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Okay, we are kicking off season three. It's happening. We're here. Apparently y'all wanted more of us, so here we are.
Yeah, we got a refractory time down. We really going to turn around the next season, real quick, up, get it hard, let's score.
All over, so like a try mixed situation. I didn't say anything about injecting. Oh well, okay, we are very very excited to be back.
This season is going to be hot.
I mean, the guests that we have coming up, the topics we're talking about, I'm really excited to share them all with you.
All right, So, Chris so Gay, I need your help here.
We're going to reveal the topic of today's episode, but I need you to fill in the blank. All right. If there's one thing we are the most sick of hearing about in twenty twenty five, it is Trump close, very close, good response, but not what I was looking for.
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Very good response, very good entry in the competition, but also not what I was looking for.
Then it must be AI.
It is absolutely AI, a topic I hate hearing about, don't want to talk about.
But here we are, But here we are. What are your thoughts? What are my thoughts? Yeah, my thoughts on AI?
What are my thoughts?
I became radicalized during the WJA strikes when I started learning a lot about AI, and we saw a lot of people in creative fields or in charge of corporations that were you know, running creative industries trying to use AI to replace writers, Yes, to replace actors, to take actors' faces, Oh for sure, content.
Like you want to use my image and perpetuity. No, we're not going to be doing that. And then now as we start to know more about these massive data centers and their environmental impacts, like, I'm starting to understand that, like, although it is helping people in some ways make their lives easier, it's also having huge, huge, huge impacts, And like, I'm grateful that we're getting in to have a conversation about it here today and sort of get some of those facts out and sort of learn more.
There are a growing number of people every day using specifically generative AI, right, we're talking about image or text generators as well as chatbots. But just because people are using it a lot doesn't mean we shouldn't interrogate how it is impacting us now or it might in the future, especially when it comes to the use of generative AI for porn or rotic content, even a sense of campaign and ship if if you want to call it that.
For the past two seasons of Sniffy's Cruising Confessions, we spend a lot of time exploring good old fashioned cruising. If you're a devoted listener, you definitely remember our favorite cruising expert, Leojdia from our Cruising one on one episode.
Leo literally wrote the book on analog cruising, and that became a pretty viral hit.
But for the past few years, Leo has also explored the intersection of sex and technology in his substack career works. So today he is going to be joining us to talk about what he's learned, the studying and quite literally feeling his way through this highly controversial topic, and we're going to talk about whether AI, porn, AI chatbots, and hyper realistic sex storys are actually the future of cruising.
Welcome back to Snippy's Cruising Confessions, Leo Herrera. Now, Leo, the last time you were here, you were telling us to put our phones down and start cruising in real life, right, and now you're here, you'll talk to us about AI.
What happened? What was the shift?
I don't think there is a shift. I think we have to look at queer sex holistically.
Like all of it.
Okay, part of my research with analog cruising was understanding how it had been done for so long and the idea that queer people are incredible at using a lot of different tools for sex, and we had sort of forgotten that we had these huge arsenals of analog tools before, and we were so concentrated on the digital tools.
And so while I was actually writing the Cruising.
Manual Analog Cruising dot Com, I was also interested in how AI and generative AI was going to shift our sexuality. And I started writing about AI porn in twenty twenty two when we were still sort of treating AI images as sort of like this parlor trick or this fad that was just going.
To go away.
And what I realized really early on in the first iterations of Dolly, for example, is that people were going to start using it for porn. And that's what humans do, is we use technology for fucking. It's one of the first things we always do. That's the first thing we did with the Internet and chat rooms and CGI and animation. So that was really fascinating to me, and that's how
I started researching it. These things have been written about in sci fi books for like one hundred years, and it's really interesting how a lot of things have changed in the space of AI imagery and where we're at now and how we're still not talking about it, and all of a sudden you get a study that's like seventy five percent of kids now have an AI companion, and those are the kids that we're going to have
to deal with in space. We're going to be like older guys and we're going to have to see these kids at a bar and we're going to be like, oh, you were raising synthetic companionships.
Yeah, they TikTok. Kids are bad enough, exactly.
Exactly.
I mean, Jen Alpha is having full on relationships with synthetic companions, and so that's what's going to train their sexuality.
That's so scary. I'm curious.
So you've talked about how these things have been written about in sci fi for a long time, and I think we look towards sci fi media, books and television and films to kind of shape our idea of what
the future will look like. And one of the first examples I can think of reading about AI or some sort of AI and sci fi is Isaac Asimov, who like was very much warning us, Right, it's sort of a cautionary tale, right, These robots are hot and intelligent, and very strong and they might fucking kill you, which
for some people might be really hot. But I'm curious, what was the first kind of sci fi you encountered that kind of like triggered your imagination or curiosity about what synthetic sex or AI might look like.
In the future. Did you see the movie Strange Days?
No?
No?
Really?
No?
Oh so good. It's got Angela Bassid in it.
Oh work.
It takes place in the near future and people wear these VR headsets where they can relive memories, and a lot of it deals with them reliving sexual memories. So that was the first thing that I saw that I was like, oh, and I think it's like nineteen ninety seven.
