Hi, I'm Diane Grissel. I'm the author of The Silver Dispedience Playbook, and I'm also known as Silver Dispedience. And today I want to read to you an excerpt from my book on the difference between selfesteem versus selfconfidence. There's a lot of talk these days about building selfesteem. We worry about if we've heard it in our kids or if our own self esteem has been damaged. Frankly, be more concerned about your self-confidence.
Here's the difference. Self esteem is how positive we feel about ourselves or our self love. Self-confidence is built by our actions. It's built by our willingness to test our abilities to handle life, people, and the situations that come out us day after day after day, pushing forward, knowing that we cannot necessarily predict the outcome. self-confidence is a verb. It's not static like a noun. It develops from our choices and actions in situations involving ourselves and others.
self-confidence is the foundation that is necessary for building self esteem. By our age, we've had countless challenges that have tested our abilities to cope, overcome, surmount, and thrive. If we allow ourselves to see our past history kindly and clearly. We had seen mountains of proof that we've gotten stronger every year and honed immense capabilities for navigating life's challenges that seem to be coming at us rapidly. Self esteem follows self-confidence. It results from.
That's a little tongue twister there. It results as in self esteem and self-confidence result from knowing that each challenge tested the strength of our self-confidence. The more we're challenged and able to confirm that we have the ability to handle a myriad of experiences, self-confidence builds. Self esteem grows when we can reflect on how we've managed all those challenges, and then we accept the proof that we've passed a lot of tests. self-confidence should not be
confused with being egotistical. Rather, it's a subtle confidence that grows from understanding our abilities, realizing that we have the potential to use our talents and improve upon them, and knowing we're OK either way because we'll be learning a long way no matter what happens, Our self-confidence and ultimately our self esteem. That builds on the personal knowledge that we've accumulated lots of experience worthy of our
esteem. So that's what I have to say about the difference between self esteem and self-confidence. Thank you very much for joining me again. I'm Diane Grissel. I do these readings from my book that's available on Amazon, the Silver Dispedians Playbook. Thank you for tuning in.