Ridiculous News: Weekly Roundup: Telegrams, celebrating single life, and French Spiderman featuring RIDICULOUS ROMANCE PODCAST!

news over here. Hey, everyone, welcome to ridiculous news, not your average news show. We cover stuff you didn't realize was news, from the wild and funny to the deep and hidden to the absolutely ridiculous. I'm bill wilio. I'm an Atlanta based filmmaker, comedian and mark. I'm registered and excited to vote here in Georgia. Elections are coming up soon. Make sure you're registered to vote, everybody. Bill. That's an awesome reminder. Thank you for doing that. I appreciate it.

I'm Mark Kendall, an Atlanta based comedian. Also, I just want to say real quick my heart goes out to the people in Puerto Rico right now. You know it's wrong what's happening to y'all. I want to send y'all h much love, much love. Today is a weekly route up episode and we'RE gonna be talking about a very heartwarming telegram story. We are talking about our French spider man, and I'm using air quotes there. We're gonna take a

fun dip into the world of selogamy and single life. And, y'all, if all of that is not enough, we are joined by another member of the ridiculous news family. I'm talking about Diana and Eli. They are co hosts of Ridiculous Romance. Ridiculous Romance is a wonderful podcast where they explore the weird, wonderful and ridiculous relationships throughout time and across the globe. I always learned something when I listened to them, and I also crack up with each episode, and I really

cannot recommend it enough. So, y'all, welcome to ridiculous news. We're so happy to have you. Thanks so much, alk thanks. We're so happy to be here. You guys. Yeah, such kind of words about our show. We have we have so much fun telling our stories and, uh, you know, we even get to listen to you guys, and and uh, get some ideas. Yeah, as you have some current events, like could we do an episode about that? Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. Plus,

it's like the best way to hear the news. Forget twitter, this is probably the most positive way to get the news. Yeah, yeah, we try to keep it light and and one of our favorite segments that we do with guests is giving them their flowers. So it's any guess we have. We like to shower y'all with some compliments. No returns these, Um, and I want to say we guested recently on your show and every time I've interacted with y'all, y'all are

just so kind and sweet. Your show is hilarious. Your relationship is something that I strive for and, uh, thank you so much for sharing your insight and your passion with the world and also for fringe in general. Is An amazing thing. Like what a cool thing. Y'All rock. Thank you so much for being here. Absolutely and UH, yeah, and so, yeah, I want to hop on what bill just said. Uh, Eli, you know your fringe performance recently. You, along with twin head theater, there's a show code final.

It's part of the Atlanta fringe festival. Your performance is Marty mcfly was really funny. Y'All take on that whole show and like, you know, just all the jokes that all had there was great. And of course, Diana, you know, a particular moment that I always come back to is like, you know, during the high of the lockdown when we

weren't able to gather in person. You know, the work that you did with the Atlanta fringe fest is a way to like lift up artists not just in Atlanta but from around the world and you know, brought people together. It's just like being able to do that, even in those times. It's just really like an awesome accomplishment and so I appreciate what the both of you all do for the art scene, not just in Atlanta but globally. That is so kind. Thank you, guys. Were sorry. Yeah, yeah,

time time. All right. Yeah, I mean we spent the first three minutes of our episode insalting. I guess you er start. I bet a ridiculous roast would be really fun, though. You know, it's funny you say that because recently, I don't know why, but I've been going down this youtube rabbit horror. I've been watching stand up roast because I mean like a lot of them are very well written jokes, but it's also just like very surprisingly mean. I don't know, I don't know, it's just it's just part of the

tone of the roast, you know. But but that said, like a good roast could be fun. It could be fun. Did you see Bill Nice Roast? I Guess Kylie Jenner said that she could have. Someone said Kylie Jenner could be, uh, the Little Mermaid, and bill and I made a tweet that said there's already enough plastic in the ocean. Oh my gosh goodness. And as a bill, as a fellow bill, you know you always gotta gotta shout out sure, build respect. Yeah. Well, y'all,

we're gonna hop into our next segment. And so these are ridiculous news nibbles and these are headlines that we've collected. Uh, that caught our i. from things that have happened recently. Uh. So this is an article to start things off, as an article for Maxios, uh, and it's about the rise of racial marriage and it's approval rating. So something that they have noticed recently is that approval of interracial marriage and the US is at a new high of and

this is according to Gallup polling. UH, it matters. Uh, this is according to the article. That matters because Gallup first asked the question in just four percent of Americans approved of interracial couples. So it just shows just how much things have changed in public perception. U What like four that's so crazy to me because that's it's not

that long ago. No, no, no, no, no. This is kind of reminds me of an episode that we did about Sammy Davis Jr dating Kim Novak, and that was in like fifties, early sixties, and people were not there for it and they even like sent the Mafia after him to get him to stop seeing her. And then like maybe ten years later, they went dancing and nobody cared because it was just it was legal at that time.

