The final episode of Sex Ed For You Where Research Meets Reality. Until further notice ;) Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator & Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach....
Jan 01, 2025•1 hr 16 min•Season 1Ep. 59
Have you ever met someone in their early twenties and found it impossible to connect? Or caught yourself cringing at a young couple’s codependency? If so, this episode is for you! We kick things off by discussing age-appropriate sex education for kids—essential lessons that lay the groundwork for understanding relationships, consent, self-advocacy, and body autonomy. From there, we explore how common relationship stereotypes often stem from a lack of these foundational lessons and examine how th...
Dec 30, 2024•57 min•Season 1Ep. 58
Between Martha Stewart and the trending TradWife content, there’s been a lot of talk lately about women and their roles in society. Today, we dive into the nuances of what it means to be a bitch who bakes casseroles, despite the chastisement of societal norms. Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! ...
Dec 18, 2024•54 min•Season 1Ep. 57
This episode is centered around the question of egalitarian health, mostly pertaining to women’s health and the lack of support the American medical system has for women’s health issues. We dive into the following questions and further discuss important nuances of the medical system pertaining to sexual health like racial inequities and holistic medicine. What is patriarchal medicine? What does it look like to have an egalitarian health system? What are qualities of a good health care provider? ...
Dec 11, 2024•56 min•Season 1Ep. 56
In this episode, we discuss the all too often overlooked intersection of religion, specifically Christianity, and sexuality. Because our primary clientele are folks who have some sort of history with religion, we find it deeply important to cover this topic with nuance and care. We dive into Rev. Bev’s "Sex Is Good!" series and tackle questions such as: Who does my body belong to? What is safety-seeking behavior? What is embedded theology? And how to navigate working with educators who hold diff...
Dec 04, 2024•49 min•Season 1Ep. 55
You asked, we answered. Today’s episode tackles the following 4 questions: Why is there such value placed on the idea of virginity, yet sexual skills are still expected? How do you establish boundaries in a relationship surrounding sex? How can you manage and help a lowered libido due to antidepressants or hormonal medication? How do you become good at sex? This conversation was so much fun and so informative. We tackle all these questions with the now expected levels of nuance and guidance with...
Nov 27, 2024•1 hr 14 min•Season 1Ep. 54
In this episode, we dive into the complexities of relationship dynamics, exploring the impact of controlling behaviors like phone checks and the role intuition plays in navigating anxious attachment. We unpack the concept of micro-cheating, the blurred lines around flirting, and how self-fulfilling prophecies can shape our perceptions of trust. Plus, we discuss how to define cheating within a relationship and navigate tough conversations about unmet needs, codependency, and boundaries. Cheating ...
Nov 20, 2024•55 min•Season 1Ep. 53
In this episode, we explore the complexities of cheating and relationship boundaries. What is the collective definition of cheating? Using a real-life example, we dive into the nuances of infidelity, the shadow side of sexuality, and maintaining healthy boundaries with exes. We also discuss how to communicate difficult truths with a partner and what it takes to rebuild trust after infidelity. Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rat...
Nov 13, 2024•49 min•Season 1Ep. 52
This episode was recorded on 11/5 before results were announced. There is no mention of results. In this episode, we focus on fostering a welcoming, open conversation about reproductive health, emphasizing that it’s not about telling you what you “should” believe, but rather offering informative insights and creating space for thoughtful disagreement. The episode touches on personal growth, highlighting how one can evolve their views over time with the slogan “I used to believe ____, and then I ...
Nov 06, 2024•50 min•Season 1Ep. 51
In this holiday episode, we ask why Halloween leads to the sexualization of professions such as nursing, firefighting, and, most controversial of all– nuns (nunning? nunnery?). Of course, this leads us back to one of our favorite sources; the circles of sexuality. DOWNLOAD here for free . Truth is, Halloween is just one instance of society writing us all a permission slip to dress however we want, so the question really is– what does it look like to give yourself permission to live your life how...
Oct 23, 2024•32 min•Season 1Ep. 50
The reality of life is that you have a body. And sometimes, because of a myriad of reasons– ie society, body dysmorphia, etc– there are days where we just hate our bodies. This is truly a universal experience and I hope this episode both equips you with tools to use on those hard days and shows you that you are not alone in this. The conversation today centers around honoring your emotions then making the active decision to help move yourself from a place of disgust with self to a place of appre...
