This is one of our all-time favorite shows, people. Dan speaks with Russian journalist Masha Gessen, about the alarming rise of anti-gay oppression in Russia. Is it wrong or unwise to include condoms in erotic fiction? And step aside! On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with the force of nature that is Lea Delaria from Orange is the New Black. They discuss sex with dykes, the dreaded LBD, (Lesbian Bed Death,) why lesbians like to watch gay male porn and Dan's endangered boy pussy. It's ...
Feb 04, 2014•57 min•Ep. 380
A first-time unicorn finds herself alone and naked on the bed, while her couple argue. Should she give them another chance? A woman has lost 180 lbs. If her new lovers knew she used to be so heavy, would they still want her? And how can she forgive them if the answer is no? On the Magnum, Dan and his brother Billy talking about sports? Pinch us, we're dreamin'! A man in the music industry works with a rising star. But, the singer is deeply closeted. Should the man urge his client to come out for...
Jan 28, 2014•52 min•Ep. 379
A man with his dream girl, simply cannot forgive her for cheating on him at the very beginning of their relationship. What is the remedy? "Why do I like older men??!" asks a young gay man, with nearly audible hand-wringing. Boner Pills! Do they work? How? On the Magnum…Dan chats with a scientist working to pit herpes against cancer. (We think they deserve each other…) And, listen in as Dan accuses a woman of being "The sentient stove with agency who keeps burning someone." And a ton more. 206-20...
Jan 21, 2014•51 min•Ep. 378
On this show, Dan welcomes Seth Stephens-Davidowitz from the New York Times to shed some light on how many men are actually gay in the US. A young man sure likes the idea of being gay, but only gets into relationships with women. How can he test his sexuality? On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Jesse Bering, author of Perv, on what percentage of people are truly kinky. Also, a new couple both enjoy swing dancing. But the man is consumed with jealousy. How can he get over it and watch his lady dance...
Jan 14, 2014•49 min•Ep. 377
Red Bull and Vodka makes him last and last and last. But is it the Red Bull or the Vodka? A man and woman want to try a three-way. Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer who specializes in polyamorous families. It's the new frontier. Also, a woman wonders if she has to tell her new boyfriend about her financial troubles, and a straight man wonders how he's going to get laid when everyone thinks he's gay. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to y...
Jan 07, 2014•49 min•Ep. 376
A gal is convinced her good friend is a homo. Should she use her wiles to lure him out of the closet? A lad is good friends with a woman who admitted she has a crush on him. He doesn't feel the same way about her, but knows she would make a great life partner. Should he suggest a companionate marriage from the get-go? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with psychologist and sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto about women's libido, and the need for variety in both genders. Also, some loud neighbors wer...
Dec 31, 2013•49 min•Ep. 375
In this very special "Christmas" episode of the Savage Lovecast, you may detect a theme of problematic families. Bigot uncles, closet cases, intolerant mothers, that sort of thing. However! You get to wash it all down with some Dina Martina at the end, so, there's that. But seriously folks. Happy holidays from all of us at the Savage Lovecast. We hope you find your warmth in a true, loving family, whatever that looks like. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go ...
Dec 24, 2013•48 min•Ep. 374
A gay man and his straight friend find their relationship has changed forever. To find out why, you'll just have to listen. Can porn kill your boner? How to deal with a creep-o co-worker. On the Magnum version, a lesbian is sick of her girlfriend being closeted. But is this specific Christmas the right time to come out to them? Speaking of secrets, a woman works at an abortion clinic. Her husband's family is ultra conservative, and anti-abortion. How long can she keep her job secret from them? 2...
Dec 17, 2013•46 min•Ep. 373
A sexually active woman is slut-shamed by her own roommates in a prudish house intervention. A caller wonders if gay men will pay to be dominated. In the deep South. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with author Emily Maguire about how our culture puts forth the idea that women don't enjoy sex, so men needn't bother making it pleasurable for them. Dreadful, really. And, hear the tale of a woman who had a secret affair with her former high school teacher. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to y...
Dec 10, 2013•45 min•Ep. 372
When attending an orgy, what is the proper etiquette in explaining that you are deathly allergic to beeswax, and therefore cannot kiss anyone for fear one of attendees might have used lip balm? Demi-sexuality: Is it a thing? A woman wonders if she should try to explain birth control to her inexperienced cousin, on her wedding night. Continuing on the Magnums, Dan speaks with Sophia Wallace, creator of "Cliteracy" about her art and her message. And more! 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to yo...