And I was like it must have been so weird for Sammy Davis Jr to be like one minute you're breaking money caps over this, in the next minute it's okay. I'm like, what changed? Nothing, right. Yeah, and UH, the prevalence of interracial marriage has also increased. So back in ninety seven, just three of Mary couples were interracial. Now, and that's according to the Pew Research Center, and you know, this is also just kind of like America becoming more

and more diverse. So, you know, America is projected to have a majority minority population Um, and so that will also, you know, mean that partnerships will also continue to become more diverse. And also younger Americans are more educated than ever. So there's a higher rate of interracial marriage among those with more education. Studies show interesting you said it's a nine percent approval rating right now. Uh, es, yes, and it kind of. I mean it depends on h two.

If if you're eighteen to twenty, nine, it's like. So the lowest number is the fifty plus folks who are at I'll go ahead and say it, at hot take here. Maybe still not enough, but what's that two percent holding out for? Ye, it would be funny if those two percent were just like I don't approve it, I love it, you know, and they lie. Well, the Gallup poster just didn't get the joke right now. Okay, well, we'll put down you don't like up. I'm over fifty and I'm

just don't on the fence. Yeah, stay tuned. We do have the lovings on our our to do list for ridiculous romance and do the whole loving decision. We've just been waiting until we have some serious research time to dedicate. Yeah, well, this next story is about love as well, and because we had y'all ridiculous romance folks on, we want to focus on of course. So I thought this was a cool story about how the Japanese show they care, and

sometimes they do it by sending a telegram. This is from the New York Times and of course, the telegram is something we associate more with the roaring twenties and the twenties, but it has kept a foothold in Japan, where millions of the messages still criss cross the name and every year, carrying articulations of celebration, morning and thanks. Old Friends send them for funerals, politicians delivered them to constituents and businesses use them to commemorate the retirement of

valued employees. Um and one example of this is when Hiroshi Kano got married this summer. He wanted to make a big statement that would impress his future in laws, and so he asked for his company's president to send a congratulatory telegram, and it arrived at the wedding party. It was read out loud and this quote from Hiroshi said it really pumped up the atmosphere. I felt like a celebrity. Uh added his wife, who was a thirty

one year old office administrator. They posted photos of that message and another wedding telegram on twitter, along with the his and her Hello Kitty dolls that were delivered with the notes. Wow, that is cute. I don't know if I'd feel like a celebrity just because my boss sent me like, I guess they have different relationship right. That is one of the things that jumps out to me. It's like, I don't know if that would have had that impact me, but I'm glad I did for them.

And also it just said it arrived during the party. Like what moment, you know, and how does that? Does someone just walk in the middle and stop their foot three times and everyone turns? I imagine it's like during the reception. People are dancing, but there's like a lull. It's been a bit and so it's just like we need to save the Party and someone brings out that telegram. The last seller played jumper. One mother telegram is live. You know. You know I love this. It's like a really,

really formal text message. I guess it feels like like I took the time. I had just spent a little money, but it's it's instantaneous as a text, but it feels like I put more effort. Oh Yeah, a lot more effort. Yeah, yeah, I haven't sent a time. You know what? I haven't even I can't remember the last time I wrote a letter to somebody because I just send a text or an email. I don't. You know, I'm doing this thing called the artist way mark and I talked about it a lot on our show and one of the UM

assignments is basically about being creative. It's a cool book I highly recommended. But one of assignments is to write a thank you letter to a mentor and one of my mentors growing up was my guitar teacher, Um like guy named Danny Grady, who was an amazing positive role model in my life, and that was, you know, almost twenty years ago, over twenty years ago, and I can't

find him. I've been trying to track him down to send him this letter and Danny, if you're listening, hit me up man, because if anyone knows Danny Grady, it's tough to get a letter out nowadays, Y'all, I guess you don't have the yellow pages anymore to go through.

Oh yeah, yeah, that's so true. Yeah, yeah, I remember that same exercise in the artist way, and it's a really good it's a really good exercise to think about people that were, you know, supportive in your creative journey and it's such a good feeling to be able to thank them for that's huge. Yeah, that's a good exercise. MM HMM. Yeah, that sounds like a lovely idea. I definitely have not written a letter. Oh ship, I can't even think of the time. The Lost Art. I know

we've got a drawer full of stamps. I'm like, I don't think we'll ever use these again. Thank God for forever, right they are. Yeah, sorry us. Yeah. Does that make us lazy, though, because it's like it used to be. It'd always changed over. Well, I got forever, so we all. We got one of the story for our news nibbles, uh, and this one is a headline from New Atlas. It is a bizarre Bluetooth mouthpiece mutes speech in public places. So the idea is that you have this device, this

designed to create an air pressure pocket. Uh, in your mouth, so it keeps sound frequencies from escaping through your mouth.

