So, you’ve been curious. You haven’t quite felt comfortable asking. These are probably good instincts but why did Al Gore invent the internet if it wasn’t to have a better understanding of other people’s genitals, am I right? Phoebe Rose returns to the show for a bit of show and tell and a concerted effort to help the world recognize and understand trans women, or atleast their underpants. Catch the not-so-delicate conversation plus your calls and questions and what’s turning us on this week on ...
Jul 29, 2022•1 hr 19 min
If the best things in life are free then talking about the birds and bees with the hosts of SecX is what we all want. And since SecX gives you such a thrill, why not join us on a mission (away) from god? As new host Kara Griffin joins the show they meet Nate and Christy for a conversation about atheist activism and the importance of sex positivity during these trying times. Catch our conversation about atheism, activism and the inevitability of awkward moments as sex positive people in an increa...
Jul 22, 2022•1 hr 26 min
Oh, the masks we wear. Sometimes because we want to, sometimes for safety from the Governor of Florida, and occasionally because we’re attending a Victorian-era ball. Tonight, these three Muskequeers will be talking about our experiences as queer folk who don’t present as such, our journey to being honest with ourselves, and how much fun butt stuff can be. Join Nate, Helen and Jason this Thursday, call in with your questions and stories, and don’t miss this episode of Secular Sexuality! Dive dee...
Jul 15, 2022•1 hr 25 min
Each and every week we encourage people to take a quiet moment for themselves and… well you’ve seen it. You know we’ve talked about everything from porn addiction (myth) to gooning (surprisingly real) and still somehow forgot to talk about the benefits of masturbation- turns out the perks of self-love aren’t always self-evident. Enter then writer and Sex Coach Shannon Burton who walks Kara and Christy through a long list of best practices and special treats for your favorite special someone- YOU...
Jul 08, 2022•1 hr 11 min
Zombies rising from the dead, whole armies of injured peasants and well dressed super assassins all have plenty of screen time in our culture- but what about female pleasure? How is it that John Wick can kill 84 people in a little over two hours, usually without breaking his stride, but Blue Is The Warmest Color receives the cinematic death penalty for showing two women enjoying each other’s love? If you’ve ever wondered why you can make fun of queer people in a movie but can’t have them kiss Jo...
Jul 01, 2022•1 hr 26 min
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Jun 24, 2022•1 hr 20 min
A painted fingernail, a tattered pair of overalls or a genderswaping nickname- we all participate in a little gender f**kery from time to time. And a little role play, gender play or just play with gender roles might be exactly what we need to unleash, unlock or understand ourselves. But can we go too far, or make a mess of things as we play? Veteran performers and sex-worker advocates Sinn Sage and Summer Hart join Christy in a conversation about the silliness and sissyness of it all and the ro...
Jun 17, 2022•1 hr 17 min
Peanut butter and jelly, apples and bananas, condoms and non-oil based lube; some things feel like they're just built to go together. If you’re a fan of Secular Sexuality however you may not like PB&J- we suspect there are more peanut butter and banana people out there then Kinsey’s classical survey data may indicate. So what happens when 3 bananas decide to buck the ancient social order and make their own life for themself? Well, bad jokes, for one, but also a Secular Sexuality episode abou...
Jun 10, 2022•1 hr 23 min
When you sincerely believe that god has a perfect plan for your life and a Proverbs 31 wife all lined up for you, the dating scene can be a little bit different. When you lose all of that through divorce and the deconstruction of your faith, night clubs can suddenly seem irrationally intimidating, to say nothing of one night stands. Author and speaker Drew Bekius joins Christy in an intimate conversation about dating and deconstructing and what it really feels like to save your first date until ...
Jun 03, 2022•1 hr 26 min
May 27, 2022•1 hr 14 min
Porn, huh? What is it good for? This supposedly “new drug” arguably dates back to prehistory and yet our access to and relationship with it have dramatically shifted in the last decade, and not always for the better. Join us as Christy, Laura and Sinn explore the messy and often sticky world of erotic audio, dime store paperbacks and good ole fashioned internet porn. Catch the episode live and add your thoughts and questions or tune in just to find out what’s turning us on this week as we explor...
