Good morning, good afternoon and good evening. We're here at FZ2 and we're so grateful for the past two weeks. Honestly, it's been a great start of a journey. It's been a great start of a community that's coming together and it's already sharing with each other. So I cannot wait to see how far we're going to go with this. And yes, I'm going to say we because a podcast wouldn't be a podcast without either a host, a listener or a guest.
So all three of us, we're all part of it and that obviously for as long as you decide to join. But for those that do, again, I cannot wait to hear more of your thoughts on what gets spoken about, what gets conversed with our guests that will be joining us in the next conversation. So thank you so much. Thank you so much. Honestly, knowing that even just raising and starting the conversation on what's on the other side of the coin has impacted someone.
And we're only at the first step in this journey, just knowing that we're already impacting someone from the get go in terms of provoking thoughts. It's already a success to us because that is the intention of this podcast is to provoke as many thoughts as possible and for us to also be able to develop our own truths, our own answers and our own values.
Be able to challenge the status quo, be able to just refine our own mind of what's not needed, what's just sitting there for the sake of it and what's actually bringing value to ourselves are things that are really going to be of a must in terms of the goals that we have for this. But today it's going to be all about intentions. It's going to be all about understanding how intentions can show in our lives and in our relationships.
And there's going to be a recording of a conversation with a close friend that we recorded actually before the podcast was even alive. This was one or two months ago when it was only an idea. We didn't have any microphones, if not our phone, and we did only started recording the conversation from halfway through.
So I'll give a little bit of a pre but in terms of intentions and why they're even something that are worth talking about is because having set intentions in certain things can already set you for success. I was just speaking with someone yesterday about how they spent 2022 setting up all their intentions and 2023 has just been a go go go go go and they've been able to smoothly grow and evolve just because of those intentions that they had set once before.
And this person is also going to join us for a biographic episode in the next couple of weeks. I'm not going to share too much just now but definitely excited to hear their story and how they've got to be the person that they are right now which is the person that I've met. But I have no idea of person that they were before so I'm very excited to dive into their story and learn a little bit more about them.
Another thing about intentions that I wanted to share today was also the intentions don't need to be huge. They can be as little as what I want to eat for breakfast to as big as being a yes or no on your wedding day. But irrelevantly from how big intentions are they will set your life up for either success or failure. Now success or failure is not a one fits all but it's whatever feels a success to you and whatever feels a failure to you. And there's been so many times that we've all failed.
We're actually not where we wanted to be and sometimes where we felt like oh my god we're already here like this is amazing. The only difference between the two is that on one side we might have had either the wrong intentions or no intentions at all and we might have just fell into the motions and go with the flow.
On the other side we might have set the right intentions which automatically helped us set the right actions that we needed in order to get there and motivated us along the way to then get to a position where the goal is now your present and you're now still trying to download the fact that you are leaving your goal. But the only thing that set you there is the intention that you had for yourself.
Like when I look at something as small for example of this podcast as the introductory sound we found it. We found it because it sums up exactly what this podcast is going to be about and it's genuine truth. Just like the first part of the introduction it stops abruptly right where the drop was supposed to be and that signifies how sometimes the smallest truth can interrupt the biggest of a party and it might piss you off at times because truth is not always light to take in.
Sometimes it's hard to take in and sometimes we might refuse to even listen to the truth just out of self preservation from either being hurt or having to change our own ways. But the truth is needed because the truth will set you free. Will set you free from the maybes and will certainly set you free from the ifs and regrets.
And that is especially something that gets connected so much to genuine presentation of yourself in terms of your thoughts, your actions and your reactions and your behaviours all align in terms of core values and they're not adjusted based on the audience but they're adjusted based on the change that happens from within.
So the sound of a book opening up is us opening up to our life, opening our book of life without the fear of being hurt, without the fear of judgement or shame because it's a recollection of art. Whatever we've done, whatever we've experienced, whatever we've said and done, it's got to the position that we are right now. Everything that has happened from, with or to us has led us to the position that we are right now. Good or bad, this is it. There's no good or bad, it's just it.
And intentions, they get to shape that it's in a huge way, in a huge way. Because even over the past two weeks, even though a lot of thoughts and feedback were great, there's still that underlining self-doubt and fear of what's to come in terms of okay now it's only 40 people that are listening in but what about when it's going to be 100? What about what happens when it's 1000 or 10,000 or a million or whatever?
Knowing that everything that you say is going to be heard and judged and sometimes even prejudged even before it gets said takes a pressure on us and it links to social anxiety as well in terms of how we show up in society and in our relationship with people that we fear the unknown of how what's going to be said is going to be taken without even knowing whether it's going to be liked or not which is, it baffles me.
