The Glow - Up No One Talks About Emotional Maturity "

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listen to the complete episode. Okay, you're appreciating and I thank you so much. This is my first With Love Tasha's Tasha's confession. I just recently had to tell myself. You are emotional mature like I have come a long long way. You know when you're changing and you're going through different stages in life. Sometimes you don't even realize how far you've come. And recently I've had a few incidents where I would have normally blown my top and really just really got that folks. But I just I

don't have it in me anymore. It's just not where I am in life. And I had to realize that that's emotional maturity. Yes, emotional maturity. It's an amazing, beautiful feeling. And it's taken me, you know, to be sexy years old. It didn't come overnight. So I'm not pushing it like, oh, yeah, you need to get on board. No, no, no, I'm just super proud of myself and I wanted to share this episode with you on sometimes you know, emotionally we can be all over the place. We can just pop

off and not think before we speak. My mom used to always say that, and I would look at her and just ranting and raving and just pissed off and angry about something and wanting to get at somebody about what they said or did to me. And it's just like I'm at that age, but nothing matters like that anymore. I'd rather just cut ties with you than they go back and forth or have to, you know, match your

energy when it comes to being anger. If you're pissed at me or don't like something I've done, it just doesn't matter to me. You know, I'm not doing that. No, I'm in a good place. Baby, I am not doing that, and it feels so good. So this episode is titled the glow Up. No one talks about emotional maturity. That's I'm glowed up, baby, I'm glowed up. This is my glow up, my emotional maturity. So I'm not finna match

energies with nobody. Recently, I've had folks like do things and say things that you know, I could have easily just torn them to pieces. The old me a couple of years ago, two years ago, three years ago, oh my god, I would have been just like sitting on ready to just go back and forth. But in today's world, my being sexy and my emotional maturity, that's just not where I'm at. I don't have anything to prove to anyone.

I'm an amazing, amazing human being, amazing woman, and I always say I'm damn near perfect, and I really mean that. Everything about me is up front. I'm honest, I'm loyal, I'm loving, I'm caring. I will give you the shirt off my back. I will support you. I've been there for folks when I wasn't even there for myself, you understand. So no, I don't have anything to prove to anyone. But you know, folks want you to be and do and act according to what they want and need from you.

And I no longer dance to those tunes of what you need and how I can show up? What am I going to give? What am I gonna do? I not doing that if it doesn't fit into my schedule and my life and what I'm going through not happening, And just don't care how someone takes that. You know, it's a that's for them to deal with, because I have to deal with what I want to deal with. And if I don't want to deal with you and any of your drama, I just won't. Okay, So let's

get into this. Emotional mature individuals possesses the ability to understand, regulate, and appropriately express their emotions while empathizing with others, even under stress. It involves taking responsibility for reactions, setting healthy boundaries, managing conflict constructively. In seeking personal growth. Key signs include awareness, empathy,

and resilience. Usage. Examples of emotional mature behavior conflict resolution, taking a breath to respond calmly rather than reacting immediately with anger, doing a disagreement, responsibility admitting when you are wrong and offering a sincere apology rather than blaming others. Empathy understanding that others have bad days and giving them the benefit of the doubt rather than taking things personally.

Boundaries clearly communicating personal needs and expectations without manipulation. Growth mindset actively seeking out multiple points of view to learn rather than feeling threatened by opposing views. Synonymous and related concepts, resilient, self aware, emotionally intelligent, rational, level headed, empathetic, accountable, balance, stable. Key components of emotional maturity self regulation not letting emotions overpara logic and managing intense emotions like anger or anxiety.

Self awareness understanding your own emotions and why you feel them. Responsibility letting ownership of your feelings and reactions I'm sorry, taking ownership of your feelings and reactions rather than blaming others for your state of mind. So those are some

of the signs of emotional maturity. And I know rather than acting in anger, Oh my God, Like I said, some things have happened to me recently where my anger would have stepped in and taken over and I would have just whoo, I would have went left and it would have been so ugly. But I refuse to do that. I'm not in that headspace any longer. And that's why I said my glow up that no one talks about.

