Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship. We discuss how ‘dealbreakers’ may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get ou...
Mar 23, 2021•56 min
Sex can get stale but today I focus on ways to keep it fresh. In this Best Of episode, I share some sex hacks that bring back spontaneity in easy and creative ways. I share new uses for pillows, ideas for games you can play anywhere, and tricks to make doggy-style even better. I answer your questions about how to know if you should end a long-distance relationship, why prostate orgasms feel so good, and what to do if your partner’s porn habits lead to problems in the bedroom. For even more sex a...
Mar 19, 2021•35 min
What’s your biggest fantasy? It might be watching your partner with someone else, group sex, or sex in a public place. All answers are welcome because there’s no shame in your fantasy game! In this episode, I discuss the psychology behind your fantasies, how to bring them up with a partner and why having a rich fantasy life is an important part of your overall sexual health. Then I reveal the top fantasies you shared with me on Instagram. I also answer your questions including, what to do if you...
Mar 16, 2021•43 min
How have you been feeding your skin hunger? Quarantine has caused many of us to experience a “starvation diet” of physical touch and now it’s to feast. The lack of physical touch can exacerbate anxiety or depression, on today’s show I’ll share how you can find more touch and intimacy in your daily life. I also answer questions about how to get back out there and date while newly sober, how to bring the excitement back in a sexless relationship, and how to introduce new techniques (and toys) into...
Mar 12, 2021•38 min
What if being happy was a moral obligation, like voting and recycling? Would you take steps to be happier? Today, I’m joined by brain health expert, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Daniel Amen to talk about how our thinking patterns shape our lives in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss the ways stress affects your sexual performance, give tips to combat your automatic negative thoughts (ANTS), and discuss his new book Your Brain is Always Listening. We answer a question from a hab...
Mar 09, 2021•45 min
Your masturbation class is in session. In today’s episode, you’ll learn the health benefits of self-pleasure and how it helps you not only reduce stress but elevate your mood. It's also a gateway to understanding your body, boosting your self-esteem, and giving you some serious pleasure. I answer your questions about how to try masturbation when you never have, which sex toys to use, and the magic of mutual masturbation. I get into the tricky relationship between shame and fantasy and discuss ho...
Mar 05, 2021•41 min
In this Sex With Emily best of, I’m joined by sex and intimacy coach John Wineland to discuss the driving force behind attraction, sexual connection, and desire. We discuss the polarity of masculine and feminine energy, what symbolic aspects of anal make it so hot, how to build attraction from the inside out, and give tools to enhance connection. We also get into your questions like why the urge to have an affair can be so strong, how to know if there is enough sexual chemistry to pursue a secon...
Mar 03, 2021•54 min
Do you remember your first time? It could be your first date, first threesome, first orgasm, or your first time experimenting with a new position. No matter what it is, any “first” experience can feel intimidating, but I’m here to help eliminate any fear that might be holding you back. I answer questions about how to navigate first-time experiences: having sex, getting on a dating app, performing oral sex, trying anal play, and other adventures. Whether it’s your first time or you want to expand...
Feb 24, 2021•45 min
Ever want to know what really goes down in your girlfriend’s group chat? Today you’ll find out when I’m joined by Chelsea, Glynn, and Sade, the hosts of the popular much talked about Black Girls Texting. We explore sex dreams, what it’s like to have a threesome with your best friend, and the art of sending nudes. We answer questions and discuss cultural stereotypes, manscaping, pre-gaming sex, and the power of setting sexual intentions. For more information about Black Girls Texting (Chelsea, Gl...
Feb 19, 2021•51 min
Breakups! They can be painful. Losing a partner can feel like a mini-death, especially if you’ve spent time planning a future together. In this episode, I give my top tips for how to cope with a breakup and reground yourself. If you are struggling to move on after a breakup, following even one of these steps will help you recover. I also answer your questions with tips for giving better oral sex, sexy gift recommendations for long-distance relationships, and communication tools for expressing yo...
Feb 17, 2021•40 min
Ever wonder why you’re not having more sex? Well, wonder no more. This episode identifies the 6 most common roadblocks to sex. Whether you’re too stressed to get too turned on or too self-conscious to get naked, we all have barriers that hold us back from sex and pleasure. In this episode, I’m sharing specific tips so you can overcome the most common sexual barriers. I also answer your questions including what to do if your wetness level is inconsistent during sex, the relationship between OnlyF...