But at the same time it was a great representation of how those intrusive thoughts can just sneak in upon us and try to hide us from the intentions that we accept but also sometimes they just try to derail us from the path that we've decided to have but also it's a great reminder that for now this is where we are, this is what we're going to be focusing on no matter what's going to happen no matter how big or small it's going to be this is where we are and that's all that matters.
All the intentions that we set today are going to be the successes or the failures that we receive tomorrow.
So without any further ado a little bit of pre- it's a conversation that got inspired and started from the topic of looking at people in the eyes while speaking and how that can be misjudged by certain people and how maybe someone can see as a hidden agenda or seduction or whatever it is and how that could be avoided as well by simply communicating what it is because to be fair looking at someone in the eyes could mean so many different things in
so many different occasions but it's also really really important that we don't assume that the occasion or the circumstance define those intentions. We need to make sure that we define our own intentions checking in with ourselves why am I showing up in this way in this conversation or what how do I want to show up in this conversation what's the goal what's the intention why am I spending time with this person why am I saying this why am I saying that.
Truly understand our intentions help us understand ourselves help us understand whether the actions or the things that we say or the ways that we react to certain situations are also coming from a place of presence and consciousness or they're simply coming from a place of vicious cycle a cycle that we're still living in a cycle that we still haven't broken and it's dictating our actions even before we know what our actions will be so let's go into it and I'll see you on the other side.
Because like even that what you just said it's like so it works here but it doesn't work there it's like it's another thing that we've learned how to do as humans that can parameterise so much and have double standards as well. What works here what works there what do you mean? To me everything works everywhere as long as you want it to work like it's. No no no but that thing you were just talking about like you were like. Oh the looking at your eyes like staring. Yeah yeah yeah.
Like you were saying how can that like would you do it in a workplace I said I would like I like obviously through camera I try to do it as much as I can but also when I do my co-workers I because I want to I feel like there's a said the eyes are like the door to your soul or something like that. I truly believe in it because like. I do as well. That's how you can see someone also like the genuineness and how involved they are in the conversations because.
Yeah but it can get too much yeah but it can get like I mean like it can get to a point where I feel like my girl's gonna get pissed off at me if I'm looking because there is something to it it's like look like there is something to it and like and then I think like. To me it's intention to meet all of our intentions because if the intentions are right then the action is going to be right. Obviously there is some actions that are. Yeah you're right you know what. Yeah sorry yeah.
You're getting to it it's fine it's fine. But it's that it's the intention because like I could do this with someone where I'm not having a conversation like this to get to a different way like if I was to if it was to be like on a date like obviously the like the way I'm kind of like maneuvering the conversation or shine a different light it's one more light on top that you shine. Yes. So me and you are shining three lights and then the date you shine the fourth light. You never said it better.
So it's like. There's just a little bit more toothiness to your smile I get it obviously that like yeah. And that I just call me in the conversation like that just because the intention is different because that is to see where it could go romantically and that's another side to it you know. This is like just having a good conversation with someone that I think that's best friend you know.
I was thinking that yeah I was thinking that I was like I was sitting back and I'm like I am at ease looking you looking at you right because yeah because it's because yeah because we've established that frame of conversation where it's like it's a couple of buddies talking and like you're right and like let's say if you went on a date is that almost like that fourth light is now shining.
Yes. But it but like it gets complicated at work say and different things like that and like but that's where it that's where it's all about like like honesty and just being open. It's just like establishing things you know. To me I always like to and I learned this through the sales experience it's all about preempting then having to push back you know. It's like if I can put myself in a position where I don't have to push back it's a win win you know.
There's no drama whatever so it's a sub-maintain from the yeah like as you go and from the get go you know. And it's it's probably one of the reasons why a lot of like just a general relationship it could be whatever type of relationship it could be we fuck them up because we just get into it with the wrong intentions. Because we what? What do you mean? It's we? It's humans.
Yeah. We just get into it with the wrong intentions and sometimes we don't even understand our intentions or we don't understand what those intentions are influenced by actually because the last situation that I had. Situation shit. Yeah because it wasn't a relationship but it wasn't even nothing.
Was with this woman and the way that I went into it I didn't question my intentions because it wasn't in the present because it was like almost going in the autopilot and that relates back to when I was saying that I did not know myself and when I was getting into this relationship and it just built into something that it shouldn't have been but it was and it taught me how to then be more conscious about it.
