¶ Parenting Styles
Welcome to the Rock Solid Families Podcast . This is Merle Hutchinson being joined by my wife , rock Solid partner , linda Hutchinson . Hello Linda , how are you today ?
Rock Solid partner . You are like a rock like a rock .
There you go . What does that have ?
to do with what we're talking about today .
I've got a question for you .
Okay .
What kind of parent are you After the turbulent weeks we've had ? What kind of parent are you ?
ask our kids , see what they say . Our teenagers you feel like this is a setup this is a setup , because if they listen to it they'll be like ha ha , ha ha . So what's my options ?
uh , okay , so I'm sure you're setting me up here . I am a permissive , neglectful gentle .
I like how your voice changes , Guilty authoritarian or authoritative ?
That's a bunch . I know it is . Which one are you ?
And those last two I always mix up . I always have to think very carefully before I say them . Well , I don't think my kids would say I'm gentle or permissive , I don't think I'm neglectful , I'm kind of doing you know , they would probably not say I'm very gentle .
Are you guilty ?
No , I've gotten , no , I'm not Because I've I've seen some guilty come out of you and some parenting . Give me an example .
After you've come down hard and then all of a sudden you want to back pedal out of it a little bit , I'm like you need to keep the screws tight here .
But coming down hard , I would say more . I would say I'm probably , when I'm not in check , I'm more the authoritarian , the yeller , the yeah .
What about you ? I'm the perfect one , I'm the authoritative one .
Is that what we're shooting for ? The authoritative ?
Yeah , that's well . First off , I appreciate your honesty . I think probably , before we go too much farther there , the idea we are going to talk about what kind of parent are you referring mostly to the parenting styles , and it's like everything you know , it's not like a cookie cutter . You're this way and it's the only way you are .
Most of us kind of meld in and out , based off of circumstances and moods and all these other things . But um , I would say um , I do have a a strong bend towards authoritative , but when I'm frustrated I get into the authoritarian .
I get it .
uh , you know where I'll raise my voice and I , uh I , have been known to make some um declarations of , of threat that I can't back up , and so those are authoritarian , you know , and it's based on , they're emotionally driven . So yeah .
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Let's see , we got a couple of announcements . We are we are not offering families rock the parenting class in the month of september in the month of september . So just so you know , we've been announcing that on a regular basis that the last week of the month typically we offer our families rock parenting class .
But the month of september we are taking that month off and we will reengage in October the last Saturday in October .
So the next class , the Families Rock class , which we talk about the styles of parenting in that class , is October 26 . It's a Saturday morning from 830 to 12 at the Lawrenceburg Firehouse . So mark your calendar now . We'll just have a couple more before the end of the year , so get it calendar now .
We'll just have a couple more before the end of the year , so get it in now . And it's a great co-parenting class or a single parenting class , or if you're , you and your husband or wife are not on the same page , this is a great class to go to . To try to get to that . What is the healthy style of parenting ?
That is going to be one uniting us as mom and dad and also the best healthy option for our kids .
Yeah , hey , so we are going to go through these different parenting styles and , um , I nobody starts a parenting style or the parenting in general with the intention to cause harm or to fail , but sometimes we don't recognize what our driving force is like what are the values that we're going to parent under and what's our why , you know ?
And sometimes , if our why is , well , I just want my kids to like me . Well that's going to put you in a totally different parenting style than a parent who says , well , I want my kids to someday be a well-adjusted adult , you know , whatever . So we're going to unpack these , but I think part of this hunt is to try to move past .
Many of these styles that we're going to talk about have had their life cycle and we've seen what's happened from them . So maybe in the 1980s or 90s , when this was being introduced , maybe one of these styles that we talk about .
When it was being introduced , it probably sounded like a great idea , but now it's got some life history behind it , yeah , and we get to see well , how did that turn out right ? How's that working for you ? So we will talk about that .
Actually , we'll talk about what we see in our office , not specific cases or families , but just like trends of parenting styles that we see and the outcomes from those .
This is by no means like no one's going to be perfect at this thing , right , and so we do this for a living and we still struggle in our own home , because we are all humans and emotions get tied into this , emotions get tied into this .
So , anyway , but we want to definitely have a better approach that we're going to become more aware of and train ourself up and like okay , if this is a better way , then how ? What does it look like ? I want to practice it .
Yeah , and I think you need to recognize that your style of parenting has a lot of to do with the influences and the factors that have kind of played into your life , for example , how you were raised . Right , sometimes we are going to do what we saw and sometimes we want to go the exact opposite .
