In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a woman in my early 40s and my problem is that I can only orgasm with a clitoral vibrator. I can reach orgasm on my own or with my partner, but only if I use vibration. I’ve never had an orgasm another way. I have tried SO hard on my own using fingers, but I don’t get even close. How do I change this? My current partner would love to make me orgasm. I’ve stopped using any sex toys as I want it to happen with him o...
Jan 11, 2023•25 min•Season 4Ep. 4
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I don’t know where to start but please help because our sex life is such a mess! We’ve been married for 12 years and it’s the usual story: things started out great, then we got bored and sex got less and less frequent. Now we barely do it and it’s awkward and not pleasurable. Don’t tell me to try something new because it’s beyond that. I wish we could wipe the slate clean and start again. What advice do you have for m...
Jan 04, 2023•28 min•Season 4Ep. 3
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I have an issue with pubic hair. Basically, I’m not a fan and like it well-manicured on both women and men. I shave my testicles and keep the rest neatly trimmed. My wife however has a laissez-faire attitude and sports a luxuriant bush though she does trim it before a beach vacation. I know that the issue is mine, no doubt a result of conditioning from porn. But I find hairy bits and pieces a turn off. Should I try to...
Dec 28, 2022•20 min•Season 4Ep. 2
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve gone from one extreme to another. My previous partner used to take so long to orgasm during intercourse, I’d be practically asleep. With my new boyfriend, it’s over within two minutes. I really like him and want to make this work. I don’t want him to go on for hours but 10 or so minutes would be good. How can I help him last longer? 2) I have been cheated on all my life and I don’t think I will survive if another...
Dec 21, 2022•28 min•Season 4Ep. 1
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m having an affair and ironically, sex with my husband has never been better. It’s confusing me. I was all set to leave, but now I’m not sure. We were stuck in a rut for years and nothing seemed to make a difference, but now I can feel new life breathing into the marriage. The question is: Is it going to last? 2) My new boyfriend is enthusiastic about giving me oral sex but he clearly has no clue where my clitoris i...
Nov 16, 2022•29 min•Season 3Ep. 10
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband has been watching porn of women ‘squirting’ on men. He’s incredibly turned on by the idea of it all and wants me to squirt on him. Are these videos even real? Is female ejaculation possible; and, if so, how could I make myself do it? 2) I’ve just separated from my husband and have been ostracized by my friends because I had an affair. We are the first in our group of friends to divorce and I think it’s made...
Nov 09, 2022•27 min•Season 3Ep. 9
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m 38 and have finally met a nice guy. I really like him, but the sex is average at best. We’ve only been seeing each other for two months and the sex is like the sex you have two years in. It’s okay, but the lust and spark isn’t there. Is this something you can fix? 2) My new boyfriend’s penis is bent, a bit like a banana. Is this anything to worry about? He doesn’t seem worried by it, and it’s not affecting his per...
Nov 02, 2022•22 min•Season 3Ep. 8
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 36-year-old straight woman and just broke up with my ex. Something that always bothered my ex was that we didn’t have an orgasm at the same time. I learned to fake it to avoid him getting annoyed or upset if we didn’t ‘come together’ during intercourse, but I don’t want to do that anymore. All the men I’ve slept with seem to expect this will happen. I can’t be the only one not having simultaneous orgasms. How do...
Oct 26, 2022•26 min•Season 3Ep. 7
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m 36 and have been married for nine years. I’m sick to death of being pestered for sex by my husband. He wants sex all the time and gets angry or sulks when I don’t give in. I’ve tried telling him that being hassled makes me want sex less, not more, but he doesn’t listen. Our sex is okay, but it’s always about his pleasure. We have sex about four times a week which is more than enough for me. How can I stop him beha...
Oct 19, 2022•26 min•Season 3Ep. 6
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a woman in my early thirties and I don’t get wet either during masturbation or sex (but I do have orgasms easily). It has always been like that. I’ve tried lubes, creams, dietary supplements, even hormones, but nothing's changed. I’ve talked to different doctors and everything is fine medically with me. I didn’t talk to my boyfriend about my problem at the start because I feel so terribly ashamed about it. Instead...
