THIS Behavior ISN'T CUTE & Your Ideal Self IS NOT Doing It...

 This is not cute. It's not cute to have this kind of frantic energy. It's not cute to say you're bad with money.

What is up my fellow dreamers and soul searchers? Welcome to the Roxy Talks Manifestation podcast, your raw, unfiltered and unapologetic source for all things manifestation related. I'm Roxy Lee. And for the last decade, I have been researching and developing my signature 360 method, which combines behavioral science, quantum physics, and the law of attraction to help you manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams.

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What is up my fellow dreamers and soul searchers. Welcome to another episode of the Roxy Talks Manifestation Podcast. Where we discuss exactly how you are going to create the life of your dreams, become the ideal you, step into your next level, whatever it is that you are looking to do in your life. You can do it.

First of all, that's the most important thing to understand is that it's absolutely possible. I 100 percent believe that you can do anything. I don't think that any of our dreams are off limits. I think that Your desires are safe guidance. I believe they were given to you by God or by the universe or by source energy, however you like to call it, and you acting within your desires.

And following through with what is pushing you forward on this planet is actually the way to success. And it's the way that you're going to be the most happy, the most fulfilled, the most successful, the most joyous, the way that you're going to get the best out of this version of humanity. If this was, it's a small world and you're, you're on the boat, this is your ride.

And once the ride's over for you, you can ride again, but you have to ride in a different vessel. And it's a, it's a different trip this time. You're a different person. So you kind of miss out on getting to do the things you were going to do in this vessel. And to me, that's just like unacceptable. I feel like when I, when I remove myself from, from the meat suit and I think about being a conduit of energy and the fact that my soul came here to.

Do what? I don't know. Help the planet during this timeframe on planet earth. When I think about Roxy, the avatar, when I think about Roxy, the vessel, Roxy, the meat suit or whatever, the, the, the, the boat that I'm writing in for this journey through earth, I want to honor her and give her as many experiences that she wants as possible because you know, Roxy has been.

Doing me good this whole time. She's, she's been here for me this whole time. I've gotten to live out the story of Roxy, bring her to life, become her, fall in love with her. Enjoy earth through her eyes and experience what it's like to be a human being through the filter of Roxy and Roxy has desires that she wants.

She has things that she loves so much. There are things that make her so happy and so excited and feel so fulfilling and make her feel so full and just. Like, she's so happy to be on this planet and be doing this, this trip through, through Earth that I want to give her those things. And it makes me really sad to think about it from an outside perspective of all that Roxy's been through.

Her not getting to do some of the stuff that she absolutely wants to do and desires and loves to do and deserves to do. When I take myself out of being Roxy and just look at Roxy from a, an outsider's perspective, All that she's doing, all that she's done, and all that she wants is not, it's not greedy.

It's not selfish. It's just what she loves. It's just what she cares about. It's just what strikes her fancy. And as a human being, she's given an opinion. It's her right to have an opinion and, and she loves whole wholeheartedly, wholly to her core. The stuff that she loves. She absolutely adores what she adores.

And so to imagine going through life all of this time with all of the pain and the suffering that is included on the journey of life to not get to experience. The good stuff, which, you know, is simple things like, you know, seeing movies or being in pink experiences or hanging with animals or floating down a river or touching a giraffe.

You know what I mean? It's like having fun with my friends, helping the world, seeing the world, just laughing and being in joy. That's, that's what I want. And, you know, to make music and to put my, my message out and. Let people change their lives with it. That's not so bad. Why shouldn't I get that stuff?

I've put, I've paid my fucking dues. I've gone through trials and tribulations. I've had my ups and my downs. Right? And so have you. So, we should get every ounce of what we fucking want. It's not too much to ask. It's barely asking anything. It's barely asking anything to simply enjoy yourself while you're here carrying out this mission from God.

You know, when you go on a work trip, they give you a per diem. They're like, Hey, I know you have to be here. You're kind of volunteering. You kind of have to be here. So here's a couple bucks while you're here to enjoy yourself. As you carry out your mission doesn't it doesn't earth doesn't our life feel like a business trip a little bit Hey, you're on earth.

You're carrying out a mission. I know it's not gonna be easy all the time, but here's a per diem You have this thing called joy and you can spend it on literally anything you want Spend your joy on anything you want you more than deserve it because you're you're you're doing more for

So, you more than deserve to spend your per diem on whatever the hell you want. You get your per diem and you deserve to use it however you like. And our per diem is joy. Every day you get some joy and you can use it on whatever you want. And honestly, our joy is unlimited. Our well, maybe not. The joy is limited by how many hours in the day, how, how many hours you're awake.

