Simple questions for one hundred people. Welcome to our experiment, the one hundred person Project. I'm Bill Correll, and this is my investigation. This research project is to gather data from one hundred beautiful human beings to the sole purpose to see what actually happens across the interviews. The questions are fixed and all the interviews will remain consistent with the variable being the actual participants themselves. Oh,
and your answers. It's as if I'm having you, Okay, come sit on my porch to share your thoughts so that I can learn about people looking forward to what we're going to. It's very interested in the people, the process, and the particular story. You will get to know our desk through the interviews. T Then it's my distinct pleasure to have all of us involved in this podcast, all all the friends in the world. Well, how about you do it for me, Kate? Do you want me to
introduce myself? All right? What is your full name? Kate Molliser? No middle name. I generally don't give it out because it's not my favorite thing in the world, So only very select people get to know what my middle name is. Well, no one's going to hear this. It's just between you and me. It's only a podcast. My middle name is actually my mother's maiden name, because she apparently didn't like me very much and wanted
to give the children something to pick on me about. My middle name is Rondo, the French r O n d e a U. That's a beautiful name. Not when you're a small child in elementary school and your first name isn't legally hate and so you get picked on for having two first names and two last names. I sound like a failed country singer. Stuff, it looks too like you turned out, Okay, I played to go on TV.
Rondo sounds like it's, uh, you know, some kind of an action thriller, spy movie sort of thing, right that maybe somebody likes. Sliced alone has to be playing. Yeah, all right, Well, now that we know your least favorite name, what would you say your favorite nickname is that most people don't know? Oh so I didn't. I don't really have a lot of nicknames, but one comes to mind was my dad. He always calls me teaches because when I was a baby, it's literally the
only thing I would eat. So even to this day, as a thirty five year old woman. He still got their peaches, and I'm just like, oh, hey, God, like it's our little thing. So that's marvelous. That is really really special that you might be the first person that I've ever known that was called peaches, you know, as a nickname. Hmmm. I actually know someone with peaches as their legal first name, so I do too. M yeah, yeah, her peaches Abercrombie. Ooh,
I know Peaches, Finch, Binch. Those are different, Abercrombie and Fitch. We're close bench. Oh, I know. I was gonna say. That's why I said it. I was like, oh, that's weird. So on to the next question. Peaches, when did you first notice what color hair you had? And I won't do that again unless you want me to. Ooh, so I amfully aware of my natural hair color because I am naturally a red head, even more red than this, like a deep chestnut auburn type of red. And I got picked on a lot as a
little kid for being a redhead. So probably like kindergarten, first grade is when I really have that like astute of the importance of hair color and my specific hair color. Wow, that is pretty mean. And so how did you wear your hair with. I wasn't allowed to cut my hair like at all, so I didn't cut it for the first time until after I was eighteen. So my hair was either you know, pigtails or ponytails or fangs
or all that good stuff. But my mom let me start dyeing my hair in the fifth grade, so I would dye my hair dark brown so I wouldn't have to be a redhead anymore. So I dated a redhead in high school, Barbara, and she's sorry, well, no, it was okay, I'll tell you what it was good for. Red house. We spicy, she said. She said, redheads, we're the master race. Yep. Yeah, we're souless apparently. But there is a redhead convention that happens
every year in Scotland. Oh yeah, there's something about the all the gingers in the world get to get together. Yep. I would love that. So enough about hair for a moment. We may come back to it later on, we might not. You don't know what is the favorite thing for you to do to intentionally waste time. I'm a big visual learner, so
like I spend a lot of time on Pinterest or on TikTok. Usually it's like self education or like, I'm a fashion nerd and a history nerd, so I'll look at like fashion throughout the ages, the different videos and stuff like that. So I'm a big intern web stroller. So maybe if I wanted to learn more about Pinterest, you could put me through a similar Absolutely I could. To me, it just occurs like a whole bunch of unrelated pictures that are all kind of like a collage. But it's an algorithm.
