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Singling Out Sologamy with Ridiculous News

Sep 21, 20221 hr 23 min
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The Ridicuverse is merging! We're mingling with the funniest duo in current events: Mark Kendall and Bill Worley of Ridiculous News! Together we're tackling sologamy: the act of marrying yourself. Is this another trendy attention grab, or a daring act of self-love? Tune in to learn all about these mirrored matrimonies!

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Hey, everybody, welcome back to the show. I'm Eli, I'm Diana, and we have a very exciting episode today, one of the most top tier, top tier episodes, unlike all our other trashy episodes. Yeah, now, yeah, yeah, I'll skip all those come straight to this one. This is where it all starts, episodes, and this is where look. We found that in the Japanese city of Kyoto, a travel agency made headlines with some truly ridiculous news about romance. So we had to call him the experts and we have

with us here today. Are Very, very excited that we have the hosts of ridiculous news, Mark Kendall and Bill Warley. Welcome to the show, guys. Oh Man, is so exciting to be here. Big Fan of the show ridiculous romance. I love listening to you all. Uh, love the love, the love, the vibe, and so very excited to get a chance to join those vibes. Very exciting. Yeah, thank you all so much for having us all the way from the other ridiculous studio, I mean so many ridiculous

studios all packed in all share. You know, I run into you all when we we were popcorn. Every once in a a while but yeah, it's so nice to be on here, big fans. That breaker gets crowded, does just a bunch of ridiculous people being well, we talked about the ridiculous universe all the time on our show, but I feel like there's just a couple, two or three listeners we have that might not be very familiar with ridiculous news. So will you please tell us about your

show and yourselves? Absolutely all right. So ridiculous news. It's a podcast in the ridiculous universe. We put out two episodes a week and we try to do our best to talk about the news or lines that are interesting to us without bumming out too much, because we realize that news can sometimes be a downer. So every every Monday we put out a deep dive episode, and so that's kind of like a deep dive into, uh, any particular topic or type of story that we want to

give a little bit more time and attention. So, for example, you know, we recently did a deep dive about potato chips and potato chips. So we talked about different potato chips. Why is there so much air in the bags? We dive into that, you know, of course, just like we talked about a lawsuit where pringles were trying not to be considered a potato chip so they could benefit from some tax breaks, going to be like a health food

or something. I'll listen to the episode or will also like take that time to bring in a guest and talk to them about something that they're really interested in. So one I really enjoyed was we talked with Indian child's WHO's a dancer and choreographer here in Atlanta, where we're based, talking to them about dance dances the as a way of protesting and things like that. So I got to talk to them about their craft, their work, and so that's like an example of a deep dive episode.

Then every Thursday we do what's called a weekly roundup episode. So we'll take, uh, big stories or small stories or ridiculous stories, stories you may have missed and try to uh,

you know, put that into one tightly packed episode. Yeah, yeah, so like the deep dive, we talked about potato chips, which with the weekly round up there might be more current story, like the fact that they removed five Doritos per bag because of inflation, and you know, and and see all those all these things going on and by taking out five Doritos per bag there after actually saving

fifty million dollars per year, which is just my mind blowing. Um. So, yeah, there's just a cool fifty just for those five chips. And how many saturated fats are they saving? Me? Right, that's question. How much that bad am I missing out on?

It's good for your brain. Um. Yeah, we'll have guests on those episodes two and usually those will be like comedy friends and people that can riff with us on those different stories and, like mark said, we try to, you know, keep it from the you know, the wild and funny, to the deep and hidden to the absolutely ridiculous, but we also like to talk about some stuff that's a little bit more seriously close to our hearts. Sometimes to hear funny tim percent gets you in the gut. Yeah,

I like those. Ratio that. Yeah, that's a good Ra something close to that here, I hope. I was just thinking. I was like we more again him in the gut. Nine episodes about people who have sex with aliens and then one about, you know, a couple that escaped the holocaustic and very funny stuff, hilarious. Balance. It's all about the balance. Um, but you guys also, I'm just gonna go out and plug the hell out of here, because you guys also are some of the funniest people in Atlanta.

Just your videos that you make, the content you all put out is so good. Yes, they make some really great videos for fair fight Georgia. So if you're in Georgia and you care about voter registration, watch them. They are so fun. I Love Them. You know, flattery will get you absolutely everywhere, so we appreciate that very much. And Yeah, yeah, New Georgia Project, fair count we we've done a lot of fun stuff and that really thank

you all so much. That's so nice to say. And I have talked about fringe on here before, so I'll say mark also did some fringe stuff with us this year. So it was a good get for me. It's a real get. Well, such a it's such a fun festival

every year in the Atlanta fringe. I feel like it's it's just really great one for the way y'all showcase Um Atlanta talent, but just every year you'll do such a great job of bringing outside talent from all over, you know, just some amazing shows throughout the year that otherwise I don't know how people in Atlanta, you know, we get it supposed to like the French festival, like

a French festival. I feel like it's so important, you know, for for like any art scene, and so the fact that y'all not just do like in person shows, but also you do the audio fringe. Even during the pandemic, you know, people were able to tune in virtually. It's just like it's it's really awesome, awesome work. Thank you. That means a lot to me. All right. Well, thanks everyone for tuning in to hear us just talk each other other projects online. No, we do have a really

good story today. I'm very excited about this one. I'm glad that we have so many folks to talk about. People, um not marrying anyone day and single for life. So this travel agency in Japan called circuit travel says, I'm their website, or at least the Google translation of their website from Japanese to English, that they are, quote, a company that provides travel consulting, lectures and advisers with the theme of a trip that makes women beautiful both physically

and mentally. Finally, and amongst their offerings, in they started holding marriages for salogamy. And if you don't know what slogamy is, break down this word a little bit. Obviously, Gammy is from the Latin Gammos, meaning marriage. Right, we have bigamy, monogamy, polygamy, sat you've heard of the of the Games. And then, uh, and then, of course, the first word, solo, from the Latin Soulis, meaning alone. So we're talking about marriage alone, self marriage. So we're gonna

talk about that today. Uh, we haven't done the theme song yet, so I say we let that role in diver. Let's go. Hey that French come listen. Well, Elia and Diana got some stories to tell. There's no matchmaking, no romantic tips. It's just about ridiculous relationships, a love. There might be any type of person at all and abstract cons that drom a concrete wall. But if there's a story, were a second glance, ridiculous roles, a production of I

heart radio. Okay, so let's start with what is it? Sologamy? What is it? What's going on here? BRIDES DOT COM says, quote, sologamy, autogamy or self marriage is a symbolic ceremony where you commit to maintaining a meaningful, deep and loving relationship with yourself and it's not a legal ceremony. There's no like tax breaks or binding contracts or any any license to sign or anything like that. It won't change your marital

status on your driver's license or anything like that. Yeah, yeah, hope that's hope this episode changes that, because I love this concept, learning about this. Yeah, it's so interesting. I'd love a tax break. Yeah, and need more people who have two incomes or people have one income. Right. Yes, I'm going to claim my dog is a dependent. Thank you.