That's how much joy you're allowed to tap into and you can use it and spend it on anything on planet earth. It's unlimited. That's what you get in exchange for coming here and doing the job of your mission. So you deserve to do all of the things, everything. And if you listen to last week's episode, I definitely suggest you go check it out.

I talked about how to. Find your own perfection and what that looks like, finding your own perfection and leaning into allowing yourself to get everything that you want and not finding that to be weird or like

greedy. Right? Like again, you have your per diem. You're allowed to spend your joy however you want. You can spend your per diem on anything you want because it's yours and everybody gets one everybody on the team gets a per diem and I don't have to worry about how you spend your per diem and I just get to worry about how I spend mine so I can use my joy tickets or whatever my joy dollars on anything I want and I can use them as long as I'm awake.

That's the parameters. I mean, I can use them, you know, I set myself up while I'm sleeping, but basically it's while I'm awake. I get to spend my joy. If I don't spend that money, that per diem, then it's kind of gone for the day. I don't get to respend it. So it's so important, you know, like use your per diem or you're just wasting it.

Use up that, that, that opportunity or you're wasting it.

Here's the thing though, a lot of times we don't let ourselves a. Ask for what we really, really want. We, we, we dumbed down what we want. We numb it. We, we like concede a little bit because we're so used to not getting what we want. We're so used to having to settle that we brace ourselves. We don't even desire what we really desire.

Have you ever realized that, that you actually don't really desire what you really want? You don't let yourself desire what you really, really, really want. Uh, you'll let yourself desire like a 75 percent 80, 80, 75 to 80 percent of what you want. And then what you really want is like locked behind the store of, well, if I could have what I really want.

And it's funny because as a coach, I, I hear this all the time with people. I'm like, tell me what you want. Tell me what you want, what you really, really want. You know what I mean? Like, just tell me what you want so I can help you get it because I'm a manifestation coach and that's my job. My job is not to say, Oh, that's what you want?

Like, Oh, I don't know. Let's try something smaller. That's totally never, ever my, my response. So usually my response is that's what, that's what you want. Like that's what it is really. Cause it sounds like you're settling. That sounds like half of what you want. Well, if I could be, if I could really get what I want, this.

Literally, I have this conversation so much with my clients. It's like, I have to ask twice. I have to get behind door number one. And then there's another secret door where the real desire is hiding. And I'm willing to bet there's another door back there where there's something deeper that you want even more, but you're so afraid that you, how about this?

You're so convinced that you can't get it. You're afraid to even look at what it is. You're afraid to even acknowledge that you want these things. And this is a world of, of replication. So if, if what you want is so far locked away behind the scenes that you can't see it, you won't even let yourself think about it.

You're not going to manifest it, right? You're going to manifest the thing that you're like, well, I guess I could have this. Yeah, this is fine. I guess blah, blah, blah, this thing. Yeah, I guess it could be like this. I'll give a little here. They can give a little there. I'll take a little off the top here.

We're doing, I'm not, I was gonna say we're doing, I want to say you're doing it constantly and I mean that with love. And I just mean that as you know, I talk to so many people and it's just, this is so prevalent. There's just concession and settling going on everywhere. How do you expect to get what you want if you're not willing to acknowledge that you actually want it?

You're lying to yourself about what? You want or what you'll have you're settling and you're saying yeah, this is fine. I guess it's not a lie It's fine, but it's not what you really want And so this is reminding me of my episode you're lying to yourself and it's keeping you broke sad and lonely But seriously go back and listen to that episode too.

So you have to really understand The desire needs to be unlocked and it needs to be allowed because it's not going to be able to replicate in your world if you don't allow yourself to to Acknowledge it if you think it's impossible than it is because this world's replicating your awareness So you need to start becoming aware of the desire unlocking it unlocking that little door Letting it out.

I'm seeing like little Alice in Wonderland doors. Let it out open the doorway and just leave the door open And acknowledge this is what I actually want, because if you just let yourself desire it and then work on allowing yourself to believe your desires are Safe guidance that they're gonna happen that you're allowed to spend your per diem on that desire Then it'll come about right?

So that's the first thing is that you really need to allow yourself to Think it's possible and you need to unlock what you actually want and stop fucking around You don't have time to keep settling for shit. You don't want like what are you fucking doing? You're wasting all of your per diem money You can spend it anywhere if you want to spend your proverbial per diem at Gucci, but you're spending it at Walmart.

Get out of fucking Walmart and take your ass to Gucci and spend it there because this isn't a numbers game. This per diem doesn't have a cap for amount. It has a cap for time. Do you understand? Your daily per diem on earth is not a number. It's not an amount. Like dollars. It's time as in hours. There's only so many, but you can spend it on anything.

