DB breaks down how to talk to your partner about bringing sex toys into the bedroom to get more pleasure. She shares stats on who’s using sex toys, why queer couples are ahead of the game, and easy ways to start the convo with your partner. Plus: top sex toy recs and a playful challenge to try at home. Studies mentioned in this episode: Do Sex Toys Make Me Satisfied? The Use of Sex Toys in Denmark, Norway, Sweden, Finland, France, and the UK The Results of the Magic Wand Wellness Study Are In! T...
Jun 25, 2025•15 min•Season 12Ep. 2
Season 12 is all about PLEASURE and we're kicking things off with a juicy one! This week, DB is joined by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons—licensed psychologist, sex researcher, and pleasure activist—to talk about what happened when 1,000 people masturbate for science ! The Magic Wand Wellness Study is the first study of its kind to look at how daily masturbation impacts things like sleep, stress, focus, confidence, and body image, and the results were amazing . We talk about why solo pleasure is so o...
Jun 18, 2025•48 min•Season 12Ep. 1
Within hours of the new administration’s return-to-office, disorder took over. A foreign aid freeze, a stop-work order, and the dismantling of key foreign aid institutions commenced almost immediately. Gayatri Patel , Senior Fellow with rePROs Fight Back, sits down to talk with us about glimmers of hope for protecting this foreign assistance funding and relevant agencies, as well as how we can prepare for the realistic, long-term impacts of these attacks. rePROs Fight Back on X rePROs Fight Back...
Jun 11, 2025•30 min
Ready to have better sex? Start here. This season on Sex Ed with DB , we’re diving into what your high school health class definitely didn’t teach you: how to get more pleasure. Whether you’re trying to orgasm with a partner, explore your kinks, or just feel more confident in your body—this is the season for you. Hit play to hear what we’re covering: solo pleasure, partnered sex, sex toys, porn, fantasies, queer joy, and so much more. Got questions about sex you’ve been too nervous to ask? We’ve...
Jun 04, 2025•1 min
One nerd’s quest to find out why we know next to nothing about period pain. Tired of suffering from "death cramps" with no diagnosis for 20 years, Kate Downey has to look for her own answers. What she finds will change how you think about your own body and the medical system. Because having a microphone gets you more answers than having a uterus. https://www.katehelendowney.com/cramped CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdb...
Jun 04, 2025•43 min
That’s a wrap on Rom-Com Vom ! We made it through a whole season of dissecting the cringiest lessons the rom-coms that raised us tried to teach. In this final episode, DB reflects on what she’s learned through making the show—and what these movies still reveal about love, culture, and ourselves. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's Den , Uberlube , &...
May 30, 2025•12 min
It’s the final Rom-Com Vom—and we’re going out with a true vom. DB is joined by the brilliant Kate from CRAMPED to dissect No Strings Attached, a film so bafflingly bad it makes you double-check that yes, it really did come out in 2011. They unpack the film’s deeply weird messages about women, work, and love, from its rare-but-still-weird period scene to its tired idea that ambitious women just need to be “fixed” by emotionally unavailable men. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikT...
May 28, 2025•50 min
In this week’s bonus ep: DB reviews Dying for Sex, a show about what happens when a terminal diagnosis blows your whole life open, and catalyzes a chaotic late-stage sexual awakening. She breaks down what the show gets right about trauma and autonomy, and how it captures the weird and tender reality of female friendship. Mentioned in this episode: 13 Going on 13 with Paul Caiola: Rom-Com Vom Sign up now: https://radiobootcamp.org/classes/making-indie-podcasts-that-pay-mastering-the-art-of-sponso...
May 23, 2025•15 min
This week, we are thrilled (wink wink) to review 13 Going on 30! DB and Paul talk about the ethics of age-gap romance when time travel is involved, and why 2000s films were so obsessed with pitting women against each other. Plus: dollhouses, dream jobs, and whether Matty is actually too good for Jenna. GUEST DETAILS Since 2019, Paul has been one-half of the creative team behind That Aged Well , a podcast devoted to movies, nostalgia, friendship, and inappropriate jokes. Paul spends a great deal ...
May 21, 2025•46 min•Season 11Ep. 19
Inspired by this week's Rom Com Vom episode on the disastrous Just Friends , DB answers a listener's question about getting out of the friend zone... Mentioned in this episode: Just Friends with Lauren Passell and Holly Brown CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's Den , Uberlube , Magic Wand , & Arya . Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here...
