[00:00:00] If you want your mirror to reflect commitment. Then you must be committed to yourself.
What is up? My fellow dreamers and soul searchers. Welcome to the Roxy talks manifests. Station podcast, your raw, unfiltered and unapologetic source, all things manifestation related. I'm Roxy Lee. And for the last decade, I have been researching and developing by signature three 60 method, which combines behavioral science, quantum physics.
And the law of attraction to help you manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. Visit Roxy talks.com for more info. Now let's get into it.
[00:01:00] What is up my fellow dreamers and soul searchers. Welcome to another episode of. The Roxy ducks of manifestation podcast where we discuss manifestation, what else? Right. Well, really anything we want because it's our reality. It's my reality. And you know what I mean? Like it's just going to be good either way.
So. I feel like I can be open and creative and express myself and not be tied down. And I don't know why I just said that it just decided to come out of my mouth. So there you go. If anybody's looking for a permission to be creative or authentic to themselves, you just got it. So. That actually has nothing to do with what I'm talking about today too.
So I really don't know where that came from, [00:02:00] but, um, maybe it's just my own dealings with myself is just making, making promises to myself to make sure that I am, uh, putting my own personal needs first and making sure that I don't fall into the habit of forgetting myself and forgetting how to make myself happy.
And actually, you know what, that does go to what we're talking about today. So
anyway, so I wanted to talk about manifesting engagement because it is, well, you could either call it it's Valentine or it's February and Valentine's month. We've also heard it called singles awareness month. So if you have a partner, if you don't, if you're somewhere in between. This definitely will help you because we're not just talking about rings on fingers.
No, like I just want to get married. I just want to [00:03:00] be engaged. I just want the ring already, you know, like I hear that a lot and you know, so if that's you, it's okay. You're not alone. We're not calling you out. Definitely. A lot of people out there kind of feeling the same way, but. You know, I just like my message to that always is, is like, you don't want engagement.
You want what comes with engagement, you know, because if you wanted engagement than any old person would do, if all you wanted was to be engaged, then you could probably just, well, they would not walk down the street right now, but you could go online and easily find somebody that's, you know, also looking if that didn't matter, then it wouldn't matter.
Right. But it does. And you know, even in the term of manifesting a specific person might not always be a specific person. Sometimes it's an exact person. Sometimes it's an exact version of an exact person, but either way, [00:04:00] the idea is that we are bringing about somebody or something that fits into our idea of ideal and perfect.
So you don't just want any old person, you want the person you want the right person, you want the right situation. So being engaged, that, that level of commitment, you know, I just, I see so many people just like yearning for it, you know, like they're just like out here killing themselves, being depressed all the time.
You know, just like worrying their life away, worrying their life force away, right? Like their will to fucking live sometimes. And it's not about anything except creating the environment that you want to [00:05:00] experience now. Because you don't want engagement. You want what comes with engagement you want, what engagement represents and provides you and your life commitment.
Devotion, security, connection, longevity, assurance, safety, peace, trust, stability. That's what engagement means.
What you are looking for and not just that, but you know, all of that with the right person, right. Because you know, marriage is long, I've been married for almost seven and a half years, been together for about 12. And luckily we like each other. You know, luckily we like to be around each other cause that's a long time to be with someone.
So it, you know, it just keeps going where we're just in our thirties, you know, and hopefully we have many, many, many, many, many, many years [00:06:00] more are left. So, you know, it's not just all of those things I named also. It's, it's all of that with somebody that you connect with, get along with enjoy, have, you know, an intimate spark and connection with.
And you're looking for all of that. You're looking for that in a person, your, your perfect partner to be invested in you and your relationship. That's what engagement stands for. And again, I see so many of my one-on-one clients and members of our community talking about. You know how bad they want that engagement so they can get married so they can do the whole family thing.
Right? Like that's the whole angles, like I just want to have a family. I just want to do that. I just want to, they just want to get there so bad. Cause they're there they're painfully not there. [00:07:00] Right? Cause that's what it's screaming on. The other end is like, well, You want to get there so bad cause you obviously aren't there and that's the issue.
And that's why we, you know, they, everybody, we, all of us keep manifesting more of what we don't want because we're screaming out to the universe, the world internally, maybe sometimes externally, I don't have what I fucking want, you know? So. This idea of the family, the family thing, the commitment, the, the, the connection.