Oct 16, 2024•50 min•Season 1Ep. 39
Do you find yourself hating your birthday every year? Maybe you’re used to a heaping sense of disappointment when you allow yourself to anticipate a perfect day that ends up falling short of your unspoken expectations. In this episode, we talk about Lauren’s perfect birthday weekend– celebrating her daughter’s birthday and her own. Lauren gives us her recipe for a perfect birthday– asking for what you want. Then, Holland talks about her most recent disappointing birthday experience that fell sho...
Oct 02, 2024•1 hr 7 min
Well, when you put your life on a podcast you should expect to be held accountable for your actions. We are not perfect, but we do our best to hold ourselves accountable for our actions and impact. Lauren leads us in a game that encourages the players to define themselves apart from their relationships; guiding us to think about how our values shape the lives we lead. We talk through one of our favorite worksheets that walks you through Accidents vs Violations and steps to repair. RESOURCES REPA...
Sep 25, 2024•56 min•Season 1Ep. 47
Lauren returns from her training-- Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent with even more wisdom than before. Lauren breaks down the WOC and tells us more about the basic principles of consent. Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Please note: Lauren is...
Sep 18, 2024•51 min•Season 1Ep. 46
Seasons of change often bring immense discomfort, including bodily discomfort. Lauren takes us through her weekend of detrimental sickness that led to clarity in decisions to close important chapters and move forward into new opportunities. Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. ...
Sep 11, 2024•49 min•Season 1Ep. 45
A conversation centered around the JOY that comes from trusting your own intuition and following through for self. Holland talks about being recognized in public for the first time as well as a recent recognition from a friend. Lauren gives her in depth story about how she came into sexuality education and the internal wisdom she had to follow to find it. Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen ...
Sep 04, 2024•48 min•Season 1Ep. 44
Episode 43 is at its core, about the fact that self-care, in whatever form you most need, is not villainous. I discuss my most recent experience with revoking consent in favor of self-care and Lauren touches on respecting her own needs when others draw on her energy. We also discuss a new modality that Lauren is learning about in her Embodied Coaching Course: MEBES. Love, H 03:30 Consent & Revoking Consent 08:00 Pleasure Cannot Be Given or Received- Dr. Betty Martin 09:30 Be the Villain in S...
Aug 28, 2024•50 min•Season 1Ep. 43
Follow along as we walk through the process of selecting new values for SEX ED FOR YOU; detailing mine and Lauren’s personal stories of why values are so important to us as business people and just plain ol’ people people. Values Blog Post Sex Ed Prep for Parents Find Your Why Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our t...
Aug 21, 2024•50 min•Season 1Ep. 42
Here it is!! The most comprehensive list of all the products, games, and tools we recommend to clients and friends alike. This list will give you everything you need to know about the some of the coolest brands available in the field of sex and sexuality. We're Not Really Strangers The Date Deck Intimacy Cards The KIWI; code STRETCHY OhNuts; code SEXEDFORYOU Lauren's OhNuts story in Episode 5 Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand Momotaro Apotheca Salve Momotaro Apotheca Suppository Emergency Contraceptives...
Aug 07, 2024•1 hr 30 min•Season 1Ep. 41
Lauren and I spend this episode talking about the ways we find purpose in our lives, hardships, and pain. From really difficult menstrual cycles to surviving abuse, we truly believe that everything we’ve each been through has purpose in the greater tapestry of humanity. I touch on my Oura Ring with a little insight on how I manage my cycle tracking. Lauren gives us a quick run down of the importance of the lovely Capricorn moon we all experienced on the weekend of July 21; how deeply this moon a...
Jul 31, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 40
A short and sweet episode to catch you up on some behind the scenes of Sex Ed For You, including my new title and what it means to us. Then, we dive into introducing you to our newly improved blog!! We're here to bring you the better version of Carrie Bradshaw you never knew you needed. ;) Love always, H 02:00 Holland’s Title Change 03:30 Lauren is good at math 05:12 Holland is indeed killing it 06:50 What a Free Consult Looks Like 07:40 What is a CC&CC? 09:06 Your New Carrie Bradshaw 13:35 ...