I feel very dependent on myself. I just like the idea of getting a tax break where the government's like, Hey, if you make a commitment to love yourself, there's there's a financial incentiment. Doesn't create a more productive, healthy society. We want citizens who are self actualized. You remind it's reminded me already of when we talked about objective sexuality or marrying the Berlin Wall or the Eiffel to hour, etcetera. And you know, they were very emphatic that they did

not want legal representation right now. They were like this is they're going to come after us if we're saying we're trying to make this legal thing. We're not just symbolically married this tower, right. I think they were afraid that people would be more upset if they were trying for any kind of actual recognition of it or something. So they're like no, no no, no, no no, no, I'm good. Me and my playing card happy together, not any paperwork. Oh and there's no accidental bigamy. If you end up

getting married later. It's not like you marry yourself and then I could marry you and somebody is going to come after me. Well, that depends. What state. Is it? Florida? Are You doing in Florida? Because in Florida a different it's up to the states that make a lot of weird ship happen in Florida, right. So you might be right. The constitution says marriages between one and that's it. That's it. They're just so sick of women down there. They're like

take them out of the equation. One. I'm going hunting by myself. Already got three Iguanas, just a mouquet of iguanas. That's so cute. That does sound like something you would like. Uh. BBC actually says that nearly half of the women who participated in the circle travel slogamy ceremonies were already married someone else, I'm am and these women, I mean these women, either never got a proper ceremony or they just weren't happy with the one that they did have. So they're

like this is a do over just for me. I guess the husband was like, I was good, yeah, yeah, I don't want another one. Right. They play Earth, wind and fire, I have my food, I'm good. I'm not putting on another suit or whatever. Let me know how it goes, honey. Now Brides Dot com says that, just like traditional weddings, sylygamous weddings can be all kinds of different things. You know, make your wedding what you want

it to be. You can do the full on like we're talking about beach party, open bar bad DJ, your drunk uncle is there, the whole big wedding thing. Um, you just don't have a partner. It's just you standing up there alone with your efficient. Amazing. Some people have done mirrors. Yeah, they actually marry a mirror sort of.

They can look themselves in the eyes when they give their vows, and then, I like that at the reception afterwards they just take a big piece of cake and they shove it in their own mouth, smear it all over their face, they stop one of those body mirrors that they're just dancing with. But other times people just do weddings that are just like private little ceremonies in their own bedroom, you know, with the mirror or something

like that. And then there's a BBC article that's called why growing numbers are saying Yes to themselves, and they quote a guy named Dan Morin who's a jewelry designer in L A, and he says he's getting constant calls from people now asking for slogamy rings. And then there's photographers and wedding planners and cake artists. All these people are getting a lot of similar requests. I'm having a

different kind of wedding. It's just me, just me. What's the difference between the slag ring and the regular wedding ring? Is it just like it's just your own name on it, or right, it's more of a mirror, shiny metal that you can glance yourself, because rings are fun. Lots of people have rings. Yes, it's maybe it's that you wear it on that on that left, left, right. There's very much a traditional wedding band or something I was going to ask the same thing, because you can just buy

yourself a ring anytime from anywhere. Right. Well, y'all, I can't speak to the jewelry aspect of it, but a friend of mine does a lot of wedding cakes and more recently they've been doing more of the siloamy cakes, and I am buying them here to talk with us today, actually waiting out front. Is it okay? If I, if, I would love that. Okay, they're coming in. They're coming in now. Yeah, everybody, what's what's going on here? It's

me pasta cakes. That's the case. You know what? I woke up one morning God said you gotta make them cakes, and ever since then I knew that that was my ministry. Well, I've been making the best wedding cakes left and right, and what day? One day I had a little bit of Burnout, quite honestly, you know, because I was doing all these weddings between two people and they all wanted the same thing in their wedding cake, which was a

bunch of tears and two people dressed formally on the cake. And, as you can imagine, someone like me of my talents, that can be draining over time. You know, an artist. You know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, you know what I'm saying. Like I'm from a very small town. I was the first person to wear my hat backwards. Now, did a lot of other you just you know, a lot of other people were doing this in other parts

of the country. But to be the first person to flip your bill to the back, you know what I'm saying, in your community, not a lot of people. The point is, I do things they have not. The point is I do things they have not been done. Now recently, thank goodness, we have had an uptick in these solo weddings and, oh my gosh, it has opened up my eyes to what a wedding cake can truly be. You know what

I'm saying? That I happened doing some amazing things, because the thing is you're not necessarily you're not necessarily tethered to another person. It's a celebration of who that individual is. So instead of just having like a teared cake with two people in suits or in dresses or whatever they dress like on the top, instead, once I had someone named Barbara Climbing a mountain. You know what I'm saying,

somebody on the top of a rock. Another person, Jerry, they really like basketball, so I had them just dunking a basketball at the top. It was the cake in the shape of a basketball and they were dunking a basketball on top of the basketball. Incredible. Yeah, yeah, yeah, what what is it? Bill? I'm a pastor. Oh, thank

you so much. Pastor cakes. You know what? Yeah, I follow you on on the on the twitter and the gram and I was super excited to see you come in because I want to get one of your special cakes and I wanted to throw it because I'm into bicycling and pickleball and I wondered if there's something that you can do to make an extra special I've been I've been following your I g and I know you, like I knew you were gonna say that, like I know, I know you were in PA, I know you were

recently bought some equipment for the pickup ball. So this is what I would do. Okay, imagine, imagine just an actual bike. Alright, oh, actual bike, alright, and then I would have a huge, like twenty ft long, sheet cake. Now what do you do after you bike? You sweat. So what I would do is I would melt down some sugar, and I would just like spray the bike with melted sugar so people can walk up and be an experience. So you take a lick up the bike.

You'd have to do it like in a very sanitary way, but people could take a lick of the bike and then grab a thing, a sheet cake. But when you cut into the sheet cake, what is it? What is it is gelatine, green gelatine. took a note pick. You know myself. Yea. So it's like it's like a Jello inside of the sheet cake. You know what I'm saying, and the idea is that it's flat. What do I

mean by that? Life has a bunch of down as long as you feel stay tethered to you are, you will be able to weather the storm, much like you can weather a bike ride. So long is there's even pavement. You gotta be the even pay for yourself, non't matter what comes along. I myself, true story, don't bike very much at all, but I do know that sometimes there can be rain or when you are outside, clemented weather, on coming traffic. These are things that we cannot control.

