In this episode, DB talks with Dr. Lexx about SO many different kinds of pleasure and how to keep pleasure centered in a long-term monogamous relationship. It isn't always just about sex -- pleasure can come from so many different parts of our lives, our senses, and our relationships with others. Let's learn about all the different types of pleasure we can embrace right here right now. As Dr. Lexx says: pleasure is a birthright! Guest Details Dr. Lexx is a premiere sexologist leading the field o...
Oct 08, 2025•51 min•Season 12Ep. 18
This week, DB reflects on last week's fantastic conversation with Certified Sex Therapist Claire Perelman. Let's take a moment to really unpack jealousy and envy, no matter if you're ENM or monogamous. What does jealousy say about us -- and what does it not? There's a sense of shame around jealousy that we can move past using our emotional honesty and by naming what we're feeling. Plus: a vocab lesson on jealousy versus envy. They're different! JEALOUSY SCRIPTS YOU CAN STEALWhen jealousy pops up...
Oct 03, 2025•19 min•Season 12Ep. 17
In this episode, DB talks with Claire Perelman all about the pleasure of non-monogamy! ENM, polyamory, swingers, monogam-ish -- there's so many ways to be non-monogamous, and so many reasons living a life outside of monogamy can be a tremendous joy. Non-monogamous listeners, we see you! Monogamous listeners, this is a great moment to learn about what makes ENM so appealing to so many. Guest Details Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish, Certified Sex Therapist and Educator living and work...
Oct 01, 2025•52 min•Season 12Ep. 16
In this episode, DB talks with TammyJo Eckhart, a BDSM activist who's here to dispel some myths about M/s, or Master/slave, relationships -- in the long-term! Don't let the title fool you; just like all BDSM discussed here at Sex Ed with DB, TammyJo talks about how not only can M/s relationships be consensual, but also caring, freeing, and therepeutic for everyone inolved. Between Us is a new episode format where we speak with folks living through what some of our experts from other episodes hav...
Sep 24, 2025•24 min•Season 12Ep. 15
In this episode, DB talks with Midori, a sex eduator and artist who focuses on domination and power play for anyone who identifies as a woman. What does femme domination look like -- and why can it be so intimidating to tap into? Learn to tap into your domme side with tips from Midori on how to get there, and why domming is often so much simpler and sweeter than people might think. Guest Details Midori (she/her) is an educator, artist, and provocateur reshaping how we understand kink, consent, a...
Sep 17, 2025•54 min•Season 12Ep. 13
In this episode, DB talks with her friend Beatrice (aka Triss) about sex after gender affirming surgery. If you think you know what "bottom surgery" means, you might have more to learn than you think! Hear from Triss about her choice to get an orchiectomy, how the surgery and recovery went for her, and the changes she's experienced since -- plus, her ritual for the wet specimen she took home with her. Between Us is a new episode format where we speak with folks living through what some of our ex...
Sep 10, 2025•23 min•Season 12Ep. 13
In this episode, DB talks with Jamie Joy, a trans sex educator, to talk all things trans sex. Trans listeners, tune in for some fascinating conversations on things like hormones and finding what feels right for you. Cis listeners, there's tips for you too -- not just on how to give pleasure to your trans partner regardless of their anatomy, but how you might find more joy in yourself as well! This is a vital time to be tuning in to what our trans communities need, inside and outside of the bedro...
Sep 03, 2025•48 min•Season 12Ep. 12
Have you ever had an experience that you did not consent to but that was enjoyable, transformational, or even pleasurable? This week Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Dr. Avgi Saketopoulou ( @avgolis98 ), queer psychoanalyst and author of Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia , to discuss queering consent. As part of our discussion, Avgi shares stories of times when clients experienced events outside of their consent, including in sexual situations. C...
Aug 29, 2025•1 hr 19 min
Why are we not talking more about baby-making sex and how stressful it can be?? I spoke to new moms and experts you'll recognize from Sex Ed with DB to figure out what's going on and how we could be doing it better. DB's Download is a new episode format! Inspired by our newsletter , which ends with a sum up of what I've been reading/watching/etc. each week, this format gives me some room to tell you all what I've been up to. Let us know what you think about this format! Shoot me an email at sexe...
Aug 27, 2025•20 min•Season 12Ep. 11
Can weed actually make sex better? And what does the science have to say about it? This week, DB breaks down what the research really says about cannabis, desire, arousal, and orgasms. We’re talking sexy highs, not-so-sexy side effects, and how to use weed to enhance pleasure. Mentioned in this episode: Ketamine, Couples Therapy, and Psychedelic Pleasure with Dr. Genesee Herzberg ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. ...