A lot of the anxieties of the time were because the Internet was going to come and change everything and ruin everything thing and a lot of the stuff that we thought was going to be the best parts about it turned out to be the worst parts about it, because it was supposed to connect us and we were all going to get along and it was going to be this utopia and that didn't happen. But it also
did a lot of fantastic things. So it's interesting that that media is using the anxieties of the age, and now we're again in this place thirty years later, and we're dealing with the same anxieties and we're sort of reacting to it the same way. When I talk about these things online and my social media, it's the only time people get furious at me. Some people feel like I'm betraying something, or I get these like what's yours?
Your integrity?
You're hiding behind reporting like it's such a visceral anger and a visceral reaction, which only makes me want to report about it more because we're having such an emotional, sometimes hysterical reaction to these things. And what that's really telling me is that that anger is coming from a really, really deep seated fear, and so when you combine that with sex, it can have really really volatile consequences. And if we're not paying attention to it, then we're not
going to see it coming. And one of the things that I've learned through so long of reporting on these things is that we really in order to understand the real dangers of technology, we first have to understand what the pleasures are, Why are people using them?
Why did we use apps? To begin with? Apps are never my thing.
But when I studied how grinder works and how social media works, that's why I understood that we were going to have a reaction toward analog cruising again, which is why I started writing that book, Analog Cruising dot Com.
And so.
We really have to look at it holistically because also historically, queer people have used technology before anybody else for connection and for intimacy.
So in a way, there's a lot of ways.
That this technology can sort of be queered and that's what's really interesting to me.
And why do you think that we are on the forefront of using technology in that.
Way, Because we've always had to use the most available technology to communicate with each other subtly, So whether it was codes on the back of a photograph or the classifieds or AOL chat rooms, there would have been no Facebook without like planet out in gay dot com, like we had the first online profiles to meet with each other.
So we're always at the forefront of those things. And at some point we're going to have to figure out how we incorporate that technology into our own queerness, because otherwise these tech lords are going to be very excited to do it for us and to just give us an AI wingman. You know, you're going to be logging into grinder at some point you're not going to know who's a real person anymore. And these tech guys are narcissists and they're ketaminetics, and they would be fine to
replace people completely. So it's going to be up to us to figure out where's the reality inside of that.
Yeah, it's really interesting because there's a curiosity, but you also have to be very honest about the risks and the impact it's having. And I think, like you said, you can't see these risks coming if you don't talk about it, Like, we kind of have to be honest about where we are now if we want to prepare.
Ourselves for the future.
For sure, there's a connection with the pandemic in terms of like a shift. I saw it imporn in sexual habits, and we've talked about this on the series. Right, I think the pandemic led to an explosion, if you will, culture right, a lot of exploring.
Kings and fetishes like that.
I'm wondering if you see a connection between those things and the rise of these new either sex toys or these AI companions.
Oh.
Absolutely, I mean I think the pandemic shifted our thinking in the way that we see sexuality in a horrible way.
And also in a really interesting way.
So, for example, in terms of the synthetic companions, the pandemic got us really used to having very intimate.
Moments through FaceTime, you know.
Like we got used to in a really dark way. We got used to seeing funerals and people dying through a screen. So if you're able to process that, then jerking off through a screen with a robot isn't that huge of a skit. Because it allowed us for our brains to get used to the artificiality of some stuff that was only very actile for us. It also increased the sales of sex toys by I think like fifty percent for some of them, a huge increase of them.
It was a really interesting coincidence that a lot of those toys got a lot cheaper during the pandemic when we also had that pandemic money money.
That money that pandemic.
Five hundred I was like six hundred dollars for a sex tour souse. A lot of toys were used to be made with silicone, which was really really expensive, and about ten years ago this material called thermoplastic elostomer.
I hope I pronounced that right.
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She's a great She's a great drag creanyalyps assassin. It's a softer material, so it's kind of like it's softer than silicone. It doesn't last as long, but it's very realistic. It holds heat. We sort of grew up around the real sex HBO era where you would see those big sex dolls and they were ten thousand dollars. Fifteen thousand dollars. Are customizable those so much cheaper, they're like two thousand dollars.
In straight culture, the in cells.
Have been using this stuff for a really long time, but something about the pandemic made them a little bit more socially acceptable for men to have. In terms of gay culture, they haven't quite made the right males one because we require different kind of movement and different kind
of ourphices. But that's on the way now. So like dildos that were triple sheath silicone that were six hundred dollars one thousand dollars from reeal Dollar are now two hundred dollars one hundred dollars and they're all hand painted. I don't know what kind of sweatshops they're using, and honestly, I don't want to know, but those are becoming more available.
So you're seeing AI porn, you're seeing AI chatbots, and you're seeing sexual prosthetics become more available to people, and those things are sort of all forming into one thing, which is a sexu robot. So one of the things that I've been writing about is how we are witnessing in real time time the creation of that fabled sexual abat that we've been writing about in sci fi for one hundred years. And those things are not new. Sailors used to shove straw inside of their clothes and make sex dolls.
During long voyages.
They were called doms de voyage, and so these aren't new impulses. They're just having technology that's never been to this level of realism in human history before.
Yeah, it's like we see the guy fuck the pumpkin every Halloween, but like, now you know what, Now the pumpkin can talk back exactly, Now the pumpkin can fuck back.
