¶ Journey From Reform to Conservative Judaism
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I'm doing very well , thank you . Thank you so much .
I'm so excited to talk to you because we're talking about one of my favorite subjects for a decent portion of your interview . I think Challah , I love Challah . We have this thing in our house that somehow I don't know who created it . I think it was my husband , the Challah monster , my daughter .
We've created this kind of mythical character that comes and steals your challah and she pretends to be scared of it and it's very cute , but she gets challahs at home every Friday from school . Because I'm not a baker , so I'm very thankful for that , but we're going to talk a lot about challah today .
Fabulous , thank you . I share a love of it as well .
So I usually start off by asking my guests where they're from , what their Jewish upbringing was like . For my female guests , if they had a bat mitzvah , what that was like . So let's dive in .
Absolutely . I am from Cleveland , ohio . I now live on the West Coast , but I am a Midwesterner . I grew up very Reform . I am now solidly conservative . It's been a journey , continues to be a journey . I didn't know that people made challah growing up .
I thought it came in the plastic bag from the Jewish bakery you had a couple times a year and I did not have a bar mitzvah . Unfortunately , all of my kids have been bar and bar mitzvahed . I did attend Sunday school through ninth grade . I had a confirmation what they called it back then .
I don't know if they even still do that in reformed synagogues , but that was the extent then of my Jewish education , and it wasn't until I went off to college that I really started to learn more .
So they do still have confirmation , because we're members of a reform synagogue and what ours does is pretty cool is . The culmination of it is they take a trip to Germany , and specifically Berlin . Oh , my gosh Because that's really where the reform movement started . So I'm hoping when my daughter is older she's only three , so we've got some time .
Yeah , though with what I'm about to go into , I'm sure she's going to spend a lot of time in Germany . I am about to embark on a graduate program in Holocaust and genocide studies , so I'm sure she'll end up in Germany at some point before 10th grade .
Yeah , I'm very excited with what I'll be able to do with the degree , but I'm a little overwhelmed , understandably .
Yeah .
So you made the transition from being Reformed to Conservative . Usually it's the other way around , which is the journey that I made , because I grew up in a conservative synagogue , though I feel like my personal family was leaning more towards Reformed than Conservative . Like we didn't keep kosher , you know .
We went to like you know the required Shabbats through Hebrew school , but not like extra holidays . Like I feel like I celebrate more holidays now than when I was a kid . I go to like everything . So what caused that transition and what was that ?
transition like and what ?
did that entail for you and your family ?
Oh , it's been absolutely wonderful . So I married a man who grew up , I would say , conservadox really more conservative , but more on the observant side of conservative was a mixed marriage , because it really felt that way .
We were bringing two wildly different backgrounds together and in the beginning we were members of a reformed synagogue and we did not keep kosher . He grew up keeping kosher and then we had kids and that changed everything for us .
We began a journey when we had kids that continues to this day , where we have just been embracing more and more of our tradition and religion and background and heritage and we studied with more observant rabbis once the kids were born , studied with more observant rabbis once the kids were born and ultimately did join a conservative synagogue and sent the kids to
summer camp Jewish summer camp , overnight camp and I really came to hold on to Jewish ideas and thoughts as a tool for parenting . And that's really where it became really helpful , like when the kids were little . I mean now they're in college and beyond .
But when they were really like your daughter's age , but when they were , you know , sort of preschool-ish , I began to see the merits of a lot of Jewish teaching as a wonderful guide for parenting and it was such an easy path then to embrace and I've come to really love it . And that's where we are today . And we do keep kosher ish . Now .
I mean , well , we have , you know , we separate milk and meat and we don't have , uh , you know , we don't eat pork or shellfish , um , except , I must admit , when I travel . Sometimes I have a little linguine and clams , but we won't talk about .
I've heard this referred to as kosher style . If you're not keeping like strict laws of kosher style , right .
So we have separate dishes and and and that , but but right , I don't have two sinks and two dishwashers .
