Everyone wants to feel loved. But what if there was a way to give love, that could also lead to hotter, more connected sex? On today’s show, I share how to crack the code on the 5 Love languages to amp up the connection in all of your important relationships. Plus, I answer your questions like: what to do if you have a different love language than your partner (which is more common than you think), how to show love in a long distance relationship and specific ways to express yourself sexually ba...
Jul 24, 2021•47 min
On today’s show, I’m throwing it back to a question on everyone’s mind: how to have multiple orgasms. Yes, it is possible! I share in-depth tips for how you can prep your body and mind to make this goal a reality. Plus, I discuss how to make initiating sex an equal playing field while in a dom/sub relationship, ways to transition your sexting relationship into real life, what to do after getting caught having sex in public (by your parents!) and how to get your needs met when your partner is sex...
Jul 21, 2021•34 min
On today’s Best of episode, I’m explaining how to spot red flags when you’re dating someone new, healthy ways to address conflict, and actionable tips to amp up a low sex drive. I also take your calls about getting past jealousy in an open relationship, what to do when you want more sex than your partner, and how squirting can happen even without an orgasm. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: Episode Bedroom Goals &...
Jul 17, 2021•52 min
On today’s Ask Emily show, I answer your sex and relationship questions. I cover what to do if you’re questioning your sexuality while married with kids, how to initiate your first threesome, when (if ever) you should tell your partner how many people you’ve slept with, and ways to get more comfortable while giving oral sex. I also talk about what to do if the porn you watch makes you feel guilty, how to approach exploring a fetish without shame, what to do if you disagree with your partner abou...
Jul 14, 2021•38 min
On today’s show, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex with Emily hotline. Topics include: how to tell your partner you want more oral sex, what to do if you can’t get over the sex you had with your toxic ex, how to explore your bisexuality without unnecessary drama, the best ways to avoid negative thought patterns while dating and how to explore mutual masturbation and edging with a partner. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (55...
Jul 10, 2021•55 min
On today’s throwback show, I’m discussing the ins and outs of a fantasy that has become a lot more popular: cuckolding or “hot wifery”. I share tips to bring up your fantasy with your partner, why people enjoy it, how you can navigate FFM and MMF threesomes, and what to consider before you dive into your next sexual fantasy. I also take your calls and answer questions like how to get over the jitters when you want to go to the strip club with your husband for the first time, and what to do when ...
Jul 07, 2021•41 min
Confidence is everything. It affects the way we perceive ourselves, how we interact with others, and definitely shapes our sex life. On today’s show, I am joined by Serena Kerrigan, the ‘Queen of Confidence.’ Serena talks about what she has learned from going on over 50 online dates with men during quarantine, how to make the post-pandemic “whoring twenties” fun, and her passion for masturbation. Plus, we answer your questions like how to feel confident after hooking up for the first time and ho...
Jul 03, 2021•40 min
Ever wonder what happens behind the scenes of your favorite porn? Today I’m joined by adult film director Jacky St. James and performer Ana Foxxx. We discuss their hottest scenes, what it’s like being on set, what constitutes ‘ethical porn’ and whether porn actors fake their orgasms. Plus, Jacky walks me through her approach to creating an adult film and how porn has evolved over time. Ana shares what it’s like dating as a porn star, details from her dirty 30 birthday party, and how porn has sha...
Jun 29, 2021•48 min
In today’s episode, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We get into how to handle it when your partner wants to have sex with someone else and stay in your relationship, what it means when you fantasize about your ex, how soon is too soon to start dating someone new after a breakup, and ways to avoid ghosting. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Can’t wait to hear from you! Show notes: Yes No M...
Jun 26, 2021•56 min
In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking about the #1, most-common fantasy: threesomes. I explore why threesomes can be hot and lay out some ground rules for making a threesome work. We talk about everything you should discuss with your partner before adding a third into the mix and the importance of aftercare (what happens after your threesome). I also share my personal threesome experiences, both the satisfying one and the one that didn’t go as planned. I describe what steps you can take to try...
Jun 23, 2021•43 min
Who is ready for a hotter, wetter summer? Today, I’m joined by squirting expert, author, and educator Deborah Sundahl, a pioneer in female ejaculation and G-spot (or g-area) anatomy. Deborah and I discuss the difference between squirting and having an orgasm, a step-by-step guide to tapping into your squirting potential, where the G-spot (aka female prostate) is located and how to find it, and the best sex position to achieve a mind-blowing orgasm. We answer your top questions about how to squir...