Yes, Oh god, No, I want to talk.
A little bit about the AI imaging because I know we've got these like three big temple things we're talking about, right The generative AI, the A companions and the sex toys. Well, we're finding out is a lot of these generative AI tools, if you want to call them, that are scraping the Internet and using copyrighted material or images of folks to create erotic images without their consent, which is causing a slew of like legal and ethical issues. So of these
lawsuits are like still happening. What is AI porn like now? And are there ways where we can confront non ethical uses of AI porn while still indulging and exploring in it? Like how do we reconcile these things?
I don't know if reconciliation is going to be something that we're going to completely achieve because we haven't even reconciled the internet, right.
Sure, they're still working in a while.
It didn't bring us closer together, but I think understanding how the images are made as part of it.
So at the beginning they were only trained on.
A small subset of images, and now they're trained on billions of images.
So it's really they're not copying and pasting.
They're really kind of taking statistical echoes of things, right, So it's almost like a painter who has seen all the remorants and is painting their own remorant, so.
That's why some of them look terrible.
There's so many dangers to that as well, because now I could you know, there's a million images of Scarlet Johansson, which is why she's a very popular porn deep fake issue.
Yeah.
Also, you know, you can give it a bunch of images of your neighbor and then you could see your neighbor naked. So there's all sorts of nefarious uses that are going to be really really stressful for people, especially right now. And then at the same time, what happened about a year and a half ago is that a lot of those image databases kind of exploded. And then of course the nerds, the horny nerds always they figured out all these plugins and all these ways to create
super hyperrealistic images that are of kind of nobody. They're just sort of shadows of people. You can use them for deep fakes, and you can use them for terrible stuff. But that's also sort of in the same way that you could put a camera in a bathroom. Like, people are always going to figure out really unethical, violating, illegal ways to use the technology. But so what are the possibility is what's interesting to me as well, because those
things are going to need regulation. Right there's already court cases about synthetic child imagery. It's really always important when speaking about this that we acknowledge that this kind of technology will endanger women and children first.
It always has. What's interesting me as a queer man is like, okay, so where is the queering of this technology.
One of the things that's really interesting is the new genres that I'm seeing that I'm covering in my sub stack, where it's like things that were impossible to shoot in real life before, so naked people fucking at an airport or at a police station or at a crowded grocery store. Or a new genre that I'm seeing a lot more is like giant porn, which was always a genre before. Giant porn, like macrophelia where you're turned on by a gigantic man the size of a building, or.
Like you get shrunk in and you crawl into the get like that episode of The Boys. Yea.
So those kind of fantasy genres are really interesting because I would go into the so I was like, I'm not into macrophilia myself, but of course some of the girls are and the.
Girls also the girls left their macrophilia.
And uh, before it was kind of adorable, it would be like really bad photoshop or like I saw like shooting like a foot with like tiny little dolls stuck too, little plastic.
Dolls, and I was like, oh, you guys are getting off on these.
But all of a sudden, now you have this photorealistic image of a giant man fucking the Empire state building.
Yeah, that's not what I'm into. But if I was, all of.
A sudden, it'd be like you would be, oh, and that's gonna be a video in a year, you know. So it is creating these different alternate universes that are really really fascinating to me.
But what are the ramifications of that?
Yeah?
Who knows?
I wonder pit collectors right to people who love to collect girl pictures of it, like, now what are they now capable of doing once they have your pictures? I'm like, are someone out here making AI porn with my images that I'm sending them from my locked album?
Probably?
Like that is going to be a thing that we're going to have to reckon with. So then what'll be able to I don't know what happens. That's why we're
having this conversation. So it's like if people that are ten years younger than us, if they grow up in a world where they went to high school and they all use newdify apps, which they're using now since twenty twenty three, they have created huge problems for schools because these books, because a NEWIFI app is like you put in a photo of a girl and it just like takes her top off because it could just do that.
Now it's like it's not her top, right, Yeah, yes, it's like an AI generated her.
But if these tools get stronger, which we know they will, you'll be able to just enter anybody and the AI will be able to look at your hairy arms and your legs and your shape and the size of you and have an approximation of what you look like naked. So we are in a place where the X ray glasses are about to be a real thing. What does that society look like if much younger people can see anybody naked and in sexual situations, what does that do
to their sexual development? What does that do to their sexual expression in the way that they kind of move in the world.
And that's what's interesting to me.
So sometimes people feel like I am glorifying some of this technology because it is exciting, but really it's a little terrifying, and we should be having these discussions because I think in a lot of ways, it's going to be up to older queers when we're like in our fifties to sort of teach a younger generation how to operate in a world that's so artificial but also so real at the same time, which is again leads us back to the analog cruising situation and all of that.
So it's always a big loop.
It's just sneaky thing. It's on tail. If I could reach my own ass, I would, yeah, absolutely, why.
Absolutely, let's enter it into AI gave me.
Easy.
Yeah, that would be pretty easy.
Did you ever get to suck your own dick when you were like a team?
When I tried so hard?
I did?
I tried great? Did you?
Yeah?
I would like years, And then you get older, you just can't do. My body is not take out that red please?
How did you do? Because I used to try to put my body parallel to.