So you can like have private conversations. So you can either like strap it to your mouth, like I'm doing right now, and so you can have a conversation and not be heard, or you can like hold it up to your mouth, and so that's the way that the technology works, and so it'll start shipping in November or December, and so if you ever wanted to have like a private conversation, I guess, but in a crowded area, this would be a way to do it. You just have to have the device on your mouth. So it's like

the old get smart cone of silence, afordable version. That's interesting, I know. I mean, obviously our privacy isn't being invaded more and more every day, but I do have that initial reaction of like, I don't think I've ever had a conversation in public that I that I was afraid if someone heard that, you know, my information is going to get out or something. I guess sometimes if I'm paying with a credit card over the phone and I got to read a number, maybe you need to do

more crimes. That's true. I should probably yeah, I get it. Together Eli started criminating. I mean when we've been married for five years and you are always telling me not enough crimes. Yeah, yeah, I mean I'm sure that I like to level the edge. Exciting exactly. Yeah, SPA and yeah, these things. It looks so bizarre. It looks like it's like a punishment when you look at the photos of

this thing strapped to somebody's mouth. And one of the ways that they say it's beneficial is like the Qualit pality of the audio, because you know, like you were using air pods and you're getting all this bleed in from people, but if you have this like Mike literally suction to your mouth, it sounds super, super clear. And, Jason, this is mark. Yeah, yeah, no, don't work one right, yeah, yeah,

all right, yeah, no, I stepped away. It's all good. Yeah, could you please send me those illegal drugs to my house? Thank you. Oh, also, can you have any more of those like cinnamon flavored Um like under stirts that work against like I sweat really bad, so you could like double up on the cinnamon flavoring so it does not people complain. You know, you sorry. One second I see someone waving, though he's in the technology right now it's so it looks cool, but it realized. I don't think

you turned it on, because we can hear everything you're saying. No, we read the article together. It said nothing about turning anything on off the well, I was just trying to say that the whole illegal drugs then could come I mean this, we're recording this, so it could could come back and in bite you in the butt. Yeah, sorry, we did, but honestly, I'm kind of interested in these cinnamon shirts. I gotta if you could sent a couple of dous on my way, I wouldn't mind talking to

your guys. I just listen. Let's get to let's get to commercial. Yeah, yeah, yeah, we're gonna take a quick break to hear words from our sponsor. Yeah, yeah, would amazing and crazy comics to choose ridiculous news. All right, Charleston,

we're back. So excited to be joined by the folks from Ridiculous Romance and, uh, you know, we guessed it on their podcast and so that'll be coming out soon and it was so fun and so y'all, we talked about pelagomy on your episode, so we wanted to revisit some uh plogomy topics, as well as talking about single life in general. But for a deeper dive into Selagomy, go check out ridiculous romance. We're on that podcast. So again,

go check them out. But before we kind of talk about this topic, you know I didn't know much about silogomy as a term, and so we wanted to define that for our listeners here. So we borrowed this from your amazing research, as well as help from our researcher, Casey, and UH BRISE DOT COM says plogamy or autogomy or self marriage is a symbolic ceremony where you commit to maintaining a meaningful, deep and loving relationship with yourself. So

this is not a legal ceremony. There's no binding contracts, no tax breaks, this isn't something that's going to change your marital status. Also, you know, there's no paperwork, there's no accidental bigamy if you end up getting married later. Uh So, yeah, and Um, one of the stories that we talked about in your episode uh in more depth, but we'll just kind of touch on briefly, just to give an example of Palagamy, uh, is from a situation

back in the nineties. So a woman named Linda Baker in Santa Monica and she was turning forty years old, uh, had never married anyone, and so she decided to throw a ceremony. She invited her family and seventy five friends, had seven bridesmaids, had an actor friend as an afficiant, uh, you know, and they mentioned during the ceremony the officiant, that all that was missing was a bear swelling couch potato who might forget your birthday and cheat on you

and make you miserable. So that that was an example of slagamy. That, uh, all research that we thought was really cool, but just to kind of like give an example of one of those stories. Yeah, yeah, it was so interesting. I really enjoyed our discussion about it because it feels like one of the things that it's very easy to quickly judge somebody on, like Oh, I guess

you can't find somebody or whatever. But it was so nice to kind of talk it over and be like actually, it's kind of cool to commit to yourself and and decide that you're worth love and I need to take care of myself and I need to love myself and really be committed to this person and this person's happiness