But Bill, you can always show up for yourself, and so henceforth, that would be the seven thousand dollar cake that I would make. Yeah, I'll get started on that cake right now. It's gonna take me a good two to three minutes to make that. I should probably I should probably go right now. Oh Man, that's what I do. That'ster cakes. Thanks so much for coming out. Wow, that

was that was that's something to wow. Wow. Yeah, what an amazing he gives you so much more than a cake story, a story really grasped the point of Selogamy, which was showing up for yourself. Yes, I liked past the cakes gets it. Also the sweat glaze. Really, really, I'm never going to stop thinking about that's what it is. It's an artist. I mean that. That hat backwards is what started it all alone. You know, if you see him walk through the streets like that, you're like, what

am I seeing? God, he is shading his neck right. Incredible. I heard the hat is cake. What it maybe past the cakes with cakes? That there's the Internet conspiracy going around that passing ants himself is a cake. Has Anyone tried to cut into his arm to make sure? Next time? I guess that would be pretty fine to chase him down with a green pastor cake you could graze him. You could just with a needle, you know, like a quick prick, and then be like okay, blood came out,

so it's Diana has to see. Or Red Velvet dressing. Now, how do you know exactly could be that red icing? That sort of looks like blood. It's very thin. Okay, well, listen. This can be interpreted differently than just a traditional wedding. For one, you don't have to have the whole like Arbor, you know, under a tree thing, because for some it's

more of like a spiritual experience looking inward. Um, there's this place called sense, a rosewood spa that's on a private island in Mexico, and they have a package called a merry oneself journey, which is like a four day retreat. It offers, quote, total introspection, combining the four elements that we are water, wind, earth and fire. According to their manager, Monica Manzano. She left out the most important element, of course,

which is hard. Everyone who watched Captain Planet knows that is the essential elements to a marriage to yourself and also carry about the environment, which was also kind of heart I guess right. You have all in love, so I didn't make this till now, but who ripped off food? Did the Captain Planet Start Hitting investigative reports? I like both of those properties. It's front of my mad up. Yeah, BABYC says more and more people are marrying themselves in

symbolic ceremonies. Every year, though, it's usually, quote, urban, affluent, educated women, and again a sizeable chunk of them are already married to somebody else and they just want to like commit to themselves the way pastor cakes wants us all too and in the year two thousand, a performance artist named Gabrielle Pentabaz through a wedding for herself, complete with flowers, wedding dress, courts, ring and even something borrow and something blue. But she did not specify what was

borrowed at a slogamous wedding. At a slogamous wedding. So what did you borrow? Maybe like maybe there was, I don't know if they had a Tiara, but if there was like a tar the one with the wedding dress, maybe that was someone. Maybe she wanted to make it into barrowed or underwear. You know, has anyone ever borrowed their wedding underwear? I mean, I don't know what kind of next, you want to have a special kind of intimacy. Yeah,

you borrow it from each other. The next couple that gets married, I want you to borrow each other's underwear contacts, about sharing, being so close, you know. And something blue. Something blue, it sounds like a riddle from uh, you know, something blue. UH, Sapphire. Maybe a Sapphire are an important our gym, because diamonds aren't forever. Y'All, hires on. That's what I always say. I'm going with that. SAPPHIRES live on.

Well then, then, Gabriel, I guess she felt like she really did this very well, because then she started offering ceremonies for other people and, as of BBC article, she had officiated at over fifteen hundred self marriage ceremonies. That's a lot more than I expected. Yeah, let makes she borrowed a marketing plan. Maybe that's of this became a real business opportunity for her. That's kind of we start

seeing that the more we look into this. Is like, you know, there's the self love trend and then there's a whole industry that kind of grows out of it and some very expensive spot packages and right I'm wondering if we'll start their own thing. And the wedding industry is such a style of money to burn. I wonder if they were like, man, we're making so much money off people get married again, divors, get married again, renewal ceremonies.

We really figured this out. But what about single people that are just out here not giving us any money? How can we get money from them? We're all on the table. How much money on the table? Whole demographic out there that's not paying us? Not Cool. Yeah, I want every demographics for maybe she said quote. The ceremonies

are usually very cathartic and all about self love. Most of the women right and say their own vows, and they often include things like saying I forgive myself or I will no longer call myself ugly, which is a very good rule of thumb to carry with you for your life's not call yourself luckly. BRIDES DOT COM says it's not about saying no to having a relationship or committing to celibacy or anything like that. Quote. Rather, it is about accepting our light and dark sides and prioritizing

self care in order to have better relationships. Moving forward with ourselves and others. Yeah, so, I mean that makes sense, I guess. If you're not, like, I don't know, if you don't really know yourself, how do you know what you're looking for in another person? Right, so much sense. I mean, reading about this stuff, I was like what

a healthy thing. Now the people doing it when they're in a marriage is interesting to me, because then they haven't, you know, to your point and they haven't necessarily found themselves yet and that can cause some relationship issues. But like, yeah, anyone prioritizing self care, saying you're going to no longer call yourself ugly, Um, getting a pastor cakes, custom cakes, sign me up. There's nothing wrong with this. So far,

so good. It just seems really positive all around. And when, when we were first talking about you know, Y'all brought up this amazing topic, I really didn't know what to expect, but the more that I learned about it, the more it just seems really feel good. You know, maybe you know the big wedding industry is some some here, somewhere back here, promoting these articles. But still, I love I love these concepts. UH, yeah, folks, take care of yourself,

don't call yourself ugly. I mean, yeah, getting up in front of a group of people saying like I will no longer call myself ugly. That's a pretty powerful thing to do if that's something that you've struggled with. I mean, that'd be a pretty old, vulnerable move for sure. You, I mean, even to look in a mirror and say it to yourself, like look in your eyes and say

something like that. I feel I could easily make you cry and commit to your own happiness and, yeah, and self esteem in that way, creating a whole life event out of that. How could you not be reminded of that constantly and just sort of carry that forward with you, you know, because you know you could say I still say a little nice things to myself, like Oh, you're not so stupid all the time, time or whatever, and then you find yourself next week on that I'm so

stupid thinking. But really making a big deal out of it, sort of like bringing everyone in, like you said, mark, and just publicly saying I'm, I'm, I'm saying good things about myself in that kind of ceremony. That's gonna lay engaging all your senses in that way, because you're in a certain outfit and you're in a certain environment and people are looking at you and taking pictures, and I mean like when you do that, it does definitely affect your memory in such a different way. So I don't know,

so far, so good. I feel like I'm gonna marry myself. Yeah, yeah, and I realized these aren't, you know, legally binding or anything like that, but anytime like you start something or like, you know, Bill and I, we've talked about the artist way a lot. Before you start, the artist's way, you know, you sign a contract before you start doing it, and there's something about like a proclamation. Or you do it as a group. So there's something about like a proclamation

to yourself, people saying I'm gonna commit to doing this. Yeah, I think it just like it increases the chances of you actually following through with it. I can see how if someone wants to like, you know, be like all right from here on, from here on out, you know what I'm saying, like I'm committing myself, committing to myself, I can see how. I public proclamation could definitely help that,

you know. Yeah, yeah, like you said, just even just to write it down, it would just be more real and you'd be like, I have to, I have to. I tell myself I promised, I gotta follow through. I should invite fifty of my closest friends out to a vineyard or something, gather everyone around, get a nice suit, get a nice bouquet of iguanas or whatever, walk down the aisle, turned to everyone and say, all right, guys,