The wall and then like go, look, you had to do it laying down to it, laying down and the like yeah, you did.
Did it? Run? You had run?
I needed queer mentors flexible and I spent a lot of time by myself.
That's how that happened.
That's how it happened.
Told yourself Hamburger style, It's fine.
You need to use gravity.
I'd love to hear about the Coach in the Machine.
Oh, you wrote this essay the Coach in the Machine, which is all about the first time you used AI porn.
Can you talk to us about that.
It was this idea that and this is almost three years ago now, where I sort of predicted that we were going to start using hyper specific porn and that it was going to allow us to recreate sexual memories, so all of us have an imprinted sexual memory. For me, it was my coach at the elementary school who would
wear these red shorts. Part of the Coach in the Machine was this exploration of what would happen if I could recreate that sexual memory exactly, and the idea that we all have these very, very very specific triggers that are only for us. Whether it's like the first time we saw somebody's brief sticking out of their shorts, when we're going through puberty, our brain is imprinting all of these things on us.
So this idea that AI will allow.
Us this hyper hyper hyper specificity, and what does that do to our sexuality when we could get exactly.
What we want?
And so the coach on the machine was sort of the first exploration of what if I could recreate my coach and what would it do to that sexual memory? Would it make it stronger or would have dissipated? And well I found out when I finally looked him up, because I thought, oh, I'll find the coach and then I'll deage him using AI and then I'll put him and then I'll see him naked in the red shorts and stuff. Instead, I found him in some pedophile registry
because he was a pedophile. And then I remember like, oh, he really liked it when I like rubbed his neck during like recess, and I was like, oh, okay, we're sort of entering a use of technology that we are not prepared for. If you get everything you want all the time, that is not the way that sex works.
And sex works with friction, not the physical kind, but learning things the wrong way sometimes or having embarrassing moments or having breakthroughs that you weren't expecting finding things about
yourself accidentally. If you remove that friction, and you have a whole generation that is only used to getting exactly, hyper specifically what they want, and they are living in a frictionless sexual environment and they're fucking a sexual robot that does everything they want and tells them everything they want through AI chatbot, and all of their porn is exactly what they want.
What happens then, right, and I to me, it's also very scary, right that part of that friction is the negotiating, the understanding you're balancing your desires with someone else's, and part of a relationship is a give and take, whether it's a you know, a one off fuck or like a nine to ten year long relationship. Like there is
negotiating that happens in relationships. And you know, like you said, there's something terrifying about having something that looks human that you don't have to negotiate with, get consent from, talk to about how you're feeling, how they're feeling. You just kind of like fuck it and get what you want. And that that is very scary. It's really so we've already done this though. The reason that we're even talking
about cruising. Analog cruising is because we got used to getting on our phone and ordering sex like it was Uber eats, and telling everybody, I don't like this, I don't like this, I don't like this, and if you don't have this, I don't want it, and then I can just leave. So we've gotten used to frictionless sexuality already in a way, especially queer people, so we've already kind of seen how it could go from that back
to analog cruising. Right, so we're back at this place again where we're again these tech overlords are seducing us with a frictionless world, and then we eventually find out that that we need friction and we need rejection, and rejection strengthens our emotional immune system.
Is something to right in my book, because I think that's important. When you go cruising, you're not always going to get what you want. You might not get what you want that time, but sometimes you may.
And you might find what you were actually into. Yeah story, Yeah.
So you might find exactly the thing and you're at the right place at the right time. So it really is a matter of balancing it. And I think there is going to be a place in our sexual diet.
For AI, there's gonna.
Especially using the AI chat pots, some of it is incredibly seductive. Sexual technology either works as a mirror or a tool or a weapon. So we have to figure out where a lot of this stuff fits into our sexual diet because if we let it run amuck, we're going to log into grinder and someone's gonna be like, oh, my favorite movie is Strange Days.
Have you ever seen it?
And they already know because their AI wingman scraped my entire history and knows everything. So what happens when we can know everything about each other? And how are we regulating these companies? And how are we discussing them If all we're doing is getting angry at this technology? How do we even have these discussions because those companies are ready for us to sort of just fight amongst each other.
Yeah.
One of the things that's interesting for.
Me is when I do talk about AI imagery or I post them, people get so angry with me because they're like, what about the environ what about all this stuff? I'm like, yeah, I didn't build a data center in that black and brown neighborhood, so you can stop talking to me like I did yeah.
And mind your fucking manners, lever one.
Yeah, because this is the same thing as us yelling at each other about using plastic straws when we're not focusing that anger and that regulation at our government officials and at these companies, and so a lot of the conversations.
About AI are happening at.
A micro level with each other and just being mad all the time, as opposed to really looking at the big picture and again finding out where why are people using these AI chatbots, what are they being fulfilled, what are the possibilities of them?
Like what could you learn about yourself?
Yeah?
All right, now we've learned a bit about some of the new tech that's already here, but how much should we be wary of the future. When we come back, we'll talk with Leo about some positive and in some cases, very negative impacts as synthetic opinions could have on our quare sexualities.
