como sabes si vives tu vida

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descriptive purposes. Any unauthorized use of this audio book will violate copyright and may be subject to legal sanctions. Coppy Right two thousand twenty- four strip Ley Secretos de Lilí All rights reserved. What is happiness. In the ancient world there was much talk of happiness. Socrates, Plato Seneca and many other philosophers treated the subject each from their perspective. However, this issue went unnoticed for

a long time to the illustration with Voltaire, for example. It was barely talked about again from the 18th century and especially when the 20th came in. There is an explosion of interest in this concept in the psychology of happiness. Macco Argao makes an assessment of our degree of bliss through scales of behavior with which he measures, for example, pleasant activities that improve happiness during the day,

as well as things that are incompatible with depression. There are a number of activities that increase feelings of peace and comfort by helping us to be happy in our day to day. This is a list of them collected by Argile in his book. These are activities that positively influence our mood, as well

as those that are incompatible with depression. To be with happy people, to be aware of being sexually attractive, to fish openly and openly, to express love for someone else, to be with someone you love, to laugh with friends who ask for help or advice, to be relaxed, to see a beautiful landscape, to breathe pure air, to sit in the sun, to wear clean clothes, to enjoy free time, to sleep well at night, to listen to music, to smile at others, to share the joy that

pleasant things happen to family and friends, to do a personal job, to read stories, novels, poems or plays, to plan or organize something, to learn to do something new, to do a job well. Some believe that the less we know the better, because having an intellectual mentality can also make it easier for us to analyze too long a reality and for thoughts to

be locked in a circuit. However, culture should serve to make us less wrong, to acquire an art of living and enjoying things that without culture we would not know how to appreciate. To cement happiness through the stages of life, we must broaden our horizons. For example, an elderly person with culture will always have stimulating occupations at his or her disposal, while someone of action, when his or her stage of work is finished, is left empty.

The four fundamental elements of happiness are love, friendship, work and culture. The latter not only involves deepening history, literature and the arts, but also self- knowledge is essential to act wisely, resolve difficulties and understand each other with us. When we close our eyes to who we are, problems are perpetuated as we do not move forward and repeat again and again the same mistakes. The army of becoming aware of our thoughts and actions, measuring their consequences,

puts the solutions in our hand. I hope that reading this book will provide you with the tools to cultivate self- esteem at all stages of your life to enrich your relationships with others, to grow emotionally and intellectually and, above all, to live your life. Part one is the school of emotions loving oneself to love others. If you don' t have the enemy inside, the enemies outside won' t be able to hurt you, African proverb. Alex is nine years old and lately he wakes up at night with startles.

The reason, as I am told in the consultation, is that one of the leaders of the class has taken it with him during the classes. He does not miss the opportunity to ridicule him and at the time of the courtyard, he encourages his companions to empty him out of fear of this boy

of violent character. Almost everyone listens to him and the patient is isolated when he comes home, Alex does not enjoy playing because he thinks about how bad he will be in school the next day, which unleashes the night terrors that wake him up. His school performance has plummeted because the child feels very insecure and despises himself. It' s a clear case of low self- esteem motivated by bullying. In addition to contacting the aggressor' s parents to update

them on the problem. In therapy, we work with Alex the necessary measures to strengthen his self- esteem factors that trigger a low self- esteem one. There are many causes that can lead to a problem of low self-

esteem in a person, regardless of age. Let' s look at some of the most common, according to specialists in the toxic family environment during childhood, when parents have not supported a child at crucial times or have been excessively demanding, a negative consequence is that the person doubts his or her own bad

school environment. If a child has the misfortune of being the point of view of the mockery of his companions, such as the example we have seen and suffer harassments, it is very possible that he will reach an adolescence and later adult stage full of complexes and insecurities, excess of self- criticism and perfectionism. With these ingredients it is practically impossible to achieve any goal without throwing the

towel halfway, which also leads to low pathological self- esteem. Chronic indecision results in a total lack of confidence. There are people with enormous talent and multiple abilities who never get to do anything because of fear, failure, fear of criticism. Whatever we do, there will always be people dissatisfied with our actions and other people who value us. If we only listen to those who

criticize us, we will do ourselves a weak favor. If we begin to act to please others, as we will see in a later chapter, in addition to undermining our self- esteem, we will develop dependence on others excessive of susceptibility. If any other people' s comments hurt us, we have a problem to solve. We must abandon the addiction of wanting to like others and give ourselves up to the task of liking ourselves to understand the fate of

being you ten keys to self- esteem. Once the factors that cause low self- esteem are identified, let us now see a battery of practical measures to underpin that fundamental aspect in the school of emotions. Many of them are common sense, although in the transfer of day- to- day obligations we

are often not aware of the way in which we act. Let us look at ten concrete measures to enhance self- esteem, to focus on our virtues, to take note of them if necessary, rather than on our shortcomings, to stop constantly asking ourselves what people might think of us and whether we are failing to follow the example of people who enjoy a large dose of self-

esteem and use it for their own good and that of others. The question would be what do they do that I do not set goals and, once on the way, do not faint in the face of a first failure. A fundamental thing is not to leave things half- hearted, as it is frustrating and lethal to our self- esteem. If a long- term goal seems unattainable, small intermediate targets need to be set that are more affordable in the short or medium term. Small victories help us achieve goals that we thought

were impossible before. To be assertive, to have social ability before those around us to say no when it is no, without amulating, fitting in and learning from the criticisms of others, as long as they are with their destructive ones. If they are not, we must defend ourselves against them or ignore them for their futility. Avoid excess self- criticism and demand, as it

ends up undermining self- esteem. We must flee from sick perfectionism, banish the feeling of guilt, as it makes us susceptible to moral blackmail from third parties. That does not mean that we do as we please, but we must be fair to ourselves to practice optimism. Any situation can be seen in problem key or solution key. If we look at it optimistically, we will have much more chance of winning the game of educating children with self- esteem.

Childhood is the stage of life in which a person' s potential is sown. Parents are responsible not only for the health and education of their children, but also for their self- esteem. Future will depend on how we guide them in this formative stage of life. Here are the key practices in which the pedagogues agree to educate the little ones. In this crucial aspect, setting targets that can be taken up for children, too difficult a challenge can

block them and make them feel incapable. It is more educational to achieve small triumphs that will make you feel satisfied, not compare it to other brighter children. This bad habit on the part of parents is behind many complex envy and frustrations of children. It must be taught that each person is different and has his or her own skills. Measuring our words a criticism or an unfortunate mockery of a small one' s mistake can undo what has been built before and

reduce their confidence, instilling in them the concept of effort. Easy success is very fashionable, especially on television, but day to day has nothing to do with a TV platoon. It is essential to teach them the culture of effort, which can help achieve any goal. To give an example, fearful parents who transmit their fears to their children are instilling in them this very vision of life. That is why it is important that you know the value through our

actions. That is the best favor we can do to your self- esteem to show our affection openly. Children need to know that we love them through our words, as well as caresses, kisses and hugs. The fact that we feel loved stimulates our self- esteem and builds our self- esteem in the face of a complicated situation, how you usually react, analyze and face

the difficulty with determination to overcome it. The sooner you see the problems, the more they weaken me, and I delay the moment to face them for fear of the consequences. Two. A coworker invites you to a party, but you don' t know anyone in his circle of friends. As you consider it an excellent opportunity to meet new people and accept enchanted, go invent an excuse not to go or ask a friend to accompany you so you don ' t separate from him all evening. Three. You' re very concerned

about what people say or think about you. I know that I cannot please everyone and I am only affected by the opinion of those who want to be used to asking and inquiring about the impression I have in others. Four If a superior criticizes or scolds you for a job you haven' t done well. I listen attentively and try that the discussion leads to constructive criticism to improve and learn from my mistakes. B I keep quiet until you pass the bad

drink. Five, someone asks you for a favor that you don' t have time or desire to do. I' m honest and I' m telling you, I don' t feel like it or I can' t do it. Bet, it' s hard for me to say no, and I end up helping him. Six, you think you' re capable of achieving everything you propose in life It' s just a matter of effort and some luck why not. B everything is very complicated and there are things I wouldn' t even try. Seven in general, you feel safer than

the people around you. In most cases, I feel more fortunate, satisfied and secure. I' m used to feeling more miserable than the others. For each answer, add two points. For each answer see adds a point less than eight points. Remember that excessive indecision can lead to a total lack of confidence. Start relying more on your possibilities and stop hurting your future with so many complexes and insecurities. When alarms go off for no reason, never

carry more than one problem. At the same time, there are people who carry three, those they had, those they have now and those who hope to haveédward and I will see such a thing three months ago that Luisa feels in a state of permanent alert since she changed her work in the factory to a commercial position in the offices, a long awaited ascent. He feels his hands sweat and his neck sweat. Every time you open the email. He is distressed to see the huge number of emails waiting for him, as

well as the sales targets set for each month. The worst of all is that she is transmitting the anxiety to her two- year- old son, who, noting the state of nervousness of the mother, cries much more frequently and tolerates bad visits at home Luisa comes to my office to know how to return to calm and self- control, since her day- to- day has become an unlived and suffers also for the child. In our visits we go to the bottom of the question and analyze the fears and complements that have

triggered their alarms since occupying a new position in the company. Anxiety is a state of alertness two of our organism that is given in the face of a possible danger, a delicate situation of stress or a crucial decision. We all have anxiety situations at some point. It' s a normal thing that'

s part of our everyday life. However, anxiety can become pathological when it appears in situations where we don' t need any kind of self- defense because we' re not facing any attack We specialists classify anxiety into three groups. Endogenous anxiety is of internal origin and is given without external cause to justify

it. Exogenous anxiety is caused by a continuing stress situation. That is, there is a specific cause that causes the reaction of the organism existential anxiety, caused mainly by fear of death, as it will happen when it ceases to exist many times it is encompassed in the exogenous anxiety anxiety anxiety crisis. People who have suffered one of these crises hardly forget the state in which they were plunged. That is the problem, the fear that it will be repeated,

further fuel their fears and the lack of confidence in their own stability. There are several symptoms that reveal a general state of anxiety that requires somatic treatment, tachycardia, excessive sweating, tremors, feeling of vertigo, shortness of breath, muscle tension, psychics, insomnia, anguish, terrors, restlessness, insecurity about

the classification we have seen before. Exogenous anxiety, as common in men as in women, is not considered by psychiatrists to be a serious pathology, because in the existence of a cause, it is a question of confronting it by addressing the problem. In addition, people who suffer from it often respond positively to psychotherapy. When we lose a loved one, for example, we go through a grieving process and symptoms of exogenous anxiety may appear. I have existential

anxiety. However, if the symptomatic condition is severe enough, it is appropriate to contact a specialist to prevent it from leading to more serious disorders. Endogenous anxiety is not caused by specific external causes. Being more difficult to deal with. It is more common in women than in men. It can be hereditary and tends to occur in early patients, especially during adolescence. From the age

of forty, cases are drastically reduced. It is not usually a continuous and prolonged state, but more or less violent periods of crisis break out with anxious spotlights, which makes it difficult to fight. For this reason, the patient should go to a specialist to receive pharmacological treatment in addition to psychotherapy. There is a very interesting modality that is anxiety crises. Three plans of shock against anxiety exist certain habits that fuel anxiety, so the first thing we should do

is eliminate them from our daily diet. These are products or negative attitudes. In addition to promoting a routine that favors serenity, whether or not it is necessary for therapeutic help and pharmacological me. We can thus help not to boost these alarm states by suppressing stimulating products such as coffee tea or cola soft drinks, as well as alcohol and nicotine. Going out to get the air and the sun every day, even if it' s bad weather, because staying

locked up at home can cause agoraphobic feelings. Practicing gentle exercises is a good resource for downloading mental deposits of anxiety and regaining control of our body. To give up too ambitious goals that cause us too great stress and demand, to avoid discussions with the people around us, as the resulting anger and resentment are

an extra source of anxiety, the stress of our century pandemic. According to recent reports from the World Health Organization, in the year two thousand and twenty, diseases caused by stress and anxiety will be the number one cause of job loss in the world. In Spain, it is estimated that there are six million people suffering from stress. Currently, 40 per cent of the wage- earner population and 50 per cent of employers suffer from a degree of more or

less severe stress. It is clear that the economic situation in the country contributes to the increase in states of stress and anxiety. It has been estimated that since the onset of the crisis, the use of antidepressants has increased by 10

per cent and cases of working jas due to depression have almost tripled. Despite this, according to data provided by the Association of Consumers and Users, in our country, only 17 percent of Spanish workers resort to some kind of treatment to alleviate the causes of stress, which in Spain is not recognized as an occupational disease. We can divide stress into two blocks eus three or natural stress, distress or negative stress. The eostres is a natural defense reaction necessary to

face any problem or crisis situation. This resource of our survival instinct can reach ten remedies for stressed almost all the situations presented to us in daily life have solution only by thinking in this way already we begin to mitigate the excess of stress. There are a number of practical measures to deal with this persistent enemy, even in times of crisis, to go step by step, we don ' t have to do twenty things at once. Our management capacity has a

limit and we must not exceed it. It is about solving the issues that concern us one by one. Proper breathing of long and deep breaths, involving belly, lungs and clavicles, improves oxygenation of our blood and brain. Related to nice people, there are psychological profiles, especially stressful. So, let ' s run away from toxic companies that don' t give us anything positive. Go on a good diet. An excess of red meat, for example,

helps put the body in tension. Listen to relaxing sounds. Soft music can be a good therapy to deactivate internal alarms and lower the voltage level. Classical and soft music offer them excellent remedies to calm the mood, enjoy hobbies. A good movie, a book that we like or any of our hobbies will manage to defuse stress when we are focused on an activity that requires a

high dose of attention. Pressure' s dropping immediately. Machetism, painting, origami, modeling with mud any activity we like serves to destress us in the free time to perform a sleep therapy. A well- rested body is better prepared for crisis situations. Therefore, it is never necessary to make the mistake of stealing hours of sleep because of obligations to cultivate cleanliness and order. A simple well- made bed is a relaxing view. Order in the everyday environment

helps to promote mental order. The order is a sedative and this goes from the room, where you sleep at the work table or how you keep your books or at work laughing is a great antistress and an unbeatable antidepressant. We can promote it through contact with jovial people or by attending comedy shows, either in the theater or in a movie we watch at home gardening. This activity

helps reduce stress while enjoying the outdoors. The tranquility they offer, the silent care of the plants and the beauty of the flowers will give us moments of relaxation. Test one usually sleeps at an average of eight hours a day, sees less than eight hours a day and I wake up several times during the night two and when I wake up ah deep breath and take time to undertake

daily tasks. Go analyze and review the plan of the day quickly, stopping at the most stressful points until my heart accelerates three in the face of an imminent change in your personal, professional life, etcetera. I try not to anticipate the situation and take care of managing the moment in a serene and orderly manner. B I feel uneasy, nervous and tend to isolate four at work

to teamwork and trust in the ability of my colleagues. I prefer to work alone and avoid delegating functions, even if I need more time to finish the tasks. Five and when the weekend comes, I try to relax with activities that keep my mind away from stress B. I don' t know how to get rid of the worries and I' m still on alert. Six, what you think your next years will be like. I try to enjoy the present to the fullest and be less demanding with destination B. I worry

about losing what I' ve achieved and not winning what I deserve. Seven of you usually think things never go as we expected. I' m trying to make my expectations as realistic as possible and fit my chances. See often I' m very demanding and I' m never completely satisfied. For each answer, add two points. For each answer see adds a point. The brake of phobias. There are very few monsters that justify the fear we have. André Gide Carlos is a 50- year- old pharmacist who has suffered

several panic crises while driving his car. Over the past few months, she has had several episodes in which, while driving, she has had tachycardia, a feeling of shortness of breath, difficulty swallowing sweats and perkinesia. This has been repeated so that he has begun to have problems driving, until he has

reached a point where he is afraid to lose control and go crazy. He suffers from a phobia of driving that has a negative impact on his daily life, since he cannot travel and begins to fear even the train, the bus

and the plane. When I come to my office, I explain to you that there are two types of crises, the endogenous ones due to natural substances that we secrete in these episodes and that they are often confused with heart attacks and exogenous ones due to some external event, such as the challenges that overcome us or the excess of occupations. Carlos has suffered an endogenous crisis, he has developed a traumatic phobia, because the experience of the crisis in the space

where God has become a phobic. If, for example, I would have had her in an elevator, I would have had a phobia to climb in them. First, I' ll give you a pharmacotherapy to relieve anxiety and then I' ll do what we call a soteria. Soterism is a mechanism of African origin in which a person infers a positive effect on an object, for example, the one who always wears the same jacket for exams because it gives him luck. That is, we have a background medication that removes generalized

anxiety from an object with positive properties. At the same time we give him a quick anxiolytic. I explain to Carlos that when an episode comes, he ' ll do two things. A cognitive message will be sent that will act by neutralizing that negative anticipation, repeating phrases as calm. Nothing happens to take the importance to the sensations breath encouragement will take the medication of rapid action, Following the therapy of progressive exposure, we begin to combat the phobia step by

step. First he gets in the car and starts it. Then he goes around the block and gradually, following the previous guidelines, until he manages to drive again and regains confidence in himself from the fear of phobia. Four, phobia is an irrational fear in most cases, although on other occasions it has a basis and starts from a traumatic experience. We say irrational because we feel an uncontrollable fear that one cannot rule. There are many causes that may be

behind the origin of childhood trauma phobia. An adult may have had a traumatic experience during his childhood. For example, a dog may have attacked him and the rest of his life experiences irrational fear of all dogs, psychological trauma. A parent may panic in the water and pass it on to his or her child through his or her reactions and behavior. In this case, it would

be an acquired fear. Here the examples can be many. A person has a panic attack while driving on a day out of his city, a long weekend bridge and in full traffic jam, feels everything I' ve pointed out before, feeling that he can' t breathe tachycardia that makes him think of a heart attack fear of losing control of his person and because of that,

reacts having phobia to drive on the road. Another case, one person has had an anxiety attack in a large, almost empty square with the above- mentioned symptoms, and that later causes an agoraphobia or phobia to large spaces. I give a third example, panic crisis in a department store, in days of sale, with many people and big queues. Shortly after this experience two

complementary phobias appear. Anthropophobia or phobia to spaces with many people on one side, and claustrophobia or phobia to enclosed spaces, which leads you to avoid or postpone going to those sites and so on cultural phobias. In some cases, superstitions can be bred into phobias that are present in an entire society. Recent trauma, a person may panic speaking in public, for example, if he

has had a very negative experience in the same situation. If you are a shy person and have been the target of mocking, you can start to tremble when you have a mic before you attacked by panic. A panic attack is a very intense fear reaction and, as I have commented on the preceding pages, it is often accompanied by obvious physical symptoms. There' s a cause or agent that triggers the trigger call. There are several types of panic attacks.

Spontaneous is the most problematic, as it suddenly appears without the trigger being apparent and without the victim being able to relate it to any outside agent. The specific occurs at certain times or places. The patient can avoid the places or situations that cause the shooting, however, has the drawback that, depending

on which one, it will not be easy to avoid it. Several measures that can help us fight panic attacks are to lead a life as normal as possible, not to think about the next crisis or attack to breathe properly. If you notice that you are approaching a situation that scares us, let us take a deep breath to stay busy, think positively and not get angry with yourself, not to give more importance to the attacks that you really have to

put in the hands of the doctor. If the problem limits us, progressive exposure therapy and self- relaxation. This therapy we practiced in the case that I mentioned at the beginning of the chapter consists of facing the patient directly with the problem causing his anxiety, phobia or disorder. If done gradually, it is r is r and has shown that this therapy gives excellent and lasting results.

In the case of agoraphobia. If we take the patient to an open space, it is better to do so accompanied by a person of your confidence who provides security. In the case of phobia to speak in public, the person must gradually be encouraged to face face- to- face with that fear. There will come a time when you will get used to it and the feeling of anxiety will disappear. This effective therapy is often combined with self-

relaxation exercises. To do this we will begin focusing on breathing in every inhalation and exhalation. If we are at home, it is advisable to choose a quiet room with little light. We' ll sit on a chair with a straight back, close our eyes and concentrate on the tip of our toes. We will become aware of them, slowly climbing up to the feet, whole ankles, relax all the muscles in which we concentrate without haste and keeping the

breathing deep and relaxed. We' ll focus on the thighs, the buttocks, the belly, the chest, the neck, the jaw. We will perceive the attention, something that we don' t really usually notice, although there are parts of our body, like the jaw, that are always in tension. For that reason, every time we are aware of it and relax it, we feel a quick and obvious relief. Once we have focused on each and every part of our body, we will give our mind pleasant images.

We can think of beautiful and relaxing landscapes or the faces of people we love to throw away the fear of garbage. Ninety- five percent of phobias are cured The progressive exposure therapy that we have just seen together with the author relaxation is usually used. The patient is taught to master the reactions of his or her body and is influenced by his or her mind to change his or

her mind until it leads to a positive feeling. However, some therapists are recently using fast therapy that gives good results in the first place, asking the patient to visualize in an induced state of calm what causes phobia. In case your nervous system remains calm, you should see it in perspective and tell how it feels. If your nervous system reacts to the vision of phobia, you should check and recognize the signs of your body, see the effects of your

phobia vision. Once the effects are recognized, the patient will eliminate the discomfort. It will concentrate your mind on a part of your body where attention is stored. It will score from one to ten the intensity of that tension and give a certain shape to that tension, for example, a stone or a knot made. This will visualize mentally how he takes it with his hands and throws it away with strength. After performing this ritual, you will relax by

breathing deeply. Right after that, the patient will again rate the intensity of the tension and repeat the visualization to throw away the object with which it identifies

this negative sensation. This process should be repeated until fear wanes. Test one, when you think about death, I experience an intense feeling of panic when I get approached by any fleeting thoughts on that subject, beck accept that it is inevitable and helps me live life with more intensity two talk in public, catch a plane, get stuck in an elevator, suffer an illness, suffer a robbery at home, how you face your fears I tend to magnify their

consequences even if there is no apparent risk that they will happen, and that causes me stress, anxiety and anguish. B relativized its impact and looked for a way not to affect or paralyze me. Three with your children ers ah extremely protective and prudent, see trying to promote self- esteem and self- confidence, letting them learn from their own mistakes. Four offer you the chance to change jobs. I' m afraid I' ll lose what I'

ve already achieved and reject the offer. He sees rationally valuing prosilos against if I make the decision that best suits me without fear of change. Five, after several years working in the same company, the company breaks down and you lose your job, ah I stay paralyzed for a good season without knowing what to do to move on. The suffering of being hypersensitive. There is no truth. There is perception. Gustave Flaubert. Laura is fifty- three years

old and shows up in my office with her husband José. He tells me that they have a problem, in fact, a silly conflict but that they can take the couple ahead. I' m starting to quote them separately. Laura has a sister two years younger than her, for whom her greatest illusion was to marry and have children. With the bad luck that she became single and frustrated, that is, what she designed as fundamental to her life has

not worked and is bitter. This has given rise to a neurotic person who has not been able to solve that problem and assume it as a reality. The marriage spends part of the summer with her and Joseph and her sister- in- law practically don' t talk during the summer. As soon as they speak, they eat breakfast, they see themselves in the good morning.

Communication is minimal. Laura wants her husband to accept the sister, but there are irrational differences between them, composed of small anecdotes almost infantile attitudes that make their life absorb simply impossible. I' ll talk to Laura and explain what we' ll do. When doctors working in the emergency department have a patient with brain skull trauma, they use a fundamental law in medicine, tackle the most serious somatic event in the first place and leave the least serious for later.

In the case of brain skull trauma, the most important thing is the head. If a brain stops receiving blood for three minutes, it is affected for the rest of its life. That is, if a person arrives with rib bruises, broken dislocations and a blow to the head, the first thing is the head. Therefore, I explain to Laura that the most important thing is to follow an affective hierarchy. For a person like her, the main thing is her husband and his children. Her sister and anyone else can come

immediately, but there is a priority. I design guidelines of conduct or Victor to discuss with José, not to remove the grievances of the past, not to discuss this issue and that when you go to Galicia in summer, do not sleep in the same house as your sister. Marriage has accepted my mediation and is putting the emotional paper skin advice into practice. A highly sensitive peace

person is one who feels hypersensitivity to everything that happens around him. It may seem to the profane that this group of people are in constant conflict with the world around them. However, it is important to bear in mind that the conflict is with themselves. They often feel hurt with innocent comments. Very often they feel attacked with offenses that do not really exist, as susceptible profiles suffer

from very low self- esteem and are tremendously vulnerable. They can react unforeseeably and the ease with which they feel injured results in a disproportionate ability to hurt others, as their counter- attacks, being offended, may become particularly virulent. Hypersensitivity has its origin in childhood and is developing throughout the existence of people.

Marine therapist Berrolandegi thinks the following. As a child, the hypersensitive constructs a world of fantasies because he perceives a world that hurts him and causes him anguish and fear. In adolescence. He feels misunderstood and only because he finds no one to share his emotions with in maturity. The hypersensitive also suffers in his relationship as a couple. He is never satisfied with the affective demonstration of the other. He' s insecure, hoarding, absorbing, and jealous.

It magnifies everyday scenes because it does not find the key to regulating emotions, which causes a permanent crisis of dissatisfaction and anguish. Crystal hearts. The hypersensitive personality may present some or several of the following behaviors and viduo is very concerned with what people may think or say about it. He often believes that others

murmur and criticize him in the back. It can be very suspicious if you receive a positive criticism, it does not give half of importance to negative criticism. He reacts uncontrollably to what he or she considers a mockery. Although the commentary does not carry any negative burden, many times that answer is more internal and consists of a feeling badly attacked, not well treated, and a kind

of inner monologue appears about what happened. Without being able to distance himself from that anecdote, his self- esteem is low and he needs the constant approval of those around him. This fact is aggravated by the fact that the pas are very critical. I get them highly conscientious and perfectionist. They are often

shy and rather lonely. They don' t feel comfortable in agglomerations. In some cases they may feel attacked in places where there are strong lights or very high music as compensation for the difficulties they show in social life, they tend to have great artistic and intellectual gifts. In general, alcohol and drug abuse often affects them more negatively than others, so these people need to lead a

particularly orderly and regular life. Some remedies for highly sensitive people channel the inner life through art, signing up for sculpture painting or writing workshops is highly therapeutic for these people, who can start by writing in a blank notebook, a diary where they can translate their experiences, opinions or sensations, learn to react more with the head than with the heart. We can call this that, learn to be more Cartesian five, let go of the viserality with which it

all feels. The highly susceptible person must be more cerebral and not react automatically when he hears an opinion that a priori may seem offensive to him. If you quarantine it and let a few hours or days pass, you will surely see that the comment was of no importance to judge things, not others. Often more than judging is prejudged, which can predispose a person against before anything happens. If we do not prejudge, we will avoid many conflicts. Better

to judge the acts themselves than the people. In this way we will gain distance and we will be able to consider such an act or opinion with perspective, not feel attacked and minimize the facts. This is an art that, like everything else, requires successive learning. Six practice empathy. The susceptible person has to learn to put himself on the skin of others. You will thus gain a degree of maturity or you will be able to understand opinions and comments

much better. Detect the days when one is more susceptible than normal. There are days when we get out of bed in a cloudy or stormy mood. If we are aware of it, we will give less importance to our perception of things. Seven According to this typology embodied in his writings by Caucus Savion, extroverted people are charged with energy, are extremely sociable and open to everything

around them. They like to face new challenges. If they don' t get scared when it comes to taking risks, they adjust and feel comfortable with the society in which they live. If this society undergoes changes or evolves, the extrovert will have no difficulty in adapting to these transformations. In addition, extroverted people are great communicators and have no problem expressing their feelings. On the contrary, they need to. They are social, friendly and seductive, although

sometimes they can also be violent, burdensome and rude. On the one hand, they communicate well with the introverts, because they admire the ability to gather and the discretion they lack. However, conflict may occur when the extrovert sees his opponent too quiet or inaccessible at key times. The introvert, on the other hand, prefers to isolate himself in his own world, in his security bubble. He can often be seen in himself with his thoughts and fantasies enjoying

a rich inner life. These profiles are good workers thanks to their concentration power and are enemies of giving up things half way. They admire the sympathy and gift of people who are extroverted, but sometimes consider them meddling, childish and superficial. It is interesting the opinion expressed by Professor Adriana that more dream in

her introver writing of ns extroversion. Extroverts see an objective world made up of external people and events, particularly those in their immediate environment, and they act within that world. Introverts feel more harmonized to their subjective and inner world, which is not directly perceptible by others and sometimes even for themselves. Timidity or social phobia. First of all, it is necessary to differentiate between being introverted

and suffering pathological shyness social phobia. The introvert feels more comfortable in your world. He has chosen to live his interiority more and does not have to have problems communicating with others, even if he prefers to keep distance from the rest of society and be small when it comes to talking. The shy person suffers from a great lack of security in itself that in many cases can be overcome. However, there are cases where shyness causes enormous suffering and inability to communicate.

It is important to note that their loneliness is not voluntary. The shy one usually has real terror of ridicule, he is unable to speak in public. Asking for a favor or getting attention in a place where there are unknown people, even asking where the bathrooms are can be quite an impossible challenge to overcome. At a time of pathological shyness, the affected person may become somatized. Thus we observe redness of the face, sweating in the hands, tachycardia

and even dizziness and a feeling of panic. At first, the fact that a child or adolescent is very shy is not serious. It is a very common problem at this stage of life. However, care must be taken to ensure that shyness does not lead the person to lock himself up. In time.

