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Small Things Often

The Gottman Institutewww.gottman.com
Give your relationships a boost in 5 minutes or less with Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute. We provide simple, proven, quick tips to help you deepen and enhance your relationships!
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Episodes

How to Respond Non-Defensively

It takes practice to respond non-defensively. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re sharing the questions you need to ask yourself before jumping to your own defense. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sep 30, 20203 min

Identifying the 3 Forms of Defensiveness

Do you know when you’re being defensive? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re identifying the 3 forms of defensiveness so you can recognize them in conversations with your loved ones. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sep 28, 20203 min

How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship

Do you avoid dealing with any conflict with your partner because you think it will hurt your relationship? Think again! On this episode of Small Things Often, find out ways to deal with conflict and friction that can actually transform your relationship — and help make you and your partner even closer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sep 23, 20203 min

How to Recognize Gridlock and Overcome It

Are you and your partner totally stuck in perpetual conflict over a specific issue? Have you reached the point where neither of you are willing to open your mind to the other’s thoughts and opinions? Then you might be in gridlock. In this episode, learn how to recognize it — and ways to overcome it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sep 21, 20204 min

How to Become Aware of Your Emotions

Are you aware of your emotions? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll help you identify your feelings so you can help your loved ones when they experience difficult emotions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sep 16, 20202 min

Why You Don’t Always Have to Agree

You don’t always have to agree with your loved one! On this episode of Small Things Often, how you can change the goal from agreement to understanding during disagreements. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sep 14, 20202 min

Embracing Relationship Changes

In relationships, the only constant is change. On this episode of Small Things Often, how you can embrace the changes to evolve individually and together with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sep 09, 20203 min

What Are Love Maps?

You probably think you know your partner, but do you have an active and up-to-date understanding of their interior world? We’re digging deep on this episode of Small Things Often so you can learn the importance of building Love Maps with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sep 07, 20203 min

Are You Taking Responsibility in Your Relationship?

It’s easy to get defensive instead of taking responsibility in times of conflict, but what is that doing to your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re sharing the importance of taking ownership of our actions and how they affect our loved ones. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sep 02, 20203 min

Why Being Neutral Can Be Invalidating for your Partner

Do you walk the road of “neutrality” when your partner comes to you with an emotional issue? If so, your relationship may be suffering because of it. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why validation is so important — and how it can make or break a relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aug 31, 20203 min

Building Relationships Brick by Brick

Relationships aren’t magically unveiled in a single romantic moment. On this episode of Small Things Often, how you can build a relationship brick by brick and create a deeper emotional connection with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aug 26, 20202 min

There’s No Such Thing as All Good or All Bad

No one is all good or all bad. If you’ve fallen into that kind of thinking, tune into this episode of Small Things Often, and learn how to rethink your reactions — and improve your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aug 24, 20203 min

Having Difficult Conversations with Loved Ones

It’s no secret that difficult conversations with loved ones aren’t easy. So how can you make sure it goes as well as possible? We’ll share the questions that you need to ask yourself before the conversation begins, on this episode of Small Things Often. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aug 19, 20203 min

Acknowledge Subjective Realities

The existence of two different viewpoints doesn’t necessarily mean one person is wrong and one person is right. On this episode of Small Things Often, we explore how you can acknowledge subjective realities by sharing your feelings in a way that doesn’t make your partner feel defensive. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aug 17, 20203 min

How to Be a Better Listener

How are your listening skills? If your partner is in pain, the most loving thing you can do is to listen with empathy and understanding. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to improve your ability to listen with compassion. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aug 12, 20203 min

How to Take Care of Each Other By Taking Care of Ourselves

How’s your relationship going? Not the one with your partner…the one with yourself. On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why creating time and space for yourself can keep the relationship with your partner strong and healthy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aug 10, 20203 min

Connecting in Crisis

While in crisis mode, it can be easy to turn away from your loved ones. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how you can stay connected and support each other in times of uncertainty. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aug 05, 20202 min

Practicing Positive Needs

How are you expressing those difficult emotions that creep up from time to time? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to transform criticisms into “positive needs” that will help you avoid conflict and arguments — and, ultimately, bring you even closer to your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aug 03, 20204 min

Good Enough Relationship

What is a “good enough” relationship? It’s likely not what you think. In this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how a good enough relationship can help you set healthy expectations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jul 29, 20203 min

Finding Joy

How much fun have you had with your partner today? Yesterday? Last month? If playful moments are lacking in your relationship, listen to this episode of Small Things Often, and hear why moments of joy are so important — and learn how to consciously create some in your life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jul 27, 20203 min

Redefining Individuality and Togetherness

Are you and your partner spending so much time together that you’re beginning to think you’re losing your individuality and sense of self? On this episode of Small Things Often learn how to balance your relationship between togetherness and separateness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jul 22, 20204 min

Stress-Reducing Conversations

Are you really listening to your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to engage in a stress-reducing conversation that can positively impact your relationship by strengthening your mutual love and trust. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jul 20, 20203 min

Little Repairs That Have A Big Impact

Every couple argues. But the ones who survive and thrive have learned how to repair quickly and often. What does that mean? Tune into this episode of Small Things Often and find out why it’s so important to repair conflicts as they occur. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jul 15, 20203 min

You Don’t Need to Cheer Up Your Partner

When your partner feels down, is your first instinct to cheer them up? If so, take a step back, because there’s a better choice. On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer advice on the best ways to respond to your partner when they’re dealing with negative emotions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jul 13, 20203 min

Hurt Feelings

Do your feelings get hurt easily in your relationship — even in small, trivial matters? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why this happens — and how to manage and repair these hurtful moments with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jul 08, 20203 min

Attunement Through Awareness

One of our deepest needs is for our partner to “know” us — to be truly attuned to us. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover how awareness will help you open up during a conflict —let your partner know what is going on inside — and become more emotionally connected. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jul 06, 20203 min

What Is a Bid for Connection?

Knowing when your loved one is trying to connect with you isn’t always intuitive. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why you need to know your bids for connection and take you through the different types of bids so you can create healthy interactions in your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jul 01, 20202 min

Emotion Coaching

You’re smart — of course — but are you emotionally intelligent? In this episode of Small Things Often, how you can use emotion coaching in your relationship to connect with your partner by becoming more emotionally intelligent. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jun 29, 20203 min

Under Stress, We All Regress

Do you communicate differently when you’re stressed? You’re not alone! In this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you why under stress, we all regress, and what you can do to keep your relationship strong. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jun 24, 20203 min

Understanding Your Feelings

Difficult emotions can be difficult to truly understand! On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re putting those emotions through the Feeling Wheel — and you can too by printing your own here https://bit.ly/37qDVTK. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jun 22, 20202 min
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