So the intentions that I had was like and I had to really question myself in order to get there I had the beauty, the beautiful girl complex and much more but whereas like when I was younger when I didn't have a relationship at all I would see all these beautiful women and you turn on TV and whatever there's this concept of what a beautiful woman is and then that they get everyone and they can choose whoever they want and I wasn't like the one
chosen by them so it kind of becomes like a question okay I'm never going to be with someone that's like figuratively good looking and that everyone's attention is on and that was like naturally ingrained so it became to it without being conscious and I went into this sort of a situation shift I call it because she was the woman that everyone's attention goes to when she walks down the road you know so she was getting all of that but at the
same time she chose to be with me for those period of times that happened and I was like to me that was like the win or the success that society creates you know I was like oh they like the beautiful woman you know so because I went into that and then at the end I understood that my intentions were influenced by wrong reasons not wrong reasons but just reasons that I fully didn't understood that kind of like made me think of okay so whatever
I go into it I need to question my intentions so that I can be clear about it and that then it doesn't create circumstances that can go sideways because the whole situation shift went pretty sideways for reasons that that's just a different whole conversation but that where that's where intentions all come from so even if you were to stare at someone like this as long as the intentions are clear and are spoken about and everyone understands
them then it's on you to make them understood and to make them known obviously but if the person can receive them then that's a different situation it's not on you it's on the receiving part so so you felt good about having this relationship with this girl who was like she was a she was a head turner or whatever yeah but you but like you know a lot of people would say that about you that you were a head turner so what that's so what how do you feel
about her now that's the self that's the self lack of confidence that I had you know now I'm starting to now I'm like that situation also kind of made me realize yeah I am I am a snack you know kind of like but it wasn't just that it was just like that was something that made me question it even more but that's something that growing up because not everyone is open about their intention and who they like because this this fear of judgment or
this fear of rejection no one talks about their likes and it should be something normal like if I like someone I should well I shouldn't feel like almost the rejection side of things because it's it's just a part of life you know but because I was fear about it but also over all the other people probably were fear about it and they some of them they told me after when I told them oh by the way two years ago I totally had a crush on you and they
were like oh she said me too and like no one yeah we both didn't tell each other and and that's this like me being open about it so it's like a universal truth there like step up yeah yeah 100% 100% just be true to your intentions with anyone that you want to have something with you know like if it's like because we all are we we walk down the street whether you're single married in a relationship whatever you see that person is like oh shit
wow you know but the intention at that point is like okay this is just something of thanks this is just something of the eye just momentary it's not something that we really want to build something into so the intentions are different so it's like it's a side for the eye great but I want something else or I have something else you know so it all comes down to intentions and we have to understand our own intentions in order to then be open about
it so that we can also point to the other person that it's okay to be open about it yeah I mean I think like women are always going to be a difficult position because they have to say it's kind of like right that I am open to situations it's like putting your linkedin like profile like I'm open to like the conversation right but like you know and this is like this is evolutionary psychology this is like hardwired into us this is like
very difficult to change maybe it will change one day but like right now relational dynamics work in such a way that you know a girl is looking to be chosen by well like yeah it's basically the best guy that comes forward isn't it yeah you pick it's even though it's because I was like that as well it's the lack of self-confidence to understand what we truly want and to say no to what we don't want what's not for us yeah because I've said yes to
that situation shift because I came into it with the wrong intentions and then it led me to somewhere that I didn't want it to be so if I had realized that beforehand then I would have said no to what someone else would have said yes to yeah yeah yeah and then we can prevent ourselves to be but then again you I mean you were saying before like you know no regrets the life you've led the experiences you've had it's just a major you
I'm full of pride and how are you gonna know what you want unless you like go for it yeah yeah I'm a little bit but like I think like you know for a guy it's like you know for a girl it's different right for a girl it's about like you know it's about like her choosing and saying yes and no to like certain guys that are coming in like the requests that are coming in for a guy it's like okay like you should I think you should the aim is like
for everyone is like I want to effectively settle down in whatever way that is yeah be happy I've got a partner probably I've got a partner right we're a loving partner of same sex different sex whatever it is and and you know we do our thing and that's it yeah and that's and then we're in love and that's great and it's like for a guy to get there for a guy for the guy's path it's I think he needs to you know have a couple of
different experiences under his belt and then choose from that and it's like the way that he's gonna get there is by you know realizing that like my personality is not like it's not like completely plastic in which it can just be molded in any which way I've got a call by some lousy but I can exactly but I can I can I can veer into certain way I can like become something greater than I currently am and like and you have to do that as a
guy you have to like you have to do it there it's really important to make the distinction into tell like my yourself to be a certain way because you're expected to and my yourself to be a better self that you can be like those two to me though they go they can go into two very different paths. Go on and say that more.