So the more you use it, or the more things you search, or the more niche you get, the more curated your feed will become similar to TikTok. What you look at, you get more of. Huh. Okay, those algorithms are my friend. I mean they're not because they tell me things I don't want to know, and then I'm like, I feel attacked. I didn't need the cheesecake recipe, thank you. Well, you know,
TIMU uses that same sort of a thing. You know, I don't know if you've gone on there, but if you happen to look at something, you'll now see twenty five of those and be getting texts and emails and every this little age we're living in, you know, algorithms, So Pinterest. Thank you, you just connected the Dutch. So in addition to that, you know, and what makes it time wasting for you? Is it something where you really can just lose yourself or you get anything in particular out
of it. Well, TikTok really is a time sucker. Like I lose time when I'm on TikTok. I think I'm on it for maybe ten minutes and I look at the clock, I'm like three hours. Like, but Pinterest is because I'll end up down round it holes and on tangents, and you know, I'll start by looking for something or researching something or interested in something, and then I'll you know, dumptail off into other things and then I'm like, oh god, I gotta go. So it just becomes like
a like a time warp. Yeah, it sounds like once you discover how long you've actually been on, there's like a like a maybe a little bit of happiness slash embarrassment slash oh what the hell? You know? Yeah, it's more of a like oops, I was supposed to do other things. Oh well, at least I'm happy like that. I had to literally uninstalled
TikTok from my phone because I was finding like bedtime. I would go and I would be like, oh, I'll just scroll for like ten minutes and then it's like one am and I have to be up at five, and I'm like, nope, uninstalled. So I had to uninstall it at bedtime. Could be a bad idea, yep, mm hmm. So moving on, what is your favorite movie to watch alone? Kate Ooh, it's kind of situational for me. Like there. For me, movies and music are meant to evoke the motions. So if I'm looking to have a good cry,
I have a movie that I like. If I'm looking to have a good laugh, there's a movie that I like. There are some movies that I just have personal resonance with and I don't share with anybody, so I'll watch those alone. Like so, it's kind of a hard question to answer, but I think right now, my favorite movie to watch alone, and everyone's gonna laugh at me for this, it's Doom that has Dwayne the Rock Johnson and it it is literally one of my favorite movies. I could watch
it on Luke in perpetuity. It is so bad, it's good. It's so good it's bad. But I think that's what they were going for. It's the point of view seen when they do the like the first person Shooter. Because I played that PC game it was like, ugh, touched my heart. I love it. So now we know that there's a menu, but at the top is going to be the Rock always. That's my boyfriend. Like I even tell my boyfriend, I'm like, listen, he's my
hall pass. So sorry. I have a dear friend who says that she has a handwritten past that if she ever is in a situation with the Rock her her husband has said, Okay, it's like if he knocks on the door, it's like, I'll see you in three days. Yeah, it's like Vegas, what happens with the rocks? Days with the Rocks? That's there. You go, Yeah, any which way that lose, right, I love it. So now here, this is the one I'm very interested
in having a little bit of time with you. So far. If you were to have an action figure made of you, what super power do you have and what colors would it's uniform you? Oh well, my favorite color is purple, So I'm going to go with like multiple shades of just the color purple. I imagine it looking very like Elasta girl from The Incredibles, but with a cape and purple. And I think I think that I would be a mind reader if I had a superpower. Now, you can have
a super power, but what would I do with that? Just cure my never ending anxiety around not knowing how people are feeling? Half tag trauma response. No, there's nothing wrong with a curious mind. Okay, you just want to realizet yourself on the back at least you're inquisitive, right, Yeah. I just want to understand people and get to know them, and sometimes people aren't able to share or be open, and to take that pressure off of them and still be able to connect with them in the best way for
them is really the philosophy I operate under. So it sounds like it would be more for a personal connection to better understand or be more related to and that sort of thing. Yeah. Yeah, you're not out to go for world peace or anything of that nature. Yet. You're going to start locally and then you'll think globally. Well, I think if we can all connect to each other a little bit better and a little bit easier, wouldn't world
piece just kind of become inevitable? Amen, It's a natural progression, isn't it, you know, the whole Start treating people the way you'd like to be treated, and don't forget that, okay, and always understand that you never know where anybody is asked, so always treat them with kindness exactly. So, Yeah, who did you want to grow up to be? When you were five years old? A lawyer? I had a briefcase and everything, Like I took my grandfather's old briefcase. It was his leather one with
like the dial, you know, lock on it. And I kept a notepad, a yellow legal notepad, and pens and some eminems and some dolls obviously in there. And I would walk around the neighborhood and offer free legal advice. At five, I can imagine you were probably have pissed when I was allowed to be. Yeah, yeah, control chaos. How did you get that that inspiration? Where did that come from? I'm not really one hundred percent sure, honestly, Like I I don't even know the first time
I understood what a lawyer was. But once I learned about that, I kind of hung onto it and that was it until oh gosh, maybe ninth grade, and things changed from there where I went, you know, whats get a bad rap? Maybe I want to be a social worker. So let me see what here was Ali mcbel on. That was the nineties. Yeah, yeah, that was the early nineties. So I was like little before five. But I don't think we watched Alley mcbeel in my house.