An overly shy teen or adult may become an inappropriate use of alcohol to become uninhibited, have great difficulties in associating with one another and sentimentally, and his or her working life may not bear the fruits that he or she should have for his or her intellectual ability. B Start listing the problems I had uncomfortable hotel mosquitoes, poor quality of food two. Your boss is wondering if you need help in the performance of your job. I sincerely appreciate your interest

and appreciate the advantages of your offer. B I suspect that you are not satisfied with my work and that he wants to replace me three in a family conversation, you have listened and accepted the comments of the rest, even if he disagrees. I' m used to playing the singing voice and I react badly if someone' s against me. Four after a day of stressful work, I try to leave the worries behind and enjoy a relaxing evening with family

or friends. B I share anxiety with my people and end up infecting the moment of my negativity. Five, Ambulance sirens, construction noise, traffic, agglomerations A are typical of my urban environment and I am used to their presence. I find B more and more unbearable and they make me in a very bad mood. Six, your house tends to be rather messy and somewhat chaotic. I prefer to spend my free time with mine, to read TV, to practice sports, you see perfectly clean and everything in your place. I

can' t stand the mess. Seven in the face of a situation of danger or risk to react calmly and I do not let myself be carried away by the nerves. See I get scared easily and I can get to block myself completely if I don' t control the situation. For each answer, add two points. For each answer see adds a point less than eight points. Your answers indicate that you are a hypersensitive person before everything that happens around

you is difficult to control your reactions, at times certainly disproportionate. The time may have come to lower your demands and stop being such a perfectionist and conscientious person, leaving behind viserality and practicing empathy about endogenous depression. The world is full of suffering, but it is also full of overcoming it. At Keyer, Marcos' parents have been very concerned since he turned ten, although he goes to a good school and is very much loved by his colleagues at one

time. To this part, the child communicates little and is sad and dissatisfied in the courtyard. He isolates himself from the others and looks down. Although his teachers have tried to talk to him. Marcos rejects any kind of help or no one knows what is happening to him. Until you come to my office, the child shows the symptoms of endogenous depression. That explains why contact is denied by the episodes of anguish and irritability described to me by the parents,

as well as the excessive fear of death. We begin a pharmacological treatment while explaining to parents what this type of depression consists of so that they know the situation of the child and can support him in the best way. When the body gets depressed, endogenous depression occurs because of a chemical imbalance in the brain. The patient suffering from this type of depression does not have to have

had a traumatic experience or have experienced severe loss. It is even possible that he suffers from depression from birth and does not know that he has lived with the disease all his existence, believing that he is part of his way of being. One of the most serious symptoms of endogenous depression is the suicidal tendency. If that happens, even if it is overcome, you must immediately go to a specialist, since the crisis can re- emerge at any time.

It should be noted that this type of depression can be successfully treated with pharmacotherapy. Within this category, most of the complete depressive symptoms are called tetradimensional,

characterized by highly accentuated symptoms. Anedonia penetrating, not feeling pleasure or inclination towards everything that usually produces taste, enjoyment, deep sadness, different in quantity and quality of the sadness of life that everyone has for something negative that has happened to him, feeling guilty of exploring the past and taking out a negative box archery reproaches oneself list of real facts or not that deform in negative and turn

against one. In terms of more physical symptomatology, it is worth mentioning the inhibition or psychomotor enhancement and the more or less accentuated sensation of narcosis or mental anesthesia. There is also a deterioration of communication that presents the lack of reaction to positive or pleasant environmental stimuli, appearing episodes of bad mood, apathy,

distrust or irritability. Among the so- called rhythmopathic symptoms, outbreaks of late insomnia are common, early awakening with impossibility to resume sleep with the corresponding exhaustion that this causes, contrasting with reactive depressions, in which it is possible to find triggering factors. The symptoms, severity and intensity differ according to the patient.

They are usually the following loss of appetite and, consequently, weight loss, disinterested by everything around the individual, including things that once enthralled him insomnia and, as a consequence, physical and mental exhaustion or the other way around, hypersomnia, tendency to sleep too much fear of the future, loss of hope. Suicide tendencies can be ideas, intermittent or rather fixed thoughts or inclinations that come and go and produce great suffering, feelings of inhibition, sadness,

extreme melancholy. There is an entire oceanography of it rich and varied. It is a polychrome of experiences presided over by a decrease in the mood, with the nuances of each one' s culture and the richness of verbal expression, evil, humor, irritability. If a person has a depressive condition with some of these symptoms, even if it is quite mild, it is better to prevent and go to a specialist, especially if suicidal tendencies appear the names of

sadness nine. Many current psychiatrists have stopped distinguishing between exogenous and endogenous depression, preferring to a broader classification for the various types of depressions from which we will highlight the following. Severe depression major depressive disorder the symptoms suffered by the patient act relentlessly in the day to day, incapacitating him to lead a normal life.

It' s the most serious dysthymia. Chronic depression presents symptoms similar to severe depression but in lesser intensity, lasting longer for at least two years. The patient may lead an almost normal life, but symptoms clearly affect him. Today, the psychiatrist and psychologist must know how important it is to combine medication and psychotherapy well. Bipolar disorder. Depressive manic disease, although it has a

separate entity from depression. Those who suffer from it see altered the system that regulates the mood. The patient has sudden mood swings, losing tempora. Morally reason. This disorder rarely develops in childhood. It' s more like adulthood, but it' s not always and it' s usually hereditary. Today the prognosis has changed in positive with the new advances atypical depression. Patients are

people who eat and sleep excessively. Because of them, they blame themselves and have an overwhelming feeling of rejection they think they don' t like others. Double depression. This is a complication of chronic depression or distinction. Symptoms are aggravated in some episodes to reach the level of severe depression or major seasonal affective disorder. They are depressive pictures that occur periodically when autumn and winter arrive when

spring arrives, the patient usually improves. The patient usually overeats and overslepts himself. When in the critical phase, premenstrual non- dysphoric disorder. The word dysphoria moves near the term euphoria joy and pathological vitality and means a mixture of diffuse anxiety and ill- drawn irritability. It is a state of mind presided

over by this experience and given the week before menstruation. According to the press agency and Llobopo pras, the statistics of depression are usually reported when the menstrual period arrives In the two thousand nine, there were ten percent Spaniards, about four million inhabitants suffering from some form of depression. The study showed that only 40 per cent of them received appropriate treatment. Unfortunately, statistics are on the

rise, as the economic crisis has exacerbated these figures alarmingly. In the last five years, cases of depression have increased in Spain by nineteen comma forty percent, according to data provided by the journalist No Travel in the without service of

information and scientific news. In an article published in June of the two thousand twelve he mentions that cases of chronic pressure distinction grew by ten or eighty percent, while cases of anxiety increased by eight comma forty percent, and panic attacks also continued. This tonic, rising to a six comma forty percent. Depression currently affects more than 350 million people worldwide and causes approximately one million suicides each

year. In other words, some 3, 000 people take their lives a day. It should be borne in mind that for every person who manages to commit suicide, there are twenty who have not completed it, often because they try to draw attention to the psychological drama they are suffering. Greece was one of the countries in the world where the suicide rate will be lower, but due to the rampant economic crisis, the rate of suicide attempts increased by thirty

- six percent in the year two thousand eleven. The country with the highest percentage of people suffering from depression is France with a total of twenty- one percent, followed by the United States with a nineteen coma twenty percent. Understanding episodes of sadness, the word happiness would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. Carl gustav Jun Olga is an eighty- three- year - old woman, classy and very presumptuous, who always comes to my office

with her household employee. The first time I see her, I object to her presenting a depressive background motivated by isolation. It has what today is called a depressive life, without challenges, nothing stimulating in the future a solitary existence. Every summer he travels to Santander to see his sister and niece. She takes her to do things and her mood changes radically. As I' m

told, the maid even forgets her pills. Suddenly his life is filled and there is an activation by himself of having things to do, because they count on it during those four weeks. He is another person when he returns to Madrid, Olga returns to the same pattern. We are working our daily habits to move that animation and encouragement into your life in the city, so that

you can leave behind the exogenous depression external causes of depression. It is necessary to know how to distinguish here between the macrotraumas of enormous gravity on the pointed line and the microtraumas, which are of lesser intensity but form a constellation of less important factors and the sum of them all destabilizes the person. In either case, as its name indicates the exogenous depression at ten is caused by an external agent. That is, there is a reason for a person to suffer.

This disease may be caused by countless causes, but we will cite the most common. In fact, often a depressive picture results not in a single cause, but in several of them. Death of a loved one, loss of someone very important to us, always creates trauma. There is usually a normal period of mourning, but if it lengthens over time and the person does not react, the state of sadness may degenerate. In pathology, time heals

all wounds. The great Balsam is an economic failure of some importance. This impact is decisive and produces a psychological collapse response whose intensity depends on many nuances. A loving failure to be requited by the loved one can be devastating in the mood, especially in adolescents. Failure of a relationship can also lead to depressive disorders. In women sentimental disappointment is harder, while in men economic and

professional failure is more shocking. Today this has changed to a large extent with the incorporation of women into traditionally male work activities. Social Hostility, an atmosphere of rejection is highly destructive to anyone. Schools are a breeding ground for this.

If a child is the object of jokes, heavy jokes, threats or assaults by other partners, symptoms of depression can appear and also occurs in adults when there is hostility in the neighborhood work environment of an unwanted couple alone people who live very isolated or have been locked up in themselves or for a number of reasons, have no social life or live to work or for a sum of different factors. The result is severe and may have a difficult prognosis.

Eleven lack of sunlight. The high incidence of depression in the Nordic countries has much to do with the lack of solar rays. In fact, to alleviate the effects of any depression, one of the measures is to walk in the open air and receive sun on our skin remedies against sadness. We are currently exposed to many negative influences that can undermine our mood. To the bad news that comes to us through the media. They add the general nervousness and a

state of discouragement that ends up in the population. To prevent depression from settling in us we need more than ever to take care of our body and mind, so that we can face any difficulty with good courage. Consider some practical steps that we can take in the day to day rests the necessary hours. Insomnia is another major cause of depression and other diseases. As we have said before, if work and worries overwhelm us, we must know how to disconnect

and not steal hours from sleep you see. I have always two pons of all this needs an education of the look and the effort to have a long view of the play is also maturity. Avoid Alcohol is already a potent depressive agent, even more so if we take it too much. The so- called social lubricant is certainly a double- edged weapon that enjoys food. Avoid fast or heavy foods. It' s not about skipping meals, it' s about eating in a healthy and measured way. It is better to eat

little and often stay a heist. Once or twice a day. Look for healthy relationships, call your friends, stay with them, talk and get rid of a nice conversation with a person. Finally it can raise the mood in a remarkable way. Let' s not stay home with our cavilations. It ' s very positive to air them. It performs activity in the open air, as we have seen, sunlight and a little physical exercise are vital to regulate our organism. The programmed sport is order and dissolves blurred sorrows. Don

' t make a mountain out of a grain of sand. There' s no need to magnify the problems. Twelve of them will not seem important to us when we see them with perspective from here in time check your family tree. If we have a history of family members with depression, it is advisable

to monitor our state, but without obsessing about it a serious issue. We have talked about prevention and advice to overcome depression, but we need to be careful, as they are only a complement in case we are facing severe depression. If this were the situation, take walks in the sun talk to others and eat properly. They are valid and important resources, but insufficient. According to the American psychiatrist Pillo de Kramer, only one in eight depression patients receive

the treatment they need. In her book against depression she insists that it is a serious illness that should be treated with the same seriousness as cancer or malaria. It should be borne in mind that depression can seriously alter our body. It' s not a melancholy that can be healed with a Marx Brothers film, a little sport and dinner with friends. Depression is very destructive, as it alters the glands. The prefrontal cortex, the circulatory system, and the

hippocampus. The brain suffers real physical havoc. Depression is a disease to be treated by specialists, who will propose the most appropriate therapy, be it pharmacotherapy, psychotherapy or the combination of different therapeutic systems. If it is exogenous,

we must add therapy, work, occupation and sociotherapy and agent relationships. If we believe that we are suffering from depression and have the feeling that our family doctor has not been able to identify the disease, let us ask a second opinion from a specialist return to the hole. Firstly, a clarification of something that has been said too lightly. Antidepressants don' t create addiction. This is a prejudice that has done much harm and has turned away from the treatment

of patients who needed it. However, the doses of each intake and the duration of treatment should be monitored by a specialist. It is true that psychopharmaceuticals may cause some annoying side effects, but they are usually not serious. In any case, when they appear, it is essential to inform the doctor so that he or she can change or reformulate our therapy. Never leave a medication without consulting the doctor, as the risk of relapse would be very high.

In addition, many relapses end up being more severe than the original depression and the situation could be complicated. Abandoning treatment is a very delicate thing, as the patient needs to be followed up to make sure that he has effectively overcome the depressive disorder. It' s not as simple as stopping taking a simple cough syrup appendage self- esteem in childhood. Although a child has no memory of his first three years, childhood is the happiest age in life. It

is rare for facts of that time to be remembered. Except for exceptions, the brain memory indramas are still unable to retain those first- time experiences, which are unforgettable for the mother and totally forgettable for the child. The border is winding about when the first images begin to be held and archived. Few questions intrigue psychologists more than this. When and how children begin to think with

symbols and how their mind is growing. He was Jeantierje, one of the pioneers in these issues and affirmed that we should not consider the mind of a child as a miniature model of the adult, since they elaborate their knowledge of the world in a radically different way. Everything is developing according to ascending stages

ranging from simple reflections that are associated with increasingly abstract reasonings. Fourteen the brain matures by creating concepts that Piajet calls schemes that are ways of looking at the world according to previous experiences and that help us for the experiences that will come

in the future. We move from simple schemes to more complex ones. When a mother feeds her child during the first months of her life and gives her breast the great psychological benefit is to the mother, who feels a special tenderness when she realizes that a being of her own flesh and blood needs absolutely everything to survive, and she gives herself totally to him. For the baby the benefit is physical, because if the mother is in healthy conditions, breast milk

is the best. But what is clear is that the child is not going to have memories of that experience, even though smile be cheerful and recognize the mother for smelling. When an animal is born at the time of being in this world, it already has a mobility and behavioral devices of its species that make it practically self- serving. All genetics are set in motion and within a few weeks his learning makes him position himself at the same level as his

parents. In the child the opposite happens, it is born defenseless to the maximum. Not only can he not stand for himself, but he needs help from the most elementary and primary. This is the great paradox between the child and the animal. We see it in a chick, in a bervatillo, in a dog cub and, of course, on the phylogenetic scale of the higher animals, such as the monkey or the Chimpanzee. It takes about a

year for humans to reach the same level as mammals at birth. It is the absolute helplessness and it is not necessary to lose sight that the child sleeps and sleeps is the age of sleep, and that his mother knows, who takes care in detail of the many hours that his son sleeps and the need that he has of it steps towards freedom. The physical development of the child is exciting and when we have had the opportunity to see our children or grandchildren

grow up, one is surprised at how it is produced. The acquisition of movements is exciting. You will see a child who begins to stand up and moves and the first glimpses of freedom appear. He' s gaining security in his travels, he needs to lean on the things he' s got around him. Parents continue with emotions, their motor babbling, and enjoy observing these gradual progresses that the family and the child respond to. Going to more each

day with the right diet, progresses in weight size and body morphology. The child holds his head about four months and about six months. It is able to acquire the position of sitting a little before, already able to realize the apprehension of the objects. Soon after. He' s capable of crawling at ten to twelve months. It can already stand, although falls are frequent, everything follows a gradual slow pace, successively. The instrument of the tongue.

The child' s psychological development is surprising. The first thing that draws attention is how he begins to repeat words that he hears and he does it with babbling, linguistics, phonemes, elementary units of verbal language, eating part of them, which provokes the sympathy of those who live around him. Seeing how his is produced something as important as the acquisition of language. So when a child is a year and a half he handles about fifty, sixty or seventy

words. Even his private vocabulary is scarce. When she is three years old, the vocabulary has multiplied and handled about a thousand In such a short time, verbal communication has grown exponentially. The child points to the objects with his fingers, fixes them and incorporates them into his mind, accomplishes his learning through a process of repetition. The importance of parents in this age of life is key, since the child is a sponge that sucks everything that comes to him

and active and motivating parents are decisive for the development of integral development. Fifteen, the child is discovering life. All childhood unfolds in mother and child symbiosis. It' s an essential binomial. The role of the mother has a decisive place in the challenge of socialization. The child' s arrival at the

nursery first and then at school is of obvious interest. He ceases to be in some way the king of his house to be one more is normal crying, the difficulty to accept being with other children of his age and to have to understand with them and accept the first rules of conduct and be able to

discover the presence of other people and to relate. The arrival at school around the age of five is an event that the child must assume with the help of his parents, learn to adapt and establish a certain communication while discovering the first clear and still uncontaminated feelings. Sympathy and rejection of being happy, envy, fear, rivalry, fighting, having to share toys accept a certain discipline. All this has a great educational value. It is the first phase of

socialization. Then the age of the game emerges. He begins to understand what things are for, such as spending time, what the rules are that are being imposed and then the age of the questions comes and why and there are many that the child brings with him and it is necessary to get more or less convincing answers. According to the characteristics of the personality that gradually develops. The game is a very useful activity and has a psychological relief of first importance.

First of all, it is an impulse to activity. It is also a way of interacting with other children and a way of learning and raising their sense of living, as well as an adequate psychological rest and an increase in self- awareness. Sixteen later he begins to write and scribble on sheets of paper. Let us not forget that language predates grammar. The child speaks, but he still doesn' t know the words, which is something to do

with it. Then he starts drawing and putting the letters together to form words. All of that leads to your time. It plunges into a new world that is hard for it and where the first efforts to overcome debauchery emerge. Educating a child is introducing it into reality with love from three to six years of age. We are talking about a personalistic stage, since the words I my own appear very often and are common currency of the vocabulary that is handling

and repeating the second childhood over and over again. In the later phase we talked about the child' s entry. In school psychology, the so- called second childhood ranges from six to eleven for girls and twelve or thirteen for boys. There is an important body metamorphosis here. The body figure is rounded and the muscle system is activated. On the psychological level, the child goes from being more or less into his inner world to coming out decisively into the

outer world. What we call in psychology is the beginning of school maturity, the ability to relate to peers, to do their homework, to have a certain responsibility for the tasks entrusted to them at school, and to accept the rules of the school, on the one hand, and of the family, on the other. Although imagination and fantasy remain in the foreground, the child

realizes that he lives in a world he needs to understand. In this way comes a certain critical attitude that means beginning to disagree with everything that is said, asked or demanded and begins to be raised, because it is of all that. Likewise, intelligence is going to gradually move to the foreground. These are interesting questions that suddenly jump and reveal that you are realizing what is happening around you. If educating is teaching people how to think culture is teaching them

how to live. This second is still far from the shelter of the family. The family is the central habitat of the child and it is what will give it security and confidence. For him it means love and an atmosphere in

which he feels at ease, safe and quiet. Therefore, dysfunctional families seventeen are a source of discomfort that will result in unhealthy environments, where that child will suffer the lack of balance of the family group and this may have negative consequences in future for couples with adopted children, something today very common in the West. It is important that that child be loved and receive the tenderness and

love of his adoptive parents with all the strength possible. It is important to explain to the right age, according to your psychology, what is adopted and that your parents love you with all the love that they are able and help you accept that condition without any complexes, naturally and explain it to your classmates with clarity and simplicity. Eighteen learning to think. One of the first objectives at this stage of life must be to teach, to reason, to apply

the criteria of discourse to understand the facts that happen. This task is primarily for parents, but since children spend many more hours at school than at home, except for the weekend, it is a mission for teachers to teach them how to think and understand the rules and guidelines that come from adults to understand the meaning and importance they have. It is also very suggestive to teach children

to paint at first when they are only six or seven years old. This is an interesting exercise because it measures your imaginative ability, you can put different drawings in front for you to copy. It is not the same whether it is a landscape, a portrait, a dead nature or something abstract. It is very interesting the research work carried out in this respect by Reinold of this Nineteen Inveck, where it is evident that it is more important to teach to

think and to solve disordered problems than to accumulate previously divergent thinking knowledge. Land and Harman, nine hundred and ninety- three, subjected one thousand and six hundred five- year- olds to a test of their ability to think differently and repeated it with the same children when they were ten years old and then fifteen years old. These same researchers submitted to the same testa two hundred eighty zero zero zero adults. The test they used was based on a NASA psychological

tool to measure the divergent thinking of their scientists. Five- year- olds had a very high level of creativity of ninety- eight percent. With ten he had fallen to thirty percent and at fifteen he had dropped to twelve percent. That is, the more simple and pure and decontaminated information is the child,

the greater his ability to express drawing, painting and creativity. Joandmiro, one of the great avant- garde painters of the 20th century, said in the last stretch of his life After so many years of work, I think I have managed to paint like a child. The drawing is a wonderful means of communication of the child and his spontaneity is full of freshness. His pencils

and papers are both a challenge and a hobby with naive vanity. The little one teaches his parents what he has done and he himself is surprised at what has come out of his hands, especially of his ability. There are many things that can be explored in this regard. The geometry, the handling of colors and their distribution, the size, the characters that appear. Everything is going to reveal to us the child who is inside and who is looking at

puberty through this window of fantasy and creativity. To draw a child is to motivate him to discover himself and explore his inner world, this being a method to access his intimacy. Originality and freedom come together here. This same experiment we can do with our children when they are a few years old. We are surprised by their doodles and the mixture of colors with different pencils, as

well as the grace and novelty that represent what they do. When puberty begins, this changes and becomes less expressive, more dull, less spontaneity, perhaps because they have to be conformed to a style or because they are expected to have a concrete composition that conforms to prefixed canons. Accompany someone, a child who has grown up with a healthy childhood, physically and psychologically, a stable

family and has received a positive education. Educarés. Accompanying someone to introduce him into reality with love has very positive exit conditions. Education is a gradual way of seeing reality. If a ten- year- old child, for example, discovers sexuality, it will suddenly be branded and will suffer a lifelong factory defect. In dysfunctional families, childhood is not the happy stage of life and

that leaves aftereffects forever. When, for example, those who call pen Juan children are forced to spend a few days at the mother' s house, others at the father' s house and so many at the grandparents' house, they become insecure. The first thing children need is space security. His things, his bed, his space, a crucial moment when one of the

great values of life appears, the concept of friendship. The great affective themes have a great freshness in children, because they are not nuanced by culture, social norms or the environment. His feelings are totally pure. The discovery of sharing good moments with a friend is very important for a child. The concept of brotherhood is another feeling you must learn. Children with siblings learn to share

before their space, toys, inherit clothes, etcetera. A case of children ' s problems, the rebellious child arrives at my office in Oscar, an eight- year- old boy with a three- year- old sister. He has gained weight in recent times, for he eats compulsively and, in addition, unhealthy things. Since the age of six, Oscar has suffered from big tantrums that at the age of eight have become insults to his parents.

He doesn' t attend at home or in class, he doesn' t want to eat what he gives him, and his behavior in general is very bad. Surprisingly, at school he behaves well when I talk to the child alone I analyze the main areas of conflict, which are insults, disobedience and aggressive reactions in which he throws food or throws objects. I realize, speaking to the parents, that the child has a lot of mother and little father. The mother is in charge of education and the father always tends to minimize

the child' s bad behaviors. The first therapy to be applied in this case is with the parents, to whom I give rules of conduct, not to repeat the messages There is a law in psychology that says that the messages that are repeated a lot have the opposite effect, because of a question of tiredness. Reduce affective manifestations, whether verbal or physical. Smiles and loving words

like love, affection, because the child has stopped appreciating them. It is also important to demonstrate disapproval through long faces and silences, to apply a system of awards and punishments. When the child misbehaves, a toy that he likes will be removed for a few days. Let us not forget these suggestions. Punishments must be without violence or verbal aggressiveness. They must also be unified by the two, i e the parents, must agree with the prize or punishment.

There is also a form of punishment that consists of locking the child up for half an hour in a room until he says he will behave well. It is not as serious as it seems, for if there is no violence in punishment, it carries no trauma. The first prize is verbal or physical, by hugging kisses or congratulations. Then there is the material prize, which must have little value, a pen or a chocolate with respect to this child. I also apply a list of behaviors to follow and then I give you

a prize if you apply them. Do not insult obey the second by letting him understand that he is not able to do it to the first. So we encourage in that challenge to leave things in place, do homework, eat properly and, of all things, ask for things. Please learn to thank you with a certain frequency knowing that tantrums do not lead to anything positive. I ask you to draw a picture of your family and observe that the sizes

of your members are illogical. The mother is the biggest and then he himself is older than the father and sister. The role of each in the family is then clearly observed. On the next visit, the character of the child has already improved by fifty percent. We can now apply new rules which may be as follows. Giving a kiss to the mother three times a day, going to school, around the corner and, before going to bed, thanking her mother once a day, at least, when something is not done as

he wants, he must accept it. We stimulate him by telling him he ' s going to make it. Parents are relieved, as they have noticed a great improvement by applying all the rules. As in many therapies, when you analyze the family situation because of a specific problem, you realize that there are also other problems added. In this case, parents argue a lot and I talk to them to solve it, also through three patterns of behavior.

Avoid unnecessary discussions, do not remove the list of grievances from the past, dedramatize the child' s negative behavior, as this behavior is subject to many swings a note about puberty. In puberty the child is pure activity. Dynamism joy is gaining some control of itself. Discover sexuality and the appearance of people of another sex. Children are much more childish, and sex appears more intensely

than in girls, physical and psychological attraction appears strongly. Children have the first sexual information from schoolmates. That' s why it' s good for parents to get ahead and explain to them what sexuality is and what it is to avoid distortion that may have negative consequences in the future. When this is not done for lack of preparation, for not daring to get into these issues or for lack of self- sufficiency, that will mean a vacuum in formation of

quite importance. Twenty appear the first night pollutions and the awareness of erection and ellaculation and masturbation usually has a role in behavior, which you need to know how to focus. The child begins to go home to his classmates and opens a new stage of friendship by sharing another home. There he begins to relate to his friend' s sisters and opens up a new world where imagination and

platonics are going to be in the foreground. The first crushes appear and the child immerses himself in his thoughts and sails through the sea of the first affective illusions. Feelings are idealized, girls already acquire female forms. Breast development appears, the beautiful cubian and axillary and come the first mens destroy is the work of the mother. Explain what this periodic repetition of vulgar blood consists of and

what significance a good mother' s education has. It consists of making him integrate all this into his psychology. A mother must give all the necessary answers regarding her sexual intimacy with simplicity and psychology with clarity and an integral view of the person and, of course, the father must also participate. To educate is to introduce into reality with love, is to teach our children how things

are and what sexuality means. And we must go against the current, for hedonism and permissiveness are today at the forefront of our twenty- one society. Many girls take refuge in their best friend, who becomes a confidant and counselor. School life carries the singing voice. That is why it is so important that it has a good adaptation that in many cases it becomes the first home,

especially with the flood of separate families we attend in the West. At the beginning of the twenty- first century, egocentrism is appearing in boys and girls, although they have a greater sense of reality and attend to the development of their bodies and see the changes that are taking place in them. Curiosity opens its way and begins to discover the body of others. The feelings of friendship mixed with those of rivalry and they capture their possibilities in the most diverse

fields. Children are always more active and rebellious, but they are still very childish, while girls are more self- centered. They begin to be aware of their sentimental life and explore the first friendships with emotion and shock, seeing that their duration is sometimes too ephemeral, among other things, because the personality

is being made and their configuration is still not stable. The transition from puberty to adolescence is equally sinuous, blurred, imprecise with poorly limited contours, especially today that due to a mosaic of diverse factors twenty- two have been delayed, especially in boys, many of whom are genuine babies of a psychological age

of seven, eight or nine years. This is well known by the mothers case study a ten- year- old troubled child, come to the consultation some fathers of forty- two years, he and thirty- four she who had contacted some person of our team in Madrid, first by email and later by telephone, to explain to us in broad terms the problem that presented us. This is a ten- year- old boy who has a twelve- year- old sister and another four- year- old brother. The father

works in a fruit market and the mother works in a supermarket. It is the mother who speaks and gives us a synthesis of her child' s problem. We' ve been dealing with my son' s problem for over three years now. We' ve been to two psychologists, but we' ve had no luck and our son is still the same. We ask you what are the main negative behaviors that the child has classified from more to less important.

