Have you ever been asked to ‘spot’ for someone when they’re doing rope bondage? Here Fox and Mya discuss what it means to spot, what does and doesn’t work well, what can go wrong, and some of their personal experiences. Fox also shares his ‘must-have’ condition he needs to be met if he’s going to be a spotter. In the episode, you can learn the difference between having an audience and having spotters, the one case when you *must* have a spotter, and why it’s not just bottoms who might need spott...
Aug 13, 2018•37 min
Fox shares his rope erotica piece on slave Rouge’s first suspension.
Jul 30, 2018•12 min
*Heads up: This episode contains discussion of CNC elements in rope.* ChristianRed is a rope educator who has led the Nottingham, UK, Rope Group for three years, as well as teaching at various events in Europe. He has a broad rope background, but we chat to him about his expertise in takedown and restraint in rope, an area which isn’t taught by many due to the skills needed for that level of expertise. Christian has studied, competed in and coached martial arts for most of his life. Christian li...
Jul 16, 2018•35 min
Rope at parties! For some, this might be their first experience of watching rope, and for others, they might want to try it in a public place. In this episode we examine the topic from plenty of angles. Learn why Mya did her first rope scene at a party, hear about a number of the rope scenes Fox and Mya have either done or watched at parties, and learn the type of rope that Fox and Mya do sometimes that clears a room at parties. Fox and Mya also discuss: How you might connect with others at part...
Jul 02, 2018•38 min
Belle is a rope switch and rope bondage instructor who has also produced a range of wonderful instructional videos and writings on topics such as ‘Bottoming for the Body You Have’, ‘How to Connect’ as well as many ties. Fox and Mya talk with her, and Belle shares: her rope journey; how sex and rope connect for her; how she developed her understanding of what connection is, and how varied that is with her different rope partners; how the style of rope she likes as a top is different from the styl...
Jun 18, 2018•35 min
Do you have a strategy to manage rope drop? Fox and Mya have both experienced this as a top and bottom in rope respectively, and share their experiences and suggestions on the topic. They also discuss: what rope drop might look like, the ‘science’ of rope drop (such as it is); how a top can tell their rope bottom might be dropping; differences in rope drop for tops and bottoms; how you might want to address rope drop; and Mya gives one piece of advice on drop that surprises Fox!
Jun 04, 2018•30 min
Listener Sam from Chiang Mai, Thailand, wants to try crotch rope, and asked for some advice in this area. We discuss: what this type of rope consists of; good knot placement and spots to avoid; the fun - and less so fun, according to Mya! - consequences of crotch rope; and a number of ways that you could use it in a scene depending on your scene goal.
May 21, 2018•22 min
Riah is an American presenter and demo bottom for a variety of subjects, including non-monogamy and BDSM subjects, and of course, rope. Fox and Mya picked her brains about some more unusual topics, such as tying yourself to your partner, and building a human playground. She discusses: how rope has helped her to manage her anxiety; accessing her emotions through rope; her first ever scene as a rope top; how she’s used scening to process different events in the past; where power exchange fits in r...
May 06, 2018•43 min
Do you have a bias around how you think rope is seen by non-ropey people? The last time Mya went back to the UK, she had a bit of cold shower when she shared her rope kink with some friends and family. Learn about the ‘false consensus effect’, and how it applies us in rope - and the perception of others. We talk about several examples of rope out there in the world, including journalism, art and fashion, legal cases, documentaries and music videos (many many links in the Fet writing). We also to...
Apr 23, 2018•36 min
Your first rope scene can feel like a big deal - you’ve been waiting a long time for this, and you’re finally ready - but where are you going to do it? Fox and Mya discuss the context you might want to do your first rope scene in, and the pros and cons of different situations, such as a semi-public party or rope jam, versus private. They talk about their own first scenes, and you can learn why Mya did her first rope scene at a kink party rather than privately, despite the fact she’s an introvert...
Apr 09, 2018•28 min
Your first rope scene can be one of the most risky points in your rope career. Fox and Mya review what bottoms and tops needs to do in preparation for their first scene, touching on safety, consent, boundaries, contingencies and risks, and some of the practicalities just before you rope (spoiler alert: don’t forget to pee beforehand is one!). We discuss: what you might need to know about your tying partner; what to wear; whether you need sex involved; locations you might want to have your first ...
Mar 26, 2018•24 min
Rope journals can be a great way to record, track, reflect and understand your rope practice. We share why you might want to do this, and the benefits it can bring. We also discuss the quite different style and content we put into our journals, and also (with permission) share ideas from a handful of other rope enthusiasts which come at rope journals from different angles again. Also, hear how Scuba diving inspires Fox’s rope journal, and how Mya tries to get round her limited artistic talents i...
