CROWDSOURCING LOVE & SEX! Coming back from Reid Mihalko's Sex Geek Summer Camp, Sandra asks fellow campers about how to find love, how to get laid and other tidbits. TOPICS: Creating a relationship that befits you, Finding compatibility, Being aggressively yourself, Filtering people, Setting expectations, Loving yourself first, Don't underestimate yourself or others, Reflecting on self-treatment, Fill your cup first, Loving from a strong place, Diability and the right to sex, Asking for assi...
Sep 01, 2014•38 min
HAND HUMPING! Author and advocate Pamela Madsen teaches Sandra to rock out with her arousal out. BUT FIRST! Sandra ask Jason a prying question. TOPICS: Ball Cupping, Flaccid State Pleasure, Erectile Dysfunction, Losing Sight of Pleasure, Low Libido, Lotus Lift Meditation, Finding Arousal, Religious Movement, Aroused Meditation, The Heel Trick, Depak Chopra, Childhood Shaming, Numbness, Erotic Energy, Inner Pharmacy, Kegels, All Day Arousal, Lighting Up Our Bodies, Observer Sex, Self Esteem, Un-a...
Aug 21, 2014•50 min
THE ORGASMATRON! Continuing onward with the creator of the adorable webcomic “Oh Joy Sex Toy,” Erika Moen and comedian Amy Miller, Sandra ponders sex toys, workshops and the sexier side of Portland. TOPICS: Bad Dragon Toys, Clitoral Slumber, Sybian, Erika's First Sex Ed Workshop, Deep-throating, She Bop, Palates, Strip Clubs, Hypothesis, Culture of Excess, Courtney Love & Kurt Cobain, Being Vanilla, Horny All the Time, Ball Kicking, Sex Communities of PDX, Theories, 3nder Threesome App, So M...
Aug 14, 2014•49 min
WHAT’S UNDER THE BLANKET? Sandra flies to Portland to podcast live with the creator of the wildly popular webcomic “Oh Joy Sex Toy,” Erika Moen. BUT FIRST, comedian Amy Miller spills it about dating, sex and love in Portland. TOPICS: Casual Sex, Dating Younger Men, “No Worries,” Being a Sex Educator vs Cartoonist, Dar, Penny Arcade’s Robert Khoo, The OJST Origin Story, The Dick & Vagina Crowd, Battle Hardened C*nt, Hitachi vs Doxy, Spontaneous Orgasms, Minna Limon vs Je Joue MiMi, 5 Mystery ...
Aug 07, 2014•1 hr 7 min
CAN YOU BE TOO LUBRICATED? Sandra answers her inbox, wrestling with a genital and relationship conundrum. TOPICS: Erotic Hypnosis, Quickie Lengths, Sex Friction, Fast Sex, Kitty Litter, Selfish Spouses, Being on Team Fun and The Whole Point of Sex.
Aug 02, 2014•19 min
THE UNCANNY VALLEY AND THE MOST AMAZING BALLS! Sinthetics makers Matt Krivicke and Bronwen Keller help Sandra explore the world of the most lifelike, anatomically correct silicone dolls on the market. But first, comedian Kurt Braunohler weighs in. TOPICS: Judgement, Fantasy, Threesomes, Mannequins and Art Pieces, "Lars and the Real Doll," Ownership, Origins, Art, Life Saving, Creepy Factor, Torso Sex, Penis Size, Teledildonics, Robotics, Male Dolls, Replicating Life, Mad Scientist, Penis Molding...
Jul 25, 2014•1 hr 9 min
Sociologist Dr. Lisa Wade reveals the fascinating reality behind hook-up culture, what it is, and surprising ways to do it better. TOPICS: College Students Trapped on Campus, Choice vs Obligation, Expectation, Narrowly-defined Sexual Exploration, Orgies, College Parties, Paula England, Science!, Orchestrated Chaos, 1920s: The Crazy Years, Courting vs Dating, Heterosexual Socializing, Makeup & Dieting Origins, Slaves & Prostitutes, The Charleston, 1940s: Same Sex Experimentation, Richard ...
Jul 17, 2014•1 hr 5 min
EARLY SEX & LOVE! Comedian Kurt Braunohler helps Sandra wrestle with the question, “Can we be fulfilled in early relationships?” TOPICS: Judgement, Rumshrpinga(?????), “This American Life,” Falling in Temporary Love, Casual Sex, Feeling Resentful & Unfulfilled, Inevitability vs Possibility, Scared & Alone, “Chinatown Bust,” Dismissing Doubts, Grass is Greener, The Ideal Person, Persona, Fantasizing & Flirting with Others, Romantic Discontent, Exploring, Settling into Roles, “They...