You just only have so many hours that you can spend a day. Enjoy on joy, right? So learn how to spend your dollars where you want to be shopping. Okay? Learn how to spend your, your daily per diem of happiness and joy where you actually want to shopping. Stop spending your money at places you don't want to shop energetically and then in them wearing the clothes you hate.

And just being in misery when you could take your little happy ass over to Gucci or whatever and get what you actually want. Okay? So that's number one. Number two, you have got to get out of your own way. You have got to stop doing this stuff that's keeping you back. Okay? So in my meditation the other day, I was speaking to an ideal version of myself and she was basically like, all this, like, loose end shit.

The messery that you're committing over here, like, you know, just kind of letting me know the things where like all of my loose ends, she was like, This is not cute. It's not cute to have this kind of frantic energy. It's not cute to say you're bad with money. I realized I've been saying that I'm bad with money my whole life.

And I just stopped saying you're like three or four days ago. I'm like, Oh, I'm great with money. I'm excellent with money. I'm so good with money. She was like my ideal self. She said you're the people that you want to hang out with your multi millionaires or billionaires They they do not want to be around somebody that has a bad money story that says they're bad with money Do you think billionaires are hanging out with people that are bad with money?

I don't think so they're hanging out with people that have more money than them probably right and so And those people are certainly not carrying around the wounds of their youth and brandishing them all over the place and allowing that story to continue, right? They're not fighting an uphill battle.

Just whatever personally, I've you know, I've been running my business for four years, but it's there's been this underlying difficulty when it comes to the money story because I've been saying I'm bad with money this whole time And so it's making everything so much harder for me when in reality, I'm so good with money And I'm organized, and I'm proactive, and I'm always on time, and I'm always prepared.

Like, I'm realizing having all of these stories, whether or not, and you may know about the diagnosis of ADHD, so part of it is like, I've been existing in this world where, you know, I'm reacting to what's going on in my mind and, and, you know, trying to kind of Again, fight this uphill battle with, with how my brain works.

That's not the, that's not the stance to take. The stance to take is at the top of the, of the hill. Right. I can position myself anywhere that I want. I do not have to position myself at the bottom of the hill. So I am realizing now that it's not just about working on my money mindset. And you know, it's like I'm reading money books every day.

I'm listening to people talk. I'm working on my money story. So I am able obviously to manifest outside of my. history or my, you know, wounds of my past or whatever. But like I said, it's an uphill battle. It's been a struggle. It's been, it's been stressful and strenuous to be, you know, rewriting that story all the time.

Or, or even reacting within the fact that it wasn't re rewritten, right? Even no matter how much work on the money story I'm doing, if I'm actually thinking and believing I'm not good with money, that really negates everything that I'm learning. Like I may understand it, but well, it doesn't work for me because I'm not good at it.

Right? Like that story was keeping me stuck in a way, in a way of. Life in a way of thinking in a way of feeling, reacting within my own trauma, reacting within my own fears. And like my ideal self said, that's not cute. The people that I want to surround myself with, the people that I want to attract, even the clients that I want to work with, I don't want to attract.

More people that aren't good with money that have that definition, right? And so just that thing alone was such an eye opener. I was like, oh my gosh I can't believe I've been saying that this whole time and and my ideal self. It's is right. It's not cute It's not cute to have these loose ends if you really want to operate at the level you say you do if you really want to operate At the level you're manifesting, it's now time come along with your manifestations.

You need to put up or shut up you need to match the vibe and the energy and I'm telling you right now as your Ideal self. I'm not doing that shit. I'm great with money. I'm organized. I'm on time. I'm proactive. I'm ready I'm not running around with that frantic behavior And this is just a side note like I get I'm gonna work on my um what I'm affirming here but punctuality is has always been a strong suit of mine and You know That's all I'm gonna say Something that I'm Um, and I'm so good at it, always have been, I'm always, always, always on time, right?

And so it's just, again, these are some of the things that I've been dealing with that I used to deal with, with the ADH, see, listen, I'm getting, it's getting tangled up here because this is just a side note. Part of me does. honor the diagnosis because of how hard I've been on myself my whole life for things like how punctual I am and things like that.

Um, so I'm, I'm still kind of navigating how I feel and how I choose to discuss it or talk about it if I do. Um, because there is the part of me that's like honoring the

The beating up on myself that I did for so many years, um, it's a forgiveness and it's, it's an allowance to be myself and, you know, to be okay with who I am. Um, but the other part of it is like, okay, but I, I don't want to affirm that anymore. It's okay if that's, you know, cool, like, great. I'm glad that I am okay now and I don't like hate myself for this, but we have to change the story because again, the ideal self, she's not.