Aug 20, 2025•9 min•Season 12Ep. 10
In this episode, DB sits down with Dr. Genesee Herzberg to talk about ketamine, couples therapy, and psychedelic pleasure. They get into common myths, what actually happens in a session, how ketamine can help couples break old patterns, and why novelty can reignite connection and desire. Plus: how touch and consent can be part of healing. Guest Details Dr. Genesee Herzberg is a clinical psychologist from the California Bay Area. She is co-founder of Sage Integrative Health , a holistic psychedel...
Aug 13, 2025•58 min•Season 12Ep. 9
What’s the deal with hormones, anyway? DB breaks down how they impact your sex life, mood, energy, and overall health. Learn what’s normal, what’s not, and how to better understand what your body’s telling you. Mentioned in this episode: Rediscovering Desire: Sex, Hormones, and Libido through Middle Age and Beyond with Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—y...
Aug 06, 2025•15 min•Season 12Ep. 8
Sex gets better with age...if we let it! In this episode, DB sits down with her mom, badass OBGYN Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt, to talk all about sex and aging, They get into responsive desire, menopause, hormones, vaginal estrogen (gamechanger!), and why more women than ever are asking for what they want in the bedroom. Plus: how to talk to your doctor about your pleasure! GUEST DETAILS Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt is an obstetrician and gynecologist who has been taking care of women of all ages for more t...
Jul 30, 2025•57 min•Season 12Ep. 7
Can you really come again… and again… and again? Hell yes you can! DB is here to break down the science of multiple orgasms and what actually helps make it happen (hint: it’s not just willpower). Mentioned in this ep: The Orgasm Gap with Laurie Mintz Three Secrets to a Thriving Sex Life with Dr. Emily Nagoski Toy recs to get you there again and again and again: The Womanizer Premium Lela Ena Remember to use code SEXEDWITHDB for 15% off! ABOUT SEASON 12Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLE...
Jul 23, 2025•15 min•Season 12Ep. 6
DB sits down with sexologist and educator Goody Howard, MSW, MPH to shake up everything you thought you knew about orgasms. From 20+ ways to come (yes, 20!) to the cultural myths that shut us down, they’re talking about how to reconnect with your body, tune into sensuality outside the bedroom, and try to achieve at least one of the 20 different orgasm types. Consider this your official invite to get curious and way more orgasmic this summer. ;) GUEST DETAILS Goody Howard , MSW, MPH is your favor...
Jul 16, 2025•1 hr 2 min•Season 12Ep. 5
Coping with mismatched libidos in your partnership? You are sooo not alone! DB breaks down why desire isn’t just a switch you can flip, how stress and hormones play a role, and offers some evidence-based advice about what to do when you and your partner aren’t in sync. Mentioned in this episode: Initiating Sex with Confidence with Whitni Miller ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasie...
Jul 09, 2025•14 min•Season 12Ep. 4
Initiating sex can feel vulnerable, awkward, or even downright scary—especially if you were socialized to anticipate everyone else's needs before your own. This week, DB is joined by the one and only Whitni Miller (aka BDE Moves ), queer couples intimacy coach, to break down what gets in the way, how to build confidence, and why getting turned down doesn’t have to be a bad thing. We’re talking perfectionism, eroticism, pleasure, and how to get out of your head and into your body. Let's get into ...
Jul 02, 2025•47 min•Season 12Ep. 3
DB breaks down how to talk to your partner about bringing sex toys into the bedroom to get more pleasure. She shares stats on who’s using sex toys, why queer couples are ahead of the game, and easy ways to start the convo with your partner. Plus: top sex toy recs and a playful challenge to try at home. Studies mentioned in this episode: Do Sex Toys Make Me Satisfied? The Use of Sex Toys in Denmark, Norway, Sweden, Finland, France, and the UK The Results of the Magic Wand Wellness Study Are In! T...
Jun 25, 2025•15 min•Season 12Ep. 2
Season 12 is all about PLEASURE and we're kicking things off with a juicy one! This week, DB is joined by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons—licensed psychologist, sex researcher, and pleasure activist—to talk about what happened when 1,000 people masturbate for science ! The Magic Wand Wellness Study is the first study of its kind to look at how daily masturbation impacts things like sleep, stress, focus, confidence, and body image, and the results were amazing . We talk about why solo pleasure is so o...
Jun 18, 2025•48 min•Season 12Ep. 1
Within hours of the new administration’s return-to-office, disorder took over. A foreign aid freeze, a stop-work order, and the dismantling of key foreign aid institutions commenced almost immediately. Gayatri Patel, Senior Fellow with rePROs Fight Back, sits down to talk with us about glimmers of hope for protecting this foreign assistance funding and relevant agencies, as well as how we can prepare for the realistic, long-term impacts of these attacks. rePROs Fight Back on X rePROs Fight Back ...
