In today's episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with #1 NYT Bestselling author Gabby Bernstein. As a spiritual leader and motivational speaker, Gabby shares how you can manifest the sex life you want but through a practical, less woo, lens and how to work through sexual trauma and change your core beliefs around sex. We also get into Internal Family Systems therapy and how young women today speak about sex differently than our generation. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How spirituality can...
Feb 20, 2024•39 min
We all want to grow and become better versions of ourselves. And no where is that more true than our sex lives. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving couple who wants to incorporate others into their play but can’t find the right candidates, to a twenty-something who wants to learn how to squirt on her own - these brave callers’ questions offer something for everyone to learn from. In this episode, you’ll learn:...
Feb 16, 2024•37 min
It’s the season of love - self love! That’s right, this Valentine’s Day, I’ve got all of you singles covered. In today’s Best Of episode, you’ll learn the health benefits of self-pleasure and how it helps you not only reduce stress but elevate your mood. It's also a gateway to understanding your body, boosting your self-esteem, and giving you some serious pleasure. In this episode, you’ll learn: How often you should masturbate in a relationship How to try masturbation when you never have The mag...
Feb 13, 2024•42 min
Ever wondered: Am I the asshole for watching porn without my partner knowing? Am I the asshole for feeling a little misled about our sex life before we walked down the aisle? Or how about: Am I the asshole for just feeling plain bored with our sex life? You’re not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I read your AITA questions and let you know if you’re approaching asshole territory. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to be a supportive partner to someone with sexual trauma How to get clearer on ...
Feb 09, 2024•35 min
Orgasms are one of the most pleasure-filled parts of sex. But what’s actually happening in your body when you have one? Today, I’m breaking down the physiological process of different kinds of orgasms and explaining how to have them. I also reveal how to find your G-area and have a G-spot orgasm, what it means to have a dry orgasm, what squirting really is and how to do it. Plus, I get into your orgasm questions. In this episode, you’ll also learn: The anatomy of the clitoris, vulva, and penis s...
Feb 06, 2024•40 min
I’m bringing you all into a LIVE conversation I had with renowned sex educator and researcher, Dr. Emily Nagoski, during a recent event in New York! After releasing her bestselling book on sex, Come As You Are, in 2015, Emily’s own sex life took a hit. Today, we discuss how she brought her sex life back from the dead, the Pleasure Thieves, and why it’s okay to stop sex once it’s already started. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to identify your sexual brakes and accelerators About the connecti...
Feb 02, 2024•46 min
Valentine’s Day is coming up, and I’m here to make sure it’s your best one yet. First, I get into some common Valentine’s Day myths and things you should never do on the sexy holiday. After that, I’ll share some creative ways you should celebrate to ensure that your Valentine’s Day is hot, intimate and of course, sexy. Plus, I share some of my listeners’ favorite Valentine’s Day moments for some hot inspiration. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to incorporate blindfolds into sexual play Which ...
Jan 30, 2024•44 min
On today’s Best Of episode, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex With Emily Hotline. We get into: how to handle it when your partner wants to have sex with someone else and stay in your relationship, what it means when you fantasize about your ex, how soon is too soon to start dating someone new after a breakup, and ways to avoid ghosting. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to set intentions for new relationships How cannabis can improve your orgasms and intimacy How to guide a part...
Jan 26, 2024•1 hr 3 min
When it comes to sex, do you have a growth mindset? Whether you’re a new parent and your sex drive has tanked, or you’re trying to break free from a mental pattern that’s blocking your pleasure, we all experience sexual roadblocks. Never fear: you can have a sex reset! On today’s Ask Emily show, I’m helping you ID the obstacles to your sexuality, from trauma to a repressive upbringing, to a disconnect with a partner. And one by one, I help you figure out solutions that open the door to self-expl...
Jan 23, 2024•46 min
To feel turned on, we first have to feel safe. So today, I’m taking some of my favorite Hotline calls on trust and how to repair it. What happens if your spouse cheated on you, and now sex feels sorta gross? What if you tell a new partner you love them, and they don’t reciprocate? Or how about being “too picky” of a dater - is it really because they’re all duds, or are there some underlying trust issues there? The bottom line is this: when we feel free, we feel sexy. And on today’s Best Of episo...