Oct 12, 2022•28 min•Season 3Ep. 5
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner of six years and I used to have really good sex but it’s dropped off considerably as time goes on. We used to be grabbing at each other all the time but that’s disappeared and now it’s all too easy to let other things take priority. Would planning a day when we do it help us get back on track or does it turn sex into a something you tick off the ‘to-do’ list? 2) I am certain my partner watches porn but he w...
Oct 05, 2022•28 min•Season 3Ep. 4
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I have been with my partner for 15 years – we got together at college. Our sex life is okay...ish, but I crave new experiences and I want to have them on my own. I have always wanted to sleep with another woman. I would never cheat on my partner with another man – that’s just wrong — but is sleeping with another woman so bad? I know a club where I could meet women and make this happen. I would make sure I was discrete...
Sep 28, 2022•28 min•Season 3Ep. 3
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a straight woman and very happy with my partner. All is good; but, four years in I still feel intimated by his sexual past. He’s a little older than me and has had many lovers. I have only slept with one person before him (I was in a long-term relationship for many years before we met). He’s never said anything to make me feel inferior, but I sometimes feel like a dancing monkey trying to wow the crowd. I still wo...
Sep 21, 2022•26 min•Season 3Ep. 2
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) What’s your view on ‘vabbing’? Does it really work to attract men? Can people tell what it is they’re smelling and wouldn’t they be put off if they do figure it out? 2) I’m a 44-year-old attractive, fit woman but have never really been in a proper relationship and because of this I lack experience in the bedroom. I can honestly say I don’t know how to give basic things like a hand job and this is stopping me from dati...
Sep 14, 2022•28 min•Season 3Ep. 1
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve just started a new relationship with a guy I’m really into. Our sex is good and he seems to enjoy it but his erections are a little hit and miss. On two occasions, he struggled to get one and I notice he loses his erection when he goes down on me. Does that mean he’s not enjoying doing it? Do you think it means he’s not that into me sexually or he doesn’t find me attractive? We’re both in our 20s so shouldn’t his erection b...
May 03, 2022•30 min•Season 2Ep. 17
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) When my husband and I met in our early 40’s, we had a lot of sex that was fairly vanilla but very passionate. Over time, the frequency has decreased. I don’t like being the initiator so there’s not been much I can do to have sex more other than be incredibly enthusiastic when he does want it. The problem is that, over time, he’s become more interested in anal sex than vaginal sex. Having things put in my butt does not arouse me ...
Apr 26, 2022•25 min•Season 2Ep. 16
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 35-year-old woman who has fallen in love with a much older man: he’s 60. At the moment, the age difference isn’t that apparent because he looks and acts much younger than his years. But I am worried about sex because it’s a big part of our relationship. How long can a man keep getting erections? Is there an age when he will stop wanting to have sex with me? 2) I’ve been with my wife for 25 years, and recently she asked me ...
Apr 19, 2022•28 min•Season 2Ep. 15
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I am a happily married man who likes wearing women’s underwear under my clothes. I buy the items secretly and my wife has no idea I do this: it’s remarkably easy to get away with if you think things through. I’ve been doing this from when I was very small and never told anyone about it in my life. It doesn’t interfere with my relationships but I would dearly love not to have to hide it and to share this indulgence with my wife. ...
Apr 12, 2022•33 min•Season 2Ep. 14
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) Sometimes when I’m in bed with my husband, I start laughing. He gets all huffy about it which makes me laugh even more. I have no idea why I do it or how to stop. 2) I’m very happy with my partner of 12 years but I dream of sex with other men nearly every night. I love the dreams: they’re exciting and fun though I do feel guilty when I wake up. I sometimes wonder if this means I’d be up for cheating if someone made a move on me....
Apr 05, 2022•21 min•Season 2Ep. 13
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) Is there such a thing as an aphrodisiac? Oysters, chocolate, things like that? I suspect the answer is no but I’m curious if things like ‘Spanish Fly’ ever did work? 2) I have no problems asking for what I want in bed but I feel like I’m talking to myself with my new partner. It’s not easy for me to orgasm because I need very specific stimulation. (I’m a gay man, by the way, so it’s not true that all men can orgasm without issue...