The parents' answer is as follows. The worst of all is his physical and verbal aggression, both with us, his parents and with his sister. The eldest doesn' t obey, she doesn' t want to do her homework. The last course suspended all subjects and is now repeating. The suffering is very great, because it even makes us, as parents, confront each other because he knows how to manipulate ourselves we have had strong discussions and

we have said strong and negative things. We are lost and we do not know how we should act with our son and which lines we should follow. After examining the child, I have a long conversation with the parents to give them guidelines to help prosecute the rebellious behavior of their child henceforth set clear limits

that father and mother will apply without exception. When the child wants to overcome them, he will be punished with a withdrawal of privileges, that is, instead of shouting at him he will not be able to do things he likes again, especially until he corrects that attitude. We will enthusiastically encourage any positive developments we see in the child rather than in the face of failures. Parents must convey confidence with the motto. We know you' re able to do

much better. We will avoid repeating the same recrimination over and over again, since pedagogically, the case of the adopted child with a defiant negativist personality is not effective. This is a 12- year- old girl of Russian origin, adopted when she was five years old. She has been to a psychologist for almost a year that has helped her a lot, but at the end of that time, the patient has rejected her without a clear motive and has

refused to return. It is a blonde girl with clear, tall and gleamed eyes that has not yet developed and that has this double behavior. First, he refuses to do what he is told, to order his room, to do his homework, to sit down to eat as a family at the time he is called, to collaborate in small household chores, etc. And at the same time, it presents challenging reactions of great impact, sleeping away from home without warning, causing the whole family to be distressed and aware of where

they might be, calling even the police, locking themselves in their room and not answering their parents who are trying to talk to her or telling stories in Jesus' school parents mistreat her, beat her, not feed her, etcetera. We' re talking about a serious case. One of the psychologists of our team has been doing with her and the therapeutic relationship is being good from less to more, as at first she came to the consultation with a great

rejection in hand- to- hand. She has opened up and already shows a serious personality disorder well typified. Twenty- three I explain to parents the diagnostic label and that the treatment is going to have three aspects, one of behavior guidelines for parents on how to treat it, not paying much attention to

it, having a cordially distant relationship with it. Looking for that middle and difficult point, we explain to the parents how to reach it, not accept their often demanding attitude, scold them the minimum, not repeat over and over again negative messages twenty- four and manage with it a system of twenty- five rewards and punishments without any violence, verbal or physical. Two psychological objectives for her we dictate in a small notebook that we give her so that she

can always take it with her and consult her. She' s taking note in the first person and we tell her to comment on what we' re suggesting she should do. I know I' m a troubled girl, but I want to change. To want is to be able to know that what happens to me has the following name. I' m negativist, defiant, and, as I' m pretty smart. I have to fight to fight this which is bad for me and for the people who live with me,

starting with my parents, to fight for not being so impulsive. That' s why schoolmates walk away from me and I have so few friends to soften my character, especially with my parents and brother, to avoid blackmail. We explained the meaning. That creates a very negative environment in the family. Watching the tongue with my mother, correcting that tendency to say strong hard things to her and disqualifying her, avoiding those rebellious reactions from doing the opposite of what

I' m told. Put me in the head that my parents are not my enemies and that they want to see me happy to do homework at home when I get back from school, avoid wasting time doing nothing or watching TV, have my room tidy. We have told her mother not to fix it, to learn to keep it properly, not to make my brother angry or to be always fighting with him, to learn to thank and to ask forgiveness. As Dr Rojas and his psychologist have told me, one drug therapy explains

to parents that she needs a medication that cushions her impulsivity. We give him an anxiolytic, at low doses, three shots a day, breakfast lunch and back from school in the afternoon and a twenty- six mood stabilizer. It was hard for him to accept it at first, but we proposed that if he took it, he would have an award from the therapeutic team. Each month of take would get a little gift from us. The evolution was very

positive. The parents said the medication had boosted a Copernican twist. She herself had stuck in the closet of her room the targets she must meet. We have had four months of therapy and the evolution is favorable, though with ups and downs. The conflictive relationship with the mother has been improving and we have had to establish psychotherapy guidelines for it, which has also begun to take sedatives at low doses. Part two, episodes of love and war, problems to

contain anger. Speak when you' re angry and you' ve made the best speech you can regret. Ambro' s seeing each other. Laura is dynamiteing her social circle because of her character At the age of eighteen she has just cut off her boyfriend because of her explosions of rage. They were constantly arguing about any nonsense and the differences of opinion always resulted in a festival of

shouting from her. To this one must add that he has distanced himself from his childhood friend after sending him a very hard email in which he reprimanded many things with which he disagreed at home. Living with their parents is not easy either. Although Laura has very good feelings, she has the ability to make a mountain of anything and immediately loses her temper. The young woman is realizing all this and has agreed to initiate therapy. When I come to my office,

I sense her very tense and irritable completely defensive. He begins to calm down when he sees that I do not judge her and we begin to dissect the motives of her strong temperament. We all get angry from time to time. However, there are people who happen more often than normal and whose reactions of anger can become violent, starting it with shouts or insults against what has

taken them out of their chairs. The enemy can be an appliance that doesn ' t work as it should, an urban guard who is unfairly fined us our sentimental partner. Our children are our friends. The consequences of downloading the IRA against the nearest people are extremely negative, as our social, family or sentimental life will be resented. Those who have trouble containing their character quickly lose support and become isolated. In addition, the same anger that they direct to

others ends up billing their own Buddha- moment described it like this. Holding on to the IRA is like grabbing a hot coal with the intention of throwing it at someone else. You' re the one who ends up burned. The IRA is not generated only by encountering a conflict. Remembering past situations can trigger the same emotions and even the anticipation that in the future we may be attacked or deceived. A little controlled IRA is part of our survival instinct.

Doubts, fear, anxiety and anger in their rightful measure are natural tools that help us in times of extreme change or danger. However, prudence and common sense must be present to temper these emotions that take command over reason practical tricks against anger. It is very difficult to know whether these bursts can be completely eradicated in an individual or if they will be repeated. However, such attacks can be controlled and the affected person can lead a normal life without harming or

offending those around him or her. First of all, we must be aware that there is a real problem of uncontrolled IRA, as well as a low tolerance of frustration. There are psychological tests available to us to calculate the level of IRA management. Therefore, the best strategy is to ask a therapist for help. Anyway, the psychologist or psychiatrist is not at our side in the day- to- day and we need to learn how to master ourselves when

we are not in the office. The following tips may be helpful in placing the IRA. Taking a seat or taking is a resource that works in most cases, when nerves are in bloom, count up to ten mentally before responding to a verbal attack. If we answered without thinking about it for a second, we would raise the tone further and would be the first step to lose control in case we notice that something is kindling our anger, distracting us by

focusing our attention on anything else. If necessary, we will leave the scene of the conflict situation to clear us with a good walk. Feeling the air and the sun are effective. Let' s calm down and focus on breathing. We can take air slowly and expel it in the same way as we think of sedative and positive words, speak slowly with pause. If we are in full discussion, we must make the effort to listen to our interlocutor.

Putting ourselves in the skin of the other person will help us understand the situation and prevent us from verbally assaulting him while trying to find the reason for our anger to express what we feel before it is too late. Instead of accumulating bad feelings, it is better to talk about the things that disturb us as they occur. If stored, they can end up as a powder keg. Practicing sport usually helps to relieve tensions. Especially recommended are cardiovascular sports, such

as running, swimming or cycling explosive characters. According to a study conducted in two thousand four, with two hundred and fifty- three citizens of bauthemore and U four percent could have suffered from intermittent explosive disorder at some point in their lives. Another article published in the magazine Cathel Genussakhetry in two thousand and six, already counted in a seven coma three percent the part of the population affected

by this syndrome in the United States. Some medical tests indicate that many people afflicted by iede may have an imbalance in serotonin and testosterone, along with minor

neurological irregularities. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders of MS, published by the American Psychiatric Association APPA, reveals to some of the indicators to diagnose the ie of OTEI multiple episodes in which the person has been unable to control his aggressiveness of which one has ended in a physical attack on another person or in destruction of real estate objects. The level of aggression is disproportionate to the

cause of aggression. Cases of aggression have no other origin after a mental entourage. Before reaching a diagnosis, it is necessary to rule out other possible syndromes or diseases, such as antisocial personality, schizophrenia depression, panic attacks or alcohol abuse, drugs, the supermarket of human relationships. The great tragedy of life is not that men perish, but that they stop loving u. Samer Sarmom, who is a forty- year- old woman with two children, comes

to my office for a serious problem she has with her husband. He has been unfaithful to him. She' s discovered it and he' s recognized it. But he tells me I' m willing to forgive him if he changes in relation to me. Her husband is a forty- five- year - old man who works as a driver. When I meet him, alone he admits to having had more adventures, but this is the first time his

wife has caught him and realizes that she is shattered. When I speak with Jez he tells me that he is a man with a good background, but that he is very good at what is called in Andalusia still door- candil, that is, one of those people who bring out the best of themselves in the street. He' s a man who looks after the facade in front of others. She wishes to forgive him, but only if she is

willing to give him another quality of life. First, I ask you to write me separately two lists on the main areas of conflict, between them ordered too much unless I would remove you and that would add to your partner' s way of being to improve the relationship. Secondly, I' m preparing a behavior program for the husband. You have to look for a special day to take her for a drink and give her a letter of apology. I explain to her how she should be a letter, although she has to make

it her own and this letter must accompany her with a small gift. Two. I give you a series of pas that you will continue in the day to day, call if you will not go to dinner, communicate and say what it feels like to go out more with your wife participate in the education of your three children. I stress that you must bear in mind that there

is an ultimatum and a unique opportunity to save your marriage. I give Grace a number of practical tips, such as not taking out the list of grievances, not blaming things, seeing their good side, promoting better communication, and enjoying intimate relationships. After two months, the situation has taken a total turn, so to him I present my book Remedies for Dislove and Men of Mars. The women are from Johan Gray' s venus and her how to make

your paulhat marriage work times of infidelity. According to an article by journalist Jordi Harke, which appeared in the vanguard on April 20, 2000, clandestine sex is increasingly widespread as a social practice. The Centre for Sociological Research conducted a survey in the year one thousand nine hundred and ninety- five. The result was that forty- six percent of men confessed to having had some infidelity compared

to only 17 percent of women. According to the psychoanalysts ter Lopez. These data should now be questioned, since at that time men tended to brag and women tended to disguise, making it possible for the percentage of unfaithful men in those years to be lower and that of older women. New surveys and studies have recently been carried out and the results are quite different from those of the year nineteen hundred and ninety- five. Today, when asked if I could

be unfaithful knowing that your partner would never know you would be. The figures have been evening to a even more balanced percentage. In the case of men it is slightly more than fifty percent and in that of women somewhat less. Adultery continues to be more frequent for men, but it is clear that the trend is increasingly towards equality. Women no longer depend so much on their partners

and have increasingly independent economies online relationships. There is probably more infidelity today because it is facilitated by social networks. There are numerous offers of web pages don of people of both sexes, assessed or with stable partner contact to flirt and have ephemeral sexual contacts, with the discretion that assures them by the company. Those responsible for these websites deny that the percentage of infidelity has increased because of

the proliferation of such businesses. They insist that they only took advantage of a demand that existed and sought satisfaction. In fact, in the midst of a time of crisis. It' s flourishing business. Anyone can access these pages. Some are free and others have paid services and can create a profile with fake photos or not and flirt with people of the opposite sex, without any

blush or risk of being surprised. Upon entering, the client answers an age questionnaire, sexual trends fantasies and points out what he or she wants from the person or people he or she wants to contact. It' s a whole supply and demand market for clandestine sex. Most of those websites have received allegations of fraud. Some users claim that many of the profiles of women are false

and do not even exist by deluding into deception. Other Internet companies are dedicated to creating alibis for infidels to show their partner that they have a meeting in Copenhagen, a course in London or a conference in Vienna. Other companies, on the contrary, are engaged in discovering the false clues and false alibis that the other businesses invent. All this leads to the banalization of love. Test one. A friend reveals to you that he has been unfaithful to his partner.

You don' t even want to hear him and advise him to be prudent. Go buy him another drink to explain all the details of adventure two in your sex life. You' re more of a passive, unimaginative lover. See a teacher in the art of sex games and using resources to quote your partner. Three for you to be unfaithful to the couple is inconceivable and an absolute lack of respect. See forgiving under what circumstances they are in the

adventure. Four consider that an infidelity begins at the very moment I begin to think of another person. See only when there is direct sexual contact. Five you think you could fool your partner only if our relationship was already completely broken. See if I could feel alone and the situation was propitious. Six, in the case of being unfaithful to your partner, ad I would feel terrible and end up confessing the deception to him. Despite the complex and deceptive consequences

of the means of celebrating life with joy. There' s no better beauty product for a woman. Rosalin Russell. Paula is twenty- five. Although you saw as an older woman, she tells me that she has just returned from Oropesa, where a friend left her an apartment in front of the sea. Although in a fortnight he hasn' t gone down to the beach once. She admits that she hasn' t been comfortable with her body since she

broke up with her boyfriend. Now two years ago, he' s started eating out of hours chop some chocolate from the fridge, then a pasta later a sweet soda. Without realizing it, it has gained weight and all its efforts since then to lose weight have not worked. He' s got at least 20 kilos left and he' s feeling bad. Last summer she went to the beach one morning and noticed some kids laughing at her. They even uttered a couple of ugly words about his body. Since then, he has

begun to reject people. Before I' m rejected, I' m making Beck' s test a set of twenty- one questions to measure the level of depression and then an anxiety test that I' ve designed myself twenty- seven. These tests allow me to detect that Paula, in addition to a depression requiring pharmacological treatment, suffers from somatic anxiety a classic antidepressant every night so

as not to interfere with her work performance. He managed to reduce out- of- hour visits to the fridge with which he satiated the bundle of nerves in which he had become In his second visit, I deliberately put a mirror in the consultation to see what he does for his constant looks to his reflection. I understand that at home you spend now examining every fold of your body.

I tell you that there is a disease called dysmorphophobia that means distorted vision of one' s own body and is suffered by people who suffer an obsession with body aesthetics. As she progresses in her treatment, Paula' s mood illuminates and leaves her body complex and anxiety behind. The test of fire finally arrives, when she is invited to spend the weekend in the chalet of some

friends with swimming pool to alleviate her nervousness. I give you some 28 messages that I want you to read out at the end of the chapter and take into account. Every time he feels vulnerable, he' ll carry them over so they won' t forget him. The experience is satisfactory and Paula is reintegrated into social life, which she had abandoned because of a deformity that was

alone in her head. Paradoxically, from that moment on, he begins to lose weight effortlessly, as anxiety has been transmitted and no longer needs to be mitigated, going to the fridge between hours. Inferiority complex. Freud believed that neurosis has its cause in sexual repression, while his collaborator Offred Adler said that neurosis is caused by unresolved inferiority complexes. In any case, a complex is

always a subjective feeling. Everyone suffers from some inferiority complex than anyone else. No one possesses all the gifts and virtues he could desire. Although we often compare ourselves with people who only live in magazines, after many photoshop touches or in Hollywood movies. The good news is that we have the opportunity to psychologically

compensate for any problems or shortcomings by reinforcing other areas of our lives. Thus, a slightly graceful man physically develops a greater communicative ability to seduce by other means, the young kon little ability for studies, cultivates an artistic activity or seeks, stand out in ns a sport. In the end, it is a question of adapting to the medium with what we have the complex as a

tool of overcoming. Alfred Atler pointed out in his essay the meaning of life that complexes do not necessarily have to be negative, as they impel the individual to overcome his reality thanks to a better one. In fact, this collaborator of Freud stresses that just what has made the human race prevail over the rest of the species, has been its struggle to compensate for its shortcomings. His little preparation against the cold caused him to snatch the skin from animals better endowed

to those he hunted and to make their homes more sophisticated. To give just one example. This starting disadvantage caused the human being to constantly overcome himself in the face of adversity and to increase his capacity for adaptation. Paradoxically, his inferior condition has been a springboard towards continuous improvement, which is the basis of

human evolution the cult of the body. Logically, in a case like the one we are seeing in this chapter, the cult of the body comes into play, especially on the part of young people who believe in the obligation to conform to an absurd canon when they go through a time of insecurity, they seek the approval of third parties and if what they get is a negative feedback,

we already have the fertilized ground for the complexes. Who has not been ridiculed in his class for not understanding a teacher' s question, for failing in a gymnastics exercise or for having some physical trait different from the rest. In the face of any of these situations, we can overcome ourselves by betting on other abilities that distinguish us, but the subject can also turn the problem

into a neurosis. The world is full of people complacent because of a bad perception on the part of others, and sometimes this does not even obey a real impression, as the individual bases his feeling of inferiority on what he believes others think of him. An article in the magazine Sacaba Githed revealed an alarming growth in the level of body dissatisfaction. This had been in nineteen hundred and seventy- three out of twenty- five percent for women and fifteen percent for

men. In the survey of nine hundred and ninety- seven, these figures had already climbed to fifty- six percent and forty- three percent, respectively. Since then it has only increased advertising related to beauty products moves hundreds of millions of euros and has dangerous side effects. Many people think they should get a sculptural body to be well with themselves. The perfect body syndrome to obtain the approval of others ends up triggering numerous problems of anxiety and frustration twenty-

nine, especially among the younger population. When this fixation becomes sick, it can result in eating disorders such as anoré or bulimia nervosa, as well as the so- called adonis syndrome, technically vigorexia, from which they spend their free time in the gym making muscle. It is clear that today we all take more care of the physical aspect. In addition, physical health points to

a weight, which is an equation depending on sex and size. A woman who measures one comma sixty- five must weigh ten units less than the centimeters, plus minus two, i e fifty- three script fifty- seven. All this with many nuances. A relatively recent body worship syndrome is the so - called orexia, the obsession with maintaining a tanned skin tone all year round. All these psychological disorders have two starting points, aspiration to a perfect body

and distorted vision of oneself. When looking in the mirror test One approaches the summer and you plan to spend a few days in the square I plan the trip, I prepare some routes and visits I look for the best restaurants in the area, I buy a guide, etc. B I start an intensive diet to lose weight in three weeks. Two fantasies about living differently or being someone else I like the way I am and I don' t usually compare my life to anything or anyone else. You see I often feel jealous or

jealous of things or situations that people around me have three. You' ve ever thought about going to a plastic surgeon' s office if you had a disease, I' d just step on an operating room. I' m panicking the scalpel See right now I don' t feel that need, but later on I wouldn' t mind going through the O R to do a few retouching four. You' ve achieved most of the goals you' ve set yourself so far. Fortunately, I have achieved much of the goals I

had dreamed of to this day. Be I still have a lot of unfinished subjects, but I think most of them will stay on it. Tinker five. When someone makes a joke to you or exposes you in front of others, I laugh at its occurrence and in passing, it serves to remove it. Iron to the subject b happened fatally. I rub and get in a bad mood. Six, during a working meeting, I actively participate and express

my ideas with initiative and naturalness. I tend to stay in the background and I limit myself to supporting the comments of the rest without carrying the singing voice at any time. Trouble finding a partner. They say the man is not a man while he doesn' t hear a man from a woman' s lips. Antonio Machado. Alfonso studies second in mathematics and feels that his life

is a desert when it comes to love. When he is not dedicated to the calculations to pass the exams of his career, he connects for hours to social networks. Hidden under a neck with the illustration of a superhero as a profile photo. He devotes his free time to chatting with other people with whom he shares affinities. When some girl is interested in him and tries to cross the walls of the virtual world to get to know him, Alfonso stops giving

him signs of life. The reason is that he thinks he' s not attractive to women. His previous appointments have been a failure because he was unnatural and convinced that he was a disappointment to the other person. All his friends go out with girls and he' s complex. That' s why he

thinks no woman he likes will ever fall in love with him. He visits me in my consultation for another question, but we address the issue of his loneliness to try to conquer the affective area that so far does not exist in his life. Singles a new social class. Today, marketing has created an idealized gene of the single and independent person who has a full social life and awakens the envy of those who are paired and with responsibilities. However, many

singles do not really enjoy their loneliness. Rather they are crushed by it. Many people are alone because they have difficulty relating to the opposite sex. They are usually individuals suffering from low self- esteem, with complexes and excessive shyness that has led them to sentimental tracisms During adolescence, a person naturally begins to

feel attracted both sexually and sentimentally by other people. Failure to achieve their goals and to see that their friendships are successful in that sense can plunge us into a well where self- confidence does not develop as it should, the person isolates himself and can suffer chronic sadness because of his lack of self- esteem. Internet contact pages are no help for a person in this state will usually pretend what it is not to arouse the interest of the person with whom you

are chatting. But when it comes time to see each other. Physically, you' ll make up any excuse not to go on the date. It is not advisable to lock yourself up at home and in yourself, as well as obsessing about it. There are ways to find people who enjoy what we enjoy, and that' s one way to meet people without having to break down the first barrier. The fact that he is passionate about cinema, literature or any other art already arouses an interest in other people and a respect.

If you' re an expert. Let us perfect ourselves in every way and that too will be a way of gaining self- love. The first secret of seduction is to like oneself, as that ends up being passed on to others. Let us not be perfectionists with other people' s physique, nor with our own. Affordable goals and values must be created. The complicity that is established between two people when they share the same universe of contagious loneliness interests.

More and more people choose to live alone voluntarily better alone than poorly accompanied. They say. The image of the independent person has been highly idealized in cinema and many hide in that independence to hide a lack of self- esteem or maturity. Even companies are offering products intended for individual consumption. In fact, if it were not for the current crisis, many more people would live alone in their apartments, but they cannot because of the economic difficulties involved.

Once it has reached 30, if a good job has been achieved, it has been traveled and great vital experiences have been had. There comes a time when many people think they have to find their orange half as one more goal in life. If this couple does not come for whatever cause it is s NR, then the anxiety and despair of seeing how the years pass appear. As the body ages little by little and as that desired and idealized person does not appear anywhere. As long as we do not find the right person,

we must try to live alone and in harmony with ourselves. This is worth taking into account. We are never alone, for we have friends and family. A person does not necessarily have to be paired to feel fulfilled. As long as we are alone, we must enjoy our loneliness. So, when we have a partner, we can bring inner wealth. Argentine humorist Enrique Pinti, has left us his wise opinion on this subject. There are shorter or

longer moments in life when we choose to be alone. They are intimate and absolutely individual moments in which joy, weeping, joy, bitterness, euphoria or depression have to be just ours. Blessed solitude is the one we choose. Cursed solitude, on the other hand, is that which deprives us of loved ones and dear friends who leave us. Bloody loneliness of the empty house that was once full perverse. Loneliness is for those who did not know how to

cultivate friendship and love. And what about the 30s From the age of thirty, men tend to think that if a woman doesn' t have a partner it' s because she doesn' t want to mistakenly believe that they have more facilities than they do. But we all know women of thirty and forty years of age who, despite having all the ingredients to be theoretically suitable,

remain alone, even if they do not want it. Psychiatrist Maria Leonardi describes in the difficult art of finding a couple different experiences of women, some of them more than revealing. The reasons for staying alone from the age of thirty can be many. Finding a person who completes that way of holding someone else accountable for filling our gaps is a mistake, as it is something that is entirely up to us to make great hopes with what is simply an instant crush.

Pedestals do not allow us to see people as they really are searching for a utopian ideal. The romanticism of cinema and literature is still fiction. We live by reality. Having your feet on earth protects you from false illusions, thirty despair of seeking permanent happiness and perfection. We' ll never be happy,

we' ll always be disappointed with the other person. Lack of security and self- esteem too much where to choose If a person has a great offer of suitors, if he or she does not have the courage to decide on time, he or she may lose all options having chosen wrong too many times. That creates a distrust of the opposite sex. They' re all the same. The best thing we can do is focus on our lives and

not become obsessed with a possible future of loneliness. In fact, it is easier to find the right partner when we get rid of the anxiety to find her seduce me. There is an enormous amount of books, workshops, articles and web pages dedicated to the art of seduction. They all rely on a series of keys in which psychologists, journalists and great seducers who have written memoirs with their experiences coincide. By summarizing all these visions, the seductive person can

be characterized by ten fundamental traits. They are expressive, but never exaggerated. If they joke or laugh, they will do it without complexity, but never with stridence. Their safety in themselves is self- evident They are usually positive people who contagion to their optimism, they dominate both oral and bodily language. They talk slowly, they know how to use silence, and they usually have a wealth of vocabulary without being pedantic. They get those who accompany them to

feel special. They know how to value the virtues of others. They' re usually direct without being aggressive. They can actively listen by giving importance to the opinions of others. People like to be heard and hate to be interrupted or despised. They' re very detailed. They look at what others like. They conform to any situation. They know how to be anywhere and at any time. They are elegant in their gestures. Elegance is not in a tie, a hand gesture, or a smile that can convey can be more

captivating than a tuxedo or evening dress. Naturality is very important to apply all these keys, because when a person pretends to be what he is not, the others can get a very wrong impression and usually not suggestive, as he discovers a low self- esteem test one daily you usually cross the street with a number of unknown people, but who immediately recognize you for seeing them. Often many of them I greet for the simple fact of seeing them every day,

even though I do not know them. B I never greet someone I don' t know or show curiosity about what two will be like you know what your strengths are when it comes to establishing a friendship or relationship. Oh, I' m clear what my secret weapons are. The look, the tone of voice, the smile, the sense of humor. B acted in an impromptu way. Three up in the elevator with an unknown and very attractive

person. I' m trying to make eye contact with her and I' m thinking of something that' s funny to tell her See, I' m still caught up in my stuff and my eyes are stuck on the ground. Four, when you have a conversation, I listen attentively and show interest in what the speaker explains to me. I ask questions. I think I give advice on the subject of B. I tend to always talk about my things and I find it hard to maintain interest in what they explain to me

if it doesn' t directly affect me. Five on your Facebook profile. Ah I always try to contact new people and keep my wall up to date with new entrances. I' m just reading the other people' s tickets and I haven' t added anyone in months. Six invite you to a party where you only know the host I accept immediately before the possibility of meeting new and interesting people. Peter Panes and Simons. The most useless human beings

are those unable to change over the years. James m Barry, Miguel is living at the age of fifty a second adolescence, although he holds a high position in a telecommunications company. Everything that was the breadwinner of his life has fallen apart. Relationships with his wife have deteriorated to the point that he has decided to move into a small rental apartment. There he receives lovers and recovers habits from his time as a student. Her desire to like young women makes

her give herself to a very demanding training. In the gym, where he has already been injured twice, he buys clothes that are not proper to his age and position and has started a diet that is causing him constant fatigue at one point of this return. In the past he feels confused and lost. His colleagues in the company begin to murmur about him, who has his own doubts about what he has done with his life. When he comes to my office, anxiety has taken over him. He' s trying to get back

on track for his existence. Adults in the country of never again. In nineteen hundred and eighty- three, Danjada published a book called Peterhean syndrome. Readers soon defined the work as the Book of men who never grew up. This syndrome was based on the following irresponsibility symptomatology. Those who suffer from this syndrome take on the role of mature men, even though their real behavior is

childish their terror of commitment, they are unable to make decisions. They do not believe in themselves as independent entities loneliness need to be accepted by others in a cooking way and if they do not achieve such acceptance, they cannot accept themselves narcissism. They want to satisfy only their own ego. They' re having a hard time doing something for each other. Machismo avoids his responsibilities as

a couple and as parents. They only think about how tired they are because of their work, regardless of their partner' s. They do not cooperate in household chores, even though the wife works as much or more than they do. Conflicts with sexuality and their partner. Such exhaustion and obsession with your work can cause your sexual appetite to be inhibited. Their sexual behavior, when the time comes, is often not encouraging, creating even more distance with the

couple. In other cases, their desperate search for affection can lead to compulsive infidelity, sick nostalgia. Having reached a certain age and accumulated failures, they have missed their freedom and their youth. At that moment you can abandon everything to try to revive. This second youth regains the rebelliousness of adolescence. As is the already withered ideas and illusions of youth. The results are often disappointing

and powerfully destructive. All this is usually accompanied by crises in which it has pitch outs, reactions of anger panic attacks. You can also fall into addictions such as alcohol or drugs. There is a belief that Peterpan syndrome affects only the male sex, which is a mistake. It is true that this syndrome affects men somewhat more. However, they may also have the same symptoms.

The above signs are often observed in adult women who dress as in adolescence and behave in the same way, being followers of musical groups, moving in environments that do not correspond to their age and leading an unbalanced sentimental life when there

has been a lack of affection or attention during childhood. Both men and women can develop a symptomatic picture that matches this syndrome, demonstrating the same lack of responsibility, the difficulty of expressing feelings, the search for protection, chronic fear,

Wendy' s stories. This personality disorder usually affects women more than men, who suffer from it need to care for and obsessively satisfy their partner or children because of a pathological fear of being rejected or abandoned, as their self - esteem tends to be very low. We often find a tter cana where there are those who suffer Wendy syndrome, as to peter who runs away from responsibilities, Wendy represents comfort. It is that figure that satisfies all your needs

and fulfills your duties. The sacrifices a Wendy makes can become continuous and extreme. These people consider themselves indispensable and believe that love is nothing but work, service, and sacrifice. Wandy constantly avoids conflict, terrorizes her, the spouse gets angry, so she forgives everything and tends to apologize for anything. Even when he is absolutely right, he becomes the mother of his own partner. Adolescence is the key time, as it is during that age that some signs

may appear to help detect the disorder. Overprotection of mothers. Wendy often causes her children to suffer from peter Pan syndrome, as they have been educated in the least effort to overcome it. Wendy has to learn to say she doesn ' t have to fail to fulfill the responsibilities of others. You will need to increase your self- esteem and learn to share your daily chores fairly.