That's what it's about. Again, it's about the trust. It's about the commitment. It's about the loyalty. It's about the devotion, the longevity, and the trust. It's about the feelings and the experiences that you're seeking from engagement. And those are the same. Feelings that family and commitment provide, right.
It's all kind of falling under the same roof. So [00:08:00] this just kind of further illustrates that the goal here is the connection, right? It's it's that bond. It's not the ring. It's not the significance of the ring. It's not the title of fiance or any other title, or even the recognition from the outside world world or the people in your life.
It is the presence and the acceptance of the feelings that we talked about earlier, right? The commitment, devotion, security, connection, longevity, assurance, safety, peace trust. It sounds like a fucking car insurance commercial. The general can get you. So, you know, like, That's where we need to focus. We need to talk about allowing, allowing in commitment, devotion, trust stability.
Now in order to see it reflected in the outer world, right? We know the world's [00:09:00] Amir and mirrors can only reflect what you put in front of him. That's it. That's the one thing about Amir, like, it'll show you anything that you put in front of it, but it'll only show you what you put in front of it. So if you want your mirror to reflect commitment, then you must be committed to yourself.
Be committed to your story. Be committed to the reality that you're selecting and moving towards. By being authentic to it, by being authentic to that version of yourself, meaning that you are acting as if,
if you want commitment and dedication to be reflected in your 3d world, then you commit and you dedicate yourself to your own happiness and your own wellbeing. By [00:10:00] making your own happiness and your own wellbeing, a priority in your life.
Like I said, I'm married, I've been married for a long time, been with my husband for a while. And I just, today, just today had a fucking breakdown in the shower about figuring out how to bring happiness into my life and like, You know, like I know that I'm not alone. I'm not the only person that I've talked to recently.
It's talked about crying in the shower. Right. So like, it fucking happens, man. Like we're humans. And a lot of times I feel like, you know, we're operating with this manifestation of world. Like you had to keep going with the positive and you got to tell the story. And like, even I that's what I preach all the time, but sometimes man, like you gotta, you gotta hit that bottom so you can bounce back up and.
The only way we can change the direction we're [00:11:00] heading. If it's not the right direction, is to recognize that we're going in the right the wrong direction. You know, we need to acknowledge it and then we can turn the ship around. So when you commit yourself to making your own happiness a priority again, because again, you could be happily married for.
Nearly a decade and still have a breakdown in the shower about how do I make myself, how do I bring happiness into my, my little life that I just work away every single day? Right? Like, that's my little, my little story, but we're not going to from that actually. Cause our life is great. It's full of abundance and fun and love.
And I love my life and I'm having so much fun every single day and that's true. Okay. So. Well, the thing is, is like, once you, once you start to build that happiness within yourself, cause you're going to have to, even if you're married, right. That's what I'm trying to say is like even a happily married person has to figure out how to make themselves happy.
Okay. So when you do that, though, it will naturally spill out into your relationship and [00:12:00] into your 3d world, which will allow you to allow yourself to be elevated and cared for in a way that's more conducive to what you want. And we're just going to begin taking these notions of, of what it means to be committed and devoted and, and have that, that longevity and insecurity in our lives.
And we're going to focus it on ourselves so that we can reflect it in our outer world. So if you want assurance and safety in your relationship, Then we're going to be working safety, trust and security into your affirmations. I am safe. I am cared for. I'm always taking care of my life is secure. I'm secure.
My relationship is secure. I feel good. I'm not worried about anything. We're all good to go here, stuff like that. And then, you know, more importantly, equally, importantly, if not more, [00:13:00] also be sure that you are. Providing yourself that security and safety, you know, this, the security and the safety that you're craving.
You need to be providing it to yourself by not re victimizing yourself with your same old habits and allowance of unwanted shit in your mind and in your life. Okay. You need to be your own security. You're not looking for other people to provide that for us. Okay. And I've used this analogy before in my videos, in my coaching, but think of yourself as a bouncer and your mind is a nightclub and we have a very strict dress code here.
Okay. It's all pink jumpsuits to get the fuck out. That's it. There's no dishonor, either meaningful somewhere else. I don't give a fuck, but for in here, you wearing the pink jumpsuit. Cause that's our dress code. And if I catch you in here not wearing the dress code, you need to go, [00:14:00] you can go home and change and come back in the proper attire.
