Episode 172: How to Make 2023 Your Year + SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT!

Welcome to The Simplify Your Life Podcast, where we talk about how to create a life you  won’t need an escape from! I’m Coach Simona, author of the book “111 Ways to Simplify Your  Life”, and I’m glad you decided to tune in! In today’s podcast episode, we’re going  to talk about how to make 2023 your year, and I’m going to share with you 6 practical  tips on how to make 2023 your best year yet.

Now, let’s jump straight into my first tip  on how to make 2023 your year, which is to Pick out your “word of the year” I’ve actually been doing this for the  past few years, and it’s been a fun little exercise that I realized I haven’t  shared with you before, so here we go. Your “word of the year” is essentially  something that you’d like to focus on, something you want more of, something that  will make 2023 an amazing, unforgettable year.

Here are some examples of “word of  the year” a.k.a. the thing you’re going to focus on achieving or developing as  a character trait: trust, love, abundance, excitement, joy, friends, moving, mental  health, property, grit, career, etc. Pick just one and write it down somewhere where  you know you’ll be able to look at it every single day so that you can remind yourself of that  ONE thing, especially when life gets tough.

Which actually leads me to the second tip  on how to make 2023 your year which is to: Choose one thing to stop doing Think of a certain habit that’s been keeping  you stuck. It could be anything, ranging from scrolling on Instagram to binging junk food  after work. What is that one thing that you’d like to stop doing in 2023 or at least limit to a  reasonable amount, so it doesn’t affect your life? Once you identify what that is, here are  some helpful questions you can ask yourself:

1. What will I gain if I stop doing this? 2. How will I feel if I stop doing this? 3. How will stopping this impact  other important people in my life? And finally, I want you to list 5 reasons why it  will be beneficial for you to stop doing this. For example, if you want to stop people-pleasing  in 2023, you can write down something like: 1. I want to stop people-pleasing, because  I want to stop feeling like a pushover.

2. I want to do it, because I want  people to start respecting me. 3. I want to stop being a people-pleaser,  because it’s hurting me. 4. I’m going to stop people-pleasing, because  I want people to know who I really am. 5. I will no longer people-please,  because it’s time to put myself first. Now, it’s your turn. Pause this episode, and write down the thing that  you’re going to stop doing in 2023.

My third tip is to Come up with the first  small step you can take in that direction Let’s say, you want to stop being a people-pleaser this year. What is the first small  step you can take in that direction? Maybe, you can say how you really feel  next time someone asks you how you’re doing and you say “fine”. Or don’t go to  that event your neighbor invited you to, if it’s not going to add any value to your life. The thing is, taking the first  step is probably the hardest one,

because your resistance will be the  strongest in the beginning. Once you start standing up for yourself on a regular basis,  you will no longer find it difficult to do.

By the way, if you need more help with  saying ‘no’, setting healthy boundaries, and you want to learn the exact scripts that you can use to say 'no' to people without feeling guilty, check out my video on how  to say no to people without people guilty at: youtube.com/coachsimona I will also leave a link in  the description box below. Tip number 4 is to Choose one thing to start doing Now that we’ve picked one thing you’d like to stop  doing, let’s think about the opposite: What would

you like to start doing in 2023? What excites  you and motivates you to get up in the morning? Choose one thing and don’t make it too big, so it’s easier to stick to  it and turn it into a habit. Write it down on a piece of paper,  and answer the following questions: 1. What will I gain if I start doing this? 2. How will I feel if I start doing this? 3. How will starting this impact  other important people in my life?

And finally, I want you to list 5 reasons why it  will be beneficial for you to start doing this. Pause this episode now and  come back when you’re done. Tip number 5 is to ask yourself: What  small step can I take in that direction? For example, let’s say you want to  eat more healthy, but it all sounds too vague. The one thing you can start doing  is choosing to eat a salad for lunch daily. Or skip dessert during the workweek.

Or let’s say the thing you want to start  journaling. The first step you can take is learn how to journal and get to know yourself  better. That’s why I created The Self-Love Journal with over 180 self-reflection prompts. It’s just  one of the tools in The Self-Love Toolkit which is my proven step-by-step framework that will help you transform the relationship you have with yourself

and make 2023 your year. If you want to learn more, head over to: www.theselflovetoolkit.com Or click the first link in  the description box below. My next tip is to Choose  one thing to continue doing I want you to take inventory of all the  things that are currently going well in your life and pick the one that has made the  biggest positive impact so far. For example, let’s say your relationship is going great!

What are you doing now that you can continue  doing in the future so that it keeps blossoming? For example, keep complimenting your spouse,  going on dates, being kind and respectful, etc. Or let’s say you always arrive on time  and your colleagues and friends really respect you for it. Keep doing that, keep  showing up for yourself and others. It’s important to acknowledge the  amazing things we’re already doing and give ourselves a pat on  the back once in a while.

If you’re not sure how to do that, check out episode 158 next. I will leave  a link in the description box below. And if you want a step-by-step system that  will help you make 2023 your best year yet, check out The Self-Love Toolkit at: www.theselflovetoolkit.com Thanks so much for tuning in! If  you enjoyed this podcast episode, please like it, subscribe, and  I’ll see you in the next one!