Yes , yes , and some people have special Passover kitchens , which I've seen in some houses , which is extra next level , that they only use it during Passover .
Wow , no , I don't have an extra kitchen .
It requires a lot of space . I feel like you know , being in New York , where I'm impressed that people can have room for two sets of dishes and a dishwasher period . That's always , you know , like we just moved into an apartment that has a washer and dryer , so I feel like I've reached the pinnacle of New York living .
Like our initial apartment we were in for eight years and we had a little countertop dishwasher and then our next place had a real dishwasher and laundry in the building and now we have everything . So I feel like I've made it , which is a weird , touch a corner , a weird like milestone for New Yorkers .
So I read that you majored in art history and undergraduate and for your undergraduate degree and then you decided to pursue medicine . That's a pretty extreme shift . What caused that ?
It's a pivot , but , I have to say , by way of background , studying art to become a physician , I think , should be a requirement for everybody , because I spent four years learning how to look , how to see , and then it became very easy when it was time to , when we were in medical school .
All of my clinical work in medical school went very , very well , because I knew how to look and how to see in a really different way than my biology and chemistry major colleagues or co-students .
The pivot became apparent , though , in college , because I was at school on the East Coast , having grown up in Cleveland , as I mentioned and it was the early 90s , late 80s , early 90s and I became aware of some women's health issues , that there were Supreme Court cases and things like that , and I had not known about any of this growing up in Ohio , and I
wanted to do something about it and I wanted to try and effect some change , and I have always thought that if you're going to try and change something , you have to actually get in there and change it .
So I thought if I had an MD , I could probably have a more of a leg to stand on in women's health than not , and I actually had always spent my whole childhood in one way or another helping other people .
I learned Braille as a child and volunteered at the Sight Center in Cleveland , which is an organization for the visually impaired and blind , and actually wrote with Stouffer's Food , wrote a cookbook for the blind in high school , and I always worked and volunteered in hospitals . So it was no surprise in hindsight but hindsight is always 20-20 .
And if you had told me when I entered college and I went in with the idea of majoring in art history which is sort of interesting to go in with the same major that one goes out with , but anyway if you had told me then that I would be a science geek , I would not have known who you were talking about . But it's been a great combination , I think .
And also then it made it really easy as I know we'll get into later but I pivoted yet again and so the stage was set early on that I was obviously going to be doing lots of different things that were outside of the box .
One has to expect the unexpected when it comes to careers . Yes , yes , indeed , I feel the
¶ Transition to Lifestyle Medicine and Relocation
same way . We moved to New York to pursue musical theater and now . I'm going to be studying the Holocaust , so very , very , very different . But again , looking back , a lot of it makes sense and no one seems surprised . And I've also read that a lot of medical schools .
They like students who aren't necessarily pre-med because it brings a well-rounded doctor out of the program . So if you're interested in going to medical school , maybe you can minor in something science-y and major in history or art or something .
I think it's a great idea . I couldn't agree with you more . I definitely think it matters .
You're going to get a lot of that chemistry in med school and stuff . Anyway , it's not like you're going to miss out on it .
No .
So , while after medical school , you worked at the Cleveland Clinic and you co-created something called Lifestyle 180 . What is that , and can you tell me a little bit about how that came about ?
Sure , so actually at first . So I was in New York as well and I totally respect the small apartment . We did not have laundry in our apartment , so I'm right there with you . But I went in , as I mentioned before , with an interest in women's health .
So I went to med school with that as a focus and I trained at Columbia actually in New York and practiced in their women's health center for a couple years and then , when we moved back home to Cleveland , I started at the Cleveland Clinic in their women's health center . I'm an internist by training , just to give background , so I take care of adults .
And after I had been in the women's health Center for about five years at the Cleveland Clinic , they had a new department called the Wellness Institute that they were setting up and establishing . Treat chronic disease through lifestyle . So think food , exercise and stress management .
And those were things that I was becoming increasingly more passionate about , because no matter how many women I saw a day in my clinic , invariably we always were talking about did you eat breakfast and how are you managing your stress ? Have you moved ? Today , I mean , I was having the same conversation again and again and again .
