In this week’s episode we talk to the wonderful Dr Aditi Paul about her research on Gen Z hookup and dating culture. Her book The Current Collegiate Hookup Culture is out now, so please request that your local library or institution purchase it! We begin the episode by hearing about Aditi’s interest in dating and hookup trends, which inspired her to begin her research on this topic. Aditi is a professor at Pace University, so we ask her if she and her colleagues have assumptions about how gen z ...
Jun 13, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 28
When it comes to love, there are some people that believe love should be difficult, and some that it should be easy. In this week’s episode we attempt to answer if love should be easy or hard, discussing how to communicate your expectations and how to show love to your partner depending on their love language. We begin the episode with a segment where we ask our listeners if they think love should be hard, as well as hearing some things they are willing to compromise and things they are absolute...
May 30, 2022•55 min•Season 2Ep. 26
Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on how you look at it) it is a fact of life that most friendships change over time. This week we want to talk about just that, and our experience with how friendships change in your 20s. We begin the episode with a segment where we ask you guys if you feel like your friendships have changed, and if so how. Then we did a poll asking what is worse— a friend break up or drifting apart— and if you’ve made any new friends recently. Though some friendships will...
May 23, 2022•55 min•Season 2Ep. 25
Trigger warning: mention of SA at the end of the episode. This week we’re talking about all things sex + phone related: from sexting, taking and sending nudes and having facetime or phone sex. We begin the episode with a segment where we ask you what the best sext or nude you’ve sent or received is, and your tips for taking nudes and sexting. Then, we move on to discussing our own experiences with taking nudes and sexting, and if we enjoy doing them. Honey gives us some facetime sex tips, and we...
May 16, 2022•56 min•Season 2Ep. 24
This week we’re discussing whether other people’s relationships are your business. Though it can be helpful to get relationship advice, sometimes people offer unsolicited relationship advice when you feel as though it’s none of their business, so we break down when it’s acceptable to give relationship advice, who it’s acceptable to do it with and the reasons why you might comment on someone else’s relationship. We begin the episode with a segment where we ask you whether you think it’s appropria...
May 09, 2022•54 min•Season 2Ep. 23
Life after graduating uni is very confusing— for the first time in your life, you might not know what you’re going to be doing with your life for the foreseeable future. It can be easy to feel lost after university- the uncertainty of where you’re going to be living, your friendships, and your relationships can really get you down, and so this week we’re talking all about it. It’s been a year since we graduated uni, so we thought we’d have a little catch up. We tell you guys about Maria’s long d...
May 02, 2022•42 min•Season 2Ep. 22
This week we’re talking about something that isn’t particularly pleasant for anyone to talk about, but something that definitely needs to be acknowledged when discussing sex and relationships: cheating. We begin the episode with a segment where we hear from you guys about whether you’ve ever been cheated on, or ever cheated on anybody, and if so what happened, to understand a little bit more of how many people have experienced cheating and how it affects relationships. We also ask if people woul...
Apr 25, 2022•50 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code SEXTRAS20 at Manscaped.com . It’s time to throw out your old hygiene habits and upgrade your life! This week we’re talking all about social media— the good and the bad, and particularly how it affects our relationships with ourselves and our most important relationship- ourselves! We begin the episode with a segment where we hear from your guys’ feelings about social media, including whether you like it overall and what you hate the most about it. Most...
Apr 18, 2022•44 min•Season 2Ep. 20
Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code SEXTRAS20 at Manscaped.com . It’s time to throw out your old hygiene habits and upgrade your life! This week we’re talking all things contraception! We begin the episode with a segment where we hear whether you guys are contraception, and if so if you use hormonal contraception or non hormonal/ barrier methods of contraception. We then move on to discussing our own experiences with contraception to show the different ways the same form of contraception...
Apr 11, 2022•49 min•Season 2Ep. 19
Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code SEXTRAS20 at Manscaped.com . It’s time to throw out your old hygiene habits and upgrade your life! #ad #manscapedpod In this week’s episode we are joined by lovely guest Chanelle Gallant, who has been a sex worker rights activist for 20 years. We begin the episode by hearing how Chanelle got into sex work activism, and why sex work activism is so important, not just for sex workers but for wider society too (hint— sex workers rights are basic human rig...
