , if I tell myself I will try to go live sometime today and then I don't go live , I actually lose trust with myself as a result of not doing what I said I was going to do , I lose confidence in myself . True confidence doesn't come from the car you drive , the bag you carry or the brands you wear . True confidence comes from within .

Confidence is an inner game . We build confidence when we do what we say we're going to do . The fastest way to become more confident is by keeping the promises that we make to ourselves . So here's today's assignment let's build our confidence muscles together . Keep the promises that you make to yourself and you're going to watch your confidence soar .

I promise you start today , start right now . Tell me one thing , and it can be anything at all , that you will do today and then , freaking do it . Come back inside this group and tell everyone I did it , done . I keep the promises I make to myself . I am a woman of my word . I do what I say I'm going to do , no matter what .

Practice doing one thing you say you're going to do every single day for a week and I promise you you will feel so much more confident about yourself and it feels so freaking good . Here's a couple of my favorite daily affirmations . Which one are you stealing and which is your fave , that I didn't list below . I keep the promises that I make to myself .

I am a woman of my word . I do what I say . I'm going to do , no matter what . I was born to do something great . Today I will show up for myself . Today I will make myself proud . Today is full of possibilities . Today is a new day to take inspired action . Today I will do one thing that scares me . I am getting comfortable with being uncomfortable .

Today , I will leap outside of my comfort zone . Do it scared . Do something today . Tomorrow you will thank you , for I am in charge of my own happiness . Today is a gift from God and I will not waste it . My authenticity is my superpower . My greatest strength comes from being my true , authentic self . Today , I will get out of my own way .

I will not care what other people think . I will not allow fear to hold me back from becoming the woman God designed me to become . I acknowledge I can't do everything today , but I can take one small step that will get me closer to living the life of my dreams . I am enough for God , therefore . I am enough . What I do today matters .

Today is the day for change , and change starts with me . Change starts the moment I decide I have the power to change my story . I am the co-creator of my life with God . With God , nothing is impossible . Every day , I'm making my dreams a reality . I am meant for more . I feel it and I know it . I am capable of accomplishing anything I put my mind to .

I do what I love and I love what I do . There you have it . That was my post . All from one three letter word , try . I challenge you to eliminate try from your vocabulary as well . I'm gonna give you the same challenge that I gave to my affiliates .

I challenge you to pick one thing today that you are going to do before you lay your head on your bed tonight to go to sleep . This thing will have gotten done . What's the one thing that you are going to do today , no matter what ? Then do it and let me know about it . Over on Instagram . You can tag me in your stories at Jenny underscore Peterson .

I would love to see what you are committing to do today and I would love to cheer you on as you do it . This is how we build confidence . All right , my beautiful friend , thank you so much for spending this time with me . Thank you so much for following the show , and if this episode resonated with you , please leave a five star review .

That really helps the show reach more people . Or if you know somebody that needs to hear this episode , maybe you know someone that needs to eliminate the word try from their vocabulary . You could send them this as well . Okay , thank you so much for spending this time with me . I love you and I will see you inside the next episode .