Like the first path could go into going into what you're expected to but that doesn't necessarily resonate with you but you've grown yourself to believe that that's what you should be so much that you kind of fell into into it and you you started seeing your life being almost created by everyone else but you and sometimes more times than ever you don't even realize it when we're there but we just realize it when it just goes sideways at some point
where we're like I can't do this anymore or I want more or I mean we can dis-address examples that I hear from people whether in media or in songs or whatever way they call they sing their heartbreaks where it's like oh you did this to me you did that to me or I deserve more I need more of life or whatever I don't want to do you anymore or whatever it is like there's so many stories out there but it's also a matter of like you said try and fail
like put yourself in the position to try to try and also in the position to realize whether that trying is successful and it's going to be successful you're always going to feel successful about it or you really think that they could be more you're just afraid to see whether there could be more you know because I feel like a lot of people that's where they they're afraid of taking that step the danger of not knowing what could happen so I think
it's like I think it's so I think it's interesting in the fact that like the man's path is kind of like laid out right well like so if you look at a man's path it's like it's the hero's journey you know you're the young adventurer you get these adventures that makes you a man that makes you capable that makes you efficient and then at that point you get a wife and a daughter right so what's the woman's journey that's that's the mystery no one has
that mapped out oh yeah I mean it has been like the woman has to be pruned like so what is the woman's journey what is it but in that like archetypal way in that a man's journey is this the perfect let's say way of a man's journey is this so what's a woman's perfect journey though I mean I personally as of now I don't make distinctions like to me it's more about the people more than like their genders like their genders is something they
don't necessarily choose to they might fall into it because they have it and never question whether it could be more than that and that's where the society is going now more people are actually questioning do I really want to just be what my body is or do I want to want more like that's why there's so many like gender fluids and like all these labels that I come out like if I was to start like listen to them it wouldn't end but it's it's
great because it's helping people identify more to what they could be more than what they just hadn't like what it has been you know and the mapping if we were to really categorize it to like woman like what's the woman to be is like she has to be pruned like when I say prune I don't know what their understanding how many understandings there could be of the word prune but like someone that's like the virgin or it does she does she's not too
experienced because then she's like she falls under I don't know if we can swear about how this law yeah she'll like get the bad name the one that goes with everyone and she'll never get family she'll never be stable and she'll probably end up with a 40 years old with five five kids of five different like that like all those connotations that that's created you know and that puts the woman into like a back a back position of so um so I
can't experience my own sexuality like the man can if not I have this bad connotation of me which is a bad place to be because we were given this amazing organism this amazing body why not experience it the way that we want to like to me it's a gift like every occasion I can to experience more of this body I put myself into it like whether it's a pain whether it's like pleasure whether it's whatever I I got this if you can see
this two scars here and now they're like very healed I got an electric bike and I was just like crawling down the stream with my earphones I just had the massive well and I like like an extremely should like a you're like a base jumper I just go I just go for life no fear yeah obviously I won't jump out of a plane without a parachute but okay that's the limit that yeah yes like always be like be smart like be smart by your decision like or don't
be no don't be smart no no not too smart the advice should be don't be smart be dumb yeah but at the same time like understand that the cupid's more I'm just trying to make it like weird thinking like to structure no no no be dumb be an idiot not too much not too much because eat whatever you want to eat put yourself inside the microwave I know that come on where are your shoes on where are your shoes in the house it's okay to try it all
but there's just certain things that are like what are you really doing it for like come on come on there is some people that like like I don't have seen people like closing themselves in their refrigerator for like hours just to prove that they could beat the cold but they've also learned how to do so like it's not like one day they just wake up and okay let me do it you know so it's like there's a bit of planning to it and that
is that is where my hedonism stops it's like I'm also conscious and rational about what I can do and if I can do something let me just learn how to do it you know and that's why like you saw me here so in I learned how to do that I learned how to do like play the guitar I learned how to take care of these plants I learned how to take care of a house like how I started ironing when I was six and that's one of the things that I'm so grateful
of my mom she taught she started teaching me things from I was like a kid started cleaning and started cooking by the time I was eight all these things so it's like there's just not enough that I can learn and it's just gonna put me in so many different positions and to meet so many different people because then I'm not a specialist I don't like to refer myself as a specialist at all no no no I would rather learn 10 things at 50% level
and connect them all than learning one thing at 100% and that too I like that yeah I would agree with that 100% yeah I like that a lot so another thing and not being a little ant specialist no doing the same thing over and over yeah because then the thing they just and there's a lot of people that are like they do they believe so firmly that they're expert at life just because they're expert at that one thing that's so fucking true dude