Jun 19, 2021•47 min
Summer is heating up and I’m here to make sure your sex life follows suit. In this episode, I’m sharing ideas on how to experiment with hot (and cold) sensation play, the perks of hotel sex, and my personal sex toy picks for travel. Can’t get away this year? No worries, I’ve got sex tips for bringing the vacation into your bedroom. I also answer your questions, like how to set boundaries for your bachelor/bachelorette parties, where to (safely) have sex in public, how to navigate a friends-with-...
Jun 15, 2021•38 min
Ever wonder if your penis/vulva/genitalia are normal? In this episode, I’m joined by urologist Dr. Maria Uloko who’s revolutionizing sexual healthcare. We get into why vulva-owners need testosterone, what happens when penis-owners masturbate too aggressively, how shame can interfere with getting the care you need, and how common it is to experience sexual dysfunction. I also answer your questions including when it’s time to date again after a toxic relationship, what to do when your partner’s po...
Jun 12, 2021•52 min
In this episode, I’m taking more of your most pressing questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We’re covering what to do if you can’t stop fantasizing about women (but you’re in a healthy relationship with a man), if your birth control is tanking your sex drive, why bisexual men are often shamed, how to bring back intimacy after a baby, and what to do if your partner won’t share their sexual desires. Inspired to ask for my opinion? Call and leave a voicemail with your question! You can reach ...
Jun 08, 2021•43 min
On today’s show, I am joined by activist, author, and queer commentator Jeffrey Marsh to discuss all things gender. Regardless of how you identify, Jeffrey’s radical self-acceptance will help you to gain a new perspective, have a different understanding of yourself and allow you to stop any negative self-talk. Jeffrey breaks down the difference between confidence self-acceptance, how fearlessly demanding respect from others frees you up to fully be yourself, and their experience as the first ope...
Jun 04, 2021•56 min
On today’s Best of episode, I am joined by renowned biological anthropologist and author of Anatomy of Love , Dr. Helen Fisher. We discuss whether love at first sight is possible, how our personality traits shape our attraction to others and the way our biology influences who we love. We dive into the parts of your brain responsible for your sex drive, romantic love, and deep attachment. Dr. Fisher also shares findings from studies she has done with Match to answer the question: why do you fall ...
Jun 02, 2021•1 hr 2 min
In this episode, I take calls from our Sex With Emily Hotline and we get into it! Your questions include: what to do if you masturbate but can’t orgasm during sex, the best ways to meet people and date when newly sober, and what happens when your partner’s sexual fantasy creates issues in your relationship. Plus, I review how to start having sex again after a dry spell and when it might be time to break up if you’re sexually incompatible. You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-S...
May 28, 2021•53 min
Social media is becoming the “third'' partner in so many of our relationships, but it’s not the threesome most of us are craving. Sure, it’s a great way to connect, but it can take a major toll on our sex lives. Today’s episode gets into the good, bad, and questionable impacts of social media. I answer your top questions like, what does it mean if my partner follows a bunch of Instagram models? If my partner is paying for Only Fans, does it count as cheating? And is it okay to check my partner's...
May 26, 2021•41 min
Today I’m joined by meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to share how we can better practice mindfulness in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss how meditation can transform relationships, reduce stress, and allow you to be more present during all areas of your life—including sex. Plus, we’re sharing easy hacks to curate a meditation routine, how you can cultivate happiness and fulfillment, and why training your brain is important to your overall well-being. Light also shares ...
May 21, 2021•56 min
It’s the most wonderful time of the year: Masturbation May! On today’s show, I’m honoring a month of self-love by giving you a brief history of the celebration (no, I didn’t make it up), the health benefits of masturbation, and my favorite toys for bringing you pleasure all year long. Plus, I’m answering your questions like what to do if you feel yourself relying too much on your vibrator, why masturbation may be your key to success if you keep orgasm blocking yourself in the bedroom, signs that...
May 18, 2021•44 min
On this episode, I sit down with the hilarious Nikki Glaser, comedian, and host of The Nikki Glaser Podcast. We discuss how to take oral sex to the next level, why a great orgasm can lead to an intense connection, and the power of tapping into a person’s “energy” on a date. Nikki also shares her go-to sex toys, favorite types of porn, experience with squirting, and personal journey with mental health and body acceptance. We also dive into the hidden pleasure of canceled plans, why feeling horny ...