We're more law and order people, so it might have been, although don't in the background. I always love that. So now, what is your greatest accomplishment? Oh gosh, there's so many ways I can answer that, you know, and I try to dig deeper than the surface. Not that people saying their kids are not an accomplishment, or owning a home isn't an accomplishment, But really I think for me, it's my self acceptance, myself
love. Like I've really learned to love who I am and how I am and to live that way authentically and to help teach other people how to be. That is like such an incredible deviant from from who I was even five years ago. So I think my greatest accomplishment is is my capacity to love
myself. I really can hear you, and I really get that that was not something that you arrived at simply or even probably we're all that interested in putting any energy in it sometimes and probably was very unrewarding at other times. But to get through that, you know, there's like an eye of a needle you have to get through in order to finally get to that. So I'm okay, you know I can do that. Yeah, I don't know
how. Yeah, I'm the adult and that's okay, and that's enough, and I'm successful and functional to a decree depending on the definition as far as far as other people know, right right, I think that's the most awesome answer to that question that I've heard out of out of thirty some people. Really yeah, And I'll tell you what. It doesn't discount any of the
other accomplishments that people have expressed or or have have actually accomplished. But for you to kind of open yourself up and basically say, I was work. You know, I was working and I still am. I'm not done working, you know, because if we're done working or we're done learning, then we're dead. Well, it went from being work to being a work in progress, right, correct? Perfect? Perfect? And so now who is
your favorite person to listen to? My dad? Yeah, my dad, Yeah, yeah, he he just has a really interesting way of like talking and relating and storytelling in a way when he talks and he sees the world differently from anybody else that I know, and and the observations or connections that he makes. Sometimes he's a little rough around the edges, but it's fun to listen to him share stories of like him being a kid, or his
adolescence or the experiences he's had. He's also a person who I say has lived ten thousand lives, and you know, I'm just honored and grateful that he and I have such a relationship where he can open up to me and share things with me, and I keep telling him we have to either record it or write it down or something that it's incredible. I think that's neat. And I love the rough around the edges because that kind of implies authenticity,
like when people are just being real. You know, you get what you get. Sometimes I can give you is not really all that much, but it's what I got today. That's what he says, Get what you get and you don't get upset. I like it. Expect nothing and you'll always never be disappointed. Yep. Are there any particular topics or is there any or is it just just being rhythm and hearing what he has to say
about life. And you did mention his childhood, but is there is there anything else that you kind of like you go to him for if you're in need of a spark or in need of just a little bit of light or
whatever. I know that he'll always be a straight shooter and he'll always give me, you know, the truth, even when it's ugly, even when I don't want to hear it. So if there's a time that I need to be told the truth about something or someone or a situation, I know that I can go to him, and he's probably the only person to be like, I don't want to do this, but I need to take this to Dad, and I know what the answer is going to be, but I still need to hear him say it. And he'll always kind of level
set me. So you know, we have a really really good relationship that he can kind of call me on my stuff and kind of put me back on a good track. And he never tells me what to do or how to do it, Like he kind of lets me arrive at things on my own, and it's more that just conversation. And I think sometimes he doesn't even realize that that's what he's doing. But so that and then I like to listen to him. He used to be a commercial long haul truck driver,
and so I like to listen to him. He'll tell me stories about his various you know halls, Like one time he called caskets. He worked for a casket company and he drove from Maine to Texas and he stopped at this particular road rest stop to use the bathroom or something, and this homeless person came up to him and was like bugging him for a ride. And he'd been like, nah, dude, Nah dude, no dude, And then he finally got sick and he's like, all right, yeah, I
got s face for you. Come with me. And he goes around the back of the trailer and he opens up the date. He's got eighty seven seats, pick your favorite, and the guy looked at him like oh and then like ran off. You know, my dad that because it's kind of person or I was just like, oh, that's hysterical, Like I would
