Obsessing Over Outcomes Is Killing Your Success

When you tap back into that truth, that magic, what feels right to you today? Not what felt right to you five years ago or five months ago. What feels right today? How do you want to show up today? Who do you want to be in your business, in your world, in your life today?

And then owning it and letting that be enough. Not just enough, but letting that be the motherfucking thing. Letting that be the thing that brings you everything you desire. The wealth, the abundance, the joy, the relationships, everything. What is up, my fellow dreamers and soul searchers? Welcome to the Roxy Talks Manifestation Podcast, your raw, unfiltered, and unapologetic source for all things manifestation related.

I'm Roxy Lee, and for the last decade, I have been researching and developing my signature 360 method, which combines behavioral science, quantum physics, and the law of attraction to help you manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. Visit RoxyTalks.com for more info. Now, let's get into it.

What is up, my fellow dreamers and soul searchers? Welcome to another episode of The Roxy Talks, your favorite fucking podcast in the world. And yes, I say it because I'm affirming because that's what we want. We want to... have everything we desire come true. And in order for that to happen, we need to be of it. We need to be about it. We need to be speaking of it, knowing it, trusting it, believing it, saying it out loud.

not being afraid to own it and stand in it and not being afraid also to allow it to unfold. I see a lot of people are really struggling with this idea of Wanting the 3D reality to change so bad and not being able to appreciate and hold the current reality that they've manifested in a way.

that will allow them to move into their next level. So, for example, you start a coaching business, let's say. I have a lot of clients that are manifestation coaches.

It's especially interesting in the manifestation world because we're supposed to know better. You know what I mean? As a manifestation coach, you're the one who knows exactly how to do this and how to create reality. So for you to be dealing with your own struggles, it's like you don't want to... tell anybody you want to keep it hidden behind the scenes and there's all these nuances to allowing yourself to be helped and to get the help that you need so that you can move forward because I think

In general, I mean, as humans, we feel like, you know, we should have it and you should know better. And at this point, you should get it. And if you're in business, like you should totally have a handle on everything. But the truth is like no person has a handle on anything. And we're all just really... figuring it out moment to moment. I see this cycle that people get into with their business and what happens is they'll start a business, they'll start monetizing their...

desires, their crafts, their creations, whatever it is. It doesn't matter if you're a coach, if you sell products, if you are an artist and you're monetizing your creations, if you are a personal brand, if you're an influencer, it doesn't really matter. The idea is that you go into this business and you are so sold on it. You know that you're going to fucking blow it up. You're betting on a wing and a prayer. It's all manifestation. It's all mindset. It's all like infinite belief.

Everything is like, I'm going to fucking do it. I trust in myself. I have nothing to lose. Let's fucking go. And so you create this amazing wave of momentum and bring in. clients and success and opportunity and you're opening doors for yourself and money's coming in and like you're feeling really good and you're growing and things are looking amazing. You're feeling amazing. You're on top of it. You're seeing that validation in your 3D world and you're like, yes, I'm fucking doing it.

And then your old thing comes in. And for everybody, it's different, but it could look something like this. You are expecting that your numbers are going to... continue growing in a certain way. Or you have a really high month and then you have a low month. Or you do a launch and you expect there to be 100 people and two people join. Or you receive some hate online. You get some backlash.

And you start to feel, no matter what it is that happens to you, but you start to feel vulnerable. And all of a sudden, the certainty that you had, that you built your business with, now is like, where the fuck is that? I don't even recognize myself anymore. I don't even remember what it feels like to be that certain of myself, to be that self-assured, to be that like, I don't give a fuck, I'm going to go to the top, to ignore circumstances at that level. How do I even get back there?

And you find yourself paying way too much attention to the numbers and the sales and the followers and the likes and the validation and the views. And is there enough coming in? And you start doing this math of like, well, if this comes in and this comes out, and then will they have enough this?

