On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the painful emotion of rejection. They discuss why rejection stings so badly, how to reframe and depersonalize rejection, logic vs. emotion when it comes to rejection, why it can make many of us shut down, how to start to get more comfortable with rejection, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Rejection...
Jun 30, 2025•45 min•Season 7Ep. 26
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about self-sabotage and why we do it. They discuss how to identify if you’re self sabotaging, the different ways self-sabotage can present itself, if they consider themselves self-sabotagers, self-criticism vs. self-compassion, how self-sabotaging behaviors can be a protective mechanism, avoidance, fear of failure and discomfort, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 7 minutes to skip th...
Jun 23, 2025•44 min•Season 7Ep. 25
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about conflict languages! Much like love languages, we each gravitate toward certain patterns when in conflict. Em and Jen break down five different conflict languages to help you understand how you approach and navigate conflict. They discuss how to identify which conflict language(s) you speak, the avoidant + anxious dynamic in relationships, why you might find your partner's conflict language distressing, if you can change yo...
Jun 16, 2025•42 min•Season 7Ep. 24
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are confronting conflict avoidance! They discuss how they each handle conflict personally, the two ends of the spectrum: from avoidance to reactionary, the benefits and downfalls of conflict avoidance, the temporary discomfort for long-term relief, why practice makes progress, getting comfortable with your tears, and so much more! Em and Jen also share a script to use if you find yourself avoiding a conflict, and answer the question: are we all stuck in...
Jun 09, 2025•43 min•Season 7Ep. 23
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about happiness. They discuss happiness as an unwavering state vs. an emotion just like any other, the difference between happiness and contentment, the role that toxic positivity plays, the pressure we may feel both internally and externally to be only happy during certain life milestones, our obsession with happiness as a culture, why it can feel so scary to be happy, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, a...
Jun 02, 2025•40 min•Season 7Ep. 22
Happy Memorial Day! Emmalee and Jen are taking the week off from a new episode to practice what they preach and allow themselves a break to recharge. In this rewind episode, they dive into the topics of forgiveness, anger, and resentment. Em and Jen discuss why forgiveness is for us and not for the other person, the parts of forgiveness that they struggle with, how anger and resentment play a role, forgiveness AND holding onto your boundaries, self-forgiveness and so much more! Tune in to gain i...
May 26, 2025•43 min•Season 7Ep. 21
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the many versions of ourselves that evolve over time. They discuss comparing our past selves to our present selves, how to release old parts of ourselves while greeting new ones, the emotions of grief & loss occurring simultaneously with excitement & anticipation, radical acceptance and how it ties into meeting new versions of yourself, what happens if the new you doesn't like the life the old you created, and so much more! Tun...
May 19, 2025•43 min•Season 7Ep. 20
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are exploring the topic of comparing ourselves to others. They discuss why we engage in comparison, two different types of comparison, insecurity and comparison, the role social media plays (hint: it's a big one), how to be intentional with social media consumption, using comparison as helpful information to understand what you want, comparing grief, struggles, societal timelines, etc., and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, ...
May 12, 2025•47 min•Season 7Ep. 19
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are back to recording in person at West Chester Studios and unpacking the difficulty behind saying no. They discuss our fears about saying no, why we tend to believe others are going to react negatively to our “no," the resentment that arises when we ignore our boundaries, preferring internal distress over external distress, what we get wrong about boundaries, pausing before saying yes, why discomfort does not equal danger, and so much more! Tune in to ...
May 05, 2025•43 min•Season 7Ep. 18
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the ways in which we're all different from our partners - from attachment styles, to conflict/resolution styles, to love languages, and political views. They discuss the various ways these differences show up in relationships, how to communicate through the differences for a deeper understanding of one another, conflict style differences: needing space vs. the need for immediate resolution, managing different expectations ...
Apr 28, 2025•40 min•Season 7Ep. 17
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee shares a recent experience that reminded her that we are allowed to just survive and that we don’t have to constantly work toward "healing" or "growing." Em and Jen talk about radical acceptance, burnout, living in the present moment, shame spirals, control, and so much more. Tune in to hear their humanity and for permission that we're all allowed to take breaks from progressing and doing "better" or "more" to simply live. PS: Fast forward to around 7:45 to ski...