Jul 24, 2024•34 min•Season 1Ep. 39
SEX ED PREP FOR PARENTS COURSE IS NOW LIVE!! In this episode, we’re letting you in on the inner workings of Sex Ed For You… hint: a lot’s changing! Plus, some updates about our very own version of the bachelorette in the most coded language ever, Holland’s love life ;) Hope y’all enjoy. H 02:08 Holland’s Job Title is Changing! 08:52 Holland’s Contract 13:36 The Root of The Issue– Finance 15:52 Tying in the Wheel of Consent 22:05 The Week of Chaos 32:47 Accident vs Violation 34:20 How & Why W...
Jul 17, 2024•1 hr 18 min•Season 1Ep. 38
This episode is a sequel to episode 30 ; where we talked about all the erotic themes of Bridgerton. In this part, Lauren and I give our high level reviews and critiques of the third season of the show, highlighting some areas where the portrayal of intimacy could really use some improvement. Lauren gives us an in-depth look at the process of arousal and why we should NEVER be saying phrases such as “it’s gonna hurt.” If you like Bridgerton, and want some shows with a similar vibe, we suggest you...
Jul 10, 2024•50 min•Season 1Ep. 37
In this episode of Sex Ed For You: Where Research Meets Reality, Lauren and I start off by watching a recent reel post by Madion Prewitt , a former contestant on the Bachelor. This video started a conversation on submission within partnership, division of labor in households, and the importance of respecting your partner. We also dive into why the Bachelor/ette dating shows not only don’t work, but also are a horrible representation of polyamory; glorifying an unbalanced model of what can be a r...
Jul 03, 2024•57 min•Season 1Ep. 36
Last week, we left off on a cliffhanger. Today, we’re back with the answers you so desperately desire. Listen to this episode to get the inside scoop on what it means to date authentically and align your longings on a first date! Lauren and I consider how much I’ve changed since moving to VA, and how that has deeply affected my dating practices. We give you some great advice about dating authentically and what it looks like to accept that YOU DESERVE TO DATE PEOPLE YOU REALLY LIKE! Besides, in t...
Jun 26, 2024•48 min•Season 1Ep. 35
In this episode, Lauren and I tackle the age old question, how should you flirt? What even is flirting? What’s the purpose of flirting? Pulling on our favorite resources, Pleasure Activism, Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, and my personal life (lol), we create a toolkit for you to use when flirting out in the wild. ;) Love always, H RESOURCES Pleasure Activism Sexual Values Worksheet (CODE: FLIRT) Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast...
Jun 19, 2024•59 min•Season 1Ep. 34
This episode was recorded to help those of you who are currently in a relationship and considering long-term commitment: is this the relationship for you? DOWNLOAD THE PARTNERHSIP CONSIDERATION JOURNAL PROMPTS HERE FOR FREE -- CODE: NUANCE Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. P...
Jun 12, 2024•1 hr 19 min•Season 1Ep. 33
This episode tackles topics like age gap romance real-life applications and what conversations we think should preempt relationship attempts. Lauren and I discuss the importance of individuation, developmental age markers, and aligning your longings with potential partners. We give light to the fun aspects of fantasy that enrapt many people fascinated with a person who’s much older or younger than they are and encourage listeners to use their common sense when faced with such situations. We also...
Jun 05, 2024•1 hr 12 min•Season 1Ep. 32
TW: PET LOSS If you follow us on socials, you probably already know that my (Holland’s) dog, Ollie, passed away recently. This episode was filmed a couple days after we held his funeral. We talk about the funeral, grief, and how we’re all adapting to a new life without our little best friend. We also touch on having funerals/goodbye rituals for past situationships and how that can be really beneficial. RESOURCES: The Playlist we referenced Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Re...
May 29, 2024•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 31
Y’all, Lauren and I ran to the podcast chairs as soon as Bridgerton Season 3 came out. No S3 spoilers here, but if you haven’t seen S1 & S2 then you should probably watch those first. ;) This conversation was all about the erotic themes of the Bridgerton love stories we’ve seen so far: Daphne + Simon, Anthony + Kate, and the long awaited Pen + Colin. Lauren and I talk through our own favorite scenes from the show and which erotic themes are most common. We touch on the topic of sexualization...
May 22, 2024•48 min•Season 1Ep. 30