Maybe you had a controlling home , so now you're very permissive home . It also depends on your personality . If you're a laid back personality , you're really not going to get stuck in the weeds with things or kind of follow up with things . Then maybe your style of parenting is going to be more of a permissive parenting . Maybe it's what you want for your kids .
Maybe you want that child that is like the , you know follows in line and is going to be that rule follower and that you know soldier in the army kind of thing . And so your vision for your kids , what are ? Some others ?
Well , I mean , I think something that we get to deal with all the time is your parent status , in terms of whether you are a married , single , divorced , you know whatever it is Like .
I mean , if you have mom and dad in the home and everybody's thinking and operating from the same foundation , it's a whole lot different than if you have mom and dad in separate homes and have two different ways of living life . And so that marital status means a lot to governing your parenting style .
And you mentioned foundation , and it also depends on what is your faith foundation . Are you kind of navigating with some kind of value system , faith foundation where you're going to go to God's word , or are you just going to go off the side , you know , fly off the seat of your pants and do whatever feels good , you know ?
So a foundation of faith or values is important and the last one that we're going to bring up here .
Like it or not , we are emotional creatures as much as physical and spiritual , and so moods and emotions play a large , large role into how you're parenting in the moment , and so we're not asking you to get rid of your mood or emotion . What we're asking you to do is are you aware of it ? Do you realize what it's actually doing with how you're parenting ?
So those are going to be the big things that we tackle , and hopefully we can help you steer through them .
Yeah .
So I want to give you a little acronym for that mood thing , hun , because we see this with anything , with whether or not how we parent , or how we respond to our spouse , or how we show up at work , and I use that acronym HALTS , okay , halts H-A-L-T , and so when you find yourself HALTS with an S in one of these situations , okay , one H is hungry , okay
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That's bad . Yeah , you're not going to make good decisions .
A is angry . You know , did they just wreck your car ? Did they just show up late ? You know you're probably going to parent out of an emotion there . A or L is lonely . So if you are a single parent and you're desperate for somebody or you want that your child to be your best friend because you don't have one lonely , kind of put you in a bad place .
T is tired Okay . So if you work third shift and your child comes to you about something and you're ready to go to bed , tired is probably going to give you an emotional response . And then the S is stress . What's the level of stress ? And it might not have anything to do with your child or your parenting situation .
But if there's outside stress maybe there's a health issue , maybe there's bankruptcy or whatever you're going to parent differently than if you are at level-headed and your emotions are in check . So just remember halts .
Yeah , all right . So we're going to walk through each of these . We're going to try to give you an example and the good and the bad of each one . Do yourself a favor , get yourself a little pencil or paper and kind of score yourself on these . Listen , I can find myself in each one of these at any given moment .
So the idea here is trying to get rid of some of the bad and take on more of the good .
These are the six common ones you've been hearing , and there's been a couple that have kind of rose to the top lately . We'll kind of identify , yeah , so here they are .
It is we mentioned them before permissive parenting , neglectful parenting , gentle parenting , I add , actually guilty parenting . I'm not sure if I coined that phrase , but I've used it a long time , because I saw it in the schools many , many years ago Authoritarian parenting and authoritative . So those are going to be the ones we walk through .
Maybe start us off a little bit with when you think of permissive parenting . What does that look like to you ?
What do you see when we Usually , like I said , it came from the extreme opposite of what you saw growing up , and so maybe you had maybe abuse in your home or control in your home , and so in your mind you're not going to do that with your kids and so you kind of let them run rampant , do what they want right Right .
No rules , you know they'll figure it out
¶ Impact of Different Parenting Styles
. I hear that a lot , you know , just very lenient , whatever they want .
Um uh , yeah , it just uh parents are a lot of times .
Either they're tired or they're too distracted with other things , or they just have that laid back attitude . But permissive parenting doesn't end well uh , some examples that some really simple examples that you see .
These would be the parents that seldom have a bad , a bad time . They could be the neglectful , but a lot of times it's like well , if you're not tired , honey , you don't have to go to sleep . It could be the ones who say well , if you don't want to eat what we're having for dinner can ? I get you .
So it's that whole giving into whatever the child wants to make them happy in the moment .
