The one thing most people fear more than death? Public speaking.¹ There's something about standing in front of another person (or multiple people) and sharing our thoughts, ideas, and feedback that makes us want to shrink until we evaporate. But sometimes, neglecting to speak up for yourself can have harmful repercussions. Here to help you see past your fear this week is Darlene Brock and Julie Bender, who get to work excavating the possible reasons why speaking up is so terrifying. Maybe you've...
Mar 11, 2025•19 min
How is your future looking right now? If what you're envisioning feels bleak, let us offer some encouragement. Hope often flies right out the door as soon as life starts to unravel differently than we planned. Your kids drop out of college. Your spouse is distant. You haven't been promoted at work in years. When reality doesn't match the vision, what can we look forward to? In this episode of Smart Living in Small Bites, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender unpack ways to find hope in the mundane. It ...
Mar 04, 2025•19 min
You've dreamt of wearing a billowy white dress and floating down the aisle to your prince charming since you were 5. Fast forward several years, and the man you love is doing everything but committing to making that dream a reality. Maybe you've been dating for years and are losing hope that a proposal will ever come, or you are engaged, but his promise of marriage feels empty and conversations around setting a date have stalled out. What do you do? In this episode of Smart Living with Grit and ...
Feb 25, 2025•21 min
Don't know what to do for spring break? That means it's time to decide how you really want to spend that time off: planning and prepping for a week-long getaway someplace far away, or catching your breath with a few relaxing days at home with your family? If 2025 has been a busy year for you (or if saving money is top of mind), you'll likely opt for the latter. But there's no reason a staycation can't be as inspired as a destination trip. In fact, there are ways to make it more wholesome than yo...
Feb 18, 2025•16 min
When we think of Valentine's Day, our thoughts often gravitate toward images of men purchasing giant teddy bears and bouquets of roses for the woman they love. As nice as that is, it's a bit commercialized, and love deserves so much more intention—and recipients! Darlene Brock and Julie Bender want to challenge you to think outside the box this year. Who else can you show love to aside from your significant other? Your friends? Jesus? Maybe even yourself? In this podcast episode, Darlene and Jul...
Feb 11, 2025•16 min
Has it been a while since you heard from God? Does it feel like ages since you've seen his goodness or felt the Holy Spirit stirring? Distance from God is one of the most frustrating things we can experience as women of faith. We wonder where he's gone and why he would ignore the children he loves. The uncomfortable truth? The onus may be on us—and if it's not us, it's God trying to help us grow in our faith. Yes, even in the 'silence'! In this podcast episode, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender rev...
Feb 04, 2025•20 min
Shoot straight with us for a minute: Did you set any goals at the start of this year? If you answered 'no,' we're right there with you. After all, weren't we all just trying to get settled back in after the holidays? Now that we are settled in, it's the perfect time to revisit any changes you may have wanted to make this year. In this episode of Smart Living with Grit and Grace, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender share five priorities that would benefit from having structure backed by a goal: home, ...
Jan 28, 2025•20 min
Do you wish you had someone who could guide you through life? An experienced person who willingly shares their wisdom and insight to help you navigate every crossroads you approach? If so, we're happy to say we know just what you're looking for: a mentor. The Mr. Miyagi to your Karate Kid! In this Smart Living with Grit and Grace podcast episode, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender share the value in mentorship, how to actually find a mentor, and which areas of mentorship you might want to consider. ...
Jan 21, 2025•19 min
Life offers an endless rotation of surprises, so the only thing not surprising is our desire for order—often in the form of control. When we believe we can control what goes on around us, we can somewhat come to terms with the way our lives unfold. But controlling everything is impossible, and when we make that our aim, consciously or not, it can leave us on edge and erode our relationships. In this podcast episode, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender discuss all the areas we might find hard to contr...
Jan 14, 2025•21 min
If you've been putting it off, consider this podcast episode as a sign to clean up your clutter! As we get swept up in the busyness of life, we inadvertently let things accumulate. We outgrow our clothes or forget the items we've once loved and the gifts we've been given. Over time, we stash these items away to make room for new stuff we need or want. Out of sight, out of mind, right? Sadly, no. These items tend to pile up, consuming space in our homes and in the back of our minds. If you're rea...