I'm gonna Finish my screenplay. You know, every gonna be like, I don't believe it, this is let's go to the yeah, well, I know who won't be giving my best man speech. Eliminate Myself. Alright. Well, we better take a quick commercial break. We're gonna come back and talk about a few specific stories of people who married themselves right up for this. All right, welcome back to ridiculous romance. Hey, everybody, welcome back. We've got ridiculous news. Mark Kendall and Bill Warley here

with us today. Super excited to have them, and we're talking SALAGAMY, marrying yourself. So we've got a few specific examples here. One of the first recorded instances of Salagamy, and when I read this I was thinking like Oh, probably like the seven hundreds or something. I Beg Clean Patri wh it did it well. We have a woman

named Linda Baker. She's from Santa Monica, California, and she was turning forty and she'd never married anyone and she decided that she just wanted to have that wedding ceremony. So she invited her family, she had seventy five of her friends, seven bridesmaids, the whole deal. Actor friend of hers was her efficient and he said during the ceremony, quote, all that was missing was a beer swilling couch potato who might forget your birthday and cheat on you and

make you miserable. Damn. Real indictment of grooms. It's kind of pretty hard but fair. Yeah, you know, that's usually year three. I wonder, prizeman stresses are always so you know, people don't feel great about them. So I wonder if they were able to kind of wear their own thing or if it was like no, you're wearing this very bass all seven and y'all need to look the worst you ever looked in your life. So early nineties dresses,

the hair was teased. Now it turns out that a big reason for this wedding, you know, it was just to celebrate her fortieth birthday. You know, it's a big year. I ain't got no man, let's do this. And she says she wanted it to be, quote, an occasion of joy, not regret. The other reason that she wanted to do

this was cake. Linda Baker is a cake freak and she said she didn't want to have to find someone, date them, fall in love with them and do a whole rigamarole just to get a piece of cake, which I'm like, I mean, birthdays famously do include cake already. I don't know if you needed that part, but just to say something about her level of restraint, that she thought this was the one told her. She goes to the store that says wedding cakes. Well, I obviously they

have to legally check. There's there's only a certain number a year you're allowed. Clearly, I have to bring in my list of vendors. You thinking, Kelly? Actually, they'd be more open minded. But no, Linda, I mean I don't I don't want to burst your bubble, but you could have got a cake before them, but I'm still glad getting in time. When you're forty you could just go buy them, you have them for no reason, and just have a cake, no reason at all. Just felt like

sad to interrucus me. Yeah, I said I was gonna leave, but I just kind of walked outside and just hung in the hallway just to listen, and I heard you all talking about my my my friend Linda Baker. This is actually one of my earliest gigs that I had back in three a very interesting time. You know, outcast was still a year away from their first release and that's the main touchdown I think about when I think

about that year. Anyway, Linda had come to me and they said, faster cakes, I need a cake for my forty birthday wedding ceremony, and I'm like, oh no, that's that's very that's politically charged because if you go into a cake shop at that point in time, as you all we're discussing, you know what I'm saying, wedding. Are you getting married or not, because these are specifically for weddings. and honestly, she said it was a little bit of everything. So what I did was what I did was had

never been done before. I took a standard birthday cake and a standard wedding cake and I quite literally combined the two together and then I made forty of them I made for it was our forties birthday. etctly enough, they're around forty people at this ceremony and each one had a cake to themselves. And then why did I make forty? Why? I combine them. Well, this is the thing.

You know what I'm saying. She was battling a lot of societal pressures, primarily getting a wedding cake for a birthday slash marrying herself in this instance, and it was important to me that. I said, Linda, you need to look at those naysayers and you need to choose yourself, not just once, not just twice, but forty Ding Day time. And every single year that it is Linda's birthday, I come back and I make because the number of birthdays for the number of years that she is a lot.

So exactly right. So most recently, you know what I'm saying, she had her seventy ninth birthday. Uh, as far as I know. I hope she's okay. Anyway, I made seventy nine cakes for her in honor of her seventy ninth year. Hey, can I past your cakes? Can I just can you bring it in for a quick hug, because I just you've spent some to me and what you're doing. So I mean bring it in and I'm just gonna stab him in the back real quickly. But it's he's a cake. Just came. I'm a cake, but we we do blead bill,

Imortal cake. Yes, that is whipped creaming. Yes, delicious. Oh No, I can't. I'm going. Oh No, Bill, I'm going to the big, beautiful cake Kevin in the sky. But I also wanted to present to you your pickle bite cake that I made for you. Idiot. I said it would take two to three minutes. So like, I'm going now. I never thought I'd be so mad in the back by a client. This is a lot for me, but I understand. I should have just I should have just set them the beginning. Hey, I'm cake, but I'm also

like a mortal, immortal being. I don't regret. I don't regret a single second of it. Neither do I. Very Well, very well, pastor cake, a funeral cake. Oh Man, who's going to make the funerals? The classic funeral cake? Of course, obviously everybody is caking. Wow, I think that's that's a normal thing. I think that's our first on air death on the show a letter day. I wonder if pastor

cakes created himself. If he no, wonder he understands what it means to invest in yourself, himself, his shape and form. That's pretty amazing. That's pretty amazing, I think. I'm so glad pastor cakes came through. He taught us a lesson, so much to show us even at the end. Plus now we have this delicious cake, so delicious. Yeah, he's a very good best whip ever. Man's a legend. Yeah,

I do love whip cream. Let's not around real quick tangent, but billy, we're talking about this on a podcast recently in New York state. Now you gotta be twenty one and up to buy a whipped cream can, because that's so. Is it because of the drug doing that? You can do. Isn't that right? The women's yeah, that's right, and I have to no, no, not to be judgmental, but I

think only the craziest people do whip it. I've never seen a normal looking person or like someone who really had their ship together, you know what I mean, like let's hang out and do it. It never happens. I'M gonna go ahead and invest in my for one K and I'm gonna do that's true. Who tells you they whipp it's is the real questions. May maybe that's what it's like. Only the trashiest people have ever informed me that they do. With we had in in health class

in high school. They would everyone stwhile. There's this nurse who would come in and talk to the class and she was like the cool one who was like, I know you're gonna do drugs, I know you're gonna have sex, so let me tell you how to do it safe. Future looks right. And she said she said, you know, pick your poisons and whatever you do, do not do whipp its. She was like that is the worst thing you can do. Will just immediately destroy your brain. She said,

don't inhale anything. If it's like, you know, spray paint in the sock or whipp it's all that stuff. It's the worst thing you can do. And you know what, I never did that advice would stick. If they're just like hey, things, don't do this, I'm like that that does stick. Yeah, do anything but this one thing. Yeah, I think I'd be like, Oh, okay, I guess that one's real bad. And again, if they just that's like. It's OK, it's like a real hang up. A piece

on India's world is one. News was posted in June of this year about a woman named Shama Bindo. She's twenty four years old and she claims to be the first Indian woman to enter into a slog MIS marriage. And Shama told reporters, quote, I don't require a prince charming because I am my own queen. I want the wedding day, but not the next day. There you go. I love it. This sounds like a Lizzo song and I would bump it. I'm waiting for this. She says

her parents are fine with it. Okay, that's cool, and she's she had, according to the reporter, Paulka Sharma uh quote, a big Fat Indian wedding with the priests, rituals and everything, minus the groom. That is a real com. Weddings are multiple days there, like everyone, and everyone in the you know, you're wherever you live, like everyone's inviting. And she did the Henna, the Henna on her hands and face, I think, and everything. I mean she did it all, all all the

outfit changes, everything. Your cousin Diana married into an Indian family and they had their wedding in India and I remember him telling us like, Oh, it was pretty small. Yeah, we didn't go crazy. It was like people and he was like oh well, I was like seven, what and he was like, well, a lot of them are like one to two thousand. So we really I was like out of here. That is Chris. Well, this makes Shama even more of a Badass. You know this whole because

I am my own Queen and I love that. I mean, I hope Lizzo sends a nice follow on I g, by the way, because now that you said that, Dana, a lot of this like philosophy of slogamy, reminds me of just kind of lizzo philosophy and loving yourself. If y'all don't, if anyone listening doesn't follower, do because it's just such a great that every post she has makes

my day. It's it's nice to have somebody on your feet who just wants to make you happy, right, and we love to shout out our friends on instagram and this show, including Lizzo. That's that's the ridiculous bump for you, Lizz with the little artist we have the same reporter that was talking about Shama's wedding. They she quoted in her piece an anonymous slogamist who wrote in and said quote.