Apr 21, 2025•43 min•Season 7Ep. 16
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about the "shoulds." They discuss how the "shoulds" or certain, specific expectations of ourselves connect to control, anxiety, and depression, battling the "shoulds" when other people are in a phase of life you envy, why comparison is so innate, what to do when others have expectations for you or of you, what it actually means to "be ready" for something, the "shoulds" of parenting, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight...
Apr 14, 2025•44 min•Season 7Ep. 15
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about vulnerability and why being vulnerable can feel so good...until it doesn’t. They discuss vulnerability, rejection, and self-protection, where the fear of being seen can stem from, authenticity and the fear of judgment, corrective experiences to regain trust, how to work on vulnerability in therapy, real vulnerability vs. unbridled self-expression, how to discern who is safe to be vulnerable around, and so much more! Tune in to gain...
Apr 07, 2025•42 min•Season 7Ep. 14
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are dissecting the difference between avoidance and healing. They start the episode off by explaining how to recognize the difference in your own life and how they can tell the difference in theirs. Emmalee and Jen discuss when saying "no" is a boundary and when it is avoidance, the ability to call out your avoidance as the first step of healing, avoidance/staying busy as coping mechanisms, speaking up about your feelings even if the other ...
Mar 31, 2025•45 min•Season 7Ep. 13
This week on ShrinkChicks, Mercury is in retrograde, so naturally, Emmalee's flight got canceled. Nikki, Emmalee and Jen's producer, is filling in and joining Jen to talk about all things burnout. Jen and Nikki discuss the early signs of burnout & how to recognize it, the personality types that are prone to burnout, the various professions at risk of ignoring burnout, and two different kinds of burnout to pay attention to. They answer your questions about spotting burnout before your breakin...
Mar 24, 2025•50 min•Season 7Ep. 12
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are diving into the fear of being "too much." They start the episode by sharing what "too much" means to both of them and where the feeling/fear can stem from. Emmalee and Jen talk about how we, as a society, feel about authenticity and how that plays a role in the label of "too much." They discuss shame, societal expectations as women, how this fear can show up in one context (work, for example) and not another (at home with a spouse, for ...
Mar 17, 2025•42 min•Season 7Ep. 11
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by the ever-insightful author, dating coach, screenwriter, and fellow podcaster Allison Raskin to talk all things dating and relationships! The episode begins with Emmalee and Jen learning about Allison's own personal journey and how it led her to help others navigate romantic relationships. They discuss how dating has changed over time, the reality of dating apps, dating intentionally, burnout from dating/the apps and how to put guardrails a...
Mar 10, 2025•46 min•Season 7Ep. 10
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are covering a long awaited episode topic: ADHD. They share about their ADHD diagnoses, when they were diagnosed, and their different experiences living with ADHD. Emmalee and Jen discuss the difference between men and women with ADHD including the age of diagnosis and presentation, shame that can arise from ADHD, what masking is and why we do it, emotional dysregulation, rejection sensitivity, the benefits of ADHD, how to navigate a partnership when on...
Mar 03, 2025•47 min•Season 7Ep. 9
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are sharing their thoughts on green flags in relationships and the signs of a healthy partnership. They discuss both green flags when first dating and green flags within the relationship once it is established. Em and Jen answer your questions about the feeling of unfamiliarity that can occur when dating someone with green flags, how to tell if someone is on their “best behavior” at the beginning or if that’s actually who they are, the tran...
Feb 24, 2025•44 min•Season 7Ep. 8
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about balancing family dynamics along with your relationship with your significant other. They're also discussing this from YOUR perspective and the balance that your significant other strikes between you and their family of origin. They cover topics like the natural insecurity in the in-law relationship and why it can be harder to set boundaries, speak up, etc., expectations we have about our in-laws, their thoughts on the phrase "blood...