Jan 19, 2024•36 min
I’m answering my listeners’ most personal sex and relationship questions LIVE today. Can you only orgasm with straight legs? I’ve got positions and recommendations to help you get there. Nervous that chastity play is giving your partner delayed ejaculation? I ease your worries and help you collaborate with your partner for mutually fulfilling sex. Plus, we get into other kinky calls like erotic lactation and anal sex. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to teach your body new ways to orgasm Commo...
Jan 16, 2024•37 min
Sometimes, in our sex lives and relationships, it can be easy to wonder: Am I the Asshole? Don’t worry, because in today’s episode, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory in your sexual situations, like: AITA for wanting oral sex every time, not just on special occasions? AITA for rejecting my partner’s advances in the middle of the night? Or how about: AITA for getting upset when my partner turns me down? It’s a juicy one. In today’s episode, you’ll le...
Jan 12, 2024•39 min
Today I am bringing back LIVE Hotline Calls! Not only that, holistic psychologist, author, and my newest friend, Dr. Scott Lyons, joins me back on the show to help me answer your questions. From concerns about sexual compatibility to avoiding jackhammer sex, you will hear the change in these callers’ voices as we help them in real-time. In this episode, you’ll learn: Effective ways to tell your partner you want to explore sexually How to have sex talks with a partner who gets uncomfortable How t...
Jan 09, 2024•47 min
Burnt out from dating? Do you feel like you’ll never meet “the one?” In today’s episode, celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman dispels common dating myths and suggests new dating pillars. Plus, she tells us which dating rules to follow (and which to disregard), the #1 expectation for men on dates with women, and how to make your online dating profile stand out. In this episode, you’ll also learn: How much chemistry really matters on a date Who should make the first move How to track your dates t...
Jan 05, 2024•53 min
I dive into the psychology of foreplay and how to get aroused with specific (and quite sexy) pre-game tips. I also talk about what to do if foreplay and overall sex with your partner has gotten a bit stale, how to tease and arouse yourself, what to do if your partner doesn’t want to explore new things, and how to handle a partner who won’t reciprocate foreplay. Plus, I answer your questions! In this episode, you’ll learn: How to set the mood for hotter, more intimate sex Specific sex tips to sed...
Jan 02, 2024•40 min
I’m answering your top asked sex questions of 2023 and taking a trip through the hottest moments of the year. It’s the last episode of 2023, and there were definitely some standout episodes you all loved the most. So I’m playing some of the highlights, from my fascinating conversation with Esther Perel to my top Hand Play tips, before answering your top questions. In this episode, you’ll learn: What squirting really is and how to do it How often the average couple has sex How to have satisfying ...
Dec 29, 2023•42 min
I’m always encouraging you all to set goals for yourself in your sex life and relationships, and there’s arguably no better time than in the New Year. Today, Producer Erica and I review predictions for 2024 sex and relationship trends, make some of our own predictions, and suggest some New Year’s resolutions to make 2024 your sexiest year yet. In this episode you’ll learn: About the living apart, together movement What pleasure mapping is, and how to do it What percentage of successful couples s...
Dec 26, 2023•38 min
Is it okay to get turned on thinking about my partner with someone else? How can we maintain intimacy amid financial stress? Is it possible to be a feminist and also want to be submissive in the bedroom? Should I be honest with my partner that I’ve never had penetrative sex before? You all ask the best questions, and I’m here to answer them in today’s juicy Hotline Call episode. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to create new fantasies, when you always have the same one How to watch porn creati...
Dec 22, 2023•39 min
Some sex and relationship advice is better than others. Today, Producer Erica and I review some of the most trending sex and relationship advice from TikTok this year, from “how to make them fall in love with you” and love bombing, to when you should sleep with someone or if the “bird test” will tell you whether you should stay with your partner or not. While reviewing all this advice, we’ll let you know if we agree or disagree. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to maintain sexual tension in lo...
Dec 19, 2023•45 min
Today, we’re diving into a topic I know you all love: sex positions! Today, I’m answering your juiciest positions questions before breaking down the top 3 sex positions, giving you the pros and cons of each one and adaptations to make them even better. Sex positions are often the first things people ask me about when looking to spice up their sex lives - so I’m giving you some options! In this episode, you’ll learn: How to feel confident on top Why pillows are the secret weapon to upleveling sex...
