SHAG-ALOGUE! Fascinating writer and accidental sexpert Grant Stoddard shares how he went from having "the love-making skills of a demented muskrat" to becoming the "Hunter S Thompson of the vagina." Sandra learns so much, including the only time he wished for a smaller penis. TOPICS: Hobbies, Experiential writing, Sploshing, Class clown, Ameriphile, "Working Stiff," Adventure, Anthropological jape, Large orgy penis, Promiscuity, Estimating penis size, Dildo Peddling, Editorial decisions, Flirtin...
Apr 03, 2015•1 hr 12 min
CONFESSIONS, LIBIDO & GENITALS! Sandra comes clean with pal Rachael for support. Then, JoEllen Notte, a.k.a. The Redhead Bedhead shares findings about this invisible illness and how it intersects with sex as she prepares to write her upcoming book "Monster Under the Bed." TOPICS: Bipolar II, Hypomania, Lithium, Losing Yourself, Compulsive Behavior, Beds, Autonomy, Treatment, Desexualization, Pinkness' @pinkness' #OrgasmQuest, Losing Libido, Anti-Depressant Conundrum, Just Doing it, Forgettin...
Mar 28, 2015•1 hr 2 min
THE FINGER TEST! Sandra investigates multiple orgasms on all bodies with the help of sex expert Rebecca Alvarez of Body Feminine, filmmaker and drag performer Joshua Grannell (Peaches Christ) and even a little Allison Moon (Girl Sex 101). We explore questions about different kinds of multiple orgasms, who can have them and how! TOPICS: Drag celebrity superhero, Undercover sex, Drag gender, Sissy, John Waters, Rocky Horror, Heels vs Tucking, Corporate, Popular sex questions, Masturbation stats, M...
Mar 15, 2015•1 hr 13 min
ANAL G-SPOTTING RETURNS! Sandra responds to listener voicemails on virginity at 27, orgasm issues with partners, fear of sleeping with someone you actually like for once, dating while visually-impaired, repeatedly being repulsed by dates until broken up, fair-trade free-range cage-free porn, anal g-spotting, opinions on what's important for the first time having sex, will you be alone?, sex party selection and how to prepare a nervous partner and a series of beeps. Keep the magic alive. Leave Sa...
Mar 05, 2015•45 min
WOLVERINE VS MYSTIQUE! Sandra takes on any question from the NYC Sex Nerd Meetup group, then she fires back a few. TOPICS: Internal Orgasm, Kegel Elevator Exercise, Squirting, Kegelcisor, Sex Books: "Blow Him Away," "Red Hot Touch," "SM 101," "Guide to Getting it On," "Urban Tantra," Asexuality (the absence of sexual attraction), Visibility, Morrissey, Wolverine vs Mystique, Flash vs Superman, Nerds on Sex, Sex-Negative Drama, Nervous Partner, Tantric Sex, Yoga, Podcast Drama, Sex Nerd vs Educat...
Feb 27, 2015•1 hr 15 min
YELLOW FEVER! Comedian and storyteller Kevin Allison (Risk!, The State) stashes his favorite sex toy and poppers away and tells us how he got into and might get out of his kinky rut. TOPICS: Risk! Storytelling, Gay Before Kindergarten, Sex Clubs, Rimming, Njoy Pure Wand, Kink Aware Professionals, Mollena Williams, Poppers Addiction, Gay Male Culture, Skipper & Gilligan, Bears & Twinks, Giving Away Power, Wanting to Please, Service Dom, Daddy Coach, Sexy Guilt, Raised Catholic, Erotic Hyp...
Feb 18, 2015•59 min
SLUT PROTOCOLS! Recorded live at SF Sketchfest, Sandra explores the good, the bad and the messy of benefitting it up in our friendships. Standup comedy from Eliza Skinner at the top of the show. TOPICS: Bad at it, Benefits, Ruining the Friendship, Friend's Future Partners, Unrequited Love, Brain Juices, Pretty in Pink's Duckie, Transactional Relationships, F*** Buddies, Facebook Input, Insular Lesbian Community. Tea Party Nightmare, Wanting Something More, Psychopaths, Changing Situations, Awkwa...
Feb 13, 2015•1 hr 9 min
Sandra responds to listener voicemails about birth control, getting a girlfriend, the problem with cowgirl, dating with too much armor on, and what to do about your erotic portrait displayed at your ex's place. TOPICS: Virgin STDs, Trusting Yourself, IUD, Withdrawal, Intimacy, Professional Driving, Dating Site Disappointment, Self Worth, Self-Esteem, Empty Dating Site Inbox, Activity Partners, Meetup.com, Seeking Medical Attention, Clit Lacerations, Embitterment Toward Women, Deal with Past Hurt...