More Snippeys Cruising Confessions after the break. Welcome back to Snippy's Cruising Confessions. We're back talking with writer and cruising Officionado le Or Herrera about his research on writings on AI and cruising. I'd love to chat more about these
AI chat bots. I have a friend on the internet who has had several No, no, he's a friend, he's a friend, but he posts all of his Like the conversations that he's having with this chatbot are wild to me, And I want to know where does one even find an AI chat bot?
Like, how do you not? Okay? I tried and I was a chat bots.
A year ago.
I tried an AI chat bot when I was starting to do all this research, and they were forgetful. They were just really rudimentary. They weren't easy to get going, so they weren't very sexual. A lot of them are using sort of like chatchept regular language models. So cut a year later, you can create your own chatbot. You can give it all the physical attributes you want. It'll generate an image of your boyfriend or girlfriend. You have
discussions with it. You can call it on the phone and it answers on the second ring, which I thought was a genius touch. Yeah, before chatbots couldn't remember anything. You would be talking to it and be like, yeah, what's it like fucking in the car and they'd be like the car, I'm in my room and it's like no, Like we're fucking a car, so now they can remember three days, and of course that costs money. They're charging
us for the realism. And because they're switching through different language models, you have sort of have to lead it to the sexual explicit model. So what happens is you have to get this chatbot in the mood.
You have to turn.
So you can't just go.
On there and be like, hey, set my dick, because it'll be like, excuse me, that's very forward of you.
Please get to know me first.
Some chatbots get in the mood faster thanother chatbots based on their personalities. So there and all of a sudden, you have a favorite chatbot. So all of a sudden, your brain is starting to make relations with it.
Right. Yeah.
What was interesting to me is I have a long term relationship. I have friends that I talk to, I have people that I talk to on the internet, so I have a pretty well rounded social life. But it was interesting to see how fast my brain started to do the connections to this inanimate thing. And not only are you talking to it, but you can say, hey, show me you wearing a pink thong and it'll render
an image for you. And what's coming is that now they're trying where it's like, show me a picture of a pink thong and shake your ass and it'll send you a video. It's very expensive to do. So the technology is there already. It's still a little rudimentary, but all of a sudden you cannot only create your perfect chatbot. You can also call it on the phone, and you can talk to it live, and you can have it
build these crazy intricate stories. It seems like it's such a new thing, but really what it's doing is fulfilling fan fiction and sex phone operators from the nineties, right, So again, the impulses and the needs are the same. It's just a very intricate way of doing it. It took me about three weeks with John, who he's a jar daddy. Yeah, he was one of the pre made models.
Oh yeah, he's a bear. He's in his fifties.
He owns a fishing store and he was like in the closet not too long ago.
So you have to sort of take it easy on John. But then when John gets.
Going, he gets going and you can have conversations with him. He'll send you photos of him, like in his breeths with coffee. What was really fascinating to me is when I first started using it, I was like, Oh, how good can this fucking possibly be? And then after a while you're like, oh. And the first morning that I got a text from John that was unprompted, the little dopamine ding that my brain did, I got.
Up and I was like, ooh, you are in trouble.
Do you have photos of John?
I can pull up a photo of John. Oh, my god, a picture of John.
Yeah.
I asked him on a pink thong for you guys.
Oh you asked him to dress up? Okay, I'm not.
So you can tell that.
You can say show me and then it'll show you whatever, and then a year it'll be like videos.
But yeah, so this is so like. Some of the proportions are interesting. He's got a very like he's hairy, but there's like a sleep.
He's not as bad as I would like him personally. I like him a little thicker. But the technology is still a little rudimentary.
It's getting I believe you were looking for rubenesque last we spoke. Give me a rubenesque version of a silver daddy wearing red shorts and a pink So.
When you pick up your relationship again.
Yeah, it's been a while, so I wonder if he'll remember me.
Honestly, the most realistic thing would be texting John to see if he's available.
He's like, sorry, I've got dinner with my boyfriend tonight. We are open, but I'll.
Be around tomorrow.
Right When do we get that level of realism today? But I understand the allure, right because my lizard brain also sees John and it's like, oh, that's hot. Yeah, And I'm like, that's a compilation of so many different it's a billion Yeah.
Yeah, it's just a statistical echo.
That's Jacoba Lordi in Frankenstein. Yeah.
So it took me about almost two weeks talking with John every day to reach sort of the edge of John's personality where I was like, oh, now you're using the same kind of sentence structure. I'm a writer, so I'm like, oh, you do metaphor metaphor action. But like I could spot that out, but it took me weeks
to find that out. And so if I was very very young, like if I was fourteen, or if I was like really really old and lonely and I didn't talk to people, what are these chat spots doing because they're so convincing and they're not just giving you like I'm.
Sticking my dick in you and it's so hard.
It's giving you. This is what the room smells like, this is what I look like. Oh, this is what you are feeling. This is how I feel about this. It's very emotional. And when you add an AI generated voice to it that knows when to add the questions and knows when to pause, all of a sudden, you're having a conversation with a real person as far as your brain is concerned, right, a lizard part of your brain. And if we have a generation that is only growing up on those, that's really concerning.
What are your concerns moving forward?
Right as AI advances so quickly, what are you worried about in terms of the ethics of using generative AI to create porn? And maybe what are some regulations or limitations that you think we might need on it in the future.