May 20, 2022•1 hr 30 min
May 13, 2022•1 hr 24 min
Perhaps as many as a third of us are neurodiverse- equipped out of the box with a brain that doesn’t neatly fit into our world because of ADHD, ASC, dyslexia, sensory processing and a handful of other considerations. Marie LePage, everyone’s favorite deconstructive and spiritual atheist, friend of the show, tells us their story of masking, loving and living with a neurodivergent diagnosis. Marie, Myself and I host Marie LePage, Christy, what’s turning us on and your calls and questions on this w...
May 06, 2022•1 hr 23 min
We know you’ve been wondering. We know you’ve been working up the courage. So just go ahead and ask already, we don’t bite. For free. Whether you’re brave enough to call or just calling for a friend, join Christy and our audience of voyeurs as our favorite sinner and adult performer Sinn Sage rejoins the show to answer all your silliest, sexiest and most salacious questions in this ask me anything event. Nothing but your calls and questions and plenty of things to turn us on this week on SecX!
Apr 29, 2022•1 hr 20 min
If modern media is to be believed our forefathers were serious people with simple demands- the freedom to bear arms, buy cheap gas and believe in whatever alternative facts they choose. In a post Truth/ post Trump world it’s starting to feel like the message has gotten a little messy. The ACA’s own Kenneth Leonard joins Christy in a conversation about J6th, CRT, MTG, HRT and what will probably be the death of me as we explore Christian nationalism and the future of America. Catch the conversatio...
Apr 22, 2022•1 hr 33 min
The old joke goes something like this- A man and a woman sit down with a therapist complaining about their sex life. “He wants it all the time, we never stop having sex/ she’s never in the mood, we practically never make love” they explain. “How often do you actually have sex?” the therapist asks. “Once or twice a week” they agree in unison. As old jokes go it’s a B minus but the truth is it captures the narrative of our culture while being exhaustingly, mind numbingly out of touch with the real...
Apr 15, 2022•1 hr 17 min
For the optimist, half full; the pessimist, half empty. To MD Aware it’s just another urine sample but whether you are a doctor, or a lawyer or a business executive how we think about trans bodies matters. Whether we understand gender as a social construct, a biological imperative or an economic opportunity to sell two of everything the way we vote, the way we care and the way we live is tied to the way we interpret this fundamental piece of our humanity. Truth Wanted’s resident medical expert a...
Apr 08, 2022•1 hr 19 min
When you don’t believe in god or hell or eternal damnation and think that sex and body positivity are important values, it can be really hard to find exactly the right words to describe what is going on in state legislatures all across the country. If these queer targeted and religiously minded policies really do reflect the prevailing culture of the land then I suppose while in Rome we can swear as the Christian nationalists do and goddamn this f*cking dumbass bigotry straight to hell. Journali...
Apr 01, 2022•1 hr 29 min
For months now we’ve made a very special point of telling you just exactly what is turning us on but never quite got around to defining what that actually means. Turns out, a lot of people have a lot of assumptions about arousal, desire…tumescence, so it may be time to set the record straight. High Priestess Shannon Q joins Christy in an engorging conversation on turgidity, fluidity and patriarchy, plus of course your calls and questions and what’s turning us on this week, whatever that means. D...
Mar 25, 2022•1 hr 27 min
If the message of SecX is anything, it’s find the life and love that fits you irregardless of whomst is declaring the supposed commands of god. Drawing your own map and exploring your own boundaries and those of your partner(s) can raise a lot of scary questions- “Friends with ex’s? Pornography? Sex workers? NON-MONOGAMY!? WhErE Do wE DrAw tHe lInE?!?” Psychotherapist and poly advocate Justine Guzman joins Arden and P*ck to formally declare “Fucking somewhere.” Join the conversation with your ca...
Mar 18, 2022•1 hr 16 min
The snap of a disposable glove and the swoosh and shine of a catsuit both only scratch the surface of a deep seated itch. Since it’s invention nearly 200 years ago latex, rubber wear and a whole host of fabrics have been as tied to fetish as fashion and Miss O Kissed has made a life at the intersection of both. Join Laura and Christy as fan favorite fashionista Miss O Kissed walks us through the etiquette, the erotic and all things related to latex, rubberism and a heavenly host of hellish delig...