Defining herself that way. She's not operating in that behavior. She's not operating that energy. So I want you to think about what is the not cute behavior that you are doing. That your ideal self is absolutely not engaging in, right? Like there is stuff that, you know, you should not be continuing, entertaining, acting within yet you're doing it.

You're allowing yourself to defy. Well, it's just hard for me. I've never been good at that. It doesn't work for me. These things are, and I know you're doing it because I love you so much. And I talk to you all the time. I talk to you and I hear your words and I'm like, Oh yeah, I mean, okay, if you want to say that and you know, obviously it's easy to point it out for other people and it's another thing to see it within yourself.

But this is why we meditate. This is why we talk to our ideal selves so that these things can be illuminated for us. So, if you need to go into meditation to look at these things, please do. You should be meditating every single day. To be really frank, if you're not meditating every day, I don't know what the fuck you're doing.

I don't know how you expect to navigate through this world and get to these higher levels when you're not even tapping into the energy that's going to get you to the higher levels. Like, it's just, it's just, it kind of blows my mind sometimes. Like, there is a fast track to getting where you want to go.

through meditation and that also makes it easier for you to do the first part of what we talked about today, which is enjoy your fucking life because it's one thing to manifest what you want. It's another thing to actually enjoy it when you get it because there are plenty of people who have billions of dollars.

And whatever equivalent that you want in your life of that the highest that you can think of having it all having everything and they're still unhappy because they didn't get the first part right. So getting the first part right, understanding how to spend your joy and actually spending those those joy dollars every day.

Raising your fucking standards, stopping the behavior that is literally preventing you from going to your next level because there's behavior your ideal self is not engaging in and there's behavior your ideal self is engaging in that you're not doing. So if you can make a swap of those 2 of 2 of those behaviors and start doing that every day or every week, you're going to be able to quantum leap.

You're going to see huge changes in yourself and in your reality. Okay, so I want you to give this a try and then I want you to DM me on Instagram or leave a comment on Spotify and let me know how is it going as you are releasing some behaviors that you know damn well that your ideal self is not engaging in and you are beginning to implement behaviors that Your ideal self is engaging in and if you don't know what those behaviors are, meet them in meditation.

Okay, go into meditation and call on your ideal self. This is work that we do a lot in my coaching spaces in my memberships. Um, I have meditations. Um, inside of the BBD club inside of the big beautiful dreams club and inside of synergy that help you connect with your ideal self. Um, big beautiful dreams.

com. If you want to check out that membership, I also give you mindset work to help you go after your big successes, your big dreams, as well as practical applications like the 20 K months masterclass, the monetize your dreams masterclass. And then the October game plan just dropped, and it's all about selling your offers.

And this October game plan was so freaking good, it ended up being so much bigger than I expected. It turned out to be 13 audio recordings. Usually they're like 5, it's like 5 or 6, maybe like 8 at the most. This was 13. So I really um, Talked about selling your products, how to talk about them, how to know your products and really understand your position in the market so that it's easy to sell.

It's easy to talk about what you're offering and you're not feeling like a salesperson. You're actually loving what you're, you're providing for your, your clientele, for your audience, whatever transformation you're giving them, whatever joy you're putting in front of them. Um, so that October game plan just dropped.

It is so freaking good. I might even end up. Making it its own program and just kind of selling it outside of the big beautiful dreams Club But all members have access to it So all synergy members get access to the big beautiful dreams Club and all big beautiful dreams Club members have access to the October game plan So if you're looking for a space that will nurture you as you start your business as you start Building your business up if you're looking to create consistent five figure months.

It's a good spot for you We have community accountability against strategic work and then mindset work again to help you build your business grow your business Monetize your passions make money doing what you love quit your job Do the thing that you're here on this planet to do so big beautiful dreams dot com is the website You also get a monthly Q& A with me.

So it's a good place to get my eyes and ears on your personal situation.

You have the opportunity today to continue on with your day as this current version, taking little tiny sips of joy here and there, if you're lucky. Maybe allowing 2 percent of your day to be spent on joy when it could be 100 and then engaging in behavior You know damn well, your ideal self is not doing the shit that is not cute anymore It's not cute to do that at your highest level and the people that you admire aren't doing that shit Okay, they're doing other stuff instead Remember your ideal self is not more action.

It's different actions. Okay. It's not, you don't have to do more. You need to do different. You need to refine. So go into meditation, do some journaling, do some soul searching, whatever it is, and start figuring out what are some of the things you can stop doing and what can you switch them out for that will.

Really move the needle for you and really get you going into your ideal reality. I'm so excited for you. I cannot wait to hear what you pick up on what you hear from your ideal self. Again, please keep me posted. Keep me in the loop. I love hearing about your wins. I appreciate you so much. We're all raising our vibrations together.

You have the power. I believe in you. I will see you next week.