One your relationship has long gone wrong ad I let it deteriorate until everything falls by its own weight, that is to say the other person who makes the decision to break up. See the situation and take the initiative to try to save the relationship. I' m not the first to raise the breakup. Two When you think about the past, ah I feel longing and I think those times were better. B I laugh the way I looked and think about

everything I still have to live and enjoy. Three when you listen to music I always look for a channel or radio station to program the songs that sounded in my teens. I prefer to discover new bands and musical proposals that surprise me. Four In general, you are often physically attracted to much younger people

than I see, people my age or even a little more mature. Five when they introduce you to someone for the first time I notice a lot about their physical appearance, their way of laughing as you saw I usually ask a lot of questions and look at what they say or as they say six, when someone tells you that they are going through a problem, I find it

hard to show empathy and immediately change the subject. I am sincerely interested in the situation you are going through and I am trying to give you my support and Council Seven. You' ve got a whole weekend ahead of you without commitments. I call my friends and try to plan it so I won' t be there for a second. Just go take advantage of it to sort the house, listen to music, read a good book and meet one or two friends. For each answer, add two points. For each answer see

adds a point less than eight points. Peter Pan was never your favorite movie. You like to live and enjoy the present you are a determined person. You are not afraid of commitment and you know how to put yourself in the skin of others in the face of the loss of a loved one. Someone should tell us, when our existence begins that we are already dying. Then we would appreciate life every minute of every day. What we need to do We need to do it now, because there aren' t as many mornings

as we thought. Paul VI. Judith has just turned twenty and hasn' t raised her head since her father' s death a year ago. He was very close to him, and he' s hard to assimilate that he ' s gone forever. He has lost the joy of living and is often assaulted with episodes of sadness that he cannot control. Her mother and her brothers encourage her to go out more and become distracted. But Judith refuses to abandon

the shell of melancholy that separates her from everyday satisfactions. Get to my office suffering from insomnia. It presents itself with an obvious depressive picture, in addition to prescribing medication to begin dating back. We talk about the grieving phases that will lead her back to life. Loss of a loved one is the worst internal fracture a person can suffer. We all know that death is inevitable,

that it will not only reach our loved ones, but also ourselves. However, we tend not to think about it and avoid looking at it head- on. But the fateful day comes unexpectedly or not and hits our soul flatly. What to do when someone so dear leaves us phases of mourning. The American psychiatrist of Swiss origin from Bethkubelervas established a total of five mourning phases, both for the loss of someone close to her and for the news of her

own death due to terminal illness. Although there are other theories that include some more state of sot The person is unable to assimilate the news, it is blocked and cannot react to what happened negation. Many begin here the grieving phase without the state of soc The individual does not believe what has happened. He prefers to think they' re cheating on him or playing a horrible joke, a heavy sense of guilt. This phase was not included in Kubler Ross'

theory. At this point, many people blame themselves for what happened. They think they could have done more to avoid the death of the loved one or shown him more affection in life. Some even take responsibility for the death of the person. Negotiation is common. In the case of a near death not yet occurring. Believers often negotiate with a superior being that allows them to enjoy the sick person more so that they can say goodbye. Good. It also

happens when it comes to death itself. In case of terminal illness, fear above all non- believers fear the step towards non- existence anger and rage. People feel jealous envy of those who will not suffer the death of someone in an imminent way depression. At this stage, a person comes to think that life has no meaning and that it is unnecessary to fight to move on. It is a very delicate stage, as it can degenerate into exogenous depression

of different levels of severity acceptance. In the case of a terminally ill person. This is the moment when a certain spiritual peace is found and the fight against death is stopped in the case of a loss is the principle of healing, because the inevitable is accepted at the edge of death. The first contact he had from Beth Kewbeller RSS with death was when he visited a Nazi extermination

camp. That drastic contact with historical brutality and the reality of death influenced the innocent 19- year- old Switzerland who was still and made her realize that the end of life was going to be the object of her research. She was in contact with many people who had been given to be clinically dead and yet their bodies returned to life. Many of these experiences were told in his

book. Death a dawn. The sensations and visions that those people had made him understand that death is nothing other than the end of a stage exactly like a caterpillar that ceases to be perhaps once it has created the cocoon and becomes a butterfly after the metamorphosis. Once their heart has stopped beating, the dying get used to seeing a powerful white light that attracts them and can contemplate their

body from outside themselves. Some, despite not wishing to return to their existence as human beings, return to the body and awaken, though without having seen that there is on the other side of the light. No one has penetrated it and returned. Dr Kublerrus treated many Vietnam veterans who had become paraplegic, who had suffered a clinical death. After having been prostrated in a wheelchair for years. During the experience, they all related to the sensation of walking back

among their documentation. We can find cases in which the patient was blind and upon his return he could give all luxuries of details, including drawings and colors of the garments upon which he had surrounded his body while he was dead. A very revealing case was reported by the same doctor. During a lecture he gave at the second International Holistic Congress in the city of S O Paulo, Brazil. We had the case of a man in Switzerland who had to cross

a mountain to attend a very important football match. During the trip he suffered a car accident and was seriously injured. Three doctors declared him clinically dead and covered him with a blanket. The ambulance took hours to get to the place. After his return, the man shared with us, something that was a

check of all the documentation we have so far. He narrated to be aware that s s s s ons people were complaining about not being able to attend the game, but after a while he heard the voice of a woman praying fervently for him, and the man declared dead was moved to see that among the thousands of people complaining about having lost a football match, a completely strange

woman prayed for him, So he made a promise to God. If I live in any way, I will tell that woman that her prayers were heard and in that state she approached her voice and memorized the car from where she came from to be able to identify it later, to shorten it. After nine months of rehab surgery tests, the man was able to speak again and asked the doctor to look for a car with a certain registration number. The woman was called and she went to the hospital. You can imagine what this

meant for the woman' s faith to talk to the little ones. It is logical to want to protect our children from pain and helplessness, but sooner or later the time comes when they are interested in the issue of death and ask us directly about it how to deal with it. Our response will depend

on many factors, from religious beliefs to the child' s age. In an interview by Inés Pchavarrí in the Diario El País in two thousand twelve, the writer and professor of children' s literature at the Faculty of Teaching of the UPV in Vitoria, Javier Arnal, compares the degree of modesty we have when talking about this topic with our children, with the equally taboo subject of sexuality, he considers that we must speak of death directly with courage. The

psychologist will be happy to be of the same opinion. You don' t have to avoid going to a grandfather' s funeral. Children must also go through their own grieving phase in a similar way, psychologist Gill Agrolman says in his book Expening Actor Chelrein. You have to tell them the truth directly and

simply. We should not use euphemisms, as he is sleeping, because if the child identifies the fact of sleeping with death, we can create a situation of infantile insomnia because of the terror of falling asleep forever, as did his grandfather. Nor should we try to disguise our pain or our weeping before them. Children realize that something serious happens and if we do not hide our feelings, we make them share if they are aware of what happened, learning that

death is something natural and irremediable only in the face of life. According to a study by the sociologist at the University of Dackers jav Recard, the psychiatrist at the University of Mechigen Riendo of Ness and the psychologist at the University of New York Hemill Warman, widows living a peaceful and happy existence. It' s not because they' ll get along badly with their deceased partner and have

freed themselves from it. On the contrary, these people have accepted the death of the loved one as part of life and have passed their particular flight. More than forty- five percent of those who participated in the study had enjoyed a happy marriage and had the comfort of beautiful memories. A little over 15 percent suffered severe depression, even a year and a half after death. These are the ones who idolized their marriage the most, although they tended to depend

on their deceased couple. And about ten percent of widowers were people whose couple life was a failure and even suffered depression. Thus, their duties did not allow them to separate from the couple and to some extent the death of the husband or wife was a relief to their existence. Grief is a natural process in which the person who survives overcomes pain and can live with memory without experiencing chronic sadness. Keeping busy and having a healthy social life helps overcome the trance.

If after six months, grief and sadness remain very present, it is advisable to go to a specialist before falling into a serious pathology. Test one, a friend or family member has a terminal illness, to edit go to his or her home or hospital so as not to have a hard time and feel uncomfortable. Be I' m going to see him several times I'

m interested in him. I' m talking to your two friends. When you attend a funeral at never came to see the deceased with the excuse that I prefer to remember him in life and limit myself to comforting the family in the tanatorium. Beck. I ask the family if I can see the deceased to give him my last three goodbyes. You' ve once talked about how you' d like it to be your burial Ah, I never like to talk about death, let alone my Beck. The issue has once arisen and

my loved ones already know what my will is. Four of you have the will done, or I' ll do it when there' s no choice. Be is already written and my people know where to find him when the time of my death came. Five in the case of incurable disease. Oh, I' d rather not know and be fooled. See you want to know at all times the progress of the disease, as well as my life expectancy. Six you' re afraid to die just thinking about it. My

heart' s racing. I panic at nothing and don' t get to the idea of what it will be like not to feel or experience life anymore be I' m scared of my own suffering and that of my loved ones, but I accept my own death as inevitable. Seven every time you think about death I inevitably do it often even though it causes me a great restlessness bec I hardly think about it. I' ll do it when the appendage time comes. If childhood has something solid and safe. Adolescence is the stage

of crossroads. The teenager wants to know who he is and who he wants to be. If childhood is safe and solid in the family environment, adolescence is an unsafe and liquid stage. A world full of ingredients opens up in front. There are many facets that appear and it is difficult to apprehend them. In short, adolescence is the age of shortcomings and possibilities. Anything' s possible. When you' re that age thirty- one. I' ve mentioned it before. When you are young, you are full of possibilities,

when you are older, you are full of realities the possibilities. The range of facts and things ahead is immense and everything can happen. Anything is possible and when the years pass the realities appear. There' s already a result of existential relegation. The teenager immerses himself in the world and crosses it and explores it and travels it in his style and loves it and overflows it. That is why it is one of the most fruitful phases of personal history

and so necessary are teachers and witnesses thirty- two. There are learnings, unusual discoveries, overcoming difficulties idealisms unbridled Platonic crushes, discovery of sexuality and all that it means. In this shaker of different ingredients the teenager must move by embracing it valuable. What is worth incorporating into the engineering of his conduct is the period of excesses and restrictions, of the excessive and of the brakes.

What he seeks is his identity, the figure of the parents is replaced by friends and idols. At the moment, both will be decisive in the influence of the configuration of their personality. Friendship is going to be key to childhood and puberty. The only stage of life in which one gets more years than one has. One wants to be greater, to participate more in the world that appears before him. Most of the girls are already developed. Menstruation,

chest and secondary sexual factors are present and already form a body model. I need you to slip into the psychological. Boys change their voices and discover sexuality more strongly than they do. The appearance of night pollutions makes you discover ejaculation and this will mark you. Both are interested in the other sex and the loves in their various ranges, make their appearance with intensity and bring special flavors

with the strength of the imagination. In the foreground they both appear as a sexed body self. External relations reflect the relationships that the adolescent has with himself. Pier Het stressed that the discovery of the body must be accompanied by a sign of convincing explanations so that he can understand what happens to him is the hormonal explosion, with all that it means. The family and social environment are crucial. The grades of the studies and the peers form a very related fabric.

He compares himself to the others and begins to compete without knowing it not only with the grades of the exams, but with everything that circulates around him. There are conversations about people of the other sex, alliances, disagreements, rivalries, etc. As well as the first solid friendships that are of enormous importance and that make him see the exclusivity that they ask for. You open up and let your intimacy go out to someone else like that. The girls

show a much greater psychological maturity than the boys of their own age. A teenager of seventeen or eighteen years can date a boy of twenty- three to twenty- five years of age without a problem and ns to give a good tune, a positive understanding. Femininity coquettery is evidence that appears and embraces sexuality in a very general sense, with love, tenderness and affective finesse, moving around. Weekend departures will highlight philias and phobias, often without nuances thirty-

three. This marks the movements of approach and distance and moves from the person ' s façade to delve deeper into what is inside. This develops a special sensitivity for the tuning and to find out if you will be able to give a good friendship, which is what you are looking for, because we do not forget it. Adolescence is where true friendship is discovered. There is already thirty- four intimacy, a crossing between two shores. Puberty is a crucial

time in human development. In the Neas there is a development of the endoclinological system and sexual maturation, that is to say, his body begins to transform until reaching a development that biologically prepares them to fertilize a child. In the West, breast development begins at around twelve years of age, while in the Caribbean or in some regions of South America, a girl may have her first menstruation at eight years of age. In children puberty manifests through change in voice

and transformation of the penis and testicles. All this also occurs at the age of twelve. Boys and girls then experience the following. Emotiveness. The affective world at this age is already very rich, although it tends to go to extremes. Everything is love or hatred, joy or sadness, happiness or misfortune. All feelings are double. As Gustav Hanoch said in his book conversations with Kafka. The heart reason of man is a house with two rooms, in

one beats joy and in the other sadness. As this aphorism indicates, the oscillation of humor is very frequent. In puberty, you get out of a state of mind. On the contrary, quite easily the first loves, which are very important, also appear. Also, the attraction is discovered through observation. Almost without real contact, young people begin to experience imaginary scenes. In women, fantasy is usually greater than in men. Reason the young person incorporates

instruments of logical intelligence, direct thinking and critical judgment. It is a time when parents and teachers must nurture intelligence, teaching to think and evaluate the things that happen, using the head and having it well ordered is paramount and knowing, giving up what we cannot get. That' s wisdom and self- control. Staying at peace when you see that you don' t get to many things and that you should touch the keys that you can well carry forward.

The will. The adolescent begins to discover the will without knowing that it is a central factor in the construction of personality. Americans, through emotional intelligence, define it as the ability to postpone the reward. Will is a tool that can be learned and needs time to consolidate. Today, psychologists and psychiatrists know that this is far more important than reason. She leads us to the best. If we have been able to include it in the engineering of conduct

friendship. This is a very strong need during adolescence and early youth, at the same time a source of suffering. We entered a stage of great friendships, but also of great failures, a very passionate summer relationship. Nothing can easily be broken forever because of a misunderstanding, a teenage problem. The boy with a phobia at school visits me to a 14- year- old Carlos,

who is in the middle of puberty. Physically he is very tall and thin, he has a lot of hair, he is unexpressive, shy and insecure At school he has been the object of Mavin and this fact has caused the boy not to want to go to high school and lock himself in his room. At first I was afraid to go to class, but that fear has become phobia, becoming insurmountable. On his first visit, he goes to

his parents. The mother breaks to cry and tells me that she is following an antidepressant treatment, that she is sunk by everything that happens and that, moreover, the relationship that the boy has with his younger sisters is very bad. My first advice is for the boy to go into another school where nothing is known about him so he doesn' t get a label on him.

The boy has an exogenous reactive depression. When the new school starts, I give you a psycho- relaxing medication at very low doses that takes away your attention from thinking that you can laugh at it. After a while, the child has improved a lot. He also has a private teacher who is with him two hours in the afternoon. Although it is also important that you learn to study alone and without help. I transmit to you three important phrases that

need to be learned. You have to start studying yourself just because you' re not a baby. Learn to focus on what you are. I also tell you that you must help in small household chores, because you have become a child, a little selfish to start socializing with the new class boys. I' m asking your mother to arrange a snack. So you can make new friends. The most typical problems of adolescence. Rebelliousness is the main problem

in adolescence. They can mean nothing, because hormones are boiling and the three great components of personality, the affective world, intelligence and will are being modified. However, there is a possibility that this may be the beginning of a psychological disorder that usually begins at that age. The young man in general rebels against the rules. That is why it is very important that parents know how

to apply elastic standards. To educate is to accompany, to go with him, to turn someone into person, to seduce him with values and intelligence. Today, it is difficult to educate by the amount of informational bombing that is everywhere. For a current young person to gain access to intellectual life, he has to do a very complicated operation that starts by turning off his mobile Internet, Facebook, Twitter, and on this journey more than eighty percent are left

out of school failure. It is considered a serious problem for a student aged 15 to 18 to fail in their studies. What fails, in the first place, is the method of study, because, as we know, studying needs a methodology. Secondly, instrumental intelligence may fail. There are many forms

of intelligence that are divided into two, the monarchic and the oligarchic. In the monarchic one appears a king factor that dominates others, while the oligarchic one points to various factors that form a map difficult to harmonize in the same person. Intelligence is capacity for synthesis, knowing, distinguishing the fundamental from the accessory,

capturing reality in its complexity. There is an essential intelligence in adolescence that is instrumental and that consists in having those tools that enhance intelligence by raising it from the level of order, constancy, will and motivation. Behind school failure, there are often bad methods, both in terms of study techniques and instrumental intelligence. Order begins in one' s room, in clothes, in schedules,

etcetera. Constancy is the fundamental tenacity and perseverance to carry out the studies. In addition, the will is needed, which is the ability to set goals and bring them forward. To have specific objectives, one must know how to give up things, because wanting to embrace everything is absurd. Motivation is to itself fundamental and can aim to satisfy friends or family or the fact that

the notes appear publicly the famous TDH. In school failure it has become fashionable to a diagnosis that did not exist before and that is a tailor drawer. TDH or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. It is wrong that any failure in school

should be valued in this way today. The TDH is a deficit of the ability to be attentive that results in an objective dispersion, since the person is in many things and in none at the same time can it be a habit that has gone negatively into behavior, although it can also originate because the region of the brain, called the ascending reticular activator system, which regulates vigilance and the ability to pay attention, is not well. For this symptom methylphenidate is

taken, which is a reactivator of attention thirty- five. Care must be taken in the administration of this drug, because if the TDH is confused with school failure, its administration would cause disinhibition in the student, thus unleashing anxiety crises and aggressive reactions. The personality border the ino limit. This personality, very common in adolescence, is presided over by impulsivity, uncontrollability with negative verbal

incontinence and difficulty in reflecting calmly on events. The behavior is triggered without the person being aware of its outcome, as it does not stop to assess the extent of its conduct. Part three, happiness under construction. Failed inducers of happiness, we are addicted to our thoughts. We can' t change anything if we don' t change our way of thinking saints first, even though

they' ve been drinking every day for more than twenty years. It hasn ' t been until we entered quarantine when David has been aware that he has a problem. On weekends, his wife refuses to sleep with him because he arrives from the bar with a strong breath of alcohol. That caused me to

have to sleep in a separate room in the warehouse where he works. They have begun to draw his attention to him because he has been seen drinking before his working day and disowning himself in details of his work that were not overlooked before. Finally, follow the advice of the Chief of Staff who advises you to visit a specialist once you are in my office, as well as prescribe medication to help you stop your addiction. We' re in charge of the

cause of it. Today' s psychology has typified many kinds of addictions. It' s not the same sex addiction, which is a private addiction, as the diogen syndrome that designates people who feel the need to accumulate things. Today, for example, there are many facilities for quitting tobacco because there is very strong social pressure. On the other hand, one of the most common addictions not commonly seen as such is addiction to mobile phones and social networks.

A common point in all addictions is that it turns into a tool or pleasure, a loss of freedom. The addict' s psychology. There are many psychological mechanisms that accompany and try to hide the reality of an addiction. Some of them are self- deception. The addict does not consider himself hooked to anything and does not believe that his behavior is affecting his work, family or social life. Hermetism, the patient does not openly reason about his problem,

he closes himself. To protect your escapism addiction, the addict visualizes a future in which he looks free from addiction next week. I quit, but it does nothing to change the impatience situation. The addict lets himself be pushed by urgency. When you think you need a dose, you want it right then in a totally impulsive way, docking the fridge. Until relatively recently, tobacco,

alcohol and various illegal drugs were mentioned as dependence. However, food addiction is already considered a disease by American specialists and has been included in the diagnostic and statistical manual on mental disorders DMS of the American Association of Psychiatry to APA. It is for this reason that someone who suffers from this addiction should not be considered scornfully and cheerfully, as a glutton, but as a sick person.

Points to consider specific brain receptors observed in a food addict are not far from those of drug addicts, smokers or alcoholics. Obesity is one of the consequences of this addiction, but it cannot be fought with a simple diet. It needs to be complemented by a therapy that stimulates a radical change of behavior in the day to day. The anxiety caused by addiction has to be appeased

with the Councils. I the treatment recommended by a specialist test one you usually drink more alcohol when you are discouraged under pressure or after a personal or work conflict A to a certain time. Having a few drinks helps me to deal better with the problem and to relativize concerns. You see sometime, but I try not to overdo it, because then I find it harder to overcome the drop two by drinking along with other people you try to consume more when the

others do not realize. I' ve never thought about it before, but I remember doing it on more than one occasion. B I have no problem showing what I drink that, on the other hand, is not too three you eat when you are not hungry or when you feel sad or depressed to just like during the five main meals of the day. I get used to itching between hours, especially when something stresses or worries me four how many social

networks you use only one and I don' t usually consult it. Very often you see more than three if I' m connected to them every day five of each. How long did you check your smart apps? It was a social media email message. Ah only when I have a free time sees every half hour approximately six. A friend suggests you smoke or drink less. Ah, I admit you' re right and I' m trying to do something about it. B, I' m telling you, there' s no big deal and I' ve got it under control. Seven is Sunday

night rain and no cigarettes at home. Ah wait for tomorrow to buy tobacco on the way to work, b I catch an umbrella and go down to the street looking for a bar to buy a couple of packs. For each answer, add two points. For each answer see adds a point less than eight points. Even if you don' t recognize it, you' re hooked on a series of habits that limit your freedom. Remember that addiction to

tobacco, alcohol, food, the cracks of insecurity. Our doubts are traitors that make us lose the good we could gain by making us fear the attempt. William Shakespeare, since her husband inherited a flat in the upper part of the city Clara, feels insecure in dealing with neighbors or even when he goes

to the shops in his new neighborhood. He has always been complacent about not having studies, and with the arrival of his third child, he stopped working, so he feels like a very limited person who doesn' t fit the sophisticated environment he' s moved into. Her husband tells her not to worry about the others who will accept her, as if she does not boycott herself. Clearly, however, he cannot help but feel inferior, as if he

were usurping a place that he did not have to occupy. That' s got her locked up at home with the kids until her husband convinced her to come to my office. This is a minor problem that we solve through a talk to explain that it should be valued more and assertive. Human beings. We have an internal dialogue with ourselves. This is natural, but yes, that dialogue is negative and leads us to the paralysis of our activity, we

will be condemned to suffer low self- esteem. This will result in a well of insecurity and doubts in the face of any challenges that may arise. There are many causes that can cause a state of personal insecurity, including having been the target of mockery or criticism during our childhood, which is when the pillars of self- esteem are raised, having grown up within an excessively perfectionist, critical and demanding family. This often results in us being perfectionists, self

- critical and self- demanding in too much. The lack of accurate communication. Not expressing what we think can create anger, social phobia and lack of self- confidence assertivity is social ability to want to please everyone else. If we care to please each and every one of us around us, we will be held hostage by an attitude that separates us from our own essence. To have been sentimentally rejected in the field of affective relationships. A rejection or abandonment

can leave self- esteem low and sow doubt about our value. The behavioral triangle. According to the parameters of current psychology, there are three types of communicative behavior, passive behavior, assertive behavior, aggressive behavior. As their names indicate, aggressive behavior is disproportionate to any situation and passive behavior is a faint reaction to the same case. None of them are good tools for social relationships.

To be assertive means to defend a position, opinion or right in a clear, concise, safe and respectful manner. An assertive person is certain. Hence the word assertiveness that what is defended is correct. Even if you' re sure you' re right, your defense is respectful of others and tries not to offend anyone. Besides, they prefer not to leave anything in half. That is why he speaks with clarity and total security. All this does not mean that he knows how to accept the fact that he is wrong,

since, out of pride, he never defends a wrong position. An assertive person usually has a good dose of empathy. That is why he shows respect for others, but he never allows himself to be overwhelmed without defending his own interests. He hates injustices and for this reason he will defend his own interests, as well as those of those who are being treated unfairly, be it

a friend, a co- worker or a simple stranger. Being assertive does not have to involve conflict, since we are talking about a respectful person who, rather than imposing, knows how to negotiate and who does not usually speak in an aggressive tone, but rather conciliatory. We' ll sink a little more into this value. In chapter twenty- one of the Book Test One you have to give unpleasant news to your partner. It takes you several days to find the right way and the right time to tell him. B you

talk about the subject as soon as possible to share calmly with her. Situation two at a friend meeting. Everyone' s in favor of abortion, except you don' t openly express your opinion to avoid discussion. Go express what you think about the subject and defend your position, respecting the conviction of the rest. Three rides on the subway and you notice a group of young people

making fun of a passenger. Ah, I' m still in my business without interfering I go out in defense of the passenger and face group four safely You walk in with your pregnant partner on the bus and no one gets up to give him the seat. Oh, I resent myself and wait for someone to get up sooner or later. I' m getting close to a group of passengers and I' m asking out loud for someone to give their seat to my partner. Five at the restaurant serves me on a plate that'

s not like I imagined when I saw it on the menu. Ah I say nothing I make my mistake and I settle for what was served. Be I ask, please, to bring me another dish arguing serenely my mistake. Apathy is an anchor that prevents you from sailing too often an hour does not end up becoming a never Martin Luther Kane. Manuel lives in a state of lethargy, since his company has pre- retired him. Despite having a good financial compensation and the life solved at fifty- five years old, she feels

at home like a caged beast. His wife continues to work as a teacher and his children are very busy with their respective careers. Only he is inactive, immersed in apathy. While trying to discover a new course, Manuel spends more hours than he would like to sleep and dusted in front of the TV. He is too young to behave like a retired person thinks and too old

to work on a new activity. One day that accompanies your daughter, my office suffers anxiety due to harsh oppositions, we kept talking about the depression and restlessness that generate her new state. I explain to you the keys to logotherapy, while encouraging you to find a new motivation for the vital phase that opens before him. Without flavor, apathy is defined as a lack of energy and vigor, indolence and scorn. The mood of a person suffering from apathy remains

impassive and hardly reacts to external stimuli or major events. There is a lack of response to the affectionate stimuli of those around him and symptomatology reminds a lot of a mild depression It is often a reaction to stress and does not have to have a pathological character, since it can be a simple sneer at something that does not interest the individual in question to apathy, popularly compared to laziness or boredom, which is errone since apathy can be diagnosed clinically and, instead,

in the case of laziness or tedium, it is more difficult. In fact, to diagnose apathy requires a neuropsychiatric examination and an analysis of the patient ' s environment. One of the biochemical causes of apathy is the decrease or lack of an amino acid called tyrosine, which is responsible for producing catecholamine dopamine, norepinephrine, and epinephrine, which provide the necessary energy to our body.

Another biochemical cause is the low level of hormones. Thyroids. Many people, to alleviate their low level of catecholamines, take products such as coffee, chocolate or sugar, as well as drugs to be able to cope with the day - to- day with energy. However, it is often counterproductive to take these substances, as, in addition to being insufficient, they end up billing our physical and mental health. The best thing if we feel this symptomatology is

to go see a specialist for simon syndrome. The islands correspond to the following. Immature single in materialistic affective, obsessed with work and earning money and narcissistic. It is always a man, not a woman between the 20 long years and the 30 long years single or separated who passes as a bachelor and who enters into that scheme mentioned single. For many, singleness is like a plot

in the center of that of a big city. It always has good sales and as time goes by, it revalues, raises its rate and improves profitability. Let' s kill Only who is truly free is able to commit to being able to lose singleness by a strong, solid, attractive, suggestive love, indicates life, strength, risk capacity, vitality and also the need to

get out of oneself. Many of these youths parapeted behind the singles, exhibit and walk in front of the girls, looking to show up and parade along the walkway of those who are free to then puke the one that has the most strength to take the trophy. Something truly remarkable is happening today in our Western society, and this human type has been thriving more and more. Women seek love and security. Men need to be valued. This double trend marks

the facts to which we are witnessing immature. Here I mean an immaturity of feelings. Feelings are positive or negative moods that lead us to approach or distance ourselves from the object that appears before us. They are the royal way of affectivity, the most frequent road and trilled volter was rationalist and sentimental rouseau. Leignis said that tausente is the perception that in fius of a ebérite. Every feeling consists in the confused perception of the truth. Feeling is the usual and

ordinary way of living. Affections are informational blocks that guide us in life. Just a path of knowledge and a thermometer of our private life. Feelings are like a computer that evaluates and gives us an account of the results of how life and miracles of our affectivity are going. The main feeling is love and it opens up in fan full of nuances, love, desire, want, feel, attracted, seek, have in mind, need to be all day

thinking about someone. The analysis is steeped in difficulties. To have sentimental maturity means to be open to giving and receiving love for the possibility of discovering another person to whom to give the hidden treasure papers by giving himself entirely to her to elaborate a common project. Falling in love is creating a private mythology with

someone. There are two essential notes. Having admiration and feeling a strong attraction, is telling someone I don' t understand my life without you you are a fundamental part of my project. Falling in love is needing someone not to understand life without that person being in the middle of the engine room of the journey itself. The one who is heavily paid for himself doesn' t need anyone in simon syndrome. We encounter a person who may have adequate professional maturity.

He loves his work, he cares for it, he cultivates it, he is a good professional, etc, but he has no emotional maturity. He doesn' t know what the sentimental world is. He is unable to express feelings, ignores that love is a work of psychological craftsmanship, and does not know that feelings must be worked with dedication and care, because if they are not volatilized, the immature does not know how to give or receive love.

Above all, he doesn' t know how to keep it. In the middle of these mists, in the simón emerges, jumps and rises hurricaneing another clinical picture that is detached from it and that finishes the work of the next one. Mode, eatmet penexendrem panic syndrome to commit to another person. I was told by a thirty- five- year- old who has been dating a girl of her own social level for two years that she had proposed to marry. After those two years of walking and he experienced the following.

I' ve had pinched anxiety, gastric, shortness of breath pinched in my gut when she proposed to me to get married and a great fear, because I think I' m not prepared and that what I want to do is to go on like this for the moment, until time passes. I' m not in a position to take such a serious step. I' m not ready. Also, losing freedom and being controlled by someone is a very hard thing. Men have multiplied to adhere to this terror to commitment to another

person. Today' s society has been producing more and more immature men than not women, who live focused on their jobs, on their friends, go out and enter some culture and have fun. It is the times that women know much more about feelings than men and want to seek true love authentic forever.