So the idea that I could be involved on a larger scale and have greater impact was extremely exciting to me , and I also really believe in the power of lifestyle modification to treat and to prevent disease . And the good news is that now and now it's 15 years later it's certainly more mainstream .
Then I felt like some people thought I was crazy , but we did incredible work .
So Lifestyle 180 was a program that was set up to take patients who had what I like to think of as low-hanging fruits what I like to think of as low-hanging fruit , so heart disease and high blood pressure , high cholesterol , diabetes , obesity , even some cancers and put them through a program where they it was a six-week program .
They came twice a week and had nutrition , exercise and stress management classes . We measured everything . We measured labs , we knew about their medications , we ate all of their biometrics , so their blood pressure , their heart rate and their weight , and we also measured behavioral . We looked at different scales , right , how stressed were they ?
And it was so exciting to see over that six weeks and then we followed them actually for a year . So the program in its total was a year and we were were ecstatic because it worked . I mean people , uh , they felt better , which was so exciting to me , and they were able to move the needle on all of it .
So people who were on medicine were able to lower their medicine and sometimes even come off of their medicine , which was really cool . They improved all of their lab functions . So if they had high cholesterol , it got better . If their hemoglobin A1C , which is a marker for diabetes , was elevated , it went down . Their weight went down .
Their blood pressure went down . It was really , really gratifying to see that , yes , you can change what you eat , you can think about how you're going to move , you can think about how you're going to manage your stress and you can therefore have a really positive impact .
We know , nicole , that 75% , 80% depending which study you want to look at of chronic diseases are impacted by lifestyle .
That is a huge number , which I find really exciting because it means that we have so much control , no matter what's going on in the world and God knows , this year there's a lot going on in the world but we still can stop and , in my case , make hollow , which we'll talk about , but we can stop and think every day how we're going to impact our own health .
Which case make hollow , which we'll talk about , but we can stop and think every day how we're going to impact our own health , which therefore , of course , impacts everybody around us . It have a huge ripple effect .
Yes , I am a type two diabetic and I feel like I'm constantly thinking about food and have many , many thoughts on that but that's another podcast completely and have many , many thoughts on that but that's another podcast completely . But I'd like to talk about that too . So someday , yes , yes , yes . We can definitely . Maybe we'll revisit .
We'll just talk about food which , for better or for worse , I love food , so at some point you then ended up moving to .
Southern .
California . What caused that move ? Moving from Ohio to California is a pretty big difference .
It was a big difference and it happened really quickly . My husband had a job opportunity and I was so excited to try something new . We've moved a lot and I love that personally , and the kids were the right age . I didn't want to leave when they were in high school . They were younger then .
I thought it would be easier to move at a younger age and what a treat to come to a completely new environment . I have to say the weather here is lovely being in Cleveland . My husband called me one day at work about the opportunity and it was winter time in Cleveland and it was great from the grounds to the heavens and gosh .
I really don't miss that , quite frankly .
So here we are . I'm originally from Southern California so I understand , but I made the opposite move and I feel like I'm never leaving here , despite the terrible weather . I feel like I'm much more of a New York City girl than a .
SoCal girl , but a lot of my friends and family are very Southern California and they're never going to leave , so I definitely respect that . So let's jump into um .
¶ The Power of Challah Workshops
What what I really want to talk about is your book called Braided Journey of a Thousand Halas . How did that happen ? You know let's , let's I want the whole story . Did you start baking hala and then write a book ? Had you been baking hala already ? Like I want the let's , I want the whole story .
Did you start baking challah and then write a book because you've been baking already ? Like I want the whole I want the whole spiel .
We move , oh love to tell it . We moved back to ohio from new york and I was working at the cleveland clinic and , uh , I am sure in hindsight , nicole , that I had physician burnout , but at this . So now imagine this is 15 years ago .