as much as another person. Yeah, yeah, one of my favorite quotes from that was a woman who said that the for better or for worse part of the vows was such an important part, because it's easy to kind of love yourself when you feel good, but to really kind of stick by your own side even at your own worst is a challenge and that's something if you

really promise to commit yourself, you can. You can see why, you know, sort of making a ceremony out of that might might give you some some feelings of self love, moving forward, resilience, I guess. And it seems there's a lot of real positivity around it in celebration, and especially as they're more and more single people. which brings us to our another main course topic today is that at some point this week it's national singles day. It's a

little bit of discrepancy, but Hooray for national singles. So yeah, it's actually a national singles week. So we are amazing researcher Casey. We were asked as we were getting some different stuff online. So National Singles Day is on the twenty two according to some folks, but it's also some sources say it's the third Saturday of September. Um, so what? You know what? I could say, Hey, singles, we get

to celebrate double and Um. It's actually uh, inspired in part by a China National Singles Day, which was started in the nineties by a group of college students and catapulted into, guess what, a global retail phenomenon. A retail phenomena. It's like every holiday eventually becomes uh. And the CO founder of Ali Baba Jack Ma, which he was part

of the reason that it catapulted. It actually generates sales and excess of nine billion dollars, and that was my back it's actually the largest retail sales day in the world and it more than doubles our black Friday and our cyber Monday combined. Wow. Well, sure, because there's no joint gifts, the individual present to get one for everybody. That's such a good point. Well, in our in our pselogamy episode, I think we talked about how big of

an industry weddings are. I wonder how this compares like globally, how much money people are spending on singles day versus their weddings? And maybe you have maybe some folks have more income to spend you know, maybe that's part of it too, depending on, you know, their situation or or,

more apt, to spend it on them themselves. Um, you know, here in the US, in the eighties actually, the buckeyes single counts of Columbus also started national singles week, which is also known as national unmarried and single Americans week, which, interesting and enough, compelled the U S Census Bureau to begin publishing statistics on singles in America for the very first time. Um, they're like, Oh, I guess we should

count these people as human beings. Uh, I thought they're just rodents living in the wall, but actually that's what that noises and singles are in the attic again. I don't know. Should you get the broom? UH, money, we've got singles. It's like the eighties. You know, being born then makes it not seem too far away, but I still feel like that could happen in the eighties now, now that we're so far away. It's like singles Gross, get them out, you're not allowed in the book club.

Would you call the sex terminator? Singles infestations. Yeah, and you know, speaking of this national singles week, psychology today had an article listing twenty reasons why we need to celebrate single life, and I thought this was this is just part of the list, but I thought some of these really interesting. So number one, they said we need it because living single is how we spend the better

part of our adult lives. Another thing they said was we need it because what it means to live single has changed dramatically over the past half century, but our perceptions have not caught up. I thought that was particularly interesting, you know, kind of like being like hey, like we as a society need to, you know, continue to think and ruminate on like how we even define being single,

and I was like, oh, that's really interesting psychology today. Um, they also said we need it because a single people who live solo can show us living alone is not the same as feeling alone, that that was an important distinction. Um, we need this week of celebration of living single as a counterpoint to all the celebrations of marriage and weddings and romantic, romantic coupling. So I thought that was interesting too,

I guess. And Eli, I think it kind of goes back to what you were saying about for better for worse, like, you know, celebrating your relationships with other people also celebrating like your relationship with yourself or like normalizing that, you know, Um, and that was also what was interesting about sologamy too in our episode, which is like, you know, you have people married themselves but then might also go on to

marry other people. And so what I thought what made psilogamy interesting was like it really is about doing that work to say like Hey, I'm gonna Love Myself, and I thought that was very positive. We also very powerful and affirming. Ya, uh. And then, yeah, and then this living single, such a good show. Oh my gosh, I haven't watched living single, but I was obsessed. It was. It was so good. I remember all right. So I have like two or three tangent things about living single.

So first thing, like I remember being like younger in elementary school, me and my friend, me and my friend Alex T, we'd be at his house. We'd be watching reruns of living single and it was so fun. We didn't know what they were talking about. We're just like these are just cool people living in this fun apartment. And Queen La was great. She asked us how fun is this and that, yeah, so great. So, like it was. It was a great, great nineties show, Queen Latifa. She

had this cool job she was working for like some Zene. Anyway, great premise, first show, so good, great, so good, great. I'll say Max Maxine, Eric Alexander, was one of my first TV crushes. Yeah, all business, all business, he oh, and then there's this other show called heart of Dixie, and there's a character on heart of dixie. I forget their name, unfortunately, but it's just like their their character and hard of Dixie. Heart of Dixie was like late

