Why do High-Achievers Experience So Much Reactive Abuse?
Episode description
High-achievers tend to have a tendency to be people pleasers and perfectionists, which can create a common pattern of being sucked into highly abusive and/or toxic relationships. When a relationship becomes so toxic, the victim or survivor might take on very aggressive traits and even become toxic and abusive themselves. This is what’s called reactive abuse. Why does this happen and how does it happen in the first place?
This is actually a very selective tactic from the abusive person to put it on you for being completely crazy for your very normal reaction to their abuse. They want to make you seem like the problem and that they are immune to any wrongdoing. This ends up creating a weird dynamic between abuser and victim where the line for abuse doesn’t always seem so clear.
When someone undergoes extensive emotional abuse, they might hit an emotional limit where they end up completely losing it and react in a way that is not healthy. It can be damaging to whoever might be in their line of fire. Yes, while it is considered abuse, we have to look at the overall context in this and determine who is really the ‘toxic one’, and then create steps to proactively step away from the environment that is making us crazy and react horribly.
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