Feb 07, 2015•38 min
SCISSORING DEBATE CONTINUED! Sandra finds out how comedian Cameron Esposito's new album title, Same Sex Symbol intersects with pop culture, LGBTQIA visibility and the key to dating. TOPICS: Rhea Butcher, TV Specials, 10 Years a Comic, Lesbian, Dating Boys, Women Friendships, Obvious Child, Vaginal Birth, Biological Clock, Dogs vs Babies, #murphthederph, Lesbian Sex Symbol, Not Butch or Femme, Fashion Advice, Uniqlo, David Bowie, Varied Gender Expression, Confidence, Transparent, Jeffrey Tambor v...
Jan 29, 2015•1 hr 27 min
MILF, GILF and TILF! Japanese plus size porn star Kelly Shibari answers prying questions about porn lingo, vaginal stamina and retiring well from the industry she loves. TOPICS: James Deen, Asian Age Progression, Growing Up in Tokyo, Getting into Porn, Bucket List, Plus Size Sex Ed Video, Jessica Drake, Star Showcase, First Anal Scene Preparation, Cervix Punching, Cuddling, Tease Footage, Couples Porn, Defining Gonzo, Reverse Bukkake, Dress Sizes in Fashion vs Porn, Terms like: Thick vs Chubby v...
Jan 21, 2015•44 min
BECOMING YOURSELF! Sandra clarifies her New Year's announcement with ex-cohost Dave Ross (Terrified podcast), exploring their shifting identities, burnout and what it means for their careers. TOPICS: A Private Private Life, Feelings in Standup Comedy, Revealing Secrets, Losing Touch with Yourself, Sex Nerd vs Sex Educator, Public Scrutiny, Rape Jokes, Finding Your Voice, "Feelings Guy," Being All of Yourself, Self-Obsession, Dogs, Licking Your Own Genitals, Defining Burnout, Sketch, Memoir, Code...
Jan 14, 2015•1 hr 5 min
POLY-SATURATED! A Zen master of his own emotions, Sandra's relationship mentor talks about the skills he uses to navigate his poly lifestyle. TOPICS: Catholic Wine, Maximum Bandwidth, Knowing Yourself, Dating Your Species, Choosing the Single Life, Ultimatums, Protecting Your Partner by Lying, American Idol, Long Distance Relationship, Getting Cheated On, First Poly Relationship, Veto Power, New Relationship Energy, Triggers, Refusing Comparisons, Patience, Commitment Phobia, High School, Postpo...
Jan 12, 2015•57 min
STEALTH-ER-BATE. Sandra gets real about her deal lately and sex educator Ashley Manta throws down naughty tips for hot phone sex. TOPICS: Sex Nerd vs Sex Ed, Feeling Feelings, Planning for Phone Sex, Why vs How & What, Connective Experience, Verbalizing Sexy, Reading Erotica, Practice Your Words, Narrating, Honesty, Bluetooth, Common Barriers, Breath, Auditory Feedback, Toys, Smiling Sounds, Moaning Tips, No Limitations and Negotiating Phone Sex.
Jan 03, 2015•34 min
HOW TO FLIRT IN COLOMBIA. Author and science communicator Pere Estupinya sheds brilliant light on sex science and sensuality in the Spanish speaking world. TOPICS: Catalan vs Spanish, Male Multiple Orgasm, Scientist at a Sex Party, Orgasm Physiology, Female Ejaculation, Men vs Women, The Clit-G Spot Connection, Sponge Innervation, Vagus Nerve Magic, Spinal Cord Injury Sex, Latin and South American Sensuality vs Gringo Sexuality, Hooking Up in NYC, Flirting in Colombia, Sex Ed vs Science, HPV, Th...
Dec 20, 2014•59 min
JAWLINES! Sandra asks actor Liam McIntyre (Spartacus) forward questions about what it's like to be attractive, learning about fame, true love and how she judged him too soon. TOPICS: Good Genetic Stock, Getting Objectified, Chubby Bullied Kid, San Diego Comic Con, Intense Weight Loss, Objectification, Samuel L. Jackson, Fame, Status, Attractive Assumptions, Narcissism, terrible with Women, True Love, The Game, Men's Health Cover, Skinny to Beefy, on Set Story, Passion, Pretty Bonuses, Revisionis...