two thousand's, early tens show. Uh, I forget what network it ran on. Maybe it was a C W show. Anyway, a character on that. I was watching a random episode of living single and one of Queen La Team's old friends is that per sin. It was also in heart of Dixie. So living singles in the in the early nine, like early mid nineties, hard of Dixie like twenty years after that. This man looked exactly the same but he was in both shows. It was like someone was like

time traveling. Anyway. Yeah, he's well preserved. I'm jealous. That is awesome. Yeah, but just these these facts from psychology

today just sort of like affirming singles week. I thought was really important because, I mean it helped me realize like some of the ways that, like, I would hear singles week, I wouldn't necessarily think about like all these positive things that they list, not right away, and that's just my own like framing of how, like I framed being single, you know what I mean, like and so I thought that was a cool way to flip those Um flip those perceptions. Yeah, it's kind of like with

Inter the interracial merits. It's like we've grown to accept it pretty much as a society. I don't I wonder if we've come that far. On just the sink, people in the attic. We're always getting the broom and hitting the walls and all these things. You know what? I do think it's the attitude might not be as positive, which is kind of weird. We and good that we're trying to switch that around. H Yeah, I hope these singles weeks are like because it feels like singles events

are so much about finding someone. So like a singles night so you can meet people, or a singles you know, you pick a name out of a hat, speed dating kind of thing. It's all about finding someone and not being single. Anymore. So it's kind of cool to be like, let's actually have an event where we're just we're happy this way and it's not about finding somebody and you know you're not incomplete as an individual. Yeah, I feel like we have a tendency as people to think that

our the thing we experience joy in. Other people must have it too, like if you don't, you're missing out, if you don't have it, as opposed to like appreciating everybody's unique experiences and saying other people might be perfectly happy not living the way you live or like in the movies you like or things like that. Is it just spreads across so many things. You see it in people so constantly. Yeah, different priorities and different goals in

life doesn't mean UNMISERABLE, right. I'm just stuck in the addict with these other singles that that you know, Jimmy Carter's is funny when I hear things like that because you always hear of America described as this melting pot, but I like what he said, is that he doesn't think we're a melting pot, that we're a beautiful quilt and that we're all have our different patches that can you know, contribute to this beautiful thing and we're all our own unique thing and I feel like that's a

much better way to think about that. We can have our own cultures and our own beliefs in our own hobbies and interests and then work together, Um, to resort the votes. Remember. Yeah, and and I through some questions for real, because it's like hey, we have us single dudes have this wonderful married couple on the show. UH, yeah,

so we're gonna throw some questions out y'all. I wonder how did y'all, and Y'all, you know, Ya might have already addressed this stuff, I'm sure, on the on y'all's podcast. But for for us, how did Y'all first meet? What was? Oh boy, UM, well, to cast our minds back, we were at Georgia State University. Um, we both ended up in the same theater company. I think. At the time we were both in different long term relationships, UH and UH. And when those respectively ended, we got together. A couple

took a couple of a couple of false starts. Yeah, that's true. But well, I feel like we got together like a month or two after our long term. Both our long terms had ended. And so then we were both like, I don't think I'm trying to jump into something very serious right away and this feels like it could be or something. So whatever, forget too. And like a year went by and then it was like, actually,

everyone else sucks. No offense to everyone else. I had I had only ever been in long term relationships pretty much since high school up through college, like fourteen months or more. and Um, so then we started dating and I think, yeah, like, however long it was, in a few months. Um, I had had even the feeling like, you know, I don't know if I'm ready for another long term thing. I've I've never just like casually dated and I feel like maybe I want to try that.

and Um, and among other things, we decided that we would kind of split up for a little while and I think, and you said, it was about a year, Diana, that we were a part and Um, you dated. How many people? And how many people did I date in that time? How many? Zero we got back together. I guess casual dating is not for me. Oh, I love that. I was never a go getter on the dating scene. It was usually think you easily could have gotten thank you.

I think this is such a great story. Sorry to bring it back to because we're talking about singles in singles days. That anything you'll miss about being single? Yeah, I mean, look, different phases. Oh, two different experiences being single. I was being required to like go on dates and like the whole interview process where I'm like, I'm my best behavior. I didn't like that. No, it's just me and my dog and no bedtime video games. So different

from now going to bed whenever you want. That's yeah, I guess. Jeez, I guess not. Then it's very good for me because I hate to cook. So as soon as we got together I started eating a lot better. So I don't miss my single life. There's a lot of craft dinner for me. That's that's that's what I miss. I missed cooking PTABELLA, mushrooms, mushrooms. We will be right back with more ridiculous news after this short break. Ye, don't to confuse ridiculous news. Well, we actually have like