In Our culture, everyone blindly applauds you when you announce your in a relationship, but you don't get nearly the same reaction when you decided to focus on your relationship with yourself. In fact, everyone treats you with unspoken sympathy when you're single, like don't worry, love, the right man is just around the corner. So I decided it was time to rejoice in my wholeness, and what better way

to celebrate self love than with a wedding? Just, yeah, kind of more what we're talking about is like, uh, some, some damn recognition for caring about myself. Seriously, I kind of this is cool too, because I saw one time, um, somebody was like a lot of people like to say marriage is and they were like it's not. Marriage is a hundred, one hundred, like each of you have to put your whole selves into it, not half of yourself into a marriage, and I thought that was really interesting

because it kind of it's true, right. I mean you don't just bring of yourself to a marriage and the other person there's not half a person there. You have to accept the whole person. So I just thought it was an interesting way to think about it and I guess she's kind of like I'm bringing a hundred percent to this. I'm I'm whole and I don't need anyone

else to be a part of this relationship. I guess I gotta say so far, and we're five years in now, Diana, I've only brought about half, about half of myself in. So I have so much to look forward to later, you know. Yeah, you want to keep it, keep it fresh. I will be honest, though. You got the good half of Damn, from the back half. This is what people who marry themselves are trying to avoids. The back half. Oh, damn, the best half. I like that. You didn't come out

guns play to any line. That yeah, yeah, I'm excited for the next five years. That another yeah, I want to hear all about this. That's right. You have to reach out to bill and be like, this is the ten percent I've brought today. So yeah, for her at least, it was more about breaking the stereotypical image of a single person, where there the sad sack with a thousand cats eating a frozen meal every night or what not,

that there's anything wrong with that. Hey, they say they're happily single at an age where people might expect them to be married to someone else already and assume they're unhappy if they're not. Right. And she's like I feel great. Uh. There was some great this. You know, this news report was on Youtube, so of course the comments, you know, you gotta gotta go straight to the because of course there's a bunch of people that, you know, very aggressively

against this idea of slogamy. A lot of people totally misread it and they're like how dare someone legally trying to marry themselves, when in fact they specifically say this is not a legal thing. You're so good at listening, and yeah, that's something a lot using the Internet. Comments Section is where it all shines. Get the best of humanity in there. But some, some people were supportive. One commenter said she takes learned to love yourself to a

whole new level. Happy, single, married life. Nice. This person did not get it. I said, how can you marry yourself? You don't need to marry you can love yourself. Okay, so, like the suggestion being you can practice self love without co opting the idea of a marriage. But I can also do this. Yeah, so I did this. Don't check me right. Exactly how? The other next comment was the ultimate act of self love. Me and my hand disagree Youtube comments. If anything, I'm surprised that it got it

took three to get to that youtube first. Right. Uh. This next one is pretty positive. As long as she's not hurting anyone, she can do as she please, her own business. Fairly positively agree. Right, just let people do their things. Yeah, I don't care. Am I a part of that wedding? Do I have to bring you a gift? No, then I don't care. Even if I did have to bring a gift, I probably would not care. I would be like, this gift is an exchange for the food

and cake exactly. This delicious cake for attending means pickle cake. There's so many perfectly socially acceptable things that millions of people do every day that I think is weird as hell. So if you know, if you if you disagree with what someone is doing, just let him do it. Come on, mind your own business. Well, here's someone who decided not to mind their own business, they said, purely attention seeking behavior. There are many boys and girls who want to remain,

stay goal, but they don't announce it publicly. Keep and first of all, boys and girls. How old people are when they get married? Seven year old, Jennifer Thompson, middle school. People want to stay and like the way that it's written. Is Very you can behave. I'm writing over a pool right now. Um, like this one. One benefit of Selogamy, over being signal, I think, can be answering all those relatives who pester you for no reason. Aunt, I am

already married. Yeah, there you go. That's a good point. Solid. Yes, commentary there. Yeah, I did. Y'All have that a lot prior to or even when you were, when you were I don't know, how long were we all together before you got married? Eight years? Yeah, so I'm sure that came up once times. Oh, yeah, when we're childless. So you are always also get when you are having kids. Sometimes they did not even care if you were married yet or not. They're just like so, when's the baby

coming and you're like, Oh, I don't know. Yeah. This next one is a comment that said madness has no end. I don't know. I don't know if they're referencing a youtube clip, you know, because I think that's an act of madness. I mean like madness is. I think it's like a state of mind or and emotions. So I don't know if that's an end or the beginning. Much like theoretically, doesn't have to happen, man, you know, to have an end. This person was just having their own

experience somewhere. Yeah, it's madness. Yeah, it's a little disconnected. It's like being like, you know, Tuesday is the day of the week. It's just like, I suppose. Yeah, I'm picturing like you know, Colonel Kurtz was on Youtube at some point. Just ended up on this video and just had to madnessess, no end. Right horrors, what is it? What did I fight for? He didn't even watch the video.

He leaves that comment everywhere. I love from now on I will now attribute all of crazy comments to Colonel Kurtz. Doesn't like this guy is a very weird brain. Well, look, it's not exclusively women. I know we've been talking mostly about women self marrying, but there was a story from just of a man who married himself in Brazil. Got

The story on Lad Bible. They said that Doctors Uh Giogo Habelo and Victor Bueno got engaged in twenty nineteen, but a victor said it was no Bueno and he called off the engagement just a few short months before the wedding, which anyone has gotten married knows. That's too late. Yeah, we're doing this. So Jogo decided he was just going to do something anyway. He'd already had all these reservations.

