This weekly show pairs international sex expert Tracey Cox and comic Kelsey Chittick as they discuss three anonymously sourced question each week about sex and relationships.
Laugh-out-loud funny, irreverent, British, international sex expert and author of 17 books Tracey answers questions posed by witty author and former stand-up comedienne Kelsey Chittick, such as:
How much should I really share with my girlfriends?
What do I do about my husband's work wife?
How often should we really be getting it on?!
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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) What’s your view on ‘O-shots’? My friend had one after menopause and says it rejuvenated her vagina back to what it was in her 30s. She says sex is amazing again. They are expensive, but I’m tempted. Are they safe, and what’s your take on them? 2) So I know what you’re going to tell me, but I’m asking anyway: I’m 43, divorced, and have been single for three years. My daughter is 24 and recently broke up with her boyfr...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) You’ve talked about penis size and sensitivity, but I haven’t heard you talk about clitoris size in that regard. I used to have a normal size clitoris, but after taking testosterone to help with low libido, it seems to have tripled in size. I have stronger orgasms now—but it takes so much longer to climax. I can’t figure out the right spot anymore: the sensitive area seems to have moved. Any advice on how to find it a...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My marriage has been sexless for five years—literally, no sex at all. I tried everything to make my wife see how important sex is, but she refused to even talk about it. We’re young—in our early 40s! It’s strained our marriage beyond repair; so, I asked her for a divorce. Instantly, everything changed. She initiated sex the night I told her, and we’ve had sex twice a day since. It’s good, enthusiastic sex and she appe...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband has recently discovered Viagra and now takes it every time we have sex. Rather than save our sex life, it’s destroyed it. His penis is now too hard, he takes ages to orgasm, and his focus is almost exclusively on intercourse. Before Viagra, we had lots of foreplay and oral sex. I’ve told him I don’t like it, but he still takes it. 2) Should men also do pelvic floor exercises? Do they enhance sex for us as w...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 26-year-old straight guy and I’m having no luck with women. I’m curious to know what you think of AI girlfriends. I’m tempted to try one until I meet someone in real life that I really like. Is it a good way to practice relationship skills? Is there anything I should know before I sign up? 2) I’ve met someone and we have AMAZING sexual chemistry. But when we’re not having sex, conversation is difficult, and I as...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I followed your advice and asked my partner for something I'd like him to do in bed. He did it, and all was good. But now he doesn’t do it anymore and I’m tired of asking nicely and dropping hints. What now? 2) You’ve talked about ‘hot-wifing,’ but what about ‘hot husbanding'? Do women get turned on watching their husbands with another woman in the same way men get off on watching their wives with another man? I suppo...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve listened to enough of your podcasts to know that women don’t often orgasm through intercourse alone. But, is there anything a man can do to make that more possible, apart from holding a vibrator on her clitoris while he is inside her? My penis is starting to get a complex! 2) I’ve recently lost a lot of weight through the weight loss jab. I’m thrilled with the results—except for the effect on my sex life. My husb...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m 28 and been with my partner for four years. He’s always been the one to initiate sex and I thought he liked it that way. But, now he’s told me he’s sick of it and wants me to take the lead—not just with initiating, but during sex as well. I have no idea how to do this. Can you help? 2) I had a bit of a thing with my neighbor. We’re both single, but have teenage children and didn’t want them to know anything was go...
Tracey and Kelsey tackle three anonymous listener questions, starting with a woman's frustration over a partner prioritizing his own orgasm, introducing the concept of the "orgasm pursuit gap." They then address a husband's loneliness due to lost intimacy with his wife post-menopause, offering advice on rekindling connection. Finally, they explore the intriguing science behind attraction and the importance of scent, explaining how pheromones influence genetic compatibility.
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 25-year-old straight woman and am not interested in a relationship right now. But, I do want sex. How and when do I bring this up with people I date—and do I have to? 2) My boyfriend of four years is suddenly doing new things in bed which is making me suspicious. I’ve always been the higher libido one; now he’s the one initiating sex and wanting to try new things. I feel like maybe he’s attracted to someone else...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) How do I make myself desire sex more? I’ve tried everything to turn myself on but nothing seems to work. I have never had a high sex drive and probably never will. But I would like to get to the point where sex is remotely appealing. Do you have any advice I won’t have already heard? 2) I know my husband watches porn—we’ve always had a laugh about it. But I was surprised to see the kind of porn he watches. I couldn’t ...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My wife and I have had sex in our garden, but she wants to try it in semi-public. We want the thrill of thinking we might be caught, but not actually get caught. Do you have any tips on how to go about this? 2) I’m 27 and just got engaged to my girlfriend of seven years. At the start, we had sex once or twice a week, but now we barely touch each other. We have discussed this many times and agree to prioritize sex, but...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’d really like to try using a whip as a sex toy. My partner is up for it, but can you advise on what’s best to buy for a beginner and how to incorporate it into sex? 2) Our relationship is really good but my wife and I argue about sex a lot. Do sex-life problems suggest there are problems elsewhere in the relationship? It’s a perpetual problem that never seems to get solved. 3) Can you give me any advice on massaging...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m intrigued to know what happens at a chem sex party. I’ve got a few adventurous girlfriends and we’re all quite keen to give it a try. Would you advise it? 2) I know it’s normal to go through periods when you don’t find your partner attractive. But when should you worry that it’s more than a passing phase? 3) I’m struggling with premature ejaculation. After 30 seconds of penetration, I struggle to hold back and con...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve just started seeing a guy who is really into giving ‘facials.’ I’ve done it before, and don’t honestly mind, but what’s the psychology behind it? Why do so many guys like doing it, and is it degrading to agree? 