May 16, 2025•10 min
Buckle up, it's Just Friends week on Rom Com Vom! DB is joined by Holly Brown and Lauren Passell of Tink Media to break down reformed fuckboys, friend zone mythology, and why this movie still kind of slaps, even when it sincerely shouldn’t. GUEST DETAILS Lauren Passell is the founder of Tink Media, a podcast growth and strategy company, and the editor of Podcast the Newsletter. She teaches podcast marketing and PR classes and is a judge for The Webbys, The Signal Awards, The Ambies, The Internat...
May 14, 2025•36 min•Season 11Ep. 18
Today we’re sharing an episode from one of our wellness podcast faves: Be Well, Sis . Hosted by Dr. Cassandre Dunbar, the show is dedicated to providing resources for Black millennial women to be their best selves physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You’ll hear an excerpt from the episode Taming the Busy Brain with Dr. Romie: Strategies for Stress, Success, and Self-Care. In this episode Dr. Cassandre chats with renowned neurologist and wellness expert, Dr. Romie, to dig into how...
May 09, 2025•12 min
DB is on her honeymoon, so we're bringing you the BEST orgasm tips from the archives of Sex Ed with DB! DB and Mariah from Sex Ed Files share their go-to techniques for reaching the big O. Then, stick around as DB tackles a listener's question on how to make orgasms even more intense. Hear the full episodes: Curious Sex Ed: Orgasms More Sex Ed: How can I have a stronger orgasm? CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast ...
May 07, 2025•24 min
Pleasure is so much more than orgasm. Don’t believe us? In this re-release, DB dives into all things sensuality with Sexuality Doula Ev’Yan Whitney, author of Sensual Self . They unpack the grip of purity culture, talk body reconnection, and offer real-world tips for bringing more pleasure into your life—yes, even outside the bedroom. Still untangling your sexuality from the grip of the patriarchy? (Same.) This one’s for you. GUEST DETAILS: Ev'Yan is a sexuality doula®, author, facilitator, and ...
May 02, 2025•52 min
Sex toys are the best toys. In this Best Of episode, we’re revisiting two fan-favorite minis all about finding your toy—the one that gets you there every time. If your browser has 25 tabs open full of a different vibes that buzz, suck, swirl, or pulse and you still don’t know where to start, this one’s for you. Mentioned in this episode: DB's Magic Wand Experiment How do I buy the right sex toy for me? CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Thre...
Apr 30, 2025•28 min•Season 11Ep. 16
Is porn addiction real? Or just another shame spiral? In this Curious Sex Ed re-release, DB and Mariah Caudillo of Sex Ed Files talk first encounters, how porn shapes our sexuality, and what a healthy relationship with porn actually looks like. If you’ve ever wondered “am I watching too much?”, this one’s for you! CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's De...
Apr 25, 2025•20 min
You’ve got porn questions—we’ve got answers! In this Best Of episode we’re revisiting two essential minisodes on your most asked-about topic. Let’s get into it! Mentioned in this episode: What Kind of Porn Is Everyone Watching? Is It Normal to Watch Gay Porn If I’m Straight? CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's Den , Uberlube , Magic Wand , & Arya ....
Apr 23, 2025•22 min•Season 11Ep. 15
What should a vagina smell like? Hint: not a bouquet of roses. In this week’s bonus episode, DB tackles one of the most Googled (and least talked about) questions in sexual health. From the history of floral-scented shame to what’s actually normal down there, we break down myths, signs of infection, and why your vagina’s natural scent isn’t a problem to fix! Mentioned in this episode: The Wedding Singer with Hari Kondabolu: Rom-Com Vom CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexe...
Apr 18, 2025•7 min
This week on Rom Com Vom, comedian and cultural critic Hari Kondabolu joins us to dig into The Wedding Singer —one of DB's childhood favorites! We talk emotional manipulation, passive female leads, and why so many rom-coms treat marriage like a finish line. Julia deserves better! Plus, softboy meltdown karaoke, marriage as the ultimate female achievement, and The Not Like Other Girls Olympics. GUEST DETAILS Queens-raised Brooklyn-based comedian Hari Kondabolu has performed on Comedy Central, Con...
Apr 16, 2025•42 min•Season 11Ep. 14
In It’s Complicated , Meryl Streep’s character finds herself tangled back up with her slimy ex—familiar, messy, but kind of irresistible. In this week’s bonus ep, DB dives into the real-life version of this quandary and answers a listener’s question about sleeping with their ex. Why are we drawn back to people we’ve already left? Can it ever actually work? Mentioned in this episode: It’s Complicated with Nicoletta Heidegger, LMFT: Rom-Com Vom CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok...