a fun game that we put together for Y'all. Uh, so, this is called compliment battle, all right, and so I wanted to have the two of y'all, Eli and Diana, face off against one another, and so, rather than just giving each other a compliment, which I'm sure y'all can do an amazing job of, you know y'all. Y'All are great with words, such great people, uh, and we realize it's putting all on the spot. So take your time,

you know, no rush here. We want you to give the other person a compliment that you've never given them before. So here on the show, you want to see if you can debut a new compliment for the other person. Um, I'm gonna Give Y'all uh some time to think about it during this time. Y'All may not know this. Bill. I don't even know if I told you. I'm a professional jazz singing improviser. I don't always. Yeah, yeah, I

studied for many, many years, Um, in different places. Yeah, yeah, I mean I've I've studied for a long time, like uh, several years, uh, you know, in in showers, road trips, things like that. So you know, pretty intense, pretty intense educational background. So I was just gonna like sing a

little bit. Uh. There's no like real strong lyrics, but just to give you all time just to ruminate and to think and then we'll come we'll come back to you all right, uh, and sorry, you don't have to, but if you want to Tarry, add in some underscore of some jazz music, you can pretty much put any jazz music in. It'll go along with what I sing, just simple scales and chords. So all right, here we go, dude, dry it, try it. Get tranks the queen when alright.

So I could go for a really long time, but you know, it's really it's part of like a three hour piece. So Um, Oh wow, that's yeah, yeah, yeah, beautiful. Well, it's great. Is that I was able to just clear my mind. It wasn't distracted. I just think good. I'm glad I had that. Uh So, so do you'all. You'll have some compliments you're ready to share for the other. Do you want to go first? You want me to go? You're so good at going first. Lord, thank you for

that confidence. That my confidence that was going first could be an insult, an underhanded Um. I was gonna say it's gonna be hard for Eli because he compliments me a lot. I've had a lot of things. He's very sweet. So sorry, Babe, I'm I'm gonna have an easier time because I'm more withholding Um. I was gonna say that I really admire Eli's self esteem. Um, he's really just taught me a lot about going. You know, I don't know why I care about this person's opinion about what

I do or what I like. I am who I am. I want to live my life and that's okay and fine, and that was something I really had a hard time with and he's helped me so much throughout the years of our relationship to kind of be like, you know, if it's not something that's harming somebody else and they're not coming to you with like something real that you you hurt my feelings or something like that, Um, who cares? Let it go, let them be, say whatever they want,

you know, and I was really admired that. It's just such a strong personality and sense of self. And you have really nice hands. I've ever tell you that we have sexy hands. Oh, thank you. That's that was really good. Thank you so much. Um. Well, no, I I've I mean, you're right, I try to try to tell you the things about you that impressed me regularly, because they are

many and frequent, but I really I don't. I don't know how much we talked about this because we kind of take it for granted a lot, but I really love your appreciation of like nature and and the natural world and animals. And you know, we can go, we like to travel, but those travels can be fairly simple. I mean, well, I don't know if it's simple. WE DROVE OUT TO UTAH in and camped out in the desert and that I love that stuff. I mean I could be in the middle of nowhere and love it

and uh, and a lot of people don't. And I really love that you not only like doing that stuff but you have a real appreciation for that. You notice details, you notice little tiny things. Um, not to throw back to our show again, but we just did this walt whippen episode where you talked about his appreciation of just looking at a single blade of grass and saying, Oh

my God, how does this exist? You know, and I feel like you have that too, and that's something that you help keep that active in me, because I really like having that same just appreciation and awareness of the world around us. So that and your love of animals. It's really again, it's something that's just so taken for granted. We don't talk about but it's really important to mediculous romance. Now what could bend the needs of Ridiculous News Romance?

On this single episode we made our married life even we've been talking about doing an episode on ourselves on the show at some point and now we'll have to include this moment. Yeah, maybe we should have someone on to ask US questions, because we clearly take our own story for granted. Sometimes you can good details and stuff. I love that story. Yeah, great story and it's so much fun to hear you'll tell it and so genuine how much you all love each other and care about

each other. And it's funny because mark and I we were prepping for this episode and I had all these shitty questions for you all because I was thinking about a single day, like what do you miss about single? What's the worst part about being married? And then we realized, Oh, this is a terrible direction to go about that. No, no, I think what we just did was way, way better and yeah, reminds uh me of why y'all are such a good pair and why everyone should check out ridiculous romance.