That was not a common moniker in our vocabulary and I certainly didn't know how to talk about it and nobody around me was talking about it . To say I was stressed out would be an understatement . We had three little kids . Both of our families were there .
I was trying to be a present mom and a present family member and a wife and a spouse and all these things and go to work . It was hard for me . I really struggled . And about this time during the Jewish New Year , a girlfriend of mine from my New York days called and we were chatting .
She was wishing me Happy New Year , asking me what I was doing with the kids You're so cute , I can barely brush my teeth these days and get out the door in the morning . I'm not doing it , I don't know what we're doing and she said oh , you should make challah .
I just came from a mommy and me class at the JCC on the Upper West Side of Manhattan , it's super easy . I was like , yeah , right Back to the comment I made earlier . I had no idea people actually made challah and I'd certainly never worked with yeast , so the idea that I was going to bake something was almost laughable .
But she kept talking about it and it really did sound cool , for lack of a better description and so I tried it that week and I have to say , nicole , it changed my life . I stood at the kitchen counter in Cleveland , I was home alone and I just had my hands in a bowl of dough trying to make challah .
I was not on my beeper , I wasn't answering a page , I wasn't worrying about a patient and I wasn't worrying about my kids . I just was trying to mix flour and sugar in a bowl . And then the crazy thing so I'd never baked bread . So I didn't understand what was going to happen . When you actually bake bread , which is your house , becomes a home .
That smell , that aroma , it's just , it's magical . And there I was a couple hours later , enveloped in the smell , and I took those lopsided loaves out of the oven I'm better now at braiding and they look real like I had made something .
And my kids were so excited , and my husband , who obviously appreciated the tradition a lot more than I did at that time , was incredulous and it was so cool . I did it again the next week and , before I knew it , nicole , I was trying to find a half an hour every Friday to make the dough .
I was trying to find a half an hour every Friday to make the dough , and I did for years and I ultimately realized I had learned a lot of really important life lessons . At this point , we were now living in LA and I thought , okay , I'm clearly not the only stressed out mom on the block and I've learned a lot from this ritual .
I want to share that , and that's what became the genesis for the book . And the book came out in the end of 2018 . And since then , it's just had this incredible life of its own , and I've been able to share it with people all over the country . I now lead workshops . The great news is we're back in person .
It started virtually during COVID , but I now get to travel and make Hama with people . I'm a physician , right , I'm not a baker , so I talk about this and I think about it .
I write about it with that as my lens , where I'm taking this ancient Jewish ritual , which is so powerful , and I'm overlaying it with these ideas and thoughts that I've learned as a physician .
I talk about the importance of mindfulness and being present and managing our stress , and why building community is so important to us , and I found that the more I do this , the more I realize exactly how important it is to do this . It's been a very easy pivot for me .
That's very different than working in women's health , but very , very but helpful , helpful in a very different way . Yeah , I see the connection , but yes , I feel like we were saying it's one of those things that if you had probably told yourself you were going to be doing hollow workshops , you would have thought you were crazy . So a lot to unpack with that .
I have lots of questions . So you said that you , you know , after the book was published , you started doing workshops and speaking engagements . How did that start ? And you know , if I was , you know , to take a workshop with you , what would I expect from that ?
Yeah . So the first year that the book came out and I knew nothing , by the way , about publishing , about books , about it I mean , I wasn't in the author-writer space at that point at all and I started doing what I now , in hindsight , would say was sort of traditional book marketing I did some book tour .
I mean , I went on a little mini tour and it really was , honestly , was COVID , so we had been home a week , the kids were back home from college , we're all in our house in California .
It's tight quarters and I had had the fortune in this past , in the year before and as the book was getting out of meeting all kinds of fabulous people in the holoverse , as my husband calls it , which I think is beautiful .
That's where the holomonster lives in the holoverse .
Yeah , exactly . And a friend of mine reached out from Atlanta and said to me you should teach a virtual class . You know , we're all home , maybe we'll be home a couple of weeks . Little did we know . And my kids said mom , you have a laptop , get a ring light , you have a kitchen studio . There you go . And so I did .