Mar 11, 2022•1 hr 24 min
Like an R rated movie we were too young to see, sex used to be this incredible promise on the horizon. For those of us who grew up in religion, it was often this vision of holy joy and Jesus sanctioned satisfaction for our wilder side, all just on the other side of a god ordained marriage. But whether we ultimately ‘followed the rules’ or not, many of us found the shame and confusion brought on by purity culture to be a barrier to our greatest sexpectations and were left with a more Dickensian s...
Mar 04, 2022•1 hr 27 min
History is written by the victors and the news is written by…Rupert Murdoch, I guess? Media bias, disinformation and an unmoderated comments section weren’t enough to stop tonight’s guest from creating The Performer’s Pod with Chelsea Poe, a passionate presentation of porn performer presence and prowess. Chelsea joins Arden and Christy in an exploration of the news media and international narratives around sex work, gender rights and more. All that, your calls and questions plus what’s turning u...
Feb 25, 2022•1 hr 6 min
Know thyself and to thine ownself be most excellent, or whatever Bill Shapespear Preston once said. Recent neuroscience and modern philosophy have more or less extinguished not just the soul but also the idea of the one true self in favor of a model made up of many motivations and a multiverse of minds, begging the question who the hell is we? And what should we even call ourself? This week’s SecX includes a four person panel for discussing the philosophy and practicalities of all the little sex...
Feb 18, 2022•1 hr 26 min
There aren’t many things in our daily lives that are perfectly legal until money changes hands and yet selling sex just seems so salacious. Then when you consider we’ve built a world where economic freedom and bodily autonomy are doubly denied to women it’s no wonder we deem the commerce of coitus beneath us. But how should we manage cash for connection- is it vital for the government to enforce our safety or an affront to our freedom? SecX’s Patron Saint of Sex Work joins our resident legal exp...
Feb 11, 2022•1 hr 19 min
We’ve mentioned before that no amount of pornography is truly ‘addictive’ and that erotic hypnosis, as sexy as it may be, cannot in fact wash your brain. That said, it may be interesting to note that there’s an internet’s worth of ‘pornosexual’ products meant to ‘relapse your addiction,’ ‘transform your mind’ or ‘bend you to my will.’ What should we make of these ominous warnings- sexy/silly samples of erotic submission or dangers doorways into a dark addiction? On this episode P*ck and Darrel b...
Feb 04, 2022•1 hr 24 min
It’s 2022- COVID will go on forever, sex and gender are a spectrum and Matt Dillahunty will hang up on people- we know dis. But what is that spectrum made of and, most important of all skeptical questions, how do we know? Student Doctor Ben is here to walk us through the slippery science and vaguely serviceable skepticism of the transphobic tirades littering the internet nowadays. Catch his conversation with Nate and Christy, call in with your questions and find out what’s turning us on this wee...
Jan 28, 2022•1 hr 17 min
Besides checking the gas prices and looking for a clean commode, how much energy do you put into picking road trip potty breaks? How often do you worry about putting your credit card down to split a check or stress over teaching your doctor about your body? While a fistful of state legislatures earn their reelection through high-profile bigotry, the day by day reality of trans life includes an unending list of subtle sexism and daily dangers. What’s an ally to do? Phoebe Rose of Trans Stories re...
Jan 21, 2022•1 hr 17 min
Ink-blots, enneagrams, eye movements, meditations… what even is good therapy? Brains are tricky, as it turns out, and while the field of psychology isn’t exactly new, we have a terribly long way to go. But whether we’re discussing the hypnosis of early psychoanalysis or the shaking and shivering of ancient shamanic healing it’s hard to know what good therapy looks, sounds and feels like. This week associate marriage and family therapist Emily Maynard returns to the show to talk pseudo-science, g...
Jan 14, 2022•1 hr 25 min
We wanted to know what it’s like to be a woman in the atheist community so we reached out to three of our favorites- Mandisa Thomas of Black Non-Believers, Non-Prophet Laura Magee and Transatlantican Arden Hart all join Christy in a round-table discussion, bringing their own unique femininity to the SecX stage. We discuss misogyny during and after religion and the ongoing and necessary deconstruction of our patriarchal world. One of the warmest calls in show history and a trifecta of what’s turn...
Jan 07, 2022•1 hr 27 min