But here' s what it is. The courtyard is in this way has occurred in recent times what I would call a certain socialization of sentimental immaturity in man, fun and scandalous, playful and dramatic thirty- six obsessed with making money and success. The priority of such a person is essentially to find an adequate economic position and place himself and is willing to sacrifice everything. That

is why I am making an amendment to the whole. It is clear that it is important to work on the professional project, but that this is the only fundamental element seems poor, weak, inconsistent. The part is taken by the whole. There is a hidden note here in many of these Simmons, which is the obsession with the body or which leads to a certain phobia to its body type and even to the facial parts. This is clinically called dysmorphophobia

thirty- seven. This is well known to aesthetic surgery doctors, who are looking for a surgical procedure that will pale that subjective impression. Dr Juan Peñas, one of the most important plastic surgeons in our country, told me that he is observing an abundance of people with this submerged, blurred, trivial and narcissistic pathology. The narcissus is an exotic plant with long, narrow and pointed leaves, which grows at the edge of the lakes and leans towards them looking

in the mirror that the water offers. Plotino spoke of the myth of the narcissus taking care of both the facade, the cover, the appearance and the image that leads to producing an idolatry of the outside. Narcissistic is the one who has a disordered love and concern for himself and who lives behind the top of an ever greater self- esteem. The narcissist turns permanently on himself, always concerned about making a good impression on the people around him always demands praise,

admiration and recognition. The pattern of behavior revolves around people' s need for recognition of their environment. From this descriptive sequence emerges the superiority complex, which is an n sense that makes that subject look far above those around him. There is enormous security and arrogance. The narcissist is vain and his claims are sentences full of superiority. He is a highly paid person who needs more and more praise and everything seems to him to be little in that sense.

She is a pretentious, believed, petulant person and when asked her opinion for someone, she tends to disqualify the other person immediately and flatly. Many narcissists are found among hyper- motivated and super- protected types who are very accustomed to receiving everything in word and, in fact, not to be corrected or criticized by their parents. The criteria for diagnosing a narcissist are a general pattern of grandeur. Need for admiration from others. Lack of empathy with others and

fantasies of excessive success. The narcissist is a serfatuous, pedantic and smug man who always hopes to receive a special treatment of favor. If he doesn' t give up his interest in that or those people in many conversations, if he doesn' t talk or don' t talk about it, he feels bad and comes to comment that the dialogue has not been interesting, given his

sick need to be the center of attention. If this thirty- year- old man has a certain success in his work, he can become unbearable and when he is truly known, he produces quite a rejection, because he lacks empathy. In it there is too high self- assessment and, in addition, a psychological hypersensitivity, in such a way that it accepts wrong to go unnoticed or to be subjected to severe criticism. In such a case, he reacts with contempt when told the truth of his conduct, even if he makes

contact and left hand. That is why many narcissists disqualify close people or public figures. Over time they can be left alone and those who remain close can become flatterers. He says positive things to the other in order to please him, but pretending to profit from it. This single, immature, obsessive and narcissistic tetralogy constitutes a symphony of de- tuned instruments, a type of man who has built his personality with materials of little solidity, by far, shines,

sounds, looks and interests, but closely. It is a new mode of the Light man thirty- eight a version of the dawn of the 21st century. Psychiatrists are surface drills. We get under the behavior to discover that she hides behind her and expose the person to capture her in her reality and on the other side of the coin is the single, healthy and normal woman, who wants to find a suitable man with whom to share her life a

love forever without expiration date. I see more and more disenchanted women before this kind of man who tell me the following. I' m looking for a man to come with the cocksuckers. I don' t want a teenager I have to educate like his mother. We all have three faces. What I think I' m self- conceived, what others think of my image and

what I' m really the truth about myself. The maturity of the personality is achieved by harmonizing well these three districts, self- concept, image and truth of oneself, thirty- nine four motivating attitudes to motivate me to motivate others. We can make use of many resources at our disposal. Even more so at a time when social media brings us closer to other people with whom we can cooperate or participate in a project. Many books have been written on

motivation, including one thousand ways to motivate the employees of bab Nausen. It is a book that tells us about the world of work, but every example we find in it can be applied to everyday and personal life. The author recommends maintaining morale at discharge. It is important to recognize the successes of others,

however small these achievements may be, to celebrate them. If the people around us know they are valued by us, they will also accept constructive criticisms willingly, foster creativity, give independence to those around us, allow them to have freedom and to be realized in the workplace or in private life, talk to the people around us, listen to their problems, their complaints. When people know how to listen, they feel respected. To be flexible with others,

one must know how to conform to the particularities of each one. To be inflexible will erect a wall against which the illusions of others will crash, give meaning to the day to day. Logotherapy is a psychotherapy that was created by Austrian neurologist Victor Frank. Just as he explains to us in man in search of meaning. Therapy is centered on the meaning or meaning of each person ' s existence. In this way, the patient feels like a unique and

unrepeatable entity whose entire spiritual dimension must be taken into account. As Frank tells us, man' s search for the meaning of life is a primary force and not a secondary rationalization of his instinctive impulses. This sense is unique and specific in that it is self and one who has to find it. Only in this way can man attain a meaning that satisfies his own will for meaning.

Therefore, getting out of apathy and finding motivation depend on us knowing how to give meaning to our days, finding our mission that justifies and gives value to our passage through the world seeking the meaning of life. Every person has to find it for themselves. In fact, you have to discover that sense, since it is always being there, even though you haven' t detected it, reasons to live. A person in the worst circumstances clings to life

If he has any reason to keep fighting. You have to find the reasons to see I isolate myself and ride alone like overcoming the problem without asking for help or support from anyone. Three. I believe that I am responsible for my state of mind and control my life, even though some things escape my control there is nothing to do to control fate and everything is in the hands of chance. Four. During the holidays, I squeeze the days and I

keep doing things. I' m in workshops. Leo listens to organ music outings go within a few days, I don' t know what to do anymore and I get bored five in the middle of the night. You listen to your upstairs neighbors argue hotly. Suddenly a scream already sounds like a shot. I' m still running up and I' m knocking on the door to make sure nothing' s happened. Grave go. I still sleep six as the years go on to family and personal ties are becoming more and more

important. For me, I feel more and more like being alone and that no one bothers me seven rumors in the office that they want to fire several employees. Oh, I keep doing my job as usual, but I' m starting to think about possible job alternatives. If I am finally fired, you see under my distressed work performance the possibility of being fired from dependence on the opinions of others. He who has fifty affections has fifty Buddha- pains.

Since he' s been using reason, Marisa has tried to like everyone as little as they were. He climbed into a chair at family gatherings and recited long poems to gain the sympathy of the diners. In adolescence, she went out with class leaders to gain social prestige at the age of forty- four. However, the obligation to please is costing him too high a price. At the insurance company, where everyone works, he asks for favors and

passes on tasks that do not correspond to her. In order not to lose popularity, Marisa has access to everything they ask of her and every day works more hours and is stressed out. He comes to my office with palpitations suffering

from the feeling that he can' t handle everything. When you tell me your case, before going into the deep reasons for your dependence on the opinions of others, I propose that you watch the movie The apartment where Jack Clamen overcomes the tyranny of his office, asserting himself to the people who take advantage of it. Dependence on the opinions of others is a consequence of the low self- esteem that leads the subject to seek out an approval that should be

given to himself. No one can confirm from outside our own value. There are people who constantly need the approval of others and, if they do not, remain in an alarming state of anxiety. This causes them such suffering that they can make great sacrifices to obtain such approval, from spending money that they do not have to frame themselves in activities that they do not really like.

To feel that one likes others is not at all negative, but the constant pursuit of such approval can create a pernicious addiction that degenerates into slavery towards others, low self- esteem and loss of individual freedom. Argentine psychologist Walter reasoned about it. On many occasions we say whether when we mean no, or we submit to unseemly situations and frankly abusive people, being able to avoid them.

Who has never reproached himself for the complicit silence of undue obedience or smiles, salamera and appeasement. Who has never looked in the mirror trying to forgive himself for servility or he has not said what he really thought. Who hasn ' t felt that way once in a while when the internal struggle between outrage over grievance and fear of facing it social intelligence. This kind of intelligence includes the ability or ability to gain, sympathy, admiration, respect or trust of

others, and the possibility of enjoying their cooperation or support. In fact, in the words of Kubrat, author of the book. Social intelligence the new science of success. Social intelligence is the ability to get along with others and get them to cooperate with us. Albrecht distinguishes between two types of toxic and nutritious behaviors. Those who use toxic behaviors do so to humiliate, offend, or trample, while those who use nutritious behaviors do so so that others feel

loved, valued, respected, and admired. It is those people who try to help those around them by creating a pleasant environment wherever they go. Carl Albretch created a method for valuing interaction with others, which is governed by the following in another book on the same subject. Social intelligence, the new science to improve human relationships. Genyo Goment describes social intelligence as an instinct with which we are born, but which can be perfected over the years. According to

this reference author. Social intelligence is made up of two very important components. Social consciousness, what we perceive is formed by the following primary closeness, to perceive bodily signs, that is, not verbal in others, tuning in, knowing, listening to those around us, knowing, creating a harmony with them, empathetic precision, putting themselves within their thinking and understanding, social knowledge, knowing how things work in the society around us, not being either utopian or

a ramplon realism, art and trade in relations with others. That is learned by taking note of social ease. The way we act is formed by the following synchrony, non- verbal interaction, self- projection, the way we have to present ourselves to others influence, use social interactions. To influence is to change criteria that improve the behavior of the other concern, to take interest in others and to collaborate in certainly with our help. Better to take care

of than worry. To sum up a lot the difference between emotional and social intelligence, which the second promotes empathy with the group, which does not mean that we should like everyone. Just if we look at the most popular people, we will see that they are the ones who behave most naturally. They do not try to adapt to anyone or to seem what they are not, but to present themselves to others with kindness and naturalness, without exerting the pressure

of those who demand approval. Being independent is a great psychological aspiration. Two when you meet someone new ah right away I show my way of being explicit about what I work. When I win the car I have I am interested in knowing more about that person, but without going into material or personal matters, three at work provoke a complicated situation because of a personal error. I try not to let anyone know about the failure or dissimulate the slip to delay

the possible consequences. B I share the problem with my colleagues so that they can help me not to complicate the situation any more. Four. When you ' re with your partner, I need you to continually show me love and love. B I feel good alone with your presence. Five strolling around a flea market, you buy an old painting to decorate the living room at night. Some guests criticize your taste and mock your talent as a decorator. Ah I don' t care, that painting I love and still presides over the

B- room I heed your reviews and I drop the six. Finally, you get to engage in conversation with a person who has attracted you for months. An I show myself as I am, no matter what you think about my way of being Beck I hide more than I show and spend the evening flattering her seven during a conversation about your country' s history. I recognize that I ignore some facts and pay attention to the explanations of those who know more than I see simulus that I know of what is being talked about and

even invent some historical data or passage to capture the attention of others. For each answer, add two points. For each answer he sees adds a point less than eight points showing much of the typical behaviors of those people who seek the continuous approval of others Perhaps he has arrived the chain of the ghost. It is one thing to look at the past and another very different thing to be held prisoner of it. Charles Kellot Colden. Jaime is thirty- five

years old and has always entertained the desire to found a family. However, it has never come true, because the past weighs too heavily on your conscience. His father, who had an accused bipolar disorder, exposed him in his childhood to repeated scenes of violence that have been marked with fire in his memory. With an orderly life and a good social position, Jaime went out for several years with a very brilliant woman who would have agreed to her aspiration to

found a family. But at the last moment he backed out and ended up breaking up. The reason was that Jaime fears repeating the episodes of violence lived at home. He does not feel prepared to build the future, because the past permanently anchors pain. Start with him a therapy to leave that ballast behind forever. According to segment Foed, trauma is an event that involves excessive excitement in the psychic life of the person, which cannot assimilate or control it,

which causes serious pathologies and disorders. Freud. He offered the example of a child who saw two people in full sexual intercourse. On the one hand, being aware of vision already causes a huge impact on the little one, but it is not only traumatic because it is a strong emotion but also because there is a feeling against him that he believes he will fight and it is the sexual desire itself totally opposed to the rejection of the original vision. This is

where the internal conflict appears. For freudo, a fact is traumatic simply because it causes symptoms. An incident, however brutal, is not the ultimate cause of trauma, as is the case in the child' s example. Trauma appears because of at least two emotions in conflict with related ideas and possible desires.

Make peace with the past. It is important to find out what was the origin and cause of the trauma and find out even if it really happened, because sometimes a misunderstanding or a misconception may be the cause of a trauma that really shouldn' t have existed. A person may experience trauma from a

nefarious memory that often comes to his mind. Although there is another more devastating way of presenting a trauma, it can be hidden in the subconscious and even if the person does not remember, cause terrible suffering in their day to day. The best way to make peace with the past is to accept it, not to let oneself be dominated by the feeling of guilt and to ask for

help from both close people and a professional. Facing a traumatic past is not easy and if we present battles alone, we can lose the war by giving more strength to our enemy immni live Skrett in THRPY is a technique that often gives very good results. Used to rewrite the past. It was first used by Anardrans and enoa chirmen. Both researchers found that, in certain cases of trauma, in which the other therapies did not work, it was necessary to

rewrite these experiences so that the person could change these images. The system may seem excessive, simple, however, the results have shown that it works. Let' s make a case of an adult woman who suffers trauma from sexual assault during childhood. The first thing you do during therapy is get the woman to re- remember the traumatic scene in detail. Next, to tell you to imagine that moment being your adult self watching your child self, but without

getting in the way. To finish the exercise, you have to imagine the situation again, but this time you will act within it. To save herself as a child by closing wounds. Most people have old wounds that have not yet healed and sometimes become more present to remind us that they are still open there and that we should get to work to close them in a definitive way. We think time heals everything and that would be very comfortable, but it

' s not entirely true. Time only passes, but the old wounds will remain present in our lives unless we take care to heal them when we are wounded. What we want is to move forward and try not to think about what happened. But the pain we feel will not go away if we close our eyes without recreating the feeling of guilt or accusing others we must recognize that the problem is ours. Then we must accept what happened. It is important

to recognize the emotions that produce us, to remember the traumatic event. If what provokes us is anger, let' s try to control it. If it' s sadness, there are ways to fight it. To know the emotion is to know the enemy by identifying him we can destroy him. We have to learn to forgive and forgive ourselves, but never before. It is very useful to write about what happened, to unfold in a paper everything that makes us sick. It is not necessary to reread it and we can even

destroy it. Resilience. Boris Sidulnic was born in Bordeaux in one thousand nine hundred and thirty- seven in a Jewish family of Polish Russian origin. After the Nazi invasion of France. His family was deported to him in an extermination camp where they were all killed. He was able to escape death at only six years old. After the war, he was welcomed by the French public assistance, which entered an orphanage farm, the most suitable site for the creation

of illiterates, criminals and uprooted. Despite this situation, he was not carried away by circumstances and his longing for security and integration guided him to study psychiatry, as he needed to give a sense to what was incomprehensible to what had happened to his family. He needed to understand human thought, his suffering, and the mental process that leads man to commit barbarities. Thanks to his work,

he managed to transmit to his patients the great power of resilience. We could define this concept as the ability of the human being to overcome and even to emerge strengthened from adversity or trauma. The person who goes through such a trance has to transform, reborn from his own burnt remains and give rise to a different self with a new way of seeing things and with new objectives. Boris Cironi, who is the author of a large number of essays and one

of his most famous works is the ugly ducklings. Through this work he defends that an unfortunate childhood does not determine the future if one has the sufficient determination to take the reins of his life. In the 1990s, Boris Cirulni, who was in Romania, was able to treat many children who had been crammed into the well- known hospices of the Ceaucesco regime, children who had been absolutely abandoned, who received only one meal a day, whom no one cared

about talking to and who endured hygienic conditions behind them. The brain of these children had undergone a process of generation and particularly severe atrophy. For the first time it was found that the lack of stimuli damages the human brain. Those children were adopted by different families and after only a year, the brain atrophy had practically disappeared. The hoarse human and daily affection had been enough. Another

revealing case is the comparative study of what happened during the Lebanese War. Beirut was the most brutally bombed city, with more civilian casualties than any other population, while Tripoli barely suffered bomb attacks. Interestingly, studies of children in Beirut revealed fewer cases of post- traumatic syndrome than those of children in Tripoli.

The explanation was simple. In a bombed city, the population usually reacts with solidarity and there is a strong sense of protection among family members, which is hardly present in cities that do not suffer a war attack. Simply put, the children of Tripoli suffered the emotional helplessness of our society. The case of the Mexican architect Bosco Gutiérrez Cortina. I now want to refer to a person I have met on my travels to Mexico who told me live what he lived.

It' s worth your while to share the facts. One day in the middle of Mexico’ s street of faith, someone grabbed him from behind. He thought it was a friend who had recognized him in the street, but immediately realized that it was a kidnapping. They hit me dry on the head and knocked me unconscious. They put me in the back of a car lying down. I never lost consciousness. They threw me on the floor of the car and I noticed that they were putting their feet on my back.

I was thirty- four years old and I was at a particularly good time in my career as an architect. He was kidnapped by individuals who took him to a place for the stranger, as he traveled without seeing anything and in a few minutes realized that his life had changed. At first he thought that his family would pay a ransom and that in a few days he would return home. His kidnappers forced him to give a series of financial and banking data,

threatening him with terrible treatment or even death. He finally gave in. A series of days passed when he seemed to be in a dream and would soon wake up from it. The 16th of September came and his jailers shouted Viva Mexico. It was the celebration of the country' s independence day. He had been deprived of liberty for more than a month and wanted to offer him an award for being such a remarkable date that he would like to be

brought as food or drink. He asked for a branded whiskey that he liked a lot, with ice cubes. When they brought him to him, he looked at the glass, put his fingers in and moved the ice cubes, thinking of tasting his favorite whisky, but at one point he thought I won ' t drink it, I' m going to give up this pleasure and from now on I' m going to start a new life. He slowly emptied the whisky into the pit of the soil latrine, seeing the liquid element

fall. It took him a lot of effort to do such an act and it was said I started a new life from today. I want to improve and grow as a person and thought intelligence, that is to know, adapt to the circumstances and in this way I went from anger, indignation, low mood, fear and a long et cetera of displacental feelings to try a process of adaptation through the following steps, to adapt to the new situation, to assume the reality, to avoid lamenting, not to fall into resignation, but

to turn back to what happened and start to take a positive advantage of its current moment, to overcome, to stop the sorrow, sadness, discouragement and to discover the only positive angle to be alive, to recover, to know that it is the time to go against the current, to foster inside a spirit of overcoming strong, solid, compact, consistent going from more to less one resilient person endures very hard tests. Seneca said substine etabstine, endures and

resists with strength. Events can' t do with me. I' m going to control them and write eight ideas to look forward, Cut the imagination, which is crazy in the house, don' t turn around what happens to you. Practical intelligence is to adapt to circumstances. The most important thing is to maintain faith. Don' t argue with him. God knows more than you what suits you. You can' t do anything but wait patiently. This will last as long as God allows, take advantage to pray for

those you want and grow in sacrifice and abandonment. Think about how many people suffer more than you do right now. You' re okay here. You ' re not missing anything. Every day that passes is one day less. Get practical purposes to be better on your return and, in the meantime, you have to stay in full shape. Be optimistic, do not despair and banish negative thoughts. After nine months, he managed to escape. It was

all very laborious. The possibility arose and he carried it out. In his own words, I was two hundred and fifty- seven days in captivity, observing each movement of the five guardians and knowing how to wait for the moment that came. For me it has been an unforgettable experience in positive. It

has helped me to understand many things about life and my own person. It has enriched me as I could never think about it I leave that relationship behind and over time I learn to recognize and control the emotions that its memory brings me to close the wound and keep growing. Two. If you suffered a serious car accident, it would take a long time for you to catch the wheel again. B would still drive once fully recovered, although he would try

to be much more prudent. Three. In the event of suffering a traumatic situation such as the death of a loved one, I would remove the pain as soon as possible and strive to continue as if nothing had happened to leave the suffering behind as soon as possible. B would share the pain and face feelings without denying reality. Four you think a professional could help you overcome a traumatic experience. The pain would be too intense to be able to share it

with anyone and isolate me to face it alone. See Any family support, friends therapist would be of great help in overcoming negative and paralyzing feelings as soon as possible. Five, If a friend or family member experiences a traumatic situation in his life, make me grieving for him, but I keep my distance and I don' t get involved. I' ll get your help as soon as possible, and I' ll try to wire you as much as

I can. Six. If you lost the person you love the most in this life, ah you couldn' t move on life would no longer make sense. Beck would seek resources and therapeutic support, help and love from family and friends. Seven you consider yourself to be a person prepared to face one

' s own and another' s suffering. Ah as much as possible, I try to avoid situations or experiences that may cause me pain, although if so, I do not know how I would react b Life has already tested me on some occasion and I have come out more or less arousing of the experience. For each answer, add two points. For each answer see adds

a point less than eight points. You are a resilient person capable of establishing a positive life attitude, despite experiencing difficult circumstances between eight and twelve points. The ability to resist and not fall apart is a skill that can be trained. Be sure to cultivate features that cultivate resilience, such as living in the hypochondria. People who are always worried about their health. They are like coves who guard a treasure that they will never dare to enjoy laurense is terne.

Peter came to my office for the first time when he was forty. He is the little one of a large family with many sisters and another older brother than him. When I was a child I had repeated tonsillitis due to an extreptococcal that produces tonsil hypertrophy and results in repetitions of these clinical conditions fever difficulty swallowing and that has no greater significance. But he was very careful and watched over by his parents, being invited in a stealthy way to explore himself a

lot, to look at himself, to observe himself. When he comes to my office, I realize that he always has something and makes descriptions of his body very detailed and with many nuances. At first he called me three times a day and told me things like that the deposition I have made today has been dark, but not at all dark, because it was between dark and

clear and it was not liquid, but between liquid and solid. Pedro is very sensitive to any external comments, as well as to comments that everyone has ever made for not having slept well, you have a bad face, but to him those comments have a great impact. You look in the mirror and, indeed, notice that it has the palest face, or the forehead or the general outline of the face, or the sunniest or most out- of

- the- box eyes. The first thing I do is to explain to him that he suffers from a disease called hypochondria and that it is registered by the amerikensachi Achre Cassochiehon and the Association of European Psychiatry. It is considered an important mental illness because it produces a very displaced experience the detailed attention to the body. I' m telling you, there are two types. Conmatter, i e, someone who has something and hypochondrizes, and cinemamatter, i e,

without clinical detonator. Although the person is always with an archipelago of cardiophobia sensations, serophobia, cancer phobia, I point out that this disease is characterized by the tendency to think negative. Peter married very late, after his fifties, because when he met a woman, he needed her to understand his illness. Besides, Chris looked at him the guy, the face, the eyes, the trajectory. If I had dated one or two men before, and

then no one met expectations. Logically, over the years the level of demand in women went down, because he was no longer an expert in sweet, but a slightly mature man. His hair had fallen off, he had gut. He is currently under treatment. Hypochondria is now defined as the organic concept of personality. Argan is the central character of the malada. Imaginaire de moliere and that' s where the concept of organic personality comes from. What an

organic personality is. He' s an individual who tends to be apprehensive. Argan spends the day taking his pulse, looking at his tongue, studying his

eye conjunctiva, seeing if his feet are cold or his hands warm. There is a greater attention than normal that leads the person to worry about any small anomalous sensation that the hypochondriac notices is forced to scrutinize different organic functions, such as the sensation of oppression in the gut, digestive discomfort or in the head spatial instability, things that have no value and in this way enters a gorge of bodily questions of the kind looks that does result causes of the hypochondria.

This disorder can occur at any age, but usually the hypochondriac pulls out of two points from a hypochondriac environment. A father or mother who hypochondriates the parents, who take a lot of the pulse, who speak of diseases without ceasing and invite in a gradual and progressive way close relatives, children and family members to make a cloning. Today, we know that the second cause is the so- called factors and atrogens of doctors, yatrogen in medicine means negative activity

of the doctor who puts his patient to doubt. For example, when someone has done some blood tests and the doctor with the person ahead looks at them and says here there' s something that doesn' t just convince me. I don' t know if this could be it. That uncertain, diffuse

and ethereal language causes great uncertainty in the other. If that person has or has had a condition, he thinks it might be so that clinical language passes into the patient' s language and something that would not have to be known by a street person invites her to follow up. In short, the hypochondria starts up by a part of the hypochondriac families where this vocation is cultivated or

by medical errors of unfavorable information. The hypochondria is a bad travel companion, because the sufferer is always thinking about The worst is the tendency to interpret somatic symptoms dramatically. Test one when a friend or family member falls ill and stays in the hospital for questions about the room number and comes to see him right away b you wait a few days and finally call him on the phone to tell him to recover soon and that he will know when he returns home.

Two your home medicine kit contains the basic medicines and utensils, aspirin, Band - Aids, alcohol, some antithermal bec syrups are full of medications just in case I need them sometime. Three, when you feel indisposed to expect to see how I evolve and I only go to the doctor if it' s really necessary. B I go to E R Four When you' re cold, I try to make normal life. If the fever allows me, b I reduce my activity considerably and if I have a fever, I ask for

work leave. Five. When you feel a physical discomfort, I hardly pay attention to it or if it is not very pronounced or it causes excessive pain, b I start to spin the head. I worry. I' m looking for information on the Internet. Six of you get used to self- medicating just when I' m cold or my head hurts. B Often seven, after watching a report on the dangers of cholesterol on television, I analyze my diet and try to reduce the consumption of fatty foods. B called the

medical center and asked for time to get me a full test. Enclosure self - esteem in maturity. Maturity is considered to begin at around twenty- five years of age. It coincides with the end of the period of study when a person sits professionally, although today maturity has been delayed. The first goal that a young person has when he or she reaches maturity is a project of work, while the affective project remains in second place. This happens because the

affective world has become a playful world. On the other hand, the world of statistics informs us that couples break up very easily due to their great sentimental fragility. All this has a very negative impact on young people. Thus, at the first maturity, which reaches approximately thirty- five years, the main project is the professional one. In the first stage of maturity, panic syndrome is common. At the engagement, young boys stay at their parents' house

until they' re thirty- something. Simon syndrome we have seen in one of the chapters is that of the immature, narcissistic, work- obsessed bachelor. That' s not so much with the woman, because she usually wants to be a mother. The concept of parenthood does not exist as a psychological concept. If a man is not a father, he does not care. On the other hand, a woman who wishes to be a mother and is

not a mother will feel a limitation of the affective project. This comes after the professional and there is a difference between the meaning given to it by men and women. Love is a magical word that has many nuances. The man falls fundamentally in love with the eye and the woman with the ear. In the man. The importance of beauty is very powerful, both in the whole

face and in the body, which is carried to one part. Very important to fall in love is to make a private mythology with someone, the desire to make eternal the fleeting. Where the human being is most portrayed is in the affective version. The person you have chosen is a business card. Then there are many aspects and nuances. There are four conditions for a person to

fall in love solidly especially today, when this fact has been delayed. The first with sa the admiration for the other is the recognition that that person is worth his path. Attraction, which has two characteristics, physical and psychological. The woman is better equipped for the second, since she is finer at capturing the psychological characteristics of others. The need to share is like a magnet that leads to the need to go out and make shared plans, talk about many

things and discover each other. That is a precious stage, full of suggestions, whose journey should be done without haste, savoring each of its segments and having it in mind. That person appears, emerges, jumps and moves over and over again through mental scenarios. It' s there to think a lot about a person and it' s a certain sign that you' re falling in love with someone. This is of a huge degree in young people and

is the same in adults, although with less intensity. This late father of romantic thought wrote a theory of love in which he speaks of falling in love as crystallization. Says the following. If you go to the mines and throw a twig within a few days you will see that some crystals have been nailed to it, falling in love is like crystallization those crystals that have been nailed into the structure of that twig. It is the tendency to idealize the other

you add to his personality characteristics that he does not have. Falling in love is creating a private mythology with someone I would say in a more blunt way. Falling in love is needing an ortega person. In her book study on love, she says that falling in love is a disorder of attention, as it concentrates in one direction. That' s called having your head mortgaged.