have done the same thing. So I appreciate that, Like, you know, colony a lot of time alone to think up things to do, and I'm sure he was like laying for this poor man, like someone someone's going to get the benefit of my of my sense of humor today, I don't know who that lucky person is. Let don't even know that he like plots it. I think sometimes it just bubbles into his mind, you know, on the spot where he just has that great ability to just capture a thought
in the moment and then acts on it in a really fun way. That's pretty cool too. It's all again part of what you see is what you get, and what you get is what you get, and that's it. Well, he's a big kid, like he really is. He's just a
big kid. So it's fun to like watch him with my kids or like I remember when we were younger we went to Disney World for the first time, like watching him skip down Main Street and Disney World as you know, forty fifty year old man with a knee problem, but he still was like I don't care like dad, new Balance sneakers and fanny pack and all. I just took a gallivant down the street in Disney World that didn't care who saw. And he loves that stuff. And that's what I love about him
is he lives unapologetically himself. I love that. And what you brought to mind was the first time that we went to Disney with our five year old and our seven year old, and the younger daughter, who is now forty two, was five and she did the exact same skipping down the boulevard. You know. We called it the Becky boogie. Yep, Well my dad did the Becky boogie. So so now that's really cool, and I really appreciate all of those insights. And speaking about being a kid, let's put
you in that mindset again here, Please complete this sentence. When I grow up, I'd like to when I grow up, I would like to yeah, yeah, hmm, make a difference. When I grow up, I would like to make a difference. And what would that look like now? I mean, I think for me, it's leaving a legacy, having an impact, making a change, having some sort of piece of me that that lives on and inspires people or effects change in some kind of meaningful way.
You know. To have a purpose in my life while I'm alive is great, But to be grown up and then after I'm gone, to have continue to have purpose I'm finding as important. It actually gives you a great now doesn't it thinking in terms of that m hm, yeah, I can. I can definitely see that in you while you're speaking. Mm or be president of the universe, you know, whichever one happens first. Well, I thought you already had that one knocked down. No, that's my four year
old okay, supreme master of time, space and dimension. Yeah, she really is. She just has to decide if she's going to use her powers for good or for evil? Are you leaning in any particular? Whatever? Seems to make the biggest difference in the world. Right. It varies from day to day with her, But you know, she is only four,
so she's delightfully thoughtful but also incredibly maniacal as she wants to be. And that's a dangerous combination because there's a lot of like intension and cognition around her maniacality. And I'm like, oh, that's scary. Does she notice when she's being how she's being? One hundred percent she's astutely aware of how intelligent she is, and it's a con choice. Yeah, Okay, I like it. We're all in trouble and no place to hide, or she'll find you. I know, I get it, I really do, and she
will never quit. We hope that she never loses that skill. So kind of standing on that or not, What is the most important thing in life to you right now? Who the capacity to be present, to be mindful, to practice, the ability to be comfortable with the uncomfortable and the ambiguous. Like we as people get so caught up in needing to know what the future has in store for us and what is next or what's behind the next
door or next opportunity or missed opportunities. And that's something that I found myself getting caught up in a lot. But I think on the same vein as being comfortable and loving myself. With that discovery came the discovery of the importance of just being present, experiencing the now. Not to say, don't worry about the leader, because you have to kind of do some planning for the lad but plan for it, but then let it go because you can't continue
to reinvent that wheel, right. I heard that eloquently said earlier today that so many people are constantly planning about the next thing and the next thing. They almost never get when they get to that point. They never get to enjoy the now of it because you're always thinking about what's coming next. So I really love what you're saying, the whole mindfulness and being able to embrace what's going on on even like right this moment, the world is full of
it. Now, the world. Whenever you say I'd like to do something, you know what, his first response is, well, we'll just see about that. Yep, you know like that. It's like you have a plan and you think it's this linear line, but it's like that's the technical in case you didn't know, or an approximation of that. Right. Sure, when this gets transcribed, I'm not quite exactly how that's going to be spelled, but I'll come up with something. So would that being the most