Like, is this the end? Are things going to turn around forever? Am I going to have to close up shop forever? You start thinking all these crazy things. And pretty soon you... are off of the frequency of possibility and yas me and I'm a fucking genius and I'm the only one and everything goes my way and now you're on the vibe of like oh my gosh and oh no and not enough people are coming in and I thought there'd be more and like why isn't it working anymore and I'm doing a

the things and how come it's not and right you start getting on this path of like it's not working and then you're looking at things you're looking at 3d outcome you're measuring

things that before you just be like, I don't care, whatever. I believe in myself. You would ignore it. You'd ignore those circumstances. But now because there's so much riding on it, people are watching you. Now you have something to lose. Now you've got a taste of the fucking good life. And if it goes away, oh my gosh, what if I lose it all?

I'm a failure. What if people see me fall on my fucking face? What if they were all right? What if they know that I don't fucking have it together? What if they find out? All of these things are going through your mind and it's causing you. It's preventing you, I should say. from doing the thing that would actually make your business soar, which is just showing up unapologetically with absolute certainty in yourself and knowing who you are and just saying the damn thing that you want to say.

doing the damn thing putting the thing out creating things the way that you want not in a fearful place or not from a place of lack or not worried about what other people are thinking or not worried that you're going to have to do it in order to make money or not doing things just so you can make money, but actually doing the things that you care about, the things that you're passionate about.

And so you get stuck in this trap of seeing your 3D outcomes dwindle and go down and numbers go down and less reach and all these things and you're affirming it and you don't know what...

The problem is you're showing up more than ever and you're probably on that hamster wheel. You're probably like showing up too much. You're probably burning yourself out. You're over delivering, trying to like keep more clients or get people. people on or lower your prices so that people will buy. And it's like, that's not the tea and that's not the energy that people want to flock to. People want to flock to the energy of like, I am the fucking one. I don't need you, but I welcome you.

You coming into my world and purchasing is incredible and I love it. And hell yes, let's work together, but I don't need you here. I'm not frantic without you. I'm not worried without you. I'm not going to have a bad day if you don't sign up. I'm not going to stress about how to get more people in because I know I'm the one and I attract them all. I'm already doing things to get more people in. I'm already being magnetic. I'm already knowing and owning exactly who I am.

And so that's what gets people in. That's what draws people to you. That's why people want to watch your videos and to purchase your products and to sign up with you and to pay you for a fucking conversation. Do you understand the magic of that? You are so powerful and so good at what you do people literally hand you money just to fucking talk to you. You have to understand the gravity of that and really accept and appreciate the reality of it.

I'm going to be real here and no shade, but this is the truth. You are not in a place of appreciation, respect, responsibility for what you've created. And that's the energy that's going to push you into the next level. You're blocking your next level of success because you are looking at what you've done and calling it not enough. You're saying it's not good enough. It's not enough. You need more. You don't know why. How come? All of that. It's just replicating in your world.

And it's creating more and more instances for you to feel like you're on the hamster wheel and not getting the reciprocation that you deserve or that you once had or that you never even received. You're seeing other people doing, why the fuck are they getting it? But I can't. What do they got that I don't? What do they know that I don't know? It's none of that. It's not about knowing because you're already doing the things. You already know what to do. It's the energy that you do it with.

It's the certainty that you carry with yourself no matter how things look behind the scenes. Up, down, sideways, inside and out. It doesn't matter, right? That sounds like 360 method. No thoughts off, no days off, no subjects off. No matter what it is, I know who I am. I'm standing in the truth of the desired reality because period. That's it. That's why. Because why? Because I am. Because that's who I am.

Because that's what I am achieving. That's what my life is. It is the thing I said it is. It's nothing that I fear. It's nothing that I worry about. It's the thing I desire and it's the thing I say. That's my life. That's who I am. And so when you are in this space of...

being super attached to the outcome, needing the results to validate you, feeling like you can't move forward, feeling like you can't branch out, feeling like you're stuck doing things you don't want to do, burning yourself out, charging too low of rates. All of this stuff. is a sign that you are not doing, number one, what you actually want to do. You may be in a business that is centered around your desires, but you're not actually delivering your services the way you want to.

at the price point that you desire because you wouldn't be burnt out. You would feel fulfilled. You would feel energized by what you do. You'd be excited to do your stuff. You wouldn't care about the fucking numbers because you do it anyways. But when you're too worried about the numbers, when there's so much on the line and now we have attached, if I don't hit this then, uh-oh, whatever that reason is.