Apr 04, 2022•58 min•Season 2Ep. 18
In this episode we talk about attraction and the way we experience it. There are different types of attraction, and different people experience attraction differently, so discuss why that might be and how we’ve reacted to our attraction. To start, we asked how our listeners in a poll, ‘How are you attracted to people? Do you ten to like people straight away and develop crushes easily, or do you have to get to know someone first for that attraction to grow?’ Our followers were split down the midd...
Mar 28, 2022•50 min•Season 2Ep. 17
In this episode we talk all about attachment styles from how to know your attachment style, to how attachment styles effect relationships, to some tips to change your attachment style. Obviously we are not experts, but we do know a fair bit about attachment styles from our own experience (plus we’ve done a lotttt of research). We begin the episode by breaking down insecure attachment styles: Maria tells us about what an anxious attachment style is, and Honey tells us about what an avoidant attac...
Mar 22, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 16
From before puberty, before we grow our first armpit hair, leg hair, pubic hair, women are raised to understand that this should all be removed. This week we sit down to question why, to point to the ways in which we’ve been taught to have shame about our bodies and its hair, and really examine the ways in which these messages of control have impacted us. We begin by hearing some of the messages our listeners heard about pubes and body hair growing up, (essentially to ‘shave’, that the hair is ‘...
Mar 15, 2022•54 min•Season 2Ep. 15
This week we’re talking to Dee about long term relationships. We went to school with Dee, and she’s been with her boyfriend for 11 years (since she was 15) so we ask her about the ins and outs of being in a long term relationship when young. We begin by hearing how she and her boyfriend met, or how they began dating, and later how Dee realised that she was in love and in it for the long run. We then ask about the pressures of being in a long term relationship in your teenage years and early 20s,...
Mar 08, 2022•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 14
In this episode we get deep into developing a philosophy for fingering and handjobs. We attempt to unpack whether handjobs are something any penis-owning person enjoys, or thinks someone else can do better than them, and try to understand their place in sex as a whole. We begin with some polls where we ask people with penises about their handjob preferences and people with vulvas about their fingering preferences (namely whether they prefer clitoral or penetrative fingering). Then, we move on to...
Mar 01, 2022•58 min•Season 2Ep. 13
This week we’re talking all about the lessons learnt from breakups. When you’re going through a break up it can seem like it will never end, and you’ll most likely be in a place of thinking this is the most pain you’ve ever been in, but we promise once you get through that stage (and it will end!) you’ll be able to see all the things you learnt in both the relationship and the break up. We also cover what we think should happen in the aftermath of the break up, from whether you should follow the...
Feb 22, 2022•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 12
This week we’re joined by journalist, and author of the memoir ‘Open,’ Rachel Krantz to talk all about open relationships, toxic relationships, bisexuality and jealousy. We begin the episode by hearing what inspired Rachel’s book— she was dating a non monogamous man, who gave her the freedom to explore an open relationship and who her relationship with later became toxic. We then move on to learning about the different types of open relationship- from having a primary partner to practicing relat...
Feb 15, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 11
What do you think about when you masturbate? This week we’re talking all about watching porn and masturbating, or alternatively, imagining our sexual fantasies when we masturbate, as well as the ethics of watching porn. We begin the episode by asking our followers what they think about or watch when they masturbate, and if they remember the first time they masturbated. In true Sextras fashion, we look back at how our ideas about masturbating and porn were formed, from the first time we saw porn ...
Feb 08, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 10
This week we’re talking to our wonderful guest Sayra Player (Founder of Guided By Glow; actor; and writer) all about sexual meditation. For women, it can be difficult to find erotic content that turns you on, especially if you have a busy mind. Sayra founded Guided By Glow in an attempt to encourage women and couples to have mindful sex practices. In this episode, we ask what sexual meditation is, before diving into how meditation is so powerful for our lives as a whole, but particularly for our...
Feb 01, 2022•36 min•Season 2Ep. 9
This week we ask ourselves ‘should you date in your 20s?’ For some, getting deeper into our 20s means getting further into our long term relationships, and for others being single. We discuss whether there’s really a right way to live your twenties: single or dating. We begin the episode with a segment where we ask our followers whether they care more about freedom or finding love in their 20s; whether they’d rather meet the person they’re going to end up with now or live out the rest of their 2...