Dec 11, 2014•54 min
GETTING LAID THROUGH LAUGHTER! Hilarious comedian, podcaster (Ding-Donger via Nerdist) and actor Matt Braunger shares his sharp insight into the world of sex in standup comedy on both sides of the mic. TOPICS: Last Names, Sex Cave, Rancor, Writing Sex Jokes, April Richardson, Filthy On-Stage, Pushing Buttons, Flirting, Hitting on the Help, Getting Hit On, Bombing, Unsexy Nudity, Richard Pryer, PSAs, Trying Standup Comedy, Sex Specifics, Making People Laugh, Free Speech, Sex Negative Jokes, Alter...
Dec 03, 2014•1 hr 2 min
WORK YOUR ANGLES! Enjoy this special holiday romp with nurse and adult super star Nina Hartley! Celebrating 30 years in porn, Nina shares the steps to giving pleasure in the driver's seat. TOPICS: Technique vs Attitude, Privilege, Sex Tricks, Intercourse, Coital Alignment Technique, Rhythm, Steps to Wielding a Penis, Empathy to Pleasure, Anterior vs Posterior Walls, Lateral Fornix vs Cervical Os, Fourchette, Lever and Fulcrum, Introitus vs Vestibule, Tolerating vs Craving Penetration, Real Life ...
Nov 27, 2014•49 min
COVERING UP THE NERD! Sandra asks porn star and edible maker, Justine Joli, inappropriate questions about the pros & cons of being beautiful. Find out what happens when "the world reflects something that [we] don’t see." TOPICS: OkCupid, Finally Seeing Yourself, Bullying, Mullet, Catcalling, Aria Giovanni, Body Dysmorphia, Lesbian Sex, Body Issues, Ideal Porn Star, Tattoos, Bonnie Rotten, Belladonna, "Transexual Fairy Godmother Poop Show," Plastic Surgery Addiction, Dr. Victoria Zdrok, Boob ...
Nov 22, 2014•1 hr
GETTING THE HOT SEX YOU WANT! Australian sex therapist and coach Cyndi Darnell shares how to lay the groundwork for expanding your sex life. TOPICS: Coach vs Therapist, Depths of Sexuality, Sloppy Communication, Erotic Fear, Showing Desire, Feminist Men, Learning to do it, Reproduction, Cooking, Hottest Experiences, Jack Morin, Expanding Your Sex Life, Compliment Sandwich, Conscious Sex, Fantasy, Ruining the Mood, Speaking Up for Yourself, Needing to be Liked vs Honorable and How Your Parents Ef...
Nov 16, 2014•56 min
FOR THRILL SEEKERS AND COMFORT CREATURES! Sandra fangirls out over Ian Kerner Ph.D, MFT, sex therapist and author of the bestselling oral sex book, "She Comes First." They explore the myriad reasons why the book hits home, how to create a sex space that helps our minds deactivate and surrender, the link between female arousal and stress, and a refreshing perspective on porn. TOPICS: Unbearable Lightness of Being, Fruity Book Covers, Written for Men, Women Fans, Strunk & White, Philosophical ...
Nov 07, 2014•51 min
NECROPHILIA EXPLAINED! Mortician, author and founder of The Order of the Good Death, Caitlin Doughty joins Sandra to explore the surprising ways death and sex intersect. TOPICS: Sex Party Etiquette, Ask a Mortician, Smoke Gets in Your Eyes, Death-Positivity, Goths, Morbid Titillation, Increasing Sex Drive, Life Begets Death, Relationship Options, Funeral Industry Inside Scoop, Instincts, Vagina-colored Glasses, Halloween, Zombies, the Taboo of Sadness & Jealousy, Death's Ankle, Carpe diem an...
Oct 31, 2014•56 min
RULES, AGREEMENTS AND BOUNDARIES, OH MY! “More Than Two” authors Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert offer a problem solving toolkit for your relationship, no matter what the style, while examining polyamory as a cultural and ethical system for channeling non-monogamy. TOPICS: Poly Theory, Swinging, Casual Sex, Small Town Swingers, “Pearl Harbor,” “Frozen,” “Drinking Buddies,” “Her,” Intrinsic Relationship Styles, Military Couples, Moral Practicalities, Con Sex, 100 Mile Rule, “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,...
Oct 24, 2014•1 hr 1 min
NO PUNCHING ALLOWED! Girl Sex 101 author and sex educator Allison Moon clarifies misunderstandings about her favorite activity: vaginal fisting. THEN Jess & Roe give us a hand with 201 and 301 techniques. TOPICS: Accidental Fisting, Sex Menu, Lesbian Stuff, Being Inside, Connecting Deeply, Extreme Stereotypes, Tightness Myth, Snapping Back, Squirting, Vaginal Muscle Activity, Koko the Gorilla, Pregnancy Prep, Aroused Labor, Lube, Fingering+, Internal Massage and Talking to Girls. THEN: Fisti...
