Overcomoing Perfectionism – STP047

Episode 47 - Why perfectionism is, at best, unhelpful and, at worst, a serious problem. We explore what perfectionism is and how to deal with it wherever it appears.

Some of the USEFUL stuff in there is:

• The link between perfectionism and competitiveness
• Where both of mine came from (I'm better now!)
• Why you should never declare perfectionism as a 'weakness' in an interview
• What perfectionism is, according to Steve and Lisa at the table
• What research says the different kinds of perfectionism are
• Adaptive and Maladaptive
• Self-Oriented - Other-Oriented - Socially Prescribed
• The worrying research that shows how it can be linked to mental health issues
• It's growing - especially among the younger generation
• The 6 disadvantages of perfectionism
• Why you should listen to Super Pee Pee time
• 6 ways of dealing with perfectionism in others
• How to deal with it if you manage people who have it
• 10 tips on dealing with your own perfectionism
• Baby steps
• Focus on what's enjoyable
• Be self-aware
• Focus on the positive
• Meditate
• Focus on the journey, not the destination
• Record your progress - not the target
• Laugh (a lot)
• Get inspired by dreamers and risk takers
• Embrace the idea that you are NOT in control

Here's all the research and links:

• The Curran and Hill meta-analysis of undergraduates from 1989 to 2016
• Hewett and Flett on the 3 different types of perfectionism
• Psychology Today - The Challenge Of Perfectionism
• BBC Future - The Dangerous Downsides of Perfectionism
• The University of North Carolina study showing the connection between perfectionism and psychopathology
• The 6 key problems with perfectionism according to careeraddict.com
• Super Pee Pee Time - it's bonkers and I love it!
• Psychology Today - Alan A Cavaiola on dealing with perfectionists
• The book "Impossible To Please" by Cavailoa and Lavender
• Harvard Business Review - How to manage a perfectionist
• Tiny Buddha - The one thing you need to know to overcome perfectionism
• The Muse - How to stop perfectionism from ruining your life
• Psychology Today - 5 ways to overcome fear of failure and perfectionism
• Very Well Mind - Overcoming perfectionism