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Secondhand Therapy

Secondhand Therapy is a funny, honest mental health podcast where two unlicensed best friends unpack their weekly therapy sessions.Join Louie Paoletti and Michael Malone as they explore anxiety, ADHD, grief, masculinity, and emotional growth—with humor, heart, and total transparency. Each episode blends raw self-reflection with real time takes on therapy, trauma, relationships, and the messy process of healing.It’s real talk about mental health in the modern world, and why personal growth is so damn hard.
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Episodes

Possible Autism and Mushrooms in the Trees | #035

Lou looks different in glasses. Lou had a nice day outside enjoying the trees. Michael likes posting about his daily activities online while Lou hates it. Michael talks about accepting himself and not liking kids before Lou reveals his RAADS-R results. The boys debate how the majority should affect your behaviors. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http:...

Apr 08, 202456 minEp. 35

My Dead Mom and a Psychic in Salem | #034

Lou fills Michael in on some secrets he’s been keeping. Lou wants to start wearing glasses so he looks less scary. Michael reflects on seeing himself in others while he was on the road before unpacking how he has made grief his identity. Michael saw a psychic and learned some things. Michael is struggling with how he looks these days… or rather, who he looks like. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondh...

Apr 01, 202445 minEp. 34

Who Knew Episode Thirty Was Such a Big Deal | #033

Michael thinks Lou is autistic. The boys unpack the surprisingly controversial Episode 030. Disclaimer: We do not mean any offense to anyone on the spectrum. This is a real conversation not intended to be insulting in any way. We have had this conversation in private and in therapy and thought it was important to share as adult diagnoses of autism are becoming more common as people navigate their mental health. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod....

Mar 18, 202450 minEp. 33

My Dead Girlfriend and a New Situationship | #032

Lou had a really rough therapy session this week unpacking how his last relationship is affecting his current relationship. Lou talks about how his nervous system is taking over before diving in to his approach to being the best partner he can be. Michael talks about his growing loneliness before coming clean with the bear cubs about his recent breakup and the toll it's taking on him. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://...

Mar 11, 202458 minEp. 32

A Crazy Story About Getting Cheated On | #031

Guest host Madison Bellissimo sits in with Papa Bear as Michael is out of town to talk all things love and struggle. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448...

Mar 04, 20241 hr 8 minEp. 31

Define What ”Normal” Means Though | #030

Lou talks about his first EMDR session before Michael voices his concern for not having a good memory. Lou challenges Michael on his approach and desire for healing. Michael and Lou debate what “normal” means. Michael quickly begins to feel his back against the wall and confronts Lou about it. Michael is trying to re-program himself. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://instagram....

Feb 26, 202443 minEp. 30

Expressing Gratitude But Why Doesn’t Dad Love Me | #029

Michael starts off dissecting his newfound daddy issues and how validation and disappointment plays into his life before getting into his younger self. Lou and Michael get into their individual desires to express more gratitude. Lou explores the dichotomy of having a great life but not feeling great all the time before discussing EMDR. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://instagra...

Feb 19, 202450 minEp. 29

Disrespect and Adults Getting in Trouble | #028

Michael is still people pleasing and discusses getting “in trouble” as a grown man. Lou and Michael debate the difference between disrespect and not giving a fuck before getting into talking to their younger selves and comparing their different views on validation. Michael needs a Mom again… right? Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instag...

Feb 12, 202443 minEp. 28

My New Love and Panic Attacks | #027

Papa Bear has a life update that he has been hiding from the Bear Cubs for a few weeks; he comes clean before opening up about some new struggles. Michael discusses his fear of not being enough for potential partners before getting into his realization that he needs a hobby. Michael has an epiphany about his anxiety. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandthera...

Feb 05, 202444 minEp. 27

Family Dysfunction and EMDR with Lara Beitz | #026

We welcome comedian Lara Beitz to the sleuth to talk all things mental health. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448...

Jan 29, 20241 hrEp. 26

Setting Goals and Wanting to Cry | #025

Lou still can’t cry and may be getting closer to knowing why before talking about getting closer with his therapist and how he feels defeated in therapy lately. Michael is still a people pleaser and talks about how outside opinions help him make progress. Michael and Lou discuss goal-setting in personal and professional aspects. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@sec...

Jan 22, 202441 minEp. 25

Codependence and a F*cked Up Nervous System | #024

Lou is kinda grumpy; Michael has no interest in learning how to be alone. Michael talks about sacrificing all of his needs in order to please those around him before detailing how he gets into the hole of isolation. Lou talks about being in touch with his body and how that affects one’s nervous system. The boys discuss their different approaches to swag. Lou wants to cry but still hasn’t. Yet. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here...

Jan 15, 202458 minEp. 24

Daddy Issues and The Family Man | #023

Lou and Michael discuss their very different relationships with their fathers and their ideologies regarding families and forgiveness. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448...

Jan 08, 202447 minEp. 23

PTSD and Self-Love with Hanorah | #022

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions related to sexual assault. We welcome Hanorah to the sleuth to discuss all things anxiety, PTSD, self-love and more! Hanorah is multidisciplinary artist based out of a small studio filled with cats, canvases, and glittered tape recorders in Montreal’s west end. With years of touring under her belt (including several television appearances and supporting the likes of Mavis Staples and Lee Fields), she recently took time to plunge back into song w...

Jan 01, 20241 hrEp. 22

Social Anxiety at the Christmas Party | #021

Lou and Michael discuss their different experiences from a recent party they attended before getting into their strong opinions regarding people asking you to remove your shoes at their house. Michael has a theory on Lou’s opposition to small talk. Michael reveals his surprise feelings of loneliness recently before getting into his struggle with codependency. Lou and Michael discuss the idea of choosing happiness before Michael gets into his difficulties processing emotions. Support the pod: htt...

