Why Is There So Much Fear Around Setting Boundaries?
Episode description
Boundaries are hard for everybody! It doesn't matter the age range. Kamini has seen it in both young teenagers and adults who are later in life. There is so much fear around setting boundaries. But why is there such a fear around this? From an evolutionary perspective, we weren’t necessarily designed to have boundaries. We’re not truly built to stand within our own self-expression.
Remember, if we stood out too much, it meant we were outcast and thrown out of the tribe! No one wants that. Today, as we’ve lived more in the modern world, if you feel like you’re not able to set boundaries, it might mean that somewhere along the way in your family dynamics you were given a message that it was not safe to set boundaries.
If you really dig deep, you have no boundaries because you have fear. By setting too strong of a boundary, we might feel like we’re excluding people from loving us. However, we need to begin to parent ourselves from an adult perspective so that we can show up fully authentic without compromising on our own needs and desires.
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