What happens to a couple when one person makes their partner the center of their universe? Where are the lines between our individual lives and being part of a couple?
It makes it a lot easier for them to show up for you in the right way when you tell them how you want to be loved, and vice versa.
We can both accept things that are outside of our control, and allow ourselves to feel how we do about them happening.
Just like you understand its natural to spend time getting to know someone you just met, you also need to take the time to get to know yourself. It isn't arrogant or selfish to ask questions, reflect or pay attention to your inner world.
A person who gives with the expectation of getting the same in return will feel resentful and empty when they don't get that. When you don't love and respect yourself it can actually drive healthy people away from you. Securely attached, emotionally healthy people aren't usually drawn to people-pleasing or martyr behaviour.
It's really hard to mentor someone who isn't willing to get curious about themselves. People tend to be focused on analyzing others' behaviours and choices. A key qualifier for effective healing and growth is being open and curious about your own inner world.
Taking responsibility for the process of your growth and healing means dealing with triggers and setting healthy boundaries.
I haven't met anyone who meets my criteria without deal-breakers. Does this mean I'm being too picky? Where's the line between having impossible standards and settling?
Each person comes with their gift. Can you be receptive to the gift and let the experience go with grace? Can it mean that Allah (swt) is showing you that you are worthy and that this is possible for you?
There are relationships that primarily take from us, others that nourish us and some that do both. Which is which?
You can always come back home. You've never gone too far or changed too much to be welcome.
In the story of Musa (pbuh) and Al-Khidr in Surat Al-Kahf, we witness an interaction between a Prophet who is also a distinguished leader of his people, and a slave of Allah that had been given knowledge and a special understanding of matters.
Reflecting on Ayah (7:43) from the Quran, and how feeling all that we do is part of the Human experience in this world. It doesn't mean anything about who you are or your character.
Do you pause after an experience to check in with yourself and see how it leaves you feeling? Do you pay attention to the effect people, media, places or even food have on you afterwards?
For everyone who apologizes before sharing their thoughts or feels like what they're thinking isn't normal or probably not even acceptable.
Look at the bigger picture.
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For the fighters who are in the heart of the storm. You can put down the armor. You are safe with Him (swt) ❤️
Can we move away from the idea of love being something scarce that must be sought or performed for? And move towards seeing love as something abundant and ever-present. If you knew you were loved and supported unconditionally, what would change for you?
On being stuck and making tough decisions.
You have the ability to meet your own needs. A simple powerful shift towards your personal wellbeing.
Treat people as you'd like to be treated. Being disrespectful or unkind thinking that people of faith will tolerate it is a flawed assumption.
A letter to you, beautiful girl with the broken heart. You know who you are ❤️
How do you define yourself? Who are you really? Who do you think we need you to be?
You're doing so much and you make it look so easy! How do you do it all?
Is cultivating a spiritual connection to your faith a substitute for applying yourself and doing the work to grow and heal?
How can I accept the past, make the most of the present and have hope for the best possible future?
Labels, roles, criticism & judgement. This is who you need to be. Says who?
We plan and Allah plans. A story about trust in Allah, hardship and ease.
Putting your heart and soul into making something and presenting it to the world is one of the scariest things to do. It isn't just scary for the first timer, but for every single one of us.