Everybody was booked, everyone was invited. So he had his wedding, which was at a very fancy resort, in it's a car and gorgeous, like curious ceremony, tons of food, flowers, music. It was a pandemic wedding, so we had to scale back to his number of guests, but forty. Even his friends and family showed up. None of the none of it's family, decided to come. That would actually be so ballsy if they did. Part his mom showed up and was like well, I thought I'd still give me a

plate here. I can imagine one of the cousins being like Hey, man, I thought you were cool. I showed up, I was ready for this wedding. I want to still be friends. You know, honestly, I like you more than him. I didn't want this decision. I thought was crazy. This has no ends. So so Chiogo gets this really nice white suit, he walks down the aisle, he's got a big colorful bouquet and he teared up, as he said I do, to himself in a mirror. He did the

mirror thing. Um, he got a bracelet instead of a ring and he had his grandmother tied around his wrist at the end of the ceremony. Um, and then he said, quote, the message I wanted to send to people with this marriage of mine is not that of a victim. I do not depend on a marriage to be happy. I do want to marry someone else, but my happiness cannot depend on that. Absolutely agree. And then victor burst out of the cake. I just wanted to say that. And

then cousin come as you have a playstation five. I have a playstation five. Yeah, yeah, what a sweet this is. All this stuff is just so um kind and sweet, pretty wholesome, like the image of a grandmother tying a bracelet or out. And then the grandma was just like, okay, I guess we're that's cool, no problem. Next time they're better be too bracelets exactly, if this ship to your rest again. But just like monogamous marriages, slogamous ones don't

always last until death. Do you part Um, which, I guess, would it part you, because you would still go on to whatever? Well, that's a much deeper conversation. All Right, I'll save it for another a thirty three year old Brazilian playboy model, Christianna Galera, married herself in September. She said, quote, I was always afraid of being alone, but I realized that I needed to learn to feel good about myself.

When that happened, I decided to celebrate it. She posted a picture of herself in a wedding dress on instagram with a caption. It was in Portuguese, so this is a rough google translation. The caption is I woke up. Yes, people, it's true, I got on the wave of selogamy and decided to marry myself. I'm celebrating self love and want to inspire other women to exalt their self esteem. She said that after posting that, she even got a half million dollar offer from an Arab chic to marry him,

but she turned him down. She's like full mill or nothing. Quote. He still keeps texting me. He's like, I still got this half mill hanging out bag date. How about that? You know, down the longer she's married to herself, he's like what about? She later commented, quote, I'm getting thousands of messages from men and women all over the world wanting to marry me. It's a shame because I'm not going to divorce myself anytime soon. Well, famous last words.

Famous last words, because, Yep, she was wrong. After about ninety days that honeymoon phase wore off. She started finding out all her pet peeves about herself. Like you know, I really hate how I'd never wipe the catchup bottleneck. I can't believe how I load the dishwasher. I never do my laundry. Rude, very very well, I guess the positive. You gotta keep reminding yourself. I'm not irritated, but now I'm happy. It doesn't make at all. I put it

out before I leave. No Christianny did meet someone else and she said, quote, I started to believe in love the moment I met someone special, and she has not identified who this person is, but apparently they are so special that they even got Christianity to leave her hot playboy model wife. So she divorced herself. As she said, she was happy while it lasted, but she was officially getting a divorce, which I have to ask, what is the purpose if it's not illegal? Like what what divorced

do you what? What proceedings do you have to go through and like divvy up your stuff between yourself and yourself? And this goes against you know, earlier we were talking about selegamy being something you do while you were married. You could have exactly Samyulegam cash down just now we we went back. I think it's Sologamy, but I was definitely sologamy myself for any driving that off. Okay, cool, we'll blame you too. Ridiculous News, y'all. We're the ones

bringing it down. So I think I think that's weird, though, because that she felt because to me, for all these other folks that are saying, Hey, it's about loving yourself, you gotta bring, like you were saying, percent each person into a relationship, it's like she's like no, if that, you know, like I'm not going to be I don't longer care about taking care of myself. This airb cheek

is gonna give me some cash. And I know there is a divorce lawyer out there, though, who would be like, Oh, I don't have to file anything, there's nothing legal, there's no contest, but I still will charge you some money. Speculation station. Was this the UH, the Arab cheek, who finally got through? She didn't identify who it was. Maybe he did. I feel like he finally added Enough Zeros to that number. I think that's okay in speculation station. By the way, if you all are not aware, we

have speculation station where we can stay whatever we want. Yeah, we can make we've accused people of murder. So yeah, I think you're right. She probably got this Arab she because she doesn't want to admit that she took the three dud dollar offer. I get by the ticket for one on that speculation station track. Dianne, you said you think the number went down. I do, but maybe the number went up. Maybe he kept calling. It was like all right, fine, fine, fine, six, oh my God, wow,

you really think highly of yourself. She's like, yeah, I married myself, I know what I got. He finally went up to a million and she was like, all right, I guess. Let me get this divorce going. Speaking of getting things going. Let's get some commercial break going. Fine, let's go right back. All right, welcome back to the show everyone, and let's talk talk about just what the whole deal with slogamy is like. What? Where is this

all came from? Why? Now, you know, from onward Eve, been seeing more and more of these happening in recent years and, like we said, it's not entirely just uh, you know, the wedding industry trying to capitalize off self love. There's UH, there seems to be some real, some real trends happening. Yeah, yeah, that's true. BBC Interview Dominate Yukapas, who started a self marriage consultancy, and she says it's therapeutic. She's seeing people, quote, leave abusive relationships, step more fully

into their life's work or meet their beloved after marrying themselves. Okay, okay, lot's of good outcome that kind of thing where you know, if you the more you love yourself, the more confident you are in yourself, the easier it's going to be for you define and connect to someone right, right, right, or not not settle for somebody who won't treat you, you know, the way you want to be treated, definitely

or whatever. That makes sense to me. Um, and you can sign up for her ten week online course to prepare yourself for plogomy for the Lolo price of two. So okay, right there. That wedding industry and making money out of she's like if you need a crash. Course, part of me is like there's so many huge companies making so much money off of weddings. I don't begrudge someone starting their own little business. And if it's more like self healthy, there's like some I'm imagining mental health

type services along with it or something like that. Maybe that would be worth money for sure. Tracy McMillan was a woman who had a Ted x talk and hers was titled The Person You need to marry as yourself. She talked about having been married three times and she said, you know, her first two husbands were even wonderful people. She was still friends with them, she said. Her third husband,

she said, we're friends on facebook. We don't talk, but she was talking about how her three divorces were, you know, meant to be seen as failed years like that was how she sort of felt conditioned to think of them and how other people did. But she said she married quote, everybody in sight except for the one person that I really needed to marry in order to have a great relationship. And once I'm married that right person, all of my

relationships would be successes, even the so called failures. She said that to marry yourself it's all about committing to yourself fully building a relationship to the point that you feel like a full and whole person and to the point that, quote, no man, woman, job or circumstance that can happen to you is going to make you feel

more whole and more than just about loving yourself. She talks about the for better or for worse part and she said that's really important because it's easy to love yourself at your best, but the idea that even at your worst, you agree to stay with yourself no matter what, that's something really powerful. And she said you, quote, need to love yourself the way that you want someone else

to love you. I thought that was really interesting, because it is it is easy to be you know, when you feel good, you feel good and you're kind to yourself, and when you don't, that's when it's really hard to kind of like I think we've all had that feeling. It's like I wish I could just leave me here and go off somewhere else right now. That bully in your head. I don't know if everyone has one. I definitely do, Um, but yeah, and when you're at your worst,

she's very mean to me. She's very mean to me. Maybe I need to marry her, Mary, marry your bully. That'll fix it. Yeah, I think everybody has it. I think we all have it, cincer, and I think if you don't have it, that's narcissism. I think that's what healthy people have something inside of them that's, you know, uh, letting you know when you've got a little bit too far.