Feb 12, 2021•35 min
Here’s the secret formula to better sex: prioritize it! In this episode, we’re talking all about sex success stories and how taking just one step can take your sex life from static to ecstatic. From finding closure with an ex to trying out swinging and finding it works and looking for sex after a life of not having any, each of these people has taken a big step towards changing their lives. Get inspired to create your own sex-cess story. I also answer questions about what to do if your boyfriend...
Feb 09, 2021•53 min
V-Day is right around the corner! Whether you’re living your best single life or you have a special someone, I want to set you up to have a sexy, love-filled day. In this episode, I’m sharing some of my hot tips for creating the ideal date night—regardless of who it’s with. I cover everything from toy recommendations to thoughtful personal gifts you can give yourself or a loved one. I also answer questions about how to prep for anal sex, how to get back into dating in your 40s, and why wetness d...
Feb 05, 2021•38 min
The best sex of your life doesn’t happen by chance. If it did, we’d all be having it. In this episode, I share my own sex and dating intentions for the year and help you plan your own. I guide you through our new Pleasure planner with my teammate Amanda, and we explore how prioritizing your sex life will benefit your overall life. I also answer questions about confidence in the bedroom, STIs and condoms, and if it’s possible to repair a relationship after someone cheats. If you need some inspira...
Feb 03, 2021•48 min
I’ve heard from a lot of my listeners that they struggle with talking dirty in the bedroom. Today I’m joined by porn star, author, exotic dancer, and dirty talk expert Joanna Angel to break down what to say, how to start if you’ve never tried it and how to crank your dirty talk up from dusty to undeniably filthy. I also answer questions about what to do when you’re ghosted after a first date, how to get more foreplay when your partner just wants to dive right into sex, and lots of Rapid Fire que...
Jan 29, 2021•55 min
Today, I’m throwing it back to one of my most favored episodes and giving you a crash course in all things anal, the not-so-surprising sex trend of the decade. I also give my some tips on going deeper into tantric sex, why it’s best not to share your sex number with your partner, and how Kegel exercises affect your penis. Plus, I discuss the age-old debate of love vs. lust, and how to know the difference. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acas...
Jan 26, 2021•49 min
You know how I’m always recommending therapy to callers? Well, today I’m joined by my therapist, Dr. Anadel Barbour. She is a licensed EMDR, marriage and family therapist and she has a Ph.D. in human sexuality. We talk about coping with a partner’s anxiety, fantasizing about your ex, and how to deal when your partner leaves you for another woman. I answer your calls about finding a quality friend with benefits and what to do if porn is impacting your sex with a partner. We end with my new Rapid ...
Jan 22, 2021•44 min
We’ve all felt the ache of jealousy creeping into our relationships—but where does it come from and how can you handle it so it doesn’t destroy your relationship? A little bit of jealousy is normal, but when it turns into anger and possessiveness, you have to learn to acknowledge and work with it. Today, I’m explaining how jealousy works, what you can learn from it, and how to deal with the insecurities so it doesn’t corrode your relationships. I’m also answering questions about how to help your...
Jan 19, 2021•48 min
I’m joined by the hosts of the Unwaxed podcast, Sophia and Sistine Stallone. Find out what really happens on the dating apps, how to spot red flags, and why a bad first kiss doesn’t have to be a deal-breaker. I encourage them to make time for masturbation and we discuss if watching porn is considered cheating. I take your calls and answer a bunch of your Instagram questions in our new Rapid Fire segment. I cover prostate play, adult virginity, partner toys, and what to do when your partner takes...
Jan 16, 2021•51 min
Today, we’re talking about my second-favorite bedroom activity: sleep. I’m putting on my PJs, setting my phone to ‘Do Not Disturb’, and sitting down with sleep expert Dr. Michael Breus. He tells me how to figure out what kind of sleeper you are, what that says about your sex drive, and how you can take advantage of your body’s natural rhythm to optimize your day. We also take calls helping people figure out their sleep schedule, what medications work best for sleep, and best practices to deal wi...
Jan 12, 2021•40 min
You don’t know what you don’t know, especially when it comes to sex. I get so many questions from my listeners in their 20s, so I thought it’d be fun to showcase some of their insightful questions in one podcast, specifically the ones I wish I knew at their age. Anal sex, cheating, miscommunication in the bedroom, pain during sex, moving past shame, advice for starting an open relationship, and so much more all in this episode! For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Ho...