I started that Friday , a week or two in quarantine , offering hollow workshops , and what we do in a workshop is still pretty similar to what I did then . I mean , it's just , it's evolved for sure . But essentially , to answer your question , you know what do you expect at one of my workshops ?
What we do is we make dough together and in the hour that we're together , I talk the whole time . And I'm talking about while we're getting our hands in the bowls of dough and while we're together as a group , having this tactile experience with this ancient Jewish ritual .
I talk about the importance of a ritual , I talk about a tactile experience , I talk about being present , I talk about having a way to manage your stress this is mine , you can pick whatever you'd like but why ? That actually matters to our health because , again , I'm coming at this as a physician . And when we're done .
We have a bowl of dough I like to think of it as a bit like a television show I bring out another bowl of dough that I've made so I can demonstrate braiding and baking and talk about that , but people go home with a bowl of dough that then they can braid and bake at home .
Sometimes I do a longer workshop , depending on the organization , and we do actually do some programming while the dough rises and then we come back and braid it . People go home with a loaf , but you don't go home with finished baked bread .
In general , I have done this at certain facilities where we actually do longer workshops , where we do bake it , but the basic workshop , the one that I do all the time and I've done a hundred of these is we make dough together and have this experience , which I find really empowering .
And what's been particularly gratifying , nicole , since a year ago , since October 7th , is that I not only am working with Jewish groups , but I'm working with all kinds of groups .
I work with churches , I've worked with a law firm , I've worked with corporations , I've worked with a lot of schools and medical schools and universities , and what's so powerful and impactful for me is to build bridges and to work with people of different faiths and different backgrounds and come together , because I think that's how we're going to move forward and
have hope .
I love all of that . I'm so . I love all of that . One of the things you'd mentioned about is the benefits of meaningful rituals , and I feel like I'm not baking challah because no one wants to eat any challah I make or braid because I've made challah before yes . I've made challah before and I cannot braid it to save the life of me . So it comes .
It's a whole mess , like I've had instructors re-braid for me . So there's that . But I have found other things in my life that have become meaningful Jewish rituals , which I think are very helpful
¶ Finding Health Benefits in Meaningful Rituals
. But what do you think are the health benefits of because you say you're coming from this as a physician the health benefits of meaningful rituals , whether it's baking challah or if you're not Jewish , doing something else or going to synagogue on Fridays or whatever that is , what are the health benefits of that ?
or whatever that is . What are the health benefits of that ? Yes , so I think it helps us feel connected and it helps give us purpose , and I find that that is really important for our mental health . And there's a connection between the mind and the body . I mean , when I actually went to medical school , which was 30 years ago , there was the body .
We learned a lot about Western medicine and the body . We didn't necessarily talk so much about the connection between the mind and the body . I've come to really appreciate alternative and complementary medicine together with Western medicine . I think that they work very , very well together .
They work very , very well together and having a sense of belonging and community and ways to manage your stress significantly impact your health , and now we have actually data and research that support that .
So when you have a meaningful ritual so , for example , me making challah when I stop and I make challah on Fridays and I take a deep breath and I am there and present at the kitchen counter , I'm having an impact literally on my body and I'm calming down and being present . That's great for so many .
It's great for my heart , it's great for my mind , it's great for my mood . It doesn't get any better than that .
So you mentioned you'd never baked challah before you started . So , what did you ? It's better now , practice , practice , practice .
Practice does make perfect .
What if someone you know got your book , was interested in doing this specific , meaningful ritual to kind of unwind and center themselves ? How would they start ? Never baked before . What would be your advice to them ?
To get the six ingredients in a bowl and put them on the kitchen counter . It's really just that simple . The lovely thing about this particular ritual we do it every week , it doesn't matter . One week it's great , one week it's not great , who cares ? I actually believe that perfect is the enemy of the good , and it's just the fact that you're engaging in it .