Apr 11, 2025•9 min
In It’s Complicated , Meryl Streep is a thriving divorcée caught between her sleazy ex-husband and a soft-spoken architect. What starts as a steamy rekindling quickly turns into a chaotic spiral of questionable decision making. This week, we're unpacking what It’s Complicated gets right about midlife sex, healing, and regret — and what it leaves out when it comes to agency and growth. Plus: how Nicoletta’s real-life work with couples and families adds context to the emotional wreckage onscreen. ...
Apr 09, 2025•45 min•Season 11Ep. 13
We’re dropping a clip from one of our all-time fave podcasts: Shameless Sex! If you’ve ever wondered how to level up your pussy-eating game, this episode’s for you. Pleasure educator Tyomi Morgan walks us through techniques, tools, and tips for giving oral that actually hits. Mouths, hands, toys—it’s all on the table (or bed, or floor, etc.). We LOVE what Amy and April are doing on Shameless Sex—it’s sex ed meets comedy meets sexy chaos, and it’s just so damn fun. We even joined them for episode...
Apr 04, 2025•14 min
This week, we’re joined by Becca Rea-Tucker—aka The Sweet Feminist—to break down Sweet Home Alabama , the rom-com that wants you to root for a gaslighting ex with a glassblowing hobby. DB and Becca dig into the movie’s deep-fried nostalgia, messy relationship dynamics, and the way rom-coms love to dress up coercion as fate. They unpack emotional manipulation in a southern accent, the myth of “the one,” and why Melanie’s real love story might’ve been with her friends—or *literally* anyone else! G...
Apr 02, 2025•31 min
DB is here with a critical update on the state of abortion in the U.S.—and it’s a mixed bag. From attacks on medication abortion and emergency care to the pardoning of anti-abortion extremists, Trump’s agenda is already reshaping access. But there’s good news too: Arizona just delivered a major win, and organizing continues to pay off across the country. Also in this ep: the criminalization of providers, why trans rights are reproductive rights, and what you can do to stay informed—and stay loud...
Mar 28, 2025•13 min
In Dirty Dancing , Baby Houseman heads to the Catskills for some good old-fashioned family bonding and accidentally ends up in the arms of a sexy dance instructor—and in the middle of a very real conversation about class, abortion, and rebellion. This week, we had the time of our LIFE with Steph Herold—repro researcher, cultural critic, and abortion advocate—talking class politics, Penny’s storyline, and why Dirty Dancing is secretly a movie about choosing community over cool guys (even if the c...
Mar 26, 2025•37 min•Season 11Ep. 11
Following this week’s conversation with Jackie Rotman on the Center for Intimacy Justice’s groundbreaking new report , DB shares her own experience with digital suppression as a sex educator. From flagged posts to shadowbanning to disappearing content, she talks about how social media censorship has affected her work and mental health—and what audiences can do to push back and support censored creators. Mentioned in this episode: The Digital Gag: How Big Tech is Censoring Sexual Health CONNECT W...
Mar 21, 2025•11 min
The Digital Gag Report recently published by the Center for Intimacy Justice exposes how social media platforms systematically block sexual health content while giving a free pass to erectile dysfunction ads. From financial losses to self-censorship, the consequences are massive. So why is this happening, and what needs to change for it to stop? Jackie Rotman, founder of the Center for Intimacy Justice, joins us to break down how Big Tech suppresses sexual health content, why women-led businesse...
Mar 19, 2025•43 min•Season 11Ep. 19
This week, we’re sharing a special clip from a recent episode of a podcast we love, rePROs Fight Back , where Madeline Morcelle, Senior Attorney at the National Health Law Program, breaks down why Medicaid is essential to sexual and reproductive healthcare—and what’s at stake with proposed funding cuts. Medicaid currently insures over 72 million people, covering critical reproductive health services like family planning, pregnancy-related care, and abortion (within Hyde Amendment exceptions). Bu...
Mar 14, 2025•11 min
In Legally Blonde , Elle Woods follows her ex to Harvard Law to win him back—only to realize she’s way too good for him. But does the movie actually challenge the system, or just find a way to play by its rules? This week, Brandon Kyle Goodman ( Big Mouth, Tell Me Something Messy ) joins DB to talk about why this movie still resonates, where it falls short on representation, and whether its brand of feminism is as empowering as we remember. Plus: the camp, the class privilege, and why Hollywood ...
Mar 12, 2025•37 min
In Sleepless in Seattle , Annie falls for a man she’s never met, drawn in by the fantasy of who he might be. But what happens when that fantasy isn’t just in your head... and it's talking back to you? In this week's bonus episode, DB dives into the rise of AI relationships, the loneliness driving people to seek them out, and the ethical questions around forming attachments to something that isn’t human. Mentioned in this episode: She Fell in Love With ChatGPT. Like, Actual Love. With Sex. Sleepl...
Mar 07, 2025•15 min