Their phone , their phone . You give them a phone . There's no rules , there's no limits , you're just kind of like you know , hey , they'll figure it out . You know , I did , I figured it out . And so this permissive parenting hun , what's the impact that that has ?
yeah , so guys , just so you know , like these are actually the , the impact results that we see when we see excessive permissive parenting . We see kids that lack self-control , right they ? Another word to think . I always put this word in self-discipline discipline , right ?
So there's not the discipline going on , so they never learned to self-discipline , so they don't learn to regulate themselves well , whatever they want , they want and they just think it's well , it's natural .
And you think that it would be the opposite . You'd think that they would learn self-control if no one's controlling them . But we've got to model that , and we talked about seasons of parenting In the leadership season , which is that 3 to 12-ish kind of age , we've got to lead through modeling and we've got to show them . This is the limit .
We don't stay up all night , we don't eat whatever we want , and so we brush our teeth right . And if we don't show them , they don't really know what to go by .
Yeah , yeah . With certain kids , hon , you might think , wow , permissive , that's great , I get to do whatever I want . That paralyzes some kids . That's like going to McDonald's and saying you can have anything you want on the menu and one kid might go that's cool , and they go through quickly and they figure it out . Other kids are paralyzed .
They're like I don't even know where to begin and so decision making anxiety from having to make decisions because they don't want to make a mistake . And so with certain kids , permissive parenting actually can be debilitating .
You know , I think of it as going up a mountaintop , OK , with no guardrails .
Right .
And how anxious you feel when you're taking those tight curves and there is this cliff on the other side . That's kind of what you're doing with permissive there's no guardrails .
Right .
There's no limits , and so it builds anxiety and insecurity because they really don't know what should they be doing , and so it creates more anxiety . Mom and dad , more than you think with permissiveness , yeah .
Let's move on to neglectful parenting .
Yeah .
Right . So neglectful parenting right . So neglectful parenting is exactly as you think it sounds . These are just uninvolved parents , detached . Oftentimes you think of this as a dad who's left the family and not involved at all . Right , but it could be parents who are actually in the home , but they're still neglectful . They're busy doing their own thing , right ?
Their work schedule dictates , their hobbies dictate their interests . All of these things are way more important , and so they just don't put a lot of time in and investing in their own kids . So it's a little bit like all the kids will figure it out , like you saw with the permissive , but it's just being very disengaged .
Yeah , it's not even really intentional , it's more because I can't handle it . A lot of times these are addiction issues , mental health issues . Maybe mom is bipolar , or dad's schizophrenic , or mom's an alcoholic or dad is an addict , and so because of that , they're kind of just left to fend for themselves . And again , what's the impact with that hon ?
Yeah , Well , a lot of times you will see these kids . The teacher will spot them pretty quickly , the teacher in the classroom setting , because they'll see that this kid might be a little bit unkept physically , but this will be the kid who doesn't get homework finished , that forgets to bring a lot of things in , that just is always disshuffled .
And it's really because you know when , especially when the kids are young , they need a little bit of that guidance . Hey , do you have my mom ?
books , papers , lunches , monies and whatnot Do you kids ?
have everything together before you walk out the door and so it just takes a little bit of that and that neglectful parent that kid's there to fend for himself . Some kids will bring it up and do it Like . Some kids will be like , well , no one ever did it for me , so I have to do it .
But the majority of the kids will actually find himself becoming very anxious , oftentimes having anxiety issues as they get older drug issues .
Yeah , sometimes they're drinking and smoking weed with their parents .
Yeah , it's just how they can kind of soothe the anxiety that has reared up in them .
Yeah , and so again , that extreme of neglectful parenting would be abusive . Okay , whether it be because they're totally leaving their child at age two to go the gambling boat or whatever . So obviously there's extremes to all of these , but the extreme neglectful obviously would be claimed abusive .
Yeah .
So let's talk about gentle parenting Gentle parenting , this just sounds like it should be so good .
I don't know exactly when gentle parenting started being thrown around as a phrase . I would say we've heard it more in the last 10 years . You and I have talked before . We've seen the roots of this go back probably 30 or so years , and this just sounds good on its surface . This is that idea of you're loving , you're supportive , you discipline only through .
You wouldn't even use the word discipline . You would correct and direct only in the positive .
So you don't use terms like no's and negatives .
Right , honey ? Is there a better way to hit your ?
little brother in the face . It's all carrots and no sticks .
It's all carrots and no sticks is the way we would like to put that , and so it sounds good on its surface , but I've always gone back to the idea of God gave us pain receptors and pleasure receptors for a reason , and both of them are very , very powerful teaching tools .