Jan 07, 2025•20 min
Forget setting goals and drafting New Year's resolutions. We're making 2025 about you—more specifically, your character. Who do you want to be this year? Every season of life (new years included) allow us the opportunity to evaluate our priorities, how much we've grown and where we want to see ourselves in another 365 days. Is it in the same place you're at now? Most likely, the answer is no. In this episode of Smart Living with Grit and Grace, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender discuss the importan...
Dec 31, 2024•20 min
In this season of "tidings of great joy," what if joy doesn't come easily to you? As women of faith, there's an unspoken expectation that we should live in a constant state of joy, that it should be the lens with which we view our lives and circumstances. Although the Bible states we aren't of the world, we are still in it, which means our perception of joy is often colored by the world's ideals—namely, success, status and money. But there's more to real joy. In this Smart Living podcast episode...
Dec 24, 2024•21 min
Life is better with friends. There's just something remarkably special about finding a person (or a few) out of billions in the world who can belly laugh with you over a meal or willingly be at your side in a time of grief. Friendships are mostly easy, but healthy ones still require some work! In this Smart Living with Grit and Grace podcast episode, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender dive into two important discussions on this topic: building strong friendships and navigating ones that are fizzling...
Dec 17, 2024•18 min
The sibling that got away with everything. The coworker that scored your promotion. The "friend" who stopped including you in group conversations. We're all familiar with resentment, and the mutated ball of anger, hurt, disgust and annoyance it leaves in the pit of our stomachs. Whether someone outright betrayed you or you were inadvertently treated unfairly, resentment can slowly creep into your heart and rob you of joy and gratitude. It's a human response, but a dangerous one if left to fester...
Dec 10, 2024•19 min
"You'll never know unless you try" is sound advice to soothe our doubts. But doubt doesn't always come with ulterior motives; sometimes, it's merely a cautionary measure meant to protect us. So how do you decipher the root of your doubt? Smart Living with Grit and Grace co-hosts Darlene Brock and Julie Bender answer that question with several actionable steps to help you work through your doubt and determine its purpose. Whether you're struggling with self-doubt, doubting others, or even doubtin...
Dec 03, 2024•16 min
It's usually early- to mid-fall when we hear others expressing a desire to fast forward through the season and jump right into the holidays. The year has been too long, too hard, too unforgiving. Wouldn't it be better to skip right to the Thanksgiving and Christmas festivities and brush all our complications behind us (at least until the New Year)? The fast forward button isn't a thing—at least not yet—so you're better off focusing on the good in each day. In fact, studies show that just a few m...
Nov 26, 2024•17 min
We don't need research studies to tell us we're stressed (although they do, and frequently—a 2021 Gallup poll found that 41% of adults worldwide experience a lot of stress). We feel it everywhere: demanding hours and clients at work; raising kids; the news; the ever-ending list of things to do—the list goes on. Are you ready to leave stress behind? We've got you covered! In this podcast episode, co-hosts Darlene Brock and Julie Bender rip off the band-aid: We can't get rid of stress entirely. Bu...
Nov 19, 2024•18 min
Are you feeling a little aimless at the moment? Perhaps you're in a season of life that has you questioning your purpose. If that sounds frighteningly familiar, don't fret—even the seasons that feel purposeless have a purpose! In this episode of Smart Living with Grit and Grace, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender discuss how to find confidence when you're transitioning into a new stage of life. Starting retirement, getting married, entering motherhood, searching for your next job can all leave you w...
Nov 12, 2024•15 min
Do you have a tendency to repeat reminders to those closest to you? Perhaps you feel like you're constantly asking your husband to get off the couch or urging your kids to clean their rooms. While your intentions are good, your delivery may be perceived as nagging. In this episode of Smart Living with Grit and Grace, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender dive into the prickly topic of nagging. It's something many of us would like to think we don't do, but we often innocently fall into the habit. They s...
Nov 05, 2024•17 min
Are you tired of waiting? Maybe you're waiting on a future spouse to walk into your life, sitting in fast food lines that feel anything but, or pining for that dream job opportunity to fall into our laps. We're all excitedly—and usually impatiently—waiting for something. Why do all the good things in life take so long? One could argue those things wouldn't be very good to begin with if they didn't require at some patience, but we think there's more to it. In this episode of Smart Living with Gri...