important time of life? What would you like to leave in the world after you've let your life is done. You started talking in terms of making a difference, and what in particular difference you see that you could articulate or be very specific about it, or maybe in this moment, give yourself at least something that's a target that maybe you haven't haven't thought about or if you have. So I think right now my goal is to affect change around grief and
bereavement. It's literally become my life's purpose. My life's mission, and I would like to educate people on grieving and its processes and the science behind it and the experience with it. But I would also like to change the legislation around bereavement and bereavement leave and bereavement care and death care in the United States. I think that that would be an incredible gift and a legacy to leave behind. I agree with you, And it's not something that is talked about
regularly, is it. No, And that's why I chose the work that I do and started the business that I did, was so I could do that and give that to people, to foster that dialogue. You know, talking about death doesn't have to kill you. It really is a part of life and we can't avoid it. So why avoid it? Well, that's a courageous thing to take on because it's not like you just go out and
you go to work. You have to teach people language first. You have to get inside of their understanding of what they think it is and that it isn't because they're not present while they're in a grief state and all the other things that go along with it. It's not like you can hand them something. Now it's all better you know, you take this now pill or blueprint
or book or roadmap or anything. And grief is so personal and individualize that there's no blanket statement or scripts or anything that I can say, So you really have to continually reinvent the conversation every time you talk to someone new about
it. And that's a challenge, but it's also a pleasure for me to get the honor of doing that work well kind of hearing it in my words, you know, as a business and life coach, what I actually hear is the whole notion of giving people something, you know, to kind of deal with the noise going on in their head and all the thought to store, not thinking that they're true and real and need to be acted on or
to be avoided. But they're just like the air that's going on around you, and a leaf falling through the air, and all the other million things that happen every moment that you don't notice, except for some of them hook you and trigger you correct And it's how do you not brace for impact and breathe through those moments and accept the inevitables and the ambiguous and the scary and
the uncomfortable. How do we get comfortable, being uncomfortable cool, And it's all about, you know, having it take less and less away from your day instead of spoiling your whole day or your whole week. You know, it comes back to maybe it's only an hour, maybe it's only a minute. Maybe it's something you can learn to chuckle with afterwards about your response to whatever it was. And then you for a moment you feel compu and you say, we'll bring on the next one. And then when it comes to
you got what I wish for, so we are. It's like learning to swim in the ocean. You know, you get dropped in the middle of this and you have to learn how to like surf these waves about any experience, and eventually, over time you learn how to tread water and ride the wave. But it's a really stiff and steep learning curve that no one can prepare you for until you experienced it. Yeah, and the alternative to getting good at it is to drown and die correct quite literally, some people choose
to do that. They don't do anything else the rest of their lives. They don't choose to do it. They don't choose to do anything. And that's really the success to you know, the key to successful grief is choosing to be open to the opportunities to experience joy and exactly as opposed to having something that's either this or that. Maybe there's by being mindful, there's other opportunities and things that can present themselves that will buy you a piece of a
cookie right now, if not a whole one being present exactly. So that's really great. And I love your take on life. I love your take on you know, answering these questions. And I got a baker's question for you. You know, do you go to a baker much? No, not particularly, but the one I go to is really beautiful. So if I get five a dozen Muttons muffins, I get a thirteenth one for free. Uh huh, I've never bought Yeah, exactly, I've never So this
is the baker's question. Okay, So, hey, what is the thing that most people misunderstand about you? Oh? Oh gosh, that my personality. I am. I am loud, and I take up a lot of
space, and I am excitable and like a puppy sometimes. But really that is because I have ADHD and OCD and chronic PTSD and all of those fun neurospicy things culminate into this really great personality that I just don't apologize for anymore, and go, you know what, I am who I am, and this is how I am, and this is how I navigate the world. And I'm not always great at it, but I do my best and I mean well. But a lot of people take the big personality or the loudness