Alberoni in his book, Love and Fall, says that when falling in love happens, it looks a lot like a kind of glare with two spotlights, one where the wounds of the past are dissolved and the other that looks to the future in a positive way. Those two temporal dimensions change, they close setbacks of the past with all that that is going to mean, and the person moves into the future forty. Falling in love can be studied as if

it were a disease as such in medicine there are two symptoms. The first is the false feeling that time flies and thinks a lot about the other person. Cervantes said of Dulcinea of the toboss that she was the lady of his thoughts. Another fundamental symptom in falling in love would be telling the other person I don' t understand life without you or said otherwise, I don' t understand life without your Forming a fundamental part of my personal project. My

project has in you an essential element forty- one. At present there is something very curious about society, which is the exaltation of that of emotionalism, a consumption of emotional emotions without background or structure, and this slips into a certain consumption of physical contact. These are just the times, but it produces a very high superficiality in people who follow these guidelines in front of them is

the granitic solidity of coherent behavior. The classic text expresses it this way. Founded in Immerat suprapé trum, the building did not collapse because it was built on stone. Today it is often built on demolition material. Everything is weak, fragile, light. No consistency. There' s never been so much

information about affectivity. However, people are more lost than ever. In my consultation I see people with great disappointments who speak to me of Valentine' s Day as a date, who want it to happen quickly because they have idealized the word love as something magical, wonderful, sublime, without realizing that love is a feeling that we have to work with care of craftsman, with quantity dedication, if it deteriorates and then cascades of disappointments and frustrations, friendship and

culture in maturity. The concept of friendship remains very important, as after adolescence it acquires more consistent visions. Friends are chosen and they are often known. It is also the epoch of the conjunction of beliefs, a stage of the formation of consolidated personality. There are so many things that inform us that in order to make the synthesis, one has to have criteria. Friendship is a

positive feeling between two people that begins through mutual sympathy and esteem. One discovers a person with whom initially there is similar affinity, ideas, criteria and life orientations and with whom a bridge of fluid communication begins in which one feels well and the tuning occurs soon from the SS. Then he comes to get to know each other. Little by little, both open up and tell more surface

personal things at first and of some depth afterwards. It is like a journey they travel together and that gives rise to a deal that gradually points towards confidence. The other one goes into the passageways of the inner citadel and sneaks through the ins and outs of our history and we teach him what has happened to us with it. Later on comes all this donation. These are the steps. Therefore, affinity, treatment, confidence, donation, gradually add sympathy.

There' s respect. Friendship is a form of love without sexuality. Another more late and complicated factor is culture, as the wrapping of a gift may not seem important, but it is the aesthetics of knowledge and freedom, and that has a value. As a person acquires more level of r they aspire to culture, their curiosity to learn, to know and to know more things increases. Culture is the aesthetics of intelligence or otherwise, turning anything you do

into an intelligent pirouette. That' s why culture is freedom. I have said this in the preceding pages and in the following pages, culture begins with reading. That' s one of their main gateways. A problem of maturity women with anxiety crises. A 30- year- old girl, Miriam, married and with a two- year- old son, visits me. He has had several anxiety crises in different contexts. The first, on the subway, the second in a department store and the third traveling by car with her

husband. In anxiety we distinguish two modes, the generalized, which is floating anxiety, which consists of a nervous state, with tomatic manifestations such as shaking hands, sweating, restlessness in the legs, feeling short of breath, etc. And the second modality, called planck claxes or anxiety crisis, which are short- lived short- lived episodes that live like a storm. The symptoms are the same as those of generalized anxiety, but there is also fear of

death, of losing control and of going crazy. They are reactions that produce an anticipatory fear. The crisis of this young woman, having sat on the subway, begins with a gastric sensation in her belly with fear of having a liquid deposition, along with a feeling of tightness in her chest, tightening her belt and feeling dizzy. He thinks he can' t breathe. He returns home and this episode becomes phobic, since he no longer wants to take the

subway. Where the crisis of anxiety occurs, it becomes a place of fear that gradually turns into phobia and to which one does not want to return. The second episode takes place in a department store with a lot of people in the middle of the Christmas season. There' s a lot of people and it' s hot. Miriam thinks she' s going to die, since

she can' t breathe. In a later analysis, they find nothing, although the girl thought she had had a heart attack in this second crisis there appear two phobias, to the closed spaces, claustrophobia and to the spaces with many anthropophobia people. In the consultation she tells me worried that her life is being limited, because she realizes that there are several things she does not dare

to do alone. The third episode assaults her driving a weekend, while they ' re stuck to get out of town, starts to feel the symptoms and ends up having a crisis. As a result, he elaborates two other phobias, one for which he cannot drive and the other for which he cannot leave when everyone does, as there is too much traffic. Miriam is also below

the recommended weight. We give you an anxiolytic together with a fast- acting medicine that slows down a possible anxiety crisis, also educating you with a cognitive therapy that consists of sending yourself a private messenger when you notice that you may have another crisis. It consists of saying don' t worry, it' s okay, this has no clinical value, etc. I also teach you not to be precipitously afraid of a situation when you have to attend one of

the places where you may be in crisis. Likewise, I teach him to breathe well so that he can relax. I also realize that the girl is becoming a little hypochondriac. He has a tendency to observe a lot and draw negative conclusions believing that he has diseases that he does not suffer at all. I explain that hypochondria is an attitude that can trigger disproportionate and psychosomatic reactions. After a great improvement, it remains to overcome the phobias that has developed during

this time to overcome the fear of going by metro. We took her to a station with the idea of taking him alone with a series of instructions to follow in case of crisis and we waited for her two stops further. The next operation was to record a message to her with the phrases we want her to repeat while driving with her husband. Today he has learned to control himself and continues with a small dose of anxiolytics as maintenance medication. Fourth part,

work and life excessive perfectionism and paralyzing. Do things well with seriousness and professional rigor, but run away from perfectionism. Enrique Rojas Julia is an economist and law graduate, examined oppositions for property registrar, but suspended and went to work in a firm in Madrid. N is three years old and is a perfectionist and obsessive person. According to her, she has a disorderly love for the

order come to my office because she is very distressed. He had a sentimental relationship that lasted two years and now he' s with a new couple with whom he' s been practically a year. She watches her partner under an electronic microscope and makes him as with his room. He' s got the books by sizes, order them clothes by colors, try to sort them out. Everything is fixed. So much for the one she' s obsessed with will be the right one. You' ll fool me how long it will

last. Lo. First I do is to explain to him that he suffers from a disease called an obsessive personality perfectionist, which the French called the leaflet of the Doute and the English seons of dut forty- two. For that reason, for her all are doubts and her relationship, despite being good, is loaded with tensions. After a few weeks, she returns to the office completely sunken. He has left and told her that he is very tired, that he does not make up for staying with her, because he is constantly

asking her questions about the future. He explores him not out of jealousy, but because she is not sure and he is not prepared for such a relationship. Julia explains to me, in tears, that her previous partner left her for the same reason and keeps repeating what I do. I have an inability to love. I explain that one of the most important things in an affective relationship is not having too many expectations, because when you expect a lot from

a relationship, you' re wrong. A relationship has to be worked out and things don' t just come in, but because of the craft work that is done with the other. She doesn' t listen because she' s in a state of soki and wanting to die has stopped working for a few days, but I don' t want to let her go, because she needs to be busy not to think about him. Since she first came to the consultation and s s or she is reading books about perfectionism and obsessive

personality and is very portrayed. He asked me what difference there was between the healthy order and the sick. I tell you, healthy order is at your service. Where I have the book or that blouse. There he is, on the other hand, in the pathological order. I' m in the service of order. If I see anything out of place or badly put I suffer. That is why I explain to you that this is a serious issue, but that it has an arrangement and we can deal with it with a

series of guidelines for living more loosely. She has a nancastic background that comes from the sticky Greek of these people who do not distance themselves from the things she needs to deal with. I give you a series of guidelines that go back to work to not think so much about him, that you understand that that relationship was already hurt and it was better to close it, that you learn to be less obsessive to the one, to give less thought to things,

to be more tolerant with the other. He cannot look for a man who is perfect, because he is a vain and useless aspiration, but who seeks someone who fills it, who exercises to leave a messy drawer, a napkin or a handkerchief lying on the table, simple behaviors with which it is understood that life has a bottom of disorder and is not a drama. I see it' s slowly changing. It becomes less obsessive and more positive. It edits the regularity in which things are to be in place and tolerates a

certain disorder. It presents a great improvement, especially in terms of acceptance. Now Julia' s much quieter. He follows a cognitive technique to put his head out of his head. Every time some thought comes to her, she repeats a series of phrases. This relationship had no future. Don' t worry about someone else coming. Accept reality That' s maturity. The man

of your life is coming. I always say that in the bademecum of medicines, that volume where all the medicines are referenced, one is missing the figure of the doctor, because the doctor heals with his presence, his listening, his actions and his words, with the same attitude and explanation, already leaves you alone. Almost all of my patients have a notebook of forty- three that points to their feelings, the exercises that I am sending them to do,

as well as the results of them. I only gave Julia a mild anxiolytic, a drug called Diana, Diana, because it goes to a particular topic, in this case, anxiety, because the rest was something she had to fight against. Then I recommended bible therapy. The first reading was tell

me. Who I am from Julia Navarro. At first, she was reluctant to read, but I told her to make an effort and when she came back she told me that the book had been a great therapy, because she had gotten into that person' s life and, instead of thinking about him and the book, the perfect curve. Obsessive perfectionism has its breeding ground during childhood. Excessively severe and demanding education can cause a person to become perfectionist.

Pathologically, an individual suffering from this disorder may be unable to perform any act without first proposing to do it to perfection. Thus, any seemingly anodyne decision can be complicated to the extent unspeakable on the day- to- day part of a person with such a desire for idolatry can prove infernal to her and

to those around her. Excessive perfectionism very negatively affects effectiveness, as wanting to polish to the smallest detail ends up devouring more time and energy to achieve any result. The question of whether or not we have completed a project well and this repeated in everything we do a day is a serious lack of self- confidence and fear of criticism creates obsession. There comes a time when anything we want to carry out cannot be improved and from there, the curve of improvement

drops ostensibly. We must know how to end any objective we strive to achieve. It is necessary to accept that we are human beings and make mistakes, because it is from them that we learn and perfect the gift of imperfection. Green Gran has written several books claiming both vulnerability and imperfection, as gifts not as defects or punishments. This author and lecturer considers that people, while being afraid and vulnerable and imperfect, can also be brave at times and have the

full right to dignity. According to Brown, people target the connection, which is only reached through authenticity. People who are authentic have the ability to contact because they have renounced what they should theoretically be to discover what they really are. These people accept the fact that they are vulnerable and imperfect, and this gives them a great capacity for empathy, because if they accept their own limitations,

they will logically accept those of others. Vulnerability and insecurity are part of life. The future is always uncertain. We can never be prepared enough to face the fate that is coming to us every morning. When we wake up, we have the right to consider ourselves imperfect, to fail and to make mistakes, because they are already an act of courage. These are people who, even considering themselves imperfect, struggle to improve forty- four and risk projects

that they do not know if they will work or not. As Green Brown herself says you know you' re imperfectly born to fight, but you' re worthy of love and belonging things that don' t come out. According to our taste, it is preferable to wear some moccasins rather than carpet the entire Indian proverbic land. Luis is a 13- year- old boy who recently returned to Spain after spending two years in a school in England. Physically,

Luis is tall for his thin age and speaks very rigorously. The first time I heard about him was when his parents visited me to explain the case of his son. I was told he was very rigid in his ideas. I wanted to be number one, because to succeed in life was to have money a car, very good, to be the latest in technology and to have top- notch clothing brands. In fact, everything parents buy from him is expensive shopping, because he doesn' t want any sales. This son

of mine is a monster. His mother Luis said. He has two brothers and shows contemptuous behavior toward others, both toward his companions and toward his brothers. He says one' s dumb and the other' s very lazy. He also speaks ill of his parents. For example, she says that the mother is only a housewife. I tell parents that your child suffers from a personality disorder, obsessive personality. The first day I see Luis, he doesn ' t know that he came to the office from his rigidity, The first

thing he does is criticize because we make him wait half an hour. Look at the clock and he says he has to prepare some tests. He' s very demanding when we talk. I' ll let you explain so that you can relax on the second day I' ll give you a notebook where I' ll point out a series of guidelines, but before I put them into practice, I' ll explain what your disorder is. A disorder due to rigid excess, millimetric, very hard, unaffective to what he responds to

me. I don' t see it as a bad thing. What I want is to make a lot of money and have a good time. Louis studies in a religious school, but he does not believe in God, because he says how God will exist. If so many things go wrong He assures which God is asleep. He thinks there is something, but the important thing in life is to succeed and enjoy a lot in class. Luis notes that the compañeros empty him because they see him as a child Litri, a child

who always leads the smartest, the most handsome and mocking him. We talked about contempt for his mother and he tells me that his mother is not smart and that he is very sorry to have a mother who is not smart. She says she' s not cultured because she doesn' t read and watch a lot of TV. He' s having a hard time accepting this. So one of the guidelines I give you is to have every day a positive

detail with your mother, like what you ask me. I give him a series of examples, kiss him when he arrives, greet him, thank him for his work and he says that he does not like that because he does not feel that his mother would have to take a turn so that he would accept. It' s very hard and critical. After applying the first guidelines, the father notes that he has improved because he despises the brothers less. I talk to Luis and explain to him that systematic contempt is a lack of

human quality and that he is very materialistic. He replies that society has done so he wants to become a great tycoon, a great triumphant. At all times he is very rationalistic. No affective samples. Luis presents a great mania to noises, It is rigid with millimeter schedules and makes coexistence very difficult. Made it smash because he looks perfect. Therapy in a boy this age is argumental. You have to explain things to him in a way that surprises him.

He has accepted that he suffers from a disorder and that it produces a lump, great sadness. In the family. There is a well- known joke that explains very well what stiffness consists of. It' s that of a driver who' s going on a wrong highway and when he puts the radio on he hears the warning that a car is going dangerously in reverse direction. This driver then exclaims one. Let' s all see some of the

symptoms of psychological stiffness. If we notice that most symptoms portray us, we should start thinking about softening our attitude to try to be more flexible if things don' t go as planned. Even if it' s not really important, I get upset. If I leave things tidy in a way and then I find that someone hasn' t left them like I did, it bothers me. I need to be in an environment of cleanliness and order I' m careful with my things. I like to have them in place and safe

the changes worry me. The changes of domicile, work, environment make me uncomfortable. I don' t like to leave anything in half. I' m trying not to throw anything away. I don' t mind amassing things, as maybe someday I need them before I go shopping. I always make the list. In fact, I make lists of all my chores I am very careful with my duties and conscientious in my work. I can' t

stand people taking advantage of me flowing with the Tao. Lu Marino is a well- known Canadian philosopher who came to fame thanks to his most platooned and less prosac book Following the presentation in Barcelona of his other work, El poder del Tao, he gave an interview to the magazine Corpus. Mind, in said interviú among other topics, referred to the Taoist view of the fact of flowing with the changes. Life is a constant change and there is always a

better way than another to face every change. Following the Tao helps to decide better on important issues of life and to continue living with decisions made without losing serenity teaches to live centered, regardless of circumstances. Marinov argues that the loss and profit are complementary. Within each is the seed of the other. There are many examples of this. Many of our fellow citizens have lost their jobs. However, the happiest have taken advantage of their new situation to learn to

do other things and have even created businesses. Their loss has become a preferential gain to rigidity and fear of change. In the words of the marinevf over time everything changes whether we like it or not if you stick too much to a certain state of things when it gets worse, it is not the change of situation that makes you suffer, but the attachment to the previous situation. Tao gives us the example of tata water. Maybe as Marinoff tells us,

water is jim because it adapts to any form and does not judge. Water acts like people should. When the water is stagnant, it adapts to the shape of your container. If an exit opens, the water will flow through it in constant search for new horizons. If the water has to pass through low and unwelcome places, it will adapt to them, but will always continue to seek a new channeling. Everything is constantly changing and must be adapted to

any of those transformations. If the stagnation is permanent and we refuse to take the exits offered to us, we will become corrupt like stagnant waters. One of our best weapons to deal with any crisis is flexibility and openness to others. A large millenary trunk can be laid down by the force of a typhoon. However, a reed or grass will be able to support it better thanks

to its flexibility. Take an example of Darwin nature or survival. Darwin published on the 24th of November a thousand eight hundred and fifty- nine the work that made him famous the origin of the species. In chapter five of his work, this British scientist dared to say the following. The species that survive are not the strongest or the smartest, but those that best adapt to change. We must take an example of nature. This sentence of Chaos Dawen is

exactly the same as the popular phrase, renew or die. It is clear that in today' s society everything changes dramatically. Our generation is experiencing all kinds of changes in five or ten years longer than anyone in the time of our great- grandparents has ever seen. Society, culture, the world of work change continuously and we must adapt or suffer. An entrepreneur, if he does not conform to new demands or new technologies, will be out of date

and will end up losing money or bankruptcy. If a worker does not catch up with the requirements necessary to perform his or her duties, he or she will end up being a liability for the company in which he or she works and endangering his or her position. Clearly, in order to be able to succeed socially, labourly or sentimentally, results must be adapted and updated. For each answer, add two points. For each answer see adds a point less

than eight points. You are a flexible person who knows how to adapt to changes and accepts all the nuances of day to day without being dragged by rigid and perfectionist attitudes between eight and twelve points. The changes worry you, although you do your best to deal with them with an open and flexible disposition. More than twelve points for you everything is black or white. You' re missing an interesting and active strip range of grays that would make your life a

much richer and more exciting experience to say yes. You have to say no first. The most important thing I learned to do after 40 years was to say no when it' s no. Gabriel García Márquez. Joanna is sixty - seven years old and is the only single woman among her brothers who treat her as if she were still serving her life, with the excuse that she

did not marry or have children. They have her continuously as a kangaroo for grandchildren and assign her the hardest tasks in any meeting because of the same frustration that she has not been able to found a family. Juana bows to what she is asked to do without quibble, but she accumulates resentment. At the same time, he feels lost as if from so much serving others he had strayed his own course. Come to my office with my grocers and night anxiety.

When you explain your case to me, I explain to you, on the one hand, the keys of acceptance and give you an article of mine on the values that most value. The goal is to find a balance between your own priorities and needs and others to please others. Many people live with the weight of having to like everyone in any situation, which is clearly impossible.

As much as we strive, there will always be those who do not commune with us because of a question of character, temperament or personal priorities. Personal maturity consists, among other things, in accepting ourselves as we are and showing ourselves to others naturally does not make any sense to pretend to look good or to give a yes when we would like to say no in order to

be loved and appreciated, since in practice it does not work. The most socially valued people are those who behave transparently and from kindness they offer the image of what they are. Assertivity is a value that helps us precisely in this direction to respect oneself and express our own priorities. Nine keys to be more assertive, to know each other well and to know that behaviors fit better into

our innermost self. If we are not assertive and tend more to be passive, we will know that we will have to overcome our shyness and enhance our value. Yes, on the other hand, we are more visceral or aggressive, what we will have to do is control that viscerality. This is the aspiration to own one' s self- esteem, to know what our qualities are and to take them into account. You don' t have to apologize when you don' t have to. Instead, thanking is a very useful

tool. Leaving others to speak shows that you actively listen and in this way you can ask to be heard and notes that others do not do in case of being interrupted. He continuously uses the scratched disc technique, that is, he starts again what he was beginning to say without losing his calm, to be clear in which situations we have to be more accurate than in others. You don' t always have to negotiate. For everything, there are no

definitely fixed rules for all visualizing problematic situations. We have to know what we have to deal with in this way, we will know how to do it, to elaborate a written script. This way we won' t leave loose ends. Be friends with sorting things out on a piece of paper or on the personal use schedule. It is a healthy recommendation to speak with tranquility, respect and firmness. Care must be taken with both verbal and body language.

If the other person comes in, we' ll try to delay our response until he' s calmer, even after the conversation we' ll let him vent by responding laconically with Monosyllables to recover the values. In my article in the Madrid newspaper, sometimes titled the four values that most quoted 12 April of two thousand thirteen spoke of the need to recover those values that are not inconsistent

and volatile. In a world of rapid changes in which the only valid thing is brief and illusory, we need to bet on what does not happen, which is not fleeting and which is a solid ground that is attached to that Latin sentence. The building did not collapse because it was built on stone. He was strong, consistent rock. A value is all that good that helps to grow as a person and leads to an individual improvement that perfects us.

Among them, I point out four values that mean having acquired a certain disposition for good joy, friendship, integrity and solidarity. First, joy is a positive state of mind, of good vital tone that has two notes in its permanent interior sign of how one finds himself psychologically and responds to the lifestyle and of understanding the reality and transitory consequence of having achieved some goal for which one has fought. The goal of a proper education is joy. Secondly, friendship

is one of life' s strong dishes. There are different degrees of friendship, but any intimate friendship in its beginnings is risky, although in the long run it produces incomparable psychological fruits, and for this it is necessary to seek out and worry. Love is more true as it rests on a solid friendship.

In friendship there is a mixture of admiration and seduction. Thirdly, an integral person is straight, true, authentic, able to introduce into the cocktail of his personality, a series of diverse ingredients that make it complete and honest. Fourthly, I referred to solidarity as a feeling that leads us to take care of those closest to us and try to help them in whatever way we

can. The first thing we can do is understand them, encourage them, keep them company, give them our affection and, of course, the material help they need. This is one of the replacement values that have appeared in recent years in our society. It' s the opposite of telling someone that ' s your problem. You have to turn the phrase around and say I ' m going to try to do something to help you in your problem, put my bit of sand to give you a hand. This attitude has very

valuable ramifications. Authenticity as an emblem. To be authentic in troubled times means to have consistency of life, a good proportion of what we say and do today. To be authentic is like walking through difficult terrain and the feat consists in not selling to the highest bidder. Today' s society is increasingly being completed by more fragile, fragile, unstable, slippery human beings without solid criteria. These are time of error in which we continually see masses of people drifting

away. Authentic comes from the Greek of the word authentic, which in turn is a contraction of self- entry, which defines that person who has in himself his own foundation. To be authentic is to fight to strive. In being coherent means that between what one thinks and does there is a close relationship. The real person lives as he thinks. It is the opposite of double life or morality. It is righteousness, living with responsibility, being able to

go countercurrent. When the social environment becomes permissive and the whole thing looks good. Authenticity is at the top where people of category live, but today we are on sale and around us it seems that we only see people who lead a double or triple life, when the truth is that he, who strives to be authentic, has a fuller life because he is willing to change and correct his faults. To be authentic is to be true to have a word

that you keep against wind and tide. The authentic person is clothed with authority. What he says does. He has a balanced, harmonious, balanced life that loves the truth. Above all, it strives, because within it there are as few contradictions as possible. He is an integral and autonomous person. The lack of authenticity is a disease centered on the counterfeiting of oneself. Authenticity involves simplicity and naturalization, for simplicity is the absence of doubleness having one language

in front of ourselves and others. To the simple it takes time to arrive, for it is an act of greatness where the person manifests himself as he really is, if not as others want him to be. It is a mixture of spontaneity, decomplication and self- style, being that person able to put on a raincoat against criticism, unless they are based on arguments. Authenticity is the secret of reaching the truth about oneself so as not to lose peace

in adverse situations. To be authentic is to sponsor joy. And, finally, solidarity is one of the new values. It is the social virtue of adhering to the difficult causes of others with intent to help. It' s harmony, fraternity, companionship, but the guiding thread is generosity. Solidarity stems from the fact that all human beings are equal and have the same aspirations. In this society we' ve had to live. Individualism has many nuances and

its shadow extends and breaks in many fields. It is one of the modern pathologies of freedom. There floats the sentence of obes. Man becomes a wolf to man with joy, friendship, integrity and solidarity. We stop being an island and want to be a united archipelago. And that' s a psychological summit worth climbing. Happiness is not given in the superman, but in the true man test one during a family meal where everyone speaks with me and I

just listen to the inconsequential and uninteresting things that Beck says. I participate actively in the conversation, even though they deal with banal subjects. Two. If a street vendor tries to sell me some product, I let him talk for a while and I can' t wait to tell him I' m not interested. Be no, I let him waste his time with me and I ' ll tell him right away that I don' t want to buy him anything. Three at work. I prefer to communicate with colleagues by phone or

email. Beck I prefer to deal with the issues personally and face to face. What if you buy a garment and once at home, you don' t like the way you stay? I resent it because I think it' s not enough reason to get a change b go to the store. I calmly explain what happened and ask to change my garment for another piece. Five. You' re at a conference. You are passionate about the subject and at the end of the talk they invite you to ask questions or clarify doubts

about the subject. Despite having quite a few questions. I' m ashamed and silent. B raised his hand and asked for turn immediately six in a street market. You fall in love with a vintic piece of furniture and questions. The price turns out to be quite expensive. So ah I make an effort and pay what the seller asks for life as a forced labor camp. One of the symptoms of approaching a nervous breakdown is the belief that one' s work is terribly important. Bertrand Russell Marcelo is a fifty- five-

year- old lawyer who works at a large firm in Madrid. He' s married and has three children. He works Monday through Saturday from nine a m to ten a m. He has become a workaholic and suffers from the so- called itis profession. He goes to the office because he' s tense. He doesn' t sleep well, he gets irritated, and he has thirty people in charge. His wife told him he couldn' t take

it anymore and ended up kicking him out of the house. I ask to see myself alone with the wife and she explains to me that her husband has lost all interest in matters that are not work. She doesn' t have time for her or her children. When they' ve been able to go away for the weekend, he' s taken a job. I get it says Marcelo is a hardworking, intelligent man, but he' s been eaten by work. When I meet him, I explain to him that he has

a disease and at first denies it. I do pharmacotherapy because he gets home exhausted, but he has insomnia, so I prescribe an anxiolytic and a sleep inducer. Then we started psychotherapy. I' ll give you a notebook where you' ll point out goals and instruments. What and how I propose a program that will come home earlier every day and not go to work on Saturdays

In addition, you will devote more time to your wife and children. Among the guidelines I indicate that one day a week, other than the weekend, will tell tales to their children at night. He is three, twelve, nine and four years old respectively. The woman explains to me that the change is surprising and Marcelo discovers that his children do not want toys, but his

father' s time. He tells me that he, at first, looked at the clock because he should be working on the computer or seeing papers or studying some important subject he has in the office, but following my instructions, now he takes it off and finishes the stories when his children start to fall asleep. The change has worked, although at first it has been very costly. I tell him to call his wife sometimes during the day and say phrases

like I call you because I wanted to hear your voice. Help me get out of this mousetrap if I don' t have time to work. I love you only that I love you. I have to fight this addiction. Whatever it takes. When he exercises, his wife starts to cry, so I put it as a guideline that one day a month they leave both weekends and leave the children with the grandparents. I also suggest you be more detailed with her. Marcelo realizes the benefits of change. He doesn' t see

everything that goes into the office as urgent and serious anymore. In four months there' s a big change. I also give a program to women to strengthen it positively. Work addiction tends to occur more in men than in women. In ages ranging from forty to fifty. The person addicted to work presents some of the following symptoms lack of acertivity, has difficulty saying no, which often forces him to stay with his work or that of others outside of office

hours. Tendency to compare with others on what you earn. Even if you are aware of your addiction, you are not concerned, as you consider it a constructive addiction. Believing essential, he is unable to delegate to others, as he does not stand the feeling of losing control of situations in his workplace. Time flies, but when your time comes to relax, you do not get it and feel frustrated, you are unable to enjoy your vacation, which

directly affects your family or sentimental life. Taking work home every day and on weekends, This means a serious difficulty to disconnect obsession with work topics all day thinking about the topic or the client, inability to turn off the work mobile during the weekend. This is a symptom of great relief. There is no conversation that cannot be interrupted by anything related to work. Not being able to read a book, essay novel that has nothing to do with your professional work.

Many of the workaholics forty- five are quite uneducated because they only talk, study, follow and are interested in matters related to their work, spend years without reading a book other than their own, except for the newspapers over

the weekend, including their supplements the seed of laboropathy. The causes of this psychological problem are due to social, labor, economic and individual factors that interact, causing that in a particular work environment no worker should be rared any one should be immersed in this type of addiction because of the positive image given by the excess of work. A person who works too hard can cause admiration.

I respect the current facility to acquire information and communication technologies that facilitate and impose that you can work everywhere and at any time has the consequence that the worker will always be available, even at night at home or on vacation, can

be connected and available to the company. When a person works more than the hours he or she has or devotes more to his or her work than is required by his or her superiors, he or she may end up paying for it with a deterioration of his or her personal life and of his or her own mental and physical health. If a person does not know how to disconnect from work, stress is taken home, insomnia will appear and everything can degenerate

into extreme mental illness. If this situation is not stopped, work life must never be given more importance than family, social or sentimental life. Shelter between papers and files. According to data published in an article of two thousand seven, eight percent of the Spanish working population devotes more than twelve hours a day to their profession in order to escape their personal problems, that is, work is their refuge. More recent studies have shown that about 12 percent of the

Spanish population is addicted to work. In our country, the Japanese are regarded as obsessing over work. We have the image that in that Asian country you only live to work. But according to a study by the ECO DE, in the year two thousand and three, the Japanese worked an average of one thousand eight hundred one hours a year, just one hour more than the Spaniards.

Eighty percent of Spanish companies have been rewarding their employees' excesses of work without taking into account how harmful it can be for the worker and for the company itself In the medium or long term. It tends to be thought that in Spain we know how to take our working life with philosophy and that we don' t have to think that we can be victims of addiction to work.

However, according to the CESARE report and the clans disseminated by the Organisation for Economic Cooperation and Development or CD, the results disassemble some of the topics on which countries are most employed. According to these data, Spaniards devote about four six hours a day to paid work, two hundred and seventy- six minutes, which is about thirty- two hours a week, nineteen percent more than Germans do, three seventy- five hours, two hundred, thirty-

two minutes, twenty- four hours a day. Online. Today we find it impossible to have spent most of our life without a mobile phone, without Facebook or Twitter, without the essential Iphon or Whatsapp. We need to be connected to the network. Every day, on the subway and on the bus we see people of all ages staring at their devices and typing non- stop. Everywhere we can see this same picture. Where we see a book,

there are at least twenty electronic devices in full operation. The phrase of one of the great ones responsible for this situation describes to us a future of quite virtual aspect Internet is becoming the square of the global people of tomorrow. Naturally, there are people who make responsible use of all these instruments, but there

are many people who are addicted to being connected. Professor of Clinical Psychology Enrique eche Burúa is convinced that the danger of falling into addiction increases if the user is an introverted person, with little social life, with low self- esteem and who lives within a family disstructured or uninterested by him. These people view the computer as something that a whole world offers them and ask them for no effort. In return, they can even satisfy their sexuality without danger of being

rejected or surprised. For this reason, these Internet addicts can come to build their own virtual world, which offers them everything that denies them the real world. A pathological case that is overwhelming are the so- called psychiacomoris. It has been estimated that in Japan there are about a million young people who remain locked up in their dormitory, with cases that remain in such conditions for years plunged into a sort of agoraphobia, forty- six are terrified of what awaits

them in the outside world. Test one works more than forty hours a week only in certain seasons or when the work accumulates usually sees if I can even get to work more hours because many times I finish work at home two, at a family meeting or with friends, I try to keep the topics of work apart and thus enjoy more with mine. I' m used to being interested in the work of others and I like to talk about my work.