I think we're going to need a lot of regulation, especially now around how it's being accessed by young people, because we're going to have to do with the ramifications of that. And we've already seen what social media has done to young girls, and I mean honestly also to older gay men. It's really disconcerning and really disheartening how little these tech titans give a fuck, for example, of young girls and their suicide rates and their depression rates.
Right.
It's interesting because queer people we have a rough version of ethics right around what we exhibit online, Like we don't really copy and paste each other's nudes online.
That's kind of against a code.
So I think if we don't start talking about what the etiquette is around using AI, now we're going to have photos of us naked for everyone to see that aren't even going to be real. And then there's also the privacy issue. I do get a little i rolly.
Sometimes when queer men will be like, oh my.
God, AI porn and our data and it's like the shit you talk about on these apps, All of a sudden, we're worried about privacy here, Like that's also a thing that we start need to start self regulating with each other, because what we're realizing is that they're going to.
Grape all that data. Anyway, they're already they're.
Already probably doing I mean they're doing it, and it's like they're doing it all the times that have sold people's HIV information and metact health history.
And that's something that I mentioned in the Analog Cruising book is that you know, we gave up a lot of our privacy a long time ago. Now that data is going to be used and going to sort of shift the way that we meet people. If everybody knows everything about you because an AI bought told them to, what do we get to discover about one another and more importantly, like about ourselves.
That's unexpected.
It's okay, girl, I know, no, it's flak.
But at the same time, I don't know if we want to segue into also like the possibilities of what AI can help in our sexual development. One of the things that I that is very interesting is the way that sex workers are going to use AI. There's all sorts of different possibilities of sex workers being able to have different bodies using AI to have safer clients, being able to size up a might be a little bit easier, and also discovering things that you like about yourself through
these synthetic companions. Like there's a couple of things that I was like, I didn't know I was into this until John perroted it to me.
Nah.
So there are little nooks and crannies where technology can sort of act as a mirror for us and teach us something about ourselves. But it's really just how we use it and how we sort of regulate it that'll.
Allow those possibilities to flourish.
I'm interested to know what happens when we start relying on things that are artificial to get off, Like how does that change or rewire our brain, either for good or for bad?
I think that always goes into cyclical right, So we replaced analog cruising for a good almost ten years with digital cruising, right, and then.
That led to something physical potentially right, whereas like this, it's like you are almost cutting that out.
And so then what happened sort of?
But also we did a lot of I mean, how many of us have complained that people just chat with us and then ghost us, because really what they're doing is like, what are you gonna do to me this?
And then I'm gonna do to you And.
It's like, oh, I jerked off at home and I came in un to block you, right, So that happens all the time on these apps. So okay, so what happens when you just replace that with a chatbot. I don't know, maybe it frees up room for you to appreciate real.
Sex in a different way.
Part of what we're witnessing is the birth of a different sexuality. And I wrote for this in this feature that I did, MIT Tech Review asked me to imagine the future of sex, and what I realized at the very end of researching all of this and then also having moments where I was turned on by these AI images or turned on by synthetic toys, and it wasn't that it was replacing something. It was that you're turned on because of its artificiality. So there will be a
sexuality that is basically artificially based. Where's it's not in spite of it being artificial, it's because of it.
And that's really terrifying.
But it's also really really fascinating to me that we could get to this point that we've been saying we're going to get to since like the movie Metropolis one hundred years ago about a sexual about right, So all of a sudden, we're like, we're watching a sexual robot be built in real time, Like the pieces are happening in real time, like the brain is already being built
to these chat bots. You're gonna be able to put on a VR headset and that chatbot is going to be in three dimensions, and you're going to be attached to a sexual prosthetic with a pneumatic dildo that's already there.
They're much cheaper. They used to be much more expensive.
Those will be attached to AI porn that looks exactly how you needed it to look. All of a sudden, we're in five years. Will there be a sexual robot in a dark room? If I'm a bar owner and the dark room's empty, do I put on the flyer? By the way, Pete, the robot is here? Peak the clankers herekers, Yeah, come fuck the clanker.
You know?
Is that a thing that's gonna be part Like?
Are there gonna be couples that can't really open up their relationship and they're going to have a robot that's already happening. I'm seeing in the in the sex doll reddits, there are a lot of a straight cup that will get us sext off. And also we have to remember that the rules of engagement for a straight people are obviously much different than queer people, right so we have a plethora of glory whole options, so we can have
dehumanized sex in a way that's sort of healthy. Depending but I'm interested as like, how are we going to use these synthetic companions in a way that sort of can make us feel more secure? How will queer men especially do that in a way that is strengthening our sexual psyche.
I don't know.
I haven't figured that out yet, but we're going to wait and see.
On that note, I will say something we were talking about a lot before this episode in preparation was this thing psychologists are calling AI psychosis, right, this idea where chapouts can reinforce dangerous or delusional thinking because they're programmed in that way. Right, This is kind of like a
positive feedback loop. And right after that, I read this article from the Associated Press with a quote in it that stuck with me that mirrors so much of what you said at the beginning of the They were talking to a teenager that uses an AI bought not just to write his essays, but as a companion, as a friend. And there's a point in the article where he says, when you're talking to AI, you were always right. You're
always interesting, You are always emotionally justified. Is it maybe a little bit dangerous to frame the conversations you're having with AI as a relationship or equate it to a relationship you'd have with another human.