Thank you so much, guys. Thanks y'all. Yeah, that was a good exercise. Maybe more people should do that in there they should be like every you know, month, we have to come up with a compliment. We've never paid each other. That's like compliment day. That's just tough, because that took what thirty seconds and some jazz music for me to come up with that. They don't have the soundtrack now that they might need the inspiration. I just feel like now I've given you all the compliments. It's

hard to find. Now I have to find out another new one next time. Well, that's the other thing about it, though, is that you have to continue improving and being cool in order to inspire the compliments. If you just sit on your ass and act like a fool, what am I going to come up with the next compliment day? Like halfway through the month, they're like, I see you sitting there again. Now what do you think I'm gonna say to you on compliments day? And you're like, Oh, okay,

I'm gonna go clean the bathroom or something. We've got more ridiculous news to cover, but before we do, let's take a quick break. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, confulous news. All right, y'all. So we're back. Uh, we're gonna kick things off with a little bit of dessert so these are some fun headlines that we found that we wanted to talk about. So this first headline from Reuter's Uh French spider man uh climbs Paris skyscraper to mark turning sixty.

So Elaine Robert, the free climber, dubbed the French Spider Man, scaled a forty eight story skyscraper in Paris recently, fulfilling a goal yead set for himself once he reached the age of sixty. So he climbed this building. It was set tall and he was quoted as saying I want to send people the message that being sixty is nothing. You can still do sport, be active, do fabulous things, uh.

And he went on to say, Um, I promised myself several years ago that my reach sixty, I will climb that tower again, the building that he climbed, because sixty symbolizes retirement age in France, and I thought that that was a nice touch. And so he told the paper back. Yeah, and he not only did he do that, but he climbs without permission. He's been arrested a whole lot and he climbs with no harness, uses only his bare hands. And that guy's that guy's hardcore. Yeah, I'm shocked he

made it to sixty. I would celebrate to yeah, I should have fallen off a building a long time ago and here I am. I still thriving. That's amazing. That's cool. I just celebrated my dad's sixty six birthday this past weekend and I was like, what do you want to do? Go out to dinner, you know whatever, and he was like on a climbstone mountain Um, and I was like Oh, okay, and then when we were actually doing it, I was like, I guess you felt like I'm sixty six, but damn it,

I can still climb a mountain. It's not the same as scaling a building without a harness, but it made him feel good about I mean he was doing better than I was. I know he was doing we were like, Oh, we're much younger and keeping that healthy. That's so cool. Yeah, my dad like bikes twenty miles every day and he is, yeah, sixty nine, and he gave me his old bike that he had kind of worn out, which is a great gift.

He listens thanks to and uh, it's it's inspiring the amount that he commits to it and I think sometimes see in better shape than me. Um, it's a good reminder to get out there in exercise. Yeah, yeah, I bumped into my parents at the gym pretty frequently. There, there, before I am and after I leave. That's so interesting. So y'all go to the same gym? Yeah, they live like two streets, like y'all, next to each other on lifting machines. There's a little competition going on. Keep to

keep adding another. Oh, you doing fifty? Well, I'm doing sixty. I'm doing a seven day. I'm going back to fifty. I'll be real with your dad. Going back to well, y'all.

Speaking of being healthy in your bodies, we do a segment sometimes called the mental health minute, and I saw a cool article that reminded me of that recently from CNBC, and it was talking about there's actually eleven phrases from your vocabulary that they say you should ditch these if you want to feel more confident and sound more confident. And I just picked three and I thought these were ones, because I feel like I say this to myself a decent amount. So, and the three I picked, one of

was Asad saying I have to do that. What you can say instead is I get to do that and just swapping that one little word at change your attitude. It makes you look at something as an opportunity rather

than an obligation. Um, yeah, yeah, that's cool. I remember being younger, we talked a lot about gratitude in my house and they, you know, they were just like, if you think about you know, if you look at something and you appreciate it, if you're grateful for it, you know you have more of a capacity to deal with things that happen in your life. Um, and I remember sitting in the dentist chair and I was getting like a cavity filled or something, and I hate the dentist.

I have a lot of anxiety. So I was sitting there thinking to myself, how grateful am I that I can afford this right now? How grateful am I that this exists? And it really did. I mean it really did help me, like my anxiety kind of went down a little bit. So that actually does work in some scenarios. Other Times, please put me under. It'll be easier for both of us. That's so great, especially for the dentist because you know, then love what y'll do. Y'All are

so important, but man, it is a stressful thing. So I am definitely stealing that, Diana. Thank you for that. Try It. It might, it might help you, like I don't know. It gave me a different mindset. It didn't last. That should still hurt, but I had better teeth when it was over, so I was able to focus on what was really important. You know, I think that's real to an extent. Yeah, and that's a great like a way to reframe it. The other two that these have