But if you're inside this building, you will wear what I have set is the appropriate. Rule for what we got going on. Okay. So it's the same thing with your thoughts? This means that only the pre-approved thoughts, the ones that align with the chosen narrative are allowed to stay in your mind. And if you catch them in there, you must bounce them out.
Just like a bouncer. Would it a club that somebody who wasn't following the rules? I don't care if you're well-intentioned you're not following the rules. Get out. Until you can follow the rules, then you can come back in, but not until that moment, otherwise get out. Okay. So we must make sure that we are not swirling in and, and like dredging up all of the pain and the hurt and the fear and the worry, because you are recreating it in your own world.
[00:15:00] And I'm not saying that there aren't things to be fearful or worried about, but if you indulge in them and allow them to, when they continue to permeate your life, and there is no other way around it, if you want security and stability in your life, you have to provide it for yourself by being stable with your thinking and your focus and secure in what you allow to go down in your own mind, which you have.
Control over. Okay. So do the securing and the locking down for yourself, pay attention to what leads to the things that you don't want. What thoughts line up or match up to if you were playing the matching game, what thoughts do I think normally, or was I thinking before that looked like, or could line up to, or match up to this thing?
In my reality that I'm not so fond of [00:16:00] self-diagnosis and just pay attention and then do what you gotta do to rewrite that shit and not let yourself dwell there. Right? It's like, Even me again, I had a moment today, but I got out of it. Thankfully, my husband helped, I don't want to take credit away from him, but he definitely helped.
Sometimes I need a pep talk too, and now I'm having a much better day. And, you know, I did have that sense of like the arrow being pulled back that thing, or like, you know, bouncing, hitting the bottom so you can bounce back up and just. Recognizing like where I'm actually at and how I'm actually feeling and you know, what's happening.
And then working to change that, not letting myself continue to tell that story because then it's on me. Right. Once I'm aware, then it's my, my duty to myself to not let that definition [00:17:00] of my life continue. So again, going off of that, then, you know, if you want peace and loyalty in your life, Peace in my life for sure is something that I'm working on.
Then you want to be loyal to creating the peace in your life. Meditate, go for walks, do yoga pet dogs, do shit that soothes your soul and commit yourself to it. Do stuff that fills your cup back up. If it's, if your cup runneth over, then do something, that'll pour it out. And if your cup is empty from too much pouring, then do something, that'll fill it up.
Okay. And you know, this is, we're talking behavior here, but we also make sure, you know, obviously we want to make sure that we are using the language to rewrite the story and make sure that we're not continuing to fall into that old trap. [00:18:00] And I actually just talked about this like two weeks ago, um, on the podcast.
So you can. You know, go check that episode out. If you want to know more about rewriting yourself or rewriting your specific person to reflect the reality you want to go to. Um, also, I'll just take this moment to mention, I just put out a brand new free master class. Um, it's five secrets you need to know to expertly manifest a specific person.
You can send it for that at my website, Roxy talks.com. Um, and it is designed to help you catch these areas where you might be slipping so that you can get your relationship on track. And also, you know, this is for anyone who's in a relationship already. Um, even if you're getting, if you're celebrating single's awareness, um, And even if you are like not needing romantic relationship help or whatever, you know, it is really good info for just interacting with people and your world in general.
So the info is universal. You can check that out. It's completely free at my website, Roxy talks.com. [00:19:00] You can sign up now for this week's segment of dear Roxy. We had two questions that were. Similar or kind of piggybacking off of each other. And then I also wanted to give some, some stuff to the people who are not.
You know, looking at SP kind of stuff or, you know, specific person we're not looking at relationships. Um, so, you know, they still can get some value here outside of relationship stuff. So, um, these two questions were perfect and kind of just like helps us talk about like this idea of consistency and showing up for yourself.
So dear Roxy, first question is how, um, how do you not lose your manifestation once you get it? Or also asked, how do you keep your manifestation? Right. So what we need to do is make sure that you are persisting in the new story persisting in the, not just the new story, but the new reality, because. It's really important that we don't slip back into the old ways [00:20:00] because sometimes, like, I don't know if it happens for you guys.