And when we just say we're going to stay in the pleasure receptors , we really lose a great opportunity . Because here's the bottom line Life is going to use both of those .
No one's going to save you from the pain in life , and so it's very important that you don't get stuck just in gentle parenting and we're not talking about stick as in beating the child , okay , necessarily , stick is kind of just a reference of consequences , right Pain . So whether it be timeouts or grounding or anything like that , it could be involved spanking .
We're not saying you can't , I'm saying that we need to do it in the right way and the right time . But gentle parenting would say none of that is okay , not even saying no .
¶ Parenting Approaches and Their Consequences
So , what's the impact , hon , of just strictly doing gentle parenting ?
Initially you will see kids appear very secure , peaceful , like it's all good until the ship starts to rock . In other words , until things don't go their way , and so that's why this can be a little bit misleading , like we'll see this kid being seem like , oh , they're just a really good kid , everything's good .
But they will be that way because really we've taken away all of the bumps in the road until life just starts to put bumps in your road .
And so , um , initially you're going to see kids that seem to be doing pretty well , but then , when they finally had to make a decision on what they're going to major in in school , or they're going to study for a big test and they failed the test , like how well they can actually own the hurt of that and get through it .
So , um , and this is where you'll start to see anxiety kick back up , You'll actually see yourself as the parent , having to come and soothe them or rescue them or rescue them past an appropriate age and time to do that . So the next thing you know , you know your kid's 30 years old and you're still holding their hand because they're not able to do it .
Yeah , and this is also where we see a lot of folks really adhere to the family bed where they could be 6 , 7 , 8 , 9 , 10 years old and they're still sleeping with mom and dad or laying in their room because you know you don't want to have them go back to bed . They're scared or they're you know they don't want to .
And so , again , it's not just the permissiveness , it's the gentleness of loving . It sounds so good , but we actually are creating more anxiety because we don't help our kids stand on their own two feet and be able to handle adversity and struggles and pain . And no's , because they're going to come .
They're going to come from life right and school and coaches and work . And so , mom and dad , please . It sounds so good but it definitely sets our kids up for failure and for anxiety and feeling insecure that they can't do it on their own . Yeah , and it's all carrots , it's all rewards and no consequences .
Let's move to the next style , and this would be what we refer to as guilty parenting . Generally speaking , we think of guilty parenting , or the one that we most often see .
It is when we have a divorce situation and rather than the two parents coming together and saying , okay , even though we're divorced , how are we going to come together to make sure our kid has kind of an equal understanding of values and disciplines and those kinds of measures ?
And so , um , when we have this guilty parenting , one parent feels bad about the situation their kid is in , and so they tend to be more permissive . Uh , they , they let things slide that they wouldn't if they were in a regular two-parent family . A little bit more indulgent .
Listen , when I'm with dad , he doesn't make me go to bed on time or any time you know . So we overindulge , we give more permission because we feel bad about the situation .
that we put the kids in , yeah , and again you could be coming out of the same home . But you mentioned guilty parenting for me a little bit .
You know , our three youngest came from the foster care system , and so there are times where I feel bad for their situation and what they've been through , and so sometimes I would make decisions out of feeling guilty for them or feeling responsible that you know I'm scarring them or whatever , and so we got to be careful that we raise children um and make
decisions based on what's best for them , not how that makes us feel or how that makes them feel , it's what's the best healthy option for them .
¶ Psychological Effects of Parenting Styles
A little caveat to guilty parenting . We talked about it being with divorce , but we've also seen it in situations where there could be illness in the family . Maybe you have a kid who you know they were diagnosed with cancer when they were young and so you went through the long , hard battle and finally your kid is healthy .
And now you feel bad that they missed out on everything and you you know you've overindulged them with , whether material things or attention or whatever . You've overindulged them with whether material things or attention or whatever , and it feels right in the moment to help get that kid through that difficult time .
But you got to start to recognize , well , what's this doing for the long haul ? Or a spouse or another child was sick and so you feel guilty that you're not there . Even two parent home or working parents have felt this guilty parenting like , oh my gosh , I was gone all day . They're in child care so , yeah , they can eat ice cream for dinner every night .
So , whatever that is and whatever that reason behind your decision , please make sure it's not done out of guilt .
Yeah , let's move on to the next one . So the next one is one that you and I see a lot , and this would be the one that both you and I have found to be in our repertoire of things .
