In the opening rant, Dan finally opens up and tells us what he *really* thinks of the Catholic Church. Hear the strange and seedy tale of a male lap dance gone horribly wrong. On the Magnum, Dan chats with RIVAL sex advice podcaster Dr. Debby Herbenick about PReP for women and condom aversion for ladies. And, your amazing, supportive calls to the 20 year-old lesbian from last week who feels trapped with her unkind family. You guys are the best. Donate! To the following organizations: Ali Forney ...
Oct 27, 2015•58 min•Ep. 470
How can a man convince his lady to give him the kind of sloppy head that makes her gag? It’s not like he’s anti-feminist or anything! A woman’s mother-in-law does NOT APPROVE of her poly lifestyle. But mom doesn’t know that her precious son is also as poly as the day is long. Should they cut off contact from his mother? Or is it time for him to come out already? Tear jerker! Dan tries to talk a suffering, abused gay kid into leaving her parents’ toxic home. On the Magnum, get kinky with Mollena ...
Oct 20, 2015•58 min•Ep. 496
At the top of the show, Dan speaks with a clever lass with a foolproof plan to ensure the defeat of Canada’s dreadful Stephen Harper. A man is very close to an old childhood friend. Although they have always had a platonic relationship, his girlfriend of 6 months is beginning to freak out. If he attended a wedding as his pal's plus-one, would that be crossing a line? A woman's new boyfriend told her he's into cuckolding. But how soon is too soon to indulge this complicated fetish? A self-profess...
Oct 13, 2015•52 min•Ep. 468
Dan has some helpful suggestions for the NRA! A woman saw a man exposing himself outside a family-friendly restaurant. She called the cops. Was this wrong? In order to prove that his girlfriend doesn’t put out as much as he would like, a man documents their sex life on an app. The girlfriend finds this creepy. Dear listener, do you? Rachel Percelay from Media Matters has been studying Fox News’ coverage of trans issues. She and Dan discuss what she found. And finally, Christopher Frizzelle from ...
Oct 06, 2015•56 min•Ep. 467
A woman who identified as lesbian of 15 years (with a wife even,) has taken a younger, male lover. So, how is this gonna work? A man’s girlfriend insists that if and when they have kids, he will have to go through “labor simulation.” He thinks this is batty. But what does Dan Savage think? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans luminary Kate Bornstein about words vs slurs, the Caitlin Jenner effect and Kate’s deep, dark past with Scientology. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue A...
Sep 29, 2015•53 min•Ep. 466
It’s the dick show! Do you have one? (Or are you one?) Gather around for a “What You Got?” with Dr. Cynthia Graham about condoms and male sensitivity, the poor things. Then! On the Magnum, Mike Pearl, a writer for Vice Magazine discusses the science behind the need to rename Death Grip Syndrome. Also, how do you deal with it when a flasher lives in your neighborhood? And tons more. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron, the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients...
Sep 22, 2015•53 min•Ep. 465
Have you ever loved someone so much, even though you’ve known them for only 6 weeks, that when they break up with you, you call a sex advice podcaster sobbing and sobbing? Meanwhile, a married man with his wife for 11 years, is working on forgiving her for cheating on him, and on opening their relationship so she can be her full self. Also, he thinks it’s kind of hot. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans porn star/occultist Bailey Jay about the effects of hormone therapy on libido. Also, what to ...
Sep 15, 2015•50 min•Ep. 464
It’s the “Let’s Decriminalize Sex Work” episode! Dan chats with Vox writer German Lopez on the evidence which shows the benefits of legalizing sex work. (Like duh…) And on on the Magnum, Dan chats with adult film actor Dirk Caber about the real effects of the federal raid on Rentboy.com. Also, you’ve heard what Dan thinks about the Republican field, but what does he think about the Dems? And, how would you deal with a roommate who shows up in your room wearing nothing but a lecherous smile? 206-...
Sep 08, 2015•55 min•Ep. 463
A man has entered into a committed poly triad… and mom’s not having it. How can the caller get his mother to accept his other girlfriend? Dan’s take on the shenanigans of hilarious comedian, Bill Cosby. A woman’s boyfriend REALLY wants to do anal. He wants this so badly that he’s willing to try it without warning, lube or consent. And it causes her tremendous pain. Can any of you guess what Dan’s advice is? On the Magnum, Dan chats with New York Times religion writer Mark Oppenheimer about his n...