I'm so freaking mature. I only wish my mom was able to see this side of me, and I'm sure she's able to, you know, from the other side see it. And I'm aware of understanding my emotions now. I've always respected the folks point of view of things. Everyone has a right to feel how they feel, and I respect that. But because I don't fit into what you're feeling or going through at the time, you're not gonna make me think I'm less than or I'm not the person in

the amazing human being. I am. Like, that's not happening, And if we aren't getting along, it's okay to move things along and sever the tithes. It's okay it happens. I want to be happy, I want to be at peace and those are all the emotions I have. I don't owe a single human being. I don't owe anybody an explanation. I don't owe anybody an apology. I don't owe anyone anything. I owe myself everything. And finally, I

am being there for me. And if that doesn't involve this and that and this person and that person, that's okay. I mean I go to sleep sleeping peacefully every single night, because again, I'm an amazing human being. I'm damn near perfect, and no one can take that from me, and no one can make me feel otherwise. So here's some signs of emotional maturity being flexible. It's all too easy to assume things will go according to plan, or that a situation or event will go smoothly because it has each

time in the past. When it doesn't, and that is often when. Then if an emotional mature person is able to think things out and come up with a viable plan B or even C as needed, so that a situation can be dealt with and still move forward, not letting bump in the road run your entire plan, knowing that they don't know everything. An emotional mature person knows that they don't know and they also know that their own way of doing things may not be the only

way or even the best way. They don't argue just to be right or to show dominance to be in charge. They keep an open mind and have open ears and eyes to look for situations where they may be able to learn something, as well as know when they may have something positive to contribute to a situation that can help others. They look for learning and growth from every opportunity.

An emotional mature person is on the lookout for what can be learned from any situation or ear opportunity and searches for the growth opportunity within within it, asking how can I learn and grow from this? They stay resilient and the face of upset, setbacks, or disappointments, and emotional mature person will acknowledge their feelings, identify what can be done, and then decide what steps to take to move on.

They believe in themselves. Emotional mature people don't have a false sense of self that is ego based and diluted, but they do have optimism and their own ability to use effort and patience as a way to establish the belief that they are equipped to deal with whatever life may throw their way. That's me approachability. Emotionally mature people are able to and prefer to talk with people, not

at them. They have genuine, genuine empathy for others and open mind and work towards not being judgmental of others. Knowing that judgments are often based on preconceived notions can impede their ability to know someone in their truth. That's so true. They have a calm disposition. Emotionally mature people do get mad, but they do not let the emotion

dictate their response. They aim to have a clear mind with the goal of having rationality dictate how to effectively deal with a situation and also see all of available options to come to a successful resolution. They know that when emotions override rationality, clearness of thoughts gets blurred and can limit the options for dealing effectively. Are y'all feeling this? Y'all feeling is? And that is all all of the good qualities and the signs of emotional maturity. Are you

there yet? Are you there halfway there? Or you have yet to yet to reach the emotional maturity state? Like I said, a few things have happened, and there was something that happened when my sister called me and she was like, oh, I saw this, and I thought you were going to react like this. And when I saw that you had and I said, oh, I just don't. It's not in me any longer. She was like, I

am so proud of you. I was like, yeah, And that was the day that I really had to take into consideration of how far I've come and being emotionally mature. Like I said, it doesn't come overnight. You won't recognize it right away. At least I hadn't. You know, I didn't recognize it right away, but it took time and time and time. You know, time is time. Time won't give us time, you know, But in time, all things

will reveal itself. I know I'm amazing, And if you know you're amazing, don't allow people to make you feel bad about decisions you have to make for what's best in your life. Be emotion mature about everything, your decisions and dealing in how you deal with folks. But like I said, it comes in time, and everybody's time frame is different. I can't tell you that this has happen

overnight or next week for you. I'm just sharing with you all what's happened to me and what I've come to realize that I am emotional mature, and I'm so grateful that I could say that out loud, like m you can't affect me the things that used to just make me pop off. No, I'm not there any longer. Babes, you got this, you can have that. But if worse

come the worst, I'm getting that asked. Don't get me wrong, don't take it too far, but I'm not just gonna every little thing someone says that I don't agree with, and I know every little thing that I do that someone doesn't agree with. So that's just life. AnyWho, I hope you can take something from this episode. I hope something resonated with you. Maybe you can share with a friend. You know, we're not gatekeeping over here on with love Tasha.

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