2) I’ve only ever had an orgasm once without a vibrator, and that was after a long sex session with me on top. I’d like to start masturbating without vibration, but I can orgasm within seconds using my bul...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I love my husband and I’m very attracted to him. But for some reason, I have to picture a scene from porn to reach orgasm with him. I’m very much in my head when having sex in general, and find myself thinking about a million things that aren’t related to sex during it. How can I change this pattern of having to play these images to climax? Is it something you’ve heard of before? 2) I have been seeing an amazing man f...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Kelsey recently said she faked many orgasms while married. What is the general feeling about faking it now? How do most people react when they find out their partner’s faked it? Surely men think it’s a betrayal in the relationship? 2) Help! The inevitable has happened: sex with my husband of six years now feels like I’m having sex with my best friend. We’ve both been married before and vowed this wouldn’t happen to us...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My wife and I communicate well about sex, but lately I’ve become extremely turned on by the thought of watching her have sex with a stranger. I think it’s called ‘hotwifing.’ It’s just a fantasy, and I’m not sure how I’d feel if we acted on it. Usually, anytime we have a ‘kink’ we tell each other, but I worry she’ll think I’m a pervert with this one! Should I tell her or keep it bottled up? I know it’s quite common, b...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 24-year-old woman and have never enjoyed sex because it hurts. I’ve been checked out by my doctor and there doesn’t seem to be anything anatomically wrong, but sex is never pleasant for me. Can you help? 2) I’m a 36-year-old man and have been secretly wearing women’s panties under my clothes for years. It's nothing sinister. I just like the feel of the fabric on my skin and that I'm doing something 'naughty.' I ...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I like having sex with my partner, but get so easily distracted. One minute I'm into it, the next I'm worrying about something or spend the whole session thinking, 'Don't forget to do this or that' afterwards. It interferes with my enjoyment. How do I turn off my busy brain? 2) My partner has been hassling me to have anal sex for years. I finally gave in, and it wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be. But it’s ...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m 38, have been single for a long time, and haven’t had sex in ages. I’ve now met someone and I’m panicking about having sex with him. I enjoyed sex when I was younger, but now feel like a sexual novice. It’s affecting my confidence and stopping me from enjoying the experience of having someone in my life again. 2) We have never tried sex toys and are also on a budget. What do you recommend we start with? We’re stra...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Is it wrong to fantasize about another person when you are in bed with your partner? I’ve been married for a very long time and—as you both talk about often—we feel more like friends than lovers. To make sex more arousing, I often fantasize about a woman at work who I mildly flirt with. I sometimes feel a little guilty. Should I? Is this something everyone does? 2) For years, I was in a sexless marriage with a husband...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I get on well with my boss, but don’t find him attractive in any way. The other night, I had an extremely hot explicit dream about him, and it’s made me feel uncomfortable. Does it mean I secretly want to sleep with him? I often have odd sex dreams. Can you stop yourself from having them? 2) I’ve just started a new relationship and I’m nervous he’s not that into me sexually. We’ve only been together three months, and ...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I am a straight man and have had a few long-term relationships in my life. Although I enjoy sex, I never ejaculate during intercourse. I am now 50. I can orgasm with intense fantasy and oral sex, but never during penetration. I have read about sensate focus, but are there other options? I am fit and healthy and have no problems ejaculating while masturbating. 2) My wife has put on a lot of weight and I’m simply not at...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My girlfriend and I seem to be going through a ‘dry spell.’ We haven’t had sex for about three months, and we used to have it weekly. Neither of us have talked about it and I feel like it’s becoming the elephant in the room. Life has been busy lately and I guess we just got out of the habit. How do we get back on track? 2) What’s your view on sharing sex fantasies with your partner? I would like to tell my boyfriend o...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I have some questions for each of you, rather than one of my own. Tracey, you’re always talking about the right things to do in bed but what about the wrong things? What are the top three things both of you would never do In bed? 2) What do penis sleeves feel like for women during sex? Do they feel realistic? We have been using them for years, mainly to help with my premature ejaculation during penetration. I would ha...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 50-year-old woman and new to sex toys. I’ve tried a few Rabbit vibrators and find them all much too powerful and rough. Can you recommend something with a smaller, more gentle style? They all seem to advertise power as a plus, but for me it's awful! 2) I’m a 37 and have never had an orgasm (by myself or with a partner). My sex drive is low, but my husband is great at oral and he’s gotten me closer to an orgasm t...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Why do women need different things to orgasm each time? Just when I think I’ve got it all figured out and found the spot that makes my wife orgasm, she moves the goalposts. It seems to change every time. Is this true, or am I imagining it? 2) Which feels better for women: a short, fat penis or a long, thin one? I am tall and have a long, thin one but I’m never sure whether to feel smug when people talk about big penis...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My question is about ‘face sitting’. My husband has asked me to try this with him, which I'm more than happy to do. But would like to know a bit more about it—especially because I'm a bigger girl and don't want to hurt him. 2) My girlfriend doesn’t love giving BJs, but will do so on occasion. If she doesn’t enjoy them, it’s not fun for either of us, and if that’s the case, that’s just the way it is. But do you have an...
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I didn’t start having good sex until my early 30s, and within a few months of dating I started squirting. Now, it’s a ridiculous amount. I can’t have sex anywhere except on a waterproof mattress cover or blanket. Sometimes just kissing my partner makes me gush slightly which can be uncomfortable if I can’t immediately change underwear. We were hooking up in the kitchen the other day and I made a decent size puddle on ...
