***Trigger warning*** This episode discusses adult content about sex and sexuality as well as discussion of childhood sexual trauma. Jennifer Matesa is the author of 'Sex in Recovery: A Meeting between the Covers.' Jennifer and I discuss the discoveries she made interviewing subjects for her book. Many people suffering from addiction have experienced childhood sexual trauma, we look at the impact of this on their recovery. We also discuss what the word virginity means, how not talking to teens c...
May 15, 2019•48 min•Ep. 51
On May 2nd Veronica celebrated 19 years of sobriety. In this solo episode, Veronica explores the 19 most important lessons she has learned in those 19 years. She teaches you a few rules that have transformed her life, mistakes to avoid and the lessons that have had the biggest effects. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-no...
May 01, 2019•48 min•Ep. 49
Why is asking for help so hard? How do you ask for help? In this episode, we explore this question, give you are insights in taking the first steps to reach out and discuss Russell Brand's book ' Mentors: How to Help and Be Helped ' where he explains how Chip helped him. We then consider how to get over the fear of asking for help, and it will ultimately change your life. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at ht...
Apr 24, 2019•49 min•Ep. 48
****Trigger warning**** We have long since known that trauma is at the root of all addiction. In today's episode, Veronica interviews Alina Frank and Craig Weiner leading experts in the field of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). We discuss why EFT is such a powerful tool to heal and resolve trauma. Alina and Craig explain the science behind EFT and why it heals the body and the mind from traumatic experiences. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megapho...
Apr 17, 2019•53 min•Ep. 47
J.F. Benoist is the author of 'Addicted to the Monkey Mind.' In this revolutionary new book, J.F. lays out how our negative self-talk and limiting beliefs shape our experience. We discuss precisely how our past shows up in our present and how to change this by using the Observing Mind. We also talk about the false sense of belonging that is created in our culture that blocks us from having a real and authentic connection. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Vi...
Apr 10, 2019•55 min•Ep. 46
In this episode, we look at cross addiction in its many forms. Including work addiction which we have both suffered from, smartphone addiction, gambling, and substance addiction. We look at what behaviors can be obsessive how addiction triggers a dopamine response and why we have to pay attention to these red flags in recovery. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privac...
Apr 03, 2019•49 min•Ep. 45
We get asked all the time what the secret to staying sober is. We wanted to share with you the most significant factors for not just staying sober but for having a fantastic life. 'Chip and Veronica's Five Secrets to Amazing Sobriety' is the stuff that we have learned makes all the difference. In this episode, we go over what those five things are and how they will transform your life. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privac...
Mar 27, 2019•49 min•Ep. 44
Lucy Rocca is the founder of Soberistas website in the UK. Eight years ago Lucy woke up from a terrifying blackout in hospital where she swore she was never going to drink again. Lucy discusses her relationship with alcohol, how she got sober and started the website Soberistas. We also discuss how she has stayed sober for eight years, the British relationship with alcohol and how to parent kids in sobriety. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.f...
Mar 20, 2019•48 min•Ep. 43
To be truly alive we must experience meaningful connection. And we can only have this connection if we are prepared to be vulnerable. We discuss how vulnerability is a strength and is the only path to everything we want. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info ....
Mar 13, 2019•46 min•Ep. 42
Kelly Ruta is a psychotherapist turned mindset expert for women who have the audacity to change the world. She has also recovered from a devastating eating disorder. Here she discusses the trauma and dysfunction that led to her attempts at suicide and rock bottom. Kelly lays out precisely what she did to recover, the mindset she needed to overcome anorexia and bulimia and how she transformed into the badass Mindset Coach she is today. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your a...
Feb 27, 2019•57 min•Ep. 40
Despite much success in her life Laura Willoughby MBE had reached a point when she realized her drinking was a problem. Rejecting traditional methods of getting sober, she forged her own path and created Club Soda, a UK based organization dedicated to changing our cultural relationship with alcohol. She challenges the media, hospitality industry and broader culture to see sobriety differently. As a member of the LGBTQ community, she also wanted to offer a service that was inclusive and addressed...
Feb 20, 2019•53 min•Ep. 39
All things love. We discuss the subject of love in all its forms. Chip talks frankly about his loveless childhood and how this affected his relationships. We look at how parents love children and how we learn to love in our families. We discuss love languages in all relationships and how much we need love but can often push it away. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California P...
Feb 13, 2019•47 min•Ep. 38
***Warning*** contains adult conversation points. Building on last weeks podcast, Chip and Veronica discuss the devastation of porn and sex addiction. How does it manifest itself, what are the consequences and how do you overcome it. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info ....
Feb 06, 2019•47 min•Ep. 37
***Warning*** contains adult conversations of an explicit nature (over 18's only). In this episode Chip and Veronica talk frankly about sex. They discuss sex in recovery but also the broader context of how our view of sex is shaped. We look at the fear and anxiety that we can have in sexual relationships and how porn affects our view of what a sexual relationship can be. Lastly, we also talk about developing healthy sexual relationships in sobriety. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn mo...