But also you can't let that over overcome and you know, I'm sure Tracy McMillan um found a way to quiet that voice with this and you know, just for a week you can do her course on for your own. But I think the point about divorced too, because you know, it's kind of unfortunately, I hate that it's her third husband. That's just facebook friends. But you know, divorce is a

good thing right. It's like people always look at as a failure, but I think it's can be a positive thing for people to figure out what they need and you know if they were bringing and the other bringing, or you know, maybe it's thirty seven equal hundred and you gotta find the hundred. And Diane, I'm curious to hear what he's a hundred is going to be over these to I really don't know myself yet. A little

little surprised, a little nerve. No, well, that's it's. The other thing too, is that it's like, well, you get married at whatever age and then you grow and change. Everyone does, and so it's like sometimes the person you change into is no longer right with that person and that you were that you're married to. I think that that's not that uncommon. It's not always like, oh, this person is a piece of ship or I cannot stand them. It's just like we're just no longer moving in the

same direction. We don't want the same things, we don't you know, whatever the case might be. There's so many reasons why our marriage might not work out, but it is I think you're right better to think about it as like it's just a new chapter. You know, it's not a failure. I didn't do something wrong. We should have gotten married. We did have, however many years together. That helped me become who I am and figure out what I did want. I mean, that's valuable. Right. We're

so steeped in permanence. I feel like sometimes, like we talked about this with artistic projects sometimes too, where you just you have it, you know, a long term thing, and the longer it goes on, the more it feels like this needs to exist forever and if it doesn't, I failed, as opposed to know, now I move on to the next thing. And I did that. It existed for a period of time, it always will have, and

now I get to create something new. That's super interesting to like moving into the creative space because, you know, Bill and I were big we talked about the show Atlanta a lot and, you know, yeah, the last season starting soon and Donald Glover and some of the interviews I've read talking about like endings are important, you know, and it's like it's not gonna be the last thing he makes or anything like that. Is just like it's done.

Try to move on, you know, like yeah, and having that idea where it's just like it's you know, it's okay. It's good for things to you know, like and yeah, having that having that self awareness, I think it's important. You know, yeah, your Tango Dot Com says, quote. These people are still dating, still meeting people, they're still hoping

to find someone to spend their lives with. The only difference is that, while they wait for that person, they already have someone loving them, vowing to take care of them and accepting them for who they are. BBC Sites, one of the first women to have a solo wedding with circa, travels to Moi Sajuano, as saying, quote, the package boosted my sense of self esteem. So obviously, you know, we've we've talked endlessly about self love and how that

sort of drives this whole idea. But why now? Is the big question again, as this really surged in the last few years. Well, a lot of these articles, a lot of these people kind of come back to the same point. We live in a very fast paced, chaotic world, you know, we're all trying to keep up with each other, we're all pitted against each other and in this what I'll call a rat race. I don't know if anyone's ever said that before, it feels like, but you know,

what do we sacrifice to do that? We really lose touch with ourselves. UH, self love has dwindled as people sort of put their own mental health and happiness in the background so they can focus more on success and survival and achievements, things like that. Um. So I think that sort of becomes the root of why it becomes important for us to focus more deliberately on this idea of self love and say, how do I how do I put this at the front of my brain? How do I have a big ceremony so that I won't

forget that I care about myself? Yeah, again, I'm the one person who I am stuck with for life. I can never get away from me, so I need to enjoy my own company, care about what's happening to me and how I feel. I get that I'm coming bound

to life cake. I thought I was dead and I was I was dead and I was in I was in the great beyond and as I was floating in the ether, seeing things that I couldn't even describe, the great infinite, the great beyond, I found myself and I realized, no, it is not the outside things that determine when I

live or when I die. If I love myself, I determined when I go that and I did whip it's one time, because, because I am a cake and not human being, the chemical properties are a little bit different, and it managed, it didn't managed, to stitch my cake wounds back together. And so now I am held together not by the whip cream that was once from my life force, but instead the laughing gas which is also within the canister, and that I am bolstered by the hot air, not of lies or delusions, but the hot

hair that forms when we truly love ourselves. And I also just wanted to say as our population potentially decreases, as we make different decisions about when we choose to uh marry, or however many children that we have, I have found that when I came back, I forgot that

I made a bunch of Little Pasti cupcakes. Me here long after when I go so I don't know, see them there moving about, little man adorable, lots of cookies and cream, and I just bill, had you not stabbed me in the back, I would not have had this opportunity. Was Self Discovery, because sometimes you don't really know how much you love yourself when you are opened up, and you opened me up to help me discover what was inside, and I found. I found Aerosol, drugs and and little

cupcake children. Well, wow, I'm glad I could return the favorite, cause you opened me up to past your cakes. You Open the spray sweat and this bicycle cake. I'll never forget it. So the least I could do was just give you a slafestab. Well, I appreciate Y'all and I'll leave y'all now. I gotta get these little ones to take care. Ok. So we'll go, we'll go found. It's been a pleasure. Come on, you'll be careful there, man.

You know, I think we all learned a lesson in uh, the strength of whippets and the benefits of getting stabbed in the back by your friends. Uh Oh, let me cancel that funeral cake. We don't need that. I don't let me cancel that. Well, okay, now we can undo the first death that's ever happened on our show. I'm kind of glad we had our first resurrection. That's pretty ridiculous. Resurrection is a pretty good name for a show. I

don't know what it's about, but it's about something. Okay, so, Yakiko. Anyway, circa travels president said quote. Some people have said it would be lonely, miserable or sad to do this, and there's definitely a lot of judgments out there, many articles

judging the ship out of people for doing this. But more and more Japanese people have been living alone in recent years and according to the National Institute of Population and Social Security Research, Japan's population is expected to decline between twenty six and thirty eight percent in the next forty years. That's pretty significant, uh, and that trend echoes

across the world. The Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development says that there are a record number of unmarried people in many advanced countries across the world, and people who are getting married are doing it later than they used to. A study from in the nineties, when Linda Baker would have been putting her wedding together, the main age of women at first marriage was between twenty two and twenty seven years old. For Men it was twenty four thirty.