That thing is now going to continue to perpetuate until you decide that's not going to fucking happen. I am the one who does it. I am the one who goes. I'm the one who moves. I've already proven it to myself. The business that I have right now is proof that I will do what it takes. I already know how to do what it takes.

I need to tap into a deeper level of trust, belief, conviction in myself, in my knowing, more authenticity, more me, more joy, more alignment, more fulfillment, more honesty in what I'm doing.

bringing in all of the parts of you that are unseen, that you're not sharing in your business, the quirky parts, the parts that don't feel like they're aligned because you're into 5D chakra healing alignment. And that's what really happens when your fitness clients come into work with you, but you're not sharing that. part because you're afraid that you have to niche so far down that

fitness clients aren't going to be interested in that stuff, but I'm here to tell you they are. They're interested in it because you're interesting. And what you're talking about is unique. And when you can bridge the gap between all of these different genres, instead of niching down and like...

boiling the fucking fun out of all of your business. Let's work together to incorporate all of the pieces, the aspects of your personality and your passions, the things that make you amazing and unique and interesting in real life to your friends, to your family members, to your partners.

the people that fucking love the shit out of you and we put that and infuse it into your business and now you are fulfilled on every front whether you make a dime or not you know you love what you do and you're going to show up regardless and then because you're in that energy Now you start fucking bringing in the money. Now you're turning dimes to fucking dollars.

Now you're back on that frequency of, oh yeah, fuck yeah, me. Yes, I'm the fucking one. Of course, yes, me. Of course, I'm going to be successful. Of course, I'm going to succeed because I'm the one who fucking does it. I'm the one who knows. I'm the one who goes. I'm the one who chooses. So hell yeah, I'm on the path and no matter what.

up, down, left, right, center. If I stumble, I get back up. If things look down, I don't fucking acknowledge it. I know that I am getting there. Or I acknowledge it and say, hell yeah, you're trying and you're getting there. And guess what? What can we do to make it even better?

How can I tap into the energy of somebody that is going to take this and turn it into fucking gold? Who do I have to be today to turn this into gold? And if that's how you approach every single day, then all you're gonna be doing is manifesting more and more gold. And you're going to be fulfilled doing it. And you're going to attract the clients who are just as fucking batshit weird about fifth dimension chakra healing as they are about fitness. Those are your people.

Those are your people. And so do not be afraid to share your truth. Do not be afraid to actually tap into what makes you happy and what makes you feel magical and aligned because that's where you were at the beginning of your business. You didn't have anything to lose. And so you were just...

doing what felt right. When you tap back into that truth, that magic, what feels right to you today, not what felt right to you five years ago or five months ago. What feels right today? How do you want to show up today? Who do you want to be in your business, in your world, in your life today?

And then owning it and letting that be enough. Not just enough, but letting that be the motherfucking thing. Letting that be the thing that brings you everything you desire. The wealth, the abundance, the joy, the relationships, everything. You being authentically. unabashedly, obnoxiously you.

Loving every moment of your day as much as possible and showing up in your business as if every day is a fucking gift because it is, bitch, right? That's why we're in this spot because we're not treating it like the gift it is. We're not recognizing how much you've actually.

done do you realize how incredible you are? So that is the energy. That is the energy that is going to move you out of feeling like you're trapped by your own fucking manifestations and into the next level over and over again.

If you want my help with this, this is the work I'm doing with my clients inside of the 360 room. I also can dive deep with you in one-on-ones to help you refine your business, your lifestyle and your mindset in every area to unlock a new dimension of wealth, success, impact.

influence on the planet. You have so much to give. There are so many amazing aspects of yourself. Let's stop hiding the juice and all the goodness behind, I have to do this in order to make money, boring, blah, blah, the shit that doesn't bring you. the impact and wealth that you desire. And let's refocus, redirect, refine.

Everything that you're doing to serve you in the highest, to serve your clients in the highest, and to make the best and biggest impact this world has ever fucking seen. You are incredible. I am here to help you. Leave a legacy of your genius all over the planet as big and far and wide as you desire. That is what I'm here for when you are ready to step into this motherfucking energy and own who you are and bring in the wealth.

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