Sep 01, 2015•49 min•Ep. 462
Pee drinking in the UK: How common is it? Do mates drink each other’s urine routinely, or do they have to kind of know each other a little better? A tale for the vault, folks. How should you handle a nasty blabbing co-worker who tells everyone that you have herpes? On the Magnum, slaves, Mistress Matisse joins us in the studio (on the 23rd floor of the Washington Mutual Building overlooking the beautiful Puget Sound,) to discuss the sex workers’ rights movement and also how to overpower your wil...
Aug 25, 2015•52 min•Ep. 461
Dan and Peter Sagal, host of NPR’s “Wait Wait… Don’t Tell Me” join forces to discuss baptism, Jewish vs Catholic guilt, clingy, needy human doormats, and the special torture that open relationships can bring on. Peter is hilarious and delightful- this show is not to be missed. Some of it is on the Micro, all of it is on the Magnum. Also, how to approach a cute amputee without causing offense. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the...
Aug 18, 2015•51 min•Ep. 460
Dan on the Republican empathy gap. Why does the Republican party care so much about Fox News’ Megyn Kelly, but not so much about you? A woman doesn’t understand how bondage, S&M, humiliation and rape fantasies can take place in the context of a loving relationship. On the Magnum, Dan and writer/blogger Amanda Marcotte dish about the Republican primaries, and how the “War Against Women” is still very much ON. A man keeps his past open relationship secret. How can he be an ambassador for open ...
Aug 11, 2015•51 min•Ep. 459
Dan speaks to an actual lesbian about how to get started in the homosexual lifestyle. Also hear the sordid tale of the evil rock star training an army of dick-biting groupies. On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Vy Chu, to discuss a worst case ass scenario and how to care for your sweet, sweet bottom. New Number! Use it. Live it. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savag...
Aug 04, 2015•53 min•Ep. 458
A woman feels so insecure about the way her vagina looks, she won’t let her boyfriend near it. How can he convince her that she is beautiful all over? A disabled gay man has a boyfriend who refuses to have sex with him. His psychiatrist thinks they should stay together. Dan thinks otherwise. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Matt Baume, author of “Defining Marriage” about the heroes of the marriage equality struggle. Also, a pestering professor asks his former student to sleep with him, right after...
Jul 28, 2015•50 min•Ep. 457
After a wedding guest sat and endured some anti-gay loony talk from a bigoted pastor, a woman wonders what she could have done better. Walk out? Audibly boo? Hear a couple of calls from women who get off on lesbian porn, and the very different reactions their boyfriends have to this unspeakable perversity. Dan welcomes Joan Price, author of Naked at Our Age, to answer some calls concerning sex for the senior set. If you’re looking for sex toys for your parents or grandparents, this show is a mus...
Jul 21, 2015•55 min•Ep. 456
An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty. A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he knows who creeps on women. On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and rival advice columnist Tristan Taormino about reclaiming the pleasure of anal sex after an assault. And, hear the tale of the strangest job a housecleaner has ever been offered. 206-201-272...
Jul 14, 2015•54 min•Ep. 455
While you and I danced in the streets, Dan was trapped in Australia, where marriage equality is NOT YET LEGAL. Hear his thoughts on the Supreme Court decision. A woman is attractive, accomplished and has big plans. But when potential dates start talking to her, they quickly shut down and move on. What is she doing wrong? Is her grandmother correct that she talks to much? A woman was sexually abused by her mother. Is she obligated to explain this to her 16 year-old son? On the Magnum, Dan speaks ...
Jul 07, 2015•50 min•Ep. 454
This week we are delighted to welcome Hillary Frank, host and creator of The Longest Shortest Time podcast, to answer some questions about reclaiming your sex life after pregnancy. Also, a woman tends to date messed-up, and/or addicted guys, because she likes to try to heal them in their “time of darkness.” How can she keep doing all this groovy healing without constantly dating damaged men? A woman’s husband is bisexual. He came out to a friend at their subtly anti-gay church group and the man ...
Jun 30, 2015•53 min•Ep. 453
OMG it’s actual movie star famous guy celebrity JASON SCHWARTZMAN. And guess what? He’s clever, funny and super-nice. He and Dan talk about his new movie The Overnight, swinging, swastika tattoos (spoiler: he’s against them,) controlling mothers, and the famous people you want to sleep with. Don’t miss it. There’s some on the micro, and more on the Magnum. Also, a man’s new boyfriend has the same name of a former abuser of his. How can he get over the horrible association? And, how can an experi...
Jun 23, 2015•54 min•Ep. 452
A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required? A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and bioethics professor Alice Dreger as well as documentarian Liz Canner, who created Orgasm Inc, about the hype and general scumminess surrounding the new “F...