May 14, 2021•49 min
I’m joined by sexologist, relationships expert, body image specialist, and author of Playing Without a Partner Dr. Megan Stubbs. We dive into how to embrace every aspect of singlehood (hello, masturbation!) and why being single doesn’t have to be a layover, it can be your destination. We give tips for loving your body, ways to elevate your orgasm, and how to alleviate skin hunger when you aren’t in a relationship. Plus, we’re sharing tips for sending nudes, ways to create an optimal pre-date rit...
May 11, 2021•40 min
I’m joined by board-certified urologist Dr. Edward Karpman to talk about virtually every penis topic there is and explore how overcoming your penis challenges can boost your sex life. He even shares some cautionary tales about penis fractures when your partner is on top. We discuss the most common penis challenges (low testosterone, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction) and ways to work through them, how to get your brain on board when you’re dealing with performance anxiety, and how a pe...
May 07, 2021•55 min
Today I’m joined by the fabulous and entertaining hosts of The LadyGang; Keltie Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jac Vanek. We set intentions together and give recipes for feeling sexy after the pandemic, ways to give a killer bj (without it feeling like well, a job), and the different kinds of desire. Plus, I share the best ways to clean your sex toys, my most common listener questions, and what happens when TSA pulls your bag full of vibrators. I also answer your questions about alleviating pain durin...
May 04, 2021•39 min
Anal sex isn’t as taboo as it once was but many people are still too shy to explore it. Today, I’m talking with nationally renowned anal surgeon and expert Dr. Evan Goldstein, about all things anal. From how to clean up before backdoor play (did you know you can be too clean?), to tips to enhance pleasure and the wide variety of things to try while you’re back there, we’ve got you covered. I also discuss how to address mismatched libidos in a relationship, tips Dr. Evan gives tips on how to rela...
Apr 30, 2021•53 min
On today’s Best Of roundup, I break down attitudes about oral sex, the oral double standard, the evolutionary significance of oral sex, how to overcome vibrator intimidation, tips for alleviating delayed ejaculation, ways to combat sexual insecurities, and what to do when you’ve given up on having an orgasm (hint: don’t give up). I also discuss how to address mismatched libidos in a relationship, tips for getting ready for anal play, how feeling pressure to initiate and perform can affect the qu...
Apr 27, 2021•49 min
Renowned clinical sex therapist and best-selling author, Ian Kerner Ph.D. joins me today to talk about sex scripts, why fantasies are important for a relationship, the dynamics of kink, porn as “homework” and how to get into a flow state during sex. Dr. Kerner is the author of the legendary book She Comes First, “the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman” and he just released a new book So, Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex . We cover a lot in this interview including what has changed...
Apr 23, 2021•55 min
Happy 4/20! I’m joined by badass medicine woman, spiritual mentor, and rap priestess Lizzy Jeff to break down how cannabis can elevate your bedroom experiences. We discuss how to use THC and CBD for sex, the importance of getting high with intention, the necessity for healing sexual experiences, and why high sex is hot AF. We also share how to find the best strains and doses for users of all experience levels, the importance of quality cannabis, our OWN relationships to weed+sex, and how “sex ma...
Apr 21, 2021•44 min
How well do you know the vulva and vagina? In this episode, I’m joined by four guests to break down all things V. We’re talking about how to take care of your vulva, the importance of strengthening your pelvic floor, WTF is up with menopause, and so much more. My first guest is OB/GYN, author of the She-Ology book series, and an expert in all things women’s sexual health, Dr. Sherry Ross. She shares the benefits of getting to know your (or your partner’s) vulva, the relationship between insecuri...
Apr 17, 2021•50 min
The brain is the largest and most important sex organ. So on today’s Best Of, I’m joined by one of the world experts on optimal brain performance, Jim Kwik. We talk about how to sharpen and focus your memory (no more forgetting your anniversary), specific steps to activate a healthy brain, and the best foods to give your brain a boost. You’ll be able to follow along as we walk through very specific, impactful, and easy to learn exercises you can use right away –– because a big, healthy brain is ...
Apr 13, 2021•55 min