Dec 15, 2023•36 min
On today’s Hotline show, I take your calls about having sex talks like: How to relax into oral sex and give your partner tips to make you scream. Or telling a partner you want your vanilla sex to be a little spicier. And how to tell your partner: “you know what? I need to be seduced a little before we jump into penetration.” If we can talk about sex like we talk about dinner, everyone wins! So take a listen to this Best Of episode, and see if your next sex talk is a little bit easier. In this ep...
Dec 12, 2023•34 min
Solo sex is an integral part of being sexually healthy. But how do you spice up your masturbation routine? And how do you get rid of shame surrounding solo sex? I get into all this and more in today’s Best Of episode, including: the health benefits of masturbation, common masturbation fantasies, and whether or not your vibrator is desensitizing your clitoris. In this episode, you’ll learn: How often the SWE community has solo sex How to practice mindful masturbation How to establish a healthy ma...
Dec 08, 2023•29 min
Ever felt like orgasming with a partner is like solving a Rubik's cube blindfolded? Well, you're not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I dive headfirst into this problem with a few tricks up our sleeves. Next on the agenda: how to tell your loving partner you want to be humiliated in the bedroom. I give you the tools to help your partner feel more comfortable with the idea. Then we discuss the ever growing debate: is masturbating with a cam girl considered cheating? Stick around to hear my two ce...
Dec 05, 2023•37 min
From cheating to sexless marriages, we’re back with another juicy Am I the Asshole? episode. Today, Producer Erica and I let you know if you’re being an asshole in your sex life and relationships, answering questions like: AITA for wanting to leave my partner after he cheated, when I cheated first? Or AITA for not wanting my fiancé to talk about sex with my best friend? Tune in to find out and let me know what you think in my socials! In this episode, you’ll learn: Why you should practice new po...
Dec 01, 2023•36 min
In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all about fantasies. Specifically, the ones you, the Sex With Emily community, shared with me! From threesomes to cuckolding to CNC - consensual nonconsent, I break down each one and also answer your top fantasy questions. What if you have a hard time visualizing your desires? What if you’re nervous to try sex acts you’ve already done with previous partners? I get into all this and more. In this episode, you’ll learn: The psychology behind our top sexual f...
Nov 28, 2023•39 min
Holiday season is near, and the Sex With Emily 2023 Holiday Gift Guide is here! We’re all about giving and receiving here, particularly when it comes to the gift of pleasure. So how about gifting some pleasure into your loved ones’ lives (and your life!) this holiday season? Today, Producer Erica and I discuss our favorite, pleasure-filled gifts. Plus, we discuss: How do you know if someone is open to receiving a sex toy? And how do you gift one to them? Stay tuned. In today’s episode, you’ll le...
Nov 24, 2023•42 min
‘Tis the season… for more sex! Today, Producer Erica and I dive into the reasons why people have more or less sex over the holidays, how to maintain intimacy when you’re staying with relatives, and my top discreet toy recs. We also get into relationship dynamics over the holidays: Should you break up before or after? Should you bring them home to meet the parents? Should you hang out with your holiday hookup? And so much more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: Why sex drives peak and decline ove...
Nov 21, 2023•31 min
The Hotline is ringing, and we’re answering! Producer Erica and I answer all your juicy questions, from discomfort around a partner’s sexual history to how to find a third for a threesome. We also discuss prioritizing solo sex during stressful times like divorce, as well as how to manage premature ejaculation when you’ve started foreplay outside the bedroom. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to send sexy texts with confidence, even if you’ve never sexted with your partner before Suggested steps...
Nov 17, 2023•51 min
One of the most important pillars of sexual intelligence is embodiment. Today’s guest knows a thing or two about connecting with your body for a better life and better sex. Bestselling author and wellness educator Lauren Roxburgh, also known as “the Body Whisperer,” teaches us how to listen to our bodies, simple exercises to reduce pain and heighten orgasms, how to work with changing hormones, and so much more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to do a reverse kegel How posture and gait can ...
Nov 14, 2023•58 min
Confidence is something we all struggle with at times, particularly in our sex lives and relationships. From feeling insecure about our bodies, to not thinking we’re “good enough” in bed, messages from society, past partners, and our own shame can affect how we show up in the bedroom. In this Best Of episode, I’m giving you my top tips for boosting your sexual confidence. I also answer your questions like: how do you help a partner boost their confidence? How can you hack your brain to feel conf...
Nov 10, 2023•37 min