Jul 09, 2014•55 min
DOES BOOZE MAKE US HORNY? Author and science journalist Adam Rogers ("Proof: The Science of Booze") takes us through the sex & alcohol laboratories and reveals all the butt stuff along the way. BUT FIRST! Attorney Allan Gelbard explains this week's Supreme Court decision placing the employer between a woman and her doctor. TOPICS: The Effect of Ethanol on the Brain, Magic Mushrooms, Scientific Mysteries, Placebo Booze, "Drunken Comportment," Soda Pop Opiates, Drunken Promiscuity, Unsafe Sex,...
Jul 03, 2014•1 hr 14 min
SHARK ROLEPLAY & SECRET CRUSHES! Comedian & late bloomer Jackie Kashian (The Dork Forest, This Will Make an Excellent Horcrux) dishes on finding her spouse and developing great bedroom teamwork! TOPICS: Comedian Socializing, Depression Contests, Horcrux, Polyamory, Ultimatums, First Boyfriend, Comedy Sex Life, Cheating, Late Blooming, Making Friends, Joke Wisdom, Porn vs Comedy, Money, Tools of Comedy, Generalizing Women, Online Dating Strategy, The Universal Friend Zone, Her Love Story,...
Jun 26, 2014•57 min
Comedian and actress Rachel Butera (Howard Stern, America's Got Talent) shares how great breast fondling can feel... if done well. Then we discover the mysteries of bra engineering. TOPICS: Rosie O'Donnel Impression, Breast Slang (Jugs vs Titties vs Boobies vs Knockers), Boobs in the Raw, Good Cleavage, Sex Physics, The World's Greatest Tits, Bra Math, 42C vs 38DD, Breast Pawing vs Cupping, The Underneath, Caressing Tips, BE THE BRA!, Fondling, Starting with Broad Strokes, Nipple Orgasms, Butt C...
Jun 19, 2014•1 hr 7 min
BLOWJOB SIMULATIONS & SEX IMPROV! Comedian Moshe Kasher and Sex Educator Ashley Manta share their stories at both ends of a phone sex chat line. TOPICS: Virgin Adolescent Phone Sex, Bar Mitzvah Money, Gay Chat Lines, Orientation Theories, Manikins, The Phone Bill, Virginity, Deaf Phone Sex Story, Comedy Special, Foreign Workarounds, Filipino Mystery Call. THEN: Frisky Feminist Press, Sounding Sexy, Fake Ad Pictures, Sex Work, Popular Requests, Fake Gagging, Cigarette Fetishists, Fart Noises,...
Jun 12, 2014•53 min
TASTE THE RAINBOW! Sandra explores the athletic world of water sports. TOPICS: Squiks, Piss Play, Submission, Sterility Myths, Maple Syrup, Hydration, Open Relationships, Babygirl, Nipple Clamp Ingenuity, Taboo, Urine Enema, Anatomy, Hollow Butt Plugs, Urine Bong, Humiliation, Alpha Dogs, Puppy Pits, Gender, Medical Concerns, Pee vs Clowns, Acquired Taste, Gag Reflex, Beer, Urine Neutralizers, Corn Flakes, Vulnerability, Asparagus, Logistics, Getting Pee-shy, Chugging, Pungency and the age old q...
Jun 05, 2014•55 min
TRIGGER WARNING! Sandra searches for understanding and insight in the wake of the Isla Vista shootings. Therapist Dr. Chris Donaghue and writer Barbie Davenporte weigh in. TOPICS: Terrorism, Mental Health, Relationality, Chicken or Egg, Fragmentation, Disassociation, Fox News' Homosexual Impulses, Othering, Entitlement, Babies & Puppies, Misogyny, Gender as Social Construct, Universal Needs, Alpha and Beta Males, Healthy Anxiety, #NotAllMen, Compassion & Empathy. THEN: Feminism, Equality...
May 29, 2014•1 hr 15 min
FEELINGS ARE EVERYWHERE! What do we do when we feel repulsed by our own body? Elaine shares her experience with body dysmorphia and sex educator Elle Chase shares tools to find outer peace. TOPICS: Louis C.K., OCD, Dr. Ari Winograd, Cultivating Sources of Beauty, Cellulite, Pubic Hair, Seeking Help, Nerds, Escaping Feelings, Self-Help Pitfalls, Sandra's Bully, Embodied Feelings, Deep-throating. THEN: Can you handle that nothing is wrong with you? Beach Body, Big n Tall Shops, Looking Healthy, He...