as aggressive or bossy or too much or so I think. You know, once people get to know me and they understand how my mind works and how I navigate the world, then they go, oh yeah, like yeah, I hear so many times like oh I really thought you were the B word when I first met you, or oh I thought you were like super aggressive and like a lot when I first met you, And I'm like, yeah, I know, and I try not to be, but then I run into the risk of stifling myself, and so I usually forewarn people, be
like, hey, if you're gonna hang out with me, just understand I take a a lot of space, So sorry ahead of time if that's a problem, but let me know, and there's the door. I'll tell you what just for the moment. Imagine a fish trying not to be a fish, right unless it's called Wanda exactly. I wonder if Wanda really knew her name was Wanda maybe, And that was a great movie, one of my all time one of my favorites. Yeah, well maybe we have a future
watching some all time favorites together. I love that Love it double feature with Doom and no fish called Wanda. There you go, absolutely great great casts in both. I love it. So that's it for the scripting questions. Do you have anything, any of any questions or anything that you'd like to say about the questions or this experience. I love this, like, I really think that this is an important dialogue. I'm not going to lie. You sent me a list of questions and I was like super overwhelmed and at
ADHD neurodivergency. Like I read the first five questions and I had to close the email and then I forgot it existed because out of site, out of mind. And then I went back and looked at it today and then I had like not a panic attack, but I like about it. And then I, you know, I was like okay with it, you know, so here we go talking about that neurospicy but but no, like anybody else
who does this like, don't get overwhelmed by the list of questions. Just understand it's a it's a conversation and and just the opportunity to talk about myself is new for me. Nobody really asks about me and the opportunity to share my passion for my work. And if it's okay, I'd love to share you know, my website and if we could include that, that would be
great. So for people who are looking for grief and bereavement support for resources I own on Tuesdays we wear Black and I can be found on www dot ot WWB dot com or on Tuesdays we Wear Black dot com, where I host a free educational blog and naturally have credited resources for grief. Member well said, thank you now before we before we part, do you have any questions for me? Oh? What was your favorite cartoon as a kid?
My favorite cartoon as a kid, there were so many. So being a freshman in college and having done up all for off Riday night and hearing that Warner Brothers intro to that Oscar winning rabbit on Saturday morning, mm hmm, never miss sirih is so beautiful. So when I was a kid, I would have to say, my very favorite, my my very favorite one was
probably Deputy Domo because they were all misfits mm hmm. They weren't better than anybody, and they all had these really quirky personalities and really strange way of speaking, very distinctive. And then probably close behind that would be all the Popeye episodes. Oh but I really I really felt let down when I ate spinach. Yeah you know, I hear that a lot. That's because you're eating it out of a can, so you gotta eat it fresh. So
thank you for asking that probing question. Now you know my deepest darkness about Popeye. The real question is do you like spinch spinach? So you gained something from Popeye? Then a matter of fact, I got spinach in my refrigerator right now. I love having it on salads rarely until it's starting to get a little bit long in the tooth, thud while I while I boil it, But it's usually just another grain. I like it on pizza.
Excellent spinach pizza. You spinach and chicken on pizza. We've got a future. I can see that. So actually, because I don't eat a lot of bread, I actually take shredded chicken and I turn it into like a pizza crust, like I have a recipe for like baked shredded chicken, and it turns that into the pizza crust. And then I'll put either like a cheese sauce or something on it, or an Alfrido sauce, and then I'll do my shredded cheese and my spinach and like bacon or something. And so
you got chicken, bacon, pizza. We have covered the beach in terms of topics. I love it. We've managed to get into food of them we both have in the same lane with regard to protein and green well and you'll get a little bit of everything with me when you talk to me. So we don't want to thank you for you know, opening yourself up and spending this time. And we really did get an opportunity to experience what the world looks like while you trying to do something. And it'll be very interesting
to see or enjoys what we've gotten done here. I enjoyed this AMENSI I appreciate the opportunity for it absolutely. Before we say goodbye, I just want to reach out and invite all of you, my listeners to call somebody you know or text them or email them, or let know your world works because they're in it. Let them know that you that you love them and that you're looking forward to seeing them again soon. With that said, everything else,
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