Dec 18, 202343 minEp. 21

Child Abuse and Adult Entertainment with Silvia Saige | #020

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions related to sexual assault, child abuse, pedophilia. suicide, suicide attempts. We welcome Siliva Saige to the sleuth to discuss her difficult journey from childhood to becoming a star in adult entertainment. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/m...

Dec 11, 202351 minEp. 20

Boundaries and the Comfort of Misery | #019

Lou is still talking about his newfound fear of relationships; his therapist gives him a crash course on attachment styles and boundaries before he explains how it can be all tied to a discomfort about identity. Lou and Michael talk about how misery can be comforting before Michael talks about his melancholy Thanksgiving where he fell into a dark hole of grief. Michael talks about embracing the disgruntled employee that lives within all of us. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherap...

Dec 04, 202346 minEp. 19

Rejection and the Ultimate Breakup Strategy | #018

Lou reveals his strategy for dealing with breakups before Michael gives his thoughts on anger and retaliation that follows cheating. Lou talks about dealing with feelings of rejection in the dating world. Michael talks about his recent business trip where he implemented some new self-love tactics before getting into his desire to unlock some childhood memories in therapy. Lou and Michael talk more about Lou’s recent rejection. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secon...

Nov 27, 202354 minEp. 18

Little Boy on the Beach Gave Me a Panic Attack | #017

Michael talks about a dream he recently had that really messed with him before contemplating how he’s processed his grief. Lou and Michael debate what showing emotion actually looks like while sharing their difficulties crying in front of people. Lou talks about an exercise from his therapy session that sent him into a panic attack before he and Michael talk about their childhoods. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://ins...

Nov 20, 202356 minEp. 17

Hi, I Protect Myself by Making Jokes | #016

Michael talks about his new confidence since getting his teeth fixed and how his therapist tied it back to his struggle with self-love. Lou and Michael discuss self-awareness when it comes to showing up in relationships. Lou figures out why he can’t be late before his therapist gets into the weeds regarding his lifelong use of humor as a shield. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http:...

Nov 13, 202345 minEp. 16

ADHD with Laurie Singer | #015

We welcome Behavioral Specialist Laurie Singer to the sleuth today to talk all things grief, anxiety, self-worth, ADHD and more. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448...

Nov 06, 202358 minEp. 15

The Correct Way to do Empathy | #014

Lou starts off discussing having prepared answers ready for vulnerable conversations before talking about calling his therapist out for using “therapy talk.” Lou and Michael discuss empathy; Lou finally figured out why he struggles with it. Michael and Lou discuss social media and how their opinions on it differ. Michael talks about a big takeaway from the book he’s currently reading. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://...

Oct 30, 202350 minEp. 14

Monogamy and the Idea of Having Children | #013

Michael ponders his struggle with anxiety and control before unpacking how he protects his partners from his flaws in relationships. Lou and Michael discuss monogamy and the idea of legacies. Lou talks about his recent thoughts regarding having kids before taking you through an anxiety-filled exercise from his recent therapy session. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com...

Oct 23, 20231 hr 1 minEp. 13

Men and Women are Different, Ya Know? | #012

Lou recaps the final session with his current therapist before he moves on with a new therapist. Michael and Lou ponder what “normal” life looks like before contemplating the differences between men and women. Michael opens up about his experience with losing interest in past relationships. Lou and Michael debate what the majority or romantic relationships look like. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/seco...

Oct 16, 202359 minEp. 12

A Small Crush and an Old Journal | #011

Lou didn’t have therapy this week and Lou really needed therapy this week. Lou talks about how a small crush led him into his feelings of the past. Lou and Michael discuss the stresses of moving and difficulties of finding a place to live in Los Angeles. Michael talks about uncovering an old journal and the entries sending him into reflection about his past. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandthe...

Oct 02, 202348 minEp. 11

Disneyland is for Idiots, Let’s Fight | #010

Lou is in a mood and we never really find out why. Lou talks about his recent day at Disneyland. Michael and Lou talk about the viral 75 Hard Challenge and Michael’s take on his own version before discussing the likelihood of implementing permanent change. Lou talks about his new revelation from therapy that there are no good or bad decisions. Finally, Michael has had enough and the boys fight. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us her...

Sep 25, 20231 hr 6 minEp. 10

The Anxiety of Being One Minute Late | #009

Michael and Lou discuss some negative feedback they received about the podcast before they get into Michael’s addiction to inner conflict. Lou hates being late and discusses his recent hypocrisy-filled rage situation. Lou discovered he needs to find a new therapist. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagr...

Sep 18, 202343 minEp. 9

Grief (Part 1) | #008

We couldn’t avoid it any longer. We’re talking about grief this week. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448...

Sep 11, 202353 minEp. 8

Being Mindful and the Rage Taking Over | #007

Lou is not hoeing. Michael has been throwing anger tantrums; Lou talks about mindfulness helping him overcome his past anger before they debate healing your inner child versus living in the past. Lou and Michael dip their toes into discussing grief. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmai...

Sep 04, 202355 minEp. 7

My Ho Era in my Mid-Thirties | #006

Lou talks about never having had his “ho era” and his recent desire to start hoeing. Lou details a recent experience he had in the ho world. Lou and Michael discuss societal norms and the ideas of monogamy and marriage. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448...

Aug 28, 20231 hr 11 minEp. 6
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