Oct 29, 2024•16 min
The moment we've all been waiting for has finally arrived—the Smart Living in Small Bites book series is officially live and available for purchase now on Amazon! If you have experienced (or are still walking through) a challenging life circumstance and wish you could talk with a friend who has been there and understands, look no further. Each book in the series is written by a woman who has experienced that same challenge. These authors detail the difficulties they encountered, the wisdom they ...
Oct 22, 2024•11 min
Exciting changes are in store for This Grit and Grace Life podcast! If you've been with us for a while, you know we launched a new endeavor called Smart Living with Grit and Grace last year and will be releasing an eponymous book series this month (keep your eye on your inbox over the next few days!). Now, we're rebranding the podcast with a new look and feel—and a new name! In this episode, Darlene and Julie share what's in store for the new Smart Living with Grit and Grace podcast: fresh conte...
Oct 08, 2024•10 min
We're celebrating our 250th podcast episode of This Grit and Grace Life with 26 wise quotes from a literary classic: Louisa May Alcott's Little Women. Whether you've read the novel or not, there's much to be gleaned from the conversations among its four protagonists, the young March sisters. If you need some encouragement in your relationships and goals or need to be reminded of the qualities of a confident woman, take a few minutes to tune into this episode. Darlene and Julie also share their f...
Sep 24, 2024•22 min
How do you respond when you see a child with special needs? Most of us fall into one of two camps: We either choose to engage or we look the other way. But choosing to engage is always the right answer. Russ and Gail Ewell will tell you the same thing. After dealing with judgment and unsolicited advice from others on how to raise their two special needs children, the couple decided the best way to inform others was to educate and integrate. In this episode of This Grit and Grace Life, Russ and G...
Sep 10, 2024•42 min
When it comes to battling life's challenges, the odds are rarely in our favor. We might feel as though we're putting forth a ton of effort into making our circumstances better, only to find we didn't make much headway after all. It feels like a far cry from the life God designed for us to live, but it doesn't have to be. In this episode of This Grit and Grace Life, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender discuss new ways to approach these challenges—and they're all rooted in the mission of Grit and Grace...
Aug 27, 2024•29 min
We’re likely to bounce between feelings of happiness, sadness, anger, excitement, exhaustion or any number of other emotions every day. No matter which ones you experience, they are all normal and they deserve to be listened to. Where we often go wrong, according to licensed psychotherapist Dr. Zoe, is in our reaction to those feelings—either lashing out at someone or making an impulsive decision we later regret. Even when we choose not to react by suppressing our emotions, we are entering into ...
Aug 13, 2024•34 min
Are your kids heading back to school? They'll undoubtedly learn a few math equations or how to read between the lines of a historical novel, but some of the most important back to school lessons your kids will take away from this school year are the ones that will carry them through life. In this episode of This Grit and Grace Life, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender discuss how, as a parent, you play a critical role in facilitating how well your kids receive these life lessons. They share how to in...
Jul 30, 2024•30 min
Are you putting off scheduling your next OB-GYN appointment? We get it—it can be uncomfortable, awkward, and even embarrassing to chat with the doc about issues or questions related to down there. That's why we're bringing back this episode of This Grit and Grace Life with guest Dr. Holly Miller, a board certified OB-GYN, to answer all the hard OB-GYN questions you need to know about feminine health but are probably too embarrassed to ask about. This episode is filled with questions that women t...
Jul 15, 2024•34 min
How do you measure your self-worth? Is it determined by a respectable title at work or the approving nods ands compliments you receive on an outfit? Is it measured by how similar your home looks to your favorite influencer's or your own personal follower count on Instagram? This week, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender get together to offer a single resounding answer to all those questions: No. Your self-worth isn't determined by any of these things. And yet, the culture we live in upholds this perv...
Jul 02, 2024•33 min
You may have seen the movie "Unsung Hero" and learned a little about the childhood and career of Christian singer and songwriter Rebecca St. James. But we thought we would revisit an earlier episode of This Grit and Grace Life podcast when Rebecca joined the show to chat about another important part of her life: dating and finding "the one." Landing your forever-after prince isn’t always so clear-cut. We wonder whether he’s out there, how long it’ll take to find him, and if we’ll even recognize ...
Jun 18, 2024•34 min