Mar 11, 2018•24 min
Creating a dynamic, powerful rope scene can be challenging when you’re a beginner (or even for some who’ve been doing it a while, coming up with new ways to include rope in scenes can be tough). A listener writes to us to ask for ideas. We discuss: Does what you tie matter? What are bottoms seeking? Is rope an accessory to play, or play in itself? How can you make the tie more meaningful? Fox shares several unusual ways to frame rope practice as a scene, and Mya shares the kind of reactions you ...
Feb 26, 2018•26 min
After the success of Fox’s rope erotica piece, in episode 6, Mya reads one of her erotica stories from the perspective of a rope bottom. Called ‘Damsel in Distress’, it describes some recent rope bondage play she and Fox did together to create a photo for the Ropepodcast Patreon.
Feb 12, 2018•28 min
What are your duties and responsibilities in rope to yourself, and you tying partner? A listener writes in with this question, and Fox and Mya discuss four key areas: • Responsibilities of the top to themself • To the bottom • Responsibilities of the bottom to themself • Responsibilities of the bottom to the top They discuss some controversial issues, including aftercare for tops, consent and tops feeling like a ‘rope dispenser’. We ask you: Do you agree with the perspectives discussed? What wou...
Jan 29, 2018•37 min
Aftercare is a critical part of a rope scene, but there are a million ways to do it. Fox and Mya explore what it is, why it’s important, different aspects that might be relevant in different situations, and share their preferred ways of experiencing and giving it, as well as plenty of other ideas for what might suit different people. They also share some personality differences they had to work through around their different aftercare preferences to keep them both happy and well after their rope...
Jan 15, 2018•28 min
Would Austin, Texas, be a good place to go rope tourist? What’s the scene there like from an outsider’s perspective? Find out in this episode where Mya is a flying bunny, and checks out a couple of local rope groups while she attends a work conference. She shares how she found Riggers to tie with, what the differences were between other communities she’s tied in, and some logistical considerations (oh, and find out what kinky souvenir she brought home for Fox!).
Dec 31, 2017•22 min
Where does pain fit in terms of rope? Do we want it? Not want it? As edge play, pain can give us some pretty important signals in rope. So are there some types of pain we seek out? How do we know what types of pain to avoid and what are okay to try and bear? We talk about types of pain in rope, how bottoms can more effectively handle pain, some ideas of how to add (the right kind) of pain to scenes, and how rope tops can help their bottoms handle pain and achieve more challenging ties. In the ep...
Dec 18, 2017•39 min
Heard much rope erotica? No? Us either. We try something a little bit different, and Fox reads some of his rope erotica. We're curious what you will think - would you like to hear from episodes like this? Tell us in the comments!
Dec 05, 2017•13 min
Want to do rope but have no-one to tie with? Fox and Mya discuss the different ways (at least five!) to find a partner, whether you’re a Rigger or a Bottom. They also discuss the kinds of rope partner you can have, or the contexts in which you might want one, how to think about your requirements (and something important people often forget), as well as what kinds of things you might want to chat to potential partners about.
Nov 20, 2017•27 min
This weave tie works as well for interesting bedroom bondage as it does for a full inversion suspension. We discuss how to do it (see photos on our fet handle RopePodcast), what it feels like, the risks and safety elements, and we share some scenes that we’ve used it in (including one that made Mya go ‘weeeeee!’).
Nov 07, 2017•22 min
How to ‘rope tourist’ in the UK - Mya travels a lot, and she shares her recent adventures in the UK where she attended two jams, a workshop and a social as a rope tourist bottom. Rigger Fox asks her questions about what she got up to, how she found a Rigger to tie with for the events, and crucial information you might need to know if you were going to rope tourist in the UK yourself. Links to stuffs we mention can be found on our Fetlife page in the "Writing" for this episode.
Oct 16, 2017•26 min
Key advice for beginners on rope bondage; suggestions on rope care; negotiation advice; the difference in a tie between too tight and secure; why specific terminology is important, and Rigger Fox and rope bottom Mya’s favourite aspects of rope play. Oda from Michigan had a lot of questions for us, and we answer them all!
Oct 04, 2017•31 min
Rope bondage gear - what do you need? Rigger Fox and rope bottom Mya discuss the contents of their respective rope bags (yes, bottoms need gear too!), and talk about the reasons for different items and how they use them in their rope bondage play.
Oct 04, 2017•29 min
No idea what rope bondage is? Intrigued but nervous? Get an understanding of what rope bondage is, the different reasons people do it (it might not be what you think!), some critical safety advice and why consent is vital when you play. Rigger Fox and rope bottom Mya provide perspectives from both sides of the rope in this introductory episode to the Rope Podcast - we suggest all listeners check this out before diving into the rest of the episodes.
Oct 04, 2017•42 min