We have fallen into , grew up in yeah , and this is the authoritarian , authoritarian parenting , and so the authoritarian , I think , one word that I would give you to allow you to quickly kind of assimilate what that is in your head is dictator , right , and so this is that non benevolent that just like because I said so .
So you tend to see a lot of heavy rules that are set , lots of threats tends to be with I'll even use the word yelling or screaming , cursing these kinds of things . So there's almost a meanness to it . Okay , but what lacks is there's not very good and proper enforcement , right , it's sporadic , it's more mood based .
So there's a lot of yelling and screaming up front , a lot of these empty threats , and it doesn't take long for the kid to start to realize . You know , you used to scare me but , now I know that you're not going to follow through .
Yeah , yeah , and so the authoritarian um is a lot of yelling a lot of threats , like you mentioned , and , um , I saw that in my mom a little bit , but I also had a dad that was authoritative , and so when it's combined with something , it can be kind of you know , um , controlled , but this is um you want is you want to scare them .
You want to scare them into doing the right thing , and what happens is they just get sneakier , and so we don't want that either , and so I have fallen into this . I have fallen into this where you know it's my way or the highway , and because I want that control .
I'm a big control person , and so letting go of control is very hard for me , and allowing children to have natural consequences for their decision is really hard for me . So that's where I need to get better .
Well , this would be hon , like you and I both felt guilty because you don't want your kid in a bad place , and so you talk them to death . You talk like , maybe if I just say it one more time they'll finally get it , and they just aren't right .
And so , rather than continuing to talk like maybe if I just say it one more time they'll finally get it , and they just aren't right . And so , rather than continuing to talk it , we really just need to set the stage for what we expect and then allow the natural consequences to happen with our enforcing of those consequences .
And so the authoritarian really does not want bad things to happen , but they're just so scared . They're scared of how they're going to hold up , they're scared for the kid that they they almost in this desperation you can feel it in their voice Like you , just like I don't know what else I can say to you . You've got to do this .
You're like , uh , this isn't working .
So the impact could be children raised by authoritarian parents have become rebellious , withdrawn or even aggressive and angry . Right , they could struggle with self-esteem and social skills , and so you don't want to raise that kind of child that are scared of you or they just kind of get kind of rebel against you .
We want to finally follow into this last category and we're saving the best for last , because we feel and the research tells us that , full of grace , full of truth , right To not do just carrot or just stick , because I would say authoritarian is more just the stick , right .
The threat of the stick . The threat of the stick .
So again , we're not talking about hitting people with a stick , we're talking about consequences . So we got to have a balance . It's depending on age especially , too , like a three-year-old versus a 13-year-old . You're going to go a little bit heavier on one end versus the other . So let's talk about the authoritative parenting style .
Yeah so the authoritative , they set clear expectations . Okay , and the only way you can set a clear expectation is if you've already created the vision for where you're going .
And so , by the nature of being authoritative , you are a good natural leader , okay , and so you have a vision for where you want to go , in this case , where you want to take the family as a parent Okay , so you've set these expectations , you provide the pathway for the kids to get there .
So , hey , you know , if you do this and this , this is what's going to get you here , right , and so you , you help them , you encourage them , right , um , you , you want them to be independent , in other words . So I'm not going to go hold your hand .
I think of this on a lot of times with our , our kids doing homework where we have parents who basically end up doing all of the kids homework because , um , the kid doesn't want to do it , and so these they don't want to see him fail . They don't want to see him fail , right .
But an authoritative parent says , hey , listen , buddy , what do you have for homework today ? Let's go through . We'll do a couple review problems , all right . And so , all right , you know what you're supposed to do .
I'll be back in 20 minutes and then we can correct it or grade it or check it or whatever we need to do , but you're going to walk on your own , all right , I'm just going to be there as a supporting cast member .
Yeah , hebrews 12 , verses 10 through 11 , says God disciplines us for our good , in order that we may share in his holiness . No discipline seems pleasant at the time , but painful later on . However , it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it . This is biblical people , god tells us over and over again .
There's also a verse in proverbs that talks about that too is that the one to spare the rod ?
yeah yeah , which we've talked about before . Like again , so often , we get words or scripture that's just taken totally out of context . You know , um that particular scripture , let me find it . It says who this is a 1324 , whoever spares the rod hates his son , but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him . And the idea there is .