Three you behave energetically and competitively, even in the activities that you perform for fun and when I enjoy my free time, I try to relax and I do not think about winning or losing only in having fun be I like to win always. I can' t help it. Four, when you eat drive or you' re about to sleep, you think about your job sometimes, but I try not to do it and focus on what I' m doing. Bec my work is very absorbent and it is inevitable to do so.

Five of you get more excited about your work than about your family or anything else. Oh, not at all, work is just a way to make money. You often see, especially when it comes to a project in which I am very involved. Six, it bothers you that people ask you to stop working to do something else. I' m used to separating the professional field from the staff. That never happens b I don' t like being interrupted at work and less with something that has nothing to do with what

I' m doing. Seven. You think more money will solve the other problems of your life. Ah money helps, but there are many other important things. B of course, rather say other forms of harassment at work. No one can hurt you without your consent. Eleanor Rosebelt Sara is a thirty

- eight year old single nurse. She works in a hospital in Madrid, where the doctors have gotten in with her, they have made very unsettled sexual comments and their companions criticize her because she is shy a relatively clear mavin case. When you visit my office, I tell you that this is characterized as a psychological abuse of a medium degree, but that she has very fine psychological skin and everything affects her. I give her medication so she doesn' t

go to work anxiously. I' ll give you a set of guidelines. Not to be so hypersensitive to the things of the hospital, to do very well their work, with a lot of professionalism and to enjoy it not to marginalize if their companions are going to have a coffee, that it will also go to her to enter into the conversations of the people, to learn to talk about general topics, news, things of the day and in the beginnings of inconsequential questions the time, the football, the traffic in the city,

the fashion movie, etcetera. Be very rational and dedramatize any joke or comment. After a few months she tells me how people at the hospital have changed, but who has changed is her. I tell you that it is very important that you see who each person is, boss, partner, et cetera, and that you be very discreet about your privacy, because it can be misinterpreted. You must learn to be in your place and enjoy your work.

The expression Mavin was used by Professor Hains Leyman for the first time in the 1980s. Referred to the world of work. The word comes from English and can be translated as mass stalking or running over. The etologist caam Matlovens had already studied this phenomenon in wildlife research. The behavior of animals can be aggressive when other specimens of the same species, usually male, appear. Often some weaker specimens come together to harass a strong young male. The verb Lorenz used

to describe such harassment was initially tomab. It was not considered negative, as it is simply an instinctive reaction of wild animals. But later, the word " mabin" was used to refer to harassment in the workplace. In Spain, it has been translated into work harassment, which can be physical as well as moral or psychological. According to González de Rivera, in his book.

Psychological abuse can be applied to group situations in which an individual is subjected to harassment, harassment, persecution, harassment, harassment, grievance or psychological pressure by one or more persons of the working group to which he belongs with the complicity, silence or collaboration of individuals who are part of that collective, they are

harassing me a person is rarely harassed on the first day of work. The stalkers are often cowardly people and do not openly attack until they have the ground leveled and an audience that laughs at him. If the attacker is simply a funny guy who throws small poisoned darts, he can be stopped with a simple assertive conversation. If the origin of the problem is caused by a partner, conflict situation or crisis. There may then be an evolution in the history of

harassment. We have the following original incident phases. Any conflict that has not been resolved can be conquered and become chronic. Harassment, denial of facts and stigmatization of the victim. Attacks tend to surprise the victim in such a way that the victim does not defend himself. The other companions also do not know how to react and tend to downplay what happened. This lack of reaction creates

the emboldening of the oppressor and the emporation of the situation. Appearance of an arbitrator or an authority, a senior employee of the company or the boss himself begins to be aware of the situation and puts a stop to harassment or, on the contrary, decides not to intervene actively and diminishes the importance of the

facts. This causes environmental degradation for the victim of harassment. It is not surprising even that the hierarchical superior himself participates in the harassment of the harassed loss of the workplace, the victim begins to be considered an annoying or conflicting worker. When that happens, he ends up being fired or forced to resign by

continuous harassment. There are many cases where the worker falls into depressive states and asks for frequent casualties, which usually results in loss of his or her workplace. In a Madin case, in the case where the stalker is the employer or boss, labour law specialists advise trying to leave the company in the best

way by collecting compensation for harassment and unfair dismissal. We should never voluntarily drop out, as long as our mental health permits defence methods, make recordings that can be provided as evidence in a possible trial, preserve threats or abuse. It is these waves on paper to be informed of the rights of workers according to the Convention, to be clear that for a company bad image is very

damaging. This may be a remedy for the defense to sue the company or the worker of superior rank in the event that the aggressor agent is a companion or several of them, the methods to follow would be. We have to try to fix the situation before it gets out of hand. We must not allow what kind of jokes, let alone if they already have an audience. A conversation in which the dignity of some is demonstrated and the intention not to

allow themselves to be trampled on are the best preventive tool. The stalker is usually a coward hiding in secrecy. Let' s make his harassment public. Many times the same company will deal with the matter, with a penalty or with a dismissal of the stalker. You don' t have to isolate yourself and allow the stalker to have his followers. Let' s look for allies careful with our data or work. The stalker may try to destroy or dirty

our work to discredit everything under key or password. Let' s get support from a professional. We must take care of our self- esteem and psychological help will be very necessary, as in the previous case, if the mabin is already in a very developed phase, we must start getting proof of it. Recordings or roles in which threats, insults or humiliations come to light can be a very good weapon, both of defense and of attack to denounce the

harasser never to forgive him the world of the mabin. A professor from the Spanish University of Alcalá de Henares, Iñaki and Piñuel, conducted a research that he named as a Cisneros barometer on violence in the world of work. It is the first research on the subject of mhe came in Spain with a base of 1, 000 people surveyed. The so- called questionnaire Cisneros two individual questionnaire on psycho terror. For the first time, no stigmatization and rejection in

social organizations are the most common types of aggressive work behaviour. In this study we can also observe for the first time the consequences in the form of harm to the mental and physical health of the people who have suffered this labor scourge. Some of the data that we can find in the report and can be useful to us, one in three active workers confesses to having been the victim

of psychological attacks throughout their working life. The perpetrators of these psychological attacks are, in seventy commas thirty- nine percent of the time, the most immediate chiefs or superiors, in twenty- six commas zero six percent. The causes of the mabin are the co- workers themselves, and only in a three coma fifty- five percent of the cases are the good ordinados. More than 16 percent of the working Spanish population admits to being a victim of psychological harassment.

For the past six months, with a weekly frequency, two out of three Mavin workers are not aware of being harassed. More than fifty percent of the victims fifty- two comma seventeen percent show signs of harassment on their physical health. The mabin affects both men and women, but it is estimated that there is more risk in the female gender as it is generally more psychologically sensitive. Most of the co- workers who witness the Mavi don' t just

move a finger to support the assaulted. Only in one case in six is there support for the bully in front of the aggressor. Outside, the situation is not exactly more attractive in Europe. According to a study conducted in March of two thousand and twelve, the percentage of workers who were suffering harassment and

logical work was also thirty- three percent. In a study of the frame brew Gerno two thousand eleven it is evidenced that thirty- eight percent of workers have reported having suffered mabing, while forty- two percent of workers confess to having witnessed cases of harassment test one on more than one occasion has felt that small mistakes are amplified or dramatized by your part at work. A part of a team of professionals that is quite united and that you always share successes and

failures. Be you have a superior who usually affects your failures much more than your abilities. Two continually underestimate your professional effort by giving it its value or by attributing it to other factors at a rather unnoticed pace at work. See in my company is never enough what I do and they always want more than three to commission jobs to deliver in an impossible time or give tasks below your

professional qualification. Oh, it never happened. In my current company. Go lately on more than one occasion four your boss usually avoids you and you have a hard time talking or meeting with him. There it is usually quite accessible and we even go out to eat together On some occasion I' m barely addressing the word and its mere presence calls it intimidating five. You' ve been threatened at work with disciplinary elements, contract rescission, non- renewal,

dismissal transfer. Ah never sees on several occasions acute stress and Burnouth. It is not stress that kills us, but our reaction to it. Quan Celli José is an operating room nurse and is under constant pressure. He works in a large clinic on the night shift and sees many injured people arriving so he needs an intervention to life or death. Since the mutual owner of the centre began to suffer losses, her salary has been cut at the same time as

more and more hours are added to her work due to the dismissals. Joseph loves his work, but he is exhausted because of the endless nights and the responsibilities of his work that is rarely recognized by the managers of the mutual. I diagnose a forty- seven burnout syndrome mixed with acute and sustained stress, called by some hyperstress authors and we started working on their case and Pérez three. We all know what stress is. We live with the adiary and are

aware that in many cases it does not have to be harmful. But an exposure of continuous and excessive stress states can cause such excessive attention not to be assimilated. When that happens, our body can respond in a very unexpected way affecting the immune system when stress has already increased in such a way that it has altered the immune system, is called hyperstress and then becomes a functional alteration.

Our body has a vital defense system, which is the immune system, which can be affected and even transformed due to a certain tension when it is prepared to fight external aggressions. However, if this entire defensive system is blocked and paralysed, it can be very dangerous, as it gradually initiates a serious functional alteration, and an alteration of this magnitude can progress and become a chronic

and generative disease. I feel bad When a person is affected by hyperstress, in addition to the immune system, he is also massively affected to his individual behavior. Any setback however small it may be becomes a real catastrophe. All bursts out in a generalized way, there appear sfaleas ringing of ears, muscle and joint pains, especially in cervical vertebrae, dizziness and nausea. The body of the sufferer and perestres is at risk of contracting any contagious disease because it

is exposed. All this affects the daily life of the individual. When someone is affected by such tension, not only does his body suffer, his working life is in danger because he no longer responds with the same efficiency that could usually be the same with family and sentimental life. When someone is under the effects of hypers 3, they are usually irritable and may have fits of anger. He suffers a severe loss of emotional memory. We should never self-

medicate in these cases, as we can aggravate some symptoms. In addition, although narcotics could mitigate pain, they would remain present, albeit masked. If we hadn' t fixed anything. Moreover, if we continue to allow our organism to suffer such stress and on top of that we self- medicate, we can end up contracting far worse evils. It is always necessary to look for a specialist to explain what is happening and help us find solutions in flames.

Burnout syndrome also known as being burned. It is a syndrome characterized by its direct relationship with the world of work. He was first talked about in the 1940s in hospitals, where doctors and nurses worked many hours under a lot of pressure and there was no recognition of his work by those who ruled the center. For that reason, whoever is suffering from this syndrome works automatically, does not believe in the system loses its motivation and is tired and sad.

He is burdened with a deep physical, mental and emotional exhaustion caused by the weary, the psychic tiredness or stress that appears from the friction with other coworkers in a complicated working atmosphere. I criticize In many cases it occurs in professionals who are forced to dedicate themselves to others. These are stressful situations whose attention gradually undermines those who suffer from it, leading to a total inability to continue

to carry out their professional work. It is one of the most important causes of occupational absenteeism in the use of medicines by self- medication, substances or drugs. In some cases violent reactions or suicidal tendencies may occur in the person concerned. Deganation and fatigue cause a considerable decrease in labour performance, which affects the quality of their work and causes conflict. Symptoms are the following apathy.

From the very moment the working day begins, there is a clear lack of energy fatigue, chronic fatigue, especially psychological fatigue, but also physical fatigue. Everything becomes dry, heavy, unbearable, professional wear, Work becomes tired and always expect the worst of the comrades, the bosses and the environment, in a word, dissatisfaction at work, which usually ends in a kind of indifference

due to saturation of contradictions and accumulated difficulties. The work becomes impersonal and with little author realization. The tasks are performed mechanically, as if that person were an automaton. Let' s think of a postman with a bad atmosphere around him. A window clerk of a ministry, the worker of a factory where what counts is just yield and a long, etcetera. Sadness, faintness, melancholy, feelings of low spirits, conversions more or less different according to age,

social level, culture, etcetera. Sensation of futility. The burned person believes that what he does is useless. Anxiety, inner restlessness that can be physical, psychological or social right away. I shall refer to this paragraph in a little more detail. The professional becomes irritable, lacks patience, can behave sarcastically and coldly with both clients and coworkers, impossible to disconnect from work. He suffers from distress in free time because of his thoughts related to work.

He suffers from psychosomatic effects, forty- eight headaches, gastric discomfort, diarrhoeal landslides, shaking hands, hypersudation, feeling tired before exertion, etc. Work in which the professional is involved daily, in situations where the person he attends has a high level of nervousness or aggressiveness, example, he professions that burn so we will do a systematic ordination. What we must keep in mind is that any profession can become a true Bournout, but there are some that,

by their idiosyncrasy, lead more towards that negative dynamic. The list is the following lawyers from private law firms, very numerous teachers from public schools, ministry officials, doctors and nurses from public hospitals who are in high demand for care. Forty- nine journalists who, for lack of a rational schedule, turn their lives into an addition to work without hours. The workers most likely to suffer from these syndromes are those who are or are related to health, education

or public administration. These working fields are usually the ones that show the most impact in the statistics, because they are usually in contact with people in conflict or with serious problems, and it is these national professionals who have to deal with these problems. Frustration bursts when they find that their work is barely productive and feel that they do what they do will be useless. Between 20 and

30 percent of local doctors, teachers, and police have burnout symptoms. The study carried out by Ibáñez and Vilaregut in two thousand and four on the prevalence of bournaut syndrome in a group of nurses from a hospital in Barcelona reached very revealing conclusions. Seventy- one percent of the nurses studied had physical symptoms of psychological origin that might require specialized attention, and these correlate with emotional tiredness and

depersonalization. Nurses wishing to change their working hours forty- two comma nine percent or profession thirty- two comma nine percent, scored higher in the subscale of emotional fatigue. Therefore, the epidemiological profile of the risk of burnout would be that of the woman who spent a few hours of leisure a week and who wants to change her rough working hours under the embers. The consequences of the

burn syndrome can be of three physical types. The person who suffers from bournout usually has insomnia and, which causes, his or her physical state is generally deficient. Falses, chronic exhaustion, gastrointestinal disarrangements such as ulcers, or arterial esophagitis may occur. There may also be cases of hypertension and heart disease. The patient loses his appetite and therefore suffers weight loss. He is also suffering

from muscle and bone aches, especially in the back. In some women there may be a loss of emotional menstrual cycles. The patient moves away affectionately from those around him, gets bored during his spare time, and becomes obsessed with having to go back to working hell. It is hard to concentrate and there may be cases of disorientation, impatience, anger, irritability, fear, and panic attacks. Self- esteem tends to be on the floor. Depressive feelings

of disgust and self- restraint appear. The person with burnout suffers a severe case of emotional exhaustion. He burns in a desire to break with everything and abandon his profession. In some extreme cases, behavioural suicidal tendencies appear. A cold, inconsiderate and depersonalized attitude is manifested with the person he attends and can even reach rudeness. It shows great ease for absenteeism at work and is the

victim of addictions such as alcohol or drugs. He suffers severe self- centeredness due to the obsession he suffers, so that he only complains and does not listen. His mood changes radically and communicates in a cynical and sarcastic way, especially with co- workers and clients attended by the happiest professionals, one in lime and the other in sand. According to the study conducted by the National Center for Opinion Research at Scheckodo University, members of the clergy would be the

happiest professionals in the world. The results of the general social survey, which can be read in Forbes magazine March two thousand thirteen, say that priests fifty more often claim to be happy doing their work. Interestingly, the professions that have remained in the top floor of the survey tend to be underpaid, in addition to being associated with high levels of stress and receiving little social recognition. That is, there are other parameters to evaluate happiness at work, and among

the most important we find social interaction. Those jobs that allow us to help others and to work side by side for the common good are the ones that provide the greatest happiness to workers supporters. It seems that developing our most humane and creative facet compensates for the rest of the hardships, as well as job uncertainty. The ten most rewarding professions, according to the study, are as

follows. One priest, two firefighters, three physiotherapists, four writers, five special education teachers, six teachers, seven artists, eight psychologists, nine financial agents, ten operating engineers resources to overcome the bournaut A. No company finds it beneficial to have a worker under the syndrome of being burned. Often the worker himself who is under these effects does not realize it. It is the

companions themselves or the supervisor who detect such a state. Every company should have tools to help you overcome the syndrome and it is important that you use them, as burnout can be contagious among other workers and the company' s performance will be deteriorated. Some of them are reorganisation of work. If the worker concerned always does the same job, the simple fact of changing his routine by offering him other responsibilities can be a very good incentive if possible and for both

parties it is not a problem. You can change the schedule when someone' s burned. Changes and the rupture of monotony often produce beneficial results, even if at first it seems to be just the opposite. Motivation courses, many of them are paid by the state and the results are surprising. In such courses, the worker usually takes a hard time commenting on his hardships and can very often prove that he has a good dose of guilt for his situation because

of his own negative attitude. Let the worker know that for the company it is not a simple number. That motivates self- esteem and assertiveness. The person suffering from burnout needs to be heard. Communication is basic. Such a state is often reached by the fact that business situations or conflicts that the company itself ignores have been silenced. Congratulate the employees on the successes achieved and the

job well done. If possible, when a significant benefit has been achieved by good management, reward the employee with a small incentive, whether economic or in the form of free time. The good working environment does not depend solely on the company or colleagues. Logically, the affected person himself has to help himself. It' s not about the company taking the chestnuts out of the fire. We need to know, to know and to find out what we need.

Enclosure self esteem in the final stage of life. Old age does not depend on age, as there is a biological and psychological old age, but on the illusions to be fulfilled. The border is next. A person is old when he begins to look back rather than forward, when he focuses more on past events than on future projects. That' s old age. A person in whom the look forward already lacks an eighty- year- old traveler.

It' s paradigmatic. The case of a patient who has traveled a lot between the ages of eighty and eighty- five, even though she has had conchita skin cancer, is one out of series. Our relationship has been growing. It goes beyond the sick doctor relationship. I' ve learned a lot from her. It grows in the face of adversity. With a youthful joy with eighty, I asked him what you' d like to do.

She' s a religious woman and she told me she' d like to go to Israel, so I told her we were going to organize it and I talked to one of her children. He finally went to Israel and for her it was a discovery to step on the Holy Land Being in Galilee, in Telabib, in Jerusalem and, as well, being a fairly educated person, he had a lot of information about what he was going to see.

She' s a woman who has an anxiety fund, so on returning from the trip, she tells me now I' d like to meet the Adriatic, so I answer her to do a cruise, that there are many in that area and she can go directly to Rome and then the cruise will take her. She tells one of her children and he accompanies her the following year.

He tells me I can die any day and first I want to do the good I can before I leave to look after my grandchildren and my children, but I also want to make good use of life and I would like to know South America, the channels of Tierra del Fuego. We get on the Internet and find cruise ships that cross that area. But this time no

one can go with her, so she decides to go alone. He arrives at the boat and the captain tells him that she cannot go on the excursions if she is not accompanied, because they are going to cross by ice, centuries of gorges with frost walls and is something dangerous. She tells him she wants to go and she' ll sign a consent. The captain ends up making friends with him and leaves him his cabin. You stay in my cabin

and I' ll go with the second on board. He tells me that at dinners he enjoyed a lot because he explained to people that he wanted to take advantage of the remaining years of his eighty- five years. Now prepare a journey to see the rocky ones at the opposite end. We have a woman who comes to my office and is a literature teacher. She' s seventy- three, she' s single, and she comes with her sister,

who' s married. This woman has just the opposite. She' s very self- centered, feels very tired and has an anxiety background. But anything that' s going to make you go to the movies, take a walk, do it in fear of falling, of catching cold. The importance of beliefs. It is very important to prepare old age well. The

two major drawbacks of this stage of life are loneliness and inactivity. In fact, also in middle- aged people who do not plan when holidays come, the absence of people and the lack of activity open doors to the past where threatening spectra, negative memories, feelings of guilt appear. That' s why it' s essential that the end of life takes you with illusions, with

projects. The elderly must be marked by serenity and benevolence, that is, ability to see things with peace, tranquility and, on the other hand, capacity for apology. Especially to apologize to yourself for mistakes of failures you may have. Today we have very young grandparents who are sixty years old and look great, as they do sports and are physically very well. They are found with full physical and psychological faculties to care for the body through exercise and good

nutrition. The importance of beliefs should be added. No one wants to leave this world, since you don' t know you' re going to find yourself. That is why people who cultivate faith are more prepared for the final stage of life. Spiritual formation is very important. Spirituality is a much needed food for moments of confusion, sickness, loss, when a relative dies, when a parent or a friend of cancer dies. Spirituality is what can give

meaning to the relationship that has existed with that person. As a therapist when I visit terminally ill people with panic to death, what I do is to explain first that today, but only the means that exist, the physical and psychological symptoms are attenuated and then the possibility of joining a belief. If you don' t have it, it' s never too late for the end of life. It has a dramatic background because we don' t come back here and at the same time, it has an uncertain background, as we

don' t know what' s next. Buddhism speaks of death as rest, peace. As long as we' re here. I say to my patients carpediem take advantage of the day, dedicate your time to grandchildren, enjoy those who are in that final moment of life. They need to fill their free time with readings that entertain them. That' s why I often give them references to bible therapy. Library therapy works very well in people who are stuck in the past or at negative times, of any kind, because fiction

takes us away from that moment. My recommendations are fiction. I will find the death of Juan de Prada, the time between the seams of María Dueñas, the shadow of the ruiz Zafón wind, the cathedral of the Sea of Ildefonso, a problem of the elderly, the farewell of Mercedes. I have a patient with seventy- eight years of age who I have first seen very continuously and then intermittently. He came to my office with a reactive depression and

a deep Conjugal crisis. He has had several children and two of them have not studied, despite having opportunities. One of them has separated. Mercedes has had a very hard life. He has seen many negative things, so I did a comprehensive therapy that joins pharmacotherapy, medication, psychotherapy, behavior patterns, sociotherapy, relating to therapy, activities and bibliotherapy. When I was sixty- two years old, I had a joint Conjugal therapy and I got the two

of them to be able to forgive mistakes and failures from realism. The relationship went in and it' s worked ever since. Time has passed and I have seen some of her relatives until one day she calls me one of her children to announce that my mother is leaving, explains to me that she has cancer with metastases and wants to say goodbye to me I am going to see her one morning at the hospital. I see her in bed on your bada. It' s warm in there. I' m holding his hand.

As we speak. He tells me he was waiting for me and I answer he knew you were delicate, but I didn' t know you were like this with a language that goes over the big negative concepts. I' m with her three- quarters of an hour holding her hand and she tells me I' ve been summarizing my life. You know her well, because I told you everything and I wanted to say goodbye to you because you helped me

a lot. You have helped me to understand that life is not only that things go well or wrong, but to have a transcendent mission and never speak to me directly of God if I have found it in your books and after being quiet for a while crying asks me what you think death is, because I have suffered so much. I tell him paradise. It' s like a peaceful day in the countryside and she keeps asking me what you think agony is. I answer the agony is a transit God. He' s waiting

for you on the other side Remember the good thief. I' m holding his hand and one of his daughters is with us. She tells me to tell me something, doctor. I tell you to have inner peace and I invite you to repeat a jaculatory that a friend had given me about the abandonment in the hands of God. He tells me peace again. It gives me that you made me repeat. Mercedes is staying calm and I tell him I have to leave because I have a consultation, but I repeat that you are

calm, that everything is going to be fine. I' m going back to the office very impressed. In this society. No one has time for anyone. At seven o' clock in the afternoon he called one of his sons to tell me that his mother had died in peace. I attach the stages of love. I receive a patient, a forty- year- old lady from Barcelona. He' s grown up with four brothers, two boys and two girls. The woman had two marriages and almost five couples. A

very interesting exponent of what is happening now in society. She is the daughter of a businessman from Barcelona. He married a twenty- year- old boy, 23 years old, and in retrospect, he realized that at the time he was not ready to marry much later. By breaking up with another couple, he understood that he was almost fifty years old and had four children, two from the first and two from the second. To achieve a profound relationship,

it is very important to be clear about the stages of love. The fall in love, according to Francesco al Verón and in his book fall in love and love, is a stage of ortega and acete glare. In studies on love he describes it as a disorder of attention and Julián Marías, in sentimental education, analyzes in a journey through history and the strains of love that

love implies an adherence and an attachment that is irrevocable. I myself have taken care of this in my book Love the Great Opportunity, as a spark that illuminates the past and focuses on the future. The last thing I say is to fall in love with, is to tell someone I don' t understand life without you you' re a fundamental part of my project in a word, you' re my life and Jingetn in his text. When love is not romance, it reminds us that in the skirt of love is the bond

that forms a fabric in which we feel trapped. Falling in love is building a myth, getting private with someone. But at that first stage of falling in love, which lasts a short time, it can be two months, six months and occurs in the first months of the couple or he marriage. It follows a stage in which low- level passion then appears a time in which affectivity leaves way for intelligence or the critical spirit of reason. This second stage plays an important role, so you don' t have to despair,

just like you don' t have to get excited about the first. They ' re both very important. Lately I have read André Comps Pombille, a French philosopher who has published a book called The Love of Loneliness, where he comes to say that loneliness is important and necessary, because only loneliness gives us an encounter with ourselves and makes us able to meet the other. This stage is very important to get along well, especially for the times we are living

in, when everything is going too fast. We are in the time of the four face, of fast food, so everything invites us to turn the big issues into transitory, sporadic passengers. In the second stage of love we must base ourselves on following a little what Cenek said in his book. Happiness gives us the following legend substine etabstine, endures and resists with strength. Then

comes a very differentiated third stage. By the time a child arrives, when the usual topics of conversation are no longer the couple who gives up a little bit of their individual needs and focuses the utmost attention on the upbringing and education of children. This is a quieter, more detached stage. One gives himself to a person who is very weak, very dependent and puts everything at the service of that offspring. It is a period of joint generosity towards the new

being who has arrived. It is often conflictive for many couples, because suddenly they lose a intimacy that they had to go to dinner, to the movies to chat mons. Much is diverted to a third person. There are men who take it very badly because they think they lose privileges, attention or romanticism in the couple. And that' s when they say things like we never go out alone, there can also be conflicts over disagreement about education or the

sharing of domestic obligations. In order for a couple to work well it is necessary to understand the evolution of the stages of affective life and to do so there must be a good relationship between proximity and distance, to look for a middle point, which is the great sentimental operation, to establish a communication of ideas and a respect to the space and the contents of the other, but

not being too close or too far away. That is a very important issue, not wanting to change the other substantially, but to work on living standards. This is one of the most difficult issues. It is known that cohabitation requires rules and norms, something that is within what is called do, that

is, the ability to communicate our needs love and literature. The eighteenth century has been very focused on the great subjects of a rational character, the spirit of the laws of mountains the emilio of roseaut the illustration was properly French. In Spain we only have one important character, who is Jovellanos, a provincial author. And who knows Jovellanos today in Spain, because students in Asturias and some teacher who likes from the 18th to the 19th there is a fundamental change

in the education of affectivity, which is romanticism. When several authors appear as Pérez Galdós, the great author of the affectivity of the 19th century. Today we find that the Spanish novel of the 21st century is of more quality. We have a treatment of affective themes in a much more modern language u s u s u s urs highlight in the xixno the novel by Juan Valera Pepita Jiménez narrates the life of a young boy who falls in love with his father

' s girlfriend, a young widow. His father is also a widower. It' s a book where you see how feelings slip through, pierce without being able to avoid it. It is very interesting in this regard. We also have the great novel by Clarín la Regenta, a provincial novel located in Asturias, which uses feelings very well, that is, how they move, as love appears, suggestion, staying fixed on another person. In the twenty

- first century great concepts have followed parallel lines. On the one hand, we have the intellectual component, that of reason and, on the other hand, the component relative to affectivity. The arrival of emotional intelligence. And it is precisely at the end of the twentieth century that a flood of books on this subject has appeared. One of these authors is Danyo Goman, who made

some gazettes in the New York Times. This psychologist began to write about intelligence and affectivity and was fortunate enough to elaborate a concept that is emotional intelligence, which has developed later and more conceptually, the ability to combine at the same

time these two great ingredients. Reason and affection. We are used to an intelligent life, where the rational is fundamental, very focused on the economic and in which the affective and the spiritual component almost disappears, especially in the great nations, as in the United States, which generate a type of man fundamentally cold and unprepared for the affective terrain and have given rise to cataclysmic situations that

have made these issues all over the world resume. This is an important issue in the prevention of erratic love. Today we have a tendency to measure everything. There are two characters in the American psychiatry, Gotman and Selver, who have designed evaluation scales that measure, record and quantify in psychological parameters the possibility of making a previous balance to know whether or not your relationship can last.