May 21, 2014•1 hr
Sandra explores the Venn diagram of sex & comics with creators Jason Porath (Rejected Princesses), Dean Trippe (Something Terrible) and Matt Fraction (Sex Criminals)! TOPICS: Batman Theory, "Saga," "Y the Last Man," Tina Fey, Joker, Women in Refridgerators, Tropes, "Alias," "Frozen," "Invincible" Spoilers on Issue #110. // Sexual Abuse, Batman, The Multiverse, Dr. Who, Comic-con Stories, The Taxi Driver, Sexual Healing, Robin, Time Travel, Changing Our Narratives. // Alter Egos, James Bond, ...
May 14, 2014•1 hr 3 min
LOVE AT FIRST SITE & THE SPEED OF ATTRACTION! Sandra searches for the facts on how to choose someone who is right for you. Sex educator Elle Chase shares her current dilemma, while therapist Kate Loree throws down some knowledge on what the person you fall in love with says about YOU! TOPICS: Ego, Ignoring Your Instincts, Life Experience, Storytelling, Dating Site Fails, Young Guys, Courting Process, The List, Valid Feelings, New Relationship Energy, Neurochemicals, Imago Therapy, Falling in...
May 08, 2014•1 hr 9 min
MORE DRAMA! Comedian Jenn Tisdale, sex educator Twanna Hines and several audience members including science journalist Pere Estupinyà weight in! TOPICS: Jealousy, Security, Giving Up, Monogoamy vs Marriage, OkTwitter, Depression, Swinging Monogamists, "Sexually Social," This American Life, Paradox of Choice, Online Dating, Dying Alone, "Manic Pixie Dream Girl," Codependence, Personal Growth, "Fewer the Merrier," Halo Effect of Monogamy, Social vs Sexual Monogamy, The Science of Falling in Love a...
May 01, 2014•56 min
DRAMA! Sex Educator Twanna Hines and comedian Jenn Tisdale help Sandra explore the myriad questions of monogamy. TOPICS: Dating Complications, When a Relationship Begins, Denying Feelings, Ongoing Intention, James Deen, Being a Good Person, One-Sided Monogamy, Keeping Secrets, Managing Your Relationship, Appreciating What You Have, Runaway Train, Attraction, Guilt, Flirting, Needing Attention & Jealousy. Stay tuned next week when we pickup on jealousy… AND BEYOND!
Apr 24, 2014•43 min
KINK CONTRACTS, LOVE LETTERS & SEX GUIDES. Lauren Marie Flemming a.k.a. Queerie Bradshaw shares easy ways for writing to improve your love & sex life. PLUS Gregory Scott a.k.a. UBK of Kush Audio tries to figure out why Sandra feels broken. Good luck, UBK! TOPICS: Small Town Girl, Gonorrhea, Sex & Loss, Breakups, Postcards, Love Letters, Negotiating Consent, Law Degree, Sharing Fantasies, Analogue, Depression Jar, Truth or Dare, Pen & Paper Fetish, Frisky Feminist Press, Twitter, ...
Apr 17, 2014•1 hr 9 min
WHAT IS A LEATHER DADDY? Orpheus & Indigo are back, answering Sandra's questions about the mysterious world of leather, leading up to their entry in the SoCal Master/slave Contest (sclms.net). Artist Jenny Fine helps Sandra prepare. TOPICS: Fish Panties, Depression, Leather Puppy, Police Academy, Fractals, 1950s Relationships, Fitting In, Angry Black Woman, Anger, Whipped, Emotional Enslavement, Leather Mythos, WWII, Tom of Finland, Earning Your Boots, Poly Relationships, Quad Geometry and H...
Apr 11, 2014•53 min
NERVE NINJAS & BLINDFOLD SCIENCE! Physical Therapist Adam Whitman takes Sandra on a sensual tour of our nervous system. Oh THAT'S why that feels like that! Body awareness for the win! TOPICS: Fitness, Muscle vs Nerves, Lying Patients, Words for Pain, Bend Over Magic, Two-Point Discrimination, Sensory Cortex, Fun Experiments, Healing Headaches, Stereognosis, Proprioception, Layering Sensation, Graphesthesia, Light Touch/Pain/Temperature vs Vibration/Proprioception/Fine Touch, Whole Body Sensa...
Apr 02, 2014•1 hr
USING SEX TO SELL SEX! Sex worker, podcaster and writer Siouxsie Q sets Sandra straight on the sex industry. Comedian & podcaster Matt Kirshen shares surprising insight into sex work, comedy and the universe. TOPICS: Bad Day at Work, Lusty Lady, Whorientation, Firefly's Inara, Good vs Bad Sex Work, Politics, Human Rights, Emotional Health, Violence & Exploitation, The Happy Hooker Notion, Selling Sex, Annie Sprinkle, Companion Services, Self-Care, "Prostitute," Choice & Coercion, Cri...