So you just start , and some weeks , even now , like I made a lot of challah . Last week , we were back in Ohio for Rosh Hashanah and I made a lot of challah , which was great fun . Some of it was sublime . I'll just pat myself on the back and there was a batch I made that just wasn't Nicole . I felt so awful . Everyone thought it was fine .
No one said anything , but I was like yuck , this is not my standard . I don't know what happened . I don't know it was the same ingredients . Sometimes that's just life . So how do you do it ? You just start , just get out the ingredients , put them on the kitchen counter , take a deep breath .
One step at a time . So you mentioned not good and good challah . And what , in your opinion ? What makes a challah good or not good ?
oh , other than it's being properly baked fully yeah , no , no , I know it's so subjective , but I want the dough to have a certain feeling , a je ne sais quoi . I can't exactly explain it , but when you , when you feel it and it , you know .
And it actually took me a while the first year or so that I made challah , I was terrified and I didn't alter the recipe . One iota Abby had sent me the recipe .
I copied it exactly , didn't change anything , and it didn't always work though , and I finally realized after about a year oh , you know , I could adapt , I could modify , I could play with it , and I have found that when I hold back a little of the flour and then see what the dough needs , and one of the big lessons I learned is that you can always add
more , but you can't always take out . I mean , obviously the whole point is that's a life lesson and once I started doing that , so that is probably the biggest factor . Now , when I make , I play with the amount of dough and sometimes it changes .
I mean , you're familiar with southern california , so two years ago we had horrible wildfires that were close enough to where I live that that the air was definitely wonky and it happened to be on a friday and the joe as a result was crazy like I added so much more flour to compensate some of the the workshops that I've done .
I've had participants who are in high altitude and they've had to modify on , for example . That's another classic example that I can give you right off the bat . But I think actually I was in Ohio last week and the air is different and the water is different than it is here and I think that's also what would happen .
I don't know it just that's what scares me about baking . I'm like a , like a D level cook at best my husband's , it's the truth . Uh , my , my , I can make like three things , and one of them is like a pre-marinated chicken from Trader Joe's . Uh , I'm not a good cook . I took cooking in high school and I was the dishwasher . That's the big joke .
So my husband's the cook and he just has this really great way of like , like you said , playing with things . But baking is , I think , scary to him , though .
Our kitchen is bigger now , so I think we're getting a KitchenAid and I'm my , my friend , who's like a real baker , was like well , obviously , like you need to start baking , but I think that's one of the things that scares him and definitely me about baking is the change with dough and you know , like the air and the water , like all of that is that's one
of the reasons that New York bagels are so good is the water . So if you are , it's the water and the pizza and that's . It's the sourdough in San Francisco . Same thing . It has to do with the water , so with baking , there's much more that goes into it . So I , I , I like how , I really like how you've compared it to life , how there's challenges .
It's going to be different but , you just have to do it , and I , before I talked , to you , I , you know who knew making baking challah was was so deep and philosophical .
It's very deep . I have to tell you there's so many lessons that come out of this incredible bread .
It's also a mitzvah for women . We're supposed to bake challah , which my husband jokes with me . He's like you're not fulfilling your mitzvah . I was like I'm doing a mitzvah by not baking challah , but I feel like maybe I should try , Maybe I'll keep my husband on board in case . I need like an expert , so you bake a lot of challah .
I do and you talked about how you become more observant . So , with all this challah , what does Shabbat look like at your house ? Do you have a lot of people over ? Is it more of a personal family experience ? Is it sometimes just you and your husband , if you say your ?
kids are in college , so what does that look like ?
or does it really vary ?
It varies and we have Shabbat now in our life , which is such a beautiful thing . So we did have a lot of challah and when the kids were little it became a very easy way to have their friends over and it almost got to the point where I wasn't that intentional about it because the kids were here and their friends came and I didn't really think about it .
Now that they're not here we've actually been very intentional about it , because it's so easy to just not have Shabbat . I don't live in the community , so to speak , so it's not . You know , everyone around me isn't .
There's no Shabbat siren .