are kind of just reframes. You know, instead of saying I failed, you can say this attempt didn't work. Um, the way do you think of hey, you know what, every every failure, is really a learning opportunity. And I also like a phrase that called there's no such thing as failure, only feedback. Yeah, a good way to get flip it. And the last one is, why is this

happening to me? Um, which a lot of times when I'm listening to mark's jazz album, sometimes that POPs in and it is a beautiful album, a beautiful album, but you get into two and a half hours of it and sometimes that'll come. That can become what am I learning from this? Uh, in particular, I learned that Mark is a brilliant uh musician and, Um, you know, Jazz. Next time. Hoping a double album, maybe our triple album. I think three hours might already that might be a

double album. Yeah, I just hit record, but yeah, just let it go. That sounds like jazz improvisation to me. You just see what happens up there with the greats. Yeah. Oh, the last story that we have for you all is, to feel, a good story to end it about a missing cat who returned home and rang their video doorbell. Uh. In the family in New York all gasped there at eight year old cat named Lily disappeared from owner Stephanie Whitley's Long Island home. Four days they were gone, producing

panic throughout the household. Whitley said Lily always comes home. She's a very smart cat. Response to her name. You can call her, she comes. I never felt like she would not come home, but this time felt different and fortunately, a surprising sound came late at night. The family received an alert around ten PM and all looked at each other. WHO's at our house at this time of night, and the TV screen, which I guess I should do this. The ring is connected to their TV just displayed the

giant lily cat face me owingsing. Yeah, she said they were laughing, they were crying. It was a great moment Um. Whitley said, I don't know how she found us, but she definitely knows what the ring camera is, because every time a notification goes off she'll look towards the door. It's a smart cat. Oh, that's a very smart cat. That's really interesting. I'm impressed. We just thought a video of a bear like walking around someone's car and then figuring out how to open like he opened the car

door and got in the front seat. I was straight up like he's about to drive, drive. was like, how about it go to McDonalds, but he ended up just leaving. But I was like wow, they already know how to open car doors, like they really understand. They live with us, animals live with us, and they think they evolve alongside and they kind of go, okay, they care about this, this is a priority. I better learn what this is.

I'm amazed sometimes. I had a dog for a long time who she would bark when a doorbell went off on the TV or something like that, but she never, and I had her almost her entire life, never lived somewhere with an audible doorbell. So I don't know where she learned that that sound meant something was happening, but she's she's just like, that means somebody's at the door. Yeah, right, that you know what I've had, you know, the dogs in my life, and it does seem like it's this

trigger reaction that's inborn into them. Yeah, what is it with all dogs? That's maybe that's we should do a deep dive into that mark. Yeah, yeah, dog psychology. I'd listen to that and that. That's so cool, though, that she rang the doorbell's adorable. In her face popped up on the TV. She's like, I saw how fast you come to this door when there's pizza over here. That's so true. Well, y'all, we'll close things up with a segment we like to call the spring of inspiring inspiration.

So this is when we pick an inspirational quote to send you off on a positive note. And so this quote is from unknown when I when I searched it on on online, but the quote is as follows. Worry is a misuse of imagination. Oh that's good, I like that. Yeah, yeah, it's true. Why not just imagine the best instead of the words. Yeah, point it's kind of like the I get to do this instead of I have to do this. Such a good way to like. Yes, guess what, it's

not like that. This drill sound from my dentist is painful. There's a lot of people in the world that can't afford it, can't do it. Yeah, you would just have to take the tooth out and there would be no teeth. I get a crown and I get to have a full early set. Lucky well, Eli and Danna. It was such a pleasure having you all on. It's always great to talk to you all. We really appreciate you. And listeners,

please follow Eli and Diana Listen. Subscribe to Ridiculous Romance and the best way for them to keep up with you all. Otherwise, how do you want them to keep in touch with you? Support You well. Thanks so much, mark and bill for having us. It has been so fun. We always love to spending time with you. Guys. Um If you want to follow us, you can find me personally on instagram and twitter. I'm at Oh great, it's Eli.

Same I'm at dianamite boom and then. or You can follow our show at ridic romance instagram as well and get updates about our shows and what episodes are coming out and lots of exciting stuff. Yeah, and we did have such a good time with the two of y'all talking about sologamy, so at the least listen to that, because it was a blast. Yeah, it was great. Yeah, thank you all so much for coming on and I you know, not only is it just fun to spend time with you all, but it was really fun just

to hear a little bit of your own story. So I'm very excited for that episode because Y'all are so charming and cool and uh, likewise to our audience. Y'All are so amazing. Thank you so much for tuning in. It means the world to us. Please check out ridiculous romance. Obviously, Eli and Diana are really cool too. Thanks for spending your time with us. We don't take it for granted. Come back and listen with us. Yeah, and you can

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