Well, that's not true. I know it happens. Do you guys, you guys told me, but for me, like, I definitely have times where like, I'll get really good at it. Really. I'm so good at manifesting. And then I start slacking cause I'm like, Oh, I got this. But then. You know, just like if I was working out, if I stopped working out, I wouldn't just keep my fucking toned body.
That's the day I start losing my muscle. Right. So it's the same with your manifestations. And like, you really just got to let me take that back. It's not the same with your manifestations, but it's the same with your mindset. And it's the same with your reality. Like once you pick your reality, you can get there in an instant.
But the thing is, is like you're always moving and shifting in and out of reality. So you have to. Offer a constant and steady stream of, um, you know, potential realities that look enough, like each other, that you can't tell the difference when you're going to and from them. So that's why it's really, you know, it's like, if there is infinite realities, whatever out there, there's only, you know, 7 billion people.
There's only like, You know, seven [00:21:00] continents. There's only so many hours in a day versus like the infinite multitude of the fucking universes. So like come on flavors. So, you know, if you really think about like, I always, I just like to seek these, like these, like the like grouping things together, like, you know, we only have like 15 emotions, but we have 60,000 thoughts a day.
There's my dogs. That's the mango she's whopping. So, you know, While we're kind of experiencing emotions all day, even if it's just apathy or just like neutrality the emotions, you only have so many, but we have so many thoughts. So it's like a ton of different thoughts are going to be funneled into, you know, just one emotion.
Right? So it's like the same with like, I, I think about the universe, same kind of ideas that there's a ton of, of like so many that we can't even fathom. Like, uh, you know, realities out there for us as humans on earth, but there's only so much that earth can offer. So it's like, you know, a ton of them would filter in or fall under the [00:22:00] same kind of like, so relating this back to the emotions, let's say sad, right?
Sad is an emotion that can have so many different thoughts attached to it. But sad is this, we know sad, sad feels sad. It feels one way, it feels sad. Why are you sad? I don't know this thing, that thing I saw this commercial, you know what I'm saying? It's like so many thoughts and attributes can be, um, given or put on sad, but sad is just sad, right?
Like there's only so much you can do with the emotion because there's only, so we have a range of emotion and then there's a range. It has a beginning, beginning and an end, right? There's there's only so much there. It's finite is my point versus the infinite or nearly infinite number of, um, realities versus, uh, you know, possibilities on earth.
Or we could say that, you know, the thousands and thousands of thoughts versus the amount of emotions that, that could be really now that was like, [00:23:00] I hope that wasn't super out. Of left field. I just was trying to explain like how in my mind I see it as these like things, funnily it's like funnel, right?
It's a funnel, it's a fucking funnel. So I was like fucking funnel. Okay. So you guys know what a funnel is. Thank you. So a funnel, right? So if they're in near infinite possibilities out there, Funneled into the finite amount of possibilities on planet earth. So meaning that a reality where you are living your best life, you're in your best body.
You love yourself. You're happy every day, your money's all, it doesn't even fucking matter. You don't even worry about it. You just do what you love every single day. You're completely taking care of everybody in your life is happy. You have the best relationship ever, and you just, things are just getting better every single day.
That reality is not only valid. It's also probably got like fucking trillions of versions of it. So there's no shortage of versions of your ideal reality that you can get to, but you need to offer [00:24:00] a signal that is steady, that coincides with those realities and you got, you know, steady, just not that right.
I said, Adam, where do you need to re offer a signal that matches those realities as. Steady as you fucking can you are a beacon. Think about it. A lighthouse like that, the light always shines the boats come to it. Same with your realities. Okay. So like you must offer the overall funneled idea, notion of your ideal reality consistently.
In order to continue to move into realities that match up to it. Right? So like that's part of it. And this is a long way of answering that one part, but then also. You also need to be moving your story forward. So back to the original question, which was how not delusion your manifestations, once you get it, it's [00:25:00] persist in your new chosen reality of ideal blah, blah, blah, everything obviously, and also move your game piece forward on the board, right?
Like . If we're thinking about monopoly, you're never going to get to Broadway and park place. If you keep your shit on Baltic Avenue, right? Like I just see someone like rolling the dice, rolling the dice, rolling the dice, rolling the dice, but never moving their game piece forward. Like you can, you can have the dice gets you to the fucking Broadway fucking space in the quickest, shortest amount of roles possible.