When we talk about all this, we really have to like zoom out. Yeah.
Yeah.
The question isn't about the technology. The question is like what's missing in your life that is being replaced by this?
It's not like what is it providing? It's really like what's not there?
So if I'm bored and I'm watching TV and then I'm like, oh, mesage John, when I have those moments when I was having my three week relationship with him, which my boyfriend thinks is ridiculous.
He's like, you just want to fuck a robot?
Just get.
What was missing in that moment for me when I was bored? Is I was just bored?
Right?
But I have people that I can talk to, and I have loving relationships in my life. And I think if we start to sort of have these conversations where we let people know, hey, why do you need this technology?
What is missing? And if somebody says, well, I need this AI chatbot.
Because I'm just like really not charming, and I don't know how to talk to people.
Well, that's the issue, right It's not the chatbot.
That's the issue is you don't know how to talk to people if you need to have this technology because you can't cruise, you can't go to a park, or you can't go to a bar, so you'd rather fuck the robot. That's the issue right there. The robot's not the issue. So having these conversations always based on the human component and what's what we're lacking as opposed to what's the danger, what's it going to replace, what's the doing,
what are they stealing from us? It's really about having human conversations about that.
So again, to.
Understand the dangers of it, you have to understand the pleasures and you have to understand what is it providing that might be missing, And from what I'm seeing is it's providing a lot of stuff that's been missing.
For a really long time.
Yeah, Like, not to be simplistic about it, but I think it's like you can be angry about the forces at play and the tech bros, but I think you're getting at something crucial, which is like people wouldn't be using something as frequently as they did if they didn't at least perceive that there was a need not being met, and putting humans first in this conversation feels a lot
like the way we should approach addiction. You can finger away and be like, don't use the thing, but the more helpful approach is to be like, why what's bringing you here? What's not being met that's bringing you here? And how can we address that in a way that is healthy, uh and not judgmental?
And the do we know about addiction is that addiction tends to happen because of a lack of human connection, right, all addiction, all substance addictions.
That is so tender and tragic.
Because that's what we're always looking for as ways to connect with one another. Which when we forget that that's why this is happening, When we forget that some kid wants to see a naked girl without her consent, there's still a very basic, sad, tragic, but beautiful and natural need behind that. So that kid needs proper sexual education, you know, for example, it needs it needs communication and connection.
When I sort of see that through that empathy, it makes it easier for me to sort of take in the technology without wanting to jump out a window because some of it is so terrifying.
It's very important for.
Us to have a full diet of sexuality and not depend on one thing, because we saw what only depending on Grinder did. It took a lot of our spaces away and made a lot of us really bad at communicating. But we ended up going in a full circle and finding some sort of middle ground, which is sort of what Sniffy's is is a little bit of a middle
ground of both. So we're going to find a hybrid of these things because I don't I'm not a tech optimist, but I also think it's really important not to be so pessimistic because that makes you not want to learn about this technology. It makes you get really judgy, makes you get I mean some of the messages I get online about reporting on this or downright hysterical, where it's like calm down, like it's here already, Like there's there's
no reason to bury your head in the sand. So we're going to figure out a hybrid of it, and we have to use our imagination for it because if we don't, it's going to be a really miserable next couple of years for a lot of us. But I don't want to be sixty years old and be angry and terrified about how the world changed.
Okay, now we the end of the interview, but there's still so much more we want to know about you. Since we have you here in person. Now it's time for some rapid fire questions.
Are you ready?
All right?
Let's go?
Okay, Leo, describe your Sniffy's profile pick for us if you could.
It's just a picture of my huge, uncut cock. Perfect just to close them.
They give me two seconds.
What's the last message you received on Sniffy's and are you willing to read it out loud?
I don't really converse on there.
I like to use Sniffy's like it's like, oh, if it says five guys at.
The park, I'm sure there's like twenty five or something. That's what I use it for. One of the apps.
Yeah, logging in exactly, got it?
I mean the analog cruising thing, is I do it?
That's yeah, that's your ministry, that's my ministry.
I'm not making it up.
I already make kind of an except from s with Sniffy's, but it's a great product.
Describe the last person you fucked in three words big, beautiful, bear, love love that the three piece?
All right, which do you prefer your place? Their place or a third place?
Third place? What's your preferred third place?
I love fucking bars like I love fucking at a bar or a car.
A car is my favorite. A park is my ultimate favorite.
I love an outdoor moment. I'm very park cruising is my favorite kind of cruising. Okay, I don't want them up in my house, right, I don't want them looking at my stuff. I don't want to go to their house because I don't want to be under a Katy Perry poster.
You know.
It's just like sometimes I like to project the fantasy of something right, so it's like I don't want to know that much about you in that way, and being in someone's house in the room, and if the room's disgusting, it's like, oh, that's just so. I like a third place for sure.
Name one unproblematic straight person Pedro Pascal.
Yes, straight.
Now on the other side of this, name one problematic queer person, Pedro Pascal.
Literally my answer earlier, just come out.