You , uh , you get those positive affirmations , those positive reinforcements when those are what it's called for , but you also allow your kid to experience the natural consequences for their bad decisions , for their mistakes that they've made . But you don't just leave the kid hanging there , right ? You don't just beat the kid , right .
You don't just spank the kid , you don't just give the kid a consequence and let them hang there . Through that you actually then okay . So what did we learn ?
from this . What's the better way going forward ? Yeah , and so what you happens ? The impact with children who are raised by authoritative parents . They seem well-adjusted , confident , successful . They're able to handle hard things right . The first storm doesn't take them out .
That's right , and they're not .
You know . You might have heard of snowflakes . We're creating snowflakes . You might have heard of snowplow parenting . You know bulldozing , where we just kind of take out any obstacle in their way . They're more likely to have strong self-esteem because they've overcome difficulties on their own .
They find themselves having good social skills because you've stepped back and allowed them to kind of lead the way and they have this academic achievement . That is them , not you .
I remember my mom actually read books for me and did book reports because I didn't like to read and so she kind of like tried to save me , she rescued me and it didn't help me build my confidence in reading . I felt like she kind of stepped in there . Yeah , yeah .
So you know , at the end of the day , guys , we are through our work . We see authoritative parenting as being the number one way that we're trying to grasp hold of and practice . We also know that the research indicates and shows that to be true .
So what we would say to this guys is first off , recognize what you tend towards , right , recognize what you tend towards . Linda and I both kind of sacrificed our own in front of you . We said , well , we tend towards , not as much grace as truth .
Yeah , the authoritarian , and a lot of that has to do with just our own fears , our own insecurities , maybe what we were brought up with , all these things . But if I know where I tend to , then I can start to see okay , what do I need to redirect . So I'll go back to the idea of gentle parenting .
Not all of the attributes of gentle parenting are bad right . Like there's positive reinforcement there there's encouragement those aren't bad right . Like there's positive reinforcement there there's encouragement , those aren't bad right .
It's just that if that's the only thing that's used , then we actually give our kids a very , very jaded sort of way of how life comes about . So we're trying to actually say , okay , what's the best way moving forward so that my kid has a well-rounded upbringing in terms of how they're going to handle life .
Again , I mentioned it before but Jesus came on this earth full of grace , full of truth . He modeled for us how to do both , how to have those rewards and that encouragement , but also those consequences and hard things . And so let's do that .
Let's go out and be that model for our kids and other parents and really honestly find ourselves not having to rescue or jump in , but to equip our kids so that they can live these well-ad . The one right .
He was the leader , he was the truth right , and so he didn't have to yell it and scream it and threaten people with it . He would basically say well , here's what's going to happen .
And he would lay out the path .
And then he always gave the free will of people to say you make your choice right , but this is how things are going to actually take place . So I just think you know he's the perfect example of how we are to parent our own kids , and we're not going to be perfect at it , but he is what we're shooting for in terms of the high bar .
So hopefully this helps . If you are a parent and you're struggling with one of the other styles that has not been working for you , reach out to us at rocksolidfamiliesorg . We have a contact button there you can reach out that way . You can find us on social media Facebook , instagram , linkedin , all of those places .
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We get tired , we get frustrated , but that's where grace comes in and . God loves us and walks alongside us , so if there's anything that we can do to help , please reach out .
Hun , something came to mind as you were just talking . Like you said , if your way is not working , I want to put a little note on that . Based off of where you are in the time frame , the season of your parenting , you may believe that your parenting style is working .
But we want to mark out like , if you are really into the gentle parenting and you're doing this with a third or fourth or a three or four or five year old , it may , on its surface , seem to be working . What we're trying to get you to realize is that understand .
This is the reason why we told you what the impacts are going to be , what what it's going to , the outcome is going to be . So now is the time to start the shift into understanding what else you need to bring in besides just that gentle parenting .
So it might be working right now but it doesn't mean it's going to and we've done the seasons of parenting . Might even want to Google or search for us on the seasons of parenting , cause we talked about that in another podcast on our style of parenting and not our style . But but what we do in the parenting realm has to change based on their age .
The season that they're in , the season that they're in , so hopefully that helps .
Again , reach out to us if you need any help at rocksolidfamiliesorg , or you can call 812-576-7625 .
All right . We also want to thank Maxwell Construction , casey's Outdoor Solutions and the Hoosier Ice House for being sponsors of the Rock Solid Families podcast . I think that's all we've got .
So thank you so much for listening to the Rock Solid Families podcast . Building a stronger community , one family at a time .
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