No . So we , several times a month , we have people over and I love that and sometimes it really is just my husband and I . And then we joke because our favorite meal on Friday nights is to just light the candles , say the blessing , have a really good glass of wine and devour the challah . Unfortunately , we can't do that every week .
That would not be a good idea . But we do have Shabbat every week and usually it's with other people , which is very meaningful for both of us at this point .
Yeah , I think that's one of the great things . We don't have people very often because limited space , but I think it's one of the things I do like about Shabbat . Is that what it is ? With a bunch of people , it becomes a real communal experience .
Right , yeah , and just a beautiful anchor to the end and beginning of the week . I like that a lot now . I really like that .
Yeah , we try at least to light candles and do some grape juice and challah at the very least , if we're not doing something better , because my daughter will ask for grape juice and challah , so I don't know if it's a food-driven thing for her , but she's already kind of , I think , buying into the idea of this is what we do every Friday , which I like .
Oh , that's beautiful . Yes , so you had mentioned October 7th and how things have changed , at least from your workshops and challah making . Can you kind of delve into that a little bit more , or how things have changed personally for you since October 7th ?
I think everybody who you know feels affected by what happened can say that their life changed at least in some way .
Oh , nicole , I feel like it was the before and the after . I was just , and continue to be , devastated , really , really horrible . So how has our life changed ?
¶ Power of Rituals and Community
We now , on Shabbat , every Friday , we light three candles , because we always only lit two , and now we light a third for the hostages . We started that immediately . For a while we were saying extra prayers also on Friday night . I always now oh , actually , let me backtrack .
So one of the lovely things I do when I make challah , which I've been doing for years , that I was taught , actually , when I got to make challah in Israel , which was so cool , but anyway , I learned about making challah in the merit of somebody or something and bringing more intention to the experience .
So since October 7 , one of the , at the beginning , when I start to make challah , I always think about it every week . You know in whose merit am I going to make this batch , and I always now add in the hostages , and it just now add in the hostages and it just .
It brings me a little solace and I actually do believe in the power of prayer , so I think it . I think it helps . Interestingly for me , since that time I have felt more connected to my community and it's been really . That has been a silver lining to all of this , and a really lovely silver lining .
And then I had an opportunity this summer I don't know if you know about this book yet it just came out , but I had an opportunity to be a to participate in an anthology that was released as an ebook and an audio book on October 1st , called On being Jewish Now , and the paperback version is coming out November 1st and there are 75 authors and advocates who
have written about . We all wrote a short essay about anything post-October 7th and the book is divided into all kinds of categories Some are joyous and some are sad and everything in between , and to be involved in experiences like that has also really been impactful for me .
That was another question I had . So how did you get involved with that and what did you write about ?
So Zibi Owens , who's the editor of the book and has a publishing arm as part of her media company , published the book . I was fortunate to meet her , actually right when Braided came out . She had just just just started her podcast . This was the fall of 2018 . And she started in the summer of 2018 .
So brand new , and I was a guest on her podcast , which was super fun , and we actually made challah together here in uh la , and then I've done a couple events with her over the years since then .
So she reached out in uh in july to ask if I would I think it was july um to ask if I would be be able to do this , and it was like , of course , mean . This is just a beautiful , beautiful thing to have come into being . I'm really thrilled about it , and I wrote about Hala , of course , but what I wrote about was coming together as community .
So I mentioned a bit before how I make hollow with all different types of people and particularly , I'm leaning into that in a big way post October 7 . So I wrote about what the ritual means to me , but then also I highlighted one of the experiences that I've had during the year . These are short essays , by the way , they're all under 1000 words .
These are short essays .
by the way , they're , all you know , under a thousand words . I just submitted something that they wanted a thousand words and I couldn't get it . It was like right under 2,000 . I couldn't figure out how to do that .
It's so short . Short is actually Nicole , I think it's harder it is All .
My school papers are very long . I hate when they give like if I'm writing a paper , it's going to be longer than you're going to ask for and there's nothing I can do about that .