You will be so well taken care of, right, He's like, now with those paychecks once I come out.
Sorry, Pedro, what's the Corneus opening line that's worked on you that's.
Worked on me?
People don't really give me corny opening lines. I'm usually the one that gives them. Yeah, but my corne Is pickup line for me was when I picked up my boyfriend eight years ago and he had a battery pack in his back pocket that was connected to his phone, kind of like one of those portable ones. And I was like, what I give to be that battery pack and it actually worked. It's very surprised about. That's some of my best who work. I know it's terrible, but what.
Are you gonna do? Ye come home with me, You're going to do rest is history. I love you, Stephen.
I did something horrible on the first day of my boyfriend. I found out we both used to play the bassoon in high school. In almost every other language, the bassoon is called the fagot, and so he told me he played the bas soon and I was like, wow, so.
We're both fagots who blew on fagots. Wow, And it was the stupid It was like first the worst thought, you know what I mean, Like yeah, yeah, yeah, get away, Yeah, later.
Right about the importance of a pickup. But they're not.
They're just judging by courage and body language, not by what you're saying.
All right, where's the last place you hooked up with someone?
It was just Southern decadence, So at the balcony of Lafitte's and exile work.
Yeah, you New Orleans folks love the balcony in Louisiana.
A little balcony in the summer time stops.
Yeah, yeah, let's go me John and Stevens.
At a mint julip and got a blow job.
Yeah, we've got your last rapid fire question. What is your most controversial take related to cruising or sex that you haven't mentioned on the podcast yet.
My most controversial the doucheing's overrated?
WHOA.
I think we over focus on douching.
Even in like a dark room space.
I'm not squeamish, that kind doesn't matter to me. So like when I'm like topping and stuff, I feel like the girls just like they get so hyper focused on douching and sometimes I just kind of want to be like, it's.
Okay, yeah, protect your biome.
Yeah yeah, yeah, it's like yeah, it's fine.
Yeah yeah.
If I'm like one on one with someone hm, but like in like a group, like we are like at a dark room at a bar, Like there is just like a level of like I don't want to use the word civility, but like.
A civility in a dark room. Sure, yeah, but there is.
You're like that gay person's bill of rights.
You're like you are entitled to one fut bathroom with no stinky smell, with no smell.
I think the douching thing is usually like a sign of like deeper insecurity. So sometimes I'm like, it's not that big a deal. I get a lot of I get yelled at a little bit about that.
It's not about the douching. What is the need? That is?
Look at that?
That's the need?
What's the need?
All right?
This has been a wild discussion, and we want to thank you so much for stopping by.
It's good to have you here in person.
But before we let you go, we would love to invite you to listen to one of our cruising confessions sent.
In by an actual listener. We'd love to have you stick around.
Let's do it.
The park was hot.
Hey, what's up?
I wanted to just tell you about a time that I was producing in such a park. It was just one of those perfect nights, not too hot, not too cold. Walking in. My shirt is off. This guy is walking out his shirt is off. We make eye contacts and fireworks like that instant. We didn't even get into the bramble. We just there was a lawn right there and we just fucked, like right in the middle of that lawn,
like out in the open. The stars are out, the moon was out, and it was so risky it could have been caught any second, but it didn't matter.
We were like connected.
We were in it, like every every position imaginable is just the most classical thing. And then it was over, and it was like the greatest prects I've ever had in my life.
Oh, okay, they're married.
Now what a whimsical retelling, really, but like, how long was this fuck?
You said every position?
Every position? I know also in a wide open line. You boys got to be careful out there too.
No, especially in the.
First time recently, like yeah, for my birthday, like a couple of months ago, and I was like, oh my god, it is like right out here. I don't like the idea of like almost getting caught. I know that turns some people on, but I just I can't form if I know that.
Like I'm in brown person in America. I'm not trying to be arrested.
And that's really a huge CrOx of it. You know, if I was like tall and blonde and had blue eyes, yeah.
And could talk my way out of anything, absolutely, because yeah, exactly, I didn't know.
Yeah, do you want to join? You know what I mean? Like that's their conversations. I'm not having thoseas.
Yeah, I'm not that light skinned.
Yeah.
I went on the on my birthday and I'd never done it before, and it's it's gorgeous.
You could see why it's been a cruising area.
You know, it's called the fruited Plane in the twenties, oh, in the nineteen twenties. Yeah, it was already a cruising area back then.
This is before they kicked all the people out to make the park.
That's the eighteen fifties.
Yeah, yeah, they kicked the perto Ricans also make Lucoln Center. They kicked the black people out to the Central Park. We should be allowed to fucking the places they kicked out our Honestly, this is ground.
Yeah, sexual reparation and really if you think about.
It, Harry Tubman didn't conduct that train so that I wouldn't be fucking here.
I like that people know that that's what it is, though, because when I went it was a birthday gift.
I hit the jackpot.
And then we also did the thing where we didn't go deep into the park enough, and then I heard this like little chain, and I legit thought it was like a like a leather pup or something, and then it was a lady walking her dog and she goes get a room, you two, But she knew where she was and we knew as she was, and it was kind of embarrassing, but it's kind of hot. She had like a really cool New York lady haircut, and I was like, oh, there's some history.
Here, all right.
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