Jan 25, 2022•46 min•Season 2Ep. 8
Can you escape the male gaze, even if you try? This week we discuss the dynamics of dressing for the male gaze, or attempting not to, and how it’s difficult to not dress for the male gaze, particularly when you’re dating men but also if you want to look or feel attractive at all. We touch on why the male gaze is harmful, beauty standards and how the male gaze has been repackaged through social media. We begin the episode with discussing terms we use to describe our appearance, unpacking the diff...
Jan 18, 2022•51 min•Season 2Ep. 7
This week we’re joined by our lovely friend Amelia, to discuss body confidence and dating. We begin the episode with a segment where we hear something our listeners like about their body, to get us into the mood of body positivity. Then, Amelia tells us about her experience of dating as a plus sized woman and dealing with body confidence. She explains that bigger women can sometimes be fetishised when dating, and that her body confidence issues in the past have come from dating people who haven’...
Jan 11, 2022•57 min•Season 2Ep. 6
Happy New Year Sextras babies!!! We hope you had the most wonderful holiday celebrating with all your loved ones and wish you a wonderful 2022! We thought we’d do another New Year’s episode, continuing the tradition from our episode ‘Let’s Keep Trying In 2021’ last year, to reflect on everything we achieved in 2021 and what our goals are for the new year. We all had a tough year in 2021, so here’s to a better 2022, to being kinder to ourselves and spending more time with our loved ones. We begin...
Jan 04, 2022•38 min•Season 2Ep. 5
This week we discuss everything related to age difference when dating, wondering if it’s ok to date someone older than you and establishing a rule about dating age differences at the end. We begin the episode by hearing how much older and younger our listeners would go when dating, and read out some moments where you’ve really noticed the age difference in your relationships. Then we move on to discussing our own experiences with dating people different ages to us- we discuss how young and old w...
Dec 21, 2021•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 3
In this episode we talk all about how to deal with STIs, from what to do if you get an STI, to how to treat them, to how to reduce STI stigma, to living with herpes. We begin the episode by discussing some polls about whether our followers think that STIs are a big deal, and the ways they protect themselves against STIs. Although many of you said you 'do your best' to protect against STIs, it seems as though people aren't getting tested as often as they should or having completely safe sex (whic...
Dec 14, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 2
1:10-18:00 Segment: Your worst dating app stories 18:15 Which apps we've used-- what dating apps are there? Different dating apps explained 38:40 How to use dating apps well, how to improve dating app profile 47:00 Starting conversations on dating apps, good opening lines on dating apps + good questions to ask. Welcome back to season 2 of Sextras! We're so excited to be back and can't wait for you to hear the episodes we have coming your way. This week we're talk all about dating apps. We've bot...
Dec 07, 2021•52 min•Season 2Ep. 1
!!! WE WILL BE BACK ON 7TH DECEMBER FOR SEASON 2 !!! But for now, enjoy a little bit of bonus content to catch up with us and what we've been up to in our sex and dating lives over the summer (and autumn!). After hyping up hot girl summer so much at the end of season 1, we had veryyy different experiences: Maria ticked a few things off her sexual bucket list before being launched into a (short) long distance relationship with her boyfriend, whereas Honey spent most of the summer recharging and t...
Nov 30, 2021•26 min
ALL NEW EPISODES COMING FROM 7TH DECEMBER We're back, and with more exciting stuff than ever! We've been away putting together a studio and figuring out how to record video so you can see our lovely faces here on Youtube, as well as planning really exciting episodes. Last season we covered a lot, from friends with benefits to long distance relationships, to how to find out what gives you pleasure, and in season 2 we are going to keep expanding on these, plus coming in with all new topics. Stay t...
Nov 23, 2021•3 min
For the last time this season, and thus the last time for a while, we get together to talk about what's going on in our sex life and our relationships, and reflect on the ways the podcast has impacted us and our lives. We open with an introduction detailing the cruel reality of what it means to run a podcast sometimes: a LOT of technical difficulties. This season finale seemed like a perfect opportunity to give our listeners some behind the scenes of podcasting. Or at least our experience, of wh...
Jun 21, 2021•46 min•Season 1Ep. 52
Do you suffer from anxiety? This week we're joined by our lovely friend, and psychology student, Azura to talk all about how to deal with anxiety in relationships and being non binary. We begin the episode with a segment where we hear some of our listeners' insecurities in their relationships; how they broke their mental health to their significant others in relationships and how partners have helped them manage their mental health in relationships. We also did a segment to see how many people e...
Jun 15, 2021•1 hr 12 min•Season 1Ep. 51