Yeah , our , our , our directive was 500 to a thousand words . Oh my , that's like it's like one single thought yeah , they're short , they're short , it's tough , but , but there's something really , really powerful about this book and definitely check it out , not only as a book when it comes out in November , but now .
The audio book is really great because most of us read our own pieces .
Oh , that's nice that you were able to do it yourself .
Yeah , so it's lovely to hear everybody speaking and that's fun , and just I've never actually heard that before . Fun , and just I've never actually heard that before . Or you know , I haven't read a book like that where all the contributors actually recorded their own , which is neat , which is really neat .
We've got dogs in the background .
I'm sure you're going to hear ours . At some point I was worried about that , but now I'm less worried .
No , no no , we are a pro-dog house . Do you have plans to write another book ? I mean , you know you're a writer . Now Are you going to stop at just one and that just be your ?
kind of opus ? No , I don't know . No , it's a great question . I have been working on something off and on actually for a couple years . I've shelved a few . I've something off and on actually for a couple years . I've actually I've shelved a few , I've got one going now about halfway through um and I don't know . I I really enjoy writing .
I didn't know that about myself . The things we learn , um , I do enjoy it , and what I really enjoy are other people's stories and sharing other people's stories . So so there might be . There might be another book in me , which would be super fun We'll see and I'm really enjoying the workshops , so that will continue for now .
So , speaking about the workshops , I wanted to ask how , how , if I wanted to join a workshop , how would I find ? Out what events you're going to be doing . Or if I wanted to book an event for my organization , how would I go about that ? Events you're going to be doing ?
Or if I wanted to book an event for my organization . How would I go about that ? So at the moment I am no longer doing them , just me myself , and I meaning that I used to just put a link up on you know in my newsletter , on on my website and say , you know , next Friday .
I'm doing this at this time , but now I'm working with organizations , institutions , you know , whomever so , to participate in a workshop . At this point it's through you know , fill in the blank organization , your synagogue , your school , your whatever , your office , your whomever , and they bring me in and it's great .
I work , you know , all over the place and I've even now gone out of the country to do it , which is fun . Um , so how do you do that ? You reach out to me . So you reach out to me either through my website , which is just my name , bethricanadamdcom , or you find me on Instagram or Facebook and , uh , also my name on Instagram , beth Rickonati MD .
And we work together and set it up , which is really fun .
I know Well , now I want to eat challah . Oh well , please , exactly , which is just an always thing that I want to do , I just want to always eat challah .
It's the only bread now I like to eat , quite frankly .
We were doing a play thing with my daughter and there was an instructor and they pulled up a picture of bread and they asked her what it was and she went challah . So she just thinks all bread is challah now . So that's where we're at in my house which is fair , I think , you have succeeded .
My job as a Jewish mother is done .
¶ Favorite Jewish Traditions and Dreams
So these next questions are short form questions done in the style of the actor's studio you can do like a quick answer . So what is your favorite Yiddish word ?
Oh , that's a good one . Let's say Mishigas .
I love that as well . What about your favorite Jewish holiday ?
Oh , Passover hands down , which I know there's no holo , but I love to have . We have Seder every year . That's my favorite thing . I love Seder . Yeah , I did , I know .
Not the no challah part , but it's only a week . So if you were to have a bat mitzvah today and have a big blowout party , what would the theme be ?
Oh my goodness . Well , we'd have to do something around challah because it really does rule my life , so something around challah . Okay , what profession other than your own would you want to attempt ? You know , nicole , I like what I do . I don't know right now if I would attempt something else .
I mean , when I was younger I had a list a mile long of things I wanted to do and be , but I don't regret not doing them .
If heaven is real and God is there to welcome you , what would you like to hear him say ?
you , what would you ?
like to hear him say you did good . You did good , all right . Well , thank you so much for joining me ,Dr . Beth . It has been a pleasure and hopefully all of you are going to go either bake or grab some challah or , even better , book a workshop . So this has been . Sheb rew in the City and I am Nicole Kelly . © . Transcript Emily Beynon .