By twenty the average age for women is almost thirty one and for men it's thirty three. And our world in data dot org says that in the US the highest marriage rate was sixteen and one thousand people after World War Two. Okay, and that dipped and bounced a lot since then, but a long decline started in the seventies when it was about ten and one thousand, and it's currently the lowest in history with six and a

half in one thousand. So people just are not interested in getting married right now and I you know, or having children. I guess this is the other thing with population decline, right, is that people don't want to have kids. Well, we talked in a recent episode about the Russian Stark Derby, that it was an old Russian tradition that they started in the Soviet era. Yeah, you could get for having

ten children, right. You got a medal and a cash prize. Yeah, it was the order of maternal glory, right, it's a very Soviet name. Putin just reinstated that. Yeah, he was like have ten kids please, and people be like a hero of the of the nation which on running. And I was like, I kind of appreciate because we act like we really want everyone to have a family, but then we don't create a society that is very helpful to family. So it was kind of like at least

he's putting his money where his mouth is in a way. Right, Um, but on the other hand, it's a very crazy thing. Asked woman have toby, somebody, somebody there who's trying for it and then taps out at eight and it's like, well, now I can't get the cash. Got To feed eight children for the press of their life, right, sorry, coming not your obligation. You must still fighting. I will go now. He's my children. Goodbye to children with yeast, I must well,

we talked to that episode about you know. I think you said like hey, maybe y'all should look inward and try and build a society that's more encouraging to have kids in, yes, as opposed to just saying like, I have your kids in my country, I'll give you fifty bucks right. I mean that's it's just like America. We're sort of on that train too. We're like let's overturn Rovie Wade and make people have babies and so on, and I'm just like, well, maybe you should think about

why people don't want them. And usually, if you ask, it's financial insecurity, it's worry about the future, what kind of world you're bringing a kid into? I think the most popular answers. I don't want to which I think a perfectly reasonable reason, but there's so many other factors right that you could actually do something about and make I don't know, it's a little more stable for people. So they're they're like, yes, I would like to continue this species right now. I don't know why I don't

want to. They're going to have a lot of room in Japan soon, so maybe over there and then afforded house or an apartment. That would be nice. Give years, y'all, and there's gonna be a lot of real estate opening up. Oh my God, it'll be like you can finally buy a home my golden years in Kyoto. So yeah, well, that is the story of slogamy. Are you all ready to marry yourselves? Absolutely. I have a perfectly bike cake

with some pickleballs in here. I'm super excited. I'm gonna try and pull in some of those cupcakes that ran away earlier from pasture cakes and if I like, I did. And I don't know if it's really a solo wedding, but you know, I love Bonrou. I'm big on and music festivals in general, but that one I've liked a lot. So I've been a sixteen of those and I did go one time by myself. I couldn't find friends to go and I loved it. I had so much fun.

It was such an amazing experience and I wonder if that was kind of my own little ceremony being like bill, yeah, you don't have to, you don't have to go. Some of those you can go. And I me, you know, made tons of friends while I was there, but it was just about me in the music and having a good time and that was a pretty a pretty good part of my life. That that every weekend. I said

a lot about traveling alone. They're like it's just so empowering in a way to just be like it's I have to entertain myself the whole time, I have to make all the decisions. Like some of that's easy for some and harder for others, but I think it's interesting that just be alone in a new city and have to like get have fun, just to be able to have fun by yourself. I mean I think that's really important, to be important to know that you could do that. Yeah,

I do. I do enjoy traveling alone as well as like or like going to like new places by myself, whether it's like whether it's a new city or just like a different restaurant. You know, just like being right. Yeah, yeah, yeah, we have that. I mean we love traveling together. It's one of our favorite things to do together, but I also love traveling alone. You know, I don't think we get to do it as often because I'm always like, well, let's go to this place, but next time that's the

other the very independence is off by himself right now. Yeah, I see how it is. Well, I just wanted to before we leave, I just wanted to ask what your solo weddings would be like. Y'All, we're planning your own solo wedding to yourself. What would be some essentials? I feel like this is revealing. Yeah, I definitely there be music, live music. Oh yeah, I loves just some solid Band d you know, let's get back in there, since this

is works. There's sang out, he's Party and we're gonna have Jeff Tweetie saying some of the mortality songs the show. You know, Lizzo is going to come out at the end just to come and she officiate. I feel like she should affiates gets it, she gets it. Yeah, I was going to say how I'm ready to go. I want I want to be in the pit. I'm gonnash bills Solo wedding. What about you? Oh yeah, I go. Oh well, I guess I should say names. I'm sorry,

you could remarry just to yourself. Um, I would love to catch up on some of the things we didn't that we talked about doing but didn't get do in our wedding, like repelling in from a helicopter. I feel like that really shows my confidence in myself comes out in that moment, because I'm not I always said I don't want to get in a helicopter. I'm not big on heights. But that would be super cool and me,

you know, overcoming something true. Plus, the helicopter would have to have a really low and everyone's hair would get messed up and, yeah, great pictures. That would be awesome. But you know what everybody loves is looking bad at a wedding. That's right, that's what they put all the makeup on for. Okay, mark, what about you? It would be your Solo. You know, I'd love like a really good chef. I don't know too many celebrities, but I'd love like really cool chef, or like or like what if? Like?

I really like cool chef interpreted like a wolf house menu or something like that, where it's just like you're blending something that's like pretty down home and simple, but then like you also give it some like fancy flair, you know. So that was kind of cool for for a ceremony, I feel, you know, so people get the comfort food, but it's also like, oh, these are some fancy ingredients, that elevating h yeah, like elevated down home cuisine. I love that. So far these weddings sound pretty great.

I like everything y'all said. I think I would also like Lizzo to appreciate that would make me comfortable. I think the location I would want like a really cool old castle or some dope ship, like Oh, that's nice, and then I could stay there, you know, for the week to celebrate myself. Yeah, and be like somewhere cool, either like like an old, I don't know in Scotland or something in England, old ass castle, but still sort

of comfortable, you know what I mean. I don't want to ruins, I just wanted to look like history, yeah, you know. Or the Winchester House would be pretty cool. What's the Winchester House? It's that lady who built that Crazy House that has like stairways. Yeah, that would be pretty cool. So like just a cool destination so people could come. And you know, that's my self esteem problem. So I'm like, nobody would go to my wedding, but

there was somewhere really cool. I like that all three of you had things that were like people would really like this food or this concert or this location. And I'm like I'd look cool jumping out of a helicopter, but you would look very cool. Yeah, but I'm not given anything to anyone else. So everybody comes to my

wedding gets fifty bucks. I feel like we should just have solo weddings where we combine all our ideas, because I've got a good location, you have a great entrance, we've got the menu and we have the entertainment all worked out with so I just feel like we just planned and absolutely and for only two hundred dollars, and you too can subscribe the Ridiculous Universe Wedding Planning Services. Is going to happen. I mean you have to contact and pay Tweetie Tweetie, but we will suggest it. We

will happily suggest it to you. Oh my God, it's just so much fun to talk with you guys part of me. Thanks for being here. Yes, so happy to have you guys on the show. Such a good time, what an awesome time hanging out with y'all and talking about this. So much fun. Yeah, thank you so much for inviting us on. Why don't you tell everybody where

they can find you on the Internet? Yes, certainly. Well, you know, H it was such a pleasure being here, and so after you're done listening to ridiculous Roman subscribing and liking and all those things, feel free to check out our podcast as well. Ridiculous News, you can find us whoever you find our podcast. Also, you know, check out our videos. We post a lot of comedy videos to at Mark Kendall comedy, uh, medium, as well as our production company, Coogo cool productions. If you go to

Coogle cool pro dot com. Love it. Yeah, so good. Thank you all so much. This was awesome and I'm looking forward to these. This wedding that we're having ourselves. It's gonna be Badass. Is it part of the ridicul you con we should have the fourth person, solo weddings, Solo quadragamy. Yeah, I like that. That's a new, brand new phrase coming at you, um well, we are ridiculous romance.

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