Oct 17, 2014•1 hr 14 min
GHOST PENIS, BREAKING UP AND CELEBRITY FACES! Sandra makes friends with the insightful podcast pioneer duo Keith Malley and Chemda of Keith and The Girl. TOPICS: “Staying Together for the Baby,” Mutual Breakup, Louis C.K.’s Divorce Wisdom, Popping the Emotional Question, Feeling Like a Princess, Trans Identity, Lauren Hennessey, Accidental Activism, Trans Expectations, Plastic Surgery, Angelina Jolie, Meg Ryan & James Spader, Facelifts, Body Judgements, Lorde & Kelly Clarkson, Glam Rock,...
Oct 10, 2014•1 hr 10 min
OWN YOUR DESIRE! Dating advice expert, Harris O'Malley, a.k.a. Dr. Nerdlove chimes in on solutions, struggles and pitfalls of the nice guy. TOPICS: Pickup Artists, Erotic Masquerade Drama, Kino Escalating, Rejection, Cognitive Dissonance, Transactional Friendships, "Pretty in Pink," Duckie, One-Sided Affection, Is nice good enough?, Confirmation Bias, The Dark Triad of Psychopathy, Machiavellianism & Narcissism, Douchbags, Captain Jack Harkness of Dr. Who & Torchwood, Halo Effect, Social...
Oct 03, 2014•1 hr 1 min
Witness Sandra make new friends with author, sex ed heavy hitter and straight shooter Cory Silverberg. TOPICS: Rubbing One Off, White Men, Journalism, Nerds, Anxiety, Self-Awareness, Squelching, Erotic Hypnosis, Aroused Ovulation, Sex Science Snags, Individuals vs Populations, Sex Writing, Flirting, Dating & Disability, Low Bar Sex Ed, Sex vs Reproduction, Gender, Kickstarter, Intro Drama, Person of Color, Aggressive Sperm vs Passive Egg (myths) and P-i-V Sex. Checkout Cory's phenomenal chil...
Sep 25, 2014•1 hr 24 min
Author and Super Expert Emily Nagoski Ph.D. reveals a new world of knowledge in understanding sex drive. PLUS! Allison Moon chimes in on cunnilingus. TOPICS: Pleasure Plateau of Alcohol, Valley of Regret, Buck Rogers, Desire: Spontaneous vs Responsive vs Context-sensitive, Sex Break & Gas Pedals, Fight or Flight or Freeze, Shaking it Off, Other Drives, The Little Monitor, The Pit of Despair and How to shift goals for maximum success!
Sep 19, 2014•1 hr
Live from SDCC 2014, it's the Nerdist Podcast Super Panel with Matt Mira (Nerdist, James Bonding), Jonah Ray (Nerdist, Jonah Raydio), Janet Varney (The JV Club), Cole Stratton (Pop My Culture), Gil Letelier (The Mutant Season), Ben Blacker (Nerdist Writers Panel, Nerdist Comics Panel, Thrilling Adventure Hour), Ben Acker (Thrilling Adventure Hour), Sandra Daugherty (Sex Nerd Sandra) and Dave Ross (Terrified)!
Sep 15, 2014•1 hr 10 min
HYPNOTIC TELEPORTATION! Sandra's mind gets blown with stories from newbie practitioners Gavin & Tish, plus expert Mark Wiseman sticks around to chime in! TOPICS: Hypnotyping, Sub Safety, Chair Malfunctions,Word Choice, Hypno-Friend-With-Benefits, Fractionation, Mutual Induction, Shrooms, Driving Metaphor, Beginner’s Luck, Post-Hypnotic Suggestions, Breast Play, Pleasure Training, Cylon, The Fermata, Time Control Fantasy, Mind Frack, Placebo Effect, NLP, and Brain Scanning Science!
Sep 10, 2014•41 min
Sandra investigates an alluring topic she knows nothing about with 15 year hypnosis veteran and author, Mark Wiseman! TRIGGER WARNING: Near the end, a hypnotic demonstration with submissive Dani brings about... intense results. TOPICS: Trance States, Dropping, Hypnogogic & Hypnopompic States, Falling Asleep, Theta Brain Waves, Finding Your Hypnotism Voice, Drawing People In, Chest Pounding Exercise, Kink, Orgasming on Command, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Social Skills, Building Rappo...
Sep 07, 2014•51 min