Your measuring instruments are questions that are valued from zero to three or zero to four in each questionnaire to measure the ability to love your book seven golden rules to live as a couple. It is certainly a very helpful manual. I

have a scale to measure myself. Anxiety. It has five dimensions and each dimension or dimension has in turn ten or eleven questions such as anxiety from a physical, psychological, social point, and in each of them there are a series of questions that calibrate, for example, physical anxiety, tachycardia, respiratory difficulty, precordial pressure, cognitive or intellectual anxiety, anticipation of negatives, always living soaked with ns the fearful and uncertain future. Bad omens. These authors

work with the ability to measure a couple' s chances of success. Gotman says he has enough ten to fifteen minutes with a person to ask him a series of questions and predict with a success rate of eighty- nine comma one percent if his partner is going to work or not. Fifty- one. Love in maturity It has been described for some time now the syndrome of the forty that today, with the expectations of life delayed until the eighty- something, extends to forty- five. At this stage, in the couple it

is made box arching on every aspect of the personal and collective journey. The relationship accounts for their journey and then enters into an analysis of the great issues among them love. Love needs both passion and patience and it needs both strong moments and calm moments. Young people are looking for exciting adventures, risks, and challenges to overcome, while as the years go by, more moderate experiences

in intensity are sought that have a more solid and permanent component. At this stage of life, fatigue, a certain apathy, appears in the affective relationship. He tells Andrew Waus that great negative feelings came together to bring down love, hatred, revenge, resentment and none of them could with love in a stealthy way, as a kind of Isbert has been gaining ground. Routine.

Daily life, if not cared for, produces a tired effect of exhaustion and then that syndrome appears, which I have called in some article the penultimate train syndrome. The penultimate train syndrome. This is an event of sentimental character that gives rise to man, as it occurs more in man than in woman. Check his emotional life a little and then he suffers a kind of flashba summary and tells his wife I love you very much, but I' m not in love with you you' re a good mother, but I' m

tired of you. I value your activity as a mother and wife your work, but life goes by and I want to have other emotional opportunities. At that time the person intends to break his affective relationship or even maintain his usual affective relationship, and another parallel addition is as if there were a second youth. To those forty- five, about fifty, man enters, so to speak in an economic way, into the affective market and realizes that he is

still successful and capable of conquering. But in addition, it has more means, with more economic strength, so a second affective youth appears, with important nuances in permissiveness and relative, Because if everything is allowed and everything is relative, a relationship can be broken without any point of dramatization. If that stage is met positively. The NR appears a new stage from the sixty- five,

in which man sees life with a greater perspective. Education for love has been said many times that to love is to look together in the same direction. Therefore, in love there must be a lot of common project. Today we live in the exaltation of eternal youth. An example of this is what is happening with aesthetic surgery, with a huge resonance in the world right now. This would be a sum of the myth of eternal youth, on the one hand, and, on the other, the exaltation of the body.

One of the issues of which recent psychology has been most concerned is that of education for love, a subject that has been blurred. There' s no education left for love. It is interesting to consult recent authors. A good example is José Antonio Marina, a Spanish philosopher who has several books on this subject, such as the sentimental labyrinth. There' s a previous book of yours on intelligence. Where it says that intelligence is understood as flowing in thick

clarity as the heart, it is right. Today, in the face of the explosion of ruptures, all the concepts have changed More than marriage, we talk about couples. The word marriage has more solidity, it is more classic, while the word couple is more romantic. Transition, changes, difficulties seem to be part of a marriage relationship. The stage of serenity, maturity is lived in very different ways depending on how the person has been cared for.

There are men between fifty and sixty who are very young and others who have many ailments. It is a stage of preparation. Today many people retire to the sixties would be the last ten or twelve active years of a person in whom they see themselves as children, emancipating themselves. Here we could talk about empty nest syndrome. Maturity. It is a stage of more serenity, of more synthesis, of applying the experience to the daily life of the care of

the body. People in their fifties and sixties take more care of themselves than anyone in their twenties. They' re watching the feed. I have a survey that I have conducted from six hundred respondents, in which I have found important revelations. This is a survey of the five senses or words that indicate happiness in young people. For example, the word health does not appear is

between the fifty and sixty. When that term appears, the question is to tell me five words that mean happiness to you and respond to love, peace, joy. But from the age of forty, health appears. She' s the big absentee before. It is important to see how maturity is the consolidation of oneself in which great themes appear, such as love, family, work, economy, culture, friendship, the six great keys. We live in a divorced culture, something that leads to a very common change of partner

and everything that this brings with it. In a retrospective of maturity, affective life among men is of great importance. Since affective life has been very neglected until recently, this is not taken into account, as they focus on work, economics or friendship. During that stage there are many bittersweet flavors, unless there has been a lot of consistency of life. I have spoken a lot about the four values that most value joy, friendship, integrity and happiness.

Man, between the ages of forty- five and sixty, gathers the fruits of what has been his professional life. Doctors, for example, already have a prestige, an architect or a teacher. It has already reached the point where this stage of reaping fruits and recognition has an intellectual interest, of formation, of socialization. Women between the ages of fifty and sixty know how to socialize much better than women between the ages of twenty- five. They already

have the art of conversation. The role that women have played in society still takes care of previous and later generations make emotional malaise of what their life has been, what they are happy with and what they are dissatisfied with. The man is always a little more focused on career and the woman to affectivity feelings Internet. There is a great influence of the environment in which people are known

today social networks. This has made everything very fast today and that, especially, people who do not have a partner have the feeling that they go to a supermarket where people are there to get to know each other and immediately make three or four appointments for that week. That has accelerated the process between romance and the pleasures of getting to know each other. There are couples that form in a week and that after three weeks no longer exist everything is much more

volatile right now just the ease. Before, a shy person had a lot of difficulty getting intimate with a person of the opposite sex and now, through the Internet, it is easier to chat than to give. And that has

caused it to spread a lot. The problem is that when someone enters social networks, one comes up with an immediate knowledge relationship with one hour, while once the knowledge was much broader, in the sense that it was not to see how it was with this person, but that you were in a group of people in which there were relationships and friendship and today not from the first moment. The other should not be disappointed and every means of entry must be

put in place. In the art of rapid conquest, one does not see how laborious it is to live together requires a lot of patience and a lot of time. Many are accused of being with the couple for a long time. It depends a lot on patience. Don' t despair with bad times. Today, people want everything without waiting for love. In today' s

society there have been many changes to reach the 21st century society. The positive thing is that until a few years ago women always talked about feelings of children, husbands, education, while men talked about business, sports or politics, economics. But they didn' t deal with these issues. And today it has been seen that it is a mistake to think that the affective world is

women' s own. What we see now is that man has become very feminized, especially young men, who are much more affectionate than those before. Sometimes you' re surprised, but they introduce you to a thirty- year - old man and give you two kisses that that was previously unthinkable and now it' s done. On the other hand, many women go to football when before the sporting events will be almost exclusive to men. I would say that now fifty percent of women like sport very much. They' re interested.

They also have an interest in developing professional careers. They' re competitive, they' re looking to ascend. The range of interests between the two genders is being mixed and long- term sexuality is increasingly converging. You have to teach to live sexuality in an intense way, but not so immediate. In many couples who don' t work well, sexuality has often disappeared.

For this dimension to work, there must be prior agreements, preconditions. Healthy sexuality in a couple is integrated into the common project and there are agreements of frequency and intensity. It' s a very personal thing. Love needs both passion and patience. It is necessary to avoid that sexual relations are always at the same time, on the same day, in the same format, et

cetera. The worst enemy of love is routine. Routine is carelessness, neglect, neglect, carelessness, detail, lack of communication, a case of distance in maturity. I' ve got a sixty- four- year- old engineer coming to me. His wife is a doctor. She' s coming to the office because she' s asking me to talk to her wife, since she wants to split up. He doesn' t understand what happened? I realize he wants a woman who' s like a sheiza, a dedicated

woman who dedicates herself to the man. However, she works as a doctor and needs her own space and has tired of her husband' s needs. When I talk to her, she explains to me that her husband is a narcissist, that he only thinks of himself, that they had already separated on one occasion and that for her there has been a stage in which he was very quiet. He says that he, in the vicinity, treats her badly and in the distance values her. She doesn' t wish you any harm.

He says he' ll think about it for a few days, but finally he says no, he' s had a really bad time and he ' s definitely gonna split up at a certain age. Changing a behavior is only possible if there is a very strong motivation. She' s disappointed. For a man of this age it will be hard to get used to the new situation after so many years of coexistence. The woman has much more clarity

in sentimental relationships than the man. They understand relationships much better. It is more complex in its conduct, but it has more the fabric of the sentimental world. Many men are plane conclusions. In adolescence, love is very different between boys and girls. They are attracted to the strongest characters in the group,

the most transgressors. In time they learn to distinguish their priorities around twenty - four or twenty- five years old and begin to look with other eyes at the most kind and quiet children, as their vision of love begins to

be seen from the perspective of long- term love. In the teenage age, love is a discovery, an impulse, even an exploration at the beginning of the mature age, although the woman may not think of being a mother if she wants to create a nest with a person and in the long run she needs stability, that they listen to her, that they know how to encourage her. I believe that the great value of a man to a woman is the security that she shows. Insecure men are very unattractive and that happens

at any age. The adolescent man is more in love, he tends more to platonic love and to imagine things, because he has less personal and physical resources for seduction. Their sexual impulses are very strong, because they do not have the tools to channel them. Man, above all, is married and tends to conquer. There is a whole strategy in behavior that is more tied to appearance than to reality. It is a game that is more in relation to the external than the internal. At the age of 25, men prefer

to go from flower to flower. The established couple and consolidated love appear by mutual, intellectual and physical attraction. Over the years, although the capacity for surprise and improvisation is lost, one gains in confidence and complicity, developing the couple a code of their own where sometimes one look is enough to communicate. What was an attraction and an impulse is transmuting into long- distance friendship and

common projects. Even more so when the children arrive. The couple, after many years of being together, finds a common theme where they can meet again, especially when their working lives are intense and different. What is often said about children separating is false. It is opso fordo that the opposite happens. A common territory is created in which action is taken for the good of a

third party. The problems and selfishness of each one tend to be considerably reduced and the priorities of each are left in the background and invested in the well - being of that person. One remains in love with the passing of the years through the care of the details of not letting issues that can generate resentment be disturbed trying to surprise with small gestures, not harboring a catalogue of resentments, measuring the language addressing at the moment the important issues. Today, lack

of patience does much harm to couples. There are people who separate themselves to the second discussion, because the threshold of tolerance has gone down a lot. Before, after a bad time, I used to get a good one. Today, after a bad time, couples leave pears recapitulating Love in youth is like an injection of adrenaline full of strong emotions. Often at this stage you suffer more than you enjoy. Mature love doesn' t have those highs of

adrenaline. It' s more measured and pleasurable, no startling. There' s more realism. We learn to adapt. We no longer live on a roller coaster of emotions. The love of the elderly person is based above all on complicity and silence. Today there is a unique phenomenon due to increased longevity and worsening advanced retirement. And in addition, the couple lives in a very

small space, separations and divorces at late ages. The fact that you don ' t have lives separated by work makes the amount of time and friction of a couple can become very irritating. It is essential that one knows how to respect the identity of the other with his private plot. Other very important things in the couple is to have a common spiritual background. I have about fifty or sixty articles collected that talk about the relationship between spirituality, religion and conjugal

stability. In a country like Israel, for example, there are almost no divorces, Mormon couples or practicing Catholics rarely separate. The thesis is that if we take away the Conyugal relationship, a vertical or transcendent vision loses much, as if we take away the culture, because it is necessary to know that affectivity is cultivated the love of couple. If culture fails as freedom and knowledge, it can fail. Currently the relationship of couples is based on hedonism.

Unlike before, the absence of religion is a great lack. It' s equivalent to saying you like everything but reading. The world of digital networks has also greatly influenced couples to separate It has become like a supermarket. The fact of being able to meet people of the same age and with the same interests, which leads to the view that perhaps we could do better with this or with the other. Today, contacting unknown people is the easiest thing to do,

but that does not mean that real relationships are established. It is easy to fall in love and difficult to stay in love with the amount of nuances this art has. That is why it is so important to know the sequence of feelings throughout life and to take care of each stage with care and delicacy without fainting. To know how to love is to know how to look at notes. One of the main factors leading to a decrease in the level of

self- esteem. They constitute an inventory of different ingredients that move in the following way. The inability to overcome the difficulties of ordinary life, great difficulties in overcoming microtraumas psychological macrotraumas, not knowing, forgiving, errors failures, all of which leads to a lack of confidence in oneself, which is nourished by diverse insecurities and ends in a decrease in the level of self- assessment that

one has of oneself two. Anxiety is an emotion characterized by being on guard. The stalking occurs a generalized activation that affects the physical part, tachycardia, sweating, pellisco, gastric, shortness of breath, precordial oppression, etcetera. Psychological, restlessness, nervousness, inner restlessness, feeling of diffuse and blurred threats, inconcret fears, transient insecurity, feeling of inner emptiness, etc. Behaviour.

Being on guard alert as vigilant, irritability, poorly controlled responses to low - intensity negative stimuli, restless legs, frequent changes in posture, stuttering or stopping to play a lot with objects that have contracted eyelids in your hands, tendency to get very irritated by more or less intense or unexpected noises, etc. Cognitive. This refers above all to the mental plane, negative anticipations, bad omens, anxiety about the future and what it can bring to one,

difficulty of concentration, etcetera. And finally, the assertive symptoms, that is, referring to social relationships, block interpersonal contact. Difficulties in starting a conversation, difficulty in talking about general or minor issues, difficulty in expressing to others their true opinions and feelings being too aware of what others may think of themselves

or seek too much approval from others. Three also called panic attacks, which are short episodes of a short duration of a few minutes and have a great impact because the experience is of real terror and appear the symptoms referred to in the previous footnote Here everything is fast, fleeting and terrifying, with three threatening spectra of great intensity, fear of death, fear of losing control of oneself and fear of becoming it. This experience is usually accompanied later by a fear

that it will recur. An anticipatory panic four. The phobia is a very strong and persistent fear that occurs in the face of something and that, when it appears, produces a huge anxiety and leads to two behaviors to avoid or postpone. The person realizes that fear, but facing him is superior to his forces. Stronger people can endure it, but at the cost of extraordinary anxiety.

Five words that come from discarding one of the parents of European thought and that in this context, means learning to use the head more than the heart, rationalizing, but without losing quality. It is a psychological equation in which we begin to use more the instruments of reason and less the instruments of emotion. Six, more technically put. Do not feel alluded to overlook that fact

and try to put the mental issues in second and third place. Seven in a woman can happen in so- called premenstrual stress syndrome a few days before

the period. It has a series of intermingled manifestations. There are physical breast pain, mastodynia or chest pain or pressure, discomfort in the areas of ovarian projection, fatigue prior to exertion, etc. And psychological, irritability psychological hypersensitivity, easy crying magnify a real problem of ordinary life, external or internal restlessness, disproportionate responses to stimuli of little importance, etc. Also in menopause,

with all its component to leave behind the possibility of motherhood and also in people with endogenous depression, in seasonal changes, especially in spring eight. Since depression is a potentially serious disorder that requires diagnosis and medical attention. I' ve preferred not to include her in the self- assessment tests at the end of

each chapter nine. The perimeter of it is ixager. If we try to apprehend their concept, they slip through our private vocabulary the words to fiction sorrow misery sorrow, grief, desolation, despondency of season and a long, etcetera. In all of them the same ritel beats a feeling of misfortune that meanders the interior landscape and shows an amalgam of ten internal expressions. Also called a depressive reaction or reactive depression. The clinical meaning is himself. Eleven In recent

years, there has been talk of a depressive life. It is an existence presided over by daily monotony and absolute solitude. That combination is very hard and we have to explain it to those people. Twelve matures, that is to say, to give to the things that pass us the importance that really are thirteen. A good response to this is resilience, the ability to resist with strength negative situations. Limit to get over them and get out strengthened has two

notes inside. A first, which is a resilient attitude, is always well prepared to grow in the face of adversity and not give up. The second is the resilient reaction, to develop strategies to adapt to that new situation, to recover and to emerge better than when one entered it. I refer to two texts that can further clarify this concept. Rafaela Santos rise and fight connects Barcelona two thousand thirteen and my book Don' t give up themes of today

Madrid, two thousand eleven fourteen. We can describe a series of stages of child development. The first is ensomotor, ranging from birth to two years. Children understand the world through what they see they hear, touch, and pallade. Let us not forget that the child knows the world by the mouth. Everything takes it to his mouth and also, as is his motor plane, they discover the movement. This little boy only lives the present, the here and now. What is out of his sight is out of his mind.

It is from the year and a half when the child will develop the memory of things he does not see. A second stage is self- centered. They are not able to perceive things from the other' s point of view. This occurs at the preschool age of the two to about three to four years. Her words are I my tripat, she called it a preoperative stage. They are not yet able to perform mental operations, but memory already works

and archives perceptions. Thirdly, the concrete operating stage appears around six to seven years. Fourth, there is the formal operating stage, which is already around eleven to twelve years. If it consists of abstract thought starting to function, as well as systematic reasoning. Fifteen, the integral word will go out along the pages of this book and means the ability to gather, mix and associate five key aspects of the human being, psychological, social, cultural and spiritual

physics and that this association forms a harmonious whole. That' s the challenge. I will return to this point. Sixteen. Whether a child does not play or suddenly stops playing is a serious symptom that something negative is happening to him. We could say that it is the first symptom of a masked depression

or psychological disorder of some importance. Seventeen are called those in which there is no harmony, balance, good relationship between parents and which, therefore, give rise to many affective deficiencies in children that sooner or later can leave an important sequel, as they are children who are going to grow up with a certain

psychological disharmony that will have negative consequences in the future. Eighteen. If there were some kind of problem in school, it was important to talk to teachers and make it clear that the child felt well and that there was no discrimination or psychological abuse. If there is, we have to act. Immediately today, the fact of adoption is absolutely accepted in our social environment, without any difficulty. 19 c. Your job. Willing Creative Competent, englovel and distribett

Coristet Decean. Tinkin Communication thirty- seven nineteen, pepe twenty- seven to thirty- five two thousand eleven. He is a professor of design and creativity at Stanford University in California and underlines his concept of Tinkin' s absence as the need to regain creativity and innovation as an educational task by calling that person ' s sensitivity. Twenty. Today, the family has changed in many ways. It has become less vertical and more horizontal. We have traveled from the

alfiriarched patriarchy. Parents must teach their children the meaning of sexuality and to do it right, it is necessary to prepare and use the most appropriate language, so that the message gets clear and everything that swirls around it is well understood. Twenty- one. Hedonism is the enthronement of pleasure above all, and above all, permissiveness is all worth the dare to do whatever you want without feeling guilty. Both have two natural children that are the consumerism that comes to

say. The important thing is to have and pop up here the both. You have so much worth and relativism. Nothing is good or bad. Everything ultimately depends on your particular point of view and vision of life. This foam of the present life is a castle of fatuous fires, brilliant to enter and without a true foundation of exit. The person who moves along these paths will not get very far. Twenty- two. It would be difficult to make

an outline of this. There are many ingredients added here. The rapid and successive pace of socio- cultural changes, the enormous social networks, with more and more possibilities of communication, often very superficial, the informative bombardment of so disparate news, the appearance of banal and inconsistent models of identity, hedonistic and permissive education and a long etcetera. Twenty- three. In addition, the

medical history and information provided by the parents. Two specific tests have been performed, the id of Teodoro and Millón, which consists of seventy- seven issues valued in two false true answers and then one more extensive and which discriminates better the SITH two complement each other result. This girl has a mixed personality transtour with two especially relevant notes. It' s limit or border histrionic line.

The first means that his conduct is presided over by impulsivity and sudden mood swings and a certain tendency to lose control of his person. The second, sickly need to draw attention or said in other terms, great difficulty to go unnoticed and tendency to turn into a drama a problem from day to day twenty- four says a law of psychology of conduct. The following, the excessive and machaconous repetition of the same message to a person in puberty, adolescent and rebellious

produces the opposite effect of the intended one. Intelligent administration of verbal language is required, both in comments and in criticisms or corrections. We explain it to her in colloquial language twenty- five, for which we make a list of things she likes to deprive her of them or to give them to her. That' s what life does to each of us. He rewards us or punishes us as we behave twenty- six. We gave him val proato sodium,

two shots a day for breakfast and dinner. We explained to her the action of this drug appropriate to her age and that it was important that it not be revealed, as it was going to help her very much to change in positive. Twenty- seven. This behavioral evaluation scale for anxiety was designed by me a few years ago and consists of five fields of exploration physical, psychological, cognitive and socialized anxiety. Block has in turn twenty issues valued from

zero to four. It' s self- applied. It synthesizes quite well the intensity of the subject' s anxiety explored twenty- eight. It is a kind of private messaging that are phrases that she repeats herself given by me and my team. These cognitive sentences are nothing other than short phrases that she says without the noise of words in order to help her overcome confrontation with people or neutralize negative ideas that cross her head. Go back to psychotherapy once again.

My experience of so many years as a practical psychiatrist is that these well - used strategies are very effective. Twenty- nine here is the myth of eternal youth. Youth does not depend on the years, but on the illusions to be fulfilled. One thing is intentions and another is results, but you always have to have concrete goals ahead thirty a. I' ve called this

often. Thus, do not err in expectations, not expect too much of love or of the person you will know or just appear in our life, because all love, in order for it to become strong, needs to be worked. I repeat, I just don' t believe in eternal love, I believe in love that opens it day by day as a task of psychological craftsmanship. In that I do believe those who suffer a clear affective immaturity fall in love or idealize it so much that when they land in reality, they

fall apart. Thirty- one. Youth is the stage of life, of anticonformism, of rebellions full of freshness, of desires towards the good, the high, the best to stay young, not to give up in oneself or in the social environment. Wanting to change the world, but starting with one ' s own person. Thirty- two, our world today I write in the skirt of two thousand and thirteen, they need more witnesses than teachers,

that is, exemplary lives, more than people who teach. So I declare, in the former we are able to project and imitate those healthy, complete, sense- filled models that we can copy in the latter. Sometimes we observe teachers are not smpres or have inconsistencies too clearly. Let' s think of some politicians who sound a lot, I don' t have to give

names and that results in a frontal rejection. Thirty- three to fall well or badly many times is more by fleeting and unsound impressions than by some anecdote. Really high- profile. That' s the way it is. That world is still blurred from rumbling contours, with ethereal profiles more emotional than rational. Thirty- four dive into it. It is very interesting to see how adolescents immerse themselves in the procedural waters of their experiences. It' s exciting.

Thirty- five has become fashionable this medication. Its best known commercial product is the concerta, which has three posologies of eighteen, thirty- six and fifty- four milligrams at high doses. It is a very potent activator of the ability to concentrate and mixed with antidepressants. It can be of great clinical efficacy. Thirty- six. The number of Simons has multiplied in recent times

and there is even a fact that I do not want to overlook. Some of them finally get married after having had different seekers and do so at the age of forty- seven. But having lived alone, they do not know the rules of the couple' s coexistence and soon that is broken. Not in all cases it is clear, but many become egolatrous and atrociously individual, which incapacitates them to lead a healthy positive relationship where one must know how to

renounce in a cheerful and sporty way. Daily cohabitation is one of the most complex things that exist and you need to have learned many skills to get along well. Daily coexistence is the test of fire. Many of the Simmons do

not pass that test thirty- seven. The name is not pretty, but in the psychiatric psychological clinic it often means a certain form or obsession with the body as a whole, weight, muscles, etc. Or some of its uncovered parts, especially the face, the nose, the cheeks, the lips, the ears, etc. And, to a lesser extent, by the hands. It is one more manifestation of this body culture that follows at its

peak thirty- eight. The famous Light man returns here, but now entering through another door, there are many ingredients that stay in him, all whistling for the same, a first- class individualism. Thirty- nine. I ' ve been writing this book since June of the two thousand and thirteen. The proliferation of self- help books is huge today. Many fall out of

our hands, but some are valuable and offer wise formulas and observations. The substance of the matter is noble and I have repeated it along these pages in one way or another. One of the gateways to relative happiness is to have a mature forty personality. Happiness is always in the promise of a better future. If happiness consists of illusion. Unhappiness is trite in having no goals. Authentic love makes man more human and let us not forget woman softens man makes

him more affectionate. Forty- one here I refer to two texts of mine that deepen in this matter, intelligent love, on the one hand, and remedies for lovelessness, on the other. Both are published in this editorial Themes of today Madrid, two thousand eight and two thousand seven, respectively, in corrected and augmented editions. Forty- two is the disease of doubt. The 20th- century French and German psychiatry studied this pathology. It' s not

just any doubt, but sick paralyzing, obsessive, serious. It is a functional inability to grasp reality with sharpness, which imprisons this person who is seen in looseness in overwhelming insecurities. Falretti and Legran studied it as a specific phenomenon and other Janet placed it as an embryo of obsessive thought in the campra. It defined as the imperative need to postpone any decision to improve the information available

on the subject and Green classified the inventory of doubts accurately. I refer the interested reader to the following books in which he can quench his thirst Julio Vallejo, Ruiloba, Obsessive States, Barcelona two thousand six. J Yesterday, Jura, Tobias and f a neciroglu Excesit, Campostel, t Soters, Patogenesis,

Daignoss, Anthrudment Harcourt prece postin Tokyo two thousand seven forty- three. I usually give them different names of guidelines of conduct in which the suggestions and indications to improve something concrete of the own behavior dictated by me or by one of my team to my patients are collected. Book of psychological observations or book of psychotherapy or book of psychological progress. Psychotherapy is essential in a very high percentage

of our patients. Many psychiatrists do not do it because of lack of time, because of their hard work or because of the habit of practicing only pharmacotherapy. The quality of psychotherapy portrays the style of the psychologist or psychiatrist. Forty - four. A mature person knows his limitations better than his possibilities. Forty - five within the synonyms of this serious disease. We found bolqueralchólix, professionalitis,

laboropathy, and I' ve been calling them laborers lately. In all of them the same ritornello beats people who have been devoured by work and it does not let them go. For them. The rest is to stay on your subject and your conversation about the same thing. They can change those who have a more serious trajectory. Under two constancy circuses, a threat of separation from the pair, then change can happen two, a myocardial infarction or a

championship anxiety. Some, however, do not change under these two threats. Forty- six insurmountable fear of open spaces to the agora to the street. But in this Nipona mode we could speak with more property of phobia to life, to face what it means, to have a job, to relate to

others, would be a multiphobia. Forty- seven. The first historical history of this disease was elaborated in one thousand nine hundred and fifty- three by Swartzigil among the nurses of an English psychiatric hospital, where the jon nurse made it clear in her personal notes. The patients complained. I realized it was becoming less and less effective. My head nurse complained about me the atmosphere was unbearable to work and work without stopping one day after another. I was exhausted.

Later, in nineteen hundred and seventy- four, Freudenberg described it in a more scientific and rigorous way. Emotional exhaustion, physical and psychological stress and tiredness, wear and dehumanization, feeling of poor personal performance, flattening and lack of illusion. But it was more the Jacks Chi in which in one thousand nine hundred and eighty- one designed their entire clinical picture forty- eight.

Everything ends up sliding into physical manifestations, but looking for its etiology, we must realize that it is the consequence of a seriously damaged working life. Here, the psychosomatic word has an essential flatness. The mabackensacki h that societyon now gives it the name of somamorphic disorder if it refers to the presence of physical symptoms that suggest a medical disease and that cannot be fully explained. Emotional tensions

sustained for a long time are discovered. Forty- nine. There' s a nuance that I don' t want to leave in the whole time. An American psychologist has spoken of the lack of defense learned that in English it is called the plesness and that initially referred to the negative learning that certain animals had that could not escape from where they were. Later, this was stratified to human conduct. It is a defeated, broken person who reacts with total

passivity and emotional exhaustion. There is no longer any glimpse of struggle. It is the prelude of diselpidia, of despair fifty. This may seem like a contradiction, but it is not. Surrender to others with joy and spirit of service brings great satisfaction. Why, because in sincere self- giving. There is a clairvoyance of doing something for others, being able to forget about ourselves. The whole theory that is contained in this idea is simply the following.

There is more joy in giving than in receiving that is the key. The mature person knows fifty- one ideas to open the reader' s mouth. At this point in my book, it is seven suggestions to stay in love over the years, one, to maintain admiration for the other person. Despite the thousand and one avatars lived, the other is still valued in its main segments. Two mutual respect of words and deeds. Three have a common project. There is a joint program that extends in children and that should never be

lost sight of. Four. Complicity is a subliminal language between the couple that slips through the ins and outs of that relationship clearly one at a time and camouflaged to another five. Having satisfactory intimate relationships is an intimate language that changes over the years, but must have its place Six capacities to forgive the other. Losing is fighting to forget them, feelings and difficulties experienced. The couple ' s life doesn' t go well without a good dose of forgetfulness.

Love is perfected with forgiveness seven take care of the small details of cohabitation with the care of craftsman. This seems to me to be an emblematic legend. Love is the poetry of the senses, the intelligence, the sharpness of reason That' s where tenderness comes out, live your life. Any unauthorized use of this audio book will violate copyright and may be subject to legal sanctions. Copy Right Two Thousand Twenty- Four Strine Law, Lilí' s Secrets All Rights Reserved