Jun 16, 2015•51 min•Ep. 451
An 18 year-old man and his girlfriend are learning how to get it on. She can make herself come, but he can’t get her there himself. Would a vibrator be such a bad idea? Dan welcomes comedian, writer and actress Ophira Eisenberg (host of NPR’s “Ask Me Another”) to discuss the wisdom of face tattoos and the sexiness of mansplaining. On the Magnum, a family tiptoes around their gay son’s atrocious behavior because they’re afraid he’ll call them homophobic. Hey penis-havers! Do you ever have aftersh...
Jun 09, 2015•56 min•Ep. 450
The complicated nature of abusive relationships: Dan speaks with Seattle author Jason Schmidt about his memoir A List of Things That Didn’t Kill Me, a raw, honest look at the mix of neglect, abuse and fierce love in his own upbringing. You should buy this book, and then read it. Also, a gay man is about to go to drama school at a conservative Christian college. Should he stay in the closet just long enough to graduate and then begin the lifelong project of exacting his revenge? On the Magnum, a ...
Jun 02, 2015•55 min•Ep. 449
Mom has been having an affair for 17 years, and dad just found out about it. How can this beleaguered daughter support both of her parents? A gold star lesbian fell into bed with a man, and discovered that…she liked it. A lot. Now what? On the Magnum, what makes people rat out their friends or family for infidelity? Dan speaks with Dr. Dan Kruger for a “What You Got?” about why people blow the whistle. Also, a woman is dating a man who happily accepts blow jobs, but won’t go down on her because ...
May 26, 2015•54 min•Ep. 448
A woman finds herself in the middle of a poly free-for-all when she falls for a guy who is sleeping with every woman he can get his mitts on. Is this the poly lifestyle, or just a dude with a harem? A woman is nursing a crush on a man she suspects to be gay. Is there any way she can divine the truth? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Andreas Baranowski for a “What You Got” on what happens to women when you take fear out of casual sex in a sexy, sexy laboratory. (Warning! The sound quality in th...
May 19, 2015•50 min•Ep. 447
This week we delight in welcoming the incomparable poet, writer and filmmaker Sherman Alexie. He and Dan discuss white chicks who embrace “Native American spirituality,” how to pretend to be abstinent to placate your psychopathic preacher, and whether it’s creepy to ask your younger girlfriend to call you “daddy.” Sherman is a treasure and this is not to be missed. This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting ...
May 12, 2015•50 min•Ep. 446
Conservatives smile with their mouths. But liberals smile with their eyes. So says social psychologist Andreas Wojcik in a "What You Got" proving once and for all that lefties are happier than right-wingers. A young man suffers from CUNNILINGUS LOCKJAW. Although Dan has never experienced this particular ailment, he nonetheless has some advice to give. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans rights activist Chelsea Poe about straight cis men who are attracted to transwomen. A woman used to cut hersel...
May 05, 2015•51 min•Ep. 445
A priest and a rabbi come onto a podcast… This week Dan welcomes the retired gay Episcopal Bishop of New Hampshire, Gene Robinson, as well as a Rabbi Jeremy Gerber to tackle some thorny religion/sex issues. How should straight men act at gay pride parades? Are facials inherently misogynist? A woman has just discovered that her husband had an affair. But when they finished fighting about it, the sex was hotter than ever! A married man notices that when he and his wife fight, she tends to withhold...
Apr 28, 2015•57 min•Ep. 444
After a long dry spell, a woman's husband is finally going down on her. But his stubble is causing considerable discomfort! Dare she use her words and suggest he take a razor blade to his pretty face? A teen girl in Utah has just discovered feminism. She realizes she has only seen images of passive women on the tee-vee, and worries that she won't know what to do in bed. How can she learn to take an active role? On the Magnum, are you ready to rumble? From our live show in Portland this year, wit...
Apr 21, 2015•51 min•Ep. 443
Can Dan convince a young woman to accept and forgive her father for having a 9-year-long affair with a married woman? Listen in as Dan deftly navigates through the kind of theoretical quandary that only a conservative silly person could present. Dan interviews Laura Anderson about her Slate article covering the history of condoms and why they could be so much better. On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with us, won't you? Dan chats with poly activist and lawyer Diana Adams about the ri...
Apr 14, 2015•53 min•Ep. 442
This week, we are delighted to welcome Dr. Kara Cadwallader from Planned Parenthood to answer a backlog of medical questions about herpes, meningitis, IUDs and the good ole flu. When you cheat and cheat and cheat, is it time to call yourself poly? On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer, journalist, and transgender woman Parker Molloy, about seeking the understanding and acceptance of family members when dating a trans person. And, a gay man wants to try a threeway with a woman included. Does he ha...
Apr 07, 2015•58 min•Ep. 441