yeah I've got mates like that they're really expert in their field like I've got a doctor
mate like that and it's like can you show? No I'll roll this but like that's it we'll have this but yeah there's a doctor mate and he's like really successful doctor I went to school with him and like and he's an arsehole fan and it's like do you know I just want to say to him like do you know these two things you know arsehole and you know fucking medicine dude and that's it you know like you know you're talking your big talk about fucking
politics and you're like getting in the aisle so dude you like I know how your diary of your day works like you don't at the time to look at this stuff and the level of that needs to be looked at sometimes when you're talking about certain things so yeah yeah there's so much of that going around it's a disease it's generally the human disease like it comes all down to ego to me like it's just the ego and the ego relies in the shadows
because it's the facade that we create it's not our true self because the not needing things to prove your I just realised this is recorded right yes like if my body ever listens to this it's like super specific he's an arsehole fan and a doctor I mean they could get a lot of people it's London right yeah I don't know a hundred arsehole doctors yeah I'm learning I'm thinking of learning what I'm thinking I'm planning to also get DJ
Seth so DJ Will the doctor that's his name DJ Will Jenner he's a very smart man he's very intelligent we need also people like that in society because if not we wouldn't have great doctors we wouldn't have great astronauts or great entrepreneurs that actually do good things until he doesn't but it all comes down to the ego you know we need we need definitely people like that so like they're willing to put themselves on the line like
they're willing to just give themselves to cause you know like doctors the life that they do they almost don't breathe come on like good to them good to them that they're willing to give their life to a better cause so greater cause because they are helping people people that don't want to call a cop yeah like I'm someone that I'm like if I was to be on my deathbed like I'm good to go but there's people that do want to stay so it's
great that there's also other people that have learnt how to be able to extend our time you know. Well mate I mean you say that's kind of fatalistic what you just said there. It's not like if I have no I mean if I have. Yeah it's just good that the medicine industry is there I guess. I mean but that's the thing because even there it's just all by choice like Switzerland that has a they're like they're open with the father death how do you call it? Assisted suicide.
Yes exactly so they give people the choice like life doesn't have to be for everyone and because I'm also firmly believe that there's more to it after the physical death that's why I'm okay with whatever but at the same time I know that I can still have more so if I have the choice and like if I'm like paralysed you know. Yeah. Obviously. Yeah in extreme circumstances you would do it. It's not vegetable.
Yeah of course dude of course but like I mean it's just like I guess people get nervous if you start talking like that because they just think like Susie you know we wouldn't want you thinking like that like we all agree if you if your body or your life gets wrecked then yeah you should have the ability to go out to Switzerland and terminate the fucking thing. What I'm saying is. But don't.
No no no. But people get edgy because it's just like yeah but mate don't start thinking that way because we love you and we would just stick around probably that's what your mates would be saying.
And this is exactly what I was saying when you dig you dig you dig because I didn't because now obviously you've made me aware of this that well it is something obviously that I can get up to be aware to if I take the time to actually think about it but now that you've made me aware of it if I'm going to say something like that again I'm going to add the beat that I just said but I only said because you questioned it. Does that make sense?
Yeah but also you should like I mean you know also who cares. You remember you said at the start of the conversation it's like you're like look people are going to take me how they take me.
Yeah but there's also I'm also very aware that there's some people that are very like some minds that are very impressionable so they hang on words and they just hung on specific words based on the awareness that they have of concepts because like I can say the exact same sentence and two people can understand it. Two more. Yes thank you.
Just I think one notes that I want to make for the recording is that there is some impressionable minds and it's really important that everyone that does put a message out there is also aware about the fact that some people can misinterpret the same thing that you're trying to say and just make it look different you know. So the more I learn about the interpretations that could be the better I can come in a conversation and put a message out you know.
And here we are back to Self-heed to succeed humans first after a nice match of table tennis with words. That's how we call it and that's how we like it.
The thing with intention is that we can be in complete control and we can regain that complete control by challenging the behaviors that we already have by challenging the reasonings that we've automatically playing throughout our life and those specific informations that we'll find only through a process of introspection are going to be the answers that we'll determine our lives, that will determine our current present and our current perception of present
and well-being but also our future present and if there is one thing that we can take from the importance of setting the right intentions, making those intentions aware, making people aware of our intentions and also understanding that it's not our responsibility for the individual to understand our intentions because not always someone is equipped with the tools to understand someone else's thought processes or someone else's intentions.
But it's definitely on us to take responsibility for whatever intention we let or decide to set at the beginning of anything in life. And with that, what does intention mean to you? What was the event that showed you why it was important to set intentions at the beginning of anything? We look forward to the next episode. We look forward to our conversation with Tsu-Chi and thank you so much for listening in.
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