Jan 30, 2019•51 min•Ep. 36
Veronica welcomes special guest author Kristi Coulter to discuss her first book, Nothing Good Can Come From This, a memoir in essay form about her experiences with alcohol and sobriety. Topics include feminism, relationships and what it's like being a sober woman. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info ....
Jan 23, 2019•56 min•Ep. 35
When you stop drinking life happens. And living life means ups and downs. These experiences are opportunities to grow and change. Chip and Veronica discuss their ups and downs, what they learned and how it changed them. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info ....
Jan 16, 2019•48 min•Ep. 34
We discuss Dry January - is it a good thing, does it actually help? Or is it part of a process people have to go through to realize they have to change. We look at setting goals, the cycle of change and how we self-sabotage and can set ourselves up to fail. Chip also talks about tolerance and how crucial it is to understand how our tolerance for substances changes. We end the show discussing Intuitive Eating and how it can break the shame of dieting and abusing your body. To learn more, visit th...
Jan 09, 2019•49 min•Ep. 33
In our last show of 2018, we wanted to bring you meaningful insight into how we 'change our attitudes' when we stop drinking. However, despite being 'proper grown-ups' and qualified therapists, everything got very silly, and things just fell apart. We discuss change, ageing, being stuck in our ways while telling silly stories. Also featuring a special guest appearance by Veronica's landscaper ;) To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices ...
Dec 19, 2018•37 min•Ep. 32
We all have a 'role' in our families. In this episode, we look at family dynamics. For many of us, when we are drinking that role is 'black sheep' of the family. Other family members may be 'rescuer,' or, 'scapegoat.' Every family has some dysfunction and unhealthy dynamics. Being conscious of our 'role' and how this impacts others when we get sober will help us manage the change that will occur in our family dynamics. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...
Dec 12, 2018•42 min•Ep. 31
Lynn Matti is a psychotherapist the founder of Sobersoul recovery a platform dedicated to helping women recover. In this interview, Lynn shares her story of destructive drinking, infertility, divorce, and rebirth into the vibrant, healthy woman she is today. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info ....
Dec 05, 2018•54 min•Ep. 30
Veronica interviews fellow psychotherapist and coach Sherry Gaba. Sherry is an expert in relationships ad the Law of Attraction in recovery. Sherry tells her own extraordinary story of co-dependency and healing. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info ....
Nov 28, 2018•45 min•Ep. 29
The holiday season provides a unique opportunity to abuse alcohol in a way that is socially acceptable. 'Legitimate Christmas drinking' is where standard rules no longer apply and it can be hard in early recovery to even consider not drinking alcohol in December. This season not only provides lots of triggers to drink it can also trigger to feel loneliness and feelings of isolation. Plus there is having to spend time with family members who compromise our mental health. The marketing we are bomb...
Nov 21, 2018•49 min•Ep. 28
In this episode we answer questions about sugar and food cravings in recovery, detoxing safely from alcohol, overcoming regret about the past and abandonment issues. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info ....
Nov 14, 2018•48 min•Ep. 27
Being a parent can be one of the hardest jobs we do. We discuss the guilt and shame that comes with having children when you are still drinking and how you can begin to heal this. We also talk about raising children in recovery, how not to overcompensate and how to talk about alcohol and drugs. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/priv...
Nov 07, 2018•46 min•Ep. 26
Why do people find it so hard to stop drinking? What leads to a release. Veronica and Chip answer all these questions and give their opinion on what risky situations to avoid in early recovery. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info ....
Oct 31, 2018•49 min•Ep. 25
***Trigger warning*** In this podcast we discuss the loss of a child. In our first interview, we listen to Trishna Odedra's compelling story of staying sober through the loss of her 13-month son. We hear her incredible story of recovery, how she grieved and why she remained committed to her sobriety. Tragic and inspiring you won't want to miss this. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy...
Oct 24, 2018•46 min•Ep. 24
We noticed a lot of people ask this question in the Soberful Facebook group and decided to address it in the podcast. Because there is such an expectation to drink alcohol (and others are so used to you drinking) it can often feel difficult the first to say 'No thanks, I don't drink anymore.' Chip and Veronica walk you through how to deal with this. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy...
Oct 17, 2018•46 min•Ep. 23
Recorded the day after the Senate hearings on Brett Kavanaugh, we discuss the role of alcohol in sexual assault. We also discuss feminism and the role patriarchy has in preventing women from coming forward. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info ....
Oct 10, 2018•46 min•Ep. 22
We discuss how the alcohol industry has tricked us into believing alcohol is harmless and beneficial to us. And how they have convinced us that without alcohol we are missing out on something. We challenge the myths and assumptions that have lead to the normalization of abnormal drinking. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do...
Oct 03, 2018•48 min•Ep. 21
When we lose something that matters we grieve. We discuss the grief process as it applies to giving up alcohol and drugs as well as losing someone you love. To learn more, visit the show notes . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info ....
Sep 26, 2018•47 min•Ep. 20