Mar 26, 2014•58 min
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS? Sex Researcher and Developmental Psychologist Dr. Zhana Vrangalova geeks out on casual sex's effect on mental health. Facts are presented, myths are busted and she sets us straight on whether someone must always gets hurt. PLUS BONUS SEX DUNGEON STORY! Sandra drags a vanilla friend to a kinky theme park. Feelings ensue. TOPICS: Casual Fling, Early Warning Signs, Tiny Breakups, Mental Health Factors, Defining it, F*** Buddies, The Romantic Continuum, Commitment, Positive vs...
Mar 20, 2014•1 hr 1 min
SOUL MATES FOR REALSIES! Sandra seeks to understand marriage. Artist Jason Porath and marital unit Sarah and Gregory weigh in. TOPICS: Beyond the Wedding, Relief, Journeys Just Starting, Fear of Choosing Wrong, Future Kids' Names, Nightwing, Prioritizing the "We," "Venus and Mars on a Date," 1st Marriage Mistakes, Cohabitating, Wedding Ritual, Ketubah, Sex Life Changes, Tools, Cultivating Love, Couple's Therapy, Aligning Brain Waves, Recurring Arguments, Commitment Phobia, Pure "I" Statements, G...
Mar 13, 2014•1 hr 4 min
LIES, LIES AND MORE LIES! Dr. Chris Donaghue sets the record straight on the role of cheating in today's relationships and what it means for partnerships of tomorrow. But first, Layperson Elaine admits to a guilty past. TOPICS: Dr. Chris answers many questions including "Is cheating avoidable?" "Where's the line?" and "How can you tell if a relationship is salvageable?". ALSO: Sandra in DC, Giving in to Temptation, Signs of a Healthy Relationship, Craving Diversity, Statistics, Cyber Sex, Fluid ...
Mar 06, 2014•48 min
COMMON QUESTIONS, MEDICAL EMERGENCIES & THE FIST OF KNOWLEDGE! Sandra hunts down 2 of her teachers and a classmate from the renowned & rigorous San Francisco Sex Information educator training. TOPICS: Prolapse Lady, Mom Boundaries, Accuracy, Googling Sex Info, Science Biases, The Dubious Eyebrow, Anecdotal Evidence, "Positive" Neutral Face, PubMed'ing "Rectal Foreign Bodies," Boy Scout Webelos, Coursera Classes, Good Reads, Yahoo Answers, Favorite Sex Ed Moments, Dealing with STDs, Egg S...
Feb 26, 2014•44 min
COMPLETE STRANGER SHARES HIS MASTURBATION TECHNIQUE. Artist Mike Squillacioti and a mysterious man join Sandra for a new twist on breathing during sex. TOPICS: Linguistic Distancing, The Tantra Episode, NO Erotic Asphyxiation, Swimming, Olympics, Sphincters, Nipple Clamps, Roller Coaster timing, Hypoxia, Masturbation, Porn Expectations, "Going to the Club," Bicycle Seat Prostate Pressure & a Frozen Steak to the Balls. THEN WE TURN A CORNER: "Do you need a lot of experience to be a good lover...
Feb 20, 2014•55 min
MIND-BLOWING SEX & ZOMBIES! Author & Tickle Kitty CEO Dr. Sadie Allison and her partner & CTO John join Sandra for a romp through the land of love, orgasm & relationships. TOPICS: Jack Valentine, Singles Awareness Day, Cockring Story, Sadie's Journey, Engineering Sex Drawer Locks, Female vs Male Orgasm, How to Orgasm, "Tickle Her Fancy," Sex Toys, Troubleshooting Pleasure, Vibrators, Masturbation Attitude, John & Sadie's Love Story, Growing as a Couple, Finding Mr. & Ms. ...
Feb 12, 2014•52 min
TWISTED AROUSAL RESEARCH, EROTIC SCHADENFREUDE & MORE! Author of "Perv: The Erotic Deviant in All of Us," Jesse Bering, PhD expands what is normal & shares new vocab words to amaze your friends! TOPICS: The Young Turks, Objectophilia, Melissophilia, Neanderthal Source Material, Origins of Kink, Erotic Dependency, Fetish vs Paraphilia, Developmental Imprinting, Female Erotic Plasticity, Sandra's Cartoon Kink, Masochistic Tendencies, 5 Erotic Age Orientations, Virtuous Pedophiles, Innate P...
Feb 06, 2014•1 hr 10 min