Jan 08, 2021•50 min
There’s no such thing as an “easy life” which is why it’s SO important to develop the right tools to help you handle everyday chaos. Today, I’m talking with Tal Rabinowitz who’s helping people around the world learn to find calm in their daily commotion with her company The DEN Meditation. She gives tips for beginners who’ve never tried calming their minds and shares how meditation can totally change your outlook on your relationship. We also talk about judgment, specifically how you can stop la...
Jan 05, 2021•48 min
Let’s take off the metaphorical clothes and reveal our authentic selves, people. Today, we’re putting the spotlight on our deepest insecurities so we fully participate in loving ourselves. Whether you’re worried about your weight or your penis, the more we try to hide our fears, the bigger they get. To make it easier for you to share YOUR fears, my team gets real and lays it all out in the open. Turns out, a lot of us are fighting the same demons. We talk about our journeys with body image, weig...
Jan 01, 2021•44 min
2020 might not have been our sexiest year, but today’s episode will set you up for 12 months of sex-cess. Let’s say goodbye to the year of breakups and endless “doomsterbating” and hello to courtship, communication, and more orgasms. Hear my sex and love predictions for 2021 and a step-by-step guide to plan a healthier year ahead. I break down how to create intentions that will work all year long. I love answering as many of your questions as possible, so let me know what you think about our new...
Dec 29, 2020•38 min
Today we’re throwing it back to my interview with Nikki Boyer, host of the limited podcast series “Dying for Sex.” We’re talking about how you can explore and discover new pleasure even when things seem grim. She tells me how during times of uncertainty, a sexual awakening can do wonders for your self-esteem. While you can’t really go out and date right now, get inspired to open your mind to new sexual possibilities. Plus, I answer your questions about self-discovery, keeping a long-distance rel...
Dec 25, 2020•40 min
Today, comedian Adam Ferrara shares how to completely overhaul communication in a long-term relationship. He shares his coping strategies for ADD, why worry isn’t a “responsibility” and blows up the common belief around achievements making us happy (hint: it doesn’t). We also help a caller figure out how to talk to her boyfriend about their passionless sex life—with the right approach, it’s nearly always possible to bring back the magic. For more information about Adam Ferrara, visit: adamferrar...
Dec 23, 2020•40 min
Content Warning: This episode mentions abuse, rape, and murder. Tana Amen is the VP of Amen Clinics and New York Times best-selling author whose latest book “The Relentless Courage Of A Scared Child” explores how she overcame perfectionism, dating the wrong people, an eating disorder, and many incidences of childhood trauma. Tana shares how revealing her long-hidden secrets freed her up to be her authentic self. For more information about Tana Amen, visit: https://tanaamen.com/ For even more sex...
Dec 22, 2020•1 hr 3 min
‘Tis the season of giving but what if you don’t know how to receive? Receiving can be difficult for many, especially with gifts of oral pleasure. If you have trouble relaxing while someone goes down on you, you’re not alone. To help ease any “receiving anxiety,” I walk you through specific steps you can take to fully enjoy all the gifts coming down your chimney tonight. We also talk to a caller who is more experienced than her partner. Finally, we go over some of the best gifts that our callers ...
Dec 19, 2020•44 min
Today I am joined by Alex Cooper from the Call Her Daddy podcast. Alex shares the details of her sexual journey from boring sex in high school to the evolved sex she’s having now. We explore what she’s learned from dating the wrong guys and compare notes about how hosting a podcast affects our lives. We also get into Alex’s masturbation routine, cheating, her disastrous first anal experience, and she gets specific on why her new partner is so good at giving oral. Check out Alex Cooper's podcast ...
Dec 11, 2020•57 min
We all know someone who’s cheated or we’ve cheated ourselves but why do we do it? Is it really about sex or are there other things at play? Therapist and psychological astrologer, Dr. Jennifer Freed, and I discuss the ways we experience betrayal and how to move past it. Listen to learn how to break the habit of dating the wrong people and avoiding those pesky attachment issues. Trigger warning: This episode references sexual abuse. For more information about Jen Freed, visit: jenniferfreed.com F...
Dec 01, 2020•48 min