Dec 03, 2013•47 min•Ep. 371
A man and his wife have agreed to divorce. But they have to keep living together for 3 more months. Would it be shabby to start sleeping with the hot gal that lives down the block? An 18 year old girl is engaged to be married to a man who she already knows to be sexually incompatible with her. So what's the problem? Dan chats with Dr. David Sarwer about libido changes following weight-loss surgery. In Magnum-land, a couple embarking on an open relationship disagree on who to tell and how to tell...
Nov 26, 2013•44 min•Ep. 370
Is it selfish to have a vasectomy? Lesbian roller derby sleepover! A lesbian couple are hosting a sleepover for the all-girl roller derby team that they coach. Some of the girls are gay, and coupled. Should the girls all sleep in one big dog pile where they can be monitored, or should the couples have their own private suites? A man who blogs about his dating adventures asks if he is morally obliged to tell his dates that they may be written about. On the Magnum version, what should you tell you...
Nov 19, 2013•49 min•Ep. 369
An erotic masseuse has serviced an estimated 5000 dicks, over the course of 23 years, to support her family. Now what? A gay man engaged to his boyfriend of 7 years tumbled into bed with a woman after getting drunk. His specific question for Dan is "What am I DOING?!" On the Magnum Lovecast this week, Dan chats with Daniel Bergner on foot fetishes and the shame surrounding kinks. Also, Dan works his magic on a woman whose family fears she is possessed by a lesbian demon. And a lot more. 206-201-...
Nov 12, 2013•43 min•Ep. 368
Do bisexuals need a new label? Dan interviews Salon writer Anna Pulley on bi nomenclature. Listen in as Dan convinces a mother to leave her conservative, bigoted church because of their anti-gay views. A poly couple have brought a new lover into the fold. But there's a hitch! He's terrified of vaginas. And so much more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts...
Nov 05, 2013•46 min•Ep. 367
This week Dan talks sex and death with Caitlin Doughty of Ask a Mortician. Spooky! Dan also chats with Dr. Sydnee and Justin McElroy of the Sawbones podcast about "treatments" for STi's in medical history including huffing mercury, injecting liquid silver and squashing anal warts between stones. Also, mummies with crabs. Scary! And, a woman is having premarital sex. That's sex BEFORE she gets married. Her mother feels nothing but horror. Happy Halloween, ghouls. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brou...
Oct 29, 2013•47 min•Ep. 366
Welcome to Season 16 of the Savage Lovecast! This Magnum season has 26 episodes, from October 22 through April 22. Go to www.SavageLovecast.com to get yours. On this week's Magnum, Dan interviews Jesse Bering, author of "Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us." They discuss finding the right porn, spanking, "everysexuals," exhibitionism, and amputee fetishists, all while undergoing an experiment in auto-unerotic asphyxiation. Diapers not included. Also on the Magnum, a woman suspects she was film...
Oct 22, 2013•47 min•Ep. 365
Next week is your chance to get in on the full Magnum season from the very beginning. www.SavageLovecast.com A gay man wonders if he should bring mace to his first date. Dan consoles a woman who feels horribly guilty for blowing a selfish, but scorchingly hot dude. When a lover threatens suicide as a means to prevent a break-up, is this pure manipulation, or a credible threat? Dan speaks with an expert on suicide prevention. On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Dr. Meredith Chivers for a What You Got...
Oct 15, 2013•58 min•Ep. 364
Season 15 approaches! The new season will start on October 22. Be sure to go to www.savagelovecast.com then, to renew or or subscribe for the first time. A maligned man is stigmatized among his social circle for having herpes. A closeted bi woman wonders if she should stop slapping the asses of the rest of the ladies on her team in the showers. Rowwwrrrrr. A 20 year old lesbian has a great relationship…when they see each other. When they communicate online, they rip each other apart. On the Magn...
Oct 08, 2013•47 min•Ep. 363
There's a lot of bisexuality sloshing around this show. Dan speaks with Ellyn Ruthstrom of the Bisexual Resource Center on coming out, and seeking acceptance from both straight and gay folks. A bi woman who is married to a man wonders how to let the world know she's bi, when the topic doesn't come up all that often. On the Magnum show, strap on your bonnets people, it's Simon Doonan, fashion correspondent, window dresser, and generally hilarious human. (We suspect he might be a homosexual.) He a...