Feb 17, 2025•45 min•Season 7Ep. 7
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are answering your questions about how to recognize your own patterns in your relationships. The episode starts off with some big news from Emmalee! Then, Em and Jen talk about the insight, awareness, and action needed in order to understand the patterns within your relationship. They discuss why we seek familiarity from our childhood in romantic relationships, the connection between childhood family dynamics and adult relationship patterns...
Feb 10, 2025•44 min•Season 7Ep. 6
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are so excited to sit down with Alegra Kastens, LMFT! Alegra is the founder of the Center for OCD, Anxiety, and Eating Disorders. She specializes both in the treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) AND has her own lived experience with OCD. Alegra gives us all a greater understanding of what OCD looks like and the different ways it can present. The episode begins with Alegra's story of her onset and journey with OCD. Alegra, Em, and Jen discuss...
Feb 03, 2025•48 min•Season 7Ep. 5
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to be joined by the one and only Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, author, speaker, and global expert in relationships and empowerment! Terri is here to share her infinite wisdom and tell us all about her new book Too Much. Too Much focuses on the concept that Terri coined called High Functioning Codependency (HFC). Terri explains what HFC looks like, where it begins, and who it tends to affect. She discusses its traits and...
Jan 27, 2025•57 min•Season 7Ep. 4
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are answering your questions about self-trust and holding yourself accountable in a compassionate way. The episode begins by addressing the "shoulds" that can come with the start of the New Year and shame vs. self-compassion when it comes to setting goals. Em and Jen discuss self-trust, where it stems from, and how to work on strengthening it. They answer questions about decision making & the "right" decision, fear of regret, external validation, an...
Jan 20, 2025•41 min•Season 7Ep. 3
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen sit down with one of their dear friends, Kayleigh Summers, LCSW. Kayleigh, aka The Birth Trauma Mama, shares her vulnerable birth trauma story and details how the experience led her to where she is today. Kayleigh discusses topics like toxic positivity when it comes to trauma, why “getting over it” is not the goal, others invalidating birth trauma, mistreatment from providers, why provider-to-patient communication matters so much, the defin...
Jan 13, 2025•52 min•Season 7Ep. 2
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking through your questions and confessions that you're too scared to ask and tell your therapist! They cover topics like asking your therapist what your diagnosis is, processing the fear of judgment in therapy, and what is "too personal" of a question to ask your therapist (such as, do they have a toxic MIL, too?). Em and Jen discuss looking up your therapist online and share the motivations for doing so, how to ask for what you need in session ...
Jan 06, 2025•48 min•Season 7Ep. 1
The holidays are upon us, and Emmalee and Jen are taking a break from a new episode to spend time with their loved ones and recharge for the New Year! This week, they wanted to re-release the episode Inner Child Work & Wounds as this time of year can bring up a LOT. The episode begins with Emmalee and Jen explaining what inner child work actually entails. They discuss inner child wounds and how we can begin to heal them, signs you might want to start doing this work, paying attention to your...
Dec 23, 2024•47 min•Season 6Ep. 30
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are sharing the second part of their two-part series, where they answer your questions about how to survive the holidays this season! They discuss how to bring back childhood and holiday joy, what to do if your kid doesn’t react positively when given a present, the mental load of the holidays, transitioning from your family of origin to the creation of your own family, handling events with family members you’re low or no contact with, how to keep connec...
Dec 16, 2024•46 min•Season 6Ep. 29
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are sharing part one of a two-part series where they answer your questions about how to survive the holidays this season! They discuss how to protect your peace, regressing when you’re home for the holidays, navigating splitting the holidays with your partner’s family, building up your distress tolerance when it comes to disappointing others, holidays highlighting complex family dynamics, handling political differences/conversations, that i...
Dec 09, 2024•43 min•Season 6Ep. 28
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by the incredible Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider, an internal medicine physician, a leading voice in healthcare, founder and board president of End Well, and host of the Before We Go podcast (@beforewegopodcast)! Shoshana shares her personal story of grief, anticipatory grief, and dealing with her own mortality. Emmalee, Jen, and Shoshana discuss the guilt that surfaced when Shoshana was trying to take care of herself while a loved one was ill, sup...
Dec 02, 2024•45 min•Season 6Ep. 27