Jun 11, 2025•30 min
Ready to have better sex? Start here. This season on Sex Ed with DB , we’re diving into what your high school health class definitely didn’t teach you: how to get more pleasure. Whether you’re trying to orgasm with a partner, explore your kinks, or just feel more confident in your body—this is the season for you. Hit play to hear what we’re covering: solo pleasure, partnered sex, sex toys, porn, fantasies, queer joy, and so much more. Got questions about sex you’ve been too nervous to ask? We’ve...
Jun 04, 2025•1 min
One nerd’s quest to find out why we know next to nothing about period pain. Tired of suffering from "death cramps" with no diagnosis for 20 years, Kate Downey has to look for her own answers. What she finds will change how you think about your own body and the medical system. Because having a microphone gets you more answers than having a uterus. https://www.katehelendowney.com/cramped CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdb...
Jun 04, 2025•43 min
That’s a wrap on Rom-Com Vom ! We made it through a whole season of dissecting the cringiest lessons the rom-coms that raised us tried to teach. In this final episode, DB reflects on what she’s learned through making the show—and what these movies still reveal about love, culture, and ourselves. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's Den , Uberlube , &...
May 30, 2025•12 min
It’s the final Rom-Com Vom—and we’re going out with a true vom. DB is joined by the brilliant Kate from CRAMPED to dissect No Strings Attached, a film so bafflingly bad it makes you double-check that yes, it really did come out in 2011. They unpack the film’s deeply weird messages about women, work, and love, from its rare-but-still-weird period scene to its tired idea that ambitious women just need to be “fixed” by emotionally unavailable men. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikT...
May 28, 2025•50 min
In this week’s bonus ep: DB reviews Dying for Sex, a show about what happens when a terminal diagnosis blows your whole life open, and catalyzes a chaotic late-stage sexual awakening. She breaks down what the show gets right about trauma and autonomy, and how it captures the weird and tender reality of female friendship. Mentioned in this episode: 13 Going on 13 with Paul Caiola: Rom-Com Vom Sign up now: https://radiobootcamp.org/classes/making-indie-podcasts-that-pay-mastering-the-art-of-sponso...
May 23, 2025•15 min
This week, we are thrilled (wink wink) to review 13 Going on 30! DB and Paul talk about the ethics of age-gap romance when time travel is involved, and why 2000s films were so obsessed with pitting women against each other. Plus: dollhouses, dream jobs, and whether Matty is actually too good for Jenna. GUEST DETAILS Since 2019, Paul has been one-half of the creative team behind That Aged Well , a podcast devoted to movies, nostalgia, friendship, and inappropriate jokes. Paul spends a great deal ...
May 21, 2025•46 min•Season 11Ep. 19
Inspired by this week's Rom Com Vom episode on the disastrous Just Friends , DB answers a listener's question about getting out of the friend zone... Mentioned in this episode: Just Friends with Lauren Passell and Holly Brown CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's Den , Uberlube , Magic Wand , & Arya . Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here...
May 16, 2025•10 min
Buckle up, it's Just Friends week on Rom Com Vom! DB is joined by Holly Brown and Lauren Passell of Tink Media to break down reformed fuckboys, friend zone mythology, and why this movie still kind of slaps, even when it sincerely shouldn’t. GUEST DETAILS Lauren Passell is the founder of Tink Media, a podcast growth and strategy company, and the editor of Podcast the Newsletter. She teaches podcast marketing and PR classes and is a judge for The Webbys, The Signal Awards, The Ambies, The Internat...
May 14, 2025•36 min•Season 11Ep. 18
Today we’re sharing an episode from one of our wellness podcast faves: Be Well, Sis . Hosted by Dr. Cassandre Dunbar, the show is dedicated to providing resources for Black millennial women to be their best selves physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You’ll hear an excerpt from the episode Taming the Busy Brain with Dr. Romie: Strategies for Stress, Success, and Self-Care. In this episode Dr. Cassandre chats with renowned neurologist and wellness expert, Dr. Romie, to dig into how...
May 09, 2025•12 min
DB is on her honeymoon, so we're bringing you the BEST orgasm tips from the archives of Sex Ed with DB! DB and Mariah from Sex Ed Files share their go-to techniques for reaching the big O. Then, stick around as DB tackles a listener's question on how to make orgasms even more intense. Hear the full episodes: Curious Sex Ed: Orgasms More Sex Ed: How can I have a stronger orgasm? CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast ...
May 07, 2025•24 min