Oct 01, 2013•47 min•Ep. 362
Are young ladies allowed to call or "text" unattached, young men to ask for a date? Or would this tarnish a girl's valued reputation? A sex worker wonders if it's ethical for her to fake orgasms with her clients. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with the saintly Carl Siciliano, from NYC's Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youths. (Confidential to homophobic parents everywhere: You don't really want your kid to live on the streets do you? Do you?) A ...
Sep 24, 2013•51 min•Ep. 361
A gay man's truly evil step-mother falsely accused him of sexually assaulting his younger siblings. His father never rose to his defense. Should he forgive his father or cut off ties? Penises, penises, penises. That's all her ex-girlfriend could ever think about! Is Penis Envy a real thing? And now that she's free of this lunatic, does it matter? On the Magnum side, is there such a thing as "legitimate slut-shaming?" Did you know that the United States prison system has recently enacted progress...
Sep 17, 2013•50 min•Ep. 360
Dan speaks with pro-gay rights Christian John Shore about the NALT Project. Non-douchey Christians: here's your chance to speak up. www.NotAllLikeThat.org A woman discovers (through snooping, how else?) that her boyfriend is into cross-dressing. How can she let him know she approves without letting on that she snooped? A man in a sugar mama relationship feels awkward about accepting his lady's largess. You should have such problems. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews Dr. Jeffrey Parsons about...
Sep 10, 2013•52 min•Ep. 359
A man (with a British accent that had the tech-savvy, at-risk youth panting like hound dogs at noon,) likes to cat around town, despite his ostensibly monogamous relationship. (Even the way he says "monogamous" is swoon-worthy.) Can or should he change for his girlfriend? Dan speaks with the venerable Dr. Chu about the rare phenomenon of HIV positive men who have undetectable viral loads. A woman knows a man who is being tossed out of his college for sexual assault. Is she obliged to testify aga...
Sep 03, 2013•51 min•Ep. 358
Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter. In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who p...
Aug 27, 2013•57 min•Ep. 357
"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty? A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people? A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more. Today's episo...
Aug 20, 2013•56 min•Ep. 356
After over a year of dating a woman online that the caller had never met, he is horrified to learn that she isn't at all who she said she was. What now? Bloody lovin': Dan brings on a pointy-headed professor to discuss the taboo against sex with a menstruating woman. On the Magnum version, Dan chats with an expert on when and how to call Child Protective Services. A lesbian who is getting married can't help but notice that her mother was WAY more engaged in her two straight daughters' weddings t...
Aug 13, 2013•46 min•Ep. 355
A straight man has been the recipient of some rather shoddy pegging. Dan sets him on a better course. A woman's older boyfriend insists her gay friends are out to sleep with her. Dan senses dark machinations at work. Are you, a straight woman, obliged to inform your hook-up that his dick stinks to high heaven? On the Magnum version, Dan interviews feminist blogger Amanda Marcotte on the hysteria surrounding female sexuality and hook-up culture on college campuses. A woman is so darned pretty tha...
Aug 06, 2013•43 min•Ep. 354
A woman has become a regular third (unicorn) for a couple's three-ways. They buy her dinner and drinks. Should she get get over feeling like a mooch and just gracefully accept their largess? When he was in first grade, a man recalls a friend who used to roll around with him and kiss him. How normal is this, and when does it tip into molestation? And more. On the Magnum show, the long-suffering Doc Barak weighs in on the ethics of some clumsy doctoring in a Southern small town. A woman tries to s...
Jul 30, 2013•46 min•Ep. 353
Listen in as Dan Savage and Ari Shapiro (fancy-pants White House correspondent for NPR) drink, talk about monogamy and Dan's book, drink, talk about covering the Mitt Romney campaign, something about Dan's son "coming out" as straight, drink, talk and then drink. This all went down on Father's Day at Town Hall in Seattle. It's super fun. Be sure to listen for the ill-timed champagne cork. Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkou...
Jul 23, 2013•49 min•Ep. 352
Her boyfriend wants it every day. She can manage 4-6 times per week but he still berates her for not putting out enough. Who's side will Dan come down on? Here's another gem of a boyfriend: He won't compliment her or show any signs of affection. He hasn't told his friends about her, and won't pay for anything or inconvenience himself in any way. Foreplay? Nope! And yet, our heroine is still smitten. Meanwhile, over at Seattle's gay pride parade, did an angry mob of lesbians brutally attack a kin...
Jul 16, 2013•46 min•Ep. 351