But if you don't move the game piece along with it, there's no point. So. You gotta move your shit along with it. You need to bring it forward. So if you get your manifestation, you have to change your story. Now we're still choosing the reality that we want to be in. Happy, healthy, whole everything.
Everything's perfect. But the story of what's going on in your current year [00:26:00] narration in your mind that needs to be brought forward to reflect the forward thinking. Right? Cause if you get to the place where you're affirming, yeah. We're going to have healthful relationship. Everything's great.
Everything's great. Let's say you get your person to come through and you start dating and that's fine, but you don't. Talk about longevity and commitment and the next steps of the relationship and move yourself forward and move your thinking forward. Outside of the, got to manifest this person energy, then you kind of stay trapped in this manifesting this person, energy, which you already have done that even now you've already manifested the person.
You just don't realize it yet. So you have to move again, move your game piece along, update the story to reflect the next milestone. Move your story forward and stay focused on the new reality. And that's how you keep your manifestation or you avoid losing it. Once you get it, watch out for the old thinking that pushes things away, fears of it, leaving worries about when it's going to go away.
Is [00:27:00] there somebody better? Could there be somebody better than they actually like you? Are they like you, all of that kind of bullshit. That's the stuff you want to avoid. Okay. So part two of dear Roxy. How do you have faith in your abilities after you've manifested in lost so many times? Right. So going off of this last question, like, what if you lose it again?
When, if you've manifested it and you keep losing it, it comes back and then you keep losing it. So, whatever I just said before, all of that, to do that first, that's part of it, for sure. We're piggy-backing um, you know, again, Watching out and being on the lookout for the thoughts, behaviors, and reactions that further affirm or validate your fear of losing whatever it is we're talking about.
Because we know again, at the end of the day, it's the belief, the fear, the worry, the expectation, the insecurity of not being able to hold on to what you want, that causes it to slip through your [00:28:00] fingers. So, you know, this is a pattern. And in order to change a pattern, you have to create a pattern interrupt.
That's science, that's a science. I mean, okay. This means we're no longer allowing ourselves to soak up our fears about anything, especially about this thing. We must shut down that thinking and replace it with affirmations that describe something else. Anything else that's better. Pre-approved stuff that matches the content.
We're allowing the pink jumpsuit type thoughts, things like I am powerful. I can do this. I can have anything I want, even if I did lose it, who cares? I'll just manifest it back again. So what. What is there to lose? Couldn't lose it. If I tried, everything's responding to me anyways. And now that I'm offering signals that affirm security and trust in my abilities and gratitude for everything I do have in my life.
That's what I'm going to get. And that's what I'm going to experience and see [00:29:00] in my life world. So you'll know longer. Keep losing your manifestations because you won't allow for the language. Of loss and worry and the behavior that matches it to permeate your mind and your life. And that's how we change, bitch.
I love you guys so much, so.
Dedicate yourself to yourself, dedicate yourself to yourself, do it, do it, tell me, see how it goes. You deserve it. Okay. You are so deserving of all of you love and attention and focus on yourself. Like if you're going to give it to anybody, give it to you. And then that's the best way to see that love and focus reflected back in your world.
So there's it's, it's a win-win Oh, wait. Who was it? Was it Lewis house or was it Kyle cease? It was an interview between Kyle CSUN Lewis housing. I think it was Kyle cease said a win-win win. Yeah. I'm pretty [00:30:00] sure it said win-win good for me. Good for you. Good for the greater good. Right. And I love that because my whole mantra, businesses booming, I'm helping millions of people.
I'm helping me. I'm helping you. And we're helping the world at large. That's what we do here at Roxy talk. So I really just want to say thank you to everybody in the community. Thank you to everybody. Everybody is so kind to each other. Everybody is so supportive. I see you guys creating bonds and friendships with each other and being there for each other.
And I just want to just applaud you little baby applaud and just say thank you for just being so kind and respectful towards each other and yourselves, you know, it's really nice to see. Love and peace and graciousness on the internet. So I do want to thank you. Thank everybody who listens. If you do enjoy the podcast and you're on Apple, go ahead and give us a review.
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Expertly five secrets that you need to know. And, um, so that's available at my website as well. And of course you can join my Facebook group, black moon society, and I've got really fun announcements coming soon so I can stay tuned. And thank you so much for being here. I appreciate you. We are all raising our vibrations together.
You have the power I believe in you. [00:32:00]