Mar 29, 2022•23 min•Season 2Ep. 12
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m embarrassed about the way my vulva looks. My inner labia lips protrude and look ugly. I’ve watched porn and, for most women, the inner lips sit inside the outer lips. It makes me very nervous about sex with someone new. Is this normal? 2) A year ago, my partner had an affair. We have a close group of friends, so everyone knows about it. But we’ve worked things out, I’ve forgiven him and we are back on track. The problem is o...
Mar 22, 2022•20 min•Season 2Ep. 11
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m no prude and have nothing against people watching porn but I am alarmed by the amount of time my boyfriend now spends watching it on his phone. We both work from home and it’s ramped up since then. He thinks it’s funny when I catch him and doesn’t try to hide it. But it’s starting to bug me, looking over and seeing women doing degrading things to men for hours each day. Am I over-reacting? 2) I’m happily married but have a c...
Mar 15, 2022•24 min•Season 2Ep. 10
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I can’t climax during intercourse and it frustrates me. I know I’m not the only one and I know why I’m not able to orgasm but surely there are things I can try other than him using his fingers or holding a vibrator there? 2) My 8-year relationship went through a bad patch and I had a brief fling with a woman at work. It’s all over, no one ever found out, and my relationship is back on track. It happened six months ago but I stil...
Mar 08, 2022•21 min•Season 2Ep. 9
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) Please can you suggest a way to speed up sex with my husband? He can last up to an hour at a time. It’s boring and I get sore. He thinks it’s something to be proud of but all I can think of is how to make it end. 2) Should it take longer to have an orgasm as you get older (men and women)? 3) I’m a recently divorced man (42) and have been seeing a woman for two months. All is going well but she came over one night after seeing he...
Mar 01, 2022•21 min•Season 2Ep. 8
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I am in a relationship that I’d describe as ‘just OK’. Sometimes it feels perfectly fine and that I should stay. Other times, when we argue, it feels very much like I should end it. I have been ricocheting between a go/leave decision for about a year now. Any clues to help me decide? 2) My partner is 46 and has started to avoid sex. I suspect because he is having erection problems. The last few times we did attempt sex, he could...
Feb 22, 2022•17 min•Season 2Ep. 7
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) This is something I’m sure you get asked all the time but do I really need to swallow? I don’t mind giving my partner oral sex but really hate the swallowing part. He says it’s like having a hot dog without the tomato sauce. Is this true or is he making a fuss over nothing? 2) You’re always talking about how much better sex is when you use lube. But which lube should I be using? And what about things like Vaseline and baby oil? ...
Feb 15, 2022•27 min•Season 2Ep. 6
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) We’re stuck in a rut when it comes to sex positions and only do it doggy style or from behind. Any suggestions for how to shake things up a bit without going into Kama Sutra like contortions? 2) I noticed that whenever I wake up during the night, my partner has an erection. I asked him one morning if he’d had a sex dream and he looked embarrassed and said yes. I didn’t ask him what it was about but guessed by his reaction that i...
Feb 08, 2022•28 min•Season 2Ep. 5
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband has just left me and I honestly don’t know where to go from here. We were married for 19 years but the last seven or so have been hell, after I discovered him cheating, time and time again. He’s now found someone he says he’s in love with and has left me for her. We have two children together but they’re both not living at home anymore. Do you have any advice on what I should do next? 2) How do I incorporate using a v...
Feb 01, 2022•23 min•Season 2Ep. 4
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I am single but please don’t tell me to go online to meet someone because I have absolutely no luck that way. Where should I go in person to meet men? Where are they all hiding? 2) My husband is obsessed with the size of his penis. He thinks it’s too small and despite years of reassurance, he’s still really paranoid (He measured it and it’s 4.5 inches/11.5cm when erect.) Every time we have intercourse, he says, ‘I know that won’...
Jan 25, 2022•26 min•Season 2Ep. 3
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve been married for 15 years and have sex once a week. My husband tells me this isn’t enough and that other couples do it much more than we do. Is he right? He’s starting to make me feel like there’s something wrong with me for not wanting to do it more often. 2) I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years, since I was 18. It’s been a wonderful relationship and I love him dearly but I think I’ve always known it was more friends...
Jan 18, 